Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • Rant: Note to self–do not let kiddo eat a metric ton of blueberries. Ended up at Children’s yesterday afternoon to confirm that she didn’t have an upper GI bleed, but instead just had eaten a large quantity of blueberries.
    Rave: They only needed to test diaper contents and didn’t need to do any diagnostic tests on kiddo. I’m not sure she even realized she was at the hospital, she was having so much fun watching “A Bug’s Life” and playing on the gurney in her room.
    Rant: Woken up an hour+ early by a screaming child who’s a bit off her sleep schedule.
    Rave: Got to work early?
    Rave: Prenatal massage scheduled for tomorrow
    Rave: Made Italian wedding soup, and it’s delicious. Yum.

  • Rave: The sun is back!
    Rave: So full of love.
    Rave: Nice photo today!

    • How did your talk go with the guy, by the way? (Can’t remember if you were talking to him this weekend or if you talked to him before that.)

      • Well, it ended up coming out in trickles. But it went well, and we talked about a huge slew of potential dealbreakers while we were at it, and we had very similar views on everything else. I was stern about my problems with the original issue (particularly the controlling/not happy for me aspect of the original comment), so he understands. So here’s to hoping things stay calm and happy for a long time…
        I do appreciate everyone’s feedback, even though y’all will probably think I’m nuts. But I think a second chance is not unreasonable (not a third or fourth though, that’s where I draw the line).

        • Emmaleigh504

          I think having a conversation with him about it is key. I’m glad you did it and it turned out well.

        • I’m really glad it worked out so well and hope it continues to do so!

        • Communicating, caring enough to take time and energy to reach an understanding and grow – yeah, totally nuts.

        • Yeah, nuts. Controlling men change SO easily.

          • This is exactly what I’m talking about and why I will no longer be posting about this relationship issue or any other.

          • My earlier reply wasdeleted by site glitch so apologies if a similar message comes up twice. I see that Friday Girl subsequently replied, but will add that *controlling sounding comment* does not equal *controlling man*. We didn’t hear the comment’s tone and we don’t know the full context. I think we’ve seen enough here from FridayGirl to assume that she’s no fool and can judge discern the difference between a controlling man and a stupid comment just fine.

          • Haha, thank you Shawess. It is true that I tend to have fairly good intuition and as some of you have seen, don’t hesitate to throw people under the bus periodically if I feel it’s well-deserved….

          • Yup agreed with Shawess. It sounded bad, for sure, but we had no context outside of the comment. Glad you guys were able to chat and that you were able to get a better sense for things.

    • Late Rant: School changed the registration system today, no notice was sent out yet. I just happened to see it online. Instead of it being a free-for-all we now have specific registration times. I’m suddenly on the third day of registration, even though I only have one more full semester of classes. Why couldn’t they have just held out one more semester? -_-

      • No priority for graduating students?

        • They say that the times are ranked in order of completed credits (assuming this means priority for those towards the end of their degrees) but I’m still a little confused why I’m on day three then, unless they’re ranking by credits across ALL programs/schools and not within schools. Which still isn’t cool because so many law students and public affairs students are in my required classes each semester for my program at my school…. I need to call my adviser and ask.

  • Rant: 14th and V
    Rant: Awoken late last night by a man loudly moaning and making sexual comments on the street outside my apartment building.
    Rave: I bought an electric tea kettle and now have tea at my desk. It’s much needed this morning.

    • Agreed with your first rant. I know it’s still a gentrifying area and I have little desire to dismantle entire blocks/apartment complexes, but the past few weeks have been ridiculous (including at least one robbery that occurred during rush-hour that haven’t even been mentioned on here…)

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: left metro card and work badge at home. good possibility I also forgot deodorant.
    Rave: free flu shot scheduled

    Unofficial HH Oct 15 at Southern Hospitality. Theme: hats

    • I forgot deodorant today! Haha! I had to go to CVS to get some to keep in my office for the one day a year I’m sleepy and forget. I’m glad this isn’t just me.

      • I keep a travel size in my desk drawer at work and it has come in handy on the occasional days when I’m running late.

        • I’ve had to use my hidden desk stash far too many times. One alteration to my morning routine and the deodorant is the first thing I forget. Which is funny because I’m panic-attack-worthy afraid of being stinky.

          • Pro tip: keep your deodorant in the drawer with your bras – you won’t forget unless you also forget a bra, and that’s a whole different problem. Got no tips for the guys, though…

          • I’m lazy and mine are strew about. Plus, I don’t put on deodorant until after I put my shirt on because white streaks. We’re all up in the TMI in today’s R&R aren’t we?!

    • Pablo Raw

      We missed you yesterday 🙁

    • I have to work late that evening. 🙁
      I keep travel-sized deodorant in my purse because there are definitely mornings where I made a slight change to my routine and then managed to completely forget that. I’m glad I’m not the only one, haha.

    • I totally keep an extra deodorant in my purse for situations like this!

    • Just got back from my free flu shot. My office has a ton of dates available for free shots – really nice of them to do that. My sister will have a newborn at Thanksgiving, so we are all required to get shots!

  • Rantish: Thinking about one of our previous discussions on here, I decided to alert a stranger to the fact that the back of her skirt was caught in her underwear. As a woman, it’s at the top of my list of mortifying wardrobe malfunctions, and I know I’d want someone to tell me! Still, it was super awkward, as I just happened to be on the phone (w/ the headphone mic thing) with my doctor, and I could hardly tell him to hold on. I tapped her on the shoulder, kind of gestured toward it and kept walking. It was super awkward and I’m not sure which of us was more horrified! Oh well, I still think I made the right call?

    • I think you made the right call. It may have been mortifying but she needed to know.

    • I bet she appreciated you later.

    • Better you than some creepy middle-aged man!

    • YES. Please, always do this. I had a woman once slow down her car to tell me my skirt was hooked on my purse. Which also meant everyone around me heard her. Yet I thanked her profusely.

      • Yeah, so maybe in that regard, my gesturing was a little more subtle? There’s really no good way to tell someone that, I suppose!

    • I once had that happen (dress was tucked up and I had no idea) and an older gentleman nicely pointed it out to me. I was so embarrassed, but really appreciated that I was told before I walked too far like that!

    • Along these same lines, please let men know when their flies are down. It can be done very subtly. The VAST majority of us are not pervs (assuming nothing is exposed except a flash of underwear), and every once in a while these things just get overlooked.

      • What do you suggest as to how to point it out subtly?

        • Blithe

          Is “XYZ” still Universal Subtle Speak for EXamine Your Zipper?

          • Emmaleigh504

            Back in the olden days people would say, “It’s 2 o’clock in St Petersburg down by the waterworks.” Or something similar. 2 o’clock meaning 2 buttons undone. That was apparently way too colorful for my great grandmother who would just say, “2 o’clock Phil” to my grandpa.

        • I would just point toward the general problem area and say “zipper down” or “fly’s open”.

          • the “general problem area” phrase just made me lol at my desk. I don’t know why that struck me so funny.

          • +1. Just a discrete pointing at the “general problem area.”
            @FridayGirl: I laughed at that, too. I immediately thought of Benson and Stabler questioning a victim and it was very not cool!

    • Yes. Good karma points too.

  • Rant: Dreary weather this weekend. I hated it.
    Rant: Still got the sniffles. I wish they’d go away.
    Rave: Got to wear my burnt orange fall jacket this morning. It’s not new but I still love it.
    Rave: reading Jane Austen when I’m bored at work instead of staring at my 3 computer screens pretending I’m working.

  • Rave: Nice weekend of rest and relaxation – think it helped with the cold and eye infection I woke up with Saturday.
    Rant: Weekend not long enough!
    Rant-ish: so so so busy today
    Rave-ish: Finally just said “to hell with it” and joined Tinder, mostly because it takes less time than anything else I could think of. Yay for a half-assed attempt at dating?

    • topscallop

      Re your rave-ish, the stakes are just so low, I figure why not join and see what’s out there? Maybe someone will surprise you, or you’ll at least get some good stories out of it. That you can share here for our enjoyment 😉

    • My friend met her current partner on Tinder, and he’s great. I just befriended one of his friends, and he’s nice too. Tinder isn’t so bad I guess. Can’t wait to hear about your Tinder adventures. I live vicariously through all of you since I’ve put the brakes on dating.

    • lol, that’s the best way to date! Just say “f*ck it” and have fun, see what’s out there.

    • I thought agreeing to go out with someone via Tinder was pretty much agreeing to have sex with them. Is it possible to have a take-it-slow situation? On Tinder or anywhere else?

      • My argument is that it is definitely not any worse/more sketchy than just meeting someone at a bar or party. Everyone needs to be clear about what they’re looking for, and then of course you will stumble across someone eventually.

      • There is never any situation where going out, accepting a drink, or whatever is a tacit agreement to have sex with someone. And yes, it is absolutely possible to “take it slow” no matter how or where a relationship starts.

      • “I thought agreeing to go out with someone via Tinder was pretty much agreeing to have sex with them.”
        No. Stop reading Vanity Fair. This sounds like something my clueless dad would say over the dinner table.

        • LOL. Would he also refer to it as “the Tinder”?

          • I’ll admit that I sort of get a kick out of telling people who assume that Tinder is just a hook up site that that is where my BF and I met. It’s funny to see them wonder if I’m just a slut (because of course, it’s always the woman who is the slut in this situation, men are just “boys being boys”) or if their perceptions are just wrong.

        • There is no call for snotty snark. Being location-based means that you can dispense with conversation and get right to the action. Perhaps it has evolved, but don’t pretend that wasn’t what it started out to be.
          As a woman, I have to think about how men are going to perceive my intent. If I’m putting myself out there via a hookup site, they will assume I want to hook up. It’s so naive to say that consent is king, when we are bombarded daily with proof that some men will take (or make up) any shred of an excuse to stand in for actual consent.

      • yeah, well, some people are going to be seriously disappointed then – just because I agree to chat with you or even go on a date with you does NOT mean I am up for hookups. Guess I should specify that in my profile just in case.

  • Rave: Fantastic quick trip to New England late last week with my mom. We covered over 500 miles and three states (New Hampshire, Vermont, and Maine) in just a couple days. We also randomly ended up catching up with a friend from home which meant a trip to a covered bridge on private property and a tour of a gorgeous restored farm house with some amazing mountain views.
    Rave: Fun and productive weekend. The rain held out for the MD/Michigan game on Saturday.
    Rave: First reservations just starting to come in for the basement. We’re finally starting to see the tide turn from bleeding money to having some coming in. Carpet is being installed today, then we can put all the furniture in place tonight. WOOHOO!

  • Rant: The rain put a SERIOUS damper on the pre-sale house projects. See also: my body and the cold I now have.
    Rave: Boss allowing me to “Come and go as you please” for my last full week at the office because she knows how much I have to get done around the house.
    Rant/Rave: I’m leaving DC in less than two weeks
    Rave: I’ll be back on the weekends until the house sells to check of some DC bucket-list items. Any suggestions that a Google search wouldn’t hit?

  • Rave: woke up sans headache, what a great feeling. My fellow migraine sufferers know what I mean.
    Rave 2: friend got the cutest puppy I’ve ever seen. I’ve told her she needs to send in a photo.
    Rave 3: Dinners and parties with good friends make up for having to work yesterday. Plus I got much more done with no distractions.

  • Rave: Brother was in DC this weekend and we got to spend some time together yesterday.
    Rave: Calvert Woodley open on Sundays means delicious bagels, lox and whitefish salad for said visit with the brother.
    Rave: Beautiful weather this morning.

  • Rant: Scrumptious hoodie arrived and is not so scrumptious :/ Going back to Amazon today.
    Rave: Very nice weekend despite the rain and general gloominess.

    • Blithe

      Bummer on your rant, since it looked awesome in the picture. Thanks for the update though, since I was probably not the only one to covet one too.

      • It’s possible that it just looks bad on me… it’s kind of boxy, and I’m busty, so it was just not a good look. Also, I ordered a large, and a medium may have fit better.

  • Rave: Move to NYC went well – husband was a beast driving the moving van, we had NO hurricane, and we discovered grocery stores deliver for free!
    Rant: Midnight Amtrak back to DC. Not enough sleep after the crazy stresses this past week.
    Rave: Got to meet my new nephew – he’s adorable!
    Rave: New tea mug from Fishs Eddy – Picture of Bill Clinton and underneath “First First Man 2016” 😉

    • I Dont Get It

      Love your mug rave!

    • That One Guy

      Fresh Direct is awesome and they usually send discount emails.

      • Oh I miss Fresh Direct!!

      • I’ll have to check them out. What I was surprised by was while at the checkout at a major supermarket, they said would you like free delivery? And then showed up at our 3rd floor tiny walk up with all our groceries two hours later. No charge, no signing up, nothing. And it was fabulous after a long day of schlepping our shit up and down stairs.

        • Everything delivery-related is SO much easier in NYC (and SF) than in DC — it’s kind of amazing. And VERY easy to fall back on. Maybe a bit too often (says the lady who had lunch and dinner delivered one day last week on a busy work day).

          • I agree — I was so spoiled living in NYC! Everything I needed, basically, could be delivered to my door.

          • I remember being sick when living in NYC , calling my local pharmacy and and realizing they would deliver not only my prescriptions, but anything else I wanted from their store.

          • @CVS delivery in NYC: life is good when someone will delivery pills, Ben & Jerry’s, and condoms with one hour’s notice.

    • Ah! You and I were likely on the same Amtrak train…hope you’re having highly caffeinated tea (in your new mug!) this morning like I am 🙂

      • Ahh yes, I imagine we were Amtrak buddies last night. I’m having some Kusmi vanilla black tea that I’m downing. Enjoy your tea and have a great day!

    • Accountering

      Did you get a parking ticket on move-in day in NY? Anecdotally, I have surmised that roughly 50% of new arrivals get a ticket on their arrival date 🙂

      • Surprisingly nope! We were only moving about half of a one bedroom (still figuring out the furniture split between DC and NYC) so we were pretty quick about it!

      • The trick is to schedule the moving tuck to arrive right at end of the time that parking is forbidden for alternative side parking for street cleaning – then the truck can take up a whole bunch of spaces right in front of your place, and not be double parked or blocking traffic.

  • rave: played a pretty awesome concert Saturday in Fredericksburg
    rave: I finally appreciate hula hooping. I was too much of a cynic for too long. It looks awesome in the dark with LEDs.
    rave: today’s weather – wear a sweater to work? yes please.

  • Rave: back in DC from a work trip!
    Rave: weather is wonderful
    Rave/Rant: met a really nice guy at my friend’s birthday party this weekend. he’s new to DC and only knew my friend’s old coworker. he seemed bored talking to other people but he really perked up talking to me since we have similar interests. he kept saying how he would like to check out the places i mentioned i go to and do the things i do. EXPLORE WITH ME! Then my friend came over and interrupted us and we split up. How can I find you again? Meeting people IRL is strange.

    • Can you work through your friend to get the guy’s contact info? You could say you meant to give him your email address in case he wants to do some DC exploring. Kind of forward, but since he is new, he may appreciate someone reaching out to him.

      • I will ask my friend, but I almost guaranteed there will be a little teasing about it. The person he came with was his friend’s roommate who wanted to show him more places in DC. So many degrees of separation. Ah, why didn’t I just get his number? Why?!

      • Accountering

        At the HH I went to when I met Andie, we had a great conversation, and were about to part ways. She just came out and said, you should get my number. It was quite refreshing. I got her number, and we own a rowhouse together now! If he is being a dummy (I was!) then be even more forward and ask for his next time!
        I agree though, I would reach out to friend and say you had some recommendations of places to go or some other nonsense.

    • My instinct in situations like these was always to seek out the person and make the effort to get in touch with them, so I’ll caveat this by saying it’s easier said than done:

      Don’t do anything. If he wants to find you, he will find you. I always found when I sought someone out that they ultimately just weren’t that interested, no matter how interested they *seemed* previously. Because…if they were genuinely curious about me, they would’ve found me.

      • “Don’t do anything. If he wants to find you, he will find you.” If both parties have that attitude, then nothing happens.

        • +1 Someone’s gotta bite the bullet and make a move. Maybe he doesn’t know who you’re connected to, so he couldn’t find you.

        • Accountering

          +1. I think the above is horrible advice. Give it a try – if you find out he wasn’t interested, then you have lost nothing.

        • textdoc: good point. never done this before. it would be easier if my friend actually knew him but she doesn’t so it’ll take more effort to get his contact info. is it even worth it?

          • Only unless you like the guy. If it’s just for friends I wouldn’t bother. Besides he just moved here, so and probably NOT looking for anything serious.

          • Emmaleigh504

            I’m a hopeless romantic. Maybe he’s not looking for anything serious, maybe he is, maybe he decides to get serious with NotABot after hanging out a few times. Give a go (if you want, no pressure)!

        • blah blah. gender roles and all that. i’m not going to try to convince anyone of anything, but i wish i had not wasted my time chasing after men who didn’t make an effort with me. i truly wish someone would’ve given me this advice earlier.

          • Accountering

            Its not chasing after. It’s being an adult, realizing that it is hard to meet people in DC, and sending an e-mail.

          • Sounds like you went beyond trying to get a number. No one here is suggesting she stalks this guy…just a follow-up.

  • Rant/Rave: How am I already planning my son’s 2nd birthday party?! What?!
    Rave: Being close to family has been really helpful for all of these transitions – my son has so many f’ing days off of school (thankfully tomorrow is the last Jewish holiday in a while) and not really having to worry about it is nice
    Rant: But kiddo is under the weather, so I’ll still spend all day worrying
    Rave: serious house progress
    Rant: roof leak
    Rave: POP Bike Rack that I saw at the Morris Arboretum. Gotta find a way to get one to POP!

  • That One Guy

    Rant: So out of it. Woke up this morning during a crazy lucid trapped in a maze dream thinking it was 4:30 a.m. but it turned out to be 6:23 a.m. Didn’t matter, I just set an alarm to wake me up at 7:00 a.m. and closed my eye again. Not sure if it was the medicine, flu shot side effects, cold/respiratory malaise or weather/darkness that threw me for a loop yesterday.
    (May need one of the fake sunlight lamp thinks to help wake me up.)
    Rave: The photo above is amazing.

    • I’m looking into getting one of those sun lamps, too!

      • Emmaleigh504

        I love mine. It is very helpful on cold, dark morning in the winter.

      • That One Guy

        Let me know if you come across something promising.

      • Which brand do you have? The ones made by Phillips seem cool (will sync to your iphone and Sleep Cycle app!) but are also spendy.

        • Emmaleigh504

          I have one from SunRise or Sun Systems or something like that. It’s an old model, like 7 years old, so I’m sure you can get way better stuff now. They run spendy, but mine was worth every penny!

    • I’ve been putting off getting one, but after this morning I think I’m sold. The difference in motivation when I saw that it was sunny this morning vs. the gray and pouring rain during the weekend was night and day.

    • The sunlight lamp alarm clocks are great…until you start sleeping face down to avoid the light!
      In all seriousness, though, it does help despite my unconscious efforts to avoid it. I have the Phillips Wake-Up light. Not fancy (no phone connections, just a light, clock, and radio), but works well.

  • Pablo Raw

    Rave: The Unofficial PoPville Holy Meetup. Thanks to Textdoc and Blithe for a nice afternoon walk around the Franciscan Monastery gardens, the very nice church and the catacombs.
    Rave: Unexpected photo with His Holiness!! https://www.flickr.com/photos/benavente/21345959054/
    Rant: Joaquin Phoenix storm took down the tree in front of my building, police came to secure the area since it was touching power cables.
    Rave: we didn’t lose power
    Rant: The weekend was too short!

  • Rave: Second date sooner than expected because her schedule opened up. Nice to have someone making an equal effort to hang out.
    Rave: Crappy weekend had a strong finish.
    Rave: Seem to have some more interest in second room. Maybe I’ll get lucky again (first person to see it taking it).
    Rave: Getting to know your neighbors has its benefits. Neighbor saw my car get hit and left me a note.

  • Had to put the cat to sleep this weekend. It was awful, and even though I have a family of humans, I feel lonely at home now.
    So I stopped by the GA Ave shelter, but none of the cats there spoke to me. The kids want a kitten. All the rescue groups insist on unloading kittens in pairs, but I don’t want two. This seems harder than it should be. Which in turn makes me sadder about the old cat.

    • That One Guy

      Sorry to hear. My condolences.

    • Oh no, I am so sorry to hear that. 🙁

    • I am so sorry. 🙁 I hope you find a kitty that’s a great match for your family.

    • Aw I’m so sorry to hear that. Good luck on finding a new furry family member!

    • Emmaleigh504

      I’m sorry for your loss.

    • binpetworth

      I’m so sorry about your kitty. Victoria who posts here often fosters many kittens and she may be able to help you find one that can go home solo.

    • I Dont Get It

      Oh I’m so sorry to hear this! My condolences!

    • janie4

      I’m so sorry for your loss.

    • Oh dear! I’m so sorry to hear that! I’m sure that the right kitten will come into your life somehow!

    • So sorry about your cat.

    • I’m so sorry to hear about your cat. It’s so hard to lose furry friends. They have a special place in the home/life.
      Would a young cat be close enough to a kitten? One of the rescues might have a younger cat that is ok/better off as a single cat.

    • So sorry to hear about your cat. Yes, most rescue groups adopt out kittens in pairs since that way they can keep each other company -(and are double the fun!) But there are sometimes older kittens 4-6 months, who are more human oriented and might be adopted out to a home where people are actively engaged with them and not gone all day.

      Also, go to WARL on Oglethorpe St. – they have loads of cats, and good space to interact with them. Even if your kids are set on a kitten, they just might meet the right cat and fall in love.

      • anonymouse_dianne

        So sorry for your loss. WARL cat room is excellent space for cat interacting. Crumbs and Whiskers gives you tea, too.

  • Rave: Volunteered as a photography model yesterday for someone who needed more portraits for their portfolio. It was fun, but really long session so it was pretty tiring! But yay, fancy photos.
    Rave: (Related to above) I think I’m finally starting to get the hang of makeup a bit.
    Rant: 12+ hour work day today and Thursday. Grump grump.
    Rant: I am so not ready for winter, I hate how cold it’s been already. At least the sun is finally back…

  • Rave/Rant: I got to spend some time with my Dad this weekend. It was great to see him. His appetite was slightly improved because he hasn’t been on chemo for a couple of months now, but his memory is getting worse which is really hard — it’s like I’m losing him twice, if that makes sense? Also, my stepmom is in major denial that this is life now, and she still talks to/treats him as though this is going to go away and that needs to be stopped. I talked with my sister about it when I got back into town (she lives in WI) and she’s going to visit them later this month and will mention something. He’s having a scan this morning (right now, actually) and bloodwork to see if/where the cancer has spread and decisions will be made from there. He did make me laugh out loud when he needed to be reminded why he was having a scan, to check on his cancer and he said “My cancer is doing just fine.”

    Rave: I got to hang out with friends last night, and there was delicious chili.

    Rave?: Both of the men I’m talking to at the moment were still checking in with me through the weekend, and still express interest in wanting to go out — now to make that happen…

    Rant: I just want to hide out in a blanket fort for the next 3 days.

    • That One Guy

      Try to have the difficult discussions while he’s still lucid and make sure everyone is on board with whatever decisions he makes. Knowing what’s important to him in terms of his care, and in general, is a tough conversation to have but better to know now than guessing down the road.

      • That’s the problem…when he was more lucid, he refused to have conversations with any of us about it (his children). He is very stubborn, and extremely private. My stepmom is not much help, either, when we ask her questions, she usually shrugs her shoulders and says “I’ll need to make sure your dad is okay with me answering you” and then he never is/was. Now he just doesn’t know, and she’s not telling.
        We have tried so hard throughout the years pre-cancer/dementia and even harder when we learned of his diagnosis of cancer a year ago and he refuses to let us in.

        • Does he have a living will? Might that be a way to get things down in a way that doesn’t require a conversation with his kids? Or is it too late for that to be a viable option?

          • We have no idea. He would never talk about it when we would ask him when he was healthy, much less now. It is possible that he has one, and my stepmom would know if that was the case, but she won’t tell us.

          • Ugh ugh ugh. That sucks. All around. I’m sorry.

          • Any chance you have a family friend or neighbor who is an estates lawyer? Even if he won’t talk with you, he needs to talk to a trusted professional about these issues and get something pulled together. Stubborn, old relatives can be the worst about this stuff – it’s very unfair to the surviving relatives.

        • And the will thing is another issue entirely. He has a will, and so does my stepmom. Until September of this year, we were told for years that my oldest sister is the executor and his children would all be equal in the will. Then I learned in September there are now co-executors to my dad’s will (my oldest sister and my stepmom’s oldest daughter). Then in the spring, my stepmom said that when he passes, she gets everything (and it would be reversed if she passed first). She didn’t know more information when my sister and I asked her questions, and she didn’t want us asking our dad about it. (His memory was already slipping then) The estate atty I spoke to said that unfortunately we just have to wait until the reading of the will and go from there. My spidey senses have been tingling all over the place.

          • Oh yikes. That is nervewracking.

          • “Then in the spring, my stepmom said that when he passes, she gets everything (and it would be reversed if she passed first).”
            Yikes. I don’t know why anyone who’s in a second marriage, has adult children from marriage #1, and is on good terms with said children would make a will leaving everything to the current spouse.

  • Blithe

    Rave: Exploring the catacombs with Pablo and textdoc! Architecture, art, nature, and wonderful historical commentary by Professor Pablo! Way fun!
    Rant: Fall allergies. Sometimes I think that Nature hates me, but I’m trying not to take it personally.
    Rant: Still trying to figure out how I turned a short-ish walk into a long one — mostly uphill. Maybe I should check out gps systems for pedestrians. The scenic route was nice though.
    Rant: I’m becoming a FORMER fan of Whole Foods. Yes, I DO want my receipt. Why is it now policy to even ask this? In lots of little ways, they’re sliding downhill even as prices are leaping higher. I’m wishing for a Wegman’s.
    Rave: Mercury retrograde is almost over. It’s been convenient and somewhat consoling to have something to blame for all the stresses of the past few weeks.

    • Pablo Raw

      It was great! see my comment for a link to photo with His Holiness!

    • You know, I don’t mind so much about the receipt question. I can’t remember the last time I needed to return something to a grocery store (or it’s something cheap that’s just not worth the bother), so it’s generally a waste of paper for me. If you want one, just say yes and it’s no big deal. What I find much more insidious are the department stores and clothing retailers who do the “paper or e-mail receipt” question. No, I do not want to be on a dozen of your mailing lists or have my e-mail sold to a universe of spammers!

      • Awhile back, someone had an issue with Whole Foods where she (he?) declined the receipt, and it turned out that the transaction was left open and the person was somehow charged for the next customer’s groceries as well. Getting a receipt would have made it much easier to fix the situation (and possibly would have prevented it in the first place?). That’s my recollection of the story, at least.

        • Yea, that’s a one off though. I can’t imagine most ppl are considering such a thing when they want a receipt. Receipt should have prevented it as the receipt closes out the transaction

      • You don’t need the receipt to return something to a grocery store. They’ll just give you store credit. Most retailers do that also unless it’s particularly expensive.

      • Blithe

        I mind because I have had to return things from time to time, and I’ve also noticed overcharges — and the only way to document that I’ve been overcharged is to have the receipt. Asking seems like part of an insidious plan to overcharge customers — who then have no way to prove that we’ve been systematically overcharged.
        . Funny, I feel differently about the “paper or e-mail” question. I often say “both” — and appreciate the option of having the receipt saved to my e-mail, since I’d lose the paper one. What irks me is when I’m asked for my phone number. Grrrr.

        • I can go with that line of thinking only if the receipt prints whether you say yes or no; otherwise, it seems like an effort to waste less paper. I’m more shocked you’d continuing shopping somewhere that systemically overcharged you.

          • Blithe

            Convenience coupled with their positive response to my pointing out overcharges beats walking multiple blocks with a granny cart.

          • There are some things that are a great value at Whole Foods that I go for specifically, despite their issues. (Just as there’s other things I go to Trader Joe’s for because it’s SO MUCH CHEAPER.)

          • Blithe

            Yeah, FridayGirl, I’ve been surprised at how much cheaper spices seem to be, and basics like peanut butter, and bulk stuff can be good values. The closest Safeway is a bit of a trek, will be closing soon, and looks it. The closest Giant is small, and just okay. Trader Joe’s is inconvenient without a car, and except for nuts, when I go there I end up with bags of inexpensive carbs, so I rarely go there. The weekly farmer’s market is great — but expensive, and just one farm. Man, typing this has me wishing even more for a convenient Wegman’s. Oh well, at least I have options!

        • “Asking seems like part of an insidious plan to overcharge customers”
          That seems a bit paranoid to me. Enough people still get the receipts that something like this would be found out pretty quickly. And if it turns out people aren’t reading their receipts then guess what – they’ve probably been systematically overcharging us all along anyway!
          But I agree about the email receipt, I like them. My inbox is full of junk/advertising emails anyway so I don’t care about that. But I do like knowing that I have a copy of my receipt for as long as I need it without having to keep track of a small piece of paper.

          • Blithe

            It is a bit paranoid, but I’d guess that many WF shoppers probably don’t read their receipts, and probably don’t pay much attention to the prices anyway.

          • “Asking seems like part of an insidious plan to overcharge customers”
            It’s especially important to make sure you aren’t overcharged for aluminum foil.

        • Whole Foods once charged my old roommate for something like 7 heads of lettuce. She bought other groceries too so she didn’t realize exactly what was off until she saw her receipt. Whole Foods does seem to make mistakes like that often — which is why I always ask for receipts.

        • I Dont Get It

          You have to be careful about TJs–sometime the lower price is due to the package containing less. For instance I bought some cooking spray at TJs over the weekend. Same size spray can as my others yet TJs held 5 ounces and the others contained 6 ounces.

      • Following up on Blithe’s comment – earlier this year,after a New York Department of Consumer Affairs investigation, Whole Foods admitted overcharging for pre-packaged foods. Without a receipt, you can’t even look at if they did it, much less fix it.

    • I Dont Get It

      I always ask for my receipt and then almost never check it. #GoingThroughTheMotions

  • Rave: Three day work week for me this week AND next! Heading to Las Vegas with Mr. Eggs, so excited!
    Rant: NONE. No rants allowed this week for me!

  • Rave: Cécile McLorin Salvant at Sixth and I Saturday night — an extraordinary young jazz vocalist touring with an equally impressive trio.
    Rave: My first race of the fall and we won handily.
    Rave: A new office with (for the first time in five years) a window!
    Rant: Girlfriend out of town for three days, hobnobbing with millionaires and progressive “big thinkers.” No doubt she’ll meet a man more worthy of her talents and kindness and throw me over like the aging bureaucrat that I am.

  • RAVE: Balitmore Farmers Market yesterday. Still the best thing ever. Bought so much for so cheap.
    RANT: Suck it, Dupont Ripoff Market.
    RAVE: Had my top Sleep Cycle score of all time last night – 96%! Nine hours of uninterrupted, deep sleep.
    RAVE: Between dancing at Deep Sugar early Sunday morning and my long walk yesterday afternoon, I clocked in over 26,000 steps yesterday. Dancing is still the best workout.

    • I used to have a buddy that sold at Baltimore and Mt. Pleasant and he used to laugh about how much more he could charge in DC than in Baltimore. I used to get friend of the farmer discounts so I didn’t care. If they ever did a price-fixing investigation into the DC farmer’s market scene, the results would be quite amusing (and unsurprising).

  • I Dont Get It

    Rave: Got a ton of stuff done on Saturday including dropping off several bags of clothing at Martha’s Outfitters which included
    Rave: My vintage Levi’s jean jacket last worn when I played Twister with the Mandrell Sisters backstage at the People’s Choice Awards.
    Rave: My Saturday appearance at the AB-Y. I’m still concerned about the consistent level of maintenance standards during my long absence thus requiring me to ride the elevator to and from floors in order to provide incremental inspections.
    Rant: Sunday morning woke up with agonizing pain in my lower left back. Spent most of the day in bed. Due to the injury I slept on the left side of the bed which confused Lucy and twice she started barking and jumped off the bed during the night I guess because she didn’t know where I was. Lifting her back up…ouch. I left Lizzie downstairs because it was too painful to carry her up the stairs. Normally she is good with that but sometimes she has an anxiety attack and at 1:45 I could hear her frantically panting and pacing back and forth. I went downstairs in the dark to pick her up..ouch once again. Got to the stop of the stairs and I guess in the dark she was disoriented so she went the wrong direction and tumbled down the stairs. Trip #2 carrying her up…ouch!

    • Blithe

      One time when I had a bout of back pain, I slept on the floor and it went away. Maybe you, Lucy, and Lizzie could all sleep on the floor downstairs? Could make for a great Animal Fix photo op….

      • Emmaleigh504


      • I Dont Get It

        Thanks, Blithe! There are some back problems I’ve had where sleeping on the floor was a blessed relief. Not in this case in that I need to swing my legs around on my very high bed in order to stand up without pain.

        BTW the last time I slept on the floor Lizzie freaked out and jumped up on the bed to sleep! What a freak!

  • Rant: Failed our rental inspection with DCRA, weeeeee.
    Rave: It’s nothing too major.
    Rant: Security doors in the basement failed because of the locks. Really annoying because what they suggest basically makes the security doors useless, but at least people can get out without a key if there’s a fire?! Grggghhh. Does anyone know if just putting the deadbolt on it rather than the key lock will suffice?
    Does anyone know of a handyman who can make a small fix to concrete stairs? Just need to be bonded in one spot.

    • HaileUnlikely

      RE deadbolt: the verbiage of the requirement that your deadbolt failed is that the door has to be openable from the inside without keys, tools, or special knowledge. Unless you failed on other unrelated stuff, having a deadbolt with a key on the outside and a thumbturn on the inside is fine.
      I have a regular thumbturn deadbolt on my security door, but I also have glass panels on it that somebody would have to dislodge or break in order to reach in and access the thumburn. It wouldn’t be impossible to do that, but it would take some time and make a lot of noise, so I call it good enough, as somebody determined enough to go to the trouble to do that is probably going to get in anyway.
      If you want to step up your security a small amount from that, you can get something like the device pictured here: http://www.homedepot.com/p/Grisham-Black-Door-Cuff-90570/203029553. Not this one, though – it is not deep enough and still allows somebody with normal-sized hands to reach around it and unlock the door. A professional welder can weld on a deeper thing like that, which should nearly but not quite reach the inner door. (Note that you still have to keep the inside door locked, though – because if you can reach in open the inner door, you can then still reach into this and unlock the lock.)

      • No, with the deadbolt key thing there aren’t other issues. He mentioned the glass thing or the welding. Any suggestions on getting/installing the glass? Our two security doors upstairs have them, but basement doesn’t. The thing with the knob and the deadbolt is that our basement security doors don’t have both. It only has a space for one lock so deadbolt OR knob. I am not particularly worried about someone breaking in because there’s a strong door with a deadbolt and door knob lock too. On top of that we have a security system.

        • HaileUnlikely

          If they’re a fairly standard size, you could probably order the glass panels from Home Depot and install them with nothing more than a drill, screws, and those special little tabs made for this purpose and sold at pretty much any hardware store. This will be far less costly than other likely alternatives and should work fine. If your door is not a normal size, see suggestion below from textdoc.

          • I think they’re standard size…maybe slightly smaller than the typical door. We’ll measure the doors and check out Home Depot later today! Thanks! I think one of our doors has those little tabs you’re talking about.

          • HaileUnlikely

            FYI the ones I got were sold under the brand name “Unique Home Designs.” My door was not made by that brand, but the glass panels fit fine. I just checked the Home Depot web site and did not see them, though. I don’t know if they’ve been discontinued or just for some reason are not shown on the website.

    • I retrofitted my security doors by adding 1) thumbturn locks and 2) a thick metal grating/mesh-type thing over the bars on the security doors so that no one can stick a hand through and unlock the thumbturn from the outside.
      I used Federal City Ironworks on the recommendation of some other PoPvillagers. Cost was something like $1,100 for two doors and one window.

      • Okay cool, thanks! I have them coming out Weds for a quote to put plexiglass on the two security doors. I found a concrete guy too and he’s coming by to give us an estimate today. The other things we can do ourselves.

        • Now I wonder if I should’ve had plexiglass put on my security doors rather than the metal grate/mesh stuff. The mesh is certainly not the most attractive.
          Oh well…

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: lost my delicious Golden Delicious apple somewhere between home and work. no morning snack for me 🙁

  • Rave: Delicious, relaxing weekend in Napa with perfect weather. I’ll be raving about this trip for years.
    Rave: It’s crazy to me how Michelin starred chefs are a dime a dozen in the region.
    Big rave: Fancy-ish restaurants in Napa are a relative bargain when compared to counterparts in big cities. Every time we got a bill, we sort of did a double take because we’re used to SF and DC prices.
    Rave: We already plan to go back as soon as we have a spare weekend, or even just a weekend day. I want to go to a spa!

  • Rave: productive morning!
    Rave: whoever recommended the Essie gel top coat, you are a lifesaver! I somehow mess up manicures hours after I do them and this one looks perfect! No sheet imprints even through I went to bed 90 minutes later (seriously, that’s a thing and I do it all the time.)
    Rant: my weekend was fun and I spent a lot of time with the fam, but I got almost nothing done around the house. I hate it when it feels like house keeping is becoming insurmountable.
    Rave: the nieces. Swimming lessons were a blast and the little one was adorable when she chastised me for not bringing my dog over to her house.

    • Ooh man I always get sheet imprints too, even if it’s been a couple hours… I’ll have to get that topcoat too!

      • If you use the Cartwheel app all makeup and nail products are an extra 10% off at Target right now. So of course I bought myself a new fall Essie color. You know, because saving a buck means I should spend 8 more.

    • Emmaleigh504

      Your rave reminded me of another rave: so much good quality time with Winston Leblanc, best corgi in the land. He snoozed on my lap on Saturday while I spent quality TV watching time with his humans.

    • Can we discuss how this gel topcoat works? It is like regular nail polish or do you need the whole gel setup to make it work? Also, I’ll be curious what you think of is after a few days of wear. I’ve had a single gel manicure in my life and if was so awful it made me never want one again. (Long story short: the gel all peeled of on its own in four days, taking the top layers of my ail along with it). So I’d love a product that has the benefits of gel — and this sounds like it does — without the freaky potential for nail destruction.

      • Blithe

        I’m curious about this as well. Also, can it be removed with regular polish remover? Like fka Shawess, I don’t want to do a gel manicure, but this topcoat sounds great.

        • Emmaleigh504

          I also want this info. I always have sheet marks, and have no room for fancy pants nail accoutrement.

          • Okay, so you use it just like a regular top coat, no light or anything needed.
            I found that it dried and set faster than the OPI top coat and that I didn’t mess it up, even taking the dog’s collar off later. I am notorious for messing up my nails, so I was super impressed. It’s fairly thick and pretty shiny, shinier than most top coats I think.
            But I only put it on last night. I’ll see how it holds up and how easy it is to take off. I also used it on my toes, so that will be interesting to see as well.
            I, personally, think that is worth the $8 and change I spent, but I suck at budgeting so YMMV. And Amazon reviews are all over the place.

          • I don’t know about the Essie stuff (I have to check that out), but the Sally Hanson no-light gel colors and topcoat really do work. I can do a mani at home and have it last two weeks with no chips (just be sure to apply the topcoat along the tips of your nails as well).

        • Blithe

          Thanks jeslett, AMDCer, and SparklyKittyTacos — these gel topcoats sound great!

      • I use a similar Revlon Color Envy Gel top coat and I love it. You don’t need the UV set up so you can apply it like a regular top coat, but my manicure usually lasts for two weeks (as opposed to two days with a regular top coat). And you can take it off with regular nail polish remover. Highly recommend!

      • Regarding the peeling manicure, it wasn’t done properly. The first gel manicure I had peeled like crazy a day or two afterwards. When I went back they told me that my nails are “oily”, which makes the gel harder to adhere, but offered to re-do them for free. That time I was good until I took it off myself 2-3 weeks later, and have had gel manicures since without a problem, so I think the “oily” bit was just BS.
        If you want to give it another try, just go back to the store as soon as you have a problem. They should be willing to fix it for you.

        • Yeah, I figured that this had to be a mistake. Still, it was so traumatizing that I didn’t want to try it again. Besides that, my regular manicures usually last long enough to let white grow in at the bottom of my nails — I were my nails really short — so the benefits of the gel are sort of lost on me and it’s not worth the extra money. But this topcoat sounds really promising. Thanks for sharing Jeslett! (And I think originally AliceDC?)

          • Ooops. AliceINDC. And clearly she already replied. I guess this is what pregnancy brain looks like.

    • Glad the top coat worked out for you! I’ve used it a few times now, each time with great results.

    • I use Seche Vite religiously but maybe I should look into this Essie one. The Seche Vite is killer on the chemicals haha but it works so well!

  • TACO-ma Yucatán Chicken wrote on their FB that they might be open by the end of October!

  • Rave: Actually had a wonderful time exploring Portland. i know i had no love for that city, but we were able to bring our bikes with us and it really changed the way we saw the city. 80 degree sunny weather and tons of fall leaves didn’t hurt either.
    Very Minor Rant: Had dinner at Kachka, Portland’s russian/ukrainian/soviet restaurant and it was not nearly as good as Mari Vanna!

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