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Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

by Prince Of Petworth November 19, 2012 at 10:00 am 142 Comments

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

  • Anonymous

    Question: I recently moved to the Dupont area and am looking to join a gay-friendly gym that that gives back to the gay community. Any suggestions?? If you recommend a particular gym please give a recent example of what the gym has done to give back to the community in which it serves. Thanks for your help!

    • anotheranon

      Honestly, I think pretty much all of the gyms in the area are chains, and so they tend to do little in the way of charitable work. I can’t recall of hearing of any gyms in the area doing what you describe to any great extent.

      • Anonymous

        Yeah, maybe not a gym, but what about a small studio? Lots of yoga, spinning, personal training places are locally owned and probably give back to the community. You might not be looking for something that specialized though.

    • Anonymous


      • Anonymous

        What has Vida done to give back to the community?

        • Anonymous

          I have no idea, but just about every gay I know goes there so perhaps you can research the place on your own!

          • Anonymous

            Or you could have responded with the information the original poster was asking for. Just throwing the name of a gym that the gays go to does not mean that gym gives back to the community. And trust me when I say Vida does nothng to give back to the community.

  • Anonymous

    Revel: Short week at work

    Rant: It appears I’m the only one who decided to work any days this week.

    • S

      revel: this
      rant: this

    • Revel: this.

      Revel: this.

      The less people I need to deal with at work, the more stuff actually gets done. Less meetings + less consultation with others = less hassle and more off my plate.

    • Anonymous

      That’s some of the best time to be in the office, quiet so you can actually get things done. It’s pretty casual and probably not full of stress as per the typical day. Enjoy it instead of feeling like you’re the only one there and everyone else is out.

  • Rant: Harris Teeter doesn’t include their circular in my Penny Saver delivered on Wednesday. I look at them online, but when I come back home from shopping, I always find sales in the circular I didn’t notice while online.

    Does anyone in Petworth get the Harris Teeter circular in their Penny Saver? They are included in other areas in the city.

    • This is an A+ old man rant.

      “And after you give me my circular, get off my lawn!”

      • Anonymous

        The important thing is, I had an onion tied to my belt, which was the style of the time…

        • I. Rex

          +1 to the Grampa Simpson quote :)

    • I don’t think the Harris Teeter circular is distributed in Park View. I imagine they target their flyers to the areas that are closest to Harris Teeter stores.

      Doesn’t the store have hardcopy flyers you can look at when you arrive?

      • maria

        I live two blocks away and still do not get their circular.

    • novadancer

      I don’t get it either (constitution sq is my store). And I totally agree!

  • PG

    Rave: Found a liquor store that has Blackthorn cider. I haven’t had this cider since I lived in England, over 20 years ago.

    mini-Rant: It’s not as good as I remembered it (but still decent.) Maybe my tastes have changed or the export version isn’t as good as what they have in the UK.

    • megan

      They have it at Whole Foods too.

    • I’m looking to try new ciders so, at the risk of giving away your secret, could you please tell us where?

      • PG

        Old Line Fine Wine, Spirits & Bistro, in Beltsville.

      • saf

        Rodman’s on Wisconsin Avenue has a nice selection of ciders.

        And last time I was in Lion’s, they had a nice selection too.

    • Anonymous

      I saw some news piece on the rising popularity of ciders in the U.S. Apparently year over year distribution numbers are crazy-high due to cider’s growing popularity with the Millennial generation (they want new things to try) and the fact that most is gluten-free (which is oh so hip and/or important right now).

      • L

        Rant: People that think that being gluten free is about being hip. I think the recent rise in people with gluten allergies has more to do with recent books and experts suggesting elimination diets — http://www.webmd.com/allergies/guide/allergies-elimination-diet — and therefore some people are finding out that they feel much better not eating gluten. My sister is one of them, and trust me, she is not trying to be hip. She is simply trying to eliminate various health issues, and it has worked.

        • kac

          I agree with your rant. My 67-year-old father isn’t trying to be “trendy” by going gluten-free; he has dermatitis herpetiformis and breaks out into a horrible, itchy, blistered rash if he eats gluten. It irritates me that people have turned gluten-free eating into a weight loss plan/fad diet when in reality it’s a serious health issue for many folks.

          • It’s become somewhat “fad”-like simply because retailers have realized that they can charge a premium on gluten-free products. Furthermore, the increased interest among otherwise-healthy individuals has led to a broadening of product offerings in the gluten-free section of the grocery store. One of my college roommates, back in 2001, has Celiac’s and had the hardest time finding products back then. There’s so much more available to him today.

            So while those fad’ish individuals may prompt well deserved eye rolls, they have increased market demand for a wider variety of gluten free products that those who are sick can take advantage of. It’s a win-win for everyone.

  • Anonymous

    RANT: Had dinner Saturday night with a friend that stayed on her cell phone playing games and/or texting the entire meal. I got so frustrated I almost got up and walked out. This is not the first time she has done this and I know I should say something to her. However, she is an adult and should know better.

    • Anon 202

      Wow – how could you not say something to her? I would not have been able to last very long without some comment.

    • anon

      I once had brunch with a friend who at some point took her phone out of her bag and started texting just under the edge of the table.

      Her behavior wasn’t quite as outrageous as that of Anonymous 10:08’s friend, but still rude. I was shocked and didn’t know what to say — I was thinking, “Helloooo!! Do you think I can’t see what you’re doing??”

      Anonymous 10:08, if you meet up with this friend again and she does the same thing, you should call her out on it. Or you could follow my confrontation-averse example and just avoid making plans with her for a long time.

    • Anonymous

      You should have gotten up and walked out. How good a friend is this? While I understand that sometimes you do need to be on your phone, couldn’t you say, “If you’d rather spend time playing on your phone, let me know when you’d actually like to spend time with me. I enjoy x company but I’d like to visit when we’re together because I can play on my phone anytime.”

    • Wow, have people lost the ability to say, “Hey, what’s so interesting about your phone? if you’re too busy for a conversation with me, I’ve got other things to do – let’s reschedule this dinner.” Or you could have texted it at her. Jeez.

      • Seriously. Way too many of the rants in these daily threads are about people not being able to handle their own passive-aggressive nature in the face of people/circumstances that inconvenience them.

        If someone is being rude/not acting like a civilized person, call them out on it! (with a kind smile on your face)

        • Anonymous


    • Identified

      Next time your are out with her, send her a text that says:

      Stop texting other people while we are meeting for a meal and conversation or I am leaving.

      She either:
      a) stops texting and brings up the item as a conversation piece.
      b) stops texting and pretends nothing happened
      c) texts you back and says no (at which point you can freely leave).

      • identifed

        acch * you are* not *your are*

  • anon

    RANT: Went to Pulpo in Cleveland Park for the first time last night. What a joke, won’t be returning.

    I get it, the Tapas are expensive, but Pulpo was shockingly so. $40 bucks per person and my gf and I left hungry. It was the worst tapas experience I’ve ever had, and that is saying a lot.

    A couple of the dishes were tasty, nothing that I would write home about, and certainly not worth ~14 bucks for two pieces of shimp. Yes, two. You can get entire tasty entrees at nearly any resturant in the area for what I paid for for two shrimp. All the food seemed to come out cold too , all of it…including the supposed hot dishes.

    The value, the taste, the experience was just not there. It wasn’t even close enough to give it a second try.

    • they are actually prawns

    • Anony

      That’s odd. I’ve eaten there a few times and thought the food/drinks were awesome.

      • Anony

        Haha, on second thought, the food was awesome except for the octopus (i.e., the pulpo) which I found amusing.

    • Anonymous

      Went there last week and mostly agree with you. Happy Hour cocktails were interesting and a good deal, but the food was just slightly above average without considering the cost. The octopus was really disappointing.

  • Anonymous

    Rave: Friends threw my fiance and I an amazing engagement party on Saturday night!

    Rant: Having to ask one guest to leave said party because he drank too much and was making inappropriate comments to everyone.

  • Son

    Rant: Father told me has has cancer.

    Double rant: Too broken up about it to offer any kind of support. Just a mess instead, and I am a grown man.

    • utterlyanon

      sorry to hear that. my father was diagnosed with CLL several years ago, and i think i am somewhat still in denial.

      • My dad was diagnosed with CLL some 8-10 years ago. No treatments, just monitoring. He feels fine. The only bad effects I am aware of is a difficultiy in healing, which made a subsequent broken ankle a real problem. I hope it stays this way, and hope you (all) have as good luck.

        • utterlyanon

          that was the same with my dad for the first few years, just monitoring. then he did several treatments, and now is back to monitoring. he has the same issue with being “hard to heal” and has to be especially careful with cuts and scrapes because they bleed a lot, and has to watch out for his immune system. I am grateful though because it could be worse. i just have such a hard time with the thought of my parents aging!

          • That’s good information, thanks. I hadn’t realized that treatments could be a successful, relatively short term thing. Best wishes for your Dad.

    • That is a big chunk of news to deal with – so sorry! I’m sure you know there is lots of hope for many cancer patients these days – and when you feel a little more together you will know how to start helping him. But no reason a “grown man” shouldn’t be just plain broken up – go ahead and let yourself grieve, then get to work.

    • So very sorry to hear it. There is really nothing that can prepare you for the stress and heartbreak of watching your parent suffer, and becoming the person that they lean on.

      Just please, please be sure you take care of yourself and find time to grieve and rant that it isn’t fair and whatever else will help you feel better. I didn’t deal well and ended up with a case of stress-induced anorexia – lost 30 pounds in less than a month. Took me six years to recover from the harm that did to my system – my mom was well into remission by the time I recovered!

    • I’m so sorry to hear that. I lost my dad to cancer in 2005 and it was heart wrenching. In a weird way, however, it wasn’t a surprise. Just make sure you spend time with him/talk to him/support him however you can. I spent his last few months distancing myself, and while it made the grieving process easier, I fully regret it.

    • My dad lived over 20 years after being diagnosed with prostate cancer (and died due to something else). I’ve beaten lymphoma once and am hopefully beating another kind right now (all signs are looking good). I obviously don’t know what kind of cancer your father has, but there are many out there that can be overcome.

      Best of luck to you and try to stay as positive as can be (which I know is much easier said than done sometimes). There is tons of support out there, dont be shy in reaching out to others for it.

    • Anonymous

      I’m so sorry about your father’s news.

      As for the grown man part, please try to get over that. It’s shocking news for anyone, no matter who or what you are. You don’t need to add the “grown man” part to your processing. I’m assuming this news is pretty new/recent, so give yourself time to digest the news. You will then be in a position where you are able to do what you need to do for your father, as best as you are able. If you are not good at grieving this news, I hope you have a support system where someone can help you through this process.

    • Son

      I knew you guys would be awesome. Thanks for all of the well wishes and personal stories. I will pull it together. I was just totally stunned.

  • anotheranon

    Rant: A person two cubes down from me has a disgusting, wet, hacking cough about every 30 seconds. She’ll cough for a few seconds, then spit up into her trash can. Honestly, if you’re that sick, work from home if you have to. If I get sick before leaving for the holiday, I’ll be PISSED.

    Rant: Somewhat new subcontractor isn’t in yet and hasn’t told us he’s working from home, so I have no idea what he’s doing or where he is. This is the third time in the past week he’s done this, and come-to-Jesus talks about this and his horrible attitude in general hasn’t helped. I hate to put someone out of a job when things are tough, but I may have to make that decision. And it kills me that I might have to do it. But come on, he’s an adult, he should know better.

    Rave: Just have to make it through today and tomorrow, and then… FREEDOM!

    • Anonymous

      Think of it not as putting someone out of a job, but opening up a job for someone else (assuming this person can be replaced if canned).

    • anonvember

      This sounds very much like the pattern of a contractor we had some time ago. All I can tell you is that on the very off chance that it’s the same person, nope, it ain’t gonna change. Chronic absences, no effort to contact the team to say they were working from home, flimsy to outrageously unbelievable excuses for absences if they bothered to provide them at all, and then ignoring the polite but firm counseling….all this with a persistent arrogant attitude? Say goodbye right now! Like you said, this is an adult in the workplace. And if this is the same damn person, trust me, they have heard it all before and nothing will change over time. Good luck!

  • Anonymous

    RAVE: I am spending Thanksgiving alone this year. I have my “meal for one” all planned and am looking forward to spending the day with just me.

    • I am as well. What are you making?

      • Anonymous

        I bought a 3lb turkey breast; mashed patotoes and gravy; broccoli casserole; rolls; and, of course, a bottle of wine. :-) Nothing too fancy! :-)

        • Anonymous

          That sounds nice. I love spending Thanksgiving with my family but I do fantasize about what it would be like to have the day (and practically the entire city) to myself. Must be so peaceful.

  • Anon

    Rant: 8 months pregnant and not getting to sit on metro. And yes, it’s blatantly obvious how pregnant I am – I’m a small person with what looks like a basketball under my shirt. I’m not being lazy or weak or selfish, but us super-preggos can barely keep our balance on moving metro cars, and people slam their bags into our stomachs when we’re standing and it’s crowded, and sometimes we pass out if we stand for too long. If someone is sitting in one of the “priority” metro seats and they don’t fit the bill of needing one of those seats, I really think they have an obligation to keep their eyes open for anyone who does. I’m sick of seeing people engrossed in their papers and phones while I’m standing right in front of them, trying to keep my balance while also protecting my stomach from people’s giant briefcases hitting it. Or worse, the people who look at me, look at my stomach, and go right back to reading their paper. (And yes, I know pregnancy is not one of the conditions covered by the law governing those seats, but still…just because it’s not illegal to keep sitting, that doesn’t mean it’s right. And no, I do not ask people for their seats – I would feel terrible if they had some medical condition that makes them need the seat. But I just can’t believe that EVERYONE in those seats has some need to be sitting! )

    • Anonymous

      Maybe people are afraid that you’re not really pregnant, and if they ofer you a seat you’ll be offended.

    • Anonymous

      If you can’t believe everyone in those seats need to be sitting, then why would you believe someone in the seat has a medical condition that requires the seat?

      I often ask women, elderly, or someone who may need a seat if they’d like my seat on the metro or bus. 9 out of 10 times they say no.

      I’ve seen pregnant woman asking someone sitting if they would give up their seat. It’s not a big deal– if you ask, you’ll get a seat. Just be nice about it.

    • anon

      I know it is maddening, but you just have to ask. When I had just gotten off crutches, but still wasn’t stable enough to stand on metro, I’d just as (granted, not as maddening because my cane wasn’t as obvious). But, in the end, you need to make sure you take care of yourself. And I would usually pick the person who looked up then looked back down, then walk up with my cane and ask for the seat because of the cane just loudly enough so that the folks in the surrounding vicinity could hear. Worked every time. Either the person I asked got up or someone else did.

    • sue

      If you need a seat, ask. People may notice your pregnancy or not, they may be horribly rude or they may just not be paying attention.

      But there is nothing wrong with saying, “Excuse me, can I sit down?”

      They will either jump up, or explain why they can’t, in which case everyone else can jump up! And it is possible that people are trying not to assume that you’re pregnant. I’ve been taught never to ask or assume unless I’ve been told.

      As a young, healthy-looking person with a condition that makes standing on the metro hard, I have no qualms about asking when I need a seat and offering when I don’t.

    • Anonymous.

      On the one hand, I understand your complaint. But then I can’t count how many times I’ve seen people use the basketball under the shirt trick just to get a seat.

    • I totally understand the needing a seat because you are pregnant thing, and a lot of people sitting in those seats during rush hour are as you describe. However, I would caution that you need to understand that just because you can’t see that something is wrong with someone, doesn’t mean there isn’t. For example, I have such a severe case of endometriosis that I am in debilitating pain every day, and standing on the metro is just not doable most of the time. However, since you cannot see my condition, people assume that I am perfectly healthy. I get dirty looks all the time in this situation, and it is really upsetting.

      • A Thought

        Have you thought about getting a medidc alert braclet or pendant, that you can have out and visible while you’re sitting? Even if it’s not something you actually need, it might reduce some of the dirty looks.

        • A thought

          (sp) medic

    • Just ask for a seat.

      Yes, you shouldn’t have to… but better to ask for a seat and get it than to stand and stew silently, right?

      I imagine most people who are engrossed in their books/magazines/etc. would leap up (and feel very embarrassed for not having noticed your presence earlier).

    • SB

      I second just asking. If you don’t want to single someone out who may have an invisible condition – just ask in the general direction of the row of seats if anyone would mind if you had a seat. I’ve seen this happen and usually people will jump up. I know when I’m seated in the priority seats I check when people get on to see if I need to get up, but when it’s crowded it’s easy to miss a cane or pregnant belly.

    • Anonymous

      I have to say, as someone 7 months along, you could use this opportunity to be more assertive. Simply pick someone who looks able and ask them if they would mind giving you their seat. If they do, be very gracious about it, and if they don’t then you should pity their horrible soul. People are oblivious and I don’t think it is in any way rude to just ask. If you want to sit, say so.

    • Anonymous

      If you’re feeling weak or having a hard time standing, ask someone if you could please have the seat. If you think that you shouldn’t have to ask for a seat, while you are right it would be great if someone noticed and offered, nowadays things seem to be different. Just ask, if you really want a seat.

    • Anonymous

      Random but related story: Yesterday a woman sat next to me on the bus, and she clearly had some mental issues. She was shrieking with laughter at the top of her lungs, dancing wildly in her seat and crashing into me, making insane babble at everyone nearby. I resisted the urge to flee– although she was annoying, she seemed harmless and I didn’t want her to feel like a pariah. When a very large woman with a cart laboriously made her way onto the bus, the crazy lady was the first to jump up and offer her seat (and I secretly breathed a sigh of relief). I’ve been on this route before where the bus driver had to beg and plead for someone to give up their seat to a person who was clearly disabled, and still the seated people would refuse to move. It just goes to show that crazy/cracked out folks sometimes have the biggest heats.

    • You are not entitled to a seat just because you’re pregnant. That is a CHOICE that you made, no one forced you to become pregnant. If you start demanding what you are “entitled to” when you’re pregnant, I can’t imagine what you’ll be like once you have children and think you’re entitled to everything just because you have screaming little ones. Everyone on the subway has a right to a seat – first come, first serve unless there is a law and as others pointed out, you are not covered by that law. If you can’t handle it, take a cab but I would never move for you.

      • Anonymous

        This isn’t a question of entitlement but an issue of common courtesy/decency, which seems to have gotten tossed out the window with a host of other things. There was a time when being polite and thinking of others/looking out for others had more weight than it does today.

      • saf

        Actually, the law does not contain a list of what constitutes “disabled.” If she needs the seat because she cannot stand, she is entitled to the seat.

        If there are more people who needs the seats then there are seats, yeah, that’s a problem. But really, most of us can stand to let those who need to sit, sit.

      • Wow. *shaking head in disbelief at lehayes*

        Certainly there are instances in which people with children (some of them, not all of them) act like the world revolves around them, but this is not one of them.

      • C3PO

        Wow, I bet you have lots of friends…

      • Anonymous

        thank you for making the world a more self reliant, selfish place. good job!

      • Anonymous

        I don’t agree with what you’re saying, but you have a very cute dog!

      • Anon

        I hope no one ever gave your mother a seat when she chose to be pregnant with you.

      • To answer your kind replies – Yes, I have a lot of friends. And, I’m not going to apologize for believing that everyone should be treated equally. We are the only society that treats pregnant women like they are disabled and it creates an extremely harmful environment of self-entitlement that lasts all the way to that parent marching in to a guidance counselors office and demanding their child get into an Ivy League college. I’d much rather a seat go to a hard-working man or woman who was on his or her feet all day earning a living and contributing to society instead of a woman who chose to get pregnant and chose to take the subway.

    • saf

      Several years back, I had orthopedic surgery. I was on crutches for quite a while, and used a cane for a while after that.

      When I rode the bus, someone would always give me a seat. Even the teenagers would call me Ma’am and help me to a seat.

      When I rode the train, healthy young briefcase carrying men in suits would push me out of the way to race to the accessible seats. I would ask for a seat and get ignored.

      I hate the train.

    • dcd

      If you have this much trouble with confrontation, you’re really going to enjoy the preschool years. Start developing a spine now.

      • Anonymous

        And think about the teenage years!

  • Britt

    Rant: Still having trouble breathing – docs say it might be asthma. Onto the pulmonary function tests…

    Rave: Husband home.
    Rave: Weekend with family. A night of dancing. Relaxing in my parent’s new home.
    Rave: Awesome movies out and time to see them this week thanks to the holidays!

  • Anonymous

    Rant: Sitting in the window Sunday afternoon of Manny and Olga’s on 14th St watching a parking control officer stroll down the street ticketing cars. If DC is so desperate for revenue I know a couple of churches where they can find all sorts of parking violations from Maryland drivers.

    Rant#2: Admitting I was at M and O’s in the daylight hours.

    • Anonymous

      wait, are you seriously mad that they were ticketing cars that were parked illegally? find something else to stew about, hon.

    • Anonymous

      You’re mad because a city employee was doing his job?

      • anonymous

        No, the person is upset about the selective enforcement. This is a well-known issue that goes back years and years….

  • OntarioRd

    Rant: Was startled by a blood curling scream outside my windows from a girl getting mugged on saturday night.

    Rave: such a great neighborly response. The guy didn’t get anything as people yelled at him from windows and some strangers ran to help her on the street.

    Rant: a bit freaked out to walk home after dark now.

    • Wow, your rant and rants like this frighten me. I work a pt job at Pentagon City and I get off the metro late at night. I’m always petrified that someone is going to mug me while I’m walking alone.

    • Interested in finding out if this was the situation I was recently involved in… what time Saturday night?

  • Anonymous

    To the man who said “This is a crosswalk asshole!” when I was riding my bike this morning

    You clearly saw me coming because we made eye contact. All you had to do was pause for a second, and I would’ve rode by you no problem. This was a full 4 seconds before you decided to walk fast across the street so that I’d have to brake at the last minute to keep from getting close to you. There was ample room for me to ride by – in the bike lane. Why you chose to purposely keep walking; I don’t know.

    If it’s because you needed a confrontation so that you could call me an assh-le, and feel better yourself because for once you were able to assert yourself before you walked into your soul crushing job on a Monday morning after a weekend of domination by your family at home—

    I completely understand. In case you were wondering, I l-ve you, and I hope you’re having a good day. XOXO

    • I. Rex

      I’m sorry to be that guy, but from your description it sounds like you should have stopped for a person in the crosswalk. Not saying he should have yelled at you, but the reason we have rules is to make interactions with pedestrians predictable and by extension safer for everyone. So yes, maybe he could have paused to let you go by, but that’s not the rule. It’s the other way.

      • “the reason we have rules is to make interactions with pedestrians predictable and by extension safer for everyone. So yes, maybe he could have paused to let you go by, but that’s not the rule. It’s the other way.”

        Just repeating this for emphasis.

      • anon

        Well put, I. Rex.

      • Anonymous

        So the rule is to stop if you see a pedestrian lingering near and intersection? Because I never see drivers, or bikers, do that here. In the Midwest it’s normal, but in DC I believe the standard practice is to stop only if you see the pedestrian starting to cross.

        • Anonymous

          If you’re making eye contact you know this ped is walking across, then yes, you should stop. And just because people don’t do it as often here, does not mean that it’s not the law or that you should also not stop where you should. Don’t contribute to the decline of civility.

          • Anonymous

            I’m sorry, but if every person in a vehicle had to come to a complete stop whenever there was a pedestrian in the vicinity of an intersection there would be constant gridlock because pedestrians are EVERYWHERE and a lot of times they aren’t even intending on crossing at the crosswalk in question. There’s a good reason why human sightings are a reason to stop in the Midwest but not practical in more populated areas.

          • Anonymous

            There are a lot of areas where there are crosswalks but not lights or stop signs. And cars and bikes should stop when there is a ped in the intersection. It doesn’t result in gridlock, there aren’t enough peds to keep traffic stopped for more than a few seconds. If there’s a steady stream of peds, then those intersections will (should) have stoplights or stop signs.

          • Anonymous

            I agree– but I am talking about situations where the pedestrian is not in the intersection already. I think that is a big distinction that a lot of you seem to be missing or ignoring.

          • Another

            Sometimes it’s not so clear, but usually you can tell if a pedestrian is trying to cross or just standing around. A lot of people don’t stop even when the pedestrian is IN the crosswalk and clearly trying to get across (and the driver has plenty of time/space to make the stop).

            I think the bottom line is that everyone — drivers, cyclists, pedestrians, metro riders, cabbies — should just try to be more civil. It won’t take anyone any longer to get to where they need to go (might even take less time, in the case of people who block the box), but it will be safer and less annoying for everyone.

    • Anonymous

      Just a question: If you had been driving a car would you have continued without stopping for him to cross?

      • Anonymous

        I was on a street with no cars coming. There is a bike lane, but when he first saw me, I was taking the full lane because people have a tendency to double park. There is a crosswalk near a side street, but no stop sign.

        As I approach, I can see everyone everyone walking on the down along the (my) left sidewalk. We can all see eachother. At this crosswalk, everyone crosses to the other side of the street to buildings. If a car had been coming, they wouldn’t have walked, because there wouldn’t have been enough time for the car to stop. I saw the whole group, and he was heading a group of about 30 pedestrians that were about to cross. Everyone else saw me and slowed a bit. Most times, I would let a single pedestrian pass but since there was a large group, I sped up a little and moved back into the bike lane so I could get so I could pass the front of the group without a close collision.

        He saw me- and my intentions were clear. He wanted something to happen. I’m no rookie.

        • Sorry buddy, but you’re totally in the wrong here. You don’t bomb down faster when pedestrians are already in the crosswalk, as this guy and the group were.

          Yeah, the pedestrian did purposely speed up to be a dick and make a point. He could have slowed down and held back. But in the eyes of the letter of the law, you were wrong and he has no obligation to accommodate you. If bikes want to be considered vehicles, not pedestrians, than they need to act like vehicles. Vehicular rules of the road say that when pedestrians are in the process of crossing in ANY part of the crosswalk, all vehicles – traveling in either direction – must stop. That’s a very clear and well know rule.

          No one cares how “experienced” you are or if you’re some sort of hardcore biker, you done screwed up. Don’t come whining in here when a pedestrian is exercising his rights.

          • Anonymous

            Even if the pedestrian was in the right (and it’s still not clear he was) there was absolutely no reason for him to scream and curse.

          • Anonymous

            Perhaps the “I’m no rookie” is a little jerky and misleading, and maybe that’s why you called me buddy. I drive, bike, and walk. I was on my slower bike enjoying the lovely morning, almost at my destination. I’m a giver of thank-you-waves.

            On a bike, I ride through that intersection almost everyday. They are walking in the opposite direction, and then crossing the street to walk in the same direction. So there is eye contact the whole time. At no point could I have hit him – unless he started to run. I didn’t even come that close to him because he never stopped/he never was in fear of a collision.

            He wanted a reason – and I’m no rookie- because sometimes people need confrontation. Before he started to cross the street and subsequently crossed two lanes of traffic- he was at my back tire when I he yelled.

            FYI- I was wearing a hoody at the time. Totally irrelevant, except it isn’t.

          • +1.

            Honestly, the OP is only reinforcing negative stereotypes of bicyclists here. Pedestrian right of way is pedestrian right of way… end of story.

          • qst

            Sounds like a case where nobody was at their best. Pedestrian should not have tried to walk in front of the cyclist, the cyclist should have been stopping anyway, the pedestrian didn’t need to get angry, the cyclist did not need to post a passive aggressive comment to a neighborhood blog. Tomorrow is a new day, maybe if this happens tomorrow everyone can do a little bit better.

        • pedestrian

          Try to see it from the other side. I’ve almost been mowed down by cyclists in while traversing the crosswalk. It’s as though the rules do not apply to them at all. In fact, I have never seen a cyclist stop for pedestrians in the crosswalk. It’s time to play urban chicken and see who flinches first! No, sorry, it’s on you to obey the rules of the road, too. Not anti-cyclist, just stunned by the presumption.

    • Anonymous

      You sound totally in the wrong here. Those stop signs and lights are there for you too and if you think pedestrians should give you the right of way you’re out of your damn mind. Pedestrians have enough to watch out for without bikers feeling entitled to run them over.

      • Anonymous

        How do you know this intersection had a stop sign or light? I always stop at lights and slow down at signs, but in the absence of any I would have continued biking through the intersection too. It sounds like the pedestrian deliberately charged into the path of the bicyclist just to start a confrontation.

        • Anonymous

          It doesn’t matter if the intersection had a light or stop sign. Vehicles yield to peds in crosswalks. And if you have time to make eye contact you should stop, whether you’re driving a car or a bicycle.

          • Anonymous

            But the guy wasn’t even in the crosswalk when the biker approached. Or am I reading the story incorrectly?

        • Anonymous

          It doesn’t matter if there was a stop light/sign there or not. If there was a crosswalk the pedesatrian always has the right-of-way. PERIOD!!!

          • anon

            Unless there was a light and the pedestrian was walking against it.

          • Anonymous

            Original poster here- Imagine you’re driving on a highway and intend to make a lane change. There is enough room to make the lane change, so you put your blinker on.

            Car in the lane behind you speeds up because he is a d-ck, and thinks that if he lets you go, you’ll be getting one over on him, so he speeds up.

            All the car has to do is not accelerate, and you’re in the lane (because there was enough room) and he can continue driving like he was going to drive.

            When I’m biking, I usually give a wave saying “thanks in advance because I intend to speed by you,” but it was so obvious in this situation, I didn’t.

            There were other factors at play. He just didn’t like the look of me approaching, and needed a reason.

    • Identified

      Dear Cyclist:

      I believe this is the situation you are describing:
      1. pedestrian is crossing the street in a crosswalk
      2. cyclist is coming up to that crosswalk at an intersection
      3. cyclist continues through the intersection failing to give right of way to the pedestrian

      If so, please take your own adbvice: “All you had to do was pause for a second”

      a pedestrian

      • Anonymous

        Dear Identified:

        I believe this is the situation the cyclist was describing:
        1. pedestrian was approaching the crosswalk
        2. cyclist was coming up to that crosswalk at an intersection
        3. cyclist continues through the intersection because the pedestrian would have just reached it by the time they passed through
        4. pedestrian gets irate because how dare someone be in his precious crosswalk

        OP, please correct me if I’m interpreting that incorrectly!

        • Identifed

          Anonymous 3:01.

          That could be a scenario.

          But I looked at this line from the OP: “This was a full 4 seconds before you decided to walk fast across the street “.

          This means that the pedstrian was in the crosswalk, crossing the street, as the OP approached the intersection. This sentence would negate the pedestrian being on a sidewalk and entering the crosswalk as the OP approached/passed though the intersection.

          Clarity would be nice… but I doubt it will be forthcoming.

          • Anonymous

            How does that mean the pedestrian was crossing the street already? I can’t see how one would interpret that to mean anything other than the pedestrian was nowhere near the point where he was in the crosswalk crossing the street. It says so right there.

          • Anonymous

            “before you decided to walk fast across the street so that I’d have to brake” makes me think the ped was in the crosswalk already but not yet to the side of the street with the bikelane, not that the ped was approaching the bikelane from the sidewalk.

          • Identified

            It can easily be interpreted the way I wrote, based on simple english understanding (as others up thread have interpreted it the same damn way).

            It could also be interpreted the way you are surmising.

            It of course would be helpful to receive clarity. Was the pedestrian approaching the intersection or was the pedestrian in the crosswalk? Because the answer to that question determines the action appropriate to the interaction.

          • Anonymous

            So we agree. no need to be hostile then.

          • Anonymous

            Get rid of the word “fast” and it reads like this:

            “before you decided to walk across the street so that I’d have to brake”

            I think the dude decided to dart across and nearly put himself in the path of the bike just to make his point that HE had the right of way no matter what.

          • Identified

            We agree taht clarity is needed, yes.

            I am not hostile, but when you say somethign like “It says so right there.” You might want to be as kind as you request others to be.

          • Anonymous

            But it does say so right there. I’m sorry if you mistook it to be a nasty tone but I was just stating what I saw.

          • Identified

            It does not say so right there… else we would not be interpreting anything.

            There are 2 scenarios:
            Ped is in the crosswalk prior to the cyclist entering the intersection
            Ped is not in the crosswalk prior to the cyclist entering the intersection

            It is not clear which is the case. We are both theorizing based on an incomplete description.

            And yea, I did take that as total snark. Apologies for my reaction to it.

        • Anonymous

          I’m glad to see that everyone is so loving and caring for each other here at Thanksgiving. You DC people need to get a friggin life!! There are people in the mid-east in a war and you people choose to nag each other about a bike and pedestrian. Get over yourself!!!!!!!

          • Anonymous

            It’s like a metaphor for what’s going on in the world. The cylist is the IDF and the pedestrian is Hamas!

          • Identified

            There has been a war going on for over a decade now, that this country is involved in. So what’s your point?

            If the rest of the world stopped bitching everytime Palestine and Israel traded blows…. hell, there would barely be any bitching in the world. OK, that is an interesting point.

          • Anonymous

            Actually, I was referring to the war in Afghanistan that OUR troops are fighting in and can not be home for Thanksgiving. Some of us have family members there. THAT is my point!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

        • Anonymous

          OP here- Anonymous at 3:01PM has it mostly right. The four seconds was while he was walking toward the crosswalk. before he started to cross.

          Enough time for me to think… “is this guy really going to do this?” And then, “i still have enough room” and then, “he’s speeding up! I gotta move!” and then, “did everbody just see that?” and then, “should I turn around and explain life to him?”

          I ended up waving.

          • Identified

            Simple question:

            Which answer is correct:
            1. Ped is in the crosswalk prior to the cyclist entering the intersection
            2. Ped is not in the crosswalk prior to the cyclist entering the intersection

            No other details are needed, just the above question answered.

  • SmittenAnon

    Rave: Seeing the guy after a 2 week hiatus.
    Rant: Really tired because had to get up super early to take the train from 2 and half hours out of town to get back to DC and work this morning.
    Rave: Totally worth the tiredness just to wake up and smile at said guy.

    • Anonymous

      Believe me, totally worth it!

  • Rave: Studying for finals at home this whole week on Thanksgiving break. Doesn’t sound like a rave, but I appreciate the time to stay in the house, light candles, and suck down 10 cups of tea a day while working in my PJs, with frequent PoP breaks, of course.

    Rant: People who force me to listen to their bad music on the metro because their headphones are crappy and loud. Worse is when I’m surrounded by ten different people all of whose music I have to listen to all clashing and mixed up at once because I’m within their “blast radius.” It’s not just young people either, it’s most iPod people. >:( Grrr oblivious iPod people. Glad I don’t have to listen to them this week.

  • anon

    Rant: Was approached Friday night by the female scammer discussed on PoP the other week.

    Rave: Thanks to PoP, I knew it was definitely a scam. (Although I think I might’ve suspected it as such anyway, thanks to her conversational meandering.)

    This time she was on C Street SW, claiming to be an employee of the Department of Education. She’s about 35-45, quite tall (maybe 5’10” or 5’11”), big/plus-sized, and African-American (light/medium-skinned). She had somewhat “artistically” done eyeliner, extending horizontally beyond each eye. Her hair was mostly gold-colored — maybe gold and auburn/reddish.

    • anon

      Her initial overture was something like “Excuse me, do you know your way around here?” I thought maybe she was lost and needed directions.

      Then she veered into this story about being an employee at the Department of Education, having had an accident in a parking garage, and needing to get to Stafford. She wiped away some imaginary tears.

      When I said, “Sorry, I can’t help you” and walked away, she said — not really under her breath — “Arrogant!”

      I then called after her, in a loud voice, “I’ve heard about you and your scam!” She responded with something like, “I’m not even from here!” A moment or two later, she said: “I have an ID I can show you!” I called back, “I’ve heard about that part, too!”

      • Florista

        We were approached by a guy at a gas station Saturday night (we were in the car at the convenience store part) – knocked on the window, we thought he wanted directions when he told us he needed gas. Husband just said no while closing the window – I was much more vocal hollering unprintables to that sack o s**t on the scam. Last time I was approached at a gas station, I was at the pump, door open with keys in ignition and spouse on crutches in the passenger seat. He pulled me into the conversation, and I was afraid what he might do if I jumped in the car and drove off. As it was, I was fairly sure he followed our car for several blocks before I lost track of him. That was the learning episode, although there have been many more attempts at this scam while I was on foot.


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