Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • Mootje1

    Rave: After 5 years, my fiance is moving back to DC today!!!
    Rant: NONE!

  • Rant: She is not on meds and not in therapy and yet she’s been out of the hospital for four days and her attempt was only a week ago. How is this possible? And why wasn’t she admitted?! Supposedly her treatment won’t start until she gets to the east coast…
    Rave: My mom. She flew out there yesterday to support my friend and her mom (my mom’s close friend too). My mom and I have been through this with my brother and hopefully my mom can support her and get her into treatment.
    Rant: I wish I had a puppy to hug and love on…
    Rave: Heading to the barn tonight for some pony therapy.

    • Hopefully your Mom will be able to figure the “how is this possible” question, because I wonder the same thing. Good luck.

    • UDPie, I am so so sorry your friend is going through this. Please take good care of yourself — lots of pony therapy. Your mom sounds like a mensch.

    • Emmaleigh504

      Your friend is very lucky to have you and your mom in her life. And I’m glad even though you are very worried, you are still looking after yourse and having some pony therapy.

    • I’m glad to hear that your mom is stepping in. I also can’t fathom how her caregivers and parents aren’t doing a better job of addressing the problem. Hopefully the new program will help.

    • Whoa. Just Whoa. But so glad that your mom is close with them as well and also has experience to draw on. Your friend’s mom might (hopefully!) treat your mom’s thoughts and experience with a little more weight since she might seem like more of a peer. So glad to hear your mom is able to go help out.

    • Thank you all. I can’t share this with any friends because I don’t want to broadcast the issue so it is so helpful to have your support remotely/anonymously!

      I hope having my mom there will help – many years ago my brother was in the same situation and as a family we worked through it and supported him, and while he still struggles, he is consistent with meds, therapy, etc. and doing well.

      A few years before my brother, when I was in middle school, this friend and I walked in on her brother after he attempted to OD. We called 911, got him to the hospital, etc. And even then, in face of this, my friend’s mom refused treatment for him. I don’t know what to do with this and thought nearly losing one child would be enough for her to recognize the importance of help, meds, therapy, etc, let alone, now a SECOND child. But I guess not. I do not know what to do in the face of that.

      • That is some powerful denial on the parent’s part. πŸ™

      • I’m reading between the lines a bit, but I believe that your friends parents are standing between her and treatment, right? But since it’s your friend who technically should make her treatment decisions, is it possible to extricate her parents from the medical decision-making? If the docs are meeting with your friend only with her parents present, can they ask the parents to leave the room (maybe under the guise of doctor/patient confidentiality)? I don’t know if you or your mom would have access to the doctors, but you could call the doctors and tell them that you think your friends parents are sabotaging her mental healthcare. Maybe that would give your friend the opening she needs to agree to the treatment?

  • I Dont Get It

    Rant: Lucy scared the crap out of me the other morning. I heard her barking during the night but couldn’t find her when I woke up. I assumed she had crawled under something and died but I later found her asleep in the basement, a place she and her sister had never entered before. I guess she got confused over the steps and went down. She’s eating and drinking fine just a little out of it still. The house is one gigantic wee pad though. Yuck!
    Rave: This weather. Heaven!
    Rant: Trying to get stuff done at work when everyone is on PTO.
    Rave: Week Two of squatting in our old cubicles in the fishbowl and still no one has showed up to move in.

    • Emmaleigh504

      Poor Lucy. Poor you! My family had an elderly dog who was blind and deaf. And my parents were remodeling, so there was furniture and crap everywhere. The only way Dobsy could get outside was to follow the vibrations of our other dog’s walk. Otherwise he would get trapped by a table leg or one of my dad’s giant shoes. Yet somehow Dobsy got out of the back yard, walked all the way down the house (shotgun, so long), walked out of the yard and into the street. My mom found him when she got home. The curb had trapped him and he couldn’t get back in the yard. Elderly pets are heartbreak and hilarious at the same time.

    • Awwww, lucy! Reminds me of my former senile dog who would get stuck in corners. Sad, but also amusing.

  • Rant: today is my last real day of summer vacation
    Revel: treated myself to a yummy ricotta muffin and I’m going to just hang out in the park for a bit
    Rant: the DC water saga is still ongoing. I just got a letter telling me my administrative hearing is scheduled for September 15. Does anybody have experience going through a hearing?
    Revel? Just saw they replaced our water meter in late July. I’m hoping this will help my case.

  • Quotia Zelda

    Rant: The book I’m reading is kind of crappy. It would be pretty good if the main character weren’t such a thoroughly unlikable person.
    Rave: When I make it through this book, the latest Tana French is waiting for me!

    • Emmaleigh504

      Did I ever give you the one I found? It’s called Faithful Place. You may have 2 Tana Awesome French books to read!

    • Why not abandon said book? Normally I advocate for sticking it out, but sometimes when you’ve got something better waiting…

      • Emmaleigh504

        She really should. She’s probably already looked up the ending, so there’s no surprises.

      • Quotia Zelda

        It’s a quick read, plus I have problems abandoning books (seriously, I can only think of 3 books I haven’t finished in my adult life). The plot is reasonably interesting, I just want to smack the main character the whole time.

        • I abandoned a book last week and it felt freeing. Of course, I had to ask my husband what happened so at least I could KNOW. I have a LOT waiting for me on the Kindle, so I needed to get moving.

        • emvee

          #teamdumpthebook If it isn’t holding your attention, let it go.

          • I once threw a book across the room because it was making me so angry. I did not finish it.

          • Emmaleigh504

            I had to read The Cain Mutiny in highschool. I threw that book across the room many times. But had to keep reading it anyway πŸ™

    • I am looking for good book recommendations….so I am guessing not this current book of yours :p

      • Quotia Zelda

        Like I said, the plot isn’t bad, so if you can tolerate a crusading nurse who neglects her family to save the word by making some really bad decisions and then is bewildered when her daughter calls her a shitty mother (Hint: It’s because you’re a shitty mother!), then go for it.

        These are the Nina Borg novels by Lene Kaaberbol and Agnete Friis. I normally love the flawed protagonists of Scandi crime novels, but Nina Borg is a bridge too far.

      • I read a lot, though…what type of genre are you looking for?

        • I like murder mysteries, some science fiction, fantasy (such as lord of the rings or harry potter). I read most anything…if it doesn’t catch me in the first few pages I wont read it. I couldn’t get on board with hunger games…

  • Rant: my BIL hates animals and swears he and his children will never have a pet. So, I guess I shouldn’t be surprised that he told my sister the dog I’m thinking about getting is dangerous and deadly. Apparently he chose to overlook the part where they’re considered calm, loyal, placid, and often goofy. I’m not an idiot, I know I need to socialize the dog, make sure he’s well trained, which he already is, but ensure that I maintain that, and that we need to introduce my nieces to him slowly, after he’s settled in and they know their dog manners. Also, he’s a senior dog, which isn’t a silver bullet, but it’s doubtful he’s going to suddenly turn aggressive.
    Rave: Looking forward to dog cuddles and support from my dog friendly friends.
    Rave: I’m planning my pumpkin (really butternut squash and pumpkin pie spice) beer. Supplies have been ordered, my family’s maple syrup has been procured, now I just need to find a time to make it.

    • Boo on your BIL! What a tool! I can’t for the life of me understand people who hate animals. I can understand folks who don’t really actively care for having one in their life to take care of, but I would never be able to trust or enjoy someone who actually hated animals and wanted to prevent other people having them. Ignore that prick and do your thing! Also, I want in on this pumpkin beer! Sounds amazing!

    • That One Guy

      What kind of dog are you looking to adopt?

    • Ugh. Boo on your BIL. Is it a pitt mix? There is LOTS of info out there to debunk the stereotypes. Let me know if you need help on that front. If nothing else, my sister is a font of information on that subject πŸ™‚

      • It’s a rottweiler, one who is at WHS because his owner died, not for behavioral reasons.
        I totally forgot about your sister’s particular knowledge in this situation. Hopefully information and reason will get us most of the way there and then them seeing him and knowing him better will get us the rest of the way there. My sister is definitely a reasonable, rational person, and I don’t want to discount her valid urge to make sure her kids are protected, but I’m just frustrated and a little disappointed.
        *This all hinges on me adopting him, who knows if someone else will adopt him first, or whatever else.

        • For whatever it’s worth, my parent’s were completely opposed to me getting a dog – any dog -for similar reasons to your BIL’s. But when they “met” Gary on Facetime a few times and saw that he’s a floppy little lovebug, they totally changed their mind. I would say, do what you want and give your BIL some time to warm up to the idea.

        • My in-laws had a rottie, and he was the sweetest, most well-tempered, loving, patient dog I have ever met. I hope you get to adopt him!

        • That One Guy

          Are your BIL’s biases based on personal experience or more perception/hearsay?

          • I don’t think he has any breed specific experiences here. He just doesn’t like pets and sees them as frivolous and/or unnecessary.
            I can see how someone who puts no thought into animals would also not know a lot about them, so I think there’s some lack of education and experience here.

          • Yeah — I can see how someone who doesn’t know much about animals/dogs might be wary on his children’s behalf about of a breed that has a reputation as a guard dog.
            On the bright side, maybe assuaging his fears will be easier than if the dog were a pit mix?
            FWIW, the only Rottweiler I’ve ever known was a big sweetheart.

          • saf

            Send him a copy of “Good Dog Carl.”

        • Ah, gotcha. I know far less about rottweilers, but my sister would likely have lots of useful info. I’m sure she’d be glad to help out. Are you FB friends with her? If not, I can reach out.

        • One of my friends from home has a rotty mix that is just wonderful – such a sweet dog. Fingers crossed for you that it works out, and that your BIL comes around!

        • I have friends who have adopted several rottweilers over the years (only in pairs, max) – they are the sweetest, most loving animals ever. You might not win over your BIL, but you’ll make many friends with your new-older rottie. Congratulations!

        • anonymouse_dianne

          check out a rotta love plus

          It’s an advocacy support and education group – I met some of the ladies at the Bad Rap rescue jam in 2013. A super bunch.

        • My parents adopted a Rottweiler before they had me and they actually had to re-home the dog to a family with children because she was so depressed to not be around kids anymore (the previous owner had three). My mom had a petsitting business when I was growing up and I would always go with her to walk Rotties because they were so sweet and all seemed to just adore kids. I’ve had the total opposite experiece that your BIL anticipates with these dogs.

        • Wonder if it makes a difference that the dog was put in shelter because his owner died? And that he’s been with a foster that gives additional insight into his personality?
          Hope it works out for you to get this dog!

          • Good points!

          • It might make him feel like that’s a “more legitimate” reason for the dog to be there. I haven’t talked to him in person about this and only with my sister a little so far. It helps that we’re all quite close and my BIL is a pretty big fan of mine, so as long as I can assuage his fears I think it’ll work out.
            I see my nieces a good amount, but they only come to my house every so often. I do at some point want to do girls sleep overs and I plan to take the dog to my parents’ house over holidays when we’ll all be there. Hopefully by Christmas we’ll have it figured out.
            Oh yeah, and I haven’t told my mom yet. She’s the kind of person you tell when it’s a done deal. She might be more fun to deal with than my BIL.

          • Emmaleigh504

            You take a page out of my mom’s pet playbook. get the pet, then tell everyone. That way they can’t try to talk you out of it.

        • Give him a copy of the kid’s book “Good Dog Carl.”

        • My future in-laws firmly believed that dogs are animals and not pets and should live outside. Until they met my dog and fell in love with her and offered to dog sit her any time. Rotties are so sweet and loving. Good luck with adoption, I hope it works out for you!

        • How frustrating! I bet once they meet the big sweetheart they’ll come around (I had a similar experience with some of my in-laws). Good luck with the adoption, and kudos for getting a shelter pet!

          • Thanks for the anecdotes and support everyone!
            I’m sure it’ll all work out, but it’ll involve a bit more effort than I was anticipating.

    • Fingers crossed that you get to adopt him! I took a quick look on their website and he’s such a cutie. πŸ™‚
      I’ve mostly gotten used to the strangers who cross the street when they see my Rottie/Pit/something mix but it’s always disappointing when someone you know/are close to has that reaction. FWIW, I had several close friends who refused to come over because of my dog but after bumping into them on the street or slowly convincing them to meet my pup, they’ve all come around and love on her now. Hopefully your BIL does the same!

    • Ok, but pet lovers are notoriously blind to their pets’ faults. “She’s just really friendly!” and “Well, he did hiss at you first; you should have stopped petting him then.” (I am a pet lover, and I also hear myself making excuses for bad animal behavior.)
      But why should your BIL’s views matter? Are there kids in the picture? And what “support” do you need from dog friendly friends?

      • They live nearby and I would be disappointed if he wouldn’t let my two nieces come over because of the dog.
        I mean reassurance, or maybe commiseration, from friends who have dogs that some people are afraid of, like SKTs, above. It’s sad that some of her friends won’t come to her house, though obviously if they’re scared of dogs, that’s understandable. But it’s nice to hear that some of them are meeting the dog and getting to know him.
        I may not agree with all of the breed specific hate, but I recognize there are people who are scared of dogs or don’t like dogs and I respect that. I wouldn’t try to force anyone to like dogs or meet a dog they don’t want to.

        • I only jumped in because my brother is in a situation similar to your BIL’s. (similar, not the same.) His wife’s mother has a dog that is not child-friendly, and then moved to be closer to her grandkids (my brother’s kids.) The dog has snapped and growled at the kids, though never injured them. It’s a big strong dog. The grandmother says “You startled her,” and “Well, just stay out of her way,” and “She didn’t hurt him, what are you upset about??”
          The thing is, this isn’t a dog she had for years before she had grandkids. She’s had it maybe 2-3 years. And yet she seems to prioritize it over her grandkids’ safety. My brother is helplessly furious. He can’t have his kids go over to their grandma’s house because she insists on keeping a dog that has threatened (“but never injured!”) his kids. So I can see how your BIL might think “Why is jeslett insisting on THIS dog? Why not a dog that is more obviously suitable for children?” (I agree that a rottweiler in the family is almost always safe. But these kids don’t live with you. The dog’s protective instinct might not apply to them.)

  • Rave: I might be pregnant.
    Rant: I have a pregnancy test which would settle the issue, but I don’t want to take it at work.
    Rave: I have delicious coffee in front of me.
    Rant: Don’t want to drink it in case I am pregnant.

    • One cup of coffee is fine (as long as it isn’t the size of your head). πŸ˜‰ Fingers crossed for you.

      • PDleftMtP

        This. Things like a cup of coffee in the morning or a half-glass of wine with dinner (we did nothing the first trimester just to be safe) were absolutely fine with Mrs MtP’s very good OB/GYN (and everything we read on our own), and the spawn popped out fully baked and healthy. Just keep everything moderate, and don’t get too wrapped up in “oh my god, I think that chocolate had alcohol in it!” We’re hardly careless parents, but accepting that it’s pretty hard to break a baby without doing something obviously irresponsible really helped with the stress.

      • Yup this many times over. Enjoy your cup of coffee–and if it’s early enough, you’re not even sharing a bloodstream with the baby yet anyhow so it really doesn’t matter.

        On the HPT–if it makes you feel any better, I’ve taken MANY OPKs at work (same idea, different hormone). So if it’s just the weirdness of peeing on a stick at work, don’t worry about it. If you’re concerned about the emotional response and that’s your reason to delay, I totally get it & hope the day passes quickly for you. (Btw–if you’re super early on, you may want to wait until the morning. But if it’s several days or more since your missed period, it shouldn’t matter when you test) Good luck!

    • Drink your coffee. Not gonna hurt anything either way.

    • You have a lot more self control that I would. I’d be peeing on that stick immediately. Drink the coffee!!

    • RAVE: I peed on the stick. I got a plus sign!!
      RANT: I am freaking out now.

  • Rave: taking a few hours off today to get my hair cut. So hyped and ready with a picture of doona bae. Going to a new salon too so always a little nervewracking
    rave: this weather we’re having

    • Which salon are you going to? I’m still in search of a good salon that can deal with my hair — next on my list is Kamiya-A, recommended by the Japanese women who work at Hana Market.

      • I’m going to Kamiya-A! I’ve been to Ozuki (once) and the Kim Sung Young salon in Annandale (like at least 4 times so far) I’ll report back how it goes tomorrow πŸ™‚

        • Ooo, please do!!

        • Just looked up Kamiya-A on Yelp and I think I need to go there! Is Akiko the sole stylist and owner? I didn’t see a website so I’m curious about how to schedule an appointment and cost.

          • I haven’t been yet so I’m looking forward to updates from yoyotan tomorrow, but the woman who recommended the place to me said a haircut was around $75.

  • Anyone know of yoga classes that are a little less well, spiritual? I like the physical part, but the whole inner journey/practice/philosophical part makes me a little uncomfortable. Obviously, focusing and being quiet is part of it, but I’m looking for place that’s more physical. Thanks.

    • Yoga District’s Yoga for Misfits class is pretty great.

      • Question about this – I tried this class twice a couple years ago at the 14th street location. The guy who taught it didn’t really help with any of the poses and went from pose to pose without any instruction on how to do anything properly or how to modify for misfits. After the second class, I asked him about it and he said mostly experienced students showed up, so he taught to the students who showed up (ignoring that I had also attended expecting it to be a misfits class) and didn’t have time to help newer students because the other students were experienced. Has it gotten better? Is it worth trying again?

    • I’d recommend any class with Mimi Rieger or Down Dog Yoga.

    • emvee

      I try to tune out things that just get to be too much for me. I love Buddha B, but found that I cannot handle their jivamukti classes since they’re just too spiritual for me. Personal preference, but I can’t get behind the chanting.

    • Yoga classes at a gym are (in my experience) generally non-spiritual/philosophical, especially if you go for power yoga or something similar. Probably stay away from restorative or gentle classes, though.

    • SouthwestDC

      I’ve been to yoga classes all over the city and have never been to one that had an element of spirituality. There’s the occasional instructor who has the class chant an “om” or two at the end, but ommming is fun and you don’t have to take it seriously if you don’t want to.
      My Indian girlfriend hates yoga here because they sanitize it of spirituality (and mispronounce everything) so I’m curious to know where you’ve been going for it.

  • Rant: The training I signed up for is three days, not one. I had to call the company for a confirmation email, and in none of the paltry info I received or that is on the website mentioned that it’s a three-day course. So now I’m stuck in a windowless, freezing office suite for the next three days. I’d rather be at work. Grr.

  • Rant: Your resume was received for the listed position; however there were a large number of Best Qualified candidates with adjudicated (verified) veterans’ preference. By law, applicants with veterans’ preference are entitled to initial selection consideration.
    Rant: There has to be a better way to reward veterans than by screwing over people who are more qualified to do very important high level work.

    • Accountering

      A few easy ways, but all involve somehow going back in time and not electing Bush, and avoiding the choice wars in Iraq and Afghanistan.

      • justinbc

        Well we would certainly have had a lot fewer veterans in the potential pool without Bush…

        • Accountering

          That’s what I am getting at. Bush created a war that took a lot of young men to fight. Our country has decided that veterans should be able to find a job when they get home, and one easy way to do that is to give them preference with the largest employer in the entire country, and by convincing other large employers (Walmart, USPS etc) to do the same. As a result, veteran unemployment is down a ton.
          I agree, and have personal experience that the top candidates are often not chosen as a result, but if you are a republican warmonger, you already think the government is a make-work program in many cases anyways (see, drown it in a bathtup) so may as well hire a veteran.
          I would argue that veteran status should only give you an advantage to some level (perhaps GS-7 or something.) Veteran unemployment among professionals and older veterans is essentially equal to the general population. We do not have a veteran unemployment problem, we have a 18-25 years old veteran problem.

    • How do you know you are more qualified?

      • Anonymous’s speculation that he/she was more qualified is probably accurate. Last time my office tried to hire someone, I was one of the people reviewing the applicants who’d made the “cert”… and there were some pretty questionable ones.

    • justinbc

      It’s certainly not the “best” way, but given how much they get screwed over after coming back from ridiculous wars I’m happy to give up my spots to them even if I am more qualified (and I can confidently say that, since I’ve received quite a few of these emails myself). Regarding more qualified or not, I never like to assume anything about the person who got the job instead of me. Unless you’re on the hiring panel you really just don’t know.

  • Rant: The woman beating her dog in CH last night. I saw the dog before it began looked happy although very skinny. I kept walking and then heard something, turned around to the woman repeatedly hitting her dog (in front of what I would assume were her four kids). When someone told her to stop, she let go of a long line of expletives and how it was her dog and could do what she wanted. Made me sad. For that dog and many in the same situation.
    Rave: good pet owners
    Rave: the weather

    • I Dont Get It

      Imagine what she does to those kids. Sad.

      • justinbc

        A lot of people view pets and children very differently. Some see their children as sacred, but pets as merely a breathing toy for their amusement. The disconnect is pretty saddening if you’re an animal lover.

    • Ugh. People that abuse animals- especially ones that are helpless and small. We’d be a lot better off if those people dropped dead.

    • If you see a situation like this again, the 24-hour number for D.C. Animal Care and Control is 202-576-6664.

  • skj84

    Rave: fantastic fancy pool time last night. Night swimming is glorious.

    Rant: hungover. I’ve been going hard the past three days. Pool party yesterday, Women and Beer event on Monday and Wonderland Ballroom Sunday. Today I’m resting up. I need to recharge.

    • What is the name of the beer group again – if I think this is the one that has been mentioned here before?

      • One of the speakers was from Homebrew Outreach & Participation Sisterhood (HOPS), which is part of the DC Homebrewers group. You can find them on twitter as @DCHBHOPS and there’s a link to their FB group there.

  • Rave: By some miracle, there was a full row available when Alaska Airlines finally released more seats for reservation yesterday evening–AND we were able to change our seats to occupy that row. Phew. After all the travel-related drama of the past few days, it was about time something went smoothly! Fingers crossed it’s not an exit row that we can’t occupy….
    Rave: I think today is actually going better than yesterday. Hope that’s the case for everyone else who had Monday-like Tuesdays. Though wow, each day this week has felt like a week all on its own.

    • If it’s an exit row and you have the whole row, just ask the whole row of people behind you to switch. They get more room and closer to the exit, so I have a hard time believing they would say no. Glad you had something go smoothly!

  • Emmaleigh504

    ACHTUNG: Unofficial PopvilleACHTUNG: Unofficial Popville happy hour at Southern Hospitality on Wed, August 19. Theme: red. happy hour at Southern Hospitality on Wed, August 19. Theme: red.

    • That One Guy

      I have to be honest, I saw “news reports” about Southern Comfort in NYC having mice and wondered if the HH was somehow affiliated to that restaurant because the names sounded similar.

    • Thanks for the reminder – the timing is good as this falls just before the 12 days of MPinDC πŸ™‚

      • Emmaleigh504

        The 12 days of Me start aroud that time. I also like to drag it out into Sept b/c August gets pretty crowded. We have the 12 Days of QZ, Middle Zelda, and Me. I like sharing part of my 12 days with middle zelda b/c we are both Emilie Melancon.

  • Rant: Boss doesn’t understand my job function and does not have my back.

  • Rave: Very random but delicious breakfast this morning: leftover sliced pork loin and the most delicious peach. I discovered the peaches really do work well with pork by accident.
    Rave: I didn’t feel like puking after eating breakfast. Perhaps protein plus fruit is the magic breakfast combo for the next couple of months?
    Rant: Dad is just so very wiped out from chemo. I am really hoping that this round of treatment just gives him some time (and quality time at that).
    Rave: All the sleep last night.

    • “Perhaps protein plus fruit is the magic breakfast combo for the next couple of months.” This works pretty well for me! Protein seems to help with all of my morning sickness-related ailments and eggs seem to be the best source, for some reason.

    • That One Guy

      This sounds cooky but seaweed (salad and/or soup) may help him feel better. Seaweed is supposedly iron rich.

  • Rant: Be aware that American Airlines does not refund using the 24-hour rule as most carriers do. They have an option to “Hold” the flight for 24 hours but I didn’t even see the Hold option until I pulled it up on the phone with Customer Relations.
    Rave: Still pumped for Honeymoon in Costa Rica.

    • Pretty sure that is illegal…the 24-hour refund is a DoT LAW, they have to give you a refund.

    • I learned this the hard way too, and was lucky enough to throw myself on the mercy of the CSR. It’s not illegal – DOT clarified that airlines have to give option of 24-hour refund or ability to hold 24-hours without penalty (which AA does, with little fanfare).

  • Rave: Two unexpected opportunities dropped into my lap
    Rave: Looking out my dining room window and seeing two hummingbirds enjoying the flowers and the feeder. For years, my mother would announce the return of the hummingbirds and the barn swallows to the farm. Also, when the tree frogs started peeping. Seeing the hummingbirds here makes me happy!
    No rants, it’s a beautiful day in the neighborhood πŸ™‚

    • So I have a hummingbird problem. An alphabet is chasing all the others away from the feeder – including the mothers. I have another in the front yard and I think the same birds use both, but it is really irritating. Any advice?

      • That would be an alpha male, not a letter. Sorry!

      • Only thing that comes to mind is that the male is getting ready to migrate and needs to fatten himself up to make the long journey. I have a lady hummingbird and one (or two) juveniles these past few days – may have seen a male the first day but not since.

        • Hm. Thanks. He’s definitely bigger than any of the others. I guess this too shall pass. I’m happy to have them here, for sure.

      • (Males migrate before the females)

  • Rant: Had a phone interview last Monday that I thought went really well but I haven’t been contacted. I wanted it to work out, and maybe it still will, but the more days that go by the more I assume I didn’t move forward.
    Rave: I have a current, pretty good job. There’s just no room for advancement and I don’t have any control over my own department.
    Rave: Getting out of town this weekend for my birthday. Can it be Friday now?

    • I am conducting interviews this week for a position and we wont let those folks know if they have a second round until “higher up folks” get back from vacation the last week in August. Summer is a tricky time to hire. Hang in there!

  • Rave: Glorious weather!
    Rave: Yoga last night really helped pull me – mostly – out of my funk.
    Rant: Still tired. I need to go to sleep earlier but I can’t seem to pull it off. I’m a night owl by nature so it’s always been a struggle to have my lights out before midnight. Grrr.
    Rant: my nephew is growing up too fast and I don’t get to see him nearly enough! Already crawling and starting to say some words, and I have no idea when I’ll get to see him next. Video messages and FaceTime helps, but I feel like I’m missing out on so much!

  • emvee

    Weird Rave/Semi Rant?: Headed to England (other than some way-too-long layovers in Heathrow) for the first time this fall. My SO’s grandfather passed away, and he has to do all the funeral arrangements and is surprisingly zen about all of it. He wants to tack in a visit to see family in the Isle of Man, and we’re debating a few days in Scotland vs. Ireland. Talk to me, Popville. Which is better, particularly after a somber trip to London? SO really wants to make it a happy, celebrate-life kind of trip, FWIW.

    • I’ve never actually been to Ireland, but for what it’s worth, I found the Scots much friendlier than the English.

      • emvee

        Well, as a Latina with an English SO, I hope I’ve finally become accustomed to the Brits not being super friendly off the bat. πŸ™‚

    • Both are excellent choices – if I had to choose one, I’d vote for Ireland. Or split the difference and go to Wales instead?

    • I haven’t been to Scotland but I went to Ireland when I was younger and despite traveling many other places it remains high on my list. Friendly people, just sitting in a pub with a beer allows you to talk to the most amazing people (ok true lots of places), lots to do. But I’m sure either will be perfect!

    • Scotland! I’m biased because I haven’t been to Ireland, but can definitely say that Scotland is amazing, including really friendly people.

    • emvee

      Thanks everyone for your suggestions! I’m sure I’ll be back for more input once we’ve decided on a location. Ever since Popville folks pretty much planning Kauai for me, I’m hooked on Popville Travel Suggestions.

    • Edinburgh has so much cool stuff happening. I would like to go back and just spend a solid week there. I thought before I went that I really wanted to see the Highlands. Turns out, the Highlands are kind of meh. Lovely landscapes, charming villages, whiskey whiskey whiskey, but just really sleepy and low key. I felt like my Americanness (go-do-see) was at odds with the place. It’s more of a place to be, less of a place to do, if that makes sense.
      The northeast coast of Ireland is SO pretty. Driving up the coast from Dublin to Belfast and beyond was the prettiest road I’ve ever traveled, I think. Giant’s Causeway is breathtaking. I’ve heard good things about the Titanic Museum in Belfast, if that’s your thing.
      And just to complicate things further, how about Cornwall? I’ve never been, but it’s next on my list!

    • saf

      I loved the Isle of Man, and Ireland, and Scotland.

      England was fine, but the other places were better.

  • Mtpresident: I saw a job opening (at a pretty senior level) in your field/position. No idea if you’re even looking to switch jobs, but if so, check USAJOBS.

  • To anybody looking to buy the $1 mini white boards with lines at Target, sorry not sorry, I bought them all. I still need to find 4 or 5 more though

    • Silly question but did you try scanning the bar code at a price checker? I think it tells you if there are more in stock in the store. You can also call customer service at different locations and give them the item number to check stock.

      Rant: This just reminded me of the time I returned a shirt to Target and the employee basically accused me of trying to return a shirt using tags from another item because they weren’t attached in the usual spot.

      • I did not…I just assumed I’d have to go back another day or check out the PG Plaza location tomorrow. Also, sorry about the jerky employee.

  • I’m from Scotland but have spent a lot of time in Ireland. You’ll have a great time in either Scotland or Ireland, but I would pick one and not try to do both (unless you have loads of time on your hands). If you are going to be on Mann, I would recommend Ireland since you can get a direct ferry to Dublin or regular cheap flights.
    Bear in mind that the Edinburgh festival is going on at the moment and while it’s a fantastic time to be in Edinburgh, it may be tricky (and expensive) to find hotels. That said, if you are pushed for time there’s a lot to see in a relatively small area in Scotland. You could, for example, spend a day in Edinburgh, head up to St Andrews and the gorgeous fishing villages in the East Neuk of Fife, then on for a day in Glasgow and further west to Loch Lomond and the Isle of Arran. Or just head north to the Highlands, Inverness and Speyside.
    If you chose Ireland, Dublin is an amazing city – so much to do. Although it is quite expensive. Then head out west to Galway (beautiful town) and then to the badlands of Connemara, the Burren and the Aran Islands (no relation to the Isle in Scotland).
    Or (my personal preference) head down to the wild, wild west of Co. Kerry. Drive the ring of Kerry for some stunning scenery. Visit Killarney and then out to the Dingle Peninsula and the stunning Slea Head Drive.
    Dress warm! I was over there earlier this summer and it was chilly – in the 50s.

    • IIRC, the airport fee/tax to fly in or out of the UK (or maybe it was just London) is a hefty one. If you’re going to be in Ireland anyway, you could get around it (I think) by flying in/out of Ireland and taking ferries to England/the Isle of Man.

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rave: Work’s winter party is back.
    Rant: formal caftan I want to wear to it is 6k. My second choice dress is 600, still more than I want to pay.
    Rave: found some dress mill website that has something similar to hte 6k dress, but I”m afriad it will look super cheap.
    Where is my trust fund?

  • Rave: watched a man propose to his gf at the dog park in AdMo last night. i creepily watched and silently hoped he trained their dog to present the ring (which he didn’t, btw). it was still charming.
    Question for the online daters: how long does it take you to take the convo offline (text) and then go on an actual date? I prefer a few (like 2 or 3) GOOD back and forths and then give out my number (if the other person has not given theirs yet) so we can plan a date. Not sure if giving number out too quickly is a good thing or bad thing.

    • I agree with you. I like a few good messages that demonstrate reading comprehension by tying in something from my profile. But I frequently have back and forths where we decide we’ll meet and then exchange numbers in the context of communicating any issues the day of the meeting.
      Someone whose profile I liked sent me a message last night asking me to text him if I want to meet up. It feels kind of weird to go right to that, but I might try it and see how it goes.

      • Hey, if the guy seems okay from his profile and his message asking you text him didn’t creep you out, give it a shot. I did that with my the last person I dated when he sent a long first message that showed he read my profile and also gave me his number and full name. I figured, well he put it all out there, might as well try.

      • No different than meeting someone face-face: You’d swap numbers right away in most cases unless you were guaranteed to see them again. I preface that with I’ve never met anyone online who wasn’t who they purported to be in person other than the occasional old photo.
        Typically I offer to meet right away, but I have chatted for up to a week if she was traveling, etc. I give my number or ask to swap when we’re in the planning stage. I’ve done dates where we only talked online. It was no better or worse than ones where we talked extensively beforehand.

    • Emmaleigh504

      I jump to meeting in person pretty quickly b/c I can get a better sense of a person that way.

    • Your rave is adorable. I pictured him getting down on one knee and 10 other dogs coming over to sniff/lick/jump on him. Haha.
      Agreed with both you and jeslett on the online dating thing.

      • Unfortunately, no other dogs came because their dog was not v friendly and was on leash the whole time. My dog tried to play but the shiba was not having it. It was actually a really awkward proposal.

    • That One Guy

      They must have met at the dog park, right? Why else would he propose there. It’s like will you marry me? Oh hold on I have to pick up after the dog.

      • Emmaleigh504

        Has to be, or maybe the dog somehow brought them together…

      • Or maybe they just spend a lot of time at the dog park and it’s their happy place?
        I lol’d at the image though. If it were my dog, she’d probably stare at us and poop mid-proposal. : P

  • Rant: I’m in a pickle! Need to sell a lawn ticket to the Jim Gaffigan show at Wolf Trap tonight. Don’t suppose anyone is interested?

  • Rant: Tons of stuff going on, work, wedding planning, trying to hang out with friends but not finding enough time…just got back from a 9 day conference and I’m spent.

    Rave: Going on a short Bahamian cruise with sis and niece Labor Day weekend so that vacation is much needed!

    Rant/Rave: Does $3200 sound like a lot for a wedding photographer?

    • Accountering

      Well, it sounds like it is pretty much market price, but the idea of spending $3200 on a photographer seems insane to me.

      • Whooweee, $3200 is market price? Dang.

      • Yeah, as artemis said, this is actually on the lower end that we have found. It’s 8 hours, 2nd shooter, wedding album, keepsake box and USB with printer rights included. Also a free engagement shoot as well. We just started looking but the packages we’ve found under 2K are very basic. This has also made me realize that I need to get into photography or wedding planning, ridiculous how much money these people make.

        • Okay, now that I see that includes engagement photos and everything else that’s a REALLY good deal! Just make sure you like the photographer’s style and photo quality. There are a lot of really $hitty wedding photogs out there.

        • SouthwestDC

          You do realize photography equipment is very expensive, right? And that 90% of the work happens after the wedding?

          • +1000 to this.

          • And that the photographs are actually the only part of the wedding day that will stay with you? (I mean, yes, hopefully the marriage part lasts, but the flowers, the dress, the food… none of that is as durable as the pictures.)

    • That’s market rate for a photographer to shoot a wedding, probably on the lower end depending on the size of wedding and/or experience and reputation of the photographer.

      • Yes and that’s actually a good price! When I was looking there were lots of packages for like $8k. It was insane. We’re paying $2700, but that includes 2 photogs and also reflects a discount since my sister referred me.

      • emvee

        I went to college with a girl who has become pretty much THE photographer on the east coast. There was nothing quite like being right out of college on my AmeriCorps stipend, seeing her fb posts about her 30th wedding that year and buying a giant house. Good on her, to be sure. If you’re talented and have even great marketing, you can pocket some serious cash.

    • $3200 seems about right for a professional wedding photographer in this area, sadly.

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