Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • Rave: Thanks for all your advice about negotiating for higher pay – it worked!
    Question: I recall a number of folks who purchased mattresses from Saatva. I think I’ve decided on going this route, but I’m now unsure whether I should go with their “Luxury Firm” or their “Firm” versions. Which ones did you get? Do you regret not going firmer/softer than you did?

    • That’s awesome, congrats!

      • Agreed!
        I haven’t gotten a Saatva mattress myself, but might be in the market in the future. Is “Luxury Firm” supposed to be firmer than “Firm,” or softer? (Or are they not clear?)

        • Luxury Firm is supposed to be softer than Firm. I think they placed Luxury Firm on a 5-6 (out of 10) scale, while the Firm is an 8. I generally prefer a firmer bed, but I’ve been sleeping on an old futon mattress without issues for quite a while now, so I don’t really have a good reference point for what actual mattresses feel like.

        • If you like your futon fine, go with the firmer mattress.

    • Emmaleigh504

      fair play!

    • Becks

      Congrats on the salary!

    • Were you the one wondering if it was appropriate to incorporate non-base comp into your number with a new company? Big congrats!

    • Yay for higher pay!

    • epric002

      yay for successful negotiations. go you!

    • Accountering

      Awesome on both accounts! As one of those commenters who was insisting you ask, congrats!!! I have seen people get anywhere from $1000 to $5000 (and that is at lower salary levels… 44 to 45, 65 to 67.5 etc) so it is almost always a good idea to ask!
      I went with the luxury firm. It is actually a touch firmer than I would have expected at a 5-6. If you are going back and forth, I would go with Luxury Firm, as it is likely firmer than you are thinking. My guess is the Firm is quite firm haha.

      • Thank you, I was leaning towards the Luxury Firm, so this is a good confirmation that I’m on the right path.

        • Accountering

          I managed to use the term “firm” 6 times in my response. That got a bit ridiculous! Enjoy it, they are wonderful mattresses!

    • Congrats on successful negotiations!
      I got Saatva’s Luxury Firm – it’s softer than their firm (and then they have a softer one, so the luxury firm is in the middle) and have been happy with it. Good support, very comfortable. I like beds a bit on the softer side so I might get a mattress topper at some point, but regardless it’s been super comfortable and I’ve had no issues. 🙂

    • Anonymous is buying drinks at next HH!

      • Hehe. I still haven’t made it out to a HH yet, but I’ll try to swing by the Dacha HH as it’s down the street from me.

    • Congratulations!

    • When I negotiate successfully and they easily give me more, I always kick myself a bit wondering how much more they would have been willing to give. I usually get some vague idea later from colleagues’ talk – sometimes, I find I’m in the range of others, and sometimes I find I’m still way low. (When you are a woman in male-dominated fields, way low is still unfortunately very common.) It is a delicate balance, negotiating. We employees do all of ourselves a disservice by not openly discussing our salaries.

      • Agreed! My last office actually outright told us that we would be fired if we discussed salaries amongst ourselves. It’s crazy how much that can vary if you don’t try.

        • Wow. That’s extreme. Accounting hands out pay reports after each pay period and one month gave a bunch of us the wrong reports. It was insane to see how much pay varied across employees at the same level. Finding out that way didn’t do much for morale but was interesting.

        • I don’t think that’s legal (to threaten to fire you for that).

        • saf

          That’s not legal.

    • Andie302

      Congrats! Also, here’s more info on Saatva luxury firm mattress (great timing!): http://www.apartmenttherapy.com/review-saatva-luxury-mattress-a-year-in-bed-217713

  • Becks

    Rave: SPRING!!! Flowers and warm weather! I saw daffodils on my way to work this morning.
    The wild violets are in bloom in my yard! The neighbors down the street have crocus in their yard, they are so very lovely that I slow down to see them as I pass.
    Rave: New socks! Nothing makes me feel better than a new pair of socks. I can conquer the world or at least not make it suck as much.
    Rave: There is a store called, Lush. They sell bath products like bath bombs, facial scrubs, and shower gels. It is one of my favorite stores and my go to when I need a little retail shopping therapy. I just tried their Flying Fox shower gel and I love, love, love it! It smells like Jasmine Tea!
    NO RANTS! It’s Spring!

    • KSB

      Wonderful raves! My sister gave me a tub of Lush Sea Salt Shampoo (for real, this exists) because it didn’t work well for her hair, which is very thick and longer than mint, but it’s magic for me. Absolutely love it!

    • There is nothing better than new socks! Especially if they are fun colors.

    • I Dont Get It

      I’m thinking of trying their Olive Branch Shower Gel. Anyone tried it?

  • RAVE: kiddo is going back to school today! Fingers crossed I don’t get a call to pick her up early. She seemed more herself this morning (including waking up before 8am), though, so I’m optimistic.
    Rave: CAPS! Glad to see them win last night.
    Rant: family drama, particularly when we’ll see them this weekend. at least they’re staying with my sister this time–hopefully that will help a bit.
    Rant: So tired. All for a good cause, I hope.

  • Rave: Coffee!
    Rant: It was seriously cold walking from the metro this a.m.
    Rave: It will be in the 70’s tomorrow
    Rant: I have a slight toothache but I really just think it may be the extremes I subject my teeth to; HOT coffee then super cold ice water. Poor tooth.
    Rave: I may venture to the rooftop to watch the sunset tomorrow.
    Welcome Spring!

  • Hey PoP–I could use some collective wisdom on a job search question. I have an out-of-state interview scheduled next week that will require me to be out of the office for the whole day. Normally I would just ask for the day off a bit in advance and think nothing of it, but I will be out for a whole week the week afterwards, so don’t necessarily want to stack up my requests for time off. How should I excuse myself from work? I have a feeling I am going to end up going the sick route, and notifying the night before/morning of, but am not crazy about that idea. Citing personal issues would be closer to the truth but is just so vague. Have you handled this in the past?

    • Do you have any personal days you can use? The last interview I went on, I went to the DMV in the morning and then to an interview in the afternoon. That way, I did have personal things to do and needed the day off. I use personal days for the DMV, cable guy or plumber coming, going to the passport office, getting ready for a work trip, that kind of stuff that I don’t detail to my supervisor but falls under “general life maintenance”.

    • I always would prefer to be on the level with that kind of stuff, but you know your work life better than we do and if it’s not possible to easily request a day off like that in advance of a week off, probably some white lie is the best way to go (.e.g. home repair, medical procedure [due for a colonoscopy?]).

    • You could get in trouble if you use sick leave and then for some reason they want proof of a doctor’s appointment (or whatever) after the fact. IMO, better to cite something vague like apartment/condo maintenance.

      • jim_ed

        Thats why you always claim the 24 hour stomach flu when playing hooky with work. No one goes to the doctor for it, and no one wants to ever hear any further details. It’s the perfect crime.

        • Accountering

          +1. If they push you any further, you say you spent 6 hours in the bathroom and are just trying to rehydrate. That will take care of them wanting any further details!

    • I would list “personal reasons” which is true; if pressed for details I’d say I have an appointment.

      • When you say you have a vague “appointment,” that’s a dead giveaway. This time of year, say you have to meet with your accountant (tax time).

    • Emmaleigh504

      On the other side of this, I wish my people would NOT give me details when they call out or arrange days off. I don’t want to hear about gross illnes, I don’t want to learn medical procedures, and I don’t care if the plumber is coming. It’s their PTO they can use it however they want. Yes, I’ve told them and no they didn’t stop the TMI 🙁

  • Rave: going home Friday. Yay, Passover
    Rant: It’s always very difficult for me to return to DC.
    Rant: It’ll mean returning to our mouse house.
    Rant: I KNOW the landlord is trying, but really – she keeps emailing, “good news! No evidence of mice!” and then I look through the dropcam footage….mouse. Really, does anyone have a blood thirsty cat they need cat sat? We can’t get one – nanny is allergic and I’d rather have no spouse than lose our nanny!!

    • What about a rat terrier?

    • houseintherear

      What neighborhood are you in? I have a Westie who was a very successful mouse-hunter in my old apartment. That was 6 years ago and he has only had outdoor experience killing/attacking possums and squirrels since then, but I’d guess he has still got the hang of mouse hunting. He stalks and waits, so it might take a few hours. Let me know if you’re interested. I could bring a book and visit for a few hours with him one day. Off work next week… 🙂

  • Rave: Older, rude person I work with has been completely a bully – blaming me for things that weren’t my fault, and trying to strong arm me into fixing an issue I didn’t even create. By his lack of action, ultimately, he only has himself to blame. Happy to say, I stood up for myself and his boss e-mailed me with an apology about his behavior. Granted, it’s not from him, but still – it has not been a good situation for the last few days and I could not take it anymore. That kind of abrasive, aggressiveness is awful and made me feel so terrible about myself. I feel really good right now and have put it behind me.

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: My hands hurt from too much undulating yesterday. They are way out of shape.
    Rave: Lady Londonderry tea.

  • Does anyone in PoPVille have a recommendation for a dermatologist who does more than recommending lotion for chronic dry skin issues? I’m thinking there might be a dietary thing going on here, so someone who isn’t afraid to recommend supplements or restricting certain foods would be most welcome.

    • Perhaps you’d have better luck with a dietician or herbal nutritionist? For the latter, I’d suggest Nutricia Consulting.

    • epric002

      i don’t have dry skin, but i highly recommend dr. perkins at metro derm.

    • I’d recommend Dr. Richard Castiello. He was ranked best dermatologist many times by “Washingtonian” magazine. I appreciate his no-nonsense approach to dermatological issues His office is a quick walk from the Friendship Heights Metro.

    • Try Sea buckthorn oil. Make sure you get seed, not berry. I get Sibu brand from Amazon, did wonders for my dry skin when I was on accutane

    • thanks for the suggestions. I’ll check them out!

    • I like Dr. Koch at Integrated Dermatology of 19th Street.

  • justinbc

    ICYMI: April PoP HH changed from the 23rd to the 22nd due to scheduling conflict at Dacha. Please pass along to anyone inquiring.
    Update: Co-worker who was previously shopping for Vietnamese bride finally sounds ready to pull the trigger. Overheard him now seriously talking about marriage, and trying to figure out how he’s going to get over there to see her. Other co-worker is warning him that she may in fact be Chinese.

    • “Other co-worker is warning him that she may in fact be Chinese.”
      AMAZING. I love the subtle racism (not really….but you know what I mean….this is a trainwreck where you can’t look away…..).

    • Emmaleigh504

      I hope he tests her pho making abilities before he commits.

      • Accountering

        Given the ridiculous purely business nature of this relationship (on both sides, her wanting a green card, him wanting 5 years of companionship) some good pho skills aren’t unreasonable haha!

        • 5 years if he’s lucky. She can get citizenship in less time than that (as long as she’s still attached to him when she applies). If she just cares about the green card, it could be less than a couple years…

          • Accountering

            Fair enough. I wasn’t aware of the exact time, but a friend of mine just moved on to his second Ukrainian bride… The first was cheating on him like mad, and moved back to the Ukraine. Sounds like she got the worse end of that deal by far..

          • justinbc

            Yep, this guy has already gone the Ukrainian route and I guess now wants a different flavor.

        • justinbc

          Well he makes very good money, so I think it would actually be more beneficial to her to stay with him. The alternative is divorcing and then having to find some crap job to support herself instead of living at home for free.

          • Accountering

            And with how lonely the dude sounds, if she gives him even a modicum of companionship (and delicious Pho) then he is likely in for the long haul as well. What a journey!

          • Emmaleigh504

            I would totally marry someone for good pho.

    • Can you encourage him to go on that 90 Day Fiance show on TLC? I think we would all enjoy following along.

  • Rant: Someone dumped a whole bunch of crap (old windows, boards with nails in them, etc) right behind the gate to our backyard. I called 311 and the stuff was gone this morning, but the area is still covered in broken glass and nails. We already had to get a new tire because of the crap (I’m assuming, I guess it could have come from somewhere else). The whole area just screams “Tetanus” to me…
    Rave: Daffodils are almost blooming!

    • Can you just sweep it up? You shouldn’t HAVE to, but it seems like an easy enough solution to a costly problem.

      • Yes, I will. I couldn’t before today because all of the crap was still there (I think it got taken away with the trash this morning) and probably won’t be able to tonight, but will try tomorrow. It still stinks though. My theory is that it was low-budget flippers who didn’t want to rent a dumpster…

    • This seems like a good time to get a tetanus booster! While you’re at it, see if the doctor will give you the combination TDaP shot (includes diptheria and pertussis/whooping cough) so you can contribute to herd immunity.

  • RAVE: Matzoh ball soup this Friday night then a full proper Seder next Friday (one week late). I’m gonna eat it all.
    RAVE: epic field trip to Baltimore planned next weekend – Deep Sugar house music afterhours in the outdoor courtyard on Sunday morning (gotta dance – it’s spring!), oysters/crab legs/beer/bloody mary’s for brunch at Cross Street Market, then Orioles game at 1:35pm. Might even try to sneak in a visit to the Visionary Art Museum, if we have the energy. Get weird, Baltimore!
    RAVE: so much travel planned for this year. I’m way too excited just thinking about all of it. 😀

    • Question! What was the travel deal site for flights you’ve posted about here? I use secretflying.com but I think you mentioned a different one before.

      • Is that one that came back cheaper than Kayak? I went with Southwest. $300 flight to Vegas during a big weekend WSOP event. Didn’t think it would get much better.

      • TheFlightDeal dot com. They have a section that’s specific for flights out of the DC metro area.
        I recently stumbled upon Secret Flying too, but TheFlightDeal is better organized IMHO.

  • Rave: Emilie made my day. I’m still laughing.
    Rant: people who try to be funny on April Fools and fail miserably.
    Rave-ish: presenting my proposal to the CEO tomorrow. I’m so excited, I’m so scared.
    Question: I’m putting together some info for people coming in for my company’s big meeting next month and I want to include a list of apps that are helpful for navigating/doing fun things/exploring DC, things like the National Mall app and the National Zoo app, which update with the day’s info and whatnot. Does anyone have any suggestions?

  • epric002

    rant: another kansas/quincy accident, and the glassbowls who refuse to do anything meaningful about it.
    rant: i have lost my wisdom tooth gamble- one of my top ones is erupting. textdoc- will you please use your stellar googlefu for those oral surgeon recommendations PoPvillians have discussed? i have a feeling this is going to be quite the ordeal (i.e., not a local anesthetic kind of procedure).
    rave: husband is feeling well enough to go in to work for part of the day. i hope he doesn’t overdo it…
    rave: spring weather!

    • Emmaleigh504

      I don’t know what your tooth situation is, but I recommend not letting them talk you into getting them all removed. I did and of course got dry socket in the places where the wisdom teeth were fine. And recovery would have been easier with just 1 removal. Plus less expensive.

      • epric002

        i agree! i remember that my xrays from many years ago have both of my bottom wisdom teeth totally horizontally impacted, so there is almost no way they are going to erupt. unless a new xray shows otherwise, those 2 are staying put. the only good thing about this is my insurance open enrollment is coming up so i can make sure to get the best dental coverage for some extractions.

      • I agree with Emilie. I only have 3 wisdom teeth (2 on top that came in fine, 1 on the bottom that’s been slowly making its way up for years now). My dentist said it probably won’t come up any farther but the gum may eventually wear down to the tooth (it’s really close) so it’ll hurt on and off for awhile. Try using some of that sore mouth rinse they sell at CVS (next to the mouthwash). I would definitely not get all/any removed if it’s not necessary — and if the dentist is pushy, you should try to get a second opinion.

    • is it causing pain and is it breaking out in a weird way, like to the side of your gum? If it is actually coming in somewhat straight, you may be OK.

      • epric002

        not sure yet- it just started erupting. no pain, it just feels weird (i thought i had some food stuck back there) but i bought an oral mirror and confirmed that it’s definitely a tooth! there’s only a small part that’s erupted so far. i have a dental appt at the end of the month so we’ll see what they say (i’m expecting them to insist that they all get removed, since that’s what most dentists do) but at least should get some xrays to see what the situation is.

    • If it’s not hurting or causing some other problem, don’t let yourself be bullied into it. I actually have a dentist who was all about me keeping mine until it caused problems last year (two were at 45+ degree angles, pushing other teeth, and one caused a weird gum growth from the friction; other two are straight).
      Should you really need the surgery, do you have health insurance? It’s a pretty basic procedure, so you can see if there’s a surgeon in your network (I don’t have a dental plan, but my extraction was covered under emergency surgery). For one tooth they probably won’t put you under, but I’d still ask for something that will make you a little less aware. I just had novacaine shots and it was awful being completely awake for the procedure.
      The oral surgeon I used wasn’t bad, everyone was really nice, I just really really wish I had gotten a Valium or something (in his defense, he had been told I only needed 1 tooth out instead of 2 and I didn’t push for extra drugs). No dry socket, though it took me a bit longer to heal because I’m “so old” (at 29…thanks, guys). I did have to argue with my insurance company, but it worked out in the end. I also prepped by preparing some protein smoothies and stocking up on soup, frozen pasta (softer than regular), and ice cream. Once I could handle pasta I also overcooked a baked sweet potato which was probably the best meal of my life.

      • +1 on going under. I went under general anesthesia and it was totally worth the extra cost (my insurance made me pay an extra $200 for it, I think). All my friends who were awake for the procedure are still partially scarred by the experience – the crunching sounds of bone and broken tooth, the blood, the sheer length of the procedure, etc. It’s not a fun event to witness while you’re helplessly awake. You’ll also tend to squirm while awake.
        Tl;dr – you don’t want to be awake for this.

        • Accountering

          Agreed. I was knocked out for it. No brainer. You go out quickly, come back, and they are done. Then your friend drives you home.

          • +1 yup. I was happily asleep for mine. I was apparently very alarmed and upset about the cotton in my mouth when I woke up but got over it in the car. Whoever drives you home might have fun stories!

        • My brother had his out a few weeks before mine were scheduled to be removed. He said it wasn’t too bad, but the squealing of the root against the bone kind of hurt his ears. And I said “I would like ALL the drugs, please.”

        • Emmaleigh504

          I woke up during my procedure (wouldn’t have happened if I only had the 1 removed–yes I’m still bitter). It was funny b/c I was really concerned I was snoring, but I couldn’t talk b/c of all the hands and equipment in my mouth.
          I also got to witness my surgeon bitch a mom out b/c she refused the wheel chair for her drugged up child, but then proceeded to let him run wild while she chatted with the office people. Of course the kid fell, probably on his face. The surgeon gave that mom Hell and made her put the kid in the wheel chair. It was fun b/c she as so obnoxious.

      • epric002

        oh yes, if any of them are going to be removed, there will be drugs. there is no way i’m going the local anesthetic route. none.

  • Rant: Was doing high box jumps this morning and the box won and my shin lost
    Rant: 10 days till April marathon number 1 and my shin is black and blue and a bit swollen….
    Rave: Brother (lives in Seattle) must read PoP because he texted yesterday saying he was sorry he hasn’t returned calls or texts in a while.

    • Box jumps always scare me. I’m worried I’ll somehow end up flat on my face.

      • Normally I do the 30″ but in the last few weeks I decided I can do the 36″ no problem. I can do them but apparently not as many as I thought.

  • Anonynon

    Rave: Hit the game winning shot in double over time (sudden death) in my 3v3 basketball league.
    Rant: Sore back still hurts….need to go to yoga on thursday
    Rave: Going to Angelika’s Pop-Up theater tonight with a few friends to see ‘It Follows’

    • I’ve heard such mixed things about It Follows! It looks intense.

      • Anonynon

        I haven’t gone to a scary movie in theaters since the strangers….that was pretty intense. It should be fun it got great reviews (but I am going it without too high of expectations)

      • It’s rated above 85% on rotten tomatoes for what its worth.

  • Rant: Waiting impatiently to see how many embryos we made yesterday.
    Rave: Now that egg retrieval is done, I can drink coffee again!
    Big rave: Had an amazing heart-to-heart to the friend with a new baby who I mentioned last week and feel like we reached a whole new level in our friendship as a result. She was the first person I wanted to tell about my good results yesterday, I’m so lucky to have such wonderful and supportive people in my life.
    Even bigger rave: Another one of my friends had a baby yesterday and I’m overjoyed for her and her husband. No undertone of sadness for myself whatsoever. So much good news to go around.

    • KSB

      Oh, I love every line of this. Sending my best happy embryo vibes your way and hoping for good news.

    • Congrats on the egg retrieval! I donated my eggs to a friend and was so nervous for the procedure, but thrilled to be done with the restrictions. Fingers crossed everything else goes smoothly for you.

      • I wish I could give you some kind of medal for donating your eggs to your friend. Really and truly, I can’t think of a more profound gift to give. And thank you for your well wishes!

    • Accountering

      That’s awesome that you were able to share with your friend, and that she was so receptive (as well she should have been!)

    • fingers crossed for you! I had 5 retrieved, 4 fertilized, two transfered. All it takes is one!

      • This is really reassuring. Our numbers yesterday were really good, but now I’m on to worrying about egg/embryo quality. If we can get 3-4 to pass through all the rounds of screening, I would be over the moon because then we could freeze embryos for the the future.

        • Freezing is VERY difficult – keep in mind that I am, as far as we all can tell, a pretty healthy young (at the time!) woman. None of my embryos made it to freeze. It’s a specific quality rating that you can freeze and it’s really not as common as patients are meant to believe. I REALLY wanted frozen ones. Nope. I was also a total mess at my retrieval when they wrote “5” on my hand. I was like WTF, how could there only be 5? I was so mean to Dr F because I was like “if you had given me more meds, I’d have more eggs and more chances!”. It’s normal to freak out at every. single. step in the process. Sending hugs.

          • Thank you — i still have no word and am going a bit crazy….

            One of the most frustrating parts of this process is how little connection there seems to be between “health” and the final outcome. I have friends who guzzle diet soda and wine and coffee and take all kinds of prescription drugs and got pregnant immediately. I’m a borderline health nut and we’ve been trying for something like 2 years, depending on where you start the clock. The lack of control over the process is totally infuriating.

            Poor Dr. F must get so much abuse from all of us. I almost got into a shouting match with him about a week ago, but thank goodness I realized in the moment that it was the hormones making me enraged, not his treatment recommendation. On the same day, they cut my dose by half, proving that I was indeed a hormonal mess.

    • Update rave: about 90% of our eggs fertilized! That number will drop off over time, but it’s a great start.
      Update rant: The doctors think they found the cause for my infertility and if it is what they think it is, I might need (another) surgery before we can move to egg transfer. I think I’m going to need to get more novelty sweatshirts if I’m going to keep my sense of humor here.

      • Congrats and ugh, respectively. But perhaps finding the cause will help in the long run? But another surgery doesn’t sound awesome. I’m sorry. I hope things go smoothly from here on out.

      • Great news (for your rave, of course)! If the rant is what I’m guessing it is, it’s not too huge of a surgery and will make you feel much better to boot. Lots of positive thoughts!

  • Rant: Apparently lost my wallet between Target and Newton/14th last night – keep your eyes peeled for a turquoise and black wrist wallet. There might be $30 in there you can have but I’d like my Florida ID and insurance cards / metro card / whatever else I have in there back.

    Rant: Apparently people don’t want jobs because they keep cancelling my interviews

    Rave: Coworker brought in tomato seedlings for everyone!
    Rave: Crystal City 5k Friday (my first 5k race, I’m nervous and will most certainly be very lonely and awkward — hit me up if you’re going too!)

    Rant: Apparently my office (80+ people) doesn’t have 10 people cool enough to do kickball. Can I join your team? Thursdays? Yeah?

    • Anonynon

      Can you still sign up for the 5k? I haven’t done one in a while…it also sounds like you live near me too if your over near DCUSA

    • skj84

      I’ve always wanted to do the Crystal CIty 5k. I can’t this Friday, but may be able to do another one.

    • Sorry to hear about your wallet. This happened to me in the same area last fall while I was walking my dog. One minute it was in my hand and then it was randomly gone. So bizarre. I hope you find it!

      • Update: It would appear my wallet is somewhere in my apartment or my gym buddy accidentally dropped it in his bag. Thank you!

  • KSB

    Rant/Rave: Leaving my beloved job of nine years on Friday. Scary.
    Rant: Know I’m very unlikely to ever find a company or boss as great as the ones I have now.
    Rave: Scaling back to spend more time on family. Working part-time from home, being able to volunteer at school without feeling like I have to rush back to my office, being able to clean the bathroom without a toddler crying and pulling at my leg, being able to put away clothes without a four-year-old asking if she can snuggle.
    Mega Rave: Still having time for all the snuggles I can muster when they get home each day.

    • I can’t imagine working full-time in DC while having two small kids and it’s terrific that part-time work from home is an option for you. Best of luck with your transition!

      • KSB

        I have three under age 6! It’s definitely time 🙂 And it seems like there is a wave of good part-time work available, which definitely makes the transition much easier. Fingers crossed, at least…

    • Good for you! I keep wondering if now is the right time to switch to part-time consulting, so that I can pick my kids up from school more than twice a semester. I made a conscious decision when they were little to work through the baby/ toddler years, with an eye to taking time off when they were 7+ years old. Older kids, especially pre-teens, need us more than babies do, I think.
      But here I am, with a 7+ year old, and still plugging away at the 9-to-5. *sigh*

      • KSB

        I did the same thing – worked through the early years when they were in a great day care and thriving to now having my oldest in Kindergarten. I’ve only been to one PTO meeting this year and was able to volunteer in her classroom exactly once, and I want to have more flexibility. The pay cut is daunting, but it’s trading an unsustainable model for one we can play with until we find better balance (with picking up part time work, for example.) On to the next phase!

  • Rave: The Caudalie store in City Center. It’s probably the only store in that complex where I’ll ever shop, but I could do some serious damage there. They can read my yuppie mind when it comes to the products I like and I can’t wait to go to their spa.
    Rave: Free coffee at Compass Coffee this morning
    Rant: Feeling totally and completely overwhelmed with the moving decision-making process. Once we decided the move was a go, I went into overdrive on every front and now feel like I have to make every decision simultaneously and immediately when I really don’t. Our expected move date is in six months. I need to keep reminding myself that it’s okay to take this a day at a time and that I can make big decisions 4-5 months from now, if needed. Easier said than done. I like answers!

    • Anonynon

      did you go to the free coffee thing? I want to go tomorrow but i wasn’t sure if it would be a Zoo…I wouldn’t mind working out of there or the shaw library for a few hours since its suppose to be nice. I want to get out and about!

      • I went at about 7 am and it wasn’t bad. BUT I -think- the deal is that the hotel is picking up something like $500 worth of coffee, so when that tab runs out you’re out of luck. I’d recommend going early if you want to make sure you can get free coffee. I’m also not sure if that tab covers each day or both days combined.

  • Andie302

    Rave: Group texting with roommates. Adding a 24 year old has really upped the ante on the hashtags and emoticons, and I kind of love it.
    Rave: The reason for the latest text is because another mouse bit the dust via trap WOOHOO
    Rave: My tenants are being pretty chill about the mice, unlike the previous girls that literally made me come across town when I didn’t have a car because they wouldn’t clear out a sticky trap with a clearly dead (it was smelling the place up) mouse.
    Rant: It usually doesn’t take this long to get rid of all of them. I’m hoping before I move out that there’s zero evidence, but it’s not looking good at this point!
    Rave: Spring, walking home, nicer weather, better mood.
    Rave: Committing to not drinking, paying attention to what I eat, and exercising in April. I know I’ll feel much better at the end of the month for the effort…and hopefully continue.

    • Does your lease not cover tenants being responsible for remediation of mice? You’re an awesome landlord.

      • why would the tenants be responsible for removing the mice?

        • Many (most maybe) leases require tenants to do the basics like keeping a clean house and placing traps if they’ve seen something. Landlords should definitely jump in to patch holes and put down poison or similar if its an infestation/continued issue. I’d think removing a used sticky trap would be more toward the tenant’s side of things if its easily accessible. The fact that the tenants are scared of a dead mouse wouldn’t seem to shift the responsibility but good on Andie for jumping in for them.

          • +1. I don’t mind setting traps, but after killing 6 and proving there’s an infestation, EVEN after holes were patched…it’s not my job anymore. And it can null my lease. It sucks. Good to respond QUICK or else you end up like my landlord.

          • I feel for you jindc. I had tenants on the opposite side: every closet packed to the gills, overflowing trash, open food out, etc even after they said they saw a mouse. A few pictures later, and I was done doing remediation. I gathered one person didn’t clean while the other was out of town, and they broke up, and good tenant stayed. So it all worked out. Hopefully you’ll be done with these mice soon.

      • Andie302

        I need to see what the lease says – but I liked the girls and they were good tenants otherwise so I didn’t mind. Luckily the current tenant has no problem emptying mouse traps and just appreciates that I’m doing what I can to deal with this as quickly as I can. This is by far the most I’ve had in any flare-up…usually it’s just 3-5 and then I get a break for at least six months.

        • Wow! I’ve seen 5-6 in 3 yrs. and only because my downstairs neighbors are idiots (saw a mouse and didn’t address it or let me know). I guess I’ll consider myself lucky
          Even if the lease didn’t address mice specifically, I’d think clearing a trap could be considered general cleanliness. No different than getting rid of trash.

          • Accountering

            It depends where you are too. My street in Petworth, everyone catches at least a half dozen every fall when it starts to get cold out.

    • skj84

      Are you still using the Ratzapper? We purchased one yesterday. I watched the mouse run right past it twice. Any suggestions?

      • Andie302

        Yes, I’m still using it, but that location seems to have cleared up, and now they are elsewhere. I love that thing! I use a couple dog biscuits as bait and just throw them out with the dead mouse and re-bait it.

        • Andie302

          Oh, and I try to place it in a path they normally travel – so if you saw them run by try to get the opening right into that path.

      • I used one of these successfully. It can take awhile for them to start entering it. I think they may need to get used to something new in their environment – until then, they steer clear of it. Sometimes you have to move it around to different spots, so they get used to it – and placing it where they, say, come around a corner of baseboard and so don’t notice the gaping entrance until they are in it can work. I used to change what I baited it with – I’d take an old bottle cap and put some peanut butter or other stuff on it and shove it in there.

        • Yea. I’ve seen recommendations that you first put down a sticky trap and leave it covered, so they get used to it being safe. Then you remove the cover.

        • Also – leave it turned off for the first couple of days so they get used to dashing in for the bait. Then switch it on and fry the sucker!

    • Love your first rave. My parents are big fans of emojis lately and our group texts are pretty funny.

  • Rant: Dog has pink eye, but got into the vet and got meds. At least he doesn’t seem to notice.
    Rave: Interview went well, and I’ll find out on Monday.
    Rave: Waiting on my next project to start because people are fighting over who gets to staff me. I hope I get the better project, but I really don’t know any details.
    Ques: Any lenders you all recommend for unwarrantable properties? It is also an investment, but I figure the unwarrantable issue is probably harder to overcome. I have MVB, but I’m hoping there are other options for comparison.

  • Rant/Rave – I fell for a really silly April Fools joke online. I am so gullible.
    Rave – Family is coming to DC for Easter!
    Rant – My sister is going through a really crappy time. Other members of the family have confided in me about what she’s going through, but she won’t tell me herself. Instead she picks fights with me over stupid things. I hope we get to spend some nice time together this weekend without falling into our usual bickering. I’m getting really worried about her.

  • Anyone know of a place I can get an inexpensive or free bike tuneup? I know there’s a lot of bike-related events this time of year so someone’s probably doing quick tune ups somewhere.

  • Question: I’m looking to get a running jacket for my SO. Do you guys have any favorites? Where do you suggest I find a good, versatile jacket? He usually runs with a long sleeve shirt when it’s cold, so it seems he doesn’t need it to be too warm. Thanks!

    • I like the cut and weight of my Brooks jacket and vests. I usually buy my gear at a race expo (cuz its cheaper) but in the District I’d recommend Fleet Feet. Though with summer approaching – a jacket won’t be needed in a week or two. Try out the Cherry Blossom 10 Miler expo at the building museum – they’ll have lots of good stuff!

      • I love Brooks stuff too and I agree that race expos are a great place to find it cheaper, but I’ve also gotten a lot of it on Amazon.

      • I’ve had two Brooks rain jackets since high school cross country and love them. Something waterproof and light weight might be best for this time of year.

    • You can find a bunch of options on Sierra Trading Post. They usually have the best deals for workout clothes, so long as you’re not fussy and don’t need a very specific brand/model/size/color combination. Sign up for their email list – they are always running multiple flash deals per day (i.e. “free shipping and 60% off a single item for the next 4 hours only!,” etc.)

    • Anonynon

      I have a Nike Element jacket…i got it on sale for like $120. I think originally it was $200. Its an amazing jacket…i would highly recommend looking at nike.com in clearance

  • Quotia Zelda

    Rave: Belly dancing is so much fun.
    Rant: I am, apparently, the least flexible person on earth.
    Rave: So, I guess I’m taking up yoga, too.
    Rant: I hate yoga people.

    • I work in the same building as you and Emilie has tried to get us to meet, but it hasn’t happened yet. You might want to try the lunchtime yoga classes in our building. It’s mostly non-typical yoga people there. There’s a free trial for a gentle yoga class next thursday at 1pm and if you like it, unlimited classes are only $30/month. Maybe I’ll see you down there one day! 🙂

  • Rave: I’m about 28 hours from spring break
    Rant: grading getting in the way
    Rave: I love my students.

  • Rave: Lots of texting back and forth with the Manassas guy this weekend. I’ve been rather surprised – in a good way!
    Rant: He’s going out of town this weekend, so probably won’t be able to see him again until next weekend. So far away!
    ?: One of the high up people at work gave me an egg with some kind of… cranberry bread? Something? baked inside the shell, but it only has a small opening at the top. I’m a little baffled (and the egg has been decorated so it’s a shame to break it!)
    Rave: Have not fallen for any April Fools pranks so far. However, the fake news articles etc. have really been confusing some of the Japanese employees…
    Rant: My mom got me a tin of loose leaf tea. I can’t for the life of me get it open. Teaaaa… 🙁

    • They bleed the egg out of the hole then use a small injector to put the batter inside. or Magic.

    • palisades

      Where in Manassas? I’m from Woodbridge/Manassas. I can tell you if he’s worth it 🙂

      • Haha I am actually not sure since I’m completely unfamiliar with the area, so I didn’t really ask! (No car, so I’m not too familiar with the areas where There Be Dragons beyond McLean). I just remember he said that people who know the area think it’s a bit sketchy but he hasn’t had a problem with it.

        • palisades

          So overblown. People get so scared of it for no reason. It’s a perfectly fine area, just really really boring. You can take him to a Nats game, then he can take you to a PNats game!

  • skj84

    Rant: Creating an employment plan. I realize I may have to suck it up and take on a part type survival job. I’m doing ok financially, but I’m not bringing in any sort of income this time around.

    Rant: I want all the pretty spring clothes and shoes! I may allow myself an Easter hat. Plus I’ll wear it through out the spring/summer.

    Rave: I’m starting rehearsals for another show next week. Yay arts! Keeps me sane. Plus I’ll have done some sort a show for at least half the year at this point. I need to keep the ball moving!

  • anonymouse_dianne

    Cynthia Lennon (John’s first wife) has left the building.


  • Rave: I always get a burst of energy this time of year. This year, besides a fit of housecleaning and purging getting ready for guests, I am sending out energy that it bring me a great job offer.
    Ranat: Still trying to stop coughing and breathe well in the pollen-laden air.

  • Anyone have a recommendation for someone to refinish/resealing a deck? Ours is looking a bit worn.

    rave-promotion went through. I just wish I actually knew if I wanted it or not. Gulp.

    • Accountering

      Have you looked into that refinishing paint? It is quite expensive, but it is like 10x thicker than paint. The brands you are looking for are Behr Premium Deckover, and Rust-Oleum Restore 10X Advanced.
      They are basically super thick paint that you use a roller to paint on, and it looks like brand new. Cost looks to run about $2/sq foot, so not cheap, but likely cheaper than what you are talking about.

  • Rave: Dinner tonight at the Fainting Goat with old friends in town from Alaska. Any recommendations?
    Rant: 2 one hour blocks of computer training today. Completely breaks up the flow.
    Rant: End of month – must finish time!

  • Rave: Successful scholarship negotiations continue. Should have a final decision and submitted seat deposit by April 15th. Almost there!
    Rant: My two closest friends are the worst texters. Drives me mad.
    Rave: Looking forward to spending a few days in NYC with bad texter #1 in a couple weeks.

  • Accountering

    Rant/Rave: Asa Hutchinson. He realized it wouldn’t be good to sign the anti-gay legislation, but instead of giving it the veto it deserves, he is asking the legislature to amend it.
    Just veto it!

  • Frustrated. There is a homeless gentlemen who has been living on the sidewalk at 4250 Conn Ave NW for the past year. At first we didn’t mind but each day is ”stuff” is growing. It has taken over both of the sidewalks up and down the block. Much of his stuff appears to be garbage which is attracting rats at night (I and neighbors can attest to this on our walks by at night). He also sits at Epicurean table and chairs w/ his stuff. The owner is upset but said he has given up trying to get the city to move him on. Management of the building doesn’t return calls. I’m frustrated with Mary Cheh’s head of constituent services. She tells us that she has reported it to the Public Works Department. They report that they will need to ”negotiate” with this gentlemen. ???? There are signs posted in the businesses saying no loitering etc. Any suggestions on how to give this gentlemen a push. He use to live in the alley behind UDC law school but assume he got pushed out of there and came up a block to his new location. I work in the mental health field and feel for the guy. But his stuff is spreading and the rats concern me. He is not going anywhere on his own. What can be done? Any suggestions?

    • I think you can report him to the police, but I’m not sure if they will do anything if he’s not being aggressive. I called once when I felt threatened by an agressive panhandler in my neighborhood, but was told I’d have to “stay on the scene” for the police to come ask the person to move. Hell no! Talked with stores in the area who had the same experience with the same person and pretty much gave up trying, because they’d just come back. If you want to give it a shot, the number for our area of the city 202-715-7300.

  • Rave: finally joined Meetup. I go to so many shows but can’t always find someone who wants to go with me. Anyone have success with meetup groups?

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