Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • Worst play call ever.

    • Amen. Effin’ Patriots.

    • palisades

      Shit throw too. Belichick essentially dared them to pass and it paid off.

    • Bad but somewhat defensible call.
      Bad execution.
      1) Don’t pass with 3 downs to get in the end zone and Marshawn Lynch in the backfield.
      2) If you are going to pass, you run a bootleg, not a slant to the middle when the entire defense is stacked at the line of scrimmage because they are expecting Marshawn Lynch.
      3) If you are going to throw a slant, throw it fast and low, not late and high.

  • Rant: All these snowstorms that end up just being rain.
    Rant: Have been calling around playing phone tag trying to get an appointment with a counselor for the past week. It’s difficult enough. Do not need the added calling/calling back/trying again/trying another place thing. Hopefully I’ll have something locked in today.
    Rave: Taking Friday off.

  • Rant: Metro. Not metro, but riders. Some days, it’s like everyone is super irritated they have to take public transportation. All things considered, Metro isn’t bad. But people who shove, or don’t move in to the car, or don’t step out to let others off, or push past people to get to the escalator faster. It’s just SO rude! Today, among other rudeness, a guy pushed past a woman with a cane to get up the escalator. It’s not her fault you’re running late!
    Rave: mostly unpacked.
    Rant: How does one accumulate so much crap? We should never have had a wedding registry (“but it’s rude if you don’t!”).

    • Oh – I forgot….Rave: not sure I’ve mentioned, but I’ve told Dan….there’s a new service in DC called Galley foods – they send you menu options for the day and you order if you want it (usually meat, fish, veg options) and then a delivery window. We ordered the night before we moved and it was an excellent option – delicious food (lasagna), great delivery. Would recommend if you are getting tired of Great Wall like we are

  • Cinnamonster

    Rave: THANK GOODNESS for scarves on chilly winter days!
    Rant: This beloved scarf of mine is getting a little frayed. Aww! Maybe I should finally properly take up knitting… any knitters here?

    • Me! I taught myself in college and usually knit one or two items a year.

    • Me too! I taught myself to knit using books (and later online tutorials, which are better). It’s pretty easy to learn basic stitches. Also, the staff at Looped Yarnworks on Connecticut Ave in Dupont are really helpful and they have a really nice selection of yarn to get you started. I think they also have beginners’ classes most weekends.

      • there’s also a crochet/knitting group at the shaw library on Sundays

      • Cinnamonster

        Oh, this is really close to me! Hooray. I will make so many scarves!

      • I love the people at Looped! They are so helpful and encouraging and have the best yarn selection in town.

        • +1. The prices there are probably 10-15% higher than at some online stores, but it’s good to support local businesses and the help and inspriation these people provide can be invaluable. Plus it’s nice to actually touch the yarn before buying.

    • emvee

      I youtube whenever I need to remember how to do something specific!

    • If you haven’t already done so, you may want to create an account at Ravelry.com and check out some of the pattern options. Ravelry is a catalog of almost every knitting pattern out there and they have yarn recommendations and other good suggestions. Even if you go to Looped, they’ll probably show you Ravelry, so you could get a head start now if you join 🙂

      • Cinnamonster

        Oh, nice. I’ve heard of Ravelry – my grad school professor loved it! – but hadn’t thought to make an account there… totally doing that! Thanks!

      • My mom is an amazing knitter and is always on Ravelry. She also goes to knitting shows and has like three knitting groups. It’s handy when you have a baby and a parent who knits a lot! But the amount of yarn they have in their house….yikes!!!

    • The classes at fibrespace in Alexandria are excellent and well priced. I drove from DC just to go there!

    • Blithe

      One more sort of knitter: mostly hats. I proudly did a toddler sweater — with LOTS of help, and a pair of mittens, but when I realized that I could cast on, knit half a hat on the train between Baltimore and DC, knit the other half on the return trip, and finish it off at home, quick hats became my project of choice. I haven’t found a yarn shop yet in DC, so I’m enjoying reading through the posts that mention shops.

    • Temporarily de-lurking as I do every time knitting is mentioned…

      I’ve been knitting for about 20 years at this point. I’m an obsessed knitter and knit every day – I knit pretty much everything (adult sweaters, lace, scarves, hats, gloves, socks…). Agree with everything here. Check out classes at Fibre Space and Looped, Ravelry, etc.

      Also wanted to mention again that there’s a knitting group at the Columbia Heights Panera on Saturday afternoons. People usually get there between 2-3. We’d be happy to help with knitting if needed.

  • Rant: Not sure I’ll ever understand that play call
    Rant: Having to see and respond to my dad’s heartbroken texts with 19 seconds left in the game (he’s the one who raised me a Seahawks fan)
    Rave: Touring the Ivy City distilleries and Atlas Brew, plus the ghost tour/haunted pub crawl in Alexandria made for a fun weekend.
    Rant: Still sad it ended the way it did!

  • tax question for you lovely helpful people: If I moved to DC in the middle of January 2014 and appropriately changed my filing state etc and began paying DC taxes, lived here thru Dec 31, do I file as a full year resident or part year resident? I’m guessing full resident since its more than 183 days?
    rave: stayed up well past my bedtime reading On Such a Full Shore by Chang Rae Lee. I’m a sucker for post apoc fic but also in general, reading is my big weakness, once I get hooked on a book I’m pretty useless in most ways. Sometimes I’m wary of starting books for that reason alone, haha.

    • If you’re planning to file for the 2 weeks in the old state, then you couldn’t be a full year resident in DC. Tht 183 day thing tries to capture people who live here for a while but aren’t residents. If you were actually a dc resident (made this your state fof residence on purpose) for only 1 day, you should file dc taxes. Part-year equals anytime less than a year.

  • Rave: Pink soup! I made a roasted root vegetable soup that included beets which turned the soup a lovely color when partially pureed. The added tomatoes made it less pink however
    Rant: No house elves to clean up after me
    Reminder: Gin & Gardening gathering on Sunday Feb 8th, 6:00 pm. Venue will be in/near Columbia Heights. No gardening experience necessary 🙂

    • I might have missed this in previous R&Rs- can you explain Gin & Gardening? I love gin and i’m terrible at gardening, but I’m planning a backyard rehab this spring!

      • Anon, G&G is another PoPville group for people who like to garden, who like to drink and/or who like to hang out with other PoPvillagers. There’s no agenda for the gathering – just a time to talk and share resources, ideas, etc.

        • Can we discuss houseplants too? I have a dracaena plant that is dying a slow death and I don’t know what to do for it. I bought it from Ikea 8 years ago when I moved into my first apartment and I’m stupidly attached to this plant.

          • Pixie we can certainly talk about houseplants as well! Can you bring pictures of your plant?

          • Allison

            Re: being stupidly attached to a plant. I will admit, I cried when my little bamboo plant died. I felt so silly, but when you’ve had a plant for years, it becomes like a pet. A boring pet, but a pet nevertheless.

          • And plant pets don’t need to be walked when it’s rainy and 20 degrees outside….!

    • Becks

      Yeay, for pink soup!

    • Yes! Gin and Gardening! Need to remember to check in again so I don’t miss it… have we narrowed down what neighborhood it’s happening in?
      Otherwise, I just discovered vinoteca’s “vermouth hour”. I don’t know if it’s the first one, but I have 3 vermouths in front of me, one of which was made in house. Yay!

  • Rave: Pats win!
    Rant: Dead on my feet.Spent the past weekend dealing with Drama friend (she’s pulling back on a full tropical vacation because she only gets married once and is going to do what she wants to do but “understands” that the rest of us may not be able to afford/take time off for it). But she’s also completely torn apart our mutual friend’s wedding, invitations, and possible bachelorette party. Not sure if I should clue in mutual friend, who is my closest friend. Also spent the weekend studying, and fell asleep on my textbook Sunday afternoon. Whoops.
    Rave: Got money back from Geek Squad. What a racket.

    • Wait… how did Drama Friend tear up Mutual Friend’s wedding, etc.? I don’t understand.
      Was the “full tropical vacation” what Drama Friend intended for her bachelorette party? Or an unrelated vacation?

      • Oops… that was me. I am so sleepy that I put my username as “textbox” and didn’t even notice it until the THIRD time I was posting.

      • So Drama Friend doesn’t like Mutual Friend’s wedding in general – it’s at a camp near her house in the afternoon with lawn games, a DJ, and BBQ on paper plates. Basically like a slightly fancy reunion. Totally MF. And her invites were from Paperless Post, looked slightly artsy, but still super MF. DF thinks that it should be a Rustic Glam (i.e. pure pintrest-y, over the top with lace and glitz and glam. MF has become more and more of a homebody, hates being the center of attention, and wants low-key. DF doesn’t seem to get it). DF started saying how she’d hand-caligraphy invites on a rustic/hand-made paper with lace embellishments, wouldn’t use The Knot for her wedding site, was complaining about spending $1K to go to the wedding (ok, tickets are $300 or so each to fly to the location. But still…).
        Meanwhile, full tropical vacation was supposed to be the DF/MF joint bachelorette party (which MF didn’t want really – she wanted budget reasonable, low key, maybe a little dancing. But relaxing, mainly). And MF has a sister who’s supposedly planning her bachelorette party. Can I just say that the bachelorette party DF is envisioning costs more than a trip to my friend’s wedding?

        • Emmaleigh504

          So does DF just like to create drama or has she just been sucked into crazy wedding BS?

          • I think both. I only became friends with DF recently (when MF came down a few times and encouraged us to hang out). My understanding is DF has a hard time keeping female friends. I think she just really needs low-key people in her life who will put up with this BS, but that doesn’t lend itself to the people who think about branding their wedding or putting on a show with their wedding. She also seems to think her way is the only right way. And the fact that she and MF are both getting married this year is only making her more opinionated. I definitely think it’s time for me to get too focused on my studies/boy/work/student government to have time to meet up… I hate being put in the middle of DF’s bs, and it’s not fair to MF, I can’t imagine if DF says anything about me and what she might be saying, and I feel bad that she needs to be so dramatic all the time. She’s incredibly smart and beautiful and accomplished, but at this point it’s just not worth it. Trying to smooth things over with her ate up about 3.5 hours of prime studying/cuddling on the couch with the boy time.

          • #TeamTooFocused

          • Quotia Zelda

            Does DF have a wedding hashtag? I’ll bet she does!

          • DF is building her own website for the wedding. And I’m willing to bet it’ll be no phones during the ceremony. But likely will have a hash tag for her wedding for dinner/the reception.

          • “I definitely think it’s time for me to get too focused on my studies/boy/work/student government to have time to meet up…”
            This right here x 10,000
            You would never be friends with DF if not for the fact that you both happen to live in DC. This is a friendship of circumstance, not actual compatibility. Dump her, she’s a huge time suck and a generally awful person.
            And yes, she’s talking smack about you to MF behind your back. I can guarantee it.

        • Drama Friend needs to shut the heck up. If she wants to plan other people’s weddings that badly, she should become a professional wedding planner. (Although “my way or the highway” might not go over so well with potential clients.)

  • We bought our house six months ago and now may have to move to a different city for work and are trying to figure out our best options if we do have to leave. We almost definitely would take a big loss if we had to sell it, so we’re trying to figure out how we could rent it while 1) making sure that someone can cover maintenance issues from here, 2) retaining some rights to return to the house or sell it after, say 2 years, 3) not lose a ton of money in the process. A few questions:
    – Does anyone here have experience with rental management companies and if so, what kinds of fees do they charge and are they worth it?
    – Is it possible to write a lease for some period of time (a year, two years), then move back in or sell? Or do tenants have rights to protest and stay?
    – Given TOPA rules, is there an obligation to sell to renters before trying to get a higher price through the regular home sales market?
    – Any other advice on the subject?

    • Accountering

      That sucks 🙁

      To answer your questions, outside of the management company, as someone else will have to assist there:
      -No. Leases automatically go month-to-month after they expire. You can move back in though, I believe it is 90 days notice to your tenants. If you are planning on moving in and living there, you can do this.
      -TOPA just gives them the right of first refusal, and the right to delay your sale with TOPA related maneuvering. You have no obligation to sell to them at a cheaper price if they can’t meet a market price.
      -Other advice: Most tenants (especially newish DC residents) do not understand their rights that well, so assuming you are a good LL (and they don’t come on POPVille and find us!) you should not need to worry about these things. 90 days notice to move out if you are breaking their month-to-month lease seems quite reasonable to me anyways.

      • Thanks, Accountering. With TOPA rights, do you know how a “market price” is set? Let’s just say, using totally made up numbers, that we bought the place for 500k and hope to make at least enough on the sale to cover broker fees. Could we set the price for the renters at that point or is there a formula or other method used to determine what is “fair”?

        • I’d talk to a realtor when it’s time to sell. Or look at similar houses/units on the market in your area, and price accordingly.

        • Accountering

          The market is just what someone else will pay for it. If you get an offer for $550k, then that is the market price 🙂

          • Maybe I’m confused about TOPA, but don’t you have to offer tenants a price first? Or Could we set a price (let’s say 600k if we think the market could bear it) and let them accept or refuse that? Or would they have to propose a number and would could either accept it or turn it down? I’m accustomed to the regular home sales market. It’s the TOPA stuff I find confusing.

          • “Could we set a price (let’s say 600k if we think the market could bear it) and let them accept or refuse that?” — This is my understanding. All you have to do is give them the right of first refusal once you put the house on the market.

        • Andie302

          Talk to a realtor about the value of your home. Neither TOPA or what you owe will play a factor, it will be about comps in your neighborhood. Under TOPA, if you have a tenant and you put your place up for sale and get an offer, then the tenant has the right to pay the price of that offer. In reality, a tenant will make your house less attractive at the time of sale, so it would be better to give proper notice, get the tenant out, and then put the house on the market. That being said, I sold a unit that had a tenant, and it still went under contract relatively quickly (because the tenant was already offered the place at a price that was discounted and couldn’t afford it). The tenant waived their TOPA rights and the sale still closed within 30 days.

          • +1 to this, except “[I]t would be better to give proper notice, get the tenant out, and then put the house on the market.” I don’t think you can actually get the tenant out if he/she wants to stay, UNLESS you are moving back in yourself.

          • textdoc, I believe you are right. Of course if you can persuade the tenant to leave of their own volition (wink), there’s nothing wrong with that; for example, if they don’t know their rights as tenants, is the landlord obliged to inform them?

          • Accountering

            This is true, but see above RE: most tenants don’t know their rights. You are more than able to tell a tenant that you are hoping to sell the house, and would like them to move out within 45 days. The tenant can of course balk and assert their rights, but many won’t.

          • Accountering

            The above was in response to Textdoc

        • You can set the price wherever you want – if it’s “too high”, you’ll get no offers (or only lowballs); if it’s “too low” you’ll get tons of offers and presumably the price will get bid up. I *believe* your only obligation to the renters is that you always have to give them the last opportunity to match the highest offer on the table. And if none of the offers (including the renters’) is too your liking then you don’t have to sell – but you would have to keep the renters, obviously.
          Someone correct me if I’m wrong…. But also as Erms said talk to a realtor or someone who actually knows how this works.

    • So, there are few options….if you want to rent it out, find a management company. We’ve used Nest to do some landlording stuff (screen applicants and process leases…) and I think for prop mgmt they charge 8% or 10% depending on condo or house. In terms of being able to move back within 2-3 years, you might want to consider looking for people in foreign service who are temporarily posted in DC. You could also find a short term management company (like attache), so you would know that people are only there for 6 months at a time.

      • All of this advice is really helpful — thanks everyone. I think we’re going to have a conversation with our realtor -and- look into services like Nest and Attache.

        • If you are living out of DC, you definitely need a professional management company – but remember, there are tax benefits to hiring people (it’s a “business expense”). If you want to hold on the property so you have a place to return to, my advice would be to minimize the profit you earn on it so as to avoid a huge tax burden. Make a few hundred, spend some money, call it a day. And if it’s a rental, if there are any improvements you want to make to the property for when you move back it, do those while it’s a rental. Business expense!

    • Two tax issues to keep in mind: 1) if you rent in your new location and rent out your DC home, you will not be able to claim the mortgage interest deduction on your DC home because it will not be your primary residence; 2) if you are out of the house for more than 2 out of the 5 most recent years and you sell it, you may lose the capital gains exclusion.

      • The mortgage interest would just move to schedule E as an expense of the rental business.

        • That is correct, but it is still a net loss compared to living in your own home and claiming the mortgage interest deduction. My point is just that this should be part of one’s calculation of how to proceed.

    • We use Crescent Property Management for renting our house. They are vv excellent.

  • Rave: Missy Elliott!!!
    Rant: ugh Pats/Pats fans
    Question: I’ve got a tricky tax situation and need to hire someone to help me this year. Any suggestions?

    • +1 for Missy Elliott!! Best performance of the night!

    • Missy was THE highlight for me last night!!! I was over the sad / tug-at-the-heart-strings commercials by the end of the 1st quarter. Though I do think that the placement and execution of the NO MORE domestic violence ad was perfect.

  • Accountering

    Rant: Caps getting losing another two in a row. Get your act together!
    Just a quick note, no one needs to worry about the Dummy of the Day award today. That award without a doubt goes to Pete Carroll for trying to throw the ball on 2nd and goal from the one, when you have the best RB in the game in the backfield ready to win you a Super Bowl.

  • hispanicandproud

    Rave: Got two versions of One Republic’s “I lived” for running which I played over and over again during my 14-miler this weekend. A perfect song for all runners!
    Rave: I proudly wore my Broncos attire last night. Couldn’t stop smiling!
    Rave: I had a great time working the Fleetwood Mac show on Friday. Great to catch up and laugh with concert friends.

  • Aglets

    Rant: all of my bras have decided to revolt in unison. Well. Most.
    Rave: The Half-Time (should it be capitalized?) show last night- I wasn’t aware how much I missed listening to Missy Elliott.

    • skj84

      I’m intrigued by your rant and agree with your rave. I didn’t realize how much I needed Missy Elliot in my life until Halftime. I went on a downloading spree after the game.

      • Aglets

        nothing intriguing- just underwires jumping out and elastic giving up the ghost. Probably from recent weight gain which i need to reverse 🙁

        • epric002

          annoying…but, new bras??? 😀

        • It could also be from other things, like the way you wash and dry your bras. I could use some advice on that, actually. Do you all hand wash bras and air dry them? Do you use a special delicates wash? I’m afraid mine are aging too quickly.

          • I just put mine in a mesh net and throw them in the washer and then hang them to dry and they hold up surprisingly well. I should probably hand wash them but I’m too lazy…

          • epric002

            i do the same as SKT- mesh bra bags, delicate cycle, cold water, drip dry. i know you’re supposed to hand wash, but ain’t nobody got time for that!

          • Blithe

            Hand wash, air dry. Chantelle’s are too pricey for me to risk damaging them by flinging them in the washer, and underwires are too easy to damage. I usually use whichever Mrs. Meyer’s detergent I have, and I’m careful about rinsing them thoroughly.

          • The “hand wash” cycle on washing machines is the BEST. THING. EVER.
            I usually put mine in little mesh bags and wash them on delicate, cold, and air-dry them.

          • Emmaleigh504

            If you hand wash you should do it in a bowl or bucket. Using the bathroom sink is bad idea b/c abrasives from toothpaste may still be there and damage the fabric and threads.

          • Emmaleigh504

            Oh and I use the little bra bags that hold the shape for the underwire. I toss them in the regular wash and air dry.

    • epric002

      do tell us more about this bra revolt. the bravangelists are quite curious.

  • skj84

    Rant: Got over invested in the game. So upset about that final play. This is why I’m afraid of major commitments!

    Rave:I have lots of food left over from our superbowl party. My lunch for the rest of the week is covered.

  • epric002

    rant: express scripts. STILL. i am at my wits end. they have effed up every single RX they have ever filled. i have no idea how i am supposed to get my medications correctly/on time. every day it’s a different problem that my doctor or i have to fix, b/c nothing is ever their fault/they’re never able to fix anything. i am dreading having to go through a benefits review in order to appeal coverage for a drug they no longer want to cover. i also have to figure out how much they’re going to charge me for monthly xolair injections, b/c their website is too stupid to realize that it’s a medication ONLY given in a doctor’s office, and not something they’re going to send me a 90 day supply of. I HATE EXPRESS SCRIPTS!!!!!
    rave: grouchy corgi is back with us. dogs are tired and snuggly from their adventures this weekend.
    rant: express scripts has ruined my morning.

    • How are Grouchy Corgi and Formerly Foster Puppy getting along?

      • epric002

        just swimmingly textdoc! he is sweet to her and licks her ears and she tolerates it 🙂 occasionally he grumbles at her and she just ignores him. they’re a lovely odd couple.

        • I love this. My Yorkie loves to run up to my parents’ Golden Retriever and lick her ears or nose then run away, just to do it again. She is very tolerant.

          • epric002

            lol, funny! formerly foster puppy usually gives her kisses in the morning when we’re all waking up and then will just randomly lick her ears. he’s not super affectionate with other dogs, although he likes them. grouchy corgi is only affectionate with people, and only on her terms. do your yorkie and the golden play together?

          • Aww, I guess he is a morning dog!The golden is the only dog my guy will play with. He likes to see other dogs but doesn’t really play with them. He usually flat out ignores other dogs on walks in the city, which seems to offend some owners for whatever reason.

          • epric002

            very cute 🙂 hahaha, standoffish dogs crack me up.

  • Rave: Met dear friends’ beautiful new baby daughter this weekend and she is -darling-. Also learned that another good friend is pregnant. So many wonderful new babies to love!
    Rave: Gary took his first walk on a leash this weekend and was so good and adorable. He made a few new doggie and human friends and a good time was had by all.
    Rant: I had scheduled three workouts for the week, canceled them all and barely walked anywhere over the week. I am filled with nervous energy and am not sure when I’ll get to work out again this week.

    • Late Rave: The Black Mirror Christmas special was easily my favorite episode. It’s not on Netflix but I found it online easily. John Hamm + Black Mirror = happiness.

  • emvee

    Rave: Going to the grocery store while everyone else was at home watching the superbowl. Thanks for the suggestion you guys!
    Rant: People who hotbox their Zipcar right before other people use it. I DON’T WANT TO PAY TO DRIVE IN YOUR WEEDMOBILE.

    • LOL on your rave on my suggestion!
      Alas, during the Super Bowl I was so busy (doing a major tidying/decluttering/organizing of my house, in preparation for a houseguest who arrives tomorrow) that I didn’t have time to go to the grocery store like I’d hoped.

    • Cinnamonster

      What a GREAT call! Oh, I am dreading the 6PM rush at the U St. Trader Joe’s today… I’m so bad at shopping in there, since you basically grab stuff while you’re in line as it winds through the store! I always forget stuff.

      • emvee

        If I can’t get to that Trader Joes before 5:20, then I don’t even try. Good luck at line shopping, and remember that, at the end, you’ve earned that bottle of wine you impulsively grab before checkout.

        • Cinnamonster

          Ha! Or all of those incredible chocolates. Sometimes I just end up caving at 5:30 and going to Yes! in Cleveland Park (I live in Woodley), but TJ’s really is so much cheaper. And I have student loans to pay. 😛

      • skj84

        So my Aunt decided it was a good idea to hit up Costco on Superbowl Sunday, and was shocked. SHOCKED that it was pandemonium. Apparently it took her an hour to get out of the parking lot.

    • Emmaleigh504

      I did the same! The only problem I had was the slim possibility of snow so milk, eggs, and TP were almost empty. Only a few of the really spendy stuff left on the shelves. (I didn’t check the bread, but it was probably gone too.

      • topscallop

        I went to the store a little before the game started and the shelves were empty of most of the things I wanted…to make guacamole for a party. Shame on me for last-minute planning!

        • Emmaleigh504

          yeah, I wasn’t thinking and wanted avacodas, I finally found some super not ripe ones. And I think they gave them to the lady in front of me 🙁

  • Accountering

    More important Rant/Rave
    Rant: AirBNB unceremoniously decided they were going to start collecting occupancy tax on short term rentals.
    Rave: My business is now legal and paying occupancy taxes (in addition to income taxes) and after introspection, I now truly feel like I am now playing 100% by the rules and happy to be supporting the city in this manner.

    • did AirBNB decide, or did the district force it and is the district earning revenue off the tax?

      • Accountering

        It sounds like AirBNB approached DC, as opposed to the other way around. The District is earning 14.5% on top of every booking and cleaning fee. They said so far in SF and Portland alone they have kicked in about 5 million in revenue in the past few months. I assume this approaches 1 million a month for DC.
        Now if only they can replace the batteries in the speed cameras, we can kick this deficit! Haha!

        • houseintherear

          What amazes me is that I paid taxes on the fees that AirBnB collected… the 1099 includes their company fees. How this can be considered legal really boggles my mind.

          • Accountering

            Umm.. You simply deduct the AirBNB fees on your tax return from the income you received. Further, if you rented your place for less than 14 nights, the IRS dictates that you simply don’t even have to include short term rental income in your taxes. If more than 14 days, you should be deducting any and all associated costs, including the AirBNB fees/pro-rated utilities/laundry detergent, mileage directly attributable to AirBNB etc.

          • Accountering

            It is legal, and AirBNB is REQUIRED to submit 1099s like this. 1099s HAVE to be on a gross basis, and it is your responsibility to deal with any expenses (including mandatory CC processing fees) on your tax return.
            They should make this clearer though, I agree. A simple communication letting you know that your income was reported on a gross basis, and that you “may” be able to deduct AirBNB processing fees on your tax return would have been helpful for people in your situation.

          • houseintherear

            From what I understand, the 1099 must be reported as it comes. I rented 15+ nights and was aware of that rule. I deducted as much as I could.

          • Accountering

            Correct. 1099 is reported as income, and then you deduct the 3% processing fee. It ultimately gets you to the same spot.

          • houseintherear

            Ok, Accountering. Thanks for the help. Sorry I’m an elementary school teacher and not an accountant. Have a good Monday.

          • Accountering

            Not trying to be a jerk, I apologize if I came off as such. I do agree with you that AirBNB could have made this process easier for people such as yourself who do not deal with things like this for a living.

    • TBH, it always made sense that AirBnB should be the one collecting the occupancy tax from the renter and distributing it to the municipal government. The fact that AirBnB fought it for so long is BS.
      At the end of the day, I think AirBnB is going to need to lower their fees, especially that 10% tax is now coming into effect. The amount they collect as a booking fee is absurd and ludicrously high, IMHO.

      • Accountering

        I agree, it should be AirBNB collecting the tax. When you leave it up to consumers, with no enforcement mechanism, it simply gets ignored, ala the “Use tax/Internet Sales Tax”
        I also agree they will need to address their booking fee. They are now charging 12% booking fee, as well as a 14.5% occupancy tax on top of every reservation. Homeaway charges neither of those, and is now SUBSTANTIALLY cheaper.

        • Case in point – I just booked a vacation rental in Switzerland on Home Away for this next weekend. I will not be paying any fees, will pay the proprietor in cash upon arrival. The cost of the private apartment via Home Away ended up being only $20 more than a SHARED apartment (i.e. private bedroom) I was considering renting through AirBnB due to the ludicrously high cut AirBnB was charging. Made it a no-brainer for me.
          My guess is that AirBnB is trying to pad their revenue in the face of an IPO. Hence the (impossible-to-win) fight against taxes. Eventually, competition and taxes will will wear down AirBnB revenues, but by then public investors will be holding the bag.

      • All I care about is that AirBNB isn’t a way to skirt the hotel tax that, honestly, helps the District. The new “contract economy” or whatever it’s being called helps too many businesses skirt the tax issue. Now, perhaps there should be a “hotel tax” for legit hotels and “occupancy taxes” for Air BNB type places with no employees or services or something, but I still think if you are a short term rental, you should pay taxes.

        • Accountering

          I agree completely. I think AirBNB should have pushed harder for a lower level rate, perhaps 2/3 of the full 14.5%, but as long as everyone is paying it, I have no problem whatsoever paying it.

    • Prince Of Petworth

      A thread on this is coming at 1:30!

  • Mug of Glop

    Rave: Seeing Pete Carroll’s stupid face lose the Super Bowl.
    Rant: Seeing any team but the Lions win the Super Bowl. We will win eventually. One of these days, we will win.
    Rave: No snow today. Everyone back home in Michigan is pretty much snowed in place.
    Rant: No snow day today. Just gross rain and foreboding darkness.

  • Rant: Liking someone at times more than they like themselves. It’s frustrating! Any suggestions to boost someone’s self-esteem more than telling them they’re great?
    Rave: Hopefully back to work tomorrow.
    Rave: Had a potential roomie confirm for tonight, so hopefully she’ll show.
    Rave: Chillaxing today…what to do?

    • Re their self-esteem: Try not just telling them that they’re great, but saying how much you appreciate certain things about them (or how they’re the BEST ____/you always look forward to their ____, etc.). As someone with admittedly low self esteem (although I try to hide it), it’s difficult. You always feel like someone can do it better, that you’re not worthy, etc. I have a hard time believing people like me/want to spend time with me/that my boyfriend really likes me. All of which i recognize is ridiculous, but sometimes hearing from someone else the little things they appreciate about me makes a huge difference. And trust me, it’s frustrating on the person who has low self-esteem – lacking confidence and strength is exhausting and makes me just want to go and hide (and I love people! I don’t want to hide!).

      • Yea, I’ll try it. What you mentioned is what we’re dealing with, but we’re not quite to labels yet. She has said or almost I’m too good for her or similar a few times because I’m really nice and don’t care if our plans have to change because she made a flub. That’s just me. She’s used to someone being pissed at the smallest things, putting her down, etc. I think she’s too good for me which makes the whole situation that much more frustrating because she doesn’t see all the great things she has or does.

        • I had to re-read your post to make sure I’m not dating you 😉 Something else to maybe articulate – if you EACH feel like the other is more than you deserve/you both feel lucky to be together, that probably means you’re doing it right/treating each other well.

        • Has this person been in an emotionally abusive relationship in the past? It sounds like it based on your post. If that’s the case (and I speak from experience), what may also be helpful is to remind her that EVERYTHING the former s.o. said was a lie. Because IT WAS. When I first started dating my current bf, I was hesitant to admit what I had gone through, and because of that, he had no idea why I would react to certain things the way I did, why I felt like such crap about myself, why I was hesitant to get involved after being called a whore by someone who also said he loved me, etc. etc. New bf was so patient and understanding and we worked on a lot of my triggers together- it was as if I had to re-learn how to communicate in a healthy way, trust that he meant what he said and wasn’t going to blow up at me over nothing or accuse me of cheating when I cancelled plans, for example. I could go on and on. Sorry! 😉 Maybe that’s not even what’s at play here. Just a thought.

          • Yea, and the ex is still trying to stay in the picture to get money. She didn’t provide it, but the idea that their whole relationship could have been a ploy to get money really hit her hard. I’ve done what I can on that front. She constantly asks if x thing makes me mad, says sorry for everything (like my choice to avoid the super bowl because she’s not into sports), etc. It’s like she can’t believe that I’m as nice and even keeled as I present, and she’s waiting for evil me to come out. There is no evil me, of course.

          • ^^ this.
            I was also in an emotionally abusive relationship in the past. My most recent ex (first relationship since the bad one) would get a bit annoyed because I apologized all the time, and I would get pretty anxious if I thought I did something wrong/ask if x was okay a lot. He kept saying it didn’t seem like I was completely comfortable with him – I was, but It was just so hard to get used to someone treating me well and actually being happy, I was afraid that if I did something wrong I’d suddenly lose him. I told him about my previous relationship, but I don’t think he entirely understood.
            Best of luck to you both. Not an easy situation, but I hope you are able to work through it and she starts believing you.

          • Wow. That’s awful. Much of it is about trust, so just keep being awesome and patient and not evil so she can build up trust that you are a VERY different person. (Also, is she seeing a therapist? That could help. She’s certainly dealing with a lot.)

          • Anon for this- I said something like that re: comfort. I’m not getting annoyed just sad for her that such a great kind person chose to put up with that situation. I’m extremely patient, so I don’t think I’ll get annoyed any time soon. I guess if all you’ve ever had was negativity, its hard to grasp that someone is genuine because I’m sure that person was nice at first then turned ugly.

          • That’s good! I didn’t mean to imply that you were getting annoyed with her, just that my ex did occasionally and it was not as helpful as reassurances would have been (which you seem to be doing very well). 🙂 It just takes time.

          • Ally

            I was wondering that too. I had an emotionally abusive relationship a couple years back that was so horrific that I took an entire year off from dating just to recover from it all. Definitely does some damage — at least temporarily.

        • Wow. Sounds like she was in a borderline emotionally abusive relationship. I’ve had my fair share of crappy relationships (I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop in mine). It just will take time and trust for her to realize how great you think she is, and how much she deserves to be happy and in a healthy relationship. When plans fall through (i.e. dinner), offer to come over with a pizza from your favorite place for a movie night, show her you’ll always be there for her, get to know her closest friends and, if it’s a relationship you can nurture, pull the friend aside and ask if she’s noticed it before and if so, what SHE usually does, and if not, can she please help propping up your lady? Having a friend text me the reasons that I’m great/remind me how hard working and caring I am tends to help :-/

          • The plans thing happened last night and dinner was awful! Then she felt bad for picking the place with the crappy waiter. Ugh! We did luck out on restaurant week though. I feel leery of enlisting a friend because it could make her feel self-conscious or they might not know. I’m sure we’ll work it out. Thx!

      • This. So much this. Also telling them WHY you’re glad they’re in your life (“I’m so glad I’m dating you because you always know the right thing to say to me after a bad day” “It makes me so happy when I get to wake up next to you in the morning”) makes them feel more secure.

        • Thanks for all the ideas. I’ve done some but not all. It sucks that she has had such crap people in her life because she’s really awesome.

          • Yeah, but then what happens when she does something that’s not awesome? I think the thing with having low/fragile self esteem is that it’s not just needing to understand that you’re awesome, it’s also understanding that you’re not perfect and that that’s ok. I actually think it’s much harder to accept that flaws and mistakes are not a reflection of our value as a person; they are part of what makes us human. While it’s great to remind the people we love of how wonderful they are and how grateful we are to have them in our lives, you run the risk of falling into the trap of having to constantly validate this person, and that’s not healthy for either of you.

          • It sounds like you’re the right person to help her through this – thank you. Just keep remembering the hell she’s been through and that you’re really helping. It takes several small steps to get back to healthy/normal.

          • Thinking she’s awesome doesn’t mean I’m totally overlooking flaws. Awesome for me is good outweighing the bad which is happening. She’s always late, so I just plan to leave later or tell her an earlier time than we need…easily worked around. I’m sure we’ll each do something the other hates; no one is perfect.

          • Ally

            Yeah, agreeing with Anon 11:03. It may be that she’s somehow worried that things will go wrong or you’ll up and end things (if she’d been in a horrible relationship prior, you tend to get paranoid about those things). Wonder if she’d be up for talking about fears along those lines, if she has any? I know I certainly relaxed a lot around my fiance when I realized that I could be the dorky, sometimes complaining, person I am and he was still in it for the long haul.

          • Yes, Ally, you did a much better job of articulating what I was trying to say. I hope it didn’t sound like I was saying Anon Spock’s friend sucks! My point was that it’s important to know that your friends love you and think you’re great whether you’re introducing them to a new restaurant or showing up late. I think that’s a hard thing to get when you’ve been abused emotionally. That it’s ok and normal to make mistakes, or be goofy, or to have a bad day. Sometimes you can fix it and move on, sometimes you can’t. Some of us have to work extra hard to resist the urge to beat ourselves up, and to understand that people will still love you. Self esteem is about self acceptance. Being able to accept who you are, warts and all. I really like the idea of asking her about her fears in that area.

    • On your rant, in my experience, you can’t make someone love themselves. It’s one of those things that a person has to sort out for themselves. It’s emotionally draining to try to prop them up, and it’s a temporary solution at best. There are people in my life who struggle with this, and it’s heartbreaking. You feel so helpless and you just wish you could pull out a magical wand that would make them see themselves like you and their loved ones do. I really think cognitive therapy is the best solution. Self loathing is a habit, and a good therapist can help a person identify and break some of those harmful patterns.

      • REALLY!? It’s not temporary. I’m becoming stronger after YEARS of people tearing me apart (guys in college, a few guys after college, girls with nothing better to do, bosses with short tempers…). My friends complimenting me helps. Which is why I love to bake – it gets me great compliments that help booster my self esteem.
        Being negative around/about another person’s situation actually makes things worse. I hope if you suggest therapy to your friends you don’t do it negatively, ie, you need therapy. I hope you say it with compassion, recognizing that they’re probably going through a lot, feel like sh*t, and a negative word in the wrong place can drive them away from EVERYONE. I ALWAYS react negatively when someone suggests therapy, because I’m not suicidal; my experiences while crappy are better than they could have been; and I find more comfort in making _myself_ strong – which sometimes needs a kind word from someone I care about.

        • I think, Erms, you may have read this comment wrong. Anonymous was said the friend’s support was only a temporary solution, not that the friend who is suffering is only temporarily suffering from self esteem issues.

          • Yes, thanks anon, that is exactly what I meant, and Erms, I’m sorry that my comment upset you. I absolutely think it’s important to compliment our loved ones; I was just saying that I don’t think compliments alone are enough to make someone love themselves.

            I’d also like to push back a bit on your comments about therapy. I know so many people (myself included) who utilize therapy to help them through life. Seeing a therapist doesn’t mean that one isn’t strong, and one doesn’t necessarily have to be suicidal to benefit from therapy. I can totally see how someone saying “You need therapy” could be stigmatizing, but that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with seeing a therapist. To me, it’s no different than seeing my general practitioner, a chiropractor, etc. Our mental and emotional needs are just as important as our physical ones.

          • That’s how I read it – I should have written more articulately/less angrily. I won’t disagree that there are some cases that need professional help – i.e. the source isn’t something that kindness and compassion can fix. But telling someone they need therapy can be incredibly offensive – for me, it augments/heightens my issues. I tend to cut myself off from those who suggest therapy (i.e. part of my support group) and retract into myself _more_ and feel even more insecure. My point is that this is like telling someone who’s insecure, hey, your issues are pretty deeply ingrained. I don’t think you’re going to to get through it, you aren’t strong enough to deal with this on your own. That can be devastating for an insecure person to hear. They need to come to that conclusion on their own if they need therapy.

          • Anon 11:03 – I don’t mean I think it’s ineffective. I’m just giving you my perspective, as someone who has struggled with even just liking themselves. I don’t know Anon Spock’s ladyfriend’s personality – I just wanted to highlight (after an admittedly knee-jerk reaction to the idea that only therapy can help, and I apologize for that) that some people will not react well to someone they love saying that they can’t help, but seek out therapy. Maybe it’s just me, but I find strength in telling myself “I’m not that bad, I don’t need therapy, I can get through this with help from a friend” vs. feeling like I need to pay someone to fix me. That’s not that I don’t think therapy is good – several friends have seen therapists and seem better off for it. But it’s not for everyone/may sap their source of strength until the therapist can figure out another source for them.

    • Sounds draining and needy. Best advice is Tell them seek professional help. You’ll probably eventually become fatigued and resentful.

      • Needy for me is someone who needs constant validation to survive…like if I didn’t call them right back and they flipped. I’ve been there. In this case, I’m wanting to help someone work on her issues because I like her and know she’s worth assisting in whatever way makes sense.

    • I’m not a strong believer in telling people people how great they are since (to me) it almost always sounds forced and artificial. I think it takes more effort, but is more effective, to just hang in there and show by your continued presence that you find worth in them, to avoid saying “you’re so great” because they said something self-denigrating (OK, you probably should say something then, but it’s low-impact) and remember to say “yeah, great idea” or “I never thought of it that way,” or “how did you figure that out?” (you get the drift) at times when they’re not expecting it. Let yourself be persuaded or have your mind changed — hard for everyone to do, but especially if your LSE friend is hesitant to press a point –and listen harder to their feelings and opinions than you need to do around the rest of us insufferable blowhards.
      I’m not sure that you can persuade someone to believe that they have self-worth. But you can show them that you — someone they care for and respect — believe it. And then maybe they can convince themselves.

  • Rant: Rain
    Rant: Metro creeps. Got on at Columbia Heights and asked to sit in the window seat that a man had left open. He scooted over instead (works for me) and then proceeded to use shuffling things in his pockets as an excuse to shift his hips towards me. I scoot further against the armrest to separate us and he does it again! I mean, at this point he looks pretty ridiculous because his head it where you would expect it, but his hips are basically in the middle of the two seats. By Shaw, I’d had enough and just got up and stood. Oddly enough, dude managed to remember how to sit up straight when a man sat next to him. Ugh, that kind of crap makes me so mad.

  • Rave: The Imitation Game. Definitely my favorite Oscar movie thus far.
    Rave: The Blacklist is back! Totally worth waiting through those terrible post-Super Bowl interviews. It’s kind of amazing that James Spader has been playing smarmy rich jerks who are smarter than you since the 80s and that it’s still entertaining after all these years.
    Rant: Soooo tired this morning, and the rain is not helping me get motivated.

    • Rant: Blacklist! We watched season 1 on Netflix and wanted to catch up on season 2 but Hulu starts part way in….so we cant watch season 2! I don’t get it – shouldn’t the network WANT us to catch up? So frustrating because we like the show

  • Rant – People who hog the space in airplane overhead bins. It drives me nuts.
    Rave – Coming home from work travel to my SO and my doggie. 🙂
    Rant – Jet lag. This weather. I really wanted a snow day to catch up on sleep 🙁

  • Rave: Met a cool guy Friday night! We had really good chemistry (And yes, we hooked up).

    Rant: the waiting game. Is he gonna call? Blah blah blah. Can’t stop thinking about it. Grr I hate being such a girl.

  • Rave: Ski weekend. We had a great group of people and awesome conditions. I was worried being a total newbie would mean bunny hill purgatory, but I did really well and skied with my friends a bunch. Add in awesome food, drinks, hot tub, games, and lounging in my onesie, almost picking up a guy wearing a unicorn onesie (so close, bad timing) and it was almost perfect….
    Rant: except, Corolla+mountain+snow+30 mph winds= stuck. I’m still not 100% sure how the Connecticution and Michigander got stuck, but the Georgian made it up. But we all got there, no one froze, and AAA finally came through after a few hours on the phone.
    Rant: I get that not everyone likes sports, but some of my friends actively try to remain ignorant to the point where it’s a bit annoying. If you’re attending a Superbowl party, some people will probably want to watch and even hear some of the game. If you don’t care about sports I assume you’re there to watch the ads and half-time show, but apparently I went to the wrong party because no one would stop talking or playing games throughout the whole thing.
    Rant: Sick because of hypocritical idiots who came to work sick last week! I seem to be self-contained with a sinus infection, but I’m incredibly annoyed at them and my congested head almost exploded yesterday while I drove down a mountain, unable to pop my ears.

    • palisades

      Totally agree about Rant 2. I parked my ass on the couch right in front of the TV because the crowd of people couldn’t care less about the game. My Pats won though, so it was all worth it 🙂

    • skj84

      Also agree on Rant 2. My extended family came over and were talking over each other during the commercials. I almost missed the revel of the infamous Nationwide commercial because they were so loud.

    • Accountering

      I was quite pleased at my party. The people who weren’t super interested in the game mostly hung out in the back behind the couch and stuff, and all the dudes sat on the couch and watched. We had a lot of fun!

    • Yes, those people drive me nuts! If you hate football that much, then why go to a Superbowl party? It’s one thing to attend a party knowing you’re mostly just going to watch the ads and halftime show, and another to be obnoxious about it.

    • 2nd to your rant, but tangentially: I am so annoyed by how many people seem so pleased with themselves about not liking football or paying attention to the Super Bowl. There were so many self-satisfied facebook statuses yesterday along the lines of “go football go!” or “I heard there’s some kind of sport game today?” or other such things. Of course you’re not required to like football, but you don’t get special snowflake points for being “different” or “quirky” because you actively don’t care. A thing one of my students once said comes to mind: “If you’re really cool, you don’t have to tell everyone about it.”

  • Quotia Zelda

    Rave: One of my favorite friends from college (and her husband) recently adopted a beautiful baby. They had been dealing with infertility for a very long time, and I’m super thrilled for them.
    Rave: Eldest Zelda’s car privileges were restored a couple of weeks ago (after about 6 weeks on hold), and she is being very responsible with the car.

  • skj84

    Bonus rave: Working from home today!

  • SFT

    Rave: Listening to my ‘office grandparents’ talk about the halftime show last night is hysterical… “That Katy Perry girl is such a talent and those dancing sharks were just wonderful”….”I bet she is a nice and polite young lady”…”And that comet that she rode out on, what a fearless young lady, I hope she goes on to big success”
    Rant: Kiddo cutting his last molar. Poor kid. Poor us.

  • justinbc

    Rant: Short term rental laws in New Orleans are a real pain in the ass. This is making our vacation house shopping down there very frustrating.

  • Rant: Neighbor who will not say hello! We’ve actually “met” and everything, but she will not say a simple “hello/good morning/hey.” Why rent a house in a neighborhood if you’re not going to take the smallest of steps to be neighborly? It’s so easy!

    Rave: Baby is saying what sounds an awful lot like “hey” and “mamammaa.”

    • As a friendly neighbor myself, I’d probably be taken aback by this too. But, consider this- shyness, social anxiety, lack of/difficulty with social skills, who knows? Unless this person is a raging B, then assume it’s something either out of her control or something she’s working on. Or just allow her to be whoever she is and let it roll off your back. Always be first to say hi, then count yourself lucky if this is the worst thing about your neighborhood.

      • You’re right, I should be more empathetic. And while it’s definitely not the worst thing about my neighborhood it is something that seems so “simple” to do that it bothers me more than it should.

        • Allison

          Playing devil’s advocate, it’s possible she’s trying to avoid being the “annoying” neighbor? (Think Ned Flanders — “hididdlyho neighborino!!!!!!!!”)

        • I’d say you don’t need to be empathetic – just care less about it. Maybe they have social anxiety, maybe they don’t like you, who knows? Not everyone who lives near you is going to be Mr. or Ms. Friendly Neighbor, not everyone wants to be buddies. As long they’re not making your life worse then you’re doing OK.

  • Rant: conference calls in corporate America. Basically all we do.

    Question: where can I buy really cool wall paper? Thanks!

  • Pablo Raw

    Rave: didn’t watch the superbowl, didn’t watch the half time show; probably will never watch it.
    Rant: my hands are cold, and I have big hands. But soon I will be
    Rave: going to a place where weather is sunny and 90 degrees.

  • Rave: Stayed in and cooked all day Saturday! Delicious week of food ahead. Today’s lunch is a roasted sweet potato salad with a spicy vinaigrette and cheesy broccoli spaghetti squash for dinner! I wish I had more Saturdays off.
    Rant: The job hunt. So unsuccessful.

  • Andie302

    Rave: We got to meet some of the new neighbors over the weekend (thanks to an impromptu invite from the immediate next door neighbor to his birthday celebration). It seems like we have a great group of neighbors! I cannot wait to move in.
    Rant: That play call
    Rave: Lots of downtime this past weekend…it was welcome
    Rave: Potential for a last minute trip in a few weeks, fingers crossed (and open to suggestions for anywhere that southwest flies)
    Rant: I haven’t been running and need to start training now for the 10-miler. I know I can do 3-4 miles, but that’s not nearly enough. I’ve decided to motivate myself by scheduling a massage after running 50 miles. That’s definitely something that will get me to do an extra mile or so during my early workouts, and hopefully get my miles up more quickly.
    Rant/Rave: Signed up for Weightwatchers online today. I need to get my act together and had success with it in the past. I foresee some healthy soups and lots of roasted veggies in my future.

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rave: Sweden in just a few weeks!

  • I Dont Get It

    Rant: I can no longer say I rarely have problems with cabs since this morning’s driver was clueless about navigating downtown DC during rush hour. I finally had to take over navigation and made him turn off the meter. We went all the way to 27th, came back to 15th to get to 20th.
    Rant: Remind me again why “America the Beautiful” isn’t our National Anthem? John Legend killed it last night.

    • I will omit my opinion of “America the Beautiful” and just say the “The Star Spangled Banner” is the most badass national anthem I’ve heard (when played and sung properly). It does not lend itself as well to our nation’s pop singers, but that’s not what the national anthem is for.

      • Agreed, the Star-Spangled Banner has always been my favorite. Yes, the high note at the end is daunting, but IMO nothing that a professional singer should not be able to handle.

    • I Dont Get It

      Shouldn’t a national anthem be something everyone can sing not just a trained singer? Idina Menzel did an excellent job last night but the silence in the stadium was deafening. We need to take that song and let it go.
      Also the lyrics to a national anthem shouldn’t insult one of your closest allies.

    • skj84

      and it’s easier to sing! Loved John Legend’s rendition of America the Beautiful. I think it was the Ray Charles arrangement? Or very similar.

    • I’m all for “Mine Eyes Have Seen the Glory” because it has a simultaneous bad assery and oompa-loompaishness to it.

    • saf

      I would prefer “This Land is Your Land.”

  • Quotia Zelda

    Just remembered my Rant: Four-hour WebTA training this afternoon.
    Related Rave: At least it gets me out of taking Middle Zelda to the dentist this afternoon. I will take the kids to any doctor’s appointment, but I try to avoid taking them to the dentist.

    • Andie302

      In middle school my mom go so tired of taking me to the orthodontist that she wrote me a note and gave me cab fare. Mind you, she went to high school with the only cab driver in our town, so she was pretty comfortable with the arrangement.

      • Quotia Zelda

        Oh yes, the constant orthodontist appointments. We’re getting ready to start those again with Youngest Zelda.

  • Rave: Friend from my hometown is coming to D.C. for work this week and is staying at my place. Will be nice to socialize, and it’s provided a sorely needed impetus for me to get the house presentable.
    Rant: Since the house had basically gone feral, I spent ALL weekend cleaning and tidying… and I still have a lot to do. To that end, I’m actually taking today off work — probably sounds ridiculous, but I figure I might as well take advantage of the motivation/energy while I’ve got it.
    Rant: Been burning the candle at both ends and am pretty sleepy, as evinced by my posting twice as “textbox” before I even noticed.

  • rant: didn’t do as well as I liked on the Foreign Service Exam saturday.
    Rave: Oh well, I already have a pretty good job
    Rave: Tom Brady’s face after that crazy reception by kearse
    Rant: Tom Brady’s face two plays later

  • Pablo Raw

    Rave (bonus): Had a lot of fun at the Armory watching and photography the DC Roller Derby. Incredibly competitive, and happy to support a local sport. There were around 1900 people there or more.

  • Rave: Watching the Superbowl with good friends who weren’t terribly invested in either team/football in general. Had a fun time, good mix of watching and chatting/drinking/etc. My ex was a big Seahawks fan, this was much more low-key!
    Rant: We were streaming it from NBC and they didn’t play a lot of the ads. Although it sounds like most of them were pretty depressing/we weren’t missing much, anyway.
    Rant: So tiiiiired this morning…

    • skj84

      Both my sister and my parents were streaming online and mentioned a lot of the same ads were played in a loop. I wonder what the reasoning was behind that decision? Since the ads are one of the biggest reason many people watch the Superbowl.

      • Even Super Bowl ads are tailored to geographic areas. Not all ads play in all places, even in the US.

        • skj84

          it wasn’t just the local ads though. My sister didn’t see some of the major ones like the Nationwide Commercial at all.

          • Same. Didn’t see Budweiser or anything. Just the same few commercials over and over, and then long pauses of a blank screen with “Your coverage with resume momentarily.” One of my friends said they may have sold spots for tv and spots for Internet separately, perhaps, and not everyone bought the spots for Internet. It was kind of weird.

    • Huge effing rant: just found out my ex, who said he broke up with me a few months ago because of depression and anxiety and to focus on school, is seeing someone. He posted on the Washington subreddit asking for valentines day restaurant ideas, which I follow. I’m so hurt.

      • skj84

        Ouch. I’m so sorry about that.

      • Andie302

        Sorry this happened 🙁 Do you think he knew you would see it?

      • Sorry to hear this. And it must’ve stung to find out that way.

      • Emmaleigh504

        That sucks. 🙁

      • I’m sorry you had to find out that way, littlen. 🙁

      • I don’t think he knew I’d see it, no. I don’t think he knew I knew his username (but it’s the same as his okcupid one was).
        I just… I’d sent him an email going no contact recently after we’d been trying to stay in touch. Last I heard (a week or two ago) he was saying he wanted to know how I was doing but it was too difficult, and he was doing even worse than before with everything. Apparently it was a load of bull, and I have been so worried about him. And he was saying he wants to do more than normal flowers etc for her – when he didn’t put any effort into Valentine’s with me last year. It just really, really hurts. At least this we’ll help me move on.
        I may have sent an ill-advised text saying I’d seen it. Sigh… I don’t want to be the crazy ex but that is pretty hurtful. We we’re still friends on FB and that so I’m completely cutting him off now.

        • That’s really hurtful of him, I’m sorry.

        • I’m sorry. That’s always awful to hear that, and really hard not to take it personally. I think that cutting off all contact is a really good way to take care of yourself right now.

      • hammers

        He may still have depression and anxiety and want to focus on school, but maybe couldnt handle being alone. It is possible he wants to see someone who will enable him to not fix his problems, while avoiding the lonliness. I was given the same reasons for a breakup once, and I think I was someone he could have had a real future with, but he wasn’t ready/too depressed and anxious to look those ugly issues in the face and battle them. I’m sorry for the hurt you must be feeling.

        • I just got an e-mail from him. That’s exactly what it was. Still hurts, but at least I know he wasn’t lying to me. Apparently it’s very recent, he’s been very lonely (he doesn’t have any friends here either, really) and his friends/family have told him to try dating again.
          It’s just… I would’ve stayed with him and helped him. I also thought I had a serious future with him. He’s the best relationship I ever had. It’s just a sad mess all around.

          • ::hugs::

          • 🙁

          • hammers

            I know how you feel, I could have written that myself. I was hurt that I spent over two years trying to help him with depression/anxiety, hurt that I wasn’t enough of a motivation to get better, hurt that he found my love was a burden because he couldnt live up to it. Hurt that someone I trusted so much would make such a bad choice. But, as trite as this is, it’s called a breakup because it’s broken. He made a choice. It may be a bad one, but he wasn’t willing to put into the relationship what you were, and you deserve more. Time does help with perspective. Hope you have a good pal to talk this out with

          • Hammers – I’m really sorry to hear that. 🙁 It helps to know I’m not the only one and that there’s really nothing I could have done. I’ve been feeling like I wasn’t good enough and also like I was a burden instead of motivation to get better – it kind of helps to know that nothing I could do would be enough, really. Thank you.

          • I’m really sorry, I know this sucks. I have been through a similar thing with a guy. We were together, it seemed really promising, then out of no where a break up. Then he comes back a few months later saying he made a mistake and was just overwhelmed/anxiety got the best of him. I really liked him so I took him back. That last all of a few weeks before another break up, tried to stay friends, and eventually I had to cut contact. He has since tried again, but I’ve moved on. I had to make the decision that I could not fix him. Just like you can’t fix this guy. It’s not that the feelings weren’t there or real. Sometimes you just have to accept that you can meet someone and they can be perfect for you and you for them but the timing just will never be there.

          • hammers

            happy to share my experience to show you that no, you are not alone. And I know it’s been a few months for you, but keep on trucking…there is a light at the end of this. For me, I am in a happy new relationship with someone who really appreciates me. While I still miss my ex and will probably always love him, I am starting to realize that happiness without each other is possible, for both of us.

          • Ditto Hammers – I’m now in a wonderful, caring relationship that goes both ways. It helped me to also realize that I have co-dependent tendencies and being with an overly anxious person fed into that perfectly. In reality, looking back, it wasn’t perfect. It just felt like it at the time. Hopefully with time and perspective, you will find peace Littlen.

          • Yeah, I have some depression issues myself. My mom said she’s just as glad – my dad has very bad depression, and she said it was hard enough for her to handle even though she doesn’t have any issues. It probably would’ve been too tough for me to be with him. I just know that rationally, but have a harder time accepting it emotionally since everything was pretty much perfect until the abrupt break up.
            Thanks to both of you. 🙂 I’ll get through it. At least this makes it easier for me to move on now…

      • I am SO sorry! Finding things out like that is the worst — it’s hurtful, but in a way, it’s the shock that really makes it difficult. I’m sending good vibes your way!

  • Went to H St. last night – (love Impala Cantina) – I’m wondering how street parking is going to work with the streetcars? Every car trying to parallel park, especially when waiting for an already parked car to pull out, is going to hold up the streetcar.

    • My guess is that DDOT eventually bans parking on H Street. They’ll let a few incidents – such as accidents – prove the point for the them. They did not do it initially because of the howls of protest that would emanate from some of the local businesses and prominent constituencies (ex-DC residents living in MD, people from NE and SE quadrants) that are still primarily car-bound.

      • Accountering

        I am skeptical of this. What would they do with the parking spots that are still there? There are significant bulb-outs at the intersections/streetcar stops that would make a bike-lane as I have seen others suggest troublesome at best.

    • Rant: My boyfriend isn’t coming to my friend’s wedding because he can’t afford it. I get it. I really do. I can’t afford it either. But…
      Rave: since he’s not going, I have more flexibility in my flight dates- which brings the cost down significantly. I’m going to stay with my dad who knows the bride- not all that well, but he always asks about her and really likes her. Given that, is it tacky to ask the bride if he can be my date instead? I never see him and I think we’d have a blast.

      • Accountering

        Didn’t the invitation come as a plus one? If the bride likes you enough to invite you to the wedding and give you a plus one, presumably she trusts you enough and would be okay with whoever you decide to bring as said plus one?

      • Emmaleigh504

        If the invite said plus one and you haven’t RSVPed as going solo, I see no problem with taking your dad. Unless boyfriends name was on the invite.

      • The invite was addressed to both of us, but we haven’t officially rsvp’ed, even though when she told me she was getting married I screamed YES WE’LL BE THERE!! So she is under the unofficial assumption that my bf is coming. I don’t think it’s tacky, but most wedding etiquette is lost on me. I guess I could just ask her myself… 😉

    • Oops. How the hell did this end up here? Sorry!

      But since I’m here… I live around the corner from H St. and stocked up on popcorn so I can camp out and watch the craziness on opening day. 😉

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: IEEE and their crappy database. It’s completely useless for searching unless you have a citation.
    Rave: Federal tax return in my account ready for my trip. (for the curious: it took about 2 weeks)

  • Rant – had a to reschedule a dentist appt and they can’t fit me in until April and seemed so confused that no, I couldn’t do 2pm or 10:45am – I get that everyone wants the early/late appts but don’t act like I’m being ridiculous when I ask for them!
    Rave – Cooking dinner w/ the boy this week – if this becomes a ‘thing’, may inspire me to try some new recipes!
    Rant – it’s 11:30am and I’m starving for lunch. Clearly, this is going to be a long week.

    • My boy and I cook together a lot – especially weekends when he’s working from home, nights I know he’ll be in town, etc. He usually gives up working and helps (it’s adorable watching him cut the more pungent onions, haha). Check out Mark Bitman’s aps – I’m obsessed with Panko-crusted chicken breasts from How to Cook Everything. I’m also thinking of just making a big batch of homemade pasta sauce for us and freezing dinner-sized portions so all we need is pasta and salad stuff for dinner.

  • RAVE: Skipped the Super Bowl shenanigans and had a great dinner at Iron Gate. The restaurant was pretty dead, but our service was outstanding & attentive plus we got the best seat in the house. Food and wine were incredible. I think I might make this a Super Bowl Sunday tradition (go to a great meal at normally busy restaurant).
    RAVE: Got back home in time to see the last 4 minutes of the game. That’s all I really wanted to watch – who cares about the rest of the filler? 😀
    RANT: need to pack and do laundry tonight and leaving tomorrow for my trip. It’s going to be a sprint these next few days 😡

  • Rave: Girlfriend back from Costa Rica.
    Rave: Tan lines!

  • I Dont Get It

    Rave: I was so ranty today I forgot my rave: Yes Market! I wanted to avoid TJ lines and I only needed a sweet potato. I got the Red Garnet (maybe Purple Garnet?) and it was the most delicious baked sweet potato I’ve ever had. I’m going back for more tonight.

  • Ally

    Rave: Won my Super Bowl pool with friends by including questions such as “Which song will Kathy Perry sing first” and “How many times will announcers use the word ‘deflate.'” Yeah, it’s a dirty win, but a win all the same.
    Rant: Getting to be such an old geezer that staying up to watch the game has just completely wiped me out today.

  • I Dont Get It

    Rant: That cab driver today is madeg me forget all my raves and rants.
    Rant: Lizzie the senior citizen dog fell down the steps again (I know irony) and knocked a front tooth out. Blood was everywhere in the hallway (I know irony).

  • I now know what tourists must go through when they’re setting up a trip to DC. Booked flights to London with my girlfriend and have absolutely no idea where to stay.

    • How much are you willing to spend? My favorite area is Fitzrovia/Bloomsbury – really convenient, great connections to the tube and walking distance to many sights. When family visited me in London we had them stay at the Fitzrovia Belle (pub with rooms upstairs, on Tottenham Court Road) or used AirBnB. Depending on how many people you have, AirBnB can be cheaper than hotels.

      • We’re staying 2 nights, so it’s unclear how much is OK to spend. I was thinking no more than $500 total for the 2 nights. That’s the absolute max, if we can get it for less, awesome. I checked Bloomsbury and that seems to be a good area. The whole thing is just overwhelming really, we just want a decent hotel close to the tube and from there we can figure it out.

        • Bloomsbury is great, you will be close to several tube stations and walking distance to lots of attractions (British Museum, SoHo, theatres). I often stay at one of the hotels along Bedford Place just off of Russell Square, stayed at both the Lancaster and the Clarendon. The rooms are tiny but you should be able to get something around here for 2 nights that’s less than 500 total

          • tonyr

            It really depends on actual dates, but I usually stay at the Hilton @ Paddington Station. It’s perfectly servicable and sometimes they have rooms for less than $200/night. Of course when they’re busy that can double/triple. It’s USP is being right in the station so you can walk out of the hotel and get to Heathrow in 20mins door-to-door. The area is pretty central, and it’s right on top of half a dozen tube lines.

  • Becks

    Rave: I went to the Chinese grocery store up in Rockville on Saturday and stocked up on frozen dumplings!! I have dumplings to last the winter!
    Rant: I bought something called Gluten cake which was next to the tofu and looks like tofu. It is not tasty. The outside cat would not eat it either.
    Rave: It’s a slow day at the office.
    Rant: I have a request for guidance from my boss which he hasn’t responded to in over a month and on Friday, I opened another request for guidance. I seriously doubt I will get any guidance.
    Rave: Last night’s Blacklist was great! I can’t wait until Thursday for the next show!

    • Quotia Zelda

      Great Wall? I love that place.

    • Is this gluten cake an actual cake or a block of gluten? Because if it’s a block of gluten that you THOUGHT was a cake, then….my rainy day just got brighter. 😉

    • Also, you wouldn’t happen to have noticed if they sell kabocha squash? Trader Joe’s used to but I guess it’s more of a seasonal fall squash. I was told to try a Japanese market. My kabocha addiction is desperate.

      • korean and chinese markets carry it almost year round. I’ve never not seen it at a hmart and great wall

      • I don’t know if they always have it, but I’ve definitely seen kabocha at Hana Market on 17th and U. It might be worth giving them a call if you don’t want to make the trek out to H Mart.

      • Really?? Oh my god if this is true I will be SO happy! I’ll have to check these places out. I ate so much kabocha last fall I started to get an orange tint. But I don’t care.

    • Was the “gluten cake” unflavored seitan? I love seitan when it’s properly flavored (in kombu broth, for example). But the idea of eating it plain make me gag a little.

      • Becks

        I didn’t notice any kabocha squash, but I had really just gone to stock up on oils and dumplings. So I didn’t really look at the vegetables. I did get some big sweet mandarins there.

        I had thought the Gluten Cake was dried tofu. I love lofu skin and though it was dried tofu “blocks”. It was not. I do not know if it was seitan, but it was not yummy.

  • Rant: Waiting.
    Rave: At least I can go to the barn while waiting.
    Rave: Fun super bowl last night seeing as how I had no team I was particularly rooting for.
    Rave: Planning our trek in Torres del Paine – the W circuit. It looks gorgeous. I cannot wait! Now to start training…

  • Rave: Sold something on Craigslist.
    Rant: The buyer was early AND I was reading PoPville and hadn’t noticed the time, so I hadn’t yet brought the item down from upstairs. I went up to get it, which took a few minutes because it was awkward to carry. When I got back to the door, the buyer was talking to a parking enforcement person who had just ticketed her for parking on the permit-only side of the street. I feel a little guilty, even though I probably shouldn’t. (I don’t know if she didn’t see the sign, or if she did but figured it didn’t matter because she’d be there for just a minute or two.)

  • RAVE: I’ve gotten back into the swing of balancing work, exercise/yoga, and art-making. Now to control caloric consumption. Anyone tried intermittent fasting?
    RANT: I’ve gotten myself into the same situation twice in the past half-year, falling for a woman with whom I’m spending a great deal of time, which seems only natural to me, especially if you try to cultivate an open heart, as I have in the past two years (very closed-off before). The rub is that neither of these women is “into me,” in that way, so it’s like I’ve spent an inordinate amount of emotional energy for no good reason whatsoever. I don’t understand why women are constantly seeking me out as a good friend and confidant, without wanting more. I really don’t think it’s fair to expect nothing but platonic feelings from me, especially when I’m a boyfriend in any other capacity, be it in time expenditures, rapport, and the love streaming out of my heart. Ugh.
    RAVE: orgasms are still as best as they’ve ever been.

    • Yessssssssssss. He’s back.
      We have so many question 😀

    • Andie302

      I’m guessing these women see you as a safe place to invest emotional energy without seeing you as having relationship potential (or alternatively, assuming you aren’t interested). Did you express an interest outright? I have definitely been in relationships where I assumed a guy wasn’t interested and proceeded accordingly, only to find out when I am well into another relationship that they had been holding out hope. I’ll also somewhat oblivious…so that could be on me. Don’t think of it as a waste, think of it as moving from being closed off to open, so that when you find a person that reciprocates, you’ll be an expert. In the interim, keep enjoying the yoga-induced pleasure!

    • Re: Rant #2, are these relationships where you gradually realized that you wanted them to be romantic, or relationships where you wanted romance from the start but didn’t say so until later on? If it is the latter, coming clean about your intentions early on will help prevent you from getting in too deep in a situation where the feelings are unrequited. Since most guys are very direct about expressing interest, they may assume that you aren’t interested if you don’t say so.

      But about the second part of your rant, it IS entirely possible to spend a lot of time with someone of the opposite sex in a platonic capacity. It doesn’t sound like you are wired that way, but there are definitely people who are.

      • Virtually ALL of my close friends throughout my life have been women, and I don’t often feel especially lovey for them. In these cases, one woman contacted me from out of the blue some months ago, after disappearing from my life back in 2011 (inexplicably), and I told her that ANY time we hang out, I’d be doing so with the intention of wooing her. She said, yeah, no, but we should still hang out.

        Second woman has just become a pretty close friend through our socializing and time expenditure, and while she’s definitely the sort of woman I’d be immediately attracted to (and I was), I didn’t enter into it with the intent of dating her. Now I’m crazy about her, and can’t ever seem to find a good way to say as such. I should also mention that we live VERY close to each other, and in the interest of good neighborly relations, I’d feel very very awkward expressing these sorts of ideas to a her. Like, REALLY close neighbors. Like any sleep, sexing, etc. that takes place in either of our lives tends to happen within fifty feet of each other.

        • Andie302

          Ahhhh the neighbor you mentioned before. Do you thinks he also has those feelings? This is tricky, but I would say it’s only as awkward as you make it. So, if, for example, you say to her “I am interested in you, I know we’re in a weird position, if you don’t want me to bring it up again I won’t, but I’m interested” then it could work. Or you could just move 🙂

    • Caveat first: I am not a doctor, nutritionist/dietitian, trainer, etc. Please consult health professionals for secondary, tertiary, quaternary, …, opinions.

      What is the objective for fasting? Fasting/juicing needs to fit the context. Please correct me if I’m off-mark, but based on the context of “[controlling] caloric consumption,” adjusting your sleep and the “how” of your diet may be more effective (vice “counting calories”). For instance, if you aren’t already, consider an “energetic level”/diet/sleep diary; note what you crave/consume, when, and its effects. If you do decide to fast/juice, try and ensure that you have “buffer” time and space, and be sure to ease into and out of it. Also, it’s an incredible period for self-reflection. We are all learning to balance demands on our resources, but we should remain steadfast in taking care of ourselves. Amidst your lifestyle adjustments, you may well find that redirecting energy from unrequited expectations serves to attract people who will also “build you up.”

      • Thanks for those thoughts. I was thinking more along the 5/2 plan, which is normal calorie consumption for my lifestyle on five days of a given week, and two days of severely restricted caloric consumption, perhaps 600-700 for that day. I’ve read about substantial weight loss and blood work benefits to be gained from this approach, many of them counterintuitive, or at least surprising to a layperson.

  • Query: Still fighting the low-back pain on one side. Stretching & rolling helped a lot last night, and then tweaked it again driving in wet shoes since my foot kept slipping off the clutch. Argh. Will do more stretching & rolling later. That said, it might be time for medical intervention of some kind. Do I go to a primary care person? A chiropractor? Physical therapist? If one of the latter (or something else entirely), do I need a prescription/referral? I know that partially depends on my insurance, but I don’t need referrals for specialists in general. I wasn’t sure if chiropractor/pt/whatever is different. Thanks!!!

    • Emmaleigh504

      I like to start at my regular doctor for stuff like this, in case it’s something minor. Then if I need a specialist they have a list of ppl they rec. Then I don’t have to find the specialist and I know it will be easy for them to communicate with my regular doctor.

      • epric002

        +1, especially if you haven’t seen anyone for this issue already. sometimes a couple days of muscle relaxers will take care of things. if not, i have found tremendous pain relief and lifestyle improvement from chiropractic. good luck!

  • Anonynon

    Revel: Do you want to get high? If you’re going, i’ll come along for the ride. Could you show me how to fly? Never been there but I’m not scared of heights….never been there but I’m not scared of heights…never been there but I’m not scared of heights.

  • ?: I really need to develop a filter so I can figure out when a teacher’s advice is actually helpful/truthful or just bitching. I listened to too many people today and found myself very confused.

    • Blithe

      Is it something we can help with? Or something specific to your situation/school/coworkers/students?

      • I think it’s mostly specific to my school – how to interact with certain people in charge and what to expect. Today we all had individual meetings where the first person who had it made it seem like a disciplinary action was being taken against several of us. Then another teacher said it was no big deal. Then I decided it was best to flat-out ask the principal what the meaning of it all is.

  • Rant: Why can’t DC follow Philadelphia’s lead (see § 12-808) and make it illegal to ride a bicycle on the sidewalk (unless you happen to be a kid – younger than 13 years old)?

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