Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • Farragut

    RAVE: Allison and I got to see our brand-new niece for the first time in Portland. She’s adorable even if she can’t do all that much besides look cute and kick her legs really hard.
    RANT: Allison got food poisoning the day after we got back from Oregon. I think she’s recovering? We’ll see if she posts today . . .

  • Rave: Went to yoga for the first time since the day before I went into labor with my daughter. It was amazing, but boy am I sore this morning!
    Rave: Still dragged my butt out of bed for a run this morning. Go me!
    Rant: Way too much going on in the next two weeks–contractors, wife’s business trip, doctor’s appointments….
    Rave: Had a lovely weekend recovering from the holiday. Love living so close to the zoo–checked out a bit of zoo lights with the kiddo last night & she loved it! She was mesmerized by one of the timed music/light displays. Hopefully we can go back next weekend and check out some more!

  • Rant/Rave: Third trip to Philly in a ten day period (onto bus ride #5 and #6) – I’d really like to actually be in my city of DC but after a year abroad and being unable to be with family for sickness, sadness, celebrations, and parties, it is nice to be there and be supportive.

    Rant: Heading up to funeral of my cousin’s mom mom – 3 weeks before my cousin’s wedding. A wonderful woman. Sometimes the craziness of showers and parties associated with weddings overshadows the idea of bringing people together but in our case…

    Rave: Her mom mom came to her bridal shower we threw and she was so happy, beaming, to be a part of this step in my cousin’s life. Plus we were able to make great memories and get great pictures.

  • Rave: I had successful, laid-back Thanksgiving dinner followed by a very low-key, lazy weekend with a lot of time on the couch.
    Rant: Mondays after long weekends are a struggle.
    Rave: Cranberry sauce stirred into my steel cut oats and fresh cardamon in my morning coffee. A good breakfast to start the work week.

    • Ever since reading this comment, I’ve been daydreaming about cranberry oats and cardamom coffee. I know what I’m having for breakfast tomorrow!

  • Rave: First time going out for Thanksgiving in a long time, and I had to turn down invites.
    Revel: Mother got her driver’s license which means newer car for me soon.
    Rant: Seller’s agents who delay the process….get on the ball people!
    Rave: Working from home is still great; although, I’m in the office today.

  • Question: Anyone know what was going on around 10th and I NE last night? A ton of transit police (what kinds of situations do they get involved in?), ambulance, fire dept SUV, etc.

  • Rave: A lovely thanksgiving weekend, it was fun to be out at Black Squirrel with fellow Popvillagers.
    Rave 2: Found an intact wallet by the Dupont metro yesterday and managed to get it to its owner pretty quickly since we had a couple of mutual social media connections, I’m still marveling at how small a world it is.
    Rant: rude email from fellow coop owner, with a subject line “wtf?” I’m sorry but he was on the board while I wasn’t and didn’t get the work done so this person has no right to be so angry that the contractors hadn’t finished the work in his place while he was away. Argh.

  • Rant: Two sewer back-up & floods in my basement rental apt. in one week – the second on the day before Thanksgiving.

    Advice: Basements will flood. Not a question of if, but WHEN.

    1. Be sure you have sewer back-up coverage on your insurance. (It is not usually part of standard basic coverage.) A proper professional clean-up is very expensive.

    2. Go to Home depot today and buy a $10.00 water sensor alarm, a $29.00 package of gel flood barriers and a wet vac. There are also water alarms that link to your cell phone, but I haven’t had time to research those yet.

    3. If you’re thinking about basement flooring – go with ceramic tile – but be aware that Home Depot cheaper tiles will vary in size by up to 1/4 inch from different boxes.

  • I Dont Get It

    Rave: Robby the Robot Christmas tree is up and all aglow! More importantly my tree was up before my neighbor’s across the street.

    Rant: Yesterday I noticed a house down the block that had never decorated before had a tree up. Maybe I didn’t win?

    Rave: Something new in my living room this year–My Holiday Village®.

    Rant: I’ve noticed that the residents of My Holiday Village® spend most of their time queuing up at the bakery or wandering aimlessly in the snow and no one seems to be concerned that the village’s only source of water is actually a mirror. This is what happens when you decriminalize marijuana.

  • Rant: Problems with my mother. She was smothering and kind of codependent all my life to the point where my sense of self has been really messed up, and I’ve been trying to make space for myself in the last few years by not going home for holidays. Now, however, she and my dad are upset that I yet again want to spend Christmas away from them. They just don’t get that I am putting my mental health first. A phone conversation with my mother over the weekend brought on a panic attack, which led to not sleeping last night, so now I’m a zombie at the office.
    Rave: Had two of my closest friends over for Thanksgiving, and everyone had a swell time. It was my first time roasting a turkey and making a proper meal for more than one other person, and everything turned out beautifully. (Also, my dog went nuts over all the turkey and other tasty tidbits he got to eat.) Food/event planning is something I really enjoy doing.

    • I’m so sorry about your issues with your mother. Those are always hard to deal with because whether or not you know they are based in reality, it’s so easy to take those criticisms and comments to heart. You might want to take a look at the “raisedbynarcissists” sub-reddit. I don’t want to diagnose your mom, but you will find a lot of folks with similar issues who may be able to offer you advice – or at least commiserate.

    • If they can’t respect your boundaries, then you are absolutely making the right choice by limiting your time with them. Cutting down (or off) contact with toxic family members is so hard, and there is so much pressure not to do it. But if interacting with them is negatively affecting your health, then you definitely owe it to yourself to do this. Best of luck.

      • Thanks for the support. All this is so difficult. The thing is, it’s not like my mother is truly awful or she was willfully hurtful or anything, and so I feel guilty and also kind of wonder if my problems are just in my head. Still, despite my mother’s protestations of not knowing anything was wrong and saying she is sorry, after more than 30 years, I think she is just incapable of seeing me as anything other than a mirror for herself. *sigh*

        • You’re welcome. FWIW, it has not been my experience that most toxic people have enough self-awareness to see that they are so toxic to deal with. Or the willingness to change what they’re doing enough to be less stress-inducing. And the fact that they are being unintentionally awful does not do anything to mitigate the harm they cause you. So set the limits you need to set, and try not to feel too guilty about it. Especially try not to *let her* make you feel guilty. Your well-being has to come first, because if you don’t protect yourself, who will?

  • Rave: Got the Christmas tree out of the attic, and put the wreath on the front door.
    Rant: Have not yet put the lights or ornaments on the tree.

  • epric002

    rant: the ferguson situation continues to reveal to me how many rude, inconsiderate, or racist people i know. my 19ish year old cousin basically told me to shut up after i called her out on that ABSURD william g lillas post that’s going around FB. oh, and she threw in “liberal media” for good measure. smh.
    rave: had a lovely thanksgiving.
    rave: got the house decorated, though it feels a little weird to have done it this early.
    rave: had new neighbors over for drinks.
    rave: puppy is allowed to increase walks/play again. thank the universe for a tired puppy!!!!!

    • Emmaleigh504

      I’m so glad I got off facebook, I don’t even want to know what all the good old boys and girls back home are saying. Now to google william g lillas even though I know it’s a bad idea.

      • Emmaleigh504

        whew! first hit was from snopes so I got the story without the crazy. people suck.

        • epric002

          tell me about it. all i did was post the link to the snopes article (as i have every time i see someone share it) and another cousin jumped in with “whether it’s true or false, the message is still the same”, aaaaand it just went downhill from there. yeeeeesh.

          • Accountering

            To be fair, the kind of people making that kind of argument are likely incapable of reading through the end of the Snopes rebuttal anyways.

        • I Dont Get It

          I couldn’t make it past the first paragraph.

    • skj84

      Oh yeah, I had someone post the william g lillas thing too. People are so stupid. So, so stupid.

      • epric002

        i am genuinely hurt and disappointed that people that i love are actually acting like this, and sharing horrible things like that. this is really upsetting to me 🙁

    • SFT

      I’m so sick of seeing that Lilas post. It’s been showing up in my news feed nonstop!

      • epric002

        well, if you want to alienate your (apparently racist/koolaid drinking) friends and family- do what i did! (i wouldn’t change how i responded at all, btw).

    • Agreed, it is awful. An old friend who is usually a sweetheart posted an article about how we really should stop questioning the story and just respect Wilson (because he’s a cop, and there are ABOLUTELY NO bad cops anywhere.) The he shouted down all of the naysayers. The proud ignorance (or, more commonly, I suspect, proud racism) on display in the reaction to this case is really depressing.

  • justinbc

    Rave: Glad to have parents come for a holiday visit, but also glad to have them gone. They’re getting messy in their old age and that does not mesh well with my OCD tendencies.
    Rave: We had a surprisingly good meal and decent drinks at Kitty’s Saloon (the “redneck cafe” or whatever they called themselves). I definitely did not expect the food to be good, but took my folks there kind of as a joke since they’re pretty darn country, but was really impressed with some of the flavors coming out of the kitchen. I still think thematically it’s all over the place, but ignoring that you can still have a good meal there.
    Rant: Facebook this time of year is the worst. It’s already terrible with everyone pointing out how other people should be celebrating or not celebrating, spending money or mocking consumerism, etc, but add in the Ferguson controversy and it was an interesting week to have off with lots of free time to kill watching people argue with each other.
    Rave/Rant: FSU finishes the regular season as the only undefeated team, still no gets no respect, despite the ACC going 4-0 against the SEC in rivalry matches this weekend.

    • Throw in that 35-7 shellacking by my Wolfpack over UNC too :p.
      But seriously, I have to disagree with the FSU argument. They have not beaten anyone convincingly all year. Close against NC State, Clemson had them on the ropes, Notre Dame should have won, BC had a chance, Florida should have won, but did not capitalize. Put FSU against a top SEC West team (Alabama, Auburn, A&M) and I feel it would be a blood bath and make the ACC look silly in the 4 team playoff – then again, I could be completely wrong. Yet another reason why College football is best!

      • justinbc

        Since when did winning convincingly replace actually winning as the main criteria? Oregon and Alabama have both lost a game, so they definitely didn’t win that one convincingly, since they failed to even win, period. FSU beat the best team from the SEC West last year, and even though it’s a very different team, I would never bet against the kid who’s never lost a game in 2 years running.

  • Rant: So, you were so enraged by the fact that my gym bag — stashed under a seat so I didn’t whack innocents with it every time I turned around on a crowded metro car, and nobody tripped on it as they exited — brushed your heal as you stood to change seats that you had to curse and donkey kick it? What, you didn’t get any this weekend? Stuck on the MegaBus in Turnpike traffic until 3AM? Another fight with a father who never appreciated who you really are? Or just another whipped commuter whose has no power over anything except an innocent bag?
    Rave: Breakfast banana not bruised in incident. I hate it when I bruise my banana in a crowded subway car.

    • justinbc

      My coworker found us all banana carrying cases, this little plastic shield that’s shaped just like a banana and keeps it from getting bruised. It’s like less than a dollar and so worth it!

    • I am afraid that I do not have a bananacase and would probably just lose it. On the other hand, I beat the Girlfriend at Bananagrams last night, much to her chagrin.

  • Rave: got the TV I bought rerouted to the ups facility when I accidentally had it shipped to Woodley.
    Rant: morning announcements that pretty much told us we all suck
    Rave/rant: took a sample standardized test today… The PARCC is new to all of us. Their sample questions are a hell of a lot more fair than the ones the county gives us. Now I don’t feel so bad about modifying EVERYTHING.
    Rave/rant: seeing a good friend who lives out of town tonight. He’s unavailable and I have a giant crush on him so that will be tricky

  • jim_ed

    Rave: Took the MARC train to Baltimore on Saturday for the first time to visit the German Christmas Market. The weekend service is smooth and easy – will definitely use it for any leisurely Bawlmer trips in the future.

    Rant: I had forgotten just how tourist trap-ish Inner Harbor is and how dumpy the Lexington Market area is.

    Rant: The price of Christmas Trees at Annie’s Hardware skyrocketed this year. I still bought one because Annie’s is the best, but I paid close to $60 for a tree similar to the one I paid $35 for last year. And so far, last year’s tree was a better tree.

    • We also paid $60 for ours, but we’re really happy with how it looks (got it from a nearby school fundraiser, not Annie’s).
      What kind / size did you get from Annie’s?

    • epric002

      i love annie’s trees! we paid more for ours this year too (though it’s gorgeous!) but i thought that was because they didn’t offer the discount rates until later in the season?

    • How was the Christmas Market? Worth trekking to the Inner Harbor?

      • jim_ed

        Depends on how much you like Christmas markets I suppose. A lot of junk being sold there – the market on F Street in Chinatown has better goods for sale, but they DID have gluwhein available (in ceramic mugs you got to keep), a great entertainer outside, plus real German products at a few booths. I don’t know that I’d go out of my way to go up there, but there are a lot worse ways to spend a Saturday.

      • I can’t answer for jim-ed (of course), but I stopped by on Friday. I enjoyed it for sentimental reasons, but objectively speaking I wouldn’t say it’s worth a special trip just for the market. It’s not very big, and generally speaking the wares on offer are not that interesting IMO. They have a small stage for musical performers but the two times I’ve gone, the music has been not so good and not even holiday-themed. The food and drink is OK. The centerpiece of the market is the Käthe Wohlfahrt shop, which is interesting if you’re into German holiday stuff, but possibly weird and creepy if you’re not.
        tl;dr – If you want to spend an afternoon in Baltimore, take time to stop by the Christmas Market. If you just want to go to a Christmas Market, don’t go all the way to Baltimore for it.

    • Accountering

      Stopped at a tree farm on 17 south of Fredericksburg. They wanted $80, and we had to cut our own, and bring it all the way home. We passed.

  • Pablo Raw

    Rave: I have no Christmas tree, lights, ornaments to worry about
    Rant: CyberMonday is now an extension of Black Friday
    Rave: Bought my yearly pair of earmuffs because
    Rant: I lose a pair or 2 every year
    Rave: Great Thanksgiving food with PoPvillians; if anybody is around for Christmas or New Years, I’m open to unofficial celebrations.
    Rave: I was able to turn my apartment into a photo studio and did a photo session for a portrait for an important contest.

  • Rave: Seeing my family over the holidays. I am especially glad that my daughter got to see and spend some time with both of her great grandfathers.
    Rant: Finding out that a dealership down in Hampton sold my grandfather a 2008 truck (V8) with 60K miles on it for $20,000. My grandfather is 89 years old and should not be driving what to me a street roadster type truck that people use for racing. How irresponsible of them but I guess all they care about is the money.
    Rant: My wife and I went out on a Friday night. Long story short, as we are walking away from 14th and U to our Uber on S st NW. As we walk into the crosswalk at T st. (we had the right away for sure and proceeded to walk into the crosswalk), a cop truck all of the sudden comes speeding up and cuts us off, literally a couple feet in front of us. I say to them as they are in their car “Really guys?” and we walk around the back of their vehicle and as we get around the vehicle near the back left taillight the cop/driver (a short little light-skinned dude…I know, I know) turns on his flashers/lights and jumps out of the car and yells out to us as we turnaround that “I CAN ARREST YOU RIGHT NOW FOR INTERRUPTING AN EMERGENCY VEHICLE ON THE WAY TO AN EMERGENCY”. My wife replies to him “Well if it is such an emergency then get back in your vehicle and go…” (knowing full well it was all some BS and there was no emergency since he only turned his lights on after we crossed behind him). His partner comes around the vehicle from the passenger side and says “What is going on here” and I say to him “I don’t know, ask your man”. At this point, I just smirk, waive dude off and dismiss him (the hothead cop) and start to walk off. He goes on to say something else and then my wife puts him in total check again and then everyone starts laughing (it was packed out there and we had a ton of witnesses) and cheering us on (did you see that, you put him in his place, that was so uncalled for, I am sorry that happened to you) as we walked down the street. One girl said to us, “I thought we were past all of this stuff and I say to her what “light skinned vs. brown skinned”? That got a good laugh out of her. These are the cops that don’t need to have guns or be on the force. I have no clue what his problem was and why he did that, we literally were just minding our business and this BS happens.
    Rant: You have to put an email address in the field now?

    • jim_ed

      Regarding the truck – 20k for a 2008 pickup with only 60,000 miles is likely a fair price. Trucks hold their resale value to an absurd degree. And the dealership can’t refuse to sell him something because of his age, or they could be sued for discrimination.

      • While the truck may or may not have been a good deal, I think they should have never sold it to him. He is 89, can barely walk due to back problems so you think it is ok to sell him a V8 speed roadster type truck. I don’t know why he went to do this by himself. Still so independent but that is what you get I guess…

        • Blithe

          Kam, I’m trying to imagine a reasonably safe, legal way to refuse to sell someone something that they want to buy — when they have the wherewithal to do so. I can really empathize with your concerns about your grandfather. Really. But I don’t think the responsibility for whether he drives or not and what he drives is up to the car dealership. Are you thinking that he was somehow coerced into buying something that he did not intend to buy?

          • I know they have no legal or moral obligation not to do so. And I know my grandfather so I know that once he has his mind made up, it is a done deal. I am just trying to figure out how he found that truck, damn sure didn’t walk around looking. I would guess they brought it out to him. Long story short, he should have had someone go with him.

    • Accountering

      Tend to agree with you on the cops. On a Friday night, police should only be flying around U and S and such if it is truly an emergency. Otherwise they should be out of their cars walking around, and not harassing people when they miss the light and feel the need to turn on their sirens to get through the light.

      • That is the thing,there was no light to miss, just a stop sign and he wasn’t flying around and was not in any hurry which is why we crossed the street. Dude was in the middle of the block as we started to cross and he sped up as to purposely cut us off for some reason. But yeah for him to say that is counterintuitive because if there is an emergency, you need to be dealing with that, not playing billy badass with me for no reason.

        • Accountering

          Gotcha, and just to clarify, I was agreeing with you 🙂

        • What a jerk. I’m glad you guys spoke up and shamed him! Whatever happened with the Bistro Bis story? Did you ever post to the Washington Post live chat?

    • +1 to your wife.

  • Rant: Missed out the on the 50″ TVs (Panasonic) for $199. Anybody know of any other great deals like that?

    • Rant: I came in 4th place in Fan Duel yesterday, just one place out of the money which would have tripled what I put in. I was actually only a few points out of 1st which would have paid me 10X the amount that I put in.
      Rave: I really enjoyed it and look forward to playing again. You can play $5 games or $100+ games. I did mine for $25.

      • Accountering

        Older brother played the big game and made a last minute WR switch. With the new WR he won $250, and had he kept the other guy (had a huge game) he would have won $25,000. Lame.

  • Rant: Thanksgiving trip (in which we drove quite far away) cut short due to illness. Guess I’ll just spend time with my family next year. 🙁
    Rant: To the blond woman driving the silver Sticky Fingers Bakery car on 66E a week ago this past Sunday, cruise control is your friend.
    Rant: Catching up on work is horrible!
    Rave: 3 more weeks til the next break from work.
    Rave: No Christmas tree, but the balsam air fresheners that I have throughout the house is making up for it.
    Rant: What’s the deal with email being required now?

  • Ugh, rant: need to find a catsitter who can come to my house twice daily for a few days around Christmas. Any suggestions?

      • FurPals almost killed my cat several years ago and it cost me a grand to save the cat’s life. Do not trust that they will actually come the number of times you need them to, or that they will ensure that the cat gets its medicine (if that is why you need them to come twice/day).

        • Sorry you had that experience. Maybe it was a subcontractor? Every time Yvette comes to my house, we get daily photos of the cats sent to us, along with daily notes of how they’re doing and what they’re up to.I’ve never had anything but positive experiences with them.

        • Care to elaborate more on your experience? We’ve got a cat who needs medication daily and are trying to find a sitter for about a week near the holidays in Park View.

          • Cat needed pills 3x/day (or at least 2x/day) and my regular catsitter was sick so I had a hard time finding a replacement. I hired FurPals, met Yvette, even met the catsitter who would supposedly be taking care of my cat; I was told this person was especially good at giving pills. But that person never came when I was gone, and I had several different people instead. I found pills all over the floor; it was obvious my cat had not gotten the pills. He had a heart condition and was near death when I got home from vacation. My regular catsitter, who is expensive, but used to be a vet tech and is beyond excellent at giving medicine to pets is Mindful Pet Services.

          • binpetworth

            Is your cat diabetic? I am the parent of a diabetic kitty and am very familiar with insulin injections. I also live not far from you (south end of Petworth) and am home for the holidays, so if you don’t find anyone, I’d be willing to make arrangements with you (especially if you can reciprocate in the future!).

          • binpetworth, no not even that hard–just kitty prozac pills once a day! msg me at sbrooksh at gmail and hopefully we can set something up! We’re definitely always looking to make more connections (and friends!) in the neighborhood and so would definitely be willing to reciprocate, though I admit I’ve never administered anything with a syringe in my life.

        • L2: I used furpals for a while and also liked Yvette, but the people she hires are NOT good. We have an alarm system where we can tell when folks enter and leave our home, so we could see that furpals did not come when they said they would (arriving at midnight for a dinner time feeding and staying for 10 minutes when they are supposed to stay a half hour). I also tended to book them about a month in advance, but they don’t send any confirmation emails just prior to the date of service, so I always had to contact them to confirm they were still coming. I also asked them numerous times just to send me an email or text the first time they stopped by (just to make sure the cats were alive) and they never did, after repeated requests.

          I have used fetch pet care for about 2 years now and they are great, and the sitters I have used are great. I have used Tye and Lisa (Tye more than Lisa based on where I used to live in Mt Pleasant), and he always sent text messages with cute pictures and always showed up when he said he would. Fetch is great and I would highly recommend them.

  • Blithe

    Rave: Attended a program at the National Museum of the American Indian as part of my Thanksgiving celebrations. I’m really glad that I went. And I hope that the next time I have an opportunity, I’ll be a more active participant.
    Rant: Missed seeing Santa on the Silver Line train.
    Rave: Choosing crabcakes over turkey for my Thanksgiving meal. Yum. And I bet there’s some historical precedent for this…..
    Rant: Deciding that discussing the reasons why people protest with people who don’t understand why people might need to protest is not helping my stress level.

    • Pablo Raw

      I love that museum; my favorite visit was when I had a tour with the landscape architect (an American Indian woman) who designed the grounds, very interesting experience.

      • Blithe

        I’m totally jealous!!! Wow! I spent about an hour yesterday walking around the building after the programs, just enjoying the architecture, wondering what the plants were, dabbling my fingers in the fountains, and admiring the boulders. I love the way the building and the landscaping express the spirit and goals of the museum — and impact my experience as a visitor. I think the best thing is that I had a body/mind/heart/experience — very different from what I expect when I think “museum”.

        • Pablo Raw

          You would have loved that tour! She explained how the water you see outside the building is there to honor a river that was filled up in order to build more buildings in the area, why the door of the building is not facing the Nat. Mall like the other museums, the location of the boulders, how she introduced herself to the Potomac and the nature around DC before intervening in this area… I’m not spiritual or religious but it was great to hear her rational about the design… The main thing I learned that day is that for people who think they are going to end in heaven or the walhala 🙂 this planet is nothing more than a transitional place so there’s no need to care about it, but for her and her people, this is their mother and this is it, so they better take care of it for themselves and for future generations.

          • Blithe

            Yup, i would have loved that tour! Especially the idea of introducing yourself and understanding — before you intervene. Thank you for your descriptions. You’ve given me a lot to enjoy thinking about!

  • RAVE: It has been forever-ever since my last real relationship and after 4-5 years of on and off soul crushing online dating- which led to lots of 1 month flings but not much more- I finally met someone wonderful. He’s a genuinely stand up guy who actually wants to be in a serious relationship and is really fun, smart and nice to look at to boot. I feel like I found a unicorn!!!

    • How did you persist through so many years of online dating!? It’s nice in theory to meet lots of new people, but I find the whole endeavor to be exactly as you describe: soul-crushing. I feel like it’s trying to force serendipity.

      • Online dating while great is not the end all be all to finding a mate. Plenty of people meet in the grocery store or at functions. If online dating is that bad, why not try something else?

        • It’s been tried. So many women of my age are now partnered up, and I hate trying to compete with the young bucks for the attention of the younger women. The great majority of women in my yoga classes – heck, D.C. in general – have a “you-are-not-here-I-do-not-see-you” affect that I don’t bother even trying to get past with casual chit-chat. I understand why city living will infect women with that demeanor, and I would be that way too were I always on the receiving end of unwanted/unwarranted attention.

          I live my life as my natural self, super-enthused about the various things I’m enthused with – art-making, music-making, performance-attending, storytelling, etc. – and hope to meet somebody like that, but that hasn’t worked. I’m really at my wit’s end here.

          One thing I will say, to make an extremely broad generalization: it seems like white-collar folks in D.C. – without any regard to gender whatsoever – have awfully high expectations for success and ambition.

          • Emmaleigh504

            (psst unofficial popville happy hour)

          • Andie302

            Are you a man or a woman?

          • Andie302

            PS +1 to happy hour

          • Well, you should probably date someone your own age if for no other reason than you’re likely to have more in common. From what I’ve gathered, you’re afraid to approach women for fear of rejection. Yes, some women simply have bitchy resting face or they’re trying to get their namaste on while in yoga class. As stated in other posts, lots of women expect/prefer the man make the first move, so if you’re hoping they’ll magically come around to talk to you….good luck! Try casual chit chat. Maybe you’ll see someone reading a paper about (insert thing you’re into), and you can use that as your lead into a chat.
            Being a polite guy might get an uninterested response, but it could just as easily end up in swapping numbers and maybe even a date. I find it hard to believe you’ve been unable to find 1 woman in 4 yrs. Is there more to the story?

          • I used to think something was wrong with me and I was loser b/c I couldn’t get a date to save my life in DC. But then I started spending time in other cities and people I would meet would show me so much attention and couldn’t believe I was single. For those who flourish here, more power to you. It took me a while to realize dating in DC just isn’t for me, and it’s fine. Kinda like a vegetarian going for dinner at Fogo De Chao. However, I think the social aspect of dating is mentally healthy and lack of it can really suck. Maybe you should try a change of scenery?

          • I think it can come from the unintentional vibes you’re giving off. I was out of the game for a while since my last serious relationship ended, and I found it hard to date; although I had minor successes online. I stopped beating myself up because everyone was either in a couple or disinterested, and started carrying myself like I’m the hottest, most desirable woman in the world. If you’re always in the dumps about what you’re missing out on, you’re going to inevitably come off that way. Working on confidence is good for a lot of things in life.

          • Andie302

            Agree with anon 1.5. The way you carry yourself makes a huge difference, especially for a guy. For me, desparation is an immediate turn-off. Luckily, genuine interest is something that a lot of people find very attractive. Try meeting people that are interested in some of the things you listed above…and then don’t assume that every one of them only wants a long-term relationship. You don’t have to go all “I don’t want to break her heart, so I better not sleep with her” before you ever get between the sheets either. There are plenty of women that would like relationships that are also open to casual sex. It’s not all or nothing. And when the streak breaks, PLEASE let us know!

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: Teaching on Monday mornings.
    Rave: free pilsbury cookie dough from Safeway was actually in stock.
    Rave: reading “Please don’t eat raw cookie dough” on the package as I ate raw cookie dough.

  • talula

    Rave – Had a relaxing, low-key Thanksgiving/staycation. It was awesome not having to deal with holiday travel. Plus my parents were in town and we went wedding dress shopping!
    Rant – All the work assignments I put off completing until after the holiday.

  • skj84

    Rave: I posted on Friday on how happy my family makes me, and this weekend I realized how important my friends are to me. I had such a hard time making friends when I was younger, and even as an adult it’s difficult to let people in. I’m now beginning to realize how many wonderful people I have in my life who genuinely like me and vice versa. I’m going to be better about reaching out to my friends for support and offering them support they need as well.

  • Question: Can anyone recommend a good alarm system that we can self install? We are also looking for an alarm company to do monitoring. I remember reading on here previously about companies that charge a lot less if you do the self install but I cannot find the thread. Thanks!

    • gertie_wickler

      Frontpoint security is very easy to install and monitor on your smartphone:


    • We’ve had a very good experience with Frontpoint Security so far and their equipment is for self-installation. If you’re a member of Angie’s List, they also offer deep discounts on their equipment packages.

      • Just seconding the recommendations for FrontPoint. It’s easy to use and you can control the system with a mobile app. It’s great for renters too, because you don’t have to permanently install anything, and you can take all the equipment with you if you move out. My SO and I used the window and door alarms for our ground floor rental apartment, and we when moved we just took off the alarms and took them with us to our new place.

  • Rave: Brown bread from a can is even better with cream cheese (thanks to Fri poster for recommending this)
    Rave: Post-thanksgiving turkey (onion/celery/carrot) noodle soup has become turkey leftover just about everything noodle soup. Roasted vegetables, creamed spinach, gravy, purple potatoes, even a bit of spiced cranberry sauce. And onion/carrot/celery). Last year we added leftover stuffing.
    Rant: No more leftover salted caramel six layer chocolate cake. Andie if you see this – thanks for the recommendation!

  • RAVE: had a great weekend, including a short jaunt up a new-to-us trail (Seneca Creek) with my super lovely neighbor, followed by us being stunned by “Whiplash” at Bethesda Row.

    RANT: I have been celibate for four years, and coupled with an ever more intense libido (evidently a by-product of yoga, I’m finding), I am growing insane with lack of sex and human touch. Unfortunately, I’m extremely incompetent when it comes to finding casual sex, and I have no desire to be careless with anyone’s heart either.


  • hispanicandproud

    Rave: Fantastic time last week in New Mexico. Great to see family and friends. Even better was being able to leave and having my bestie watch the doggie and coming home to a clean apartment! And decorating for Christmas with him and doggie.

    Rave: Returning early this weekend and hanging out with DC friends all weekend.

    Rave: Doctor says I can start running again this week! Belly is recovering fast! Can’t wait to start training for Los Angeles and Big Sur marathons this spring.

  • Rave: I have so much leftover mashed potatoes and gravy (both homemade, of course) that I will not run out today, or tomorrow.
    Rant: No leftover turkey, or stuffing, meaning all this leftover cranberry relish will probably go to waste.

    • Warm the cranberry relish and put it over Vanilla bean ice cream (coconut milk ice cream is my choice). You can thank me later.

    • Emmaleigh504

      Rave: leftovers! I decided to make funeral potatoes over the weekend (they’re always getting mentioned on my twitter feed, draw your own conclusions). Super easy and super delish and lots of tasty leftovers.

    • epric002

      a FB friend made gnocchi w/all his leftover mashies. i’ve never made them myself, so have no idea how easy/hard that would be.

      • My mother suggested I mix in an egg and some flour and stuff and make potato pancakes. But if you have leftover gravy, I don’t see why you’d bother.
        My favorite leftover creation of all time was the turkey leek quiche. Leftover pie crust, leftover turkey, leeks, fill with egg mixture, bake. It was amazing.

      • One of my FB friends did this too (maybe the same person)! But he always has the best food posts so I feel like his cooking skills are far superior to mine.

        • epric002

          he DOES always have the best food posts and i also assume that his cooking skills are far superior to mine 🙂 are this person’s initials JR?

          • Yep, JR! He also has a super cute pup that I can’t get enough of. 😀

          • epric002

            a corgi-mix right? we have mutual friends! 🙂 (the corgi-mixes are how we met, actually).

          • Yep, a shoe-stealing corgi mix! 🙂 I know him through work

          • epric002

            too funny. they used to live near us and we saw them walking their dog, who looks very much like one of ours, and so we became friends. turns out, we both adopted our corgi-mixes the exact same weekend in 2012 from different rescue groups. unfortunately, our corgi-mix is kind of a jerk and doesn’t like theirs.

    • Andie302

      I ate mashed potato cakes this morning. Just add some shredded cheese, green onion, and an egg to a few cups of mashed potatoes, mix with your hands, pat into small cakes, and brown in a skillet. You can serve them with a little sour cream. That was the end of the leftover mashed potatoes for me.

    • Cranberry sauce freezes beautifully. Put it in a bag and throw that bad boy in the freezer until you get a hankering for turkey in a few months. Or until next Thanksgiving (no kidding). It’s also great on sandwiches.

  • Rave: Lovely lazy holiday weekend.
    Rant: Too lazy to take advantage of the beautiful weather yesterday to put the Christmas lights up outside.

    Question: Vida fitness signup for only $28 today, plus my healthcare discount. Thinking about joining the Verizon Center gym. Anyone a member? Pros/Cons? The alternative is Washington Sports Club (the F Street location).

    • Not a member of Vida, but I’ve visited frequently with different deals over the years. I’ve only gone to Metropole, and I loved it. The only reason I didn’t join was the cost in addition to martial arts classes. Metropole tends to get very busy during the peak hours, but they are open on holidays which I love. For WSC, my friend who is a member of the Dupont location says the others tend to be heavier on the cardio/classes than the weights.

    • I was a member of Vida for about five years before “breaking up” with them a few months back. I think anon 1.5 summarized my problems with it really well — the gym was almost always very crowded when I wanted to use it and they charge (a lot) extra for some of their “premium” classes. I’m not sure what activities you like to do at the gym, but I’ve found that I am better served using Class Pass for my classes and paying for one-day admission to the gym on the days I just want to do basic cardio/weightlifting.

      Before Vida, I belonged to WSC and definitely think Vida is a step up from WSC — Vida has more offerings and is generally nicer. That said, I don’t think Vida is the elite gym that it thinks it is or sells itself to be. Anything the slightest bit special there costs extra and the membership costs don’t make those extra fees a good value.

      • I think most gyms are crowded during peak hours, so that as a reason not to join seems silly to me. I agree that Vida isn’t really elite, and I think for value there are others worth considering, but that would take you out of the Chinatown area. I enjoyed Bodysmith the most in DC, and if you really want to travel X-sport in Va…at $40/month it cannot be beat.

        • That comment was phrased rather rudely.

          If, like me, you can only really go to the gym at peak hours and regularly can’t get into the classes you want or use equipment during those times, then it really doesn’t make sense to join a gym like Vida and pay an additional fee for small classes. It makes more sense to just buy the classes (semi) a la carte somewhere else.

          As I said, I’m not sure what activities the OP likes to do, but s/he -may- find that something like ClassPass or a smaller studio like Sculpt DC would make more sense.

          • Did you find the whole thing rude or just my use of the word silly? Since brightwoodess is picking between different popular gyms, the fact that they are generally crowded during peak hours is a moot point (these locations could also be less crowded/popular than other locations like Metropole & Dupont); however, the additional fees for Vida classes which are apparently hard to get into would certainly be relevant. I think the best thing to do in that regard is to take a tour during peak hours or do a trial membership.

            I hope people aren’t joining globo gyms just for classes, but classpass seems like a great thing if that’s what you’re into, and you don’t mind bouncing around.

            I also like Balance gym for a more basic gym set-up, but they also had an infinity pool last I was there. I didn’t find it nearly as packed as Vida.

          • I don’t think it’s nice to dismiss someone else’s experience wholesale like that, whether or not you use the word silly. Brightwoodess is welcome to take what I have to say if s/he finds it useful — or leave it if s/he doesn’t. Other readers can do the same. No need to put it down just because your own experience is different.

  • Quotia Zelda

    Rave: Interesting meeting. Also, it was off-site. It’s always nice to get out of the office for a bit.
    Rave: We put up the Christmas tree yesterday.
    Rant: Those bad, bad kitties think the Christmas tree is their playground. This evening, I need to take all of the breakable ornaments off. I can’t keep the bad, bad kitties out of the tree, but at least I can make sure they don’t break anything.

  • One down; one to go.
    Found out today that the best of the internal positions I interviewed for is being cancelled and will re-advertised at a lower grade. (Because management decided ‘we don’t have enough [lower grades] on staff’. Whatever the F*** that means.)
    So, given how slow the HR process is around here, the re-advertising may not even happen before I reach the end of my 90 days’ notice, on January 31. (Though it is doubtful that I could even support myself on [lower grade] salary.)
    Meanwhile I am trying very hard to at least appear that I care at all about my current job, so as to avoid being dumped earlier than scheduled. I fear I will have less and less success at this as time goes by.

  • Andie302

    FYI: Cherry Blossom 10-miler and 5K registration for the lottery opened up today! http://www.cherryblossom.org/generalinfo/entryinfo.php

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