Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • Rave: Passed certification exam thank goodness. Now on to focus on finding a new job. A few prospects just came up.
    Rant: Uncertainty about the future. Is this a good time to change jobs or should I consider hunker-down mode?

  • Quotia Zelda

    Rave: For once, my roux was dark enough.
    Rave: And I made a damn fine shrimp etouffee, which leftovers for tonight.
    Rant: I’m beginning to understand how excellent employees turn into deadwood. I need to make a change, I think.

  • Rave: It is Monday. Was so glad for the weekend to be over.
    Rant: Super defiant 3yo. So defiant that she refused to wear anything but shorts & t-shirt yesterday at the playground. Oh, the judgy looks and comments that ensued. Note: sweatpants and coat were available and offered repeatedly.
    Rant: Poor kid must be tired. She fell asleep while mtpwife was reading to her last night. That never happens.
    Rant: mtpbaby’s room got down to 61 last night. Ended up in three sleep sacks–two fleece & one cotton because he woke up cold. Ugh. Sucking it up and setting up the space heater in there tonight, and will apply plastic to more openings this weekend.

    • Rant: Sometimes it is SO HARD to not laugh at the defiant little beast, even when she’s infuriating. And of course laughing just encourages her. Damnit.

    • Re; judgy parents at the playground: I asked myself, would I rather have a kid who can be cowed into submission over issues concerning her body and her comfort, or one who can evaluate a situation and make her own call? At three, a kid’s sphere of control is very very small, but it DOES include what she eats and and she wears. Her ability to control these things will affect other areas in which she asserts herself, like who can touch her.
      (But I also had a REALLY hard time sticking to my “her body, her choice” principles when one wanted to get her ears pierced… Such is a parent’s life. 🙂 )

      • Admittedly, mtpwife forced the pants & jacket on her after swim class (and then endured a tantrum the entire bus ride home), and we allowed her to go outside in so little in hopes that it would be a teachable moment about cold and why warmer clothes are needed in the cold. (Or for us to learn that she perhaps stays warm without needing as much to wear, though we were dubious that was the case) She apparently repeated complained about the cold, but still refused the additional clothing at the playground. We absolutely give her control over whether she accepts/gives hugs and other forms of affection for the same reasons you give. Lol on the ear piercing. Fortunately we’ve got some time on that one.

        • I started begging to get my ears pierced at 3 apparently. My mom caved when at 4 I somehow found a sewing needle then came up to my mom and said, “I’ll hold my ear if you push it through.” Then she decided to just get my ears pierced before I tried it myself!

        • If she was complaining about being cold but still refusing to dress for the weather, I would not have been terribly patient.
          Three was a long time ago in our house. I’m sure I have all kinds of made-up memories about how I handled it!

    • My 3 year old is AWFUL about 85% of the time. Basically between getting dressed in the morning and going to bed at night. I have no idea what to do.
      RE: space heater…there are wall mounted ones. My former coworker had a cold room where their new baby slept so he got the wall ones and was very happy.

      • Ugh, I’m sorry. I’ve noticed that our evenings go more smoothly if I can take 5-10 minutes to do something with her when we first get home. I think it helps to fill her attention cup so she isn’t constantly acting out for attention. I can’t always do that for one reason or another, but it usually helps when I can.
        .
        I’ll keep that type of space heater in mind. Thank you.

      • From memoryland…3’s with a girl, at least, were the absolute worst. When she was approaching third birthday, I remember thinking how lucky that we had skated through those Terrible 2’s. Haaaaaaaa…silly me. Parenthood is the most humbling experience ever. So, the idea of getting into a power struggle over what she wore was very quickly decided—not going to happen. Although, I didn’t ever have to decide about shorts in cold weather, as I remember. Defiant and darling little beasts.

  • skj84

    Rant: Thanksgiving plans have gone to hell. My cousin decided last minute that my aunts house was too small to host and that we are moving to her place. She did not consult me on this decision, despite the fact that I’m cooking the majority of the meal. Moving affects my cooking schedule, and the whole reason we were hosting at my Aunts was because Cousins house wasn’t ready. I put my foot down and told her it was too last minute to make changes, and she should’ve asked me first. She responded with a series of condescending texts, berating me and insulting my cooking.Because she’s running the show and I should be proud to help out my “big cuz”. So now we are doing separate Thanksgiving’s. I’m upset at the way she treated me, how she spoke to me, it was borderline bullying. I didn’t sleep well at all last night.
    Rave:My family has my back. My mom in particular was horrified at my cousins treatment of me. She and my brother will now pitch in on the 3 sides my cousin was contributing. We will hopefully work out some arrangement where they go up to cousins house for at least part of the evening. My Aunt was so concerned about booze causing trouble at Thanksgiving. Nope, all this went down with both parties sober. Toxic personalities shine, no matter the cause.
    Rave: Having a really good hair day.

    • I am so sorry that this happened. It’s good to hear that your family is being supportive of you, though and you have every right to be upset.
      I hope you do something good for yourself today. And yay for a good hair day!

      • +1.
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        I’m so sorry that happened, skj. Treat yourself today. And I hope you, your mom and your brother will have a wonderful Thanksgiving despite the drama.

    • Holy crap, I’m sorry skj! That is just crazy. I hope that everything from now is smooth and drama free!!

    • Ditto the others–that sucks and I’m sorry. I’m glad your family is backing you up. Sending hugs!

    • I hope you manage to have an awesome holiday despite the family drama.

    • Not surprised … it’s never really about the booze … said from someone who grew up in a family full of rage where no one drank. Sound like a better situation to have separate dinners all around … though sorry you had to go through all the hurtful drama first.

  • topscallop

    Rant: eating disappointing pineapple right now
    Rave: my office is so quiet and it’s almost my favorite holiday!
    Rave: I’m hopeful that splitting time between my parents will go smoothly this year and no ruffled feathers
    Rant: I need more layers and more coffee
    Rave: I had a lovely weekend and finally visited the Inner Harbor, while the weather was still great

  • Rant: I’m having a really shit month and I’m in a really terrible headspace. I had a couple weeks of complications with my heart problems, then caught a cold, but think I’m on the mend now. Work has been crap – my boss, who I was very close to, left the company and I’ve had virtually nothing to do while they try to fill the position. I’ve been applying to jobs but that’s been one let down after another and I very rarely see job postings that I qualify for. In the meantime, I’m non-exempt and my lack of OT hours has put a serious hurting on my bank account. My mom was diagnosed with cancer last week, she lives nearby further into VA so luckily I’m able to be there for her since my stepdad died last year. Throughout all of this, I’ve been able to say “at least I have my amazing, supportive boyfriend, who when I am with I can say that all will eventually be right in the world.” But out of left field, he broke things off this weekend. He has very limited explanations and seems really broken up about it so I’m just left dumbfounded and broken hearted. This was the first time I really saw long-term as a possibility and was so incredibly happy. I became very close to his family, especially his dad, and now I have lost them too, which is bringing up all the pain of losing my stepfather. I’m having a hard time pulling myself together and I need to in order to be there for everyone else. How am I supposed to do that?

    • Emmaleigh504

      I’m so sorry you are having such a terrible month! hugs

    • Oh my gosh, I am so sorry and I really want to give you a hug right now!!! I don’t really have any advice since sometimes life just sucks, but I will keep you in my thoughts today. I will also say a prayer for your mom — my mom was also diagnosed with cancer and is undergoing treatment, so know that you are not alone in that struggle. We’ve all got your back here.

    • I’m so sorry this has been such a hard month. I know you want to be there to support others, but please make the time for your own self-care. If it helps, think that the better care you take of yourself, the more you are able to support the people you love. Do what you need to do to grieve the loss of your relationship and your boyfriend’s family; that hurts.

    • That One Guy

      It”all be okay, you can get through it. Hugs

    • I am so, so sorry. I went through a similar breakup once, and I remember the last time I saw his parents (post-breakup) I cried my eyes out. Just take it one day at a time, take care of yourself, and hang in there. There will be brighter days ahead. Hugs!

    • Oh no, I’m so sorry to hear it’s been such a terrible month. I don’t know what to say, but I’d urge you to do what you need to do to feel balanced. Sleep, write, whatever. You can’t give anything to others if you’re not taking care of yourself.

      Hugs!

    • I’m so sorry. Sending love and hugs.

    • I’m so sorry. Make sure to take time for yourself, give you’re self small gifts that make you feel nurtured. Hugs.

    • Im really sorry to hear all of this. I think the saying ‘when it rains, it pours’ is very true. But so is the saying ‘this too shall pass’. Rooting for you. Self care and taking time to heal is really important to get over these difficult times in life.

    • My heart goes out to you — I know that this forum of wonderful people were very supportive when my father passed away, and they’ve been great always when anyone is going through Everything All At Once. I am so, so sorry.

    • You know what’s so not fair? When it rains, it really REALLY tends to f*#king pour. I’m sorry you are having such a shit month. Take all of your emotions hour by hour if you need to. When I hear stories like this, I wish I had a magic button to help take at least some of the pain away. I don’t know that I have any practical advice, but be sure to take care of yourself, especially this week with the holiday. Sleep. Eat. Reach out to your closest confidants. Try to find something to make you laugh — or at least smile. Sending you a big ol’ hug!

  • Rant: Great Uncle is on he last days, in hospice care. This makes the 5 person this year who wont make it to 2017. I need 2016 to done.

  • DCLadyinWaiting

    Rant: work trip is just not going well. I got bumped from my flight (somewhat voluntarily as one of our group members from another country would have been stuck at Newark without me doing so) and am now stuck on an Amtrak train trying to meet my group in upstate New York. I barely slept last night because I was afraid of missing my train.
    Rave: I did get to see my boyfriend and his family yesterday while I was stuck in New York — it was great to be able to see him the the day before his birthday!
    Rave: Once this trip ends on Tuesday evening, I’m off the clock until next Monday! Hooray for Thanksgiving and overtime!

  • Rant: Poor Baby Artie was so fussy last night. He’s teething. Just pop that tooth, little guy.
    Rave: Warm, fuzzy boot weather.
    Rave: A very short work week.
    Rave: Thanksgiving! It is my favorite holiday, and I am looking forward to hosting in our new home.

  • That One Guy

    Rave: Running Man (a Korean show) and the unintended slapstick comedy and laughter it brought to me this weekend. I would never have guessed that challenging someone to sit on a cone could be so funny. I don’t know how well it translates for American audiences, but if anyone is interested: https://youtu.be/IclvBXsF5r0
    The internet is good sometimes.
    Rave: Free from any Thanksgiving plans.
    Rave: The Maine Ave fish market. I should shop for fish more often.
    Rant: I feel like Old Man Winter is toying with us before he goes in for a KO blow.

  • Rave: Successful birthday party with zero political discussions/debates.
    Rave: Oldest kid is back at the house full-time and started his new school this morning. The school is one of the best in the state, and I hate to admit it, but we already notice a difference. I have never been one of those parents who needs to send their kid to the best school, but the whole process there has been completely different to the other schools I have dealt with. I completely understand why people chose to get out of the city for middle/high school.
    Rant: Living farther north. It was sleeting Saturday night, and it was a huge reminder that I am no longer in my little warm urban bubble anymore.
    Rant: Old lady lab somehow managed to slip out of her collar on Sunday evening. We were absolutely distraught looking for her. It was freezing and windy and she’s mostly blind in a new(ish) area. She somehow managed to wander through the woods and to another neighborhood, but thank god we were able to find her safe and sound.

    • It makes such a difference, more depending on the kid. We sent our elder kid to the neighborhood school for a year, and she cried every day. EVERY DAY. On day one at the new charter school, she didn’t cry even a little bit. I know you’re talking about a teen and not a little one, but they know when it’s right, and when it’s not.

      • I totally get what you mean. He needs a lot of direction, a lot of support, and the previous school was a sort of “you’re in HS, figure it out and if you don’t, oh well” with some teachers who were awesome and some who were just waiting to retire/quit. This school is very different, very big on parental involvement (may as well be the choice of helicopter parents everywhere…). I’m hoping it goes differently. I never thought I would be the parent just hoping to get a kid to graduation, but I guess this is what happens when you are thrown in at the 4th quarter.

  • anonymouse_dianne

    rave: saw Moby Dick at Arena yesterday. Very creative production from Chicago theatre company.
    rant: happy hour at Masala art. service was off and it was very busy (Redskins game maybe).
    rave: 2016 is almost done.

  • rant: still feeling unbelievably angry about Trump’s win. no policies yet to fight against so am just being angry at the people who voted for him (or didn’t vote at all), which isn’t productive
    rave: so heartened by the Politico piece about the mobilization of Obama alums. will probably shift career tracks slightly and go into the policy world in the next couple of years. I want to be part of Dumbledore’s Army!

  • Rave: Short line at Starbucks this morning.
    Rave: Woke up without any back pain this mornings. Yeah for the exercises from physical therapy!
    Rant: Got depressed when looking on the Washington Post website about Trump shaking up the federal workforce. Worried that he’ll get rid of my agency just cause.
    Rant: Have to take my car in to get it fixed tomorrow.
    Rave: Thanksgiving and telework means only 3 days in the office this week.
    Rave: Fewer folks in the office today.
    Rant: Bad experience with depression yesterday. Not sure what’s wrong with me. Rumination on overdrive.

  • Posting anonymously for today.
    Rant: Great weekend went to hell yesterday afternoon. Spoke on the phone with uncle in hospice who’s not expected to live to see Thanksgiving, and then got a call that my brother has been admitted to the hospital for pain pill (not his prescription) withdrawal, and now he needs to go a detox program and treatment.
    Rave: Loving friends and family, and a short work week.

  • houseintherear

    Hey ladies out there- I’m looking for a recommendation for a stylist who is great with the balayage technique. Thanks in advance!

  • Rant: Really wishing I was allowed to drink more than a half cup of coffee every day. I feel like I need way more to get through this day.
    Rant: I still haven’t bought the other Mrs. Rabbit a birthday present and she is seriously the most difficult person to shop for. I’m down to only a few days.
    Rave: At least the house is ready for company now.
    Rave: 1 1/2 more days until we’re both off for 5 1/2 days. While family will occupy half the time (they leave Saturday), we still get the other half to do whatever we want.

  • Rave: New nephew arrived on Thursday afternoon, after 2 days of laboring at home and 28 hours labor in the hospital!
    Rant: Poor little guy had some trouble regulating his respiratory rates so he spent his first two nights in the NICU
    Rave: But whatever, he’s home with his parents now and he’s so stinkin’ cute!
    Rant: Way too much to do in the two work days I have this week!
    Rave: Only two work days in this week and then I get to go back for Thanksgiving and baby-cuddles!

  • Rant: I woke up super grumpy this morning, and I have a date tonight so I really want to be genuinely pleasant! But it might take more coffee than the world has to offer.
    Rave: Short work week! And I get to do my own thing for Thanksgiving, which is my new favorite tradition.

  • Rant: 2016 was terrible, I join many of you with rants for recent losses.
    Rave: glad I flew to see my stepfather a couple of weeks ago. All the care and love he received before leaving us was a blessing. Friends have been there to support me this past week too.

  • Rant: Really cranky lately about the fact that I probably will be stuck in tiny apartments for years to come. Thinking we will need to suck it up and pay a ton for a 2BR in NYC after grad school. I’m just so tired of feeling cramped in a 1BR.
    Rave: Had fun writing a legal history research paper this weekend. Nice to write something less formulaic than a brief or contract provisions.
    Rave: Wonderful pony time this weekend. Back to jumping 2’6″ courses and not sore after every time I ride.

    • You must be reading my mind! Thinking through tiny apartments and life in NYC right now. My husband says we live in a puzzle and he’s right. I’m of the mind to get rid of stuff and not get a bigger place. He’s on the flip side.
      Wish I had pony time this weekend – glad you had a great ride! I’m hoping I can get out to the barn tomorrow night. Fuzzy ponies are the best (until you have to cool them out with all that fur!).

      • It is really tough! We are both definitely “stuff” people, not minimalists, so I think we are going to have to go for the bigger place to maintain our sanity. We have gotten rid of a lot of our stuff but a 1BR still always feels so cluttered.
        The weather has been crazy. It was 70 degrees here when I rode on Thursday and was able to hose down the furry pony. Yesterday it was 20 degrees and he didn’t sweat at all!

        • Andie302

          I’m a stuff person by default, but I have to say – having a friend come over and really push me to take a hard look at my wardrobe and get rid of about 70% of it has been so much better in hindsight then buying additional storage furniture and cluttering up our already not that big bedroom. I couldn’t have done this on my own – maybe enlist the help of a minimalist friend? Out of everything I donated, I’ve only really missed one thing here or there and not with any great amount of regret. Since we moved to our current place, I’ve really had to reconsider things – but when I think of how much each square foot of the house costs, it doesn’t seem worth it to keep things around that I am not using/going to use/might use eventually. Think of the vacation you could take by saving the difference in rent from a one bedroom to a two bedroom in NYC over the course of a year!

  • Andie302

    Rave: Friend from growing up yesterday called me bursting with excitement that she had two positive pregnancy tests. She’s wanted a baby for at least three years now, and I am so thrilled for her!!!
    Fact: Obviously it’s super early, but I’m glad she was able to share with me and she’s also planning to tell her close family.
    Rant: I’m not supposed to tell any other friends because it’s so early and several of them are actively trying with no luck.
    Rant: I am not good at keeping secrets like this. I’m hoping I don’t slip!

  • nightborn

    Rant: Maggiano’s in Chevy Chase hosting a National Policy Institute event. Yuck.

    • topscallop

      Their post on Facebook seemed like they handled the situation well- didn’t know it was an NPI event until last minute, issued an apology, and donated $10k, the profits from their restaurant sales on Friday, to the DC office of the Anti-Defamation League.

      • nightborn

        Oh, I didn’t see the post – looks like it went up in the past hour. I agree, that is a great response – thanks for letting me know!

      • skj84

        I’m glad they apologized. I do think they should’ve done research before booking. Apparently the party was originally booked at Hamilton, who canceled once they realized what the group was.

        • topscallop

          I agree, and I hope more businesses will continue to deny service to hate groups.

        • Why do you think it would be ok for a restaurant to turn down NPI, but not, say, a gay wedding?
          (This is a devil’s advocate question, because being gay isn’t the same as advocating for legislation that oppresses others, but I’m curious anyway.)

          • skj84

            I think because it is a hate group. I get what you mean, but yeah, its rhetoric is hateful. I feel bad for the staff. I remember when Glen Beck’s Restoring Honor March happened a lot of the attendees stayed in the hotel I worked at. Many of them had the most atrocious signs and shirts blasting Obama and his policies, just ugly, racist stuff. I finished those shifts a bundle of nerves, I have never felt so threatened at the work place before. I’m sure the staff at Maggianos feel the same way.

          • nightborn

            I guess it’s like what you said – they are a racist, anti-Semitic, white supremacist hate group, spreading a vile message and advocating for oppression and hatred. The way I even learned any of this took place is due to a viral Twitter photo of some attendees of this dinner gleefully giving the Sieg Heil – not too many ways one can interpret that.

  • Trying to focus on / relish in the fact that I only have a 2 day work week! But this will be the first major holiday without both of my parents. Very lucky to be spending the holiday with friends who mean so much to me. I do hope mom is over my shoulder as I make and roll out her pie crust recipe though. What’s more special is for her last Thanksgiving, we made the pies together in my kitchen here and now I have her rolling pin (used by her two hands multiple times a year for at least 40 years!).

    • That’s so sweet, and a wonderful way to honor your mom and your memories together. Have a wonderful holiday!

    • Am sending you a lot of love. I realize how hard the holiday season can be -especially the first one after the loss of one or both of your parents.