Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • Rant: No communication from my friend. We know she’s alive and is that all that matters right now…?
    Rant: Husband off across the Atlantic again.
    Rave: It’s only a short trip this time. And we snagged tickets to El Gran Combo for when he returns.
    Rave: Had some really great conversations with my husband about our finances and where we want to go with them. We both work towards social/environmental justice in non-profits and are talking about how to make our investments/financial assets work towards our professional and personal goals as well, even if we get less returns. So now investigating social impact/sustainable/green investments – some interesting stuff out there. Anyone done this or have any good tips/contacts who work in the field?

    • Re: sustainable investments, I’m not sure if you would be interested in working with someone who isn’t in DC, but a friend of mine in SF is a financial advisor specializing in socially responsible investment. If you’d like to talk to her, send me an email at shawessdc at gmail and I’d be happy to connect you.

      • Thanks so much for the input. I’ll drop you an e-mail. We’re ideally looking for someone we can meet in person (in NYC or DC) but even talking with someone who specializes in socially responsible investing would be a great start!

    • To your last rave! I’ve been very happy with my financial advisor, who practices exclusively in socially responsible investing. He can cater to your personal social priorities (womens issues, environment, etc) and is generally a good guy (a rarity in that field, in my experience.) And he’s based in DC, super available whenever I need to talk or meet with him. His name is Jeremy Pearce and if you’re interested, you can reach him at jeremyapearce at emailSRI.com

      • Wonderful – I’ll definitely send him an e-mail. Thank you for the recommendation. I look forward to talking with him (my whole family works as financial advisers so I’d like to think they make the rare good guys list too πŸ˜‰ ).

  • RAVE: My baby will be born this month!
    RANT: Less than 10 days to go until due date and I don’t feel ready.
    RAVE: Work has been super supportive and amazing and making my last few weeks so easy.
    RANT: So many fun things happening this summer that I feel like we can’t do because we will have a little baby.
    RAVE: I know we will work it all out just like everyone else does.

    • Ally

      A little unsolicited advice for your upcoming birth: First, congrats!! You’ll do great. You won’t, however, feel like your old self for a few months; takes time to get adjusted to a new schedule and the new baby. Is TOTALLY worth it, though. I had a less than stellar birthing experience with my now 9-month old. Wouldn’t take it back for anything. I’m sure yours will go great!

      • Thank you so much! I appreciate the insight from your experience, especially since there is so much pressure to “get back to normal” so quickly for women. Glad things are going well for you and your little one. πŸ™‚

      • +1 to all of this. Also, it’s very possible that you might be able to do at least some of the fun things you want to do this summer. Some babies can be surprisingly portable πŸ™‚

        • Ally

          This is totally true. Actually very easy to cart them around when they’re little (they sleep so much!!!). Gets a little trickier once they’re approaching 6 months, so get out and about as soon as you feel up to it, Luckycat. πŸ™‚

      • and as soon as you’re adjusted, the schedule will change. So the real advice is to never adjust. lol

    • Congrats! And no one feels ready before birth! It’s exciting and terrifying and amazing and unpredictable. Be kind to yourself and realize that nothing goes as planned, which can sometimes turn out to be a really good thing. The best thing to do is ignore the timetables and allow yourself and your baby to recover and get to know each other at your own pace.

      Also, many newborns are pretty portable. Especially if you find a baby carrier you’re comfortable with. Feeding can be tough at first, it took me about 6wks to figure it out this time around (my 8mo is breastfed and we had latch and tongue tie issues so it was hard to go places until we solved them, my 7yo was bottle fed and he was good to go right away as a newborn) but once you find your rhythm, you’re good!

      • +1 on the breastfeeding. If that’s your intention, know that it’s HARD and you will want to give up. It hurts like the dickens for the first few weeks. Like B, it took me about six weeks to get comfortable with it. Be prepared with lanolin, painkillers (in advance of each feeding session), and a pump for when you cannot bear the idea of the little beast clamping on to you. Learn how to nurse lying down so that you can feed the baby without really waking up. Eventually, probably, it will become easy and convenient and comfortable, and then you’ll be very glad that you don’t have to get up at night to make bottles, or carry formula around everywhere.
        Oh, and the woman at the breastfeeding center on K Street is great generally, but she WILL tell you that your baby has a short frenulum (tongue tie) and it should be clipped. Ignore her and take your pediatrician’s advice. She tells everyone that.

        • +2 on the breastfeeding. I will also add that if it is your intention to breastfeed and you try and it just doesn’t work for you and your baby, you are not a horrible mother if you go with a different option. I made myself miserable trying to breastfeed. I ended up exclusively pumping and had to supplement with formula a bit, but in the end it was the best choice for everyone involved.

          • Oh, definitely! There are many right ways to feed a baby. You could get a goat and give the baby goats milk! Or, you know, just buy formula. I’ve not been convinced by any of the shouty research about the total superiority of breastmilk.

          • a lot of that research is global research, and of course globally nursing is better because clean water is not a given in a substantial part of America. And in other parts, where women are supported after birth, they basically stay in bed nursing 24/7 while the village tends to them.

      • More importantly, the breastfeeding center’s new moms group is THE BEST. Go. Often. Whether you nurse or not. I had a TERRIBLE BFing relationship with my child to the point where I don’t know if I’d ever try it again exclusively if I had another kid. I basically didn’t leave the house for 10 months except work, where I pumped 4-5 times a day. But that group was supportive and helpful and fun.

        • Also liked this group–mostly for the lunch gatherings afterwards. The sessions themselves started to feel a bit repetitive, but it’s always good to have an excuse to get out of the house.
          Btw–many babies are portable early on, but others aren’t. I had a rough nursing relationship with my daughter, and then she developed reflux which didn’t help. So I didn’t ever feel like I could go anywhere because she screamed so much. Part of that was also my own anxiety issues. But just try to cut yourself some slack wherever on the spectrum you end up.

  • Rant: We go back to school tomorrow and I haven’t done a smidge of work over spring break
    Revel: Seeing my students again; I’ve missed them.
    Revel: Went to the gym 5 out of the last 8 days. Yesterday I took a bodybump class and did week 2 day 1 of couch to 5k.
    Rant: Everything’s sore.
    Question: Would it be silly to get the $20/mo membership to Planet Fitness just so I can use the massage chairs and occasionally get a workout in much closer to work (or even before work, considering how badly I’ve been sleeping at night)? This would be in addition to my Gold’s membership since on weekends I like walking there and I know there’s no way I’d be making the trek out to Ivy City in the summer.

    • “Would it be silly to get the $20/mo membership to Planet Fitness just so I can use the massage chairs and occasionally get a workout in[?]” — Doesn’t sound silly to me!

    • At that price, sounds reasonable to me!

    • Yay for Couch to 5K! I recently finished the program and running my first 5K race next month. Keep it up, it works! I couldn’t even run for 90 seconds when I first started.

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: managed to hurt my back doing nothing yesterday.
    Rant: more starling in the garden stealing seedlings. come on Donna, you have one job!
    Rave: Donna may no scare the birds away but she’s really good at being the sweetest kitty.

  • Ally

    Rant: My husband was laid off this morning.
    Rave: He disliked that job anyway; now we can find him something better.
    Rave: Hard to get too upset about a stupid setback on the career front for us when we have a cute kid at home.

  • Rave: Both kids did great at synagogue for the baby’s naming ceremony
    Rave: Had a great time at the kite festival
    Rave: So far, visit with FIL & his girlfriend is going reasonably smoothly.
    Rant: Baby’s nighttime sleep is a disaster. I’m starting to wonder if he has teething pain that only bugs him at night. Yuck.

    • This is unsolicited advice, but have you had the baby checked for an ear infection? My son went through a phase of waking up every 2 hours, then every one hour for a couple nights before my mom suggested having him checked out. It was a raging double ear infection and he slept much better after the antibiotics kicked in.

      • I’m totally game for unsolicited advice. I started wondering about that this morning as well. The last two nights, we can’t put him down at bedtime until giving him Tylenol, and then last night he needed it every 4 hours as well. But then he was happy as a clam during the day and didn’t seem bothered by anything. So weird. But maybe we’ll take him in to get checked out just to be sure.

        • How old is he? My 8mo hit a nasty sleep regression plus teething and we’ve been on a newborn schedule again for the last three weeks. I asked around and it seems like half the parents I spoke with had the same issue around this age.

          • He’s 5mo. Had been only waking up once/night for about a week, and then we stopped swaddling his arms (and I think I ate something that he reacted poorly to in the same weekend) and he settled into mostly twice/night but going right to sleep with nursing for the past week or so. Seeming to need a pain reliever is new in the last couple of days. Oddly enough, he’s happy as a clam during the day (though gnawing on everything he can get his hands on).

        • My son was also totally himself during the day. I guess the pressure changes when kids lie down, which is why the pain seems to increase at night. It very likely won’t be an ear infection, but might be worth checking.

          • How bizarre. Thanks for sharing your experience! You’d think I’d remember how things were with my daughter, but I think I’ve blocked out some of the more painful memories from her babyhood. That and she was such a worse sleeper in general, that it’s hard to compare.

  • Rave: trip to New Orleans with friends this week! Looking forward to a few days of sleeping in and relaxing without feeling guilty about it.
    Question: our return flight is really early on Sunday (7 am) and we’re staying in an AirBnB about a mile outside the French Quarter. How hard will it be to find a taxi or Uber at that hour on a Sunday morning?

    • It’s got to be easier than when my wife & I tried to get a cab from the garden district in the afternoon before twice as many super krewes as usual were going to come through–the festivities from the night before got rained out so they tacked everything onto that night. It was insane and we couldn’t get a cab anywhere in the vicinity. We ended up getting stuck in New Orleans an extra night–and were very grateful to our B&B that let us stay there an extra night at the last minute! It was pretty awesome to see the extra parades, though πŸ™‚

    • justinbc

      Uber is all over NOLA, and it’s dirt cheap (compared to DC). The last time we were there for a week the only time we ever paid surge pricing was on a Saints gameday.

    • Accountering

      As far as an Uber to the airport at that time, we stayed in the Garden District, and had a 9am flight with no issues whatsoever. Granted, we had both stayed up through the night drinking, so were probably not in the best shape, but the guy was happy to take us to the airport (I think happy at least, I slept the whole way and he woke up me when we arrived haha)

    • I also had no trouble leaving the Garden District via Uber at any time of day. You’ll be okay!

  • DC1

    Rant: My online driver license renewal woes continue… After the “computer glitch” was finally fixed (which wouldn’t let me renew online because it showed me as a non US-citizen). I was able to renew online successfully last night, but now looking at the temporary license, it shows under the restrictions: “1 – Hand Controls (Brake and Throttle)”. I’m hoping this is yet another “glitch” and something that can be fixed without having to go down to the DMV.

  • Rant: Hormonal cystic acne. I’m seeing a trend as the months go by, so at least I can predict when it comes?
    Rant: Petite jeans that are 5-6 inches too long. Come on!
    Rave: Cherry Blossom 10-miler. Awful windy conditions but I finished and managed to shave 5 minutes off my time for a new PR. Take that wind!
    Rave: I was in a lot of pain afterwards and totally afraid how I’d feel today but I actually feel great! A little sore but no Advil needed, and will be back to working out tomorrow!

  • Rant: DPW’s page on household recycling now says that plastic bags are unacceptable for recycling. Last time I looked at this page, it said that they were and that if you had multiple plastic bags, they should all be gathered within a single bag.
    Rant: The page links to a 2015 flyer on recycling… which says that plastic bags ARE acceptable. Will the real recycling policy please stand up?

    • Meant “Last time [. . .] it said that they were acceptable and that…”

    • Allison

      I just take all of mine to the drop off bin at the grocery store.

    • I should perhaps add that I rarely have occasion to recycle plastic bags — I reuse them as bathroom trash bags, unless they’re torn.
      I was more irked by the principle of DPW putting out contradictory information.

      • Probably doesn’t matter anyway. The recycling trucks will take pretty much anything that in the Recycling bin, so long as it isn’t something obviously out of place (i.e. yard waste, appliances). The sorting facility is where the decision in ultimately made and that’s sort a blackhole.

        • -100000. It matters a big deal. You can actually visit the fort totten facility (I think that’s the name, could be wrong). They have a presentation and you can peak in and see the sorting in action. But, contamination in the supply chain is an issue, drives costs up and is leading to various forms of market failure for the recycling industry, including loads just bypassing the facility and heading to the dump. So, I don’t think you should just toss whatever and say they’ll take care of it down the line.
          Plastic bags, while recyclable, mess up the sorting machines hard-core, so I don’t think they are accepted. At least, when I toured the facility, they were not accepted and that was the #1 thing they emphasized. I think many grocery stores accept them, though.

          • +1.
            There was a really interesting piece in the Washington Post about this a few months ago that explained all of this.

          • HaileUnlikely

            I agree with mtpresident that not junking up the recycling bin with non-recyclable stuff is a problem. However, in this case, the agency that will suffer the consequences of that problem, if it is a problem, is the agency that created said problem, by telling people both that plastic bags are recyclable and that they aren’t recyclable. I am ok with causing DPW to waste time picking out items that shouldn’t be there but are there because they told people it’s ok to put them there.

  • Rant: Trouble sleeping last night because of an ill-advised nap. Lots of wake ups too
    Rave: Managed to still drag my butt up for my first day starting over as gym member
    Rant: Only managed 30 minutes on the treadmill. It’s been over a year since I stepped foot in a gym and today I realized it’s been so detrimental, not just based on weight gain (which is substantial), but I just also feel like crap. I used to be able to run 8 minute miles.
    Rave: I walked an extra mile and a half to work this morning
    Revel: I’m getting up tomorrow morning and heading straight back to the gym.

  • Rave: Kite festival. One of my very favorite annual events.
    Rant: A week’s worth of homework on Sunday afternoon, meaning a week’s worth of whining about having to do homework. My kids continue to fail to learn about the dangers of procrastination.
    Upcoming rave: Science Expo in two weeks! The last few were just fantastic, if a little crowded. Maybe this year we’ll finally see They Might Be Giants!

  • justinbc

    Rave: The Kwanzan cherry trees are now blooming! I love these so much more than Yoshino variety.
    Rave: Title game tonight, Go Heels!
    Rant: Supposed to be a lot colder than I had hoped for this coming weekend.

    • Quotia Zelda

      My neighborhood is full of Kwanzan cherry trees, and it’s wonderful when they’re all in bloom. We’re a little behind up in the Frozen Northcountry, so I don’t think that will happen for another week, though.

  • Rant: We’re in limbo waiting to hear about a house we put an application in for (to rent). All signs look good, but prospective landlord is playing phone tag with current landlord and I’m ready to just KNOW one way or the other so I can move on. We’ve been burned with jobs and other houses at the last minute, and moving would change our life for the better in so many ways, so I’m a giant ball of anxiety right now.
    Rant: The house is right by the shooting that happened last night.
    Rave-ish: If the house does fall through, there are others. We’re not really in a rush, even if sooner would be better.

  • Rave – I hate mornings and typically stay in bed until as late as possible, but this morning I woke up early and did my 5k run! Feels good to know that even if the rest of my day is sh!t, I’ve already accomplished something. Hopefully I can make this a habit.
    Rant – Given my job lately, the rest of my day will definitely be crappy.
    Rant/rave – We’re on the market for a new mattress and the options are overwhelming. I’m stressing myself out reading online reviews wondering if they can be trusted.

    • HaileUnlikely

      FWIW on the mattress, I would recommend giving one of the relatively budget-friendly online ones (Casper, Leesa, Tuft & Needle, Saatva) a try. They all have very customer-friendly trial periods that allow you to try the thing out in your home between anywhere between 30 and 100 days (depending on the company) and if you don’t like it, all of those companies will handle the return including sending somebody to your house to retrieve it (i.e., you are not responsible for transporting it to a shipping facility, which would obviously suck). My current mattress is basically a no-name predecessor of one of those; I’ve had it for 3 years and I love it. (It is too firm for my wife, so we use a softer topper.) At least a couple of those companies, rather than taking the mattress back, arrange for them to be picked up by a local charity (e.g., A Wider Circle) if you want to return it for a refund during the trial period. Thus, in my opinion there is basically no downside to trying one of those.

      • Accountering has recommended Saatva here in the past. Littlen bought a Saatva on Accountering’s recommendation and has been happy with it.

      • I looked into Saatva but the reviews seemed too good to be true. But with the return policy, they might worth a try.

    • We got my son a Tuft and Needle mattress about 6 months ago and it’s super comfy.

    • I’ve had a king-sized Tuft and Needle for two years now and it’s just as great as the day it arrived. I would highly recommend it.

    • Accountering

      It’s not too good to be true. I own two king size luxury firms, and they are an amazing mattress. Just stop searching, buy a Saatva, and move on with your life a happy camper πŸ™‚

  • Rave: Got out of the house this weekend for an epic walk AND a car trip to Marin to visit friends. I feel like a new woman!
    Rant: My double stroller is the lightest, smallest model I could find that will hold up on epic walks and it’s still a bit of a beast. It’s going to take some time for me to get used to navigating city streets with it, and I’m sure I’ll have my fair share of people who get annoyed with the space it takes up. (But we are actually taking up very little space for three humans, so they’ll have to deal.)

    • That’s great! Ignore the people getting annoyed–they’re easily annoyed to begin with. What kind of stroller did you end up getting? Glad to hear you’re getting out of the house!

      • After an utterly ridiculous amount of research and wavering, I got the Valco Snap Duo. It is -totally awesome! Makes it easy to get out of the house (once I’ve gotten the beast through the front door, that is πŸ™‚ )

    • Accountering

      Rave: Your kids are stinkin adorable. Seeing them on Facebook makes me happy. This is not the case with many/most babies, but yours are awesome πŸ™‚

  • Rave: Trip to H-Mart this weekend
    Rave: Planted 24 varieties of tomatoes plus a few types of hot peppers. Let the germination begin πŸ™‚
    Gin & Gardening Gathering in April – how about the 24th (Sunday)?

  • Revel: After months of waiting and worrying over whether it would ever happen, the other Mrs. Rabbit’s naturalization ceremony has finally been scheduled. I’m going to be married to an American soon!
    Rave: The other Mrs. Rabbit surprised me with a memorial necklace for our little girl. It is such an incredible gesture and it’s absolutely perfect.
    Rave: My best friend will be in town this week and we already have dinner scheduled. I love having some in-person time with her.

  • jim_ed

    Rave: Shad Run at Fletcher’s Boathouse. My first time shad fishing and I can’t oversell how much fun it was. No wonder the river was packed.
    Rave: The rain held off friday giving me the opportunity to finally get the yard weeded and mulched. After 4 years, I’m finally starting to get the hang of this whole gardening thing.
    Rave: I’m late to the game here, but I finally checked out the new Lowe’s at Dakota Crossing. It’s like the anti-home depot – well stocked, not crowded, and employees didn’t appear to actively hate me for being in the store. Also their spring garden sale is terrific.
    Rave: Opening Day!
    Rant: The Wizards, allergies, kid who’s decided to stop sleeping at night, the Wizards again, Donald Trump.

    • palisades

      Unrelated: I think I’ve seen you mention El Sol a couple times. I went with a couple people yesterday for brunch and it was incredible. Everything we got was fresh and delicious and it was so cheap. Highly recommended.

  • binntp

    Rave: Opening day for the Nats! Can’t wait to catch my first game of the season this weekend.
    Rave: Had a fun time cheering people on at Cherry Blossom 10 miler yesterday…and admire the heck out of all y’all who ran in those blustery conditions (glad I didn’t register this year).
    Rant: Sore after mowing the lawn for the first time in half a year.

    • Thanks for cheering people on! Usually I don’t feed off the crowds, but the wind was so terrible yesterday that I was impressed people came out to cheer and the energy, especially at the last two miles, really got me through the wind on Hain’s point. Chuckled at the people handing out free beer at the tip of Hain’s.

      • binntp

        I remembered that lonely stretch from running it last year, so positioned myself at mile 9. Glad to hear you managed to get a new PR – that’s impressive!

      • maxwell smart

        Those guys are there every year! It’s something I look forward to when I run the event. I volunteered this year instead.

  • Rant: Strep! My second time in two weeks! Apparently I reinfected myself…
    Rant: The conflicting information about strep in little kids. I’ve had two doctors assure me that my 9 month old will almost certainly come down with it, while I had two others tell me that babies don’t get strep. Hopefully the latter two are right.

  • Rave: I had a lovely friend date to Peking Gourmet Inn for Peking duck last night. The skin melts in your mouth like a communion wafer!
    Rave: went to the beautiful wedding of two friends.
    Rave: I’m totally into Sweat DC, thanks Andie!!!
    Rave: I finally vacuumed my car and it looks so much better.
    Rant: the gas station vacuums are not the best with dog hair, so I ordered a well reviewed hand held on Amazon, but I have no idea where I’m going to plug it in when I use it in the car.
    Rave: looking forward to New Orleans this weekend!

  • Rave: I finish the Cherry Blossom 10 Miler yesterday! It was the longest race I’ve ever run, and I was feeling so strong at the end that it got me thinking I should look into some half marathons. Now accepting suggestions for good half marathons that aren’t too hilly.
    Rant: But oh man do I need to do some conditioning and strength work. My hips, knee and ankle are not pleased with me today.
    Rave: My family came out with signs to cheer me, my friend, and the SO on, which made such a different on an otherwise miserable and blustery day.

    • maxwell smart

      Congrats! It was a tough day out there. If you are looking for a local half-marathon, I can not say enough good things about the Parks Half Marathon in September. You run from Rockville to Bethesda on the Rock Creek Park trail. There are some hills, as to be expected running through the park, but it’s totally manageable and you have plenty of time to do hill and strength training. Did I mention there is a huge buffet of food for the runners at the finish line?

      • Thanks! I’ll definitely look into it. In my training for the 10 miler I did quite a bit of hills, but the hills were generally not combined with the distance. A giant buffet at the end may just be the motivation I need!

      • I was also going to recommend the Parks Half Marathon, I’ve done it many times and probably will many more. It’s such a nice run through the park.

    • Congrats on the 10-miler. You can totally do a half, especially if there are no winds blowing you about. After finishing strong yesterday, DH and I are considering the Frederick Half Marathon on May 8th–it looks flat. It’s really good timing if you pretend that 10-mile run yesterday was a training run :).

      It sounds like you have joint pain, but have you tried rolling out on one of those giant foam rollers? It helps with getting the knots out of muscles, especially quads, hamstrings, shins, calves which I find helps me recover faster. My hip flexors are definitely hurting after that run yesterday, hoping they feel better by tomorrow!

    • Oh my typos galore. I finished**, and which made such a difference**

    • Congrats on the finish – what an awesome accomplishment! One day I’ll do the Cherry Blossom ten-miler…

    • binntp

      Congrats on the run! If you don’t mind traveling a little, apparently the Delaware Running Festival has a lovely flat half-marathon route in mid-May. And don’t forget the Army 10-miler in the fall…also mostly flat.

    • I did the Alexandria Running Festival half last year and really enjoyed it. It’s at the end of May so you could keep your training going and easily knock it out. Nice course, not too crowded, but also I never felt all alone (really hate small races).

    • Congrats! I also ran the 10 miler, also the longest run of my life. I ran x-country in HS but we often only did 7 or 8 miles max due to the fact that our races were only 5km. The conditions were pretty brutal – the head winds on Hains Point seriously slowed me down.
      Ugh, my knees and ankle are so sore today. I brought the heat pad to the office with me haha. I spent yesterday eating Indian take-out food and watching House of Cards on the couch.

    • FtLincolnLove

      If you’re willing to travel, the Richmond Half Marathon in November is wonderful! The last mile of the race is downhill, and there is only one hill about halfway through the course. The course is great and the entire community comes out to support the runners! Plus, you can’t beat the swag- last year we got a medal, long sleeve shirt, hat, and a blanket!

    • There are so many options! I’ve heard great things about the Richmond half, but the others are slightly closer-to-home and thus a little more appealing. I’ll report back!

      • maxwell smart

        Yes – early/late fall you can pretty much find a local-ish race just about every weekend! They usually are a great pay-off after spending all summer training in the heat and humidity… as soon as that autumn air hits you’ll find your times improve drastically!

  • Bear

    Rant: Terrible sleep over the weekend, after several weeks of not having any issues. SO frustrating, I need my sleep!
    Rant: I don’t think our house is going to appraise for what we need it to appraise for in order to do the work we want to do. There aren’t a lot of comps in our neighborhood that are actually comparable.
    Rave: I think we came up with a staged plan so we can get more use out of the space we have in the short term, without having to do more expensive work like moving plumbing/electrical just yet.

  • Rant: Spring Break is over… back to school for me and the kiddos
    Rave: I’m showing a video clip for part of class to introduce a project I really like and the kids have been decently behaved so far
    Rant: A boy I’d been seeing ended things last night. It was unexpected and obnoxious. He went from saying things like: “I’ve been thinking about you all day” to saying he didn’t really feel a spark. Ugh I have not enjoyed dating in this city. And I had pretty high hopes for this guy. Oh well. He still wants to get drinks and “be friends,” like eh, I dont know

    • topscallop

      Someone who treats you like that doesn’t deserve to have you as a friend. Sorry that he was a jerk!

      • Accountering

        Meh, seems like he was fairly upfront about it. I don’t think he treated you like a jerk. It does sound like he still wants to hook up, as opposed to being friends. If you are into that, then carry on, otherwise I would move on.

        • topscallop

          I object to the bait and switch, not the sentiments themselves. It seems unlikely he was head over heels and then all of a sudden isn’t feeling it, but I guess it’s possible. Do we give points for not just ghosting?

          • Bait and switch? I didn’t see that, based on this description. He probably has conflicted feelings for the OP, which are themselves a red flag. At least the guy was upfront and ended thing maturely. That doesn’t make him a “jerk.” Would you call the OP a “jerk” if the tables were turned? Probably not and it seems like a double standard.

        • I’ve dated a lot and never in my life have I gone from “thinking about a person all day” feelings to “I don’t think there’s a spark” feelings. In the latter situation, I’ve usually been questioning the relationship from the beginning and am very careful not to overstate my interest to the other person. Maybe that’s not the case for everyone, but I suspect it’s true more often than not and I completely understand OP’s skepticism of the guy’s intentions. I would feel very led on if it happened to me. And even if you don’t agree, why not err on the side of sympathy for the person posting instead of going out of your way to defend the guy who hurt her? Anyway. Sorry, OP, dating is really not fun sometimes. Hang in there! The right one is out there.

  • Rant: working in PG means so many of my friends live in pain-in-the-ass places (like Olney), which means I’m driving to the Aspen Hill Panera to meet her for lunch because Wheaton Mall is so damn inconvenient.
    Revel: at least I can go to H Mart and the kosher grocery store on my way home

  • Rave: Wonderful anniversary dinner with the BF. Thanks everyone who weighed in on when an anniversary is now a days. FWIW, we celebrate our first date, which is also the same night we had our first kiss, so I suppose I align well with a lot of you!
    Rant: Finding a rental that works for us in the area we want is not getting any easier and the clock to move date is ticking. We thought we had found the perfect house for us on Friday only to find the listing pulled first thing this morning. It’s getting very frustrating and I am getting very nervous about finding a place.

  • anonymouse_dianne

    Rave: Arena Stage yesterday – All the Way – the story of LBJ’s passing the Civil Rights Act of 1964 and election. Political junkies will enjoy the verisimilitudes to the current political scene including racist Republican front runner Goldwater.

    Rave: Wash Humane closing GA Ave and moving the kids to WARl at 71 Oglethorpe. Hopefully a new beginning moving DC in a good direction. Should be video on NBC 4

  • Quotia Zelda

    Rave: Middle Zelda is home from Europe. She had a wonderful time and loved Copenhagen so much she wants to move there.
    Funny: A quotation from MZ: Everyone in Denmark was tall and beautiful. I think they make the ugly people leave.
    Rant: Eldest Zelda is being difficult. She’s in that “treat me like an adult but do everything for me” phase.

    • Emmaleigh504

      lol Middle Zelda is a caution!

    • LOL – I think that’s the definition of adolescence – treat me like an adult when I want to be treated like an adult, treat me like a child when I want to be treated like a child, and automatically know when and where each condition applies.

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