Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind โ€“ quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct peopleโ€™s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • DC CapHill

    Rave: Time with Family coming very VERY soon for Turkey Day!

    Rant: WTF is Turkey doing? Was shooting down a plane the only form of deterrent or de-escalation?

    Rant 2: Still no update from MPD on the broad daylight shooting in AdMo? It’s been nearly two days, can we at least get an update on the victim?

  • Quotia Zelda

    Rant: 2-hour meeting with the Office Princess (and others). Don’t even bother bringing up a new idea, because she tried that in the 90s. Also, did you know that she worked on that big, high-profile project? Because she did, and every other project worth mentioning (and she will). Also, her ideas are the best ideas, and your ideas are stupid so she must now roll her eyes.
    Rave: Thanksgiving is SO SOON.

  • Rant: I’ve been mostly up since 2:15am. Stupid brain.

    Rave: Half day at work

    Rant: Doctor appointment

    Rave: But I’ll get to finish my grocery shopping before all the people descend upon it after work!

    Rave: No plans tonight means I just get to hang out at home!

    Rant/Rave? Tomorrow there’s going to be A Meeting with the two partners I work with and the Office Administrator. I’m glad there’ll be a meeting, I am concerned nothing will change.

  • Rant: Of COURSE closing got pushed back. And of COURSE it’s at when all our bills are due
    Rant: nervous first time buyers and a crappy DC title company.
    Rave: in the grand scheme of things, we’re still doing well even if a bumpy few weeks.
    Rave: Stuffing and potatoes. SOON.
    Rave: I hope all of you have a great Thanksgiving no matter how you celebrate and if you’re traveling, that you have safe travels.

  • rant: have a disgusting callus on my foot. it’s cracking and gross and it hurts.
    rant: gotta come in to work on friday. blah
    rant: it’s freaking cold out
    rave: I love starbucks hot chocolate ๐Ÿ˜€

    • Pediegg to get rid of it and heeltastic overnight w/ socks (even if it’s not on your heel) to keep it soft.

    • Soak your feet in warm water, exfoliate, slather in Eucerin and wrap in gauze over night (or just socks you don’t care about).

    • I’ve heard good things about the Amope foot roller thing. Creeps me out less than the PedEgg and you do it on dry skin, so no balancing on one leg in the shower while I ineffectively pumice my foot.

      • I have one of those and I love it! I refused to try the pedegg because it seemed weird and dangerous but the amope thing really takes the effort out of it.

      • I’ve used the egg for a long time. Yea dumping it out isn’t fun, but it’s an effective tool. I agree pumice stones are the worst even in a bath.

    • Gold Bond heel crack cream is really effective.

    • O’Keeffe’s Working Hands Cream worked really well for my Mom’s incredibly dry and cracked fingertips. They make a version for feet (Healthy Feet Foot Cream) that I’ve never used but has great reviews on Amazon (4.5 star average over 3,386 reviews)

  • Rant: After Thanksgiving is the countdown to travel and meet the folks for the holidays. Hate the fact that mother and wife have a not so cold war going on for over 10yrs and neither is willing to give an inch.
    Rave: Light week at work, might grab a cocktail while I take an extended lunch.

  • Rant: More discouraging developments at work.

  • Not so much a Rant as a Bummer: Just watched the video for second-line after Allan Toussaint’s funeral. After looking at some of the pictures that went with it, the pink placard in the window of the hearse with his name on it made me a little sad.

  • justinbc

    Rave: Killer Mike’s intro for Bernie. Ain’t nobody gonna hype a crowd like that for Hillary.

  • Rant: That sad photo of the burnt-out house on Riggs Place.
    Rant: Awful, stressful Monday in the office.
    Rave: Drowned my sorrow in Duffy’s wings.
    Rant: Duffy’s wings the morning after.
    Rave: Only a few more hours before I get to set it all aside for a few days with family, turkey and plenty of quiet time for reading.

  • Rant: Mother issues. Mom declined initial invite to Thanksgiving so I haven’t been including her in the plans. Dinner was pushed back to 3pm from 1pm because I am not a 1950s housewife and will not be slaving over the stove/oven after a full day of work on Wednesday. She then tells me yesterday that they are coming afterall. Cue frantic planning mode to reserve tables and chairs to rent for dinner since our already maxed out dinner seating was now well over capacity. Then, upon hearing that dinner is now at 3pm, she declines once again. So the flurry of activity was completely unnecessary (though we will keep the tables and chairs and just nix the kid table).
    Rave: I was sent into a complete panic about having them there because I just knew that at some point politics would be brought up. I am far, far more liberal than my parents and mom is currently on a Carson kick (which I don’t get; she was a card-carrying, union supporting Dem when I was a kid) and my step-dad loves baiting me into arguments. Considering the amount of alcohol that would have been necessary to get through the event and how loose my tongue gets when I’ve had a few, it was not going to end well. So them not coming is a very good thing.

    • I feel your pain…if it wasn’t for my mom’s drama, it would be a joyful holiday season, but I don’t understand why she needs to battle it out with my wife and ask me to take sides.

      • I’m so sorry that you have to deal with that. It’s not easy. My mom and I have a cyclically-contentious relationship and she loves to drag my ex into it (yes, even now, after three years since we split up). Luckily my BF now is firmly on my side lol.

    • After declining that first invite that would have been end of story for me. If you’re a guest at my house you don’t get to dictate the time, the menu, etc., even if I’m the fruit of your womb.

      • This was basically my thoughts too. I didn’t involve them in further planning because they declined the invite. I was not going to change the time. I would have happily (well, at least on the surface) accommodated them, which is why we went ahead with the table/chair rental. But that’s it. I’m not going to change the plans for the other 12 people who accepted the invite 3 weeks ago because of them. If that makes me a rotten daughter, well, add it to the damn list.

        • This just sounds like a classic power play. With adults like that, I think you have to treat them like unruly toddlers — have clear, firm, consistent boundaries. And if they throw a tantrum, you can put them in time out (i.e., hang up the phone or reduce contact). I’m sorry you are having to deal with unnecessary holiday drama.

          • I completely agree. I’m glad that this battle is over, and I will refuse any attempts to rehash in the coming days and weeks (which she will), but I am not looking forward to the inevitable Christmas battle. The holidays are just such a pain in the ass with her. The amazing thing to me is that between my BF and I, we have to coordinate between not only our families but our ex’s. So we have to think of 5 separate families in planning, and really since the kids come first, coordinating with the ex’s comes first. It might suck for the various grandparents, but that really is the way it has to be. The difficulty is that everyone else seems to get it except her.

          • Accountering

            I have told my family that the next person who votes to disenfranchise me is permanently left off my Christmas list. Family is all democrats, so no issues, but just wanted to get in front of it in case anyone gets any funny ideas.

          • The thing is, every single time we get together, we argue. My dad loves to pick fights and my brother and I both just cannot back down. I get that perhaps it would be better to just not engage, but when someone is saying, for example, that “marriage should be as god intended it” when they are on their fourth and second respectively, it’s just hard to say “can we agree to disagree on this subject?”

          • I should say, I am just about the only liberal left in the family. I have an uncle who is as liberal as me, is a union rep, etc, but he’s on the west coast and long ago tired of the BS. My brother is an “independent” (read: mid-30s “disenfranchised” relatively uneducated, white male who hates paying taxes, but the ideology came after the years of not bothering to pay taxes), my parents are increasingly conservative, and I’m the socialist sitting on her soapbox in the corner.
            Thankfully, my BF’s family is, for the most part, liberal.

          • Re: adults like that…I don’t understand how there are so many of them (ie my soon to be father in-law :::shudder:::) I find myself wondering how they exist in normal day to day life. Are they just saving their crazy for me or do they act this way in all aspects of their life? How is it tolerated elsewhere?

          • “I find myself wondering how they exist in normal day to day life. Are they just saving their crazy for me or do they act this way in all aspects of their life?” – this made me lol!
            In the case of the crazy in my family, my mom saves it all for her kids, though she did once throw a tantrum and pull out – last minute – as matron of honor in her best friend’s wedding. As for my brother and stepdad, they give it to everyone, and my brother’s favorite platform is Facebook.

          • Accountering

            My gut says these fools live in flyover country/Upper Bumpkinville, and all of their idiot friends agree with them, then when they find someone who has had different life experiences than them, and disagrees with them, they don’t even know what to do.
            The Fox News rabbit hole is deep. Their has been so much hatred bred on the right, that to many, the concept of a liberal or a leftie is literally the most disgusting vile thing they can think of.
            Good news is, educated people, people that live in urban areas, non-white voters, and single women are all growing demographically, so they are going to lose in November 2016, and that’s the most important thing.

          • @Accountering – normally I would agree with you but my father in-law is born and raised in NOVA – so he doesn’t have the flyover excuse. Also he is just a terrible person in general and acts like a child in most of the interactions I’ve ever had with him. I often wonder how his children turned out as well as they have with an influence like that.

          • NOVA is most certainly an excuse. ๐Ÿ˜‰

          • NOVA is full of conservative glassbowls.

  • palisades

    Rave: Lack of traffic during the holidays

  • Rave: I’m off Thursday and Friday! Tempted to take a day trip to NYC. Or just spend the whole weekend on a Netflix binge.

    Rave/Rant: My cousin is hosting Thanksgiving so I have no duties other than to bring wine. But I still may make a Turkey at home for leftovers. I’m not sure if I have a big enough pan in my new place.

  • Rant: Trying to plan a meeting, and after she blocked out tons of time, I gave option a or b. She countered with c, of course. Sent the least snarky version of I said this already that I could muster.
    Rant: Friends who can only have fun when wasted.
    Rave?: Date tonight.
    Rave: Managed lunch for this short week.

  • Rave: I’m in DC, i’m in DC! Had a wonderful 4 day trip here, sad to go back, but glad that I still like it as much as I think I did.
    Rant: all this wintery weather gave me a cold.

  • Rant: My trip to the dentist went well this morning, bu apparently because I have inflamed gums, I have to start getting my teeth cleaned on a quarterly basis. Yay random pregnancy side effects!
    Rave: I have all my teeth and good dental coverage.
    Rave: Thanksgiving is almost here! This is my favorite holiday, and I’m looking forward to hosting my in laws and having a quiet, harmonious meal.

  • Accountering

    Rave: Giving two weeks notice today! Accepted a new position as a controller in Arlington/Falls Church. It is about 10 minutes closer to home, and I get to work from home 4 days a month. Large pay increase, and a really cool role with a company with a ton of growth (and the funding to get there) planned over the next 24 months. I am very excited!

    • justinbc

      Nice, less commute + telework is hard to pass up.

      • You forgot more money.

      • DC CapHill

        Would love to know which exit the ‘Big Big Raise’ store is located off of…..considering my job ties me to DC specifically, and the search for what I would call a “home to get excited about investing in,” seems to require me finding about 2.5 times what I currently pull in.

        Head-hunters? Do people even use those anymore?

        • justinbc

          If you’re on LinkedIn the head hunters will often come to you (assuming you’ve got your skills, experience, etc filled out).

          • Iv had several recruiters find me on linkedin mostly from gov contracting companies. The downside is these people are often disconnected from the actual project team, leading to misinformation in terms of skills for that particular team. So I have not landed a job from that. However a lot of good opportunities, eventually one will work out? I need to be more pro-active about what I WANT to do versus waiting for a recruiter to tell me what I should be doing.

          • Huh, this is interesting. I have TONS of stuff listed on my LinkedIn and only one headhunter has contacted me in the past 3 years since I started working (and it was for a translation job way beyond my ability, unfortunately). Is there something else I’m missing? Profile settings, posting articles, number of contacts? etc.

          • justinbc

            FridayGirl, it might have more to do with your particular field than the amount of data you put out there. The financial field I play in is rife with head hunters, which is really all I was commenting (their presence, and whether people still use them). I get contacted by them almost weekly at times and I purposely leave my profile pretty vague as a deterrent. Typically when I have communicated with them the salaries they’re offering are not commensurate with my current level or experience, they’re just fishing for a competent body.

          • Accountering

            I think it likely depends on your field, and your resume. I simply updated my profile, and had something like 10 recruiters reach out over the last several months. I worked with this recruiters, and they found all of the jobs for me. The process could not have been easier for me.

          • Ah, I see. Thanks, guys.

          • FridayGirl, I second what everyone else said about your field, but I’ll also throw out there that you are only pushed to the top of searches if you:
            A) log in EVERY DAY, open your profile to edit it (even if you make no changes), and save it (this shows that you’re “active”)
            B) pay for the premium level thing
            Try logging in often and see if that makes you more visible (you can view how many times your profile is viewed over a time period).

          • anonymouse_dianne

            I got calls from headhunters by posting my resume on Monster and LinkedIn. Still took me eight months (in 2008) to get an actual job offer. Got lots of practice interviewing!

          • DC CapHill

            Wow! Great responses, thanks for the confirmation on this, I was always a bit leery about contacting anyone that found me on LinkedIn, especially because there is always a disconnect, as mentioned, and I don’t want to have to drill down multiple levels to explain how I “kinda sorta fit” what they want, but I don’t have X or Y, and I’m not sure where they got Z from.

            Anyway, agree with the being more proactive sentiment, and my Wife has recently had a lot of interest from LinkedIn specifically, although with a similar outcome.

        • Yep, LinkedIn is surprisingly useful even if you aren’t looking. My wife wasn’t even looking and a legal headhunter contacted her about the position. She thought what the heck, I’ll talk to her and see what happens. And here we are.

          • Hmm… I don’t know how much use LinkedIn is in my field, but I guess I should try updating my profile. I know I have my last few jobs listed on there, but I don’t remember if I’ve provided any detail on those jobs, or any information about my skills in general.

    • Congratulations!

    • Congrats! That sounds awesome.

    • HaileUnlikely

      Awesome, congrats!

    • Congratulations – quality of life improvements all around!

    • Congratulations Accountering! This is great news!

    • Congrats!!!

    • Blithe

      Congrats! Yay!

    • Congrats! Damn, where did you work before? McLean? Wife used to do the commute from Park View to Ballston and it wasn’t too bad depending on time of day.

      • Accountering

        I was in North Bethesda/Rockville, off of 270, and will now be in Falls Church. Much easier to get to from Shaw.

    • Yay! That’s awesome.

    • I Dont Get It

      Yay you!

    • Congratulations, Accountering!

    • Emmaleigh504


    • Yay, Accountering! So happy for you!

  • Rave: Tomorrow off
    Rant: I feel like I’m starting to get the cold that has been circulating around my office for a week.

  • Rant: Ready to slit my wrists trying to sign up for healthcare at DC Healthlink. It’s a computer problem. This is been going on for three weeks now and the deadline is approaching.
    Rave: Assistants at the Healthlink enrollment center at MLK Library are patient and awesome. They are frustrated with the situation too.
    Rant: The cost of the so called affordable healthcare will bankrupt me should I get sick.
    Rave: Thanksgiving is here and so are my friends.
    Rave: Loving the cold weather. Great for hiking.

  • Rant: I have been feeling cranky all week, and having a weird schedule this week (short day today and tomorrow, but working a full day on Friday) isn’t helping.
    Rant: Boyfriend is also not helping. I like him but it seems like there is at least one little problem or conflict to resolve every week for the past few weeks — most of which came up unnecessarily in the first place. It feels like this shouldn’t be a problem three months into things.
    Rave: At least I get Thursday off.
    Rave: And at least work is quiet today so I can work on my final in between emails.

  • Question: Moving company recommendations? I know y’all love some Bookstore Movers, but have you had any success with anyone else? ‘Tis the season for move estimates!
    Rave: I’m getting moving estimates! Goodbye, feeling unsafe at home!

  • Rave: Am kicking ass and taking names at work this week – yesterday went soooo much better than I thought it was going to, and the week is almost done! After today, I’m off until next Monday! Huzzah!
    Rave: Soon I’ll be hitting the road to spend time with family and friends and so. much. food! I love Thanksgiving, I think it may be my favorite holiday because the focus is (or should be, in my mind!) on all the things / relationships we have to be grateful for – and really, it’s a lot. Sorry if I sound like a Charlie Brown special, but I just really love Thanksgiving!
    Rant: Black Friday and everything about it – the sheer greed is disgusting to me and has prevented a dear family member from ever being able to spend Thanksgiving with us because the horrible company he works for doesn’t give a sh!t about their employees and only care about the bottom line. Ugh.
    Rave: Just gonna keep thinking about all the good things!

    • I share your disgust about Black Friday. But you don’t have to look too far to see employers who don’t allow employees to have off for it. There always have to be 3 people in the office, after all – signed, bitter former employee who had to work last Black Friday ๐Ÿ˜‰

      • Working Black Friday is one thing – it’s crummy but it’s not an official holiday. I’m talking places that start their “Black Friday” sales at midnight or now, ON FREAKING THANKSGIVING DAY!!!! That nonsense needs to stop!

    • Quotia Zelda

      And FOOD. Thanksgiving is also about food, which makes it all the better.

    • Emmaleigh504

      Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday b/c it’s about family/friends enjoying good food. What could be better?

  • Rant: I woke up with a sinus headache and a stuffy nose. Didn’t want to come into work but I did anyway.
    Rave: My mother is here to help me move.
    Rave: I am moving this weekend. So glad to get out of my current place. New place is bigger with a washer/dryer and balcony in the unit.
    Rant: Packing for move. After several trips to Goodwill, I still think I have too much stuff.
    Rave: Not much work to do at work.

  • Rant – I cannot get that Adele song “Hello” out of my head! It’s the worst/best earworm.
    Rant – Holiday travel. Every year I tell myself that next Thanksgiving I’m staying in DC. It’s my home and there’s nothing wrong with wanting to celebrate the holiday in my own home. Then every year I change my mind because I feel bad about missing family holidays. Then I remember about how much I hate traveling for Thanksgiving.
    Rave – At least it’s easy week at work.

    • justinbc

      Luckily I don’t drive and rarely ride with my partner when she does, so she hates it already, and I still barely recognize it.

    • anonymouse_dianne

      Did you see the Miss Piggy/Kermit sketch at the American Music awards show? It was hilarious.. It’s on Rolling Stone facebook page.

  • Rant: Really dislike my job. I’m the only J.D./attorney, it’s a year-long fellowship, and I feel like I’m not getting enough experience or skills to help me along in my legal career. My projects (when I have them) are uninteresting and most of the time it feels like my boss forgets about me, except when she needs to spring something totally unexpected on me.

    Rave: Going home tonight!!! Can’t wait, need the break.

  • Revel: last day of school before break
    Rant: tons of grading to do over break
    Revel: my title one school just gave me a new toy.. IPad mini!
    Rant: the Hebrew anniversary of my mom’s death. 15 years feels like a long-ass time

  • Rave: Flying home tomorrow morning and my parents have no clue! I am surprising them for Thanksgiving. I’ve never spent a Thanksgiving without them and my wife bought me a ticket about 2 months ago. Really good deal too.
    Rant: Not really a rant, but sad my wife won’t be making the trip with me.

  • Rant: Dreading Thanksgiving this year. It’s the first anniversary of a close family member’s unexpected death, and I want to spend the day inside with Netflix & my dog. Alas, being dragged to a family gathering because others think we should all be together. People grieve in different ways.
    Rave: My friends who understand I want to be alone so don’t smother, but still find ways to let me know they’re there for me.
    Rave: Short work week!

  • Blithe

    Rant: UPS took it upon themselves to relabel a package ordered and shipped to someone with the same name as me — and shipped it to me. I spent almost an hour trying to notify the store, and still need to sort things out with UPS. Now I’m worried about identity confusions — both now, and in the future — with Same Name. This will nudge me to get a copy of my credit report. This is worrying. Sigh.
    Rave: Found yet another mystery series that I like — great timing since this is good weather for hunkering down with books and quilts.
    Rant: Worrying in my dreams. I usually sleep like a rock. Last night I woke up several times thinking about my To Do lists. Once I woke up in shock, thinking: “President Trump?! Oh No!” That was pretty scary.
    Rant: I’m feeling unduly stressed. Or maybe duly stressed. Maybe I need more structure. Bah!

    • Ha! President Trump is a nightmare in more ways than one.

    • Farragut

      Don’t leave us hanging–what’s the mystery series? ๐Ÿ™‚

      • Blithe

        I just finished the Flavia De Luce books, and Amazon correctly suggested that I might like The Grantchester/Sidney Chambers mysteries by James Runcie. I also like some of the Donna Leon books, really like the series by Louise Penny, and highly recommend the earlier books in the series by Batya Gur.

        • DId you see the “Grantchester” TV adaptation? I haven’t read the books, but liked the show.

        • I really liked the TV version, and have been meaning to get the books. It’s too short is my only complaint. As for James Norton and Robson Green… no complaints whatso ever.

  • Rave: Feeling good about life!
    Rave: Getting a cat soon!
    Rant: People are so weird. Person asks me out from online dating app. I suggest a day. Person says play it by ear. This says to me that he does not yet know his plans, is waiting for something better to do, whatever, that’s fine — we haven’t met yet, so I don’t expect him to be that into me. The weird part: he keeps texting. Dude. If you’re not into me enough to decide whether we’re hanging out, that’s fine, but stop asking for my attention!

    • it sounds like this guy doesn’t know what hes doing, you don’t have to indulge his texts. If you actually are into him then propose another day, if he cant make it then move along.

      • “it sounds like this guy doesnโ€™t know what hes doing” — Unless this guy is a doctor who’s on call or something, he should be able to make reasonably firm plans. I think Thingamabob’s sense that he’s waiting in case something better comes up is correct, and that’s annoying.

        • I agree. Although there are quite a few jobs (medical professions, security contractors, other service jobs) that might not know schedules more than a week in advance. Perhaps you could inquire a bit further to see if this might be the case, and if it’s not apparent that it is, I agree with textdoc that your sense is correct.

          • Yeah, I think I’m just really a stickler for not doing too much pre-talking — if you’ve established you like someone enough to get together, just do it! Little to gain from chatting endlessly beforehand except more disappointment if you don’t click in person.

    • Your rant was one of my rants from dating apps! I’m not going to hold time for your maybes when I don’t even know you. The guy I’m currently dating took time to plan ahead, confirm, etc and it was such a relief from the way it was going with the others. One of many reasons I’m down to dating only one.

    • Why is that weird? He seems interested and, I think, is trying to get to know you while he figures out whatever. I just did the same thing because I was trying to schedule a contractor & figure out when my office was open this week. Seems kind of a leap to assume he isn’t simply figuring out holiday plans or something rather than wading through a bevy of people to meet who he likes more.

      • Makes sense — it’s just got a little down to the wire (day of) — if someone tells me they’ll let me know… I shouldn’t have to follow-up — if I have to do that, I’ll assume they don’t actually want to see me.

    • justinbc

      If you’ve not yet met someone you can’t really assume to know their mannerisms. If he’s actively engaging then he must be at least somewhat interested, give him the benefit of the doubt, at least so you don’t go into it already jaded if and when you do meet up.

      • Accountering

        My first instinct was that this guy is an idiot, but I am going to co-sign the above. He could just be really bad at dating, but still a cool guy, and someone you would enjoy spending time about it. If you are going to meet him, then definitely give him the benefit of the doubt until you meet.

        • Will do! It just feels unpleasant to 1. be texting so much without meeting and 2. be put in a position where I now have to follow up about getting together… blech.

  • revel: traffic and parking have seemed pretty easy the past few days! do a lot of people take the whole week of thanksgiving off?
    revel: this weather
    revel: ran my first 5k saturday and doing another thursday- feeling good!
    revel: bought a fitbit charge!
    revel: free same day delivery!

  • Rant/Rave: Finally talked to the head of my company about my performance review which was delayed. Its been frustrating switching companies and working 2 full years without a pay bump. I basically told them I need to know an idea of what the raise would be like so I can gauge if its a good idea for signing a new more expensive lease. Hopefully that wasn’t inappropriate but the delay caused me to not know when I needed to know.
    Rave: Looks like I am getting a well deserved and earned pay bump. Not huge, but enough to make this move for me possible without feeling like I am not able to save my money for the future.
    Rave: Old roommate is back in town, haven’t seen him in 3 months! Getting drinks tonight
    Rant: Already getting super bored at work and I know its going to be this slow until the new year…life could be worse but its a bit lonely.

    • So….How do you know your review will be positive enough to get an increase? This whole situation seems very inappropriate, but I hope it works out for you.
      I’d honestly start looking for a new job; it seems that bad to me.

      • My company isn’t going to fire me…all I do is make them money and the client loves me. Maybe I got a little restless because I haven’t got a pay bump in 2 years (one year was with old company who got sold to new company, so they didn’t give me a raise at the end of the year because they knew they were selling). Now I have done a full year at new company, doing great work more than I ever have done previously and know that I deserve a raise. If I didn’t get one I would probably start reaching out to the other companies I work with and one of them would hire me…I know what I am worth and I don’t want to work for a company where I cant grow anyways (or at least keep up with cost of living). So if they did fire me…I would figure it out.

        • I didn’t assume fire rather looked at less favorably. Maybe in your industry pay bumps are de facto, so saying hey, where’s my money because I can’t afford to move without it isn’t a big deal.

    • ugh. your first rant/rave seems inappropriate. Handle your own business, no need to bring up your personal living situation to your employer. It’s not their concern. But like the previous poster said, I hope it works out for you.

      • It seems more inappropriate to me to assume a raise than to bring up a personal situation (in certain situations, bringing personal things up can’t be helped — like taking extended leave or suggesting one deserves a raise because of newly acquired academic achievements or certifications). But also I’m a woman. Maybe guys can get away with this stuff. I don’t know.

        • I think it would be bad for either gender, but yea, women should value their time more. Many men get things simply by asking for them while a woman may not want to seem greedy. My friend just did this in a salary negotiation. They immediately approved her counter number which told me they were willing to pay more.

        • I didn’t assume a raise, I had spoke with my manager over the summer and she was the one who brought up that I should be inline for a raise and that she understands where I am coming from because she too was taken from old company to the new one, and not given a raise (just a title bump, and that raises would be addressed later in the year). Sorry if that came off as ‘entitled’ but really I have worked my ass off and deserve whatever additional pay raise my company can afford to give me. I hope it works out too.

        • My issue is not that the OP approached management about their raise, it’s more that I feel that one’s personal life should not be brought up when asking the status (and amount) of a pay raise. Employers do not need to know this. It does not accomplish anything, what is the employer supposed to do with this information? Of course everyone should be assertive when it comes to their performance/salary increases and your degrees and newly aquired certifications are also fair game, but your new apartment lease is not pertinent. In my opinion, there are better ways to approach management about this.

          • You are probably right, but I figured I would explain the reason why I would like to know now as apposed to two weeks from now…I didn’t ask for a hard number and if they said I wasn’t getting a raise then I would have accepted that and moved on. I just wanted to know where I stand ahead of time so I don’t make a decision I would regret. Anyways, I think I get the point and appreciate the feedback.

  • Love doing nothing for Thanksgiving. Will do the family dinner on Saturday (result of blended family compromises which have held the peace for many years…) so Thursday is all mine with nothing to do and I love it. There is no quieter day in this city.

    Working on Friday, since I am in town anyhow, and it buys me extra consideration when Christmas/New Year’s leave is allotted. Hoping for a low-key Friday and, just to be greedy, also hoping for early dismissal on Wednesday. (3 hours is the rumor…)

  • Rant: tongue tie clip kind of sucked but should help.
    Rant: indicator light started flashing on the way to the pediatricians office.
    Rave: mechanic thinks it’s probably just a glow plug so probably still worth fixing. Helpful since we haven’t done the test driving we need to do to decide what to replace it with.
    Rave: baby is growing like crazy – over 2.5 lbs and two inches in the first month!

  • HaileUnlikely

    Rant: Pieces of shit roaming around the city robbing people with great efficiency and evidently no fear of being apprehended. I have received 3 SMS notifications with reasonably detailed and very similar lookouts for robberies committed on 3600 block of Georgia Ave at 10:52 AM, 13th & Harvard at 11:39 AM, and 6900 Georgia at 12:07 PM. How many more robberies are they going to commit this afternoon? Five? Ten? More?

  • Rave: short week this week. More time to spend with family, both human and canine ๐Ÿ™‚
    Rant?: Was promoted a year ago to a job previously shared by two people. Other person left and now it’s me. When I received the promotion I was significantly underpaid, so they gave a bump (about 10K which was 5k over the listed pay) after really selling myself and pushing for it, which helped, though it’s still 10-25k less than others in the same position (based on time in not performance). One of these people is leaving and now there is another opening. The announcement lists my current salary as the minimum pay. I’m a bit upset that someone can now walk in and get at least what I had to fight for and likely more, even now that I have more experience in the job. I don’t know if this is unreasonable or warranted?

    • Accountering

      Its warranted. Companies do this, and it is crappy. They have you at X salary, and even if you are underpaid, you are kind of stuck. YMMV, but I have found best bet is to switch companies in this spot. I would talk to them about this first, but once you have a baseline at a company, they aren’t looking at your market value, just your current salary, and how they don’t want to increase it.

    • Any chance you could just apply for that position with the higher possible pay?

    • It’s a public service job and they are big on “if you’re here for the money this is the wrong place for you,” which I get. I’m not looking to get rich here, but get paid fairly. I am working on student loan forgiveness so it’s harder for me to leave. It would be nice if it were based on performance, but they don’t do that here. They pretty much had to give me the bump because the people I was supervising were making more than me, and many still are. It was awkward and difficult for me to get the raise that I did, and now it’s just the minimum. I run the training for all our new hires and I have put a lot into these people and want to see that through (it’s a year long program). The other opening is working with seasoned staff and a fraction of the work as they require little to no assistance and are mostly self sufficient.

  • Rave: Had a good time out of town.
    Rant: Now feeling kind of bummed out.

    • Blithe

      Sorry you’re feeling down textdoc. Is there anything that I could do that might help?

      • I’m wondering the same thing. What’s going on?

        • Awww… it’s very kind of you both to ask!
          I guess coming back to the daily grind after time off somewhere else doing something totally different (and exciting) is always a little discouraging. It’s that, coupled with work stuff, plus some mixed feelings regarding the holidays.

          • Blithe

            I’m smiling — in recognition — as I read your post. I’ve definitely got “mixed feelings” regarding the holidays, and I tend to plan both “totally different” things as well as scheduled hibernation to kind of balance things out. I hope that your work stuff works out well.

          • I just saw this now, but wanted to send hugs. I completely empathize with (all of the) mixed feelings, too. Seems like holidays can bring up lots of feelings, good and bad, no matter what we do.

    • I Dont Get It

      Come over and help me plant double pink daffodils. ๐Ÿ˜‰

      • So you ordered them and they arrived? Excellent!
        KvB cancelled my order for the pink irises, BTW. I’m a little disappointed, but seeing as I already had more bulbs than room/energy to plant them, maybe it’s for the best.

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: work is killing me. I think I need a mental health day soon.
    Rave: about a month until vacation.

    • I Dont Get It

      I’m taking one today. Come over and we’ll make nachos and watch Bravo.

      • Given that IDGI is inviting everyone to his house today, I think we should have the next happy hour there.

        • I like your thinking. That would be a surefire way of getting IDGI to show up to the happy hour! (Unless he decided to skip town and make Wiccan Dog Sitter host in his place.)

          • That was me above. I considered that, but figured he’d find a way to get out of it. I now think we have to schedule it secretly so he won’t know when it is until we all show up. Don’t worry, IDGI, we’ll bring plenty of booze…

          • Can you please all get together and actually garden and drink and make nachos at IDGI’s house? That would seriously make my day. Do it for me!

      • Emmaleigh504

        DAMN IT. I am just seeing this now and I’ve already jammied.

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