Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • Mootje1

    Announcement: If you lost a gold earring on the 52 bus yesterday morning (I think the woman got off at McPherson Square around 8:10am), let me know.

  • Rant: Weird headache (migraine?) still hanging around.
    Rant: Grumpy people on the bus.
    Rant: My mom not talking to me on-and-off on a weekly basis because I can’t seem to do things to satisfaction. I know she’s stressed, and scared, and it’s probably not entirely me. But I still can’t help but feel angry and like a helpless failure. On top of this, I’ve just felt really profoundly sad on and off the past few days. I can’t figure it out….
    Rave: Day off tomorrow.
    Rave: Weather looking better for next weekend.
    Rave: I need to find some free or cheap festivities to indulge in this weekend. ‘Tis the season (almost).

    • On the mom front… I’m sorry. I have dealt with this with my own mom for years – it literally started when I was a freshman in high school. I know it’s tough not to have your parent’s full, unconditional support. One thing to remember is that it is your life, your journey. You have to make the life that is best for you and not for someone else. I just want you to know that you are not a failure, you are a person on a journey. No journey is a straight path; sometimes you will feel lost and sometimes you will know you are making the right decisions. But none of this makes you a failure, it makes you human.

      • Thank you, anonamom. That is definitely the kindest thing I have heard in awhile. I’ll remember that.

      • Another thing to remember is that parents are also humans on a journey. They have their own set of fears, insecurities, and weaknesses that they deal with. Just because they raised some kids doesn’t mean they have life all figured out. As an adult, I think it’s a lot easier to manage your relationship with your parents once you loosen the “mom” or “dad” expectations and understand that they’re also just people that get lost sometimes and don’t know if they’re making the right decisions and wonder if they’re a failure.

        • +10000. Krampus, this speaks to me. I could not agree with you more here. Thank you for phrasing it like this — I hadn’t thought of it in exactly this way.

    • So weird, I have also felt profoundly sad since Friday evening. I’m really sorry that you are feeling that way as well.

      • Aw, SinSA, I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling this way, too. All I can figure is that it’s some combination of the change in season, and the upcoming holidays, and sudden lack of daylight when I’m not at work. I hope you are feeling better soon.

        • That all sounds like a terrible combo. This may also be what’s causing your headache. I tend to get mulit-day headaches when I’m stressed. Really frustrating. Also, make sure you’re staying hydrated. Headaches are a symptom of dehydration, and with drier air and heaters going, we need more water.

    • Friday Girl, I’m so sorry that things with your mom are rough. Have you talked to a professional about your relationship? This sounds like emotional blackmail/abuse…She’s basically saying: Do things my way or I will punish you. Meet my impossible standards (I don’t if they’re impossible) or I will punish you. Maybe someone can help with coping techniques. Good luck.

      • I have but I really think her intention isn’t to punish me but to shield herself from more stress (she’s been having a particularly hard time this past year… on top of the last twenty years of difficult). I try not to stress her out by trying to save money (I’ve cut out buying coffee, am looking for ways to save on groceries, moved into affordable housing so I can try to save a little each month) and doing decently in school and at work, but I can’t seem to work hard enough where I can get to a point to help her out and relieve her stress because there are literally not enough hours in a day. We try to have conversations about things besides money/school/work but they always seem to come back around to these topics, and neither of us is EVER going to be satisfied with the situation (unless someone wins the lottery or my income suddenly doubles).

        • Wait, I’m confused….is she worried about you being able to support yourself or worried about you being able to support her? Because if it’s the latter, then I would strongly suggest talking to a professional who can help you develop a plan as well as boundaries, because yikes.

          • I had the same question. I think it’s very unreasonable to expect that someone your age would be able to support her mother. It also sounds like there may be a second element at work her, namely that anything that could bring you a small amount of comfort or joy (nicer groceries, housing, coffee) somehow equates to not doing enough for the sake of her happiness. You are allowed some comfort and joy!

          • More supporting myself, because my family can’t support me. But she’s also worried about not being able to support herself fully because of some health issues that have impacted her ability to work over the past year. I feel like it’s my duty to step in and help, since my family is so small and no one else can, either.

          • I understand your concern and desire to help her out, but if you are struggling yourself and this stresses her out, perhaps it would be best to just handle one part of the equation – you. Make sure you’re ok, let her know you’re ok so she doesn’t worry?

        • You will be able to help her one day, but you’re pretty young and putting A LOT of unreasonable stress on yourself by trying to fit her bills into your budget! It’s great that you want to help, but it doesn’t sound like you’re in the position to do so…yet.

        • It sounds like she’s had a tough year and a tough life but it’s not your job, even if there is no else, to get her out of whatever bind she’s in. You’re very generous to help her at all, particularly when you have so much going and you’re making sacrifices. The fact that she criticizes how you help, isn’t happy with the help etc only (to me) makes the perception of subjecting you to emotional blackmail/abuse stronger. I mean what would she say if you did win the lottery, bought her a beautiful house, paid all the bills, decorated etc: you have to redo room X because I don’t like the paint color or you only bought a regular mattress, not a memory foam, that’s not good enough? I’m just making things up as examples of course but the criticism of the help you are able to provide is a big red flag. I’m sorry that you’re dealing with all of this.

          • Anon again — the help wouldn’t be critiqued. It’s the things I could do to get us both on better footing. Getting better grades in my graduate program, because she thinks that will give me a better job with a higher income so that I can afford to spend holidays with her, for example. But the way I see it, the degree itself will get me a better job, not one grade out of 25 on a transcript. Or yes, someday down the line, having saved enough money so that I can afford my own place where she can stay if there is an emergency (she can’t really do that now per my lease). So it isn’t picky stuff like paint colors. It’s the big stuff that she’s worried about. I would be lying if I said I wasn’t worried, too, but we think about these things differently.

    • +1 to everything Anonamom said and to Anon 10:09’s observation that your mom’s behavior sounds like emotional blackmail. From the very little you’ve said, it sounds as if she is dealing with her own insecurities and projecting them onto you rather than trying to see things from your perspective or be the cheerleader that parents are supposed to be. I know it can be hard to shut out complaints and concerns of our parents — I think we’re largely programmed to seek their approval — but I think this is where we have to learn to create healthy boundaries for the sake of self preservation.

      • I agree with your general sentiment, but creating boundaries and shutting out parents is not the only way. Parents go through rough times too, and as with a friend or partner, shutting them out or keeping them at arm’s length might be exactly what they don’t need. Parents need support and unconditional love sometimes too, so a realignment of the relationship may be what’s needed.

        • I totally agree with this, and with the things you said above. For whatever it’s worth, I’m not advocating for shutting anyone out. But I do think *healthy* boundaries are important. It’s not always easy to figure out what constitutes a healthy boundary, of course, but I think there are some clear examples of where people/parents can cross them.

        • Creating healthy boundaries does not mean shutting someone out. In fact, it’s the exact opposite. Creating healthy boundaries helps to form a better, more stable relationship. Also, the person you have the greatest responsibility to is yourself, and if this means taking a step back from any relationship, that’s exactly what you should do.

        • People choose to have children, but nobody chooses to be born. Sure, parents are human and need support too, but a parent’s obligation to a child is (or should be) greater than a child’s obligation to a parent.

          • I agree with this.

          • Sure, but that’s not a helpful perspective if you’re trying to mend a difficult relationship with a parent. And anyway it doesn’t mean that you can’t also treat your parents with compassion and understanding. It shouldn’t be a competition of who’s required to be more supportive.

          • It really depends on the situation. One person’s compassion and understanding is another person’s co-dependency gone a muck. At any rate, there is nothing wrong with setting healthy boundaries and sticking to them, and there is nothing wrong with looking out for one’s own mental health first. Take “parent” out of the equation and replace it with “friend” or “partner” and most people would agree that healthy boundaries and putting your mental health needs first is a good thing. I don’t think that has to change because it’s a parent, and personally I do believe parents have a greater obligation to their children than their children to them. It’s not a competition. But I think that setting up a situation where kids are the main support for parents has the danger of becoming unhealthy. That won’t be a case for everyone, but this is why healthy boundaries are needed – to prevent this. Also, in any situation where someone is needing to be extra emotionally supportive, self-care is very important. This does not change in the situation of a parent.

          • This is where I disagree. Have you read the book “Love You Forever”? It’s a children’s book and it starts with the parent taking care of the kid, then the kid taking care of his elderly mom, and then his own children at the end. Maybe I have a really classic or old-fashioned view of filial obligations but…. it only seems right.

          • It’s entirely possible to treat people with compassion and understanding *and* have healthy boundaries at the same time.
            I’m thinking of an example from my extended family here. One of my relatives is having deep financial difficulties. Everyone is going out of their way to try to help this person figure out what counseling to get, how to improve his credit, how to get on a more sustainable path, etc. because we care about him and want the best for him. We also call him regularly to check in, try to lift his spirits and listen if he needs to vent about his situation. But no one is going to, say, pay his mortgage for him every month, both because 1) no one can afford that and 2) it’s not a very sound long-term response to the underlying problem.
            In other words, there’s plenty of compassion, understanding and love in this situation. But no one is overextending themselves to the point of making the situation more unstable, and that’s a good thing.

          • HaileUnlikely

            Not sure about global norms for supporting, say, siblings, but I think most of the rest of the world would reject the notion that adult children are not at all responsible for supporting their elderly parents in any material way. How this plays out for each individual person will depend on too many factors to list, and some factors may exist that decrease or altogether negate an individual person’s ability or responsibility for providing for a parent financially, but as a general matter, I don’t appeals to boundaries such that children supporting their parents is categorically outside of those boundaries would hold any water anywhere besides here in the United States.

          • HaileUnlikely

            FridayGirl – I’m sorry that you’re in this situation. Right now my mother is doing fine and doesn’t place demands on me as yours does, and I can’t relate to that at all, but my mother has basically no retirement savings, and has never really made enough money that any reasonable person could fault her for that, and I worry about how I will be able to support her when she can no longer work.

          • HaileUnlikely, thank you for your support. I think you probably understand more than you realize. (Actually, I think there are probably lots of people who understand, but perhaps not the people who would be reading this necessarily.) I don’t want to portray my mom in a bad light even if she drives me totally insane because she worked incredibly hard to support me until I could support myself.
            But there is only so much I can do. And I think a lot of you also addressed that well. Thank you, all.

  • Rant: Work is suddenly very busy.
    Rave: Tomorrow is a day off. Good timing that allows me to prepare for the big dinner party I’m throwing this weekend.
    Rave: My friends — I have such an awesome community of people around me.

  • Rant: I thought it was getting better for a while, but my rotation has taken a turn for the miserable again. At this rate I’m going to have to find another rotation to fulfill the requirement of actually being relevant to my career.
    Rant: I have to move into another office next week, just when I was kind of getting to know the other people in my vicinity.
    Rave: At least I decided to do the rotation during a season when we have a lot of days off.

    • I’m sorry to hear you’re dealing with this, AnonPMF. My federal employment also allows us to rotate within our department and it’s been stressful, to say the least. I hope your next rotation is really fantastic and leads to good opportunities for you down the line. Just keep swimming!

  • Anonynon

    Rant: Work has made me want to gouge my eyes out, really loosing faith in our government.
    Rave: Job interview later today.
    Rant: Wish it wasn’t so miserable outside today
    Rave: Fun concert tonight ^.^ and off tomorrow. Probably going to binge drink tonight
    Rant: Tomorrow morning

  • Rave: Liking new job, people are super nice!
    Rant: SO overwhelming and intense! Leave tomorrow for my first business trip (to NYC) for the biggest event of the year, then got another in early December. Definitely trial by fire..
    Rave: Learning a lot and enjoying it despite that. 🙂

  • Rave: Job is flexible and awesome. Took time off with ease.
    Rave: Comps!
    Rant: Finally talked to upstairs neighbor who was incredulous that the stomping could be her. Yes, you’re a very small horse indoors, I promise.
    Rave: Met a bunch of neighbors. Everyone seems lovely.

    • It’s funny how sensitive people are when someone mentions their habits. I would feel SO incredibly bad if my neighbor told me they can hear my music or hear me walking, etc. (thank goodness my apartment walls and floors are REALLY thick).

  • jack5

    Rant: Spoke too soon, the trap house is still apparently in effect. Oh well, there’s always hope for the future…

    Rant: Lines at starbucks suck. Lines everywhere suck, it’s a slap in the face when employees are obviously chatting while store lines are backed up, but hey, I slack on my job too, so I don’t want to be a jerk, but please just give me my drip coffee and a donut so I can get the hell out of this noisy place.

    Rant: I hate social media, I’m flooded with nonsensical and self-centered posts from friends that make me lose respect for them. Everyone thinks it’s the “Me Show” and it’s only getting worse, but I can’t give it up because it’s the only way to stay in touch… This is why I post food pics and videos of my pets.

    • I’ve made good use of Sbux’s mobile ordering. Pop into the store, walk past the line, pick of drink, wave to the plebs as you walk out.

      • jack5

        Only thing is that when I’d need to make my pickup is 5 minutes before getting to work and I hate surfing the web/texting while driving… hah.

        • Is there a feature to pick the time you want to pick-up? I haven’t used the Starbucks mobile ordering feature, but I use Panera’s rapid pickup and you can say exactly what minute you expect to be there. If you’re semi-routine with your commuting times, I assume you could predict roughly what time you’d arrive at Starbucks.

        • It might depend on location, but the estimated time from order to my drink being ready is usually 3-8 minutes.

      • I love doing this at Union station or at one of the busy metro center locations. BYE LINE.

    • “I’m flooded with nonsensical and self-centered posts from friends . . . I post food pics and videos of my pets.”
      Uhh . . .

  • Rant: It’s roasting at work today, which is unusual and making me sweaty. At least my finger tips aren’t frozen, I guess.
    Rave: Tomorrow is a day off – I need it! I need to get my ish together and feel like a sane human again.
    Not sure: I have a new cube mate. She seems nice enough, but I was really enjoying my little corner all to myself. At least she isn’t wearing way too much perfume today like she was when she came by yesterday to introduce herself – triggered a freaking migraine and I actually had to go beg my manager to remind everyone that some people have really bad allergies and please tone down scents.
    Rant: Today is gross. I feel meh.

    • Re your perfume problem: I feel your pain and it is the worst! There is someone on my bus every morning that smells like perfume and it keeps throwing me into an allergy attack! And I can’t figure out who it is because it makes the WHOLE BUS smell!

    • Good luck!! I hope she stays longer that her predecessors! 😉

      • ha! I literally have no idea what she’s going to be doing…guess I’ll find out eventually!

        • I think she’s supposed to be doing what I’ve been supposed to be doing from home? I’m glad they have someone. It’s not worked out well and is not worth the headache for me.

    • So jealous. My office is only comfortable for the first hour and a half of the day. After that, I’m freezing cold. I have a space heater pointed right at my hands, and nada. My hands feel like icicles.

      • Usually the office is freezing, so I’m a bit thrown off by having to take off layers rather than trying desperately to warm up my fingers!

  • Rant: I do not have tomorrow off. Massively bummed about this and jealous of those who do have off.
    Rave: I read an article on WaPo yesterday about strong-willed kids and how these types of kids often just think differently from other kids (ex, it’s normal for kids to be obedient for the sake of being obedient/gaining approval, where as kids like this take into account logic and fairness more). This is youngest anonachild to a t. I have long employed logic/reasoning in parenting him and have gotten a great deal of flack from various people because of this. It’s nice to have my style validated.
    Rant: I was not able to employ any of this logic while at Target last night. He is still just a four year old. A four year old with a massive set of lungs. Nothing like a four year old to put your ass back in check and make you humble!

    • Piggybacking on Fridaygirl’s rant and our ongoing discussion of parenting, it sounds like youngest anonachild is on the road to being a very emotionally healthy adult! I’m sure it’s a bit of a handful to deal with, but it sounds like he’s a very well adjusted kid and you’re a very smart parent for putting reason above “obedience.”

      • +1 to this. I was brought up more in this way (although I think we’re backtracking now, much to my annoyance). Good for you for letting him reason for himself! I made some great decisions when I was given that freedom, and was lucky enough to have some great teachers who realized that my more stubborn streak was actually a benefit for me in the long run.

      • Thanks 🙂 I really hope so!

  • Rant: Dual citizenship might be screwing me over on my Japan vacation.
    Question: If I’m entering a country where I have citizenship, I must enter with the passport from that country right? I can’t enter/leave on my US passport? I’ve called so many people/googled a ton and am getting conflicting information.

    • I don’t see why you would have to, as long as you have a legal passport. I would bring both just in case, but unless Japan has a specific law requiring it, you’re not committing any sort of fraud or anything.

    • I thought that you had to enter and leave on the same passport when you have dual?

      • That’s my understanding, since the entry stamp would be on one passport, but I don’t think it matters which passport you use as long as you use the same one.

      • I’ve always been told that I have to leave/enter the US on my US passport and enter/leave Japan on my Japanese passport. But maybe it doesn’t matter as much as I thought?

        • That doesn’t sound right at all. Pick one passport and travel on it. Apart from saving a few minutes in line at customs/immigration, is there any benefit to doing otherwise?

          • It’s more about rules/laws than benefits. The State Department site says “Most U.S. nationals, including dual nationals, must use a U.S. passport to enter and leave the United States. Dual nationals may also be required by the foreign country to use its passport to enter and leave that country.”
            But a bunch of travel agencies/the Japanese embassy said to enter Japan on my US passport (in order to use the Japan Rail Pass, which can only be used by non-Japanese passport holders) but the embassy backtracked and said “…but I’m not sure so maybe double check with immigration.” So I’m left wondering how strict it is. I suppose it varies from country to country.

          • So just travel on your US passport. Any reason why you wouldn’t do that?

        • You have to enter/leave the US on your US passport. It’s the law (plus you’ll get hassled if not, plus the foreigner line on entering is always much longer).

    • Dual citizen here (EU and USA). You always, always, enter the US on your US passport (otherwise they ask you stupid questions about where your visa is or where your return ticket is). I typically enter the EU on my EU passport for the same reason unless I’m transiting there to a third country that requires a visa and that visa is in my US passport. On the train pass thing, I did pull the US one out one time to get a Eurail pass…it worked fine. And then I always show my US one when departing for the US do they can see that too. And finally, if you’re trying to get a security clearance or have one, I’d stick my non US in the safe and use only the US one, no matter what.

      • I’ve typically done it the same way you do but have never tried to use the JR pass or enter Japan on my non-Japanese passport and started stressing about it. Thank you!!!

  • Rave: Had a great interview yesterday. Two hours – one hour each with two people. The HR Director and I just spent an hour talking and chatting. That is usually a good sign, right?
    Rant: The waiting game now commences…

  • Rant: Sly mid-sidewalk construction projects that shove unsuspecting walkers into open traffic. DC, what is with this custom?!

  • Quotia Zelda

    Rave: The NPR street chicken post.
    Rave: Mid-week day off tomorrow!
    Rant: I’m not feeling great this week. Several days of feeling like I”m coming down with a cold that never quite materializes.

  • I guess I’m happier at work than I am at home. I’ve noticed the last few weeks that I clench my jaw quite painfully at home, but I don’t do it nearly as much at work.
    I don’t know what to do with this. Has anyone had this stress-clenching thing, and how did you deal with it?

    • binpetworth

      Do you have a night guard to wear when you sleep? I unwittingly discovered I was a jaw clencher when my dentist noted its impact on my back teeth. Since getting a night guard over a year ago, it has done wonders to loosen up my jaw, even during the times I don’t wear it (daytime).

    • I have this issue (at work though, not at home). I realized that if I am just conscious about doing it I can catch myself and stop. The more practice I got at catching myself and stopping, the easier it’s been to notice it.
      Interesting counterpoint to binpetworth above: my dentist actually said the clenching is helping my teeth, not hurting them, because I don’t grind them at all. According to my dentist, it’s helping to make my teeth stronger as long as I don’t start grinding too.
      It’s awful for TMJ though, but I see a massage therapist every now and then for that!

  • Oh, and a rave: Stumbled across a book recommendation list on facebook, and got lots of good-seeming titles. Then I went to DCPL’s website and used their list function to find and save those titles for the next time I’m casting about for something to read. Hooray technology.

  • I Dont Get It

    Rant: Hoteling sucks. It seems that everyone has meetings on Tuesdays so you have to get here early to get a decent seat. Today since our staff meeting was cancelled I wasn’t in a rush to get here but still all the seats were taken so I’m perched on a Barbie doll chair at a little table against the glass wall to the atrium. Ugh!
    Rant: The king size bed mattress pad went to the basement to be washed and now seems to be lost. Losing socks I get, but a mattress pad?
    Rave: IDGI Sr told me that he is giving the Veteran’s Day address tomorrow at some local park (or maybe it’s a cemetery?). He’s a good public speaker although
    Rant: He sometimes can be long winded. He’s given long prayers before Christmas brunch where sometimes I feel like the food needed to be reheated by the time he is finished.

  • rave: my most difficult class of kiddos was just so amazing today! hoping to carry these good vibes through the rest of the week.
    question: to fitbit or not to fitbit?

    • I see no appeal to the fitbit, but everyone I know who actually has one loves it. So if the thing appeals to you at all to begin with, especially enough to buy one, you will probably be in the latter category.

    • I love my “Fitbit,” but it’s actually not a Fitbit — it’s the Fitbit app on my iPhone (+ other health tracking apps that count steps). Before spending the money on the Fitbit wristband, definitely check to make sure your phone doesn’t already have the ability to count your steps. All iPhone 6s can and I’m guessing other smartphones have a similar feature.

      • Yes! I have a step counter on my phone- but as a lady not all my clothing has pockets so it is not with me all the time- and I don’t love running with my phone. I am not so into the sharing/community of the steps- but accurate counting of the steps would be appealing.

    • I love my fitbit one – I didn’t want to wear a wristband and I don’t always have my phone. I also don’t compete with anyone so my weekly stats always list me as the step leader 🙂
      If you choose this fitbit, invest in a $2.00 safety leash. I haven’t had a problem with it becoming unclipped, but the leash is a good backup just in case.

    • I have the Zip and clip it to my bra for the most part. I never know it’s there, I hate the wristbands (except the nice jewelry lines they’re coming out with now, Tory Burch did a Fitbit line but they’re so expensive).

    • FtLincolnLove

      I vote yes for FitBit! I have the Charge HR. I use mine to track my sleep as well as my steps! I’ve also switched over to using it as an alarm- it gently vibrates on your wrist to wake you up. It’s a much nicer way to wake up, for me at least. I would definitely do some research on different fitness trackers (Jawbone vs Fitbit vs apps on your phone) to see which one works best for you. If you want something to just track your steps, I’d just use an app on your phone, but if you want to track your sleep, exercise, food, etc, go for the FitBit! I love having the 10,000 step goal and seeing how many floors I’ve climbed, and it definitely serves as motivation for me to keep exercising.

  • Rant: Weather-weather-weather.
    Rant: My own dumbness. Went through break-up, started dating too early, met cute person, got scared, broke it off, tried being flirty friends, feeling way better now about life, am now developing a little crush. How to backtrack?? Blech.
    Rave: Cheap glasses companies. Love not getting upset when I ruin another pair through clumsiness cos they cost $20.

    • I’ve been in this situation from the other side. I actually (being the dumbass that I am) gave him a second chance after he assured me he was ready, told him straight up that he’d better be because he wasn’t getting a third chance. It doesn’t take a genius to figure out how that ended (and no, he did not get a third chance). My advice? If you care about this person, don’t drag him/her through your relationship recovery. It’s really not fair.

      • Thanks for the grounding reminder. Also good to remember that your own perception of your own togetherness is not necessarily reflective of the reality, so it always makes sense to wait longer just in case.

    • SouthwestDC

      Where are you getting glasses for $20?? Mine always end up being around $500.

  • Revel: Going to “Night on the Rocks” at the Newseum tonight. Anyone else?

  • Rant: Sleeping on an air mattress. Related rant: our stuff is at customs and we have to go clear it tomorrow morning. That’s fine and all except they told us we’d get to pick the day/time and now my wife has to ask for the morning off and I have to see if the freight elevator is available. OF COURSE, as of Nov 2 you’re supposed to request the elevator 5 days in advance!! We just got the call that our stuff is here last night. Ughhh, moving. If we can’t get the elevator we might have to pay to store our stuff for a few days, which will then obviously delay us having our stuff!!
    Rave: At least our stuff arrived quickly. I was really worried after I heard so many nightmare long distance move stories. Plus it only came out to $1900 when they quoted like $2900 and some companies quoted $7000!!

  • Rant: Litter, illegal posters, illegal dumping, etc.
    Rant: Feeling like I’m the only person on my block reporting things to 311.
    Rave: I have tomorrow off.
    Rave: The weather is supposed to be better tomorrow.

  • Rave: New Dishwasher came! YAAAAY
    Rave: Trader Joes Peppermint Joes Os are here. I bought 2 boxes and will limit myself as such. I say.
    Rant: Still can’t breathe like a human

    • Additional Rave: Condo appraisal good to go, so should be right for a (hopefully) smooth closing. The first buyer we accepted backed out for no reason during the condo doc review period (seriously, no reason, she hadn’t even received the condo docs) other than for buyers remorse so we freaked but got back on track right away. Can’t wait to close and know the buyer wanted the property so happy to have someone excited for their new home!

  • Tsar of Truxton

    RANT: I think I experienced the driver version of metro delays last night. My ten minute commute from Judiciary Square became a 50 minute commute due to police blocking roads at random (sometimes in only one direction). I am not sure if there was a motorcade or what, but it was ridiculous. After being funneled in a 30-minute circle, I finally thought I had reached freedom when another cop car pulled out and blocked the street that had previously been open. Brutal…

    • Netanyahu is in town. I saw police getting ready to roll this AM from the Dupont Hilton (they blocked off the driveway) and the area around the Mayflower on CT Avenue was supposedly a mess this morning. Yesterday was his big meeting at the White House with BO.

    • I mean, the driver version of metro delays is traffic. What you experienced is somewhere between traffic and a crash.
      Driving is the worst.

  • That One Guy

    Rave: Progressive Insurance quoted me a much lower amount than Geico did for my auto insurance.
    Rant: How much money have I overpaid by sticking with Geico for all these years.
    Anyone have any feedback on Progressive auto insurance?

    • I have Progressive for my auto insurance and HO6 condo homeowners policy. They are really fantastic! Easy customer service over the phone–lower deductibles options available vs. Geico–our glass deductible is ZERO! If my window gets smashed, $0! Under Geico, I got a window smashed and the $500 deductible applied. BS.

      Progressive also has a full-service auto center in northern Silver Spring–drop off your car for service and pick up a rental in the same place. SO Convenient!

    • Oh yea, I kicked myself for weeks when I found out how much money I’d wasted with Geico over the years.
      Seriously, Geico customers… you are NOT saving 15% or more.

    • SouthwestDC

      I had Geico for the first four years I lived here. Then I had a falling out with them and switched to Progressive. Shortly after that Progressive debuted their Snapshot program, which can give you additional savings based on how much you drive, when you drive, and how you drive. I participated and got the maximum savings with that because I don’t have a long commute and I don’t slam on the brakes often.
      Now my insurance costs 1/3rd of what Geico was charging me (although the rate also went down a lot because I moved from NoVA to DC). I haven’t had to file a claim but I’m sure they’d handle it a lot better than Geico, who almost doubled my rate because someone tapped my rear bumper once.

      • SouthwestDC

        I’m also curious if anyone has used Metromile, the pay-per-mile insurance. They aren’t available in DC yet but they have ads up all over the place so they must be coming soon.

      • If someone just tapped you, why did you file a claim at all?

        • SouthwestDC

          I exchanged insurance info with the guy just in case. Then he went behind my back and called Geico, saying he had damages and I’d caused the accident by suddenly switching lanes. None of that was true but Geico took his word for it.

          • SouthwestDC

            It was also the first time I’d ever had a claim– apparently Geico doesn’t believe in accident forgiveness.

          • I thought that was just allstate?

          • Most insurance companies offer some form of it, if you’ve never had an accident, but some make you wait until you’ve been with them 1 or 2 years. Anyway it’s criminal that they would even classify being rear-ended as an at-fault accident.

          • If she changed lanes as he said (even if it was not erratic), she could be at fault. Same thing if you’re hit while turning.
            In her case, I’d think they would have done a no fault or mutual mistake w/o a claim. She changed lanes but he’s following too close….something like that. They should be protecting your interests after all.

          • SouthwestDC

            Well, except I wasn’t changing lanes at all, just slowing down at a light that was about to turn red (a risky thing to do in Springfield where everyone’s in a massive hurry, but still).

    • Hmmm. I’m curious about this. I actually switched from Progressive to Geico because it was significantly cheaper for me. Maybe I need to check Progressive out again. I loved Progressive. I had two claims with them (one my fault, the other not), and they were absolutely wonderful from start to finish.

      • Geico will rake you over the coals if you have to file a claim with them, even if it’s not your fault. They rope you in with a cheap rate initially but it will skyrocket if anything ever goes wrong.

        • Good to know as I did the same thing: progressive to geico, but I can always check again in a few months.
          Progressive was good with claims and had a separate $50 auto glass deductible which is stellar.

        • Very good to know – thank you! I haven’t had a claim in years, so I think I may just check Progressive out again.

    • To this I’ll add, check the rates at every renewal. When I had progressive, I randomly checked, and progressive offered a much lower rate on a new policy than what I had. Every 5 months I’m checking. It’s gone down 3 of 4 most recent renewals.

      • FYI – I just checked and Progressive was about $100 more per month for the same exact policy as I have with Geico. I remember now that I have a discount with Geico from my credit union, also I don’t think Geico penalized me as much for being divorced (IIRC, this is when my rates went up with Progressive and why I switched).

        • Didn’t know that affected things.
          Mine was about $100 cheaper with Geico, but I’ll still look again when it’s almost time to renew.
          Does anybody have Allstate?

          • Progressive offers a discount for people who are married and/or in a domestic partnership. I guess people who are officially coupled up are less of a liability?

    • what was the difference for you? ie what were you paying geico and what is progressive costing you now? I thought my geico was cheap, but now im intrigued….

  • Rave: Moved into an office with a window!
    Rant: My new neighbors are a pair of loud, unruly women who talk/yell loudly ALL day. They also enjoy intimidating others and I am an easy target. They knocked on my closed door and forcefully asked why I moved into this office and why my door was closed. They kept asking and wouldn’t move. When they felt they had made me sufficiently uncomfortable, they said they were kidding, cracked jokes about the perplexed look on my face and left. Now I feel super uncomfortable.

    • Forcefully asked?
      Say you’re busy, close the door and leave them standing there. These issues are easy to be fixed. Let them know you’re not there for the foolishness.

    • I Dont Get It

      Whaaaat? This is office bullying and is unacceptable. Are they in the same group as you?

      • +100 to this. Not ok.

      • Agreed — unacceptable. And saying XYZ, watching your reaction, and then saying “Haha — just joking!” is exceedingly lame — a way for a bully to say what he/she really thinks and then try to avoid being held accountable for it.

    • I think it could be a blast. Go out for happy hour. Instead of getting mad. Even if they make a lame excuse you win.

  • Rave: big, crazy thing at work is done and it got rave reviews. I can now breath a sigh of relief.

    Rant: I got rear ended last week and the damage was really minimal, but I took my car in anyway. It was almost done today, but the body shop said that there was some sloppy work done on it last time I got rear ended….1.5 years ago…by the same body shop.
    Rant: I’ll be driving my whale of a rental car that I can barely park on my one way street for a few more days while they re-fix the work they did last time.
    Rave: things might be moving ahead with the guy who temporarily relocated. I’m excited, but cautious.

    • oh! excited about your last rave! We’ll have to catch up sometime and you can fill me in on details! 🙂

  • Late Day Rant: Apparently everyone at my work hired pre-January 1st 2015 is getting an incentive/award thing, and while I’m happy for them, I’m bummed for me because I just missed that cut off and I really could have used some extra dough! 🙁

    • I had something sort of like this happen to me once. I was working as an admin for a company but I had an unusual status – a temp hired directly by the company, so I was not considered a regular employee. So that was OK cause I knew what that meant…. and when bonus time came around I was not surprised when I was told I was not eligible. Fine.
      However, I was surprised when I found that the intern in our office was eligible. (Oddly enough, my boss had me distribute the bonus checks, which is how I found out.) So that seemed a little unfair to me; luckily when I spoke with my boss she agreed with me, and managed to find a nice little amount for me as well. (As it turned out she was about a month from announcing her retirement, so I think she was not thinking too hard about the company’s bottom line any more.)

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