Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • gotryit

    rave: biked to work
    rant: forgot to bring work shoes
    rave-ish: bike shoes are at least black

    rave: cleared (hopefully) tax bureaucratic hurdle
    rant: roof replacement permit bureaucratic hurdle

    • gotryit

      rave: +1 for homeowners center… even over the phone
      rant: fees for the permit… whew

    • SFT

      I used to do that constantly, until I started keeping a couple pairs of shoes at work. My boss came in over the summer and forgot his whole suit – he had to sit through an interview in his bike shorts. It was amazing!

      • No one should have to see their boss in bike shorts….let alone a potential new employee! That’s hilarious!

        • Bear

          There are two men in my office who bike to/from work and change here. I would like to scrub my retinas after many hallway encounters with them in full biking gear. It’s just so wrong.

          • A triathlete that I dated showed up unannounced at my apartment fully suited up to make sure I was okay with him being in public like that. I was ok with it, though it wasn’t particularly attractive, but more irked by the unannounced visit.

    • I forgot my top to change into on Monday. Had to schlep home and back again because every option I thought of (sit in a coat, sit in a tank top) just sounded terrible.

      • You ride home uphill?
        I did it once and just waited till stores opened and took an early lunch and bought a new shirt.

        • Yup – I had a meeting at 9:30 that I couldn’t think of a good reason to be sitting in a coat for, and I am too new to not care that I am swearing a sweaty running shirt. Oh well. My grandfather used to say, “What you don’t have in your head; you have in your feet.” Had to go home.

  • Pablo Raw

    Rave: Successful meeting of the Unofficial Exploratory Committee for Unofficial Popville’s Karaoke night. There were even songs in Japanese, and not alcohol induced Japanese but real Japanese. Stay tuned for information regarding this future event.

  • Rant: Entitled law students at highly regarded institutions who believe the world owes them something. Lawyers have a bad enough reputation already, and douchy behavior from the supposed “best and brightest” doesn’t help.

    • I don’t know about the world owing them something, but there can be a lot of self righteousness. I was cutting through Upton St by Howard Law one morning, super harried, and I bumped a car’s side mirror with my side mirror. I pulled over and got out to look at the car and there was a guy standing by it asking me in a scolding tone if I was going to leave a note. I pulled over and got out of the car! What do you think I’m doing? I asked if it was his car, he said no, then I realized he was a law student, just there to expect the worst of people and meddle.
      The owners were nicer about it than he was. They texted me to say they fixed it themselves, I’m a nice person, ciao!

    • Do you mean the ones who are getting their exams postponed because they’re upset by recent news? If so, I agree with you 100%

      • Farragut

        I think dcd might be talking about something else, because I don’t see how getting exams postponed is “douchy behavior.”
        And if you read fully through this article, you’ll see that it’s not just “being upset”: http://nymag.com/daily/intelligencer/2014/12/columbia-allowing-law-students-to-delay-exams.html Columbia has its own issues that a skimmed headline doesn’t cover.

        • Allison

          From that article “I feel like it’s because there are some people who would rather go out and protest in the streets than study this week.” — ding ding ding

        • That’s precisely to what I’m referring, and it absolutely is douchy behavior. I have undergone trauma reading about racial injustice and watching protests on TV, so my exam schedule should be extended? Absurd. As for Columbia in particular, I had read that article (not just skimmed the headline, thanks very much) and in my mind it changes nothing. Because the school’s response is perceived to be something “less than sensitive,” they can’t possibly take exams now? Come on.
          Look, I’m a lawyer, as are many on this board. As an associate, you can’t tell a partner you can’t complete his project because current events are to upsetting. As a partner, you can’t tell the Court, or a client, that you couldn’t get the brief done because there’s racial injustice in the world. As a government lawyer, you couldn’t work less if you tried . . . I KID, I KID, let’s try that again. As a government lawyer, you can’t tell your supervisor that since you are a minority you fear for the life of your cousins and use that as an excuse so that your project will have to go uncompleted. (Not saying that fear isn’t justified, but when will it go away? Will we have to wait for true racial harmony until exams can be scheduled?)
          The worst part is, statistics show that the “commitment” to civil rights of these special snowflakes is – well, let’s just say situational. The vast majority of them are going into private practice for huge firms, investment banks, or hedge funds, rather than public interest or government service. Now, I don’t begrudge anyone their right to a high-paying job, but it’s a little curious that these people are so affected by these happenings that they can’t take their exams, but no so affected that they will forego lucrative career choices. And you can bet that if they pull this crap as a first year associate at Skadden, they’ll get a rude awakening.

        • Wow–I think I will tell my client that I can’t file that brief tomorrow due to “existential worry.”

    • Agree with you 100%. I have no problem with the protesting (in fact support it), but it just seems so ironic in a sad way for a bunch of privileged law students to request and get an exemption (more privilege?) for protesting the treatment of less privileged people. Protest and then pull an all nighter.

  • Rave(ish): Went to Thip Khao last night – really liked one of the dishes (crispy rice), did not like the other at all (smoked eggplant curry). Beer Lao was a bonus
    Rave: Heated bathroom floor, heated toilet seat
    Rant: I need to get new laptop. Not happy with my Mac, but still eyeing the Mac Air. Here’s where I’d like a personal shopper to choose one for me.

    • When I grow up and can buy a house, I want heated bathroom floors!

    • jim_ed

      Out of curiosity, how long was the wait for Thip Khao?

      • I’d made a reservation; we went early and the place wasn’t busy so I’m not sure the reservation was neede. But by the time we left = completely full.

    • gotryit

      +1 for heated bathroom floors. Mine are turned up to 94 degrees because toes.

      • I was renovating my bathroom and while heated floors weren’t in the original plan I realized I’ll not easily have another opportunity to add heat. My toes have been very happy with this decision!

        • How much is it? We plan to renovate our bathroom in the next 2-3 months and we want to do heated floors, but the whole reno quote is already so expensive!

          • The materials were around $350 + labor costs. 100% worth it.
            I also hadn’t planned to replace my 80 yo galvanized pipes, but ended up doing so under the “while we’re at it” philosophy.

          • gotryit

            I bought the system itself for a few hundred dollars (small bathroom ~2’x8′ heated section), and laid the mat down on the concrete board myself.
            I think I paid the guy who was doing the tiling an extra $200 or so to pour a layer of self-leveling concrete on top of it.
            I also handled the electrical side of it myself.

        • Accountering

          Second this! How much for a small bathroom? How difficult is it to install etc?

    • You should totally get the Windows Surface Pro 3. Although I don’t have it myself (yet), I work for a big company and all the executives have switched their MacBook Airs for this quasi-computer, which is telling. It is technically a tablet but significantly more powerful. I’m getting one as soon as my current Mac laptop dies.

      • Thanks for the recommendation! I need something for work travel; my Mac is about to die and my tablet isn’t sufficient. The Surface Pro might be just right.

        • That is exactly why the execs like it, because they are constantly traveling and this computer is light yet powerful. Keep us posted on what you end up getting!

      • I just got a new laptop for work and I love it – it’s an lenovo thinkpad, but I got the super light version that weighs about the same as my personal laptop (13″ air). Not a tablet, but the functionality is really good.

    • Emmaleigh504

      I got a Mac Air last year and do not love it. I loved my old Macbook, but the Air is uncomfortable to use unless you are at a table. The edges are too sharp and cut into my skin if I’m lounging on the couch and the weight distribution is a pain, it’s always falling off of stuff. I can’t wait for it to die.

  • Rant: My roommate’s boyfriend got caught cheating. Good old fashioned internet cat fishing caught him hooking up with other guys on various dating apps.
    Rave: hopefully now roommate can move on.
    Rant: Not sure I’m okay with cat fishing but it at least helped roommate catch him. Wondering if anyone else cat fishes to catch someone cheating.

    • was your roommate the one who cat fished him? Sucks for your roommate but better that she knows now

      • In my day, we did the old-fashioned thing and stalk them in person.

      • Yes my roommate made a fake account with fake pics and his boyfriend fell for it. He was ready to meet.

      • yoyotan, not she– he.

        • Accountering

          Just to follow, two dudes, and dude 2 was cheating with dude 3? I originally read it as girlfriend found boyfriend cheating with a dude, at which point it is probably very easy for the woman to move on.
          Sounds like it is not a change in preference, but just simple cheating, and either way, I agree. No excuse for it, and no recovery. Move on, and better to know now! Sucks for your roommate though…

    • hispanicandproud

      Hopefully your room mate doesn’t go back to that cheater. I caught an ex using my computer to set up dates. I broke it off right then and there. Cheaters and liars are terrible people. Don’t need them in my life.

    • shame they couldn’t have just had an open relationship.
      i had to look up catfishing. that’s super creepy.

  • Rant: For the second year in the row DPW skipped the first leaf collection our little corner of Petworth but marked us as “complete” on the real-time collection map anyway.

    Rave: After two calls (and one threat to post pictures on PoP, DCist, and whomever else I could find), DPW finally came back and did their job. Nice clean streets and tree-boxes (sigh).

    • Same thing on 13th at Park. I emailed them and they actually responded, which impressed me. But I only requested that they ACTUALLY come next time…

  • Rant: I have DC Superior Court Grand Jury Duty, which if I am to believe the notice lasts 5 whole weeks and is 9-5. My work will only pay part of the time off. I also don’t know what this does to my vacation plans. I had planned to go to South Africa for two weeks in April, but that might have to be put on hold. Please, is there a way out of this?
    Rave: I learned that my office will close from December 24-January 5, which means a long holiday for me.
    Rave: Going to Seasonal Disorder at the Washington Improv Theater tonight, and maybe hitting up Ted’s Bulletin beforehand.

    • I was called for that this year. If you have travel plans, reply on the form with them. I didn’t even have the hotel reservations because my bf made them and no flight because we were driving, but they said that my travel excused my absence.

    • I only have experience with the petit jury, not the grand jury (knock on wood), but they always have been very accommodating about rescheduling, so your vacation should not be imperiled. On the flip side, they always have been insistent that you reschedule, not cancel altogether, so there are short odds on getting out of it altogether. I have no idea for whom 5 full weeks of grand jury service wouldn’t be a major inconvenience at a minimum, or a catastrophic career event at worst. (If I remember correctly, grand jurors aren’t permitted laptops or cell phones.)

    • Just to be clear, the jury duty is from January 20-February 20, so it will not be at the same time as my trip, but it would eat up all my vacation time.

      • Oh, that’s different all together. I doubt you’ll get any sympathy for that, but I think it depends somewhat on the judge. At least it did in petit jury (I get called a lot).

      • Farragut

        You have to use vacation time toward jury duty?! That sucks.

        • After I served 6 weeks on a jury my company put a cap on jury duty leave. The cap is 4 weeks, which I think is more than fair, but a lot of people get a handful of days, if anything.

          • I don’t think there should be a cap — it’s not as though you get a choice as to whether to do jury duty, or as though you have any control over how long it takes.
            A couple of years ago, I was called for D.C. jury duty and was out for two weeks on that trial, and then a month or two later I was called for federal jury duty and missed another two weeks for that trial. None of my co-workers lived in the District, so they were confused: “Jury duty? Weren’t you just out for jury duty??”

          • Farragut

            Yeah, I double-checked the OPM guidelines, and it doesn’t look like court leave is capped at all. Jury duty is covered, as is being a witness (as long as the US, state, or local government is a party). I’m very grateful for that, if I ever had to serve on a jury. I’m still 0 for 3 on opportunities. I’ve never even gotten as far as to leave the waiting room.

          • textdoc, I could be wrong, but I think that having served on one jury excuses you from any other jurisdiction for the two years. I got called in different jurisdictions for back-to-back periods, and when I phoned to ask if I had to do both, the nice lady told me to pick one, and respond to the other that I was service in xx jurisdiction and the dates. Even if the dates didn’t actually conflict.

          • No, I don’t have a choice in the matter, but that still doesn’t mean my company should have to foot the bill indefinitely.

          • I could be wrong, but isn’t putting a “cap” on jury duty leave illegal? I’m no lawyer, but I’m pretty sure all companies (with the exception of small businesses with less than 10 employees) must pay regular full-time employees during their jury duty. Which means you shouldn’t have to use vacation time.

          • epric002

            @brightwoodess- the DC section explicitly limits pay to jury service of 5 days or less. it also says you have to be employed in DC. since i actually work in VA (i guess that section applies to me?), their section neither limits duty to a max # of days, nor allows me to be required to use sick/vacation leave.
            @jeslett- which jurisdiction do you work in?

          • Miss Patty — Nope; the federal jury summons is pretty clear that having done D.C. municipal jury duty does not excuse you from doing federal jury duty (although if they both summon you at the same time, the federal summons wins out).
            Each can summon you once every two years.

          • epric- I live in DC, work in MoCo. In terms of jury duty it’s a huge cultural shift between the two.

          • Crap, I read that wrong. I read it as more than. Color me shocked that an employer doesn’t have to pay. I suppose you could say you’re under “Financial hardships” and get out of service. That $40 a day certainly isn’t going to pay the mortgage.

    • Accountering

      This sucks. My buddy was stuck on this, and there isn’t much way around it. You can postpone and such, but if they have you for grand jury, you are probably stuck. The good thing is, some of the days are half days and such, and you do get a to miss a bit, so if you are needed for a meeting or whatever, there is a small bit of latitude.

    • “Please, is there a way out of this?”

      You could try not bathing for the week leading up to the GJ proceedings…

      Or maybe murmur quietly to yourself during jury selection?

  • rant: nordstrom’s rack shoe selection. They have a lot of shoes, but I couldn’t find anything I’d consider buying. My style errs on minimal (or just plain) so a lot of stuff was just out. Also shoe shopping is my least favorite kind of shopping.
    rave: going out to fairfax tonight so my bf can take me to super H so I can buy groceries!! when will DC get an H mart, seriously
    rave: 1 week until harry potter world with my family

    • I always find The Rack is better just before a Nordstrom sale (anniversary, Men’s half yearly…) – and if you can’t find anything then at The Rack – sale time at Nordstrom is always a win (loss for the wallet though).

    • Nordstrom Rack’s selection can really be hit or miss, especially at the smaller stores. I wish the ones on L Street and Pentagon Row got as good of a selection as the suburban ones do.

    • I LOVE shoe shopping at the Rack. It’s my saving grace. DSW leaves me a wreck, so I’ve stopped going. Nordstrom has my size, I don’t have to talk to annoying sales people who bring me 10 pairs I didn’t ask for because they don’t know whether the shoes I want come in my size, and they have large size events. I frequently bond over the bliss that is the Nordstrom Rack shoe department with the other canoe foot women in my size area.

    • skj84

      I like the Rack in Friendship Heights. Better selection than L Street. Marshall’s has a surprisingly good shoe section as well. At least the F street location.

    • AHH I completely agree with you!! I want an easily accessible H Mart so badly… That’s about the only thing I miss from living and working in Virginia and having a car – I used to go all the time.

  • Quotia Zelda

    Rave: Hot tea
    Rant: People who are always late everywhere. Every. Single. Time. Unfortunately, I’m related to several of them.
    Rave: Gearing up for a weekend of baking. I have a reputation to defend at the agency holiday bake-off, so I need to test recipes.

  • Rave: Caps game tonight! I hope they can keep up the scoring and make it a good one.
    Rave: I might be fostering a total goober named Duncan Hines this weekend.
    Rant: I’m feeling kind of down about some things, I’m not sure how much to indulge my wallowing and downward spiraling thoughts.
    Rave: I stopped by my friends’ place on the way from spin on a whim last night and had a good convo. It was much nicer than wine and wallowing by myself at home.

    • buck up little camper. around the holidays can always be a downer but keep it up!

    • Accountering

      I think I am going as well! This is certainly not a must win, but it is a game where, if we have a good hockey team, they will win. CBJ sucks, and we have a ton of momentum. Please please just take care of business and win in regulation!
      RE your rant: Would a good hockey team help at all? 🙂

    • Re your rant – is this seasonal? The cold dark winter days always get me down – an ideal solution would be a long weekend in a warm climate. My cheaper solution was to get a light box, and also to get outside when the sun is out.
      And perhaps not a solution, but treating yourself to a massage, spa treatment, long soak in a warm bath might be revitalizing.

      • You know what? That is a great idea. I think I’m going to treat myself to a massage or something. I know nothing about spas, but I have a friend who’s a pro, she’ll have some good recommendations.
        It’s not seasonal, it’s just life. It’s a bummer, but I’ll get over it soon enough.

    • I feel like I get grouchy easily these days. I constantly have to remind myself that a lot of it has to do with the weather. The cold is brutal and I miss the sun! Maybe the weather affects you as well?

      • It’s probably not helping, I’ve noticed it gets me down before.
        I got one of those fake dawn lamps Elimie suggested, I like it so far. It doesn’t feel like real sunlight, but it makes it easier for me to wake up.
        Thanks for the suggestions guys, I appreciate it!

        • Emmaleigh504

          The only way I can make it up in the morning this time of year is with my light box. I need the (fake) brightness to wake up.

          • I need to look into getting one of these — I have had a really hard time dragging myself out of bed the past couple of weeks.

          • I think what I have is different from what Emilie is referring to – I have a lamp/box that I keep near my computer and turn on while I’m working (sunbox com, sunsation product).

          • Emmaleigh504

            MPinDC it’s the same idea. Mine’s just a different brand. It simulates the sun. I have it set to wake me up so I can get some fake sun in the morning to stimulate my brain.

          • IIRC, lightboxes for SAD treatment are different than dawn-simulating ones — they have super-high-intensity (and super-expensive) lightbulbs.

          • Emmaleigh504

            The one I have is a light box for SAD treatment that has a dawn simulation alarm. After it wakes me up I sit in front of the light for my does of “sunshine.” I wish I could take it to work to use, but I think people would think I’m weirder than I actually am.

          • Ahh, a dual-function one! I didn’t know such a thing existed.

  • Rave: great group of colleagues that have the long view and are committed to our work
    Rave: wonderful lunch in St Pete and good opportunity to get to know a colleague better and strategize on new work – so much fun and challenging
    Rant: it’s so dark and cold that I’m going to hunker work the DC morning then call it a day.

  • Revel: New batch of foster kittens. Tommie & Toby are like little polar bear cubs with unusually thick, soft, luxurious fur. Both are 4 months old, champs with the litter box, friendly & playful & good lap snugglers. They get along well with my dog and 2 cats and other kittens.

    The other pair “Holiday Kittens” are younger, still a bit scrappier as they were found in a feral cat colony, but in the 4 days I’ve had them, they have become much more settled (One is asleep on my lap right now. I can’t get up!)

    All four available for adoption through Homeward Trails – Homewardtrails.org. You can see them here on Craigslist . http://washingtondc.craigslist.org/doc/pet/4800404455.html

  • Rant: The bottle of expensive gin I was hauling to work in my gym bag (for the office party) was punctured at some point during the commute, thus allowing $40 worth of gin to escape and soaking my workout gear.
    Rant: workout gear spread drying in my office (I missed a week with the flu, I have to hit the gym today). My office looks and smells like a Hogarthian installation on the evils of drink.

  • palisades

    Rave: Serial. Let’s do this! Only one episode left. I thought this week’s episode was a little slow, and felt like a filler. But I appreciate what SK set out to do. I love the character study going on in this show, and it has become 100% obvious at this point that we are not going to get any closer to understand what happened to Hae.

    • These analyses about the case are pretty interesting.
      www. themarshallproject. org/2014/12/10/our-jury-is-in-on-serial

      • palisades

        Admittedly, I have not read it. But I do read the Subreddit devoted to serial, and they noted that the lawyers came to pretty much the same conclusions that all the random people on an internet forum did. So many answers left uncovered….

        • So many unanswered questions!
          I don’t have the time/fortitude/interest to wade through reddit, but found the short summaries of why a few lawyers think he is innocent/guilty/maybe-guilty-but-not-enough-evidence-to-convict a good recap of the whole case.
          And some of them articulated things that I hadn’t quite put my finger on, like why Adnan makes me uneasy. He’s not upset or outraged about ANYthing (murder of his former girlfriend, lousy job his lawyer did, his conviction). And why doesn’t he remember anything about that day, given that it was not actually a day like any other (good friend’s birthday, plus a call from cops in the evening after his recent girlfriend goes missing should cement his memory about how he spent the afternoon, even if he was still stoned).
          I also have a clearer picture of when Jay’s story does/does not check out. The Serial website graphics are terrible, and even listening to that episode several times I had trouble keeping track of which calls seemed legit and which didn’t match Jay’s stories. So when one of these commenters stated plainly that the cell phone record before 6 pm doesn’t match Jay’s story but after 6 pm it does, suddenly that whole line of evidence became clear to me.

          • palisades

            It’s funny that you say that about how Adnan makes you uneasy; because it came off as an episode to try to explain to viewers how hard it is to shake that label. Once people have deemed him psychotic or without emotion, it is so easy to attribute whatever action (or inaction) to that psychotic behavior. I think he makes a strong case that shows how infuriating that can be.
            I can’t access the Serial website at work, but I’ll definitely have to check it out when I get home. Same goes for the marshall project.

          • This is what’s been bothering me about all of the character study and I think we can do the same thing with it that we did with all of the witness testimony about how Adnan reacted: throw it out.
            Everyone is different. Everyone processes things differently and communicates things different. So many people presume to know how others should react, but they don’t even know how they’d react. Adnan has been in jail for 15 years and apparently has a life and community there. Maybe he’s outraged, but not showing it. Maybe he’s over his outrage. Who knows what 15 years in jail will do to someone. And that someone won’t react the same way as someone else. Something about snowflakes, etc, etc.
            Side note: presuming to know how people should act after trauma is how we’re ruining sexual assault investigations and prosecutions, will we never learn?

          • I don’t mean to suggest how Adnan should have reacted, and I certainly don’t think (from the evidence presented on Serial) that he’s a sociopath. I don’t even think he did it. But, I just sort of don’t like him, based on the few minutes of phone calls that have been played throughout the series, and these lawyers on the Marshall Project page articulated some of it better than I had been able to do for myself.

          • It’s totally fine with me if you don’t like him, but you seem annoyed that he’s not outraged. That seems like an expectation for how he would react.
            I felt like this episode was a lot of filler, but one of things I thought was important was the point that he has to be measured, not accuse anyone else, and preserve his image for his appeals. I don’t know if I could have that kind of patience, but maybe he does.

          • No, I’m not annoyed by Adnan. Just not charmed, like SK and may others seem to be.

      • Very interesting, especially the analysis of “the Nisha call.” Thanks for the link!

    • Great podcast and the case against him is pretty suspect, but the past few episodes I’m getting the feeling that SK definitely thinks Adnan is innocent. She almost seems like she’s crushing hard on him. Looking forward to the last episode to see how they wrap it up.

      • palisades

        Haha come on! Gotta give SK a little more credit than that. I think she’s just a compassionate person and it’s weighing heavy on her

  • Rave: I had a long FT session with my best friend last night. I miss her like crazy, and it was nice to catch up over video chat.
    Rave: I got a solid eight hours of sleep. I’m feeling so much more rested.
    Rave: Boss (who was a jerk yesterday) actually apologized to me this morning. That was a pleasant surprise.
    Rant: Micromanagement at work. Sometimes you just have to laugh or you are going to cry.

  • SFT

    Rave: Coffee and I have resumed our love affair. After a 2 year break, I’m back on coffee, full-tilt. The world is a much nicer place with a little caffeine boost!
    Rant: A good friend has a new baby and she isn’t adjusting to her new normal very well. I think she had a very romantic notation of what having a baby would be. I’m going to visit her over lunch, bring her some food, and let her cry. The first few months are rough…so happy to be over the newborn hurdle!

    • ….I’m sure you don’t need my input, but don’t say “the first few months are rough”….it has yet to help me feel better about how much stress consumes some people’s lives once baby arrives. It’s not as DIFFICULT (I’ve recovered from a trauma, both emotional and physical, of L&D) now, but it’s very rough and hard to enjoy. Just let her talk and, if you think she has more than the baby blues, follow up and encourage her to get help. I never did when it was at all convenient to do so (no one ever asked how I was!) and it can be bad…..so just throwing that out there. I think most OBs just chalk it up to baby blues and send you on your way at your 6w check up. If you’re concerned, trust your gut. You’re a good friend for bringing her food and letting her cry – hopefully that helps her! And congrats to her! And to your friend, it’s OK to mourn the life you had….I don’t think enough women talk about missing their old lives. (cue people telling me I shouldn’t have had a kid because I’m realistic about how hard it is!)

      • I’m not a parent (yet), but I have to agree with everything you said, jindc. One of the most refreshing thing about my friends who have small children is that they are so honest and open about the challenges of parenting. I think there’s so much pressure in our culture to *love* every moment of parenting that often new parents feel they have to put a positive spin on the whole process even when they may be seriously struggling. Parents need the space to process all of those very valid feelings (and as someone who wants to have kids some day, I think I benefit from hearing it and developing more realistic expectations).

        • SFT

          I just got back from visiting. I just let her talk and assured her that she is totally normal for feeling this way. That’s the part that new moms seem to have the hardest time with, feeling like they are all alone in their struggle. I know I felt horrible for not loving every minute of it, and for needing alone time. I love the Scary Mommy blog – it’s real women talking about real issues in a real way. We need more of that!

  • rant: I signed up for a new gym with personal training sessions and while the gym has already charged me for the sessions, the trainer’s not available until after Jan 1.
    rave: I’m lucky enough to have the resources to join a gym.

  • Rave: Going to try to make pretzel rolls for the first time tonight. This could become a rant if they don’t turn out well.

    • and if they go well, when can we come by to have some? 🙂

      • Not this first batch – that’s for me and my gf. But maybe if they turn out right I’ll bake more and bring the to a POPville happy hour.

    • I don’t know what recipe you’re planning on using, but Smitten Kitchen has a pretty foolproof one. Search Smitten Kitchen soft pretzel buns and knots. We’ve made them twice and they’ve been amazing both times.

  • Rant: Andy Harris and his snotty staff. DC is not a real state. Fine… everyone who runs a business in the District should deny Mr. Harris and all his staffers any sort of commerce: food, shopping, entertainment, whatever.

    Get out.

    • hispanicandproud

      Snotty people in DC? Get out!! 🙂

      • The snotty staff aren’t neccessarily DC residents but rather staffers of Andy Harris (MD 1st district) who despite not being elected by DC feels entitled to pass laws that only impact DC residents (abortions, marijuana…)

    • +5000000000000000000. So over that sanctimonious little d-bag and his wrongheaded crusade. As my sister likes to say, maybe he should handle the drug running going on in his own district first.

    • Accountering

      I haven’t told Andie yet, but I have officially decided I am not spending another $1 in his district. That means the Jetty is out for me, and the Walmart in Denton too 🙂
      I sent a very nice e-mail to about a half dozen suburban dwelling family and friends letting them know that the next person who votes to disenfranchise me (by voting for a republican) is permanently off my Christmas list. Luckily they are all pretty liberal, but even if you lean conservative, if you have family or friends in DC, this ONE ISSUE should be enough to override everything else tbh.

      • Andie302

        You’re killing me Smalls! This doesn’t include the wawa before the bridge, correct?

      • You’ll find that pretty much no one cares about DC voting rights besides a small, vocal minority in DC itself. If you feel so strongly about voting rights, you should probably move to MD or VA where you can vote and make a difference to your heart’s content. From the Congressional committee hearings that are staffed by literally one congressman (and shortened to one hour b/c no one cares) to the apathy across the country, it’s pretty clear that this issue is like a fun little sideshow that comes up here and there, and is promptly ignored. You knew what you were getting into when you moved into this unique city.

        • ^^^This response is so overplayed.

        • You do know that people are born here, right? Super obnoxious to assume that everyone who lives in DC is from somewhere else.

        • Accountering

          If I wanted to move to VA or MD, I would have done so long ago. I do feel quite strongly about them, however, the places in VA and MD I would even consider moving to are democratic, and neither Chris Van Hollen or Jim Moran are going to be the ones disenfranchising DC residents. We leave that to the small government fools in backwaters throughout rural America.
          How you think it is a reasonable response to suggest that someone who doesn’t like being disenfranchised has to move from their home is beyond me.

        • And it’s not all about Congressional voting rights, it’s about the rights of the citizens of the District to create their own local laws as they see fit. The marijuana law was passed decisively by referendum – the voice of the people. It will be enacted using locally-raised tax revenue. It is the height of hypocrisy to have an out-of-state Republican, the party of limited government and “keep the federal government out of local affairs” to try to contravene a referendum, particularly via the federal budget process. (And yes I know the Constitution allows Congress to do such things, but the point is, it does not require them to do so.)

    • Free idea!: TargettheTories.com (with “Tories” referring to believers in taxation without representation). Donations can be amassed and contributed in the next election cycle to the campaign opponents of the most significant or most vulnerable politicians working to thwart the will of the people in DC.

      • Accountering

        This is how I think this changes. Eventually, if/when DC continues gentrifying, and becomes the equivalent of Luxembourg, the appropriate response to this type of action is to immediately spend $1,000,000 fighting Andy Harris. Some random congressmen from Arizona decides to mess with DC, either his Democratic (or more likely primary opponent) gets a check for $1,000,000 the next day.

    • +1,000,000

      Soooo Andy…you’re not busy enough with your own district and need to bully around another? Can’t stand him, his crusade, or the fact D.C. still doesn’t have a vote in Congress. Total B.S.

    • Someone should sprinkle a bunch of pot seeds in Andy Harris’ garden at his house.
      Would make for a hilarious “gotcha” photo-op 😀

  • Rave: Very close to condo buying with a fast closing.
    Rant: Still no association docs which were already in process before the place was listed.
    Rave: Might be able to refi at the same time.
    Super-Rant: Maintenance people who leave messes and don’t update the online system or leave a note. A small (for my large dog) piece of debris was left right next to his water bowl. Trash can maybe 20 ft away. Why am I required to hunt around to see if repairs have been completed?
    HVAC servicers and plumber recs…GO!

  • Rant: Coughing fit caused me to get off the bus early today so I could let things clear. It was warm and all the people pressing in just triggered my cough. 2 pm GP appointment and an 8:30 am ENT follow up tomorrow. Still can’t hear right, still coughing up a lung four weeks later.
    Rave: Husband had a second job interview this morning.

  • skj84

    Rant: I got completely overwhelmed shopping for my Angel Tree kids yesterday. I had a list with there sizes and toys they wanted, but I’m still on a budget. I am so out of the loop on what kids today like! I have pretty much zero interaction with children. Going to consult with my brother and sister in law since they have nine neices and nephews.

    Rave: Holiday parties commence this weekend!

    • Accountering

      Older brother and his wife did this. Such a cool thing! The main thing on their childs list was soccer gloves. Such a sad situation that really brings to light the struggles of kids in these situations. Growing up, if I needed soccer gloves, parents would have just picked up a pair. Happy he will be getting his gloves!

      • skj84

        It does make me look at how privileged I was growing up! I want to make sure their gifts are perfect which what I’m worrying myself over. I’m leaning towards clothes, but my mother raised a good point about kids only being kids once. She thinks I should purchase toys. I just don’t know what’s really age appropriate, both the girls I have are 9.

        • Some friends and I shopped for a family last night at Target & Marshalls and had a great time. Also knowing relatively little about girls that age, I vote anything Frozen (Marshalls had some good stuff), art supplies or kits like jewelry making. We got our 10 year old nailpolish too. Also hats and gloves at Target!

          • skj84

            I was at Target and Marshall’s last night too! My girls requested something call Sophia the First? Neither store had a great selection of merchandise with that brand. However Target had adorable Annie branded clothes that I may go back for. I was thinking about going down the Frozen route. Everyone likes Frozen!

        • Accountering

          I would have no clue how to go about buying toys (or clothes, for that matter!) for a 9-year-old girl 🙂

          • skj84

            Lol. And I was a 9 year old girl once. You’d think I’d be able to tap into my childhood! However I was a weird little kid so my mileage may vary.

          • Accountering, this is why the Angel thing is so awesome. I have no clue about how to shop for kids either, but at least when I’ve done it, I’ve gotten a list with a couple of very specific items that they want (e.g. ninja turtle action figure). The only time I had a hard time was when I had a little girl who wanted a Bratz doll figurehead (like just the figurehead part so you could focus on its hair or whatever). I finally found it on Amazon, and it was super creepy looking. Still, it was the only thing she asked for and there was no way I wasn’t going to find it! I got a couple of toys and a coat from one of these programs when I was a kid, so I really believe in it!

          • Accountering

            Very cool! I could certainly handle that. I am a super-user when it comes to ordering on Amazon 🙂

    • Where did you find the angel tree? I don’t really go to malls anymore but would love to do something. Or I can contribute to your kids if you want!

      • skj84

        I found it through a friend. They still need donors!

      • Post offices normally do something as well. You can pick the person. My girl a couple years back wanted stuff for her mother and little brother. I sent about $100 getting stuff for the 3 of them.

      • Google Letters to Santa for the Post Office program. It’s only at the Brentwood post office. I did it the past 2 years, but switched to Central Union Mission’s Operation Christmas Miracle this year. Unlike the post office, they know the families. You also don’t have to ship the packages as with the post office program. The post office program has letters from specific kids rather than buying generic age gifts like CU, so that is nice (unless you’re running to Walmart in PG Co at the last minute to find prized toy of the year).

      • Hi, I’m the person who responded to Accountering above. Last year, we worked with SOME (although it appears that they’re just doing winter clothes this year). In previous years, I’ve participated in a Salvation Army one and the Children’s Law Center.

  • Rave: mounted the new to me easton wheelset on the trek and they look GREAT and ride even better
    Rant: the bike was really good looking before but i feel like these wheels make it stand out now…. i feel like its more likely to be stolen now. I will be unsing 2 U locks from this point on

  • I Dont Get It

    Rant: I powered up My Holiday Village® in my dining room last night and not surprisingly, Cressida and Huxley were sloooowly rolling a snowball in a perfect circle from the tiny church to Mirror Lake. Rev Dr Dries Knutsson dropped by for tea and ostkaka with lingonberries with Juniper, Cressida’s mother. The Rev Dr, who walks with a limp, had alienated many in his short time at the church with his ruthless purge of the alto section. A worried Juniper told him she was concerned that Cressida had stopped eating and did nothing but roll a snowball clockwise all day and night with her boyfriend. “Rolling all day!” The Rev Dr mentioned he had seen a girl who looked just like Cressida up on Snowshoe Ridge a few days ago. He thought that she and Elias Martinson threw something off the Sternhagen Bridge onto the frozen river.
    Juniper thought, “Nothing good ever happens on Snowshoe Ridge!”
    After the Rev left, Juniper noticed he had left his leather satchel. Curiosity got the better of her and she peeked in and found a solid gold platter, a piece of paper on which the first verse of “Sankta Lucia” was handwritten and an ebony comb. But the Rev Dr is completely bald!

    Rave: The non-stop party at the local tavern is over, at least temporarily. In a dispute with the landlord they discovered illegal, unpermitted, construction by the landlord in the fire-rated chimney and had to send everyone home for the first time in weeks. The tavern will reopen out as soon as they can confirm safe, legal and code-complaint construction. The partiers headed to their warm houses on Snow Flake Lane, Gingerbread Row and for Farron Vinter, the shantytown perched on the edge of Snowshoe Ridge. Young widow and town Sparkle Pony, Violet Strand hobbled to the apartment she shared with her teenage daughters, Luna and Raina above the pharmacy that she owns.

  • Does anyone have any bright ideas for a gift that two boys, ages 7 and 10, can share? I think I could get more cool for my money if I got one gift instead of two. They have every lego product ever produced, I think. But something on which they could collaborate.

  • epric002

    rave: puppy is out of bandages!
    rant: he still has to wear the cone b/c the bandage rubbed a spot raw on his leg.
    rant: got a parking ticket this morning at the vet- i was 7 minutes late, doh!
    request: facebook, call (202-225-5311), or email representative andy harris. he is apparently unaware of the fact that he represents ONLY the residents of the first district of maryland, and not the residents of the district of columbia. but since he is so interested in local DC matters, i’d encourage you to ask him for help on every single little mundane DC issue you may have: trash collection, graffiti removal, yard mowing, rat abatement, illegal dumping, etc.

    • what about an actual movement to forego paying federal taxes? Has this ever happened? And I feel the same way about Issa. Why does he care so much about DC? And soon, Chaffetz. Ugh they’re all awful

    • I Dont Get It

      I just read the quote where he said “If they don’t like that oversight, move outside of the federal district to one of the 50 states that is not covered by the jurisdiction of Congress as a whole.”

      I just gave him some love on Facebook.,

      • epric002

        thanks! spread the word too please 😀 he is getting lots of “love” on facebook. i have some friends who are posting the transcripts of conversations they have when they call his offices too.

    • epric002

      additional rave: the navy band is riding the escalators and playing their instruments. go navy, beat army!

  • Rant: Apples, carrots, hard sourdough pretzels, and fish need to be prohibited from close work spaces.

    Rave: Finally getting over this stupid cold.

  • Andie302

    Rave: My schnauzer Mocha will be on the afternoon feature!
    Rant: No more stops to Denton Wal-mart apparently? but but but
    Rant: Winter blues – it’s not even that wintery out yet and I’m already getting them
    Rave: At least as I age I’ve been able to recognize it and adjust somewhat
    Rant/Rave: My office was supposed to have a bake-off, it got cancelled, but several people brought in food anyway (because of course there wasn’t an email about the cancellation). Now we’re all just pigging out on baked goods (well, I haven’t yet, but after lunch all bets are off).

    • Allison

      Re: winter blues. I had a dream last night that I was in an insane asylum (or maybe that’s too strong a word, more like inpatient therapy rehab place?) They wouldn’t let me go outside and I kept complaining about how I needed sunlight and I wasn’t going to get better unless I had sunlight!!

      • Emmaleigh504

        In my family we just call it the bin, as in looney 🙂

      • I posted further up with my recommendation for using a light box when the days are cold and dark. Allison I think it is true that we need sunlight!

      • Andie302

        I had a vivid dream last night about the two dogs I had while married (that, after taking care of them on my own for a year, went to live on a farm with a retired couple). That part was sort of awesome because they recognized me but they were super duper happy with their owners, the owners recognized me, and that part of the dream was great. The weird part was that I was in the hospital visiting someone, and I ran into them in the hospise wing where they were visiting a relative (and the dogs were invited?!!?) I absolutely hate dreaming because it feels like I’m not resting my brain. And then Mocha jumped on my face at 4am to go outside.

    • I realized this year that the season change affects me. I think it’s only been the last two years though. Things they don’t tell you about getting older!

    • Why would you need to go all the way to Denton for a Walmart? Andie, is it on your way home when you’re visiting family back in Delaware?

      • Andie302

        Exactly! It’s good for stops on the way to DE when I need ingredients for a recipe the next day for a holiday, need a greeting card for the upcoming weekend, or my mom knows I am driving by and asks me to pick something up. My parents live about 5 miles outside of the town I grew up in (in the opposite direction) so this is convenient on the way home to see my family. The last purchase I made there was a keurig for my mom at nearly midnight on a Friday.

        • LOL at the last sentence — a friend was once telling me about being stuck in the middle of nowhere for a work trip, not being able to sleep, and going to the 24-hour Walmart. 🙂

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: F*ing work: Micro mangers, morning people, and just plain old annoying people. I do not have the patience for them today.
    RAVE: Watched The Sisterhood: Becoming Nuns last night and NUNS DANCED! Adorable old nuns learned some silly dance routine with the ladies exploring nunhood. Then the nuns did the dance for the ladies as they left. I almost died from the cute.

    • saf

      One night we were at Murphy’s. There was a nun convention across the street, and there were a lot of nuns in the bar (freaking out the bartender, who went to Catholic school and had post traumatic nun disorder). The nuns all danced to the music and had beers. My Catholic-raised husband was astounded.

  • Rave: After years of heating up leftovers in tupperware containers for lunch, I finally realized I could bring a ceramic bowl to work, keep it in our ktichen (plenty of cupboard space and a sink with sponges and detergent there) and heat stuff up in it. Tried it for the first time today. My homemade chili tasted great in my dollar store bowl. No more plastic tasting lunches for me!

    Rave: Bought a really good bottle of bourbon last Friday and I still haven’t opened it yet. I’m waiting until one of my close friends is finished with exams (he’s a professor) so I can share it with him. That’s unusual will power for me. I think he’s done this week.

    Rant: I REALLY want to try this bourbon!

  • Late rave: Snowing!
    Rant: Didn’t have time to do my emergency panic shopping before the snow started

  • RANT/RAVE: My boss volun-told me to help out with a project that another group has been running for months. Mainly, my job is to just review their work in the final stretch and look for any fatal flaws. Suddenly, all the team members on this project decide that should try to dump a bunch of their responsibilities on me. These f#ckwits are the type that leave at 5pm everyday, meanwhile I’m here regularly until 9pm (or 1030pm, as in last night) trying to complete my other insane projects. Had to put my foot down and tell them that I’m not doing anything else, unless they’re also staying here late and working through their Xmas vacation. That shut them up. Money never sleeps.

    • RANT: After coming home exhausted last night, I majorly put my foot in mouth and my roommate probably thinks I’m a casual racist. God damn it. I apologized and felt awful. 😡

  • Rave: My coworker’s Georgia accent. She recently told me that some of our more basic catalog records look “nekkid.”

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rave: IDGI and Allison are cracking me up today!

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