Random Reader Rant and/or Revel


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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • Rave: Quitting Smoking…anybody have success stories or anecdotes they’d care to share to help a brother out?
    Rant: Quitting Smoking…

    • Haven’t been there personally, but I work in public health and the research overwhelmingly shows that utilizing many tools leads to the best outcomes. The more resources you can pull in (medication, phone support, friends & family, etc.) the more successful you are likely to be.

      You can start here: http://tobacco-cessation.org/whatworkstoquit/

      Good luck! This is a wonderful step and I wish you success!

    • Best of luck with your efforts. My uncle (a 30-year smoker) had some luck with a drug that literally made him nauseous when he took in nicotine. I’ve heard some people say they need an alternative “habit” that takes care of the desire to hold something. Strangely enough, a woman in an article I read on this topic said she found that holding peppermint sticks when she got the craving to go outside and just hold something worked for her. Good luck and stay with it!

    • I quit cold turkey (about a pack a day smoker since my teens) about 5 years ago and it was one of the hardest, yet best things I’ve done.
      First and foremost, you have to be ready in your mind that you want to quit. Then just pop regular gum when you get the urge, or move around or do something to get the mind off the urge. The urge will subside, for me it came in waves. Don’t fall into the trap of taking nicotine gum or smoking cigars – you’re just shuffling the habit around – you will still be addicted to nicotine.
      It took about a year to really kick the habit but after the first 2 months, I will say it’s a mental habit (getting the urge when drinking booze or with that morning coffee) more than a physical habit.
      Also, don’t kid yourself and say you’ll “have just one”. If you are like me, the only way is complete abstinence from smoking or any tobacco products. Not going to lie, the first few months are tough, but it’s definitely worth it in the long run. Besides the obvious health effects, smoking is really a prison sentence. I just couldn’t imagine huddling outside to smoke when I’m out at a bar, or searching for a smoking lounge at airport. Glad it’s behind me but I will admit, there are times when I still miss it.

    • I took Zyban for a month. My doctor told me it’s not as disruptive as Chantix as well as being a light anti-depressant (pleasant side benefit even though I wasn’t depressed). I was supposed to take it for another month or two but I had no desire for a smoke anymore and decided to just ween myself off early. Been a few months now and I don’t want a cigarette even with two smoker roommates or when I’m out drinking. Push through it! I feel so much better physically and emotionally now.

    • I stopped 10 years ago – I used the patch, zyban and hypnotherapy and it was easy to stop. I was motivated to stop which was an important factor.

      Good luck – you’ll be happy you decided to stop.

      • All familiar, but greatly appreciated, advice and encouragement. Pack a day for 10 years. 240 pounds of cigarettes total. $30K spent. Lined up end to end, it’s 3.6 miles of cigarettes. Time to cut this s*^# out.

    • I quit 8 years ago after years of failed attempts using nicotine gum and the 3 Ds: delay; drink water; deep breathing. Keep trying to quit – eventually you will. The only way your won’t succeed is if you stop trying.
      Good luck!

      • Quit cold turkey after 5 years of about 10 ciigarettes a day. A couple of failed attempts but the key for it taking was not smoking. It sounds silly but it is true. Once you start cheating you find yourself cooked. At least I did. I went 7 years withouth a puff. Am at the point where I can actually have a cigarrette socially without starting again.

    • Emilie504

      I read in Dear Abbey or Anne Landers that a good way to quit was to pick a day and do it. That’s what I did. I picked a day in the future that was important to me (last day of grad school) and told myself that was my last day as a smoker. In my head I was done and that translated into real life. I slipped a few times and had a cigarette while I was out or whatever, but never went back to being a smoker.

    • anon. gardener

      If you are still smoking, and are planning to taper off – switch to American Spirit. they are not soaked in chemicals like other cigarettes, and it really makes a difference. My husband smokes, and after he switched to American Spirit, he smokes far less, the cravings are less intense. sometimes he forgets to go have a smoke during the day. i know someone else who switched to american spirit, and a few months later stopped smoking altogether. she said it made it easier to quit.

      Also, don’t take chantix, especially if you have any kind of disposition to heart problems/family history of heart disease.

  • Rant: Stuck – between the easy option that’s stagnant and frustrating but comfortable and stable or the difficult option of making a break for it and committing myself to the next step in my career/education… so hard to know if I should pull the trigger or not and there’s no easy way to make intermediate steps…

    Rave: At least I have options. At least there are next steps for me. And I’ve got great support from my husband.

    • I don’t know of anyone who has been in that position (needing to “make a break for it”) and regretted it afterward.

      • ^^this

        I made a break for it back in september, and have a bit of a ways to go to complete the transition in my career, but knowing I am on the way helps tremendously, and I don’t regret it at all. and i am (was?) a HUGE creature of comfort/routine, etc, but it definitely was for the best.

    • Can totally empathize!! Arghhhh! Sucks!

    • You should go for it. Being stagnant is the worst, I was there a year ago and going for it/taking a chance was the best thing that could have happened to me, even if there is a lot of uncertainty. Life is too short to be stagnant!

    • binpetworth

      The key is to ask yourself would you regret not making the break and going that next step? Even if you end up not using the additional education or changing careers again later on, would you at least look back and say that you were glad you went for it?

    • How do you typically make decisions? I’m very much a “go with your gut” kind of decision maker but that doesn’t work for everyone.

      Maybe ask yourself – what if next January I’m in a place that is still stagnant/ frustrating and stable/comfortable? And – what if I took a leap in January of 2012 and now I’m ……?

    • Thank you all for the support! It’s the little steps along that way that seem so monumental and insurmountable (getting reference, planning with husband’s career) and all for something new and risky (in that I may not get it…).
      I need to do it or else, you’re right, I’ll look back and regret it. Thanks for giving me a great list of “go get it” support so I can give myself a kick in the butt when needed :-D.

    • Did the fire place at Caribou do the job?

    • Are you a newlywed?

  • Rave: Plentiful morning sun and minimal wind. Made this morning’s walk much more pleasant than yesterday. Having lunch with a dear friend. Any ideas for a great salad along the red line (non chain please)
    Rant: Piles of laundry and admin work…

  • Rant: The Shaw Dupont Citizens Alliance has now filed a formal petition with ABRA for a five-year liquor license moratorium covering the entire 14th and U Streets neighborhoods and beyond.

    • Does this include the establishment of crack houses? If not, we will see a surge in those thanks to the NIMBYs.

    • Please keep us in the loop on any hearings or ways we can submit comment letters on the proposal. I live around the corner from ABRA (it’s right above the U Street metro stop at 13th & U) and I would be more than happy to voice some opposition or write a letter.

      Thanks!

    • I don’t really care one way or the other, but am I the only one (aside from these petitioners) who thinks U Street has gotten out of control in the past few years? it’s not a place I want to hang out anymore.

    • Restaurants should not be allowed to sell alcohol to anyone that is not seated. The DC Fire Marshall needs to reduce maximum occupancy levels by 25% at night clubs. This would help solve many of the problems and problem “customers” that are currently on the rise on U Street.

      • people already sit down far too long than they really should.

      • No they won’t. You’ll just have more people loitering outside, waiting in artificially created lines outside, etc. And then you’ll have the gall to complain about the increased noise levels.

        Sorry, but just because you own a little bit of property in the ‘hood, doesn’t entitle you to change the fabric of the area because you’ve grown a bit older.

        • Actually, people will not loiter around outside because people in DC are impatient. Trust me, I have owned 2 restaurants in DC over the years and people do not like to wait. You couple that with the fact that they can not stand around and drink and they will move on to the next restaurant down the street. The original poster has a good idea about not allowing bars to serve alcohol to people that are not seated.

          • ** restaurants (not bars) should have been in the last sentence.

          • That’s true for restaurants, but not true AT ALL for nightclubs and bars. Go to places like U Street Music Hall, DC9, Fatback @ Bohemian Caverns, or 930 Club to see people wait in line in the freezing cold for 45 minutes to get into a party. If you cut clubs’ occupancy by 25%, you’ll have more people on the street.

            Anyways, this will NEVER happen as it cuts into the city’s tax revenues. DC government is addicted to to the record tax collections we’ve had over the past few years.

  • Emilie504

    Rant: coughing til I puke.

    Rave: Pho and king cake and modern medicine helping me get well.

    Hilarious: Quotia Zelda and Bella Swan have the same going away dress (I’m sick & it’s on showtime, leave me and my bad movies alone).

  • Rant: Bella Swan stole my going away look. Bitch.

    Rave: King cake in the house, and another one coming later!

    Rant: I just can’t deal with cold weather.

    Rave: My sweet husband drove me to the Metro so I didn’t have to walk in the cold.

  • novadancer

    rave: fun night catching up with friends at trivia
    rave/rant: missed watching my wildcats beat the #5 ranked team

    • Where do you do trivia? We’re trivia fans….thinking it’d be fun to find a spot to do this regularly

      • novadancer

        It’s my old trivia group (everyone else still lives in Arlington) so it was at Fireflies in Alexandria (we were regulars at RiRa until the quiz master quit). I’m still searching for a good trivia night in DC that isn’t over crowded. Fado is too intense. We are trying Biergartenhaus next Tuesday.

      • Stetsons and Solly’s both have pretty good trivia nights that are chill yet well attended.

  • Rave: Just really happy these days. Deciding to spend the year consciously appreciating what I have and what I can do, instead of what I should do, has been amazing.

    Rant: That may come across as irritating :)

    • I’m like you, but my spouse is continuously depressed, anxious, and unable to enjoy anything at all. So I’m conflicted– It’s really hard to appreciate my happiness when I can’t share it with the person I love.

      • divorce him/her

      • Is your spouse being treated for his/her depression and anxiety? Or are you using those words in a non-clinical sense?

        • Yes, but nothing seems to be working. :(

          • It can take time to figure out the right combination of therapy and/or medication. Especially with meds – there’s lots of choices and some work better than others depending on the individual.

            Good luck – it’s hard to be in a relationship with someone who is suffering from depression (or any other mental health problem).

          • When I was depressed years ago, I found group therapy really helped more than individual therapy. As did team sports. And hot spicy foods. And recognizing it’s anger inside that often spurs depression. What is it that makes anger such an issue for them? As for you, find a way to relish happiness on your own, you don’t always need your spouse along for the ride…

          • I’m pretty sure she doesn’t have any anger stored up inside. And she hates spicy foods and team sports. I think it’s a combination of things– she comes from a neurotic family, she has negative thinking patterns that are very ingrained, every job she’s had is insanely stressful with 10-12 hour days, she doesn’t have a single hobby or interest outside of work, and there probably are some underlying mental issues as well (but no one can figure out if it’s depression, anxiety, ADD, or some combination). I can, and do, relish my happiness on my own but it makes me feel a bit guilty and sad.

    • A refreshing reminder while I’m battling a sad breakup.

  • Rave: Saw Zero Dark Thirty

    Rant: Now I have to watch Zero Dark 1-29 so I can truly understand part thirty.

  • Rant: Rent prices in this city are ridiculous. Roommate and I looking for a 2 bedrooms < $2000/month in a safe area and can only seem to find tiny little basement apartments and the only other option seems to be to blow away the budget and end up in some large apartment building for like $3000/month.

    • when are you looking to move in? Just got notice that my tenants plan to move out of the city. FYI my place is in bloomingdale (off 1st st), completely separate 2 bedroom (but is a basement apt), around 1800 sq ft. has washer dryer/kitchen..all that good stuff. The people moving out are the only people who have lived there, so everything is on the new side. Let me know if interested! What is your budget?

  • RANT: I just posted in the 1.22 rant/revel section by accident and I’m too lazy to repost here.

    RANT: Goes something like this…hung over, want bagel, went to show last night, missed opening act that I really wanted to see. I want greasy food.

  • Rant: Hiccups. Loud soul deep hiccups.
    Rave: Excited about my move. Good bye Columbia Heights!
    Revel: New furniture :)

  • Rave: Reunited a missing wallet with its owner last night. It was nice having the opportunity to help someone out.

    Rant: I wasn’t too cold during my walk to work, but now that I’m stationed at my desk I can’t seem to get warm.

  • I’m so happy the inaugural festivities are over. After three straight nights of balls and a week of partying before that seeing old friends from around the country coming in to town I think my body is about to fall apart.

  • Rave: I got a new job!!!

    Rave: No more long distance relationship, since I’m now employed in the same city as my guy!!!

    Rant: Job offer accepted, but start date is still up in the air, so I can’t tell anybody yet and I’m chafing at the bit to turn in my notice.

  • Rave: got my last law school grade — officially done!!
    Rant: impending bar exam … need more brain bandwidth.

    • Nah. You have enough bandwidth. You’ve finished the hard part. All you have to do is pass. Any score above passing is just study time wasted. You’ll be fine.

  • RANT: Work is really going to be tough in the near future.
    RAVE: The Lord Jesus Christ is my savior and HE will not put more on me than I can take.

    • Rant: Sanctimonious bullshit

      • Way to be a bigot. The expression of a religious sentiment does not equal sanctimony. No wonder you weren’t even brave enough to put your blog name on the post.

        • I post as Anon all the time, I’ve never created a blog account so I don’t have a blog name to put on my comments. Would you have preferred I created a brand new account just for this comment?

          And to address the sanctimoniousness of the above comment: I find the idea that God places burdens upon us to be absurd, and in continuation of that idea, that he never places a larger burden on people than they can handle to be downright laughable.

          Though I do not know the nature of the posters personal life, the juxtaposition of ranting about how busy they are at work with thanking god for getting them through these tough times is offensive to all those facing true hardships.

          Anyone who would think that “god” never asks of people more than they can handle clearly has no firsthand experience of real suffering. There are countless people under burdens they cannot lift, and ideas like the one posted above suggest that the only thing standing between them and success is that they haven’t accepted Jesus into their life.

          If it makes you feel better, my name is Ryan.

    • Funny that if you are a Christian, you are suddenly open to being called a sanctimonious and awful person. Keep doing you.

      • Are public declarations of how god takes care not to overburden you suddenly not making a show of being morally superior to other people? Doesn’t matter what religion you tie the comment to, you could be declaring that lord xenu has helped you clear your thetans and therefore you cannot be overburdened and it would be just as sanctimonious.

    • I think the “sanctimonious bullsh1t” comment was more harsh than warranted… but at the same time, there was something about “The Lord Jesus Christ is my savior and HE will not put more on me than I can take” that rubbed me the wrong way. Maybe that it sounded smug?

      Many people believe in Christ but don’t define the word “Christian” as meaning “more Christian than thou,” or conceive of those around us as being “saved” or “not saved.”

      What about people who have more to deal with than they can take? What about people who are in such despair that they end their lives? Are they any less favored by Christ than anyone else??

      Faith can be a wonderful thing… but you need to be careful about expressing yourself in a way that sounds “holier than thou.”

      And even if you _do_ believe that you’re “saved” and others aren’t, are you really surprised to find that such a declaration rubs other people the wrong way?

  • RANT: My boyfriend’s mom is very sick and might not make it through the day. It is heartbreaking to see the person you love lose the absolute most important person in their life.
    RANT: Really really sad.

  • Rant: possibility of a 22 day furlough. I guess it could get worse than year 3 of a pay freeze. As if I needed less motivation to do my job than the a-holes I work for?

    Rant/Rave: I used to love my job, but the cuts have really made me resent my career path. How are you supposed to motivate a young, hardworking person when there’s NO MONEY? You don’t. And then you end up with those maxed out GSs who count down til retirement and don’t know anything or want to help anyone. I’m looking at you, person I share a cube wall with.

    • I hear you! I just did battle with two organizations that do little except get in the way and make this Fed redo work. Then I just had to explain to two GS15ers that do nothing why I am not providing info they requested, as I have done for the past two months.
      I am seriously contemplating switching careers and being a bartender at a ski resort. Pay way less but quality of life would be much better.

      • What I would like to know is “what do you expect?” You know? I mean, treat us like crap and eventually the work catches up. I’m definitely not at the top of my game and I have no doubt it’s because I’ve lost all motivation to perform well given there will be no incentive.
        Personal pride used to propel me, then I got a mortgage. I don’t make a lot as it is, so this will be a rather huge punch in the gut. Additionally, every time they do something like this is affects our retirements – if I’m not earning more, I’m not putting more away. If I’m furloughed, I’m not putting money away. It’s sad that they view us as expendable.

    • 22 day furlough? Hmm. Obviously I don’t know what agency you work for, but that seems a bit extreme. If sequestration happens, my agency is expecting 5-10 days of furloughs for employees.

      And sounds like you should change jobs. I’ve worked for 3 agencies and there are big differences between them all. The one I’m currently at is the most professional office I’ve been in (both in private and public sector) and is very well run. No dead wood either amazingly enough. The last one? Well there is a reason I’m here :). Total opposite.

      • Pentagon.
        And, my office is small and I like what I do. The one dead wood we really have will retire soon – though, I think she talks about it more than she actually wants to. It’s difficult to get motivated when you know where will be no reward. That’s my issue, sadly.

      • If I may ask, what agency are you at?

  • RAVE: Just realized last night that I haven’t work a full, 5 day work week since the week of December 10th. And this week is a short week and I’m off Friday of next week for AWS. I love my life (sometimes).

  • Rant: Wish there was an easy way to keep DC Rats from living in the engine area of my car!

    • mothballs beneath your parking space.

    • You have to take a multipronged approach to this. Clean up the area, mothballs can help, so can cougar piss if you can source it. Ultimately, I ended up using chicken wire to protect the electrical wires and to fill up the space in the voids in the engine.

  • Rave: 49ers. My late grandfather was the biggest Niners fan you can imagine. His dog was named Montana. It’s sad that he isn’t here to see this but its fun to see your family’s team in the SuperBowl.
    Rant: STILL sick. ugh
    Rave: it’s not the flu. :)

  • jim_ed

    Rave: Hot Water Music at the 9:30 club last night. Great show as always

    Rant: I think I’m officially old, because afterwards my friends and I groused about not using earplugs during the show.

    Rave/Rant: Supremely self-righteous doorman in his street punk outfit at the 9:30 club being a real jerk to people trying to come into the club, then not recognizing the lead guitarist from Anti-Flag trying to say hello to some of the bands and making him stand outside as well and looking like a complete tool in the process.

  • Rave: had a very good time with a few ladies at the Mari Vanna restaurant on Monday night. Food was excellent, just like my momma used to make. :) Can’t wait to go back and try out my VIP key.

  • Rant: Caps game last night was painful. The only good part was watching Matt Hendricks kick some ass.

    Rant: My office is just inside the front door and it’s FREEZING in here.

    Rave: Looking forward to laundry and Top Chef tonight!

    Rant: I started typing this more than an hour ago and now I can’t remember any more Raves!

  • Mothership Connection, home of the P.Funk, the Bomb.
    Beam me up PoP

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