Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

Photo by KE: “15th and T this morning. Followed suggestion. Smelled fantastic.”

You can talk about whatever is on your mind โ€“ quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct peopleโ€™s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • maxwell smart

    NOT REALLY A RANT: Embassy Day has EXPLODED in popularity! I’ve gone the last 3 years and every year it gets more insane then the year before – more so on EU weekend. The line for Belgium was a least a 2+ hour wait. Maybe if it was Saturday & Sunday or twice a year it would help thin the crowd?

    • skj84

      The crowds were part of the reason I didn’t attend this year. Spending half the time in isnh worth it. I like your suggestion to extend a full weekend. I feel like they used to run the full weekend years ago.

    • I had wanted to go to Great Britain and a few others after hitting up Lithuania (where there was no line!) but we drove by and the lines were insane, so we decided to skip. That line with a one year old would be hell for us and everyone around us. Maybe next year.

      • Oh man, so glad we didn’t go! My wife wanted to go but we didn’t get around to checking it out. Lines with wee ones sound like no fun at all.

        • Especially with wee ones who hate to stand still and are due for a nap. A double whammy of crankiness. We made the right choice to just keep on driving while she was zonked out in the car seat.

    • What time did you get there? I got in line at Belgium right at 10 and it was still about an hour and a half. I enjoyed it though.

    • I went running by Belgium at 945 on Saturday morning and the line was already ridiculous.
      I don’t know if it is a testament to DCers interest in foreign countries or the adult version of trick or treating and hoping to score free shit.

      • justinbc

        Belgium used to give away beers and chocolate. Not sure if they still do, but I’m guessing that’s part of the reason for the long line.

      • skj84

        Probably both. Though Belgium is known for giving out the best swag. Free Beer, Waffles and chocolate.

        • the waffles were not free this year you had to pay $1 per waffle. they said because there were no sponosors this year they could not give the waffles away for free (see comment below about no cash). the beer bottles and chocolates were free tho for sure!.

    • This makes me feel a little better about having missed the embassies’ open house day AGAIN. Practically every year I think about going… but never go.

    • Pablo Raw

      Well, looks like I’ll never ever do embassy day.

    • palisades

      Germany/France one was super crowded when I went around 11:30. Luckily, the German embassy is frickin HUGE. It was like a college campus. I definitely don’t ever plan on doing the embassy thing again.

    • DON’T even get me started! I had so many issues with this and last weekend as well. It was not advertised anywhere that this was cash only…i rarely have cash and therefore couldnt really get anything. 2. have more than one freaking waffle station etc so that the line isnt 1+ hours. Luckily I had gotten up and out there earlier but still by the time I got there 10:30 it was out of control! and 3. they should probably “sell” time slots. you can visit this group of embassys from the hours of 1 and 3 or whatever the case is. This might help to control crowds a bit. it was just very disorgaznied and at one point I had actually not waited in line but walked in the wrong way at Italy but again bc of the whole cash thing I didnt stay.

      • They’re embassies, not full-time bars/restaurants. The cash-only thing doesn’t surprise me in the least.

        • palisades

          Germany/France had a biergarten with brats and pretzels. You could pay with cash or they had those card swipers connected to the iphone. Not all embassy payments were created equal, apparently.

        • thats not the issue. the issue is they should at least post it on the website so when people are looking up the embassies to see which ones they may want to go to they know. other people around me in lines were also shocked including the foreigners.

          • I agree that clear communication via social media/ websites about cash requirements and costs would make it a better day for everyone but do want to point out that these events are run by Embassy staff (not professionals) and nearly always funded by the Embassy. Cost is an issue and some of the staff get paid and other Embassy staff do it for love of country. I think its great that so many Embassies choose to participate.

      • I Dont Get It

        Or you could go to EPCOT.

  • Rant: Caps last night. Ugh. I’m not feeling good about game 7 in NY.
    Rant: TWO of our phlox plants were dug out of the ground in our front yard and stolen last week. Really people????
    Rant: Poor kiddo has a raging ear infection (possibly both ears).
    Rave: Ibuprofen seems to be doing the trick–may not need the antibiotic.
    Happy Monday everyone.

    • justinbc

      Wow, of all the things to steal, phlox is so cheap! That really sucks.

    • Yes, but with the other stolen flowers and stolen pot, it all made a lovely gift for Mom.

      • As MPinDC once said, “Nothing says ‘I love you, Mom’ like stolen flowers.”

        • Right after my wife proposed to me (many years ago), we were enjoying a quiet celebratory moment in Old Town Alexandria & a man came up to us on a bike with mums that were clearly pulled from the ground, and asked us to by them to help him pay for a hotel that night. We gave him money in hopes of getting rid of him more quickly–but instead heard a partial rendition of his life’s story. I still have those flowers saved somewhere….

    • Ally

      That stinks. And reminds me of how my Dad used to tell the story of when kids in the neighborhood would cut roses from his back fence, then bring them around to the front, ring the doorbell, and try to sell him back his own roses. Ah, capitalism…

  • Rave: I had a lovely weekend.
    Rant: I did not sleep well last night. I woke up around midnight and was up every hour until my alarm went off.
    Rave: All the coffee.

  • Rant: Spent a lot of money on crappy Korean food last night. Mistake.
    Rave: A couple came to view my apartment and seemed really interested, they have the credit check form and my landlord is waiting to hear from them. Hoping they come through so I can finally move. I have another place I’m looking at that is still available but they’d need to move quick so I can move quick…
    Rant: They’re taking him off life support today. I feel like an imposter because we weren’t that close, but I feel so sad for his family. The world lost an amazing person, but we can hope that what he gave during his time on earth — along with the organs that will be donated giving others a new lease on life today — is exactly what he was meant to do.

    • I hope you’ll go easy on yourself about your last rant. It’s sometimes even harder to be on the periphery losing someone you care about and not having those labels, good friend, close. etc.
      I’m sorry for your loss.

      • This. It makes it hard to know how to grieve the loss of someone when you care about them but may not have a concrete role/label in their lives.

        • Thanks, you two. I’ll take it easy on myself, and will keep his family (who I had the pleasure to meet and talk to for a while last week) in my thoughts today.

    • Additional Rant: My office doesn’t have regular morning meetings, but this morning we apparently had one and no one bothered telling me until just someone asked why I wasn’t there. I’ve been sitting at my desk the past hour… I’ve been here! Wtf.

    • Emmaleigh504

      I’m sorry for your loss.

    • That One Guy

      Where did you go for the Korean food?

      Condolences on the loss of your friend.

      • Thank you.
        We went to Yechon. I’m an avid cold noodle fan and theirs just were not good.

        • That One Guy

          Was it too sticky/clumpy or was the broth not seasoned well.
          I believe Woo Rae Oak still has a decent naeng myon.

          • Haha, you know whats up! The broth wasn’t seasoned well. It wasn’t vinegary enough and it was missing something else I couldn’t quite put my finger on…
            I’ll have to try Woo Rae Oak next time. I got them at Il Poom Hyang one time and they were really good!

    • Very sorry to hear about your friend. ๐Ÿ™

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: Had to stop and rest during my 7 minute walk from metro to work.
    Rant: so over being sick and feeling exhausted.
    I’m sure there’s a rave some where, but I’m too tired to think of it.

  • Rant: Our 10 year old kitty passed suddenly and unexpectedly yesterday afternoon.
    Rave: Vet thinks it was a heart attack and that it happened very quickly with little to no pain.
    Rant: The amount of bicyclists that seem to be on the sidewalks in Columbia Heights. Had two over the weekend come from behind and almost run over our pup.
    Rant: WMATA.

  • Quotia Zelda

    Rant: I had hoped to take a little side trip while I was on a business trip this summer, but it has turned out to be way to expensive and complicated. Bah.
    Rave: Nice, quiet weekend running errands and taking naps and baking cookies.
    Rant: Didn’t get the gardening done. This may be the year I get the yard guys to do the mulch.

  • Rant: Dealing with some major life disappointments at the moment and I have no idea how to proceed. Well, I know how I want to proceed but I don’t think that regressing to childhood will help (but building a blanket fort and eating a peanut butter and jelly sandwich is pretty much all I want to do right now).
    Rave: Both my mother and mother-in-law are getting super excited to see each other this summer. I find this adorable.
    Rave: Sunday night lobster dinner turned out even better than I had expected. I love when that happens.

    • janie4

      Blanket forts are awesome.

    • Becks

      I agree. Blanket and sofa forts ARE amazing! I also like to set up the tent in the living room, turn off all the lights and “go camping.”

    • Totally looking forward to blanket forts when my kiddo gets just a bit bigger ๐Ÿ™‚

    • anonymouse_dianne

      RAve: Lobster tail on sale at Giant’s and Harris Teeter. Got two @ Giants and had them cook them for me. Lobster and shrimp and corn on the cob for supper.
      Rave: Teleworking today
      Rant: Teleworking today… the construction project is making lots of unpleasant noises.

    • We also had lobster tail for dinner last night ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Rave: The magnificent yellow roses at Fairmont and Sherman are in full effect. Totally worth sitting in the bad traffic on Sherman to see them. Saw new awesome roses further north on Sherman – pink roses against a pink brick wall, really nice.

    Too bad those knock-out roses in the picture above have no scent!

    Nothing to complain about today. I have a lot going on, but many other things help me put my woes in perspective.

  • justinbc

    Rave: Had the weekend to myself while the partner went off to visit family in SF.
    Rave: Managed to work my ass off Saturday and Sunday for 10+ hours each day doing house projects. All yardwork is finally done for the season, now to sit back and enjoy it. Lower floor is totally taped off and ready for painting too.
    Rave: Despite the loss, I loved the Caps heart in the game last night. They could have rolled over, and the announcers were calling to pull Holtby for some rest, but they really showed resilience that I think bodes well for game 7. But…
    Rant: Their power play is atrocious. When you’ve got a 6 to 4 advantage to close out the game there’s almost no excuse for not getting a goal, especially when the other goal tender is having an “off” night by his standards.

  • Becks

    Rant: People on the bus who will not move back! Everyday it is a challenge to get past the person blocking the path to get to the empty back of the bus. And then they get angry at you when you try to push past.
    Rave: I had a great time this weekend on a picnic with friends at a winery in the countryside. It was so nice to sit and chat in the cool breeze under a magnolia.
    Rant: The ground bees are back and I can’t use my front door any more. They are less active at dawn and dusk which makes leaving for work and coming home ok, but weekends I have to go out the back door! Land Lady doesn’t see them? When I can stand at my door and count more than 20 bees in a 5 foot area, there is a problem!

  • janie4

    Rant: A/C is busted, and I can’t afford to get it fixed, or even turn it on if I got it fixed for at least another month.
    Rant: Can’t seem to stick to a budget, which is embarrassing since I make good money.
    Revel: I have very supportive friends and family.
    Revel: And my cats love me.

    • Oh, A/C is going to be necessary shortly. I feel you on the budget. This month I’m doing cash only, hoping that is slightly more effective that what I had been doing (which really amounts to nothing).

    • Why don’t you buy a used window unit or 2 from craigslist to tide you over until you save the funds needed for a full A/C repair. You can sell those units hopefully later summer and they should hold their value if you buy them at a discount. Then map out your current monthly base costs and compare to your credit card bill/ bank bill and see where you can reduce expenses and get back on track… you can do it!

  • Rave: Offered to buy a homeless person breakfast, and someone else paid for it because he felt bad for never offering even though he sees her all the time. Now I can buy her breakfast another day.
    Rave: Dating is going great. She invited me to a sort of work function, and she’s coming to an event for me. Things are moving along nicely.
    Rant: Trying to fit in friends and date night. I refuse to become the person who goes off the grid when they start seeing someone.

    • Second your rant – especially hard for me because my SO and I have opposite schedules so we have a hard enough time scheduling and I refuse to cancel on commitments with friends to see him. Frustrating.

      • I’m ok cancelling once in a while depending on what/when. Last minute I avoid, of course. If I can only see her one day in a week, I’d probably reschedule the friend. You give me hope that we can work it out.

    • Look at you go Glen Coco!

    • Ally

      That’s really nice about buying the breakfast for the homeless person. Wish more people did that when they were able.

  • Rave: Bachelorette party for my friend went really well, she had a great time. ๐Ÿ™‚ Whew. I was a little stressed about planning it so I’m glad it all went smoothly!
    Rave: Related to above, the staff at the Normandy Hotel are so nice.
    Rant: Monday, so tired.

  • Rant: Putting my dog down today. It was a really tough decision but his quality of life has declined so much it is definitely time. Not the ideal start to the week.
    Rant: It is gloomy outside and that is how I feel about today.
    Rave: Super busy week packed with fun plans so hopefully that will help me get over today.

  • goaldigger

    Rant: Not enough cuss words in the world to express how I felt leaving the Verizon Center last night. (I’m also a Patriots and Red Sox fan so really not a good time for me sports wise).

    Rave: Yeah, I’ve got nothing.

    • justinbc

      You’re not happy about the Super Bowl you just won…?

      • Sounds like he’s feeling deflated. BADOOM-TISH!

      • goaldigger

        Oh I’m still happy as hell about the Super Bowl but the impending suspension and or fine of Brady based on a conclusion of “we think something hinky happened” is unreal. The NFL is run by clowns.

        • justinbc

          He’ll probably get suspended a few games, but it won’t matter because they’ll still win enough to make the playoffs and that’s all it really takes to have a shot. The penalties for players all fall under their collective bargaining agreement, so evidence really doesn’t even have to exist. I would expect the players union to still fight any suspension though. The rest of us will all sit back and say “finally” though ๐Ÿ™‚

        • palisades

          Yes the NFL has a history of this sort of thing. Roethlisberger was suspended for a couple games even though he was found not-guilty. Same with Greg Hardy. It’s all for PR.

        • I agree – the NFL should absolutely spend the time and money to make sure they establish beyond a reasonable doubt that someone is guilty or every league rule infraction before suspending them, complete with rules of evidence and strict due process protections.
          Wait . . . that would be ridiculous. Never mind.
          Rant – sycophant fans.

  • Rant: Waking up sickly.
    Rave: having the ability to telework. Feeling grateful since I know not everyone has this option at work.
    Rave: Had a great talk with Mom on Sunday.
    Rant: Gave Mom the same Mother’s Day card I gave her a few years ago. I found out cause she keeps all of the cards I sent her. Next year I’ve got to go to the Hallmark store instead of going the cheap route at Target.
    Rave: Was able to complete a load of work last week at work for different projects.
    Rave/Rant: Above Rave was due to taking another medication to deal with recurring thoughts. I’m glad to be able to focus on my work better but I’m sad that I have to take another medication on top of the anitdepressant I already have in order to concentrate. Makes me think I’m getting worse.

  • Rave: Mother’s Day and getting to see mom and the family and introducing them to the BF who they all loved
    Rant: Caps game last night
    Rave: Awesome braised beef tacos the BF made.
    Rant: Getting home this morning to find the house at 80 degrees and turning on the AC only to have the roomies complain that 80 is not too warm and putting the temp down to 76 is just crazy..?!?!?…bunch of cheapskates…now I need to go to WalMart to buy fans…ceiling fan isn’t cutting it

    • Rant: We’re incapable of making vacation plans. We are both way too picky for our timing and budgetary constraints.
      Rave: Will probably end up taking a trip to my hometown since the BF has never been and I’m due for a visit. Miss those Long Island beaches.
      Rave: Had a wonderful time celebrating my mom yesterday. I don’t know how she does it but through every stage of my life she has managed to perfectly balance being my mom and best friend. I’m lucky.
      Rant: Had to push back my last long run due to the massive blister on the bottom of my foot from thinking I didn’t really need to break in my new Birkenstocks. Wrong.

    • What??? on your last rant. That’s pretty nuts, even with ceiling fans. 76 sounds reasonable to me, but that’s what we keep our house at. Box fans should help, though. Good luck!

    • Sucks that you’re not in agreement on the temp. I make sure to put my preferences out there before living with someone to avoid these conflicts. 80 is right at the top, but if my dog is gone and we’re not home most of the time, I’ll let it go hotter.
      I don’t think 76 from 80 will be a huge jump in the bill depending on the size of the space, though.

    • Wow. Maybe I’m a penguin, but anything above 72 for me is unbearable!

    • Can you compromise at 78 degrees? I like it pretty warm, but 80 (or even 79) is too warm, even for me.
      FWIW, in rental units where there’s no thermostat, landlords are required to keep the temperature at no warmer than 78 in the summer and no colder than 68 in the winter. So you could point out to your roommates that D.C. law is basically saying anything above 78 is too hot.

    • Ally

      I keep mine at a good 70 degrees or lower, so I can relate. Some of us just need our igloos ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Rant: felt like I had a short weekend because I went to the office on Saturday to do catch up. Regret! Never doing that again unless absolutely necessary.
    Rave: Met my bf’s grandfolks out in the blue ridge area, its so beautiful out there and they were really sweet people. I was really anxious about it but in the end it turned out fine.
    Rant: 3 hours there and back was kind of rough on me today
    Rant: my stupid work laptop is a 14″ ultrabook so of course I can’t find a single decent looking case for it that isn’t 40$+. It’s such a wonky length its really frustrating.

  • Rant: got my picture taken at the Brentwood post office 3 weeks ago. Got an email from the dept of state saying my picture is unacceptable. Since it was 3 weeks ago, I (perhaps stupidly) no longer have my receipt. Do I have a snowball’s chance in hell of getting them to retake it?
    Rant: arguing with the roommates about the a/c
    Rave: on better terms with the boy with an undefined relationship that likely won’t go anywhere but I’m okay with it.

  • Rant – The flowers I sent my mom were stolen off her front stoop on Saturday. ๐Ÿ™
    Rave – Planted my little container herb garden yesterday! Hope they do ok.
    Rant – Wedding dress alterations are crazy expensive. I did not budget enough money for this.
    Rave – Bought the perfect pair of wedding shoes at a thrift store for $6. Makes me feel better about spending so much money on dress alterations.

    • Sorry to hear about the stolen flowers. Does your mom live in D.C.?

      • She lives in NY. I knew it was risky having flowers delivered because I wasn’t sure she would be home at time of delivery.

    • Who are you using? I found a lot of them were stupidly expensive too and then I found one that is pretty reasonable! Ha, we got our shoes at DSW and they were on sale!

      • Anytime Alterations in Kensington MD. She has great reviews and was very nice and knowledgeable. Her price is slightly cheaper than places I called in DC. The problem is my dress has lace on it which makes alterations very expensive.

  • Rave: lots of fun stuff this passed weekend, yoga on the mall, strolling through gardens, brewing with friends, running into my sister and niece, great spin class….
    Rant: it was all going so well until the Caps game last night. I think I’m still in the midst of an adrenaline crash/depressive period/stuck in a downward spiral of history based despair. I did not sleep well at all last night.
    Rave-ish?: I can’t watch Wednesday’s game, so I can’t really stress out for 2.5 hours straight.
    Rave: this week is shaping up to be pretty nice.

  • Rant: Idiot roommate had his unlocked bike stolen. He now wants me to keep the gate shut (which doesn’t have a lock, but gets stuck when you try and open it from the outside) instead of him locking up his bike or putting it in the basement. I don’t like the idea of blaming the victim, but I’m not going to walk around the whole block to get into the house from the driveway just so he doesn’t have to lock up his bike. Wtf.

    • Nope. Why won’t he just buy a lock? I would absolutely blame the victim who left a bike unlocked with an open gate. I don’t see any reason why you should be inconvenienced. If he can afford another bike, he can afford a lock.

    • He needs to lock up his bike… but it might be worth your while (or your landlord’s while) to fix the gate so that 1) it can be locked (perhaps two lengths of chain running through, with identical padlocks on either side?) and 2) it can be opened from the outside.

  • Question: A friend’s wife is graduating to become a teacher. She is being studying for years while having 3 kids, so this is a big deal! We are invited to the graduation party, what do people bring as graduations gifts, I have never been to an adult graduation party before, thanks!

    • Maybe a nice name plaque or something else engraved. Gift cards are always good too…Maybe a teacher store?

    • Something cute and useful for her new classroom? I know teachers always ALWAYS need office supplies, so maybe a gift card?

    • Give her school supplies. If she works in a title one school she’ll definitely need them.

    • Ally

      School supplies and, if she’s got 3 kids and just finished school, champagne might be in order ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Becks

      I was a teacher for many years and one of the best presents I could get was boxes of stickers. I would give stickers to my students and stickers cost a ton. A big pretty “sticker box” would be a nice gift.

    • Teachers always end up paying out of pocket for supplies so a gift card to a supply store would be great! I know Staples has gift cards that have teacher-specific designs.

  • Rave: canceled WSC gym membership. It was a breeze! Called corporate and got an email right away confirming cancellation effective in 30 days.
    Rave: joined YMCA. So much better. Locker rooms look like a spa. Staff are great. Better classes.
    Rant: dog still figuring out how to follow commands outside of my apartment.
    Rant: dog owner who told kept saying “short leash” as my dog was on the verge of lunging at his dog (no bark!) but I was already distracting her with treats before he passed by. When he started saying “short leash” I got distracted from training her and she started lunging (I wonder why when a stranger is being aggressive to ME!). My dog was on a short leash, and I was clearly training her feeding her treats as we kept walking by the other dog. We walked away and she didn’t turn around to engage. Seriously, how do people with reactive dogs deal?

    • Are there multiple Ys in DC? Do they offer reciprocal memberships? That’s the only reason I’m still with WSC.

      • Same. I like my classes, but I am finding it harder and harder to justify the almost $80/mo. I wish Class Pass had more cardio options, less trendy stuff (TRX, I’m looking at you). I like that stuff, but it’s not enough of a mix for my needs.

      • Yup, there are multiple locations and you have access to all of them. You should go on a tour and see if there any convenient to you.

        • Wait, they offer COOKING CLASSES TOO???

          • I believe you pay extra for that. I pay a little over $80 a month, and I think that paying more for better service and a nicer gym is worth it if I go to classes at least 4 times a week.

      • Some wsc offered 20/month membership but it’s only for that 1…mostly downtown locations.
        Not sure where you’re located, but balance next to farragut north is cheap, and I liked the location.

        • the $20/mo membership is as bare bones as you can get, basically. No towels even, which gets hard to remember when you can barely remember your gym clothes

          • I think I could manage bringing a towel to save 60/month, but hey, cheap and effective is certainly not for everyone. Just putting it out there.

    • That One Guy

      Keep practicing with the dog. You’ll make progress soon.

    • Totally understand the dog walking difficulties. My dog is dog-reactive on leash, and it can be really stressful. Sounds like you have the right idea, though. I took a class specifically for dog-reactive dogs from Metro Mutts on H St. that was pretty helpful. We’re still working on it.

  • Rave: weather, did the unusual route for me and stayed home most of the weekend. Is this what “charged” feels like? I don’t think my phone is familiar with this concept either…
    Rant: This was kinda fun, because I got to pour beer on this guy. Went out with a guy I dated a few months ago, who fell off because, well, frankly going out with him is like going out with a 14 year old. We were at a bar, he asked to kiss me, I said no, he grabbed my face and did it anyway. I took him outside, explained the concept of consent and how he needs to frakking respect me and my boundaries, and what does he do? Try to force kiss me again. Beer, meet skull.
    Rave: I’m pretty sure I was loud and obnoxious enough in my explanation that at least SOMEONE learned what consent was.
    Rave: Reminded of how much I love my dive bars. It would be pretty embarrassing to pour a beer on someone at say, Bar Dupont, but I got cheers in the dark wet tomb of Codmother.

    • Anonynon

      bahaha this guy sounds like a piece of work. What happened to your main squeeze?

      • Well, I’m still unable to ova-up and talk to him, because, you know, WHY COMMUNICATE LIKE AN ADULT, but things seem to be okay? Still no definition (which isn’t really necessary) but I also haven’t told him that his lack of date planning makes me feel unwanted.
        It’s a wait and see game right now. The more I try to make sense of my life the more confused I become. Plus I’m still trying to get past the fact I poisoned him last week.

        • I can’t recommend talking enough. I had a what are we doing conversation and told her I needed a little more communication. Things improved immediately. I plan most of our dates because I like to plan, but she does jump in from time to time.
          Heartburn isn’t food poisoning…ish happens, don’t beat yourself up about it.

          • I think the conversation will go well once I get it started, but getting it started seems to be the issue. Suggestions? I really hate the “we need to talk” phrase. It sounds like a break up / who knows what.

          • Anonynon

            Curious…how many dates was that after? I know there is no right or wrong number, everyones different

          • >10, maybe >15 dates, I’ve been seeing him regularly for like 4 months.

          • Ah, that’s when the honeymoon phase wears off — and usually the point at which I get dumped. I would definitely talk with him too, but definitely don’t start with “We need to talk.” Also don’t start with “So how are you feeling about this relationship?” because inevitably one person pours their heart out when the other person might not care. I realize this is not really helpful….

          • FridayGirl I think you and I should write dating books. Anon Spock too. Hell, can we do a crowdsourced PoPville dating guide? We could rival that guy who is doing a video series.

          • I support a dating guide. I obviously need one. I’ve only had horror stories after the first date.

          • I believe Andie was writing a dating-related book… but more of a memoir about bad dates, I think, not a guide.

          • (From before she met Accountering, obviously.)

          • I say at the happy hour this Friday we start brainstorming topics to be covered. I hope that’s okay with Dan.

          • I brought it up the 2nd date post rekindle because she was taking days to respond when I tried to plan something. I wanted to be clear on what we wanted before we invested more time in each other.
            In a more typical situation after a couple months if I wasn’t clear.
            I simply said that I thought a talk was in order because I wasn’t sure what we were doing or what she wanted. I tried to call, but it ended up as a text for speed.

          • I Dont Get It

            I haven’t had a date in 10+ years but certainly have some bad dating stories to contribute.

          • IDGI — Plus you have Wiccan Dog Sitter’s dating stories!

          • I Dont Get It

            Or submit the dreadful details of the ONE date I had with WDS many many years ago.

          • Emmaleigh504

            So that means you’ll be at the HH, IDGI? I’ll leave my sickbed to see you there! (sorry in advance for the whooping cough epidemic that is about to hit DC)

        • topscallop

          When I had this conversation I think I said, “what are we doing?” which is maybe not the best way to start off. This was after about 3 months of seeing each other, I wasn’t dating anyone else and I don’t think he was either but I didn’t know for sure. But I got the changes I wanted in the relationship! In a way by delaying the conversation I was stringing myself along. If I were going to have the “talk” again, I think I would say something like…”I really like you/spending time with you” and feel out if he’s on the same page, then go from there.

          Also, I agree with Anon Spock, stop beating yourself up about your cooking!

          • Once we were face-to-face, I basically said the same thing. I like you and wanna keep this thing going. In my case, she was simply overthinking the what ifs.
            No hh for me, but hopefully, you’ll get some useful nuggets out of it.

    • CarmieCarms: Good for you. I cannot believe he actually did that twice!

    • skj84

      Wow. What an idiot. He totally deserved a beer in the face.

    • Ally

      That’s awesome and good for you! Sometimes a bad date is totally worth it for the good story you get afterwards.

    • justinbc

      Codmother is awesome. He sounds like the kind of guy who’s seen too many TV shows / films where the guy just grabs the girl and they have this passionate connecting moment where the tension they’ve both been imagining is released. Except he was the only one feeling it.

  • Rave: Got to see a movie this weekend! In a theater
    Rant: Would have rather had a long nap in a hotel, which would have been about the same price as a movie and the babysitter
    Rant: All this crime in the city.
    Rant: The “employee review” process the federal gov uses. It’s such a waste of time and energy.
    Rave: Won a free portrait session with a great photographer!
    Team: Is Room 11 an OK spot for an early dinner with another couple and their child? Or is it not a great spot for those of us who have a kid? I’ve never eaten there, only had coffee/scones while husband/kid are at Harambe.

    • If you eat outside, yes. Inside no and I only say that because it is really tiny on the inside and I felt kind of cramped when it was just me and my partner.

    • Depending on timing/weather, you ought to be able to score a table outside, which is really the only way to be comfortable there with that size group. Room 11 is my favorite place to go for a low-key solo cocktail or three, and maybe dinner with a friend, but I feel like it’s just too cozy for a couple couples with a couple kids.

      • ok, thanks for the feedback. I had a feeling – I really want to try it for dinner, but I just don’t see it working out logistically. Maybe they need to be OK with brunch one day. And we love sitting outside.

    • Outside, yes. But with the weather, it can get hot out there and they have no shade cover.
      You could eat inside but: (1.) they don’t have high chairs, (2) there’s no seats that are really good for squirmy kids, and (3) you’d definitely need to leave the strollers + kid stuff outside.
      TBH, I don’t think Room 11 is really a good place to bring kids. Especially if your kids are in any way fussy or get uncomfortable/bored easily. The Room 11 staff is great and welcoming, but the physical space really doesn’t work for families (especially multiple families!)

  • Rave: Friend came into town to visit and had a great get together with other Peace Corps friends. So lucky to have met those folks 11 years ago- best gift ever!
    Rant: Ripped off a callus during workout this morning – Ouch!
    Rave: Funny emails from my sister about her bat shit crazy MIL – thankfully BIL knows his mom is nuts!
    Rant: Ordered Mom’s flowers early and the florist at home didn’t deliver….someone is getting a cranky call today.

    • Ally

      Have her check outside her garage or other places…..flower delivery guys have been getting creative on me lately. The florist was supposed to leave the ones for my Mom at her front door and instead left them behind a bunch of peat moss by the garage door. She got them eventually at least!

      • Thanks – its a small town and they were outside most weekend – so tough to miss them on the front or back porch.

        • Florist called and they lost order…a complimentary bouquet to make up for the $85 bouquet is being delivered this afternoon. Irritated – but will still use them b/c they normally do a fantastic job.

      • Definitely ask her to search a little bit. I sent my mother flowers for her birthday last month and they left them in the garage by a door that’s never used. My mom didn’t see them until the next day.

  • RAVE: LEBRON JAMES. Can’t stop saying his name like the little kid in the viral vine. LEBRON JAMES, LEBRON JAMES
    RAVE: Awesome weekend with sister who will be staying with us for the summer in an already cramped apartment.
    RANT: Already cramped apartment
    RAVE: Doi Moi exceeded our expectations.

  • emvee

    Rave: Helping Hands in Richmond cleaned my dog’s teeth so well, and so quickly! Clean teeth, trimmed nails, two teeth extracted plus all meds for under $250. Thanks to the Popvillians who suggested it!
    Rant: Was down for the count all of Saturday with a pretty bad migraine. I ended up staying in bed with a book.
    Rave: Started and finished a book in one day and it was glorious. I highly recommend Everything I Never Told You.

    • Helping Hands is the best! Did you meet Thor or Chewy?

    • houseintherear

      Ah this is timely! Glad you had a good experience. I just asked below for recs for stuff to do in Richmond on a weekday, because I’ll be waiting around for pup to get his teeth cleaned. ๐Ÿ™‚

      • emvee

        They told me to expect him to be out by 4:00pm and then I got a call at 9:30a saying he’d be done in an hour. They are super speedy, so keep that in mind when you make the trip. You can’t really hit up any gardens or anything after because you’ll have a pretty heavily sedated pooch with you.

        We went to the Daily Kitchen for breakfast which is just down the street, and I was blown away by their buckwheat pancakes. Super tasty.

        • houseintherear

          Ahh good to know! I hope that’s the case for my dog’s appt, too. I’ll check out that restaurant- will prob be starving by the time I get down there and drop him off. Thanks!

    • Red Panda

      I loved Everything I Never Told You. I recommended it to my mom and she claimed it was too sad to be enjoyable, but I thought it was beautifully written.

  • Rave: Productive weekend — got lots of errand-running and gardening-related work done.
    Rave: Digging up my orange daylilies, which means I’ll have room to plant lots of summer bulbs.
    Rant: Discovering that Home Depot sells bulbs that aren’t suited for the D.C. climate (which is USDA Hardiness Zone 7a). At least now I know… but why are they even offering stuff at the store if it’s not suitable for planting locally??
    Rant: Digging up orange daylilies is a pain — I wish I’d done it earlier, when it was cooler outside and the foliage hadn’t gotten so big. Also, although I’m trying to get all of the tubers out of the ground, I have a feeling I’ll probably miss some and will have to deal with isolated stray daylilies next year.
    Rave: Decided that this year, my response to “Happy Mother’s Day” was going to be “Thanks, you too”… and had two occasions to use it.
    Rant: What’s the deal with people wishing a happy Mother’s Day to random women of childbearing age??

    • This happened to my partner and me on Friday evening. We were walking and this guy goes “Happy Mother’s Day!” I started laughing and he said “What?! Y’all ain’t mothers yet?! Well Happy Mother’s Day in the future!” I mean it’s kind of odd to assume everyone wants to be a mother, but I thought it was funny.

    • Emmaleigh504

      Hey guys, do y’all get the randam “Happy Father’s Day” from strangers? I find “happy mother’s day” from strangers really bizare. First of all, you never know what the parental state of the person is (wan’t kids but can’t have them, had kids but they all died, has 3 adorable brats, etc). Secondly, it’s a made up holiday! It’s not even real!.

      • Ditto on your question as to whether guys get random “Happy Father’s Day” from strangers.
        And for what it’s worth… the strangers wishing me “Happy Mother’s Day” are usually men — African-American men, to be specific. Last year a Hispanic woman wished me a happy Mother’s Day, but then there was a pause and she said something like, “Oh… are you a mommy?” I said no and I think she apologized or sounded a little sheepish, and I told her not to worry about it.

        • I Dont Get It

          Although I’ve been called “Daddy” a few times I’ve never had some rando wish me a happy Father’s Day.

    • On the Eastern Market metro platform on Sunday, two women walked by me just repeating “happy mothers day” over and over to everyone on the platform. It was half “thank the mothers” and half “guilt trip if you haven’t called your mother yet” — very strange.

    • To the Happy Mothers Day wishers, I responded “Thank you, sweetheart.”
      (Yes, I’m a mother. No, I don’t need to hear about it from anyone but my kids and possibly their father.)

    • So agree on the last rant. My ex’s birthday last year fell on Mother’s Day, so I took him out to dinner. We had two people on the sidewalk go “Happy Mother’s Day! ….” and then they paused and seemed to rethink things. I’d almost forgotten about that, heh.

    • Blithe

      textdoc, in my experience, wishing someone a Happy Mother’s Day isn’t only directed to random women of childbearing age — although women may be likely to get this greeting from strangers more than men. It’s kind of used broader than that: celebrating people who are mothers, who might at some point be mothers, who provide mothering to people in their communities, and above all, to appreciate that we all had mothers.

      Reading the comments here makes me realize that some things like greetings which to me are cordial and polite, are much more culture-specific than I imagined.

      • saf

        They are indeed – I cannot stand being wished happy mother’s day. I am not a mother and never wanted to be. No, I do not “act as a mother” to anyone or any thing. No, it’s not a role I want, and I get very tired of the glurge surrounding it.

      • Blithe

        saf, I agree with you about the glurge (thanks for a new word!) — but I think the greetings are less about the role, and more about universality — in the same spirit as “Merry Christmas”, although I realize that not everyone welcomes that. I actually enjoy well-meant greetings — which is likely personal as well as cultural.

        • Yeah, I guess it must be a cultural thing. I understand that it’s well-meant, but for me as someone coming from a background where people don’t wish a happy Mother’s Day to strangers (unless maybe they have children in tow), the custom is a little perplexing.

  • skj84

    I don’t like starting the week off with rants, but gosh today didn’t start right for lots of people. I’m ok, but dealing with some major cranky feelings.

    Rave: finding out what my volunteer assignment for Sweetlife is today. I really hope I have a day shift.

    • Ally

      I see you took metro too?

      • skj84

        I haven’t yet. But I have a meeting near Ballston today, and I’m not banking on the issue being resolved by then. Trying to figure out alternate transportation. I may bike.

  • The AC for my building is out because the building failed to do necessary repairs. It looks like there’s no hope of getting it turned on before Friday, at best.

    My lease provides that air conditioning be available, and the apartment is 85+ degrees all the time now. There’s no option for a cross breeze, and the apartment just bakes in the morning sun. I have fans, but its really pretty unbearable.

    I’m trying to be reasonable, but I want money back from my landlord. For 2+ weeks of 85+ temps, is asking for 25 percent of my rent back unreasonable? Should I ask for more?

    • jim_ed

      25 percent seems rather arbitrary. I think you may have better luck if you break down your rent as a daily amount and then ask for the total back for however many days its broken. You could even ask for x amount back after a reasonable grace period of like 5 days to fix it, which they haven’t done.

    • topscallop

      Ugh, same boat over here. A friend of mine deducted 20% from his rent for the days without functioning AC, but I’m not sure if there is law or policy around this that we could cite, without which I think my crazy landlord would go berserk and maybe sue us…

  • jim_ed

    Rant: Allergies actively conspiring to kill me. Think I’m going to freebase an entire bottle of Zyrtec on my lunch break.
    Rave: Paul Pierce keeping hope alive. It’s so great to have one of the sport’s all time villain’s on your side for once.
    Rant: My Gladiolus are coming in very unevenly. They seemed to have shifted positions in where they’re coming up out of the ground dramatically since last year. It also doesn’t help that I have no idea what I’m doing gardening.
    Rave: Whatever, the garden still looks night and day better than when we bought the house, and I managed to not kill anything over the winter. I’ll win this fight eventually.

    • What kind of gladioli (color? size?) do you have? I bought a bunch of gladioli bulbs from Home Depot over the weekend, only to find upon doing some research that most of them aren’t listed as being suitable for D.C.’s climate.

      • jim_ed

        The gladioli are a medium red I guess, grow to about 2-3 feet. I planted them three summers ago, and they’ve bloomed every year. Unfortunately, the blooms have only lasted a week each time before dying and leaving me with brown stalks for most of the summer and fall. I chalked this up to lousy soil, so I spent some time this spring mixing in new garden soil and fertilizing it, so if they do the same this year, I’ll likely pull them out and put something else in.

    • I also have horrible seasonal allergies.

      Then, I discovered Flonase. OMG! IT WORKS!!!!! Nothing has every worked before and I hated spring. Now, I am actually enjoying it!

      • Emmaleigh504

        +1 only I found Nasacort. It really is a miracle drug!

      • Blithe

        Thanks to both of you for posting. I’ve been worried about what to do if/when Allegra no longer works it’s miracles. It’s good to know that there are at least two more potentially effective otc drugs out there.

    • palisades

      Saturday was a good day for DC sports. We were walking home from the Nats game (Bryce walkoff, what a perfect human being), and could hear people screaming with excitement from their apartments. Checked my phone, sure enough, The Truth comes through big time!

  • Rave: Wife and I had our first ultrasound this morning and we heard the heartbeat which was absolutely incredible considering our last pregnancy and ultrasound did not have the good results.

    RantishRave: Totally and unexpectedly overcome with emotion at that sight. I think it’s finally real to me

    Rave: For as shitty as the Metro was for a lot of people this morning, I was on the “happy car” on RL and it was a nice way to start my Monday. Sorry to all of you OL/BL/SL commuters. I shouldn’t rub it in

    Rant: This humidity is not the business. Way too early DC

    • Ally

      Congrats on the ultrasound and on the heartbeat! We went through that all this year and I know how scary it can be. Statistically, you’re in good shape now to have a healthy kiddo. Congrats!

    • Congratulations on the ultrasound! Hearing the heartbeat is the best sound in the world.

  • A few more:
    Rave: Simon Cvijanoviฤ‡ former NCAA football player speaking the truth on twitter about mistreatment of student athletes at U of Illinois
    Rant: Alumni and others attacking him for hurting school pride. Damn shame when health and wellbeing of student athletes takes a backseat to school pride.

  • houseintherear

    Anyone have recommendations for stuff to do in Richmond during the day (weekday)? Places to eat, shopping, whatever…?

  • That One Guy

    Was going to rant but after reading some of the posts, don’t really have any rant worthy items.

    Not to self, drink more water, read more books, watch the clouds and identity creatures/objects, go to bed earlier.

  • I Dont Get It

    Rant:ย  Wiccan Dig Sitter continues to remove collars from the dogs and cat–some nonsense about collars symbolizing slavery and how we donโ€™t trust them not to run away.

    Rave:ย  IDGI Sr called me Friday night claiming to have seen me on TV on the Mall during the Arsenal of Democracy flyover–just like heโ€™s seen me on TV at several Presidential inaugurations, the Million Man March and possibly, Ronald Reaganโ€™s assassination.

    • My kids do that, too. Claim to see things that *could* be there, but totally aren’t. If we go on a walk in the woods and I tell them to look for deer, they will spot dozens, while I see none. Conversely, they can’t see the butterfly I’m pointing out, sitting three feet away. Does IDGI Sr. have the same selective vision?

  • maxwell smart

    RAVE: Went to my firsts Nats game of the season Saturday and it was perfect – beautiful weather, cold beer, good friends and a 9th inning home run! Go Nats! Loved leaving the park, walking up the GB and finding the crowd that had just left the Nats are were watching the last seconds of the Wizards game through the window and the collective “GO DC!”cheering when the Wizards won.

  • Rant: trying to get an illegally parked car ticketed. It parks on one side of our dead-end alley, right underneath a “no parking” sign, literally every night from about 6pm to 6am, making the space super tight, if not impossible, to navigate, depending on how close they park to the wall. I’ve called and reported to 311 via the app and the complaint is always closed out as “no violation” or “gone on arrival” even though I can look out the window and clearly see it still there. I’ve also called DC 311 central operations and they’ve said they’ll talk to enforcement, but it hasn’t changed anything. I’ve probably reported it 6 or 7 times in the last month. So what’s going on? Are parking enforcement too lazy to walk down the alley? Can they not find it? Do they not care?

    • $10 says it’s a cop’s personal car.

      • This is a good theory, but for the fact that it’s got out-of-state plates, and I don’t mean MD/VA/DE. It would be at least a 4-5 hour drive, so clearly they’re just trying to dodge a ROSA violation by parking back there.

    • Take a photo and tweet it out.

  • Anonynon

    Rave: The thing iv been raving about is still in the rave category
    Rant: Ranting that I don’t have more to rant about about the above rave

  • Blithe

    Rave: Love the picture! And whoever took the time to write the reminder that it’s important to stop and smell the roses if and as we can.

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