Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • Rave: Stumbled across a great new nickname (to me, anyway) for Malcom X Park’s signature statue, in an old George Pelecanos novel: “Joanie on the Pony.”

    Rave: Pelecanos. If you enjoy good, grungy noir fiction with a strong dose of racial politics, and especially if you remember DC from the 80s and 90s, Pelecanos is a must read.

    • I love his books, but they all seem to have the same ending – a shootout where several people are killed and the protagonist escapes (relatively) unharmed. I’ll still keep reading his books. I like the local settings and the car and music references.

      • A vile slander. In the last Pelecanos book I read — “Shoedog,” I think — the protagonist died in the shootout, too! And, there was a fire. πŸ˜‰

        • Okay, MOST of them have the same ending! I’m really surprised none of his books have been made into movies yet.

      • I forgot to add – all of Daniel Silva’s books have pretty much the same plot and structure (with varying details, settings, etc.) but I still read all of his books. I’m also facebook friends with Silva and Pelecanos. πŸ™‚

    • I’ve never read his books, but he wrote some of my favorite episodes of The Wire. I saw him speak at an event once and he is great. He knows a lot of interesting facts about DC and Baltimore.

  • Say it aint so Gio.

  • Rave: Beautiful weather outside today!
    Rant: Headed to the hospital today to get an x-ray. Doc thinks I may have some pneumonia. πŸ™

  • Rant: Starting to get anxious about not having enough time to myself to really finalize my application and get it out there…

    Rave: Not enough time because parents are in town, and then my brother, his girlfriend and our cousins are visiting this weekend!

    Rave: London and Italy in three weeks πŸ˜€

    • I went to London & Italy last spring – what an amazing trip! Do you have the Rick Steves guide for wherever in Italy you’re traveling? We used them for Rome & Venice, and found them to be incredibly useful. Eat lots of gelato!

      • My husband loves the Rick Steve’s guides! We’re lucky in that we’re visiting friends who live on Lake Como so we have our own tour guides. We’ll definitely be eating our weight in gelato – shall we eat some for you too?! πŸ˜€

  • Rant/Rave: 13 weeks today and I feel nothing and didn’t have any of the “normal” pregnancy symptoms. It doesn’t even seem like I’m growing either. I know I should be happy, but I can’t help but feel like something is wrong. Everything was fine 4 weeks ago (even heard heartbeat), but Dr appointment is not until next week, so I’ll just worry about it until then.

    • If it helps, I didn’t have much in the way of symptoms either, and I just passed the 20-week mark last week. I didn’t gain much in the first trimester either. Some women react more or less strongly to the hormonal changes of the first trimester. That said, I absolutely understand your worry. I had a loss at 10.5 weeks last spring, and I’m still extra anxious sometimes because of it. Remember to take care of yourself; sometimes that helps redirect from the anxiety too. Sending happy, healthy pregnancy thoughts!

    • congrats! and just remember that the odds of something going wrong after a heartbeat are very low. plus, you presumably haven’t started bleeding so you’re probably doing great. I remember my bloat going away around 12-13 weeks and having zero symptoms and feeling pretty anxious that something was wrong. it was just a gift! I have felt pretty great this whole pregnancy so don’t go reading into anything. in a few weeks you’ll get a belly and then movement and then you’ll be totally reassured. enjoy…

    • Meanwhile, just watch a few episodes of “I didn’t know I was pregnant.”

    • It’s hard to relax when everything you read tells you that you should have symptoms x, y, and z. I didn’t–no nausea, almost no weight gain in the first trimester, definitely wasn’t showing, lackluster betas, etc etc. The only symptom I had was bleeding on & off for the first 12 weeks, an anxiety-inducing roller coaster. But as the mom of a very healthy and happy 9-month-old daughter, with whom I had a normal, uncomplicated delivery, I can tell you that those first-trimester symptoms are no indicator of the health of your baby. And the 2nd & 3rd trimesters, with the fatigue, weight gain, swollen ankles, aching back, etc more than made up for the symptom-less first tri! Good luck to you and your family!

  • pablo .raw

    Rave: co-workers congratulating me for some work that I did
    Rave: photos ready for a contest :/
    Rant: looks like the weather is going to ruin my moon photos tonight
    Rant: accepting that my life has been deeply affected by PTSD

  • Rave: Weather today!
    Rant: Weather forecast for later this week, 30’s on Friday.
    Rave: I finally feel like my life is coming together. Career shift to a field I love, strong relationship with my guy and moving to my favorite city. It’s been a helluva a ride in DC and I will miss it, but I am so ready for this next step!

    • But you have the same RAVE every day….about your “guy” and your “move”. I hope you are not clingy or else your guy is going to be wishing you were in DC.

      Not to offend, just an observation..

      • I think it is great to be happy, in love, and excited about something. If you want to rave about it every day have at it. I don’t think we can really read too much into any of these posts. You might not be hating but you are being quite presumptious.

      • Some guys like that lovey-dovey affirmation, but many find it cloying. If you’re going to cite the same rave, then perhaps you might try being more specific or descriptive. That might prevent romantic overkill.

  • Rave: Tame Impala. Loving it.
    Rant: still sick.

  • Rave: I got a car! A cute little Toyoda Yaris, so excited πŸ˜€

    Rant: I’m a little overwhelmed by the process of getting a car, loan, permits, registration, etc all by myself. Wish my dad lived closer and could help. I guess I am now a grown up and have to learn.

    Rant: Boyfriend’s mom is still really sick at the hospital. Thankfully now that I have a car it will be easier to go visit after work.

  • rave: morning workouts
    rave: the weather
    rant: it’s only tuesday

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: Still sick. The antibiotics worked great, but now they are over and I feel rotten again. Maybe it’s all in my head.

    Rant: Cat is still sick, I think her antibiotics have plateaued. I hope she doesn’t need surgery.

    Rave: Soup & tea for me, heated bed and water for kitty.

  • Rant: Body’s sore all over.

    Rave: I’m sore because I started exercising regularly again. I’m taking it slow – just doing pushups and jogging/running on the treadmill – but it feels really good to get back into it. Between this and cutting down on booze, I’m sleeping really well and getting up early (5:15 or 5:30 on weekdays), refreshed and full of energy.

  • Rant: My job ends in about two months and I will be terminated. All of sudden, I’m getting assignments that keep me up at nights and working on the weekends? Really? I need that time to be looking for a job, jerks!

    Rave: The weather is awesome today and I’m working from home!

    • meh, don’t do as good of a job as normal. most likely they won’t notice and if they do, what are they going to do β€” fire you?

    • That sucks. But my advice would be to do your job 9am-5pm and do no more. Unless you think there’s a good chance that they will extend your contract, your number one priority is lining up a new job. The only way I’d keep up with the work is if you’re getting paid overtime or banking comp time that will be cashed out when your contract is over.

      If they give you crap, you should be honest with them and tell them that your personal time is needed to find a new job. And you’d be happy to work more hours, if your contract is extended. You got to stand up for yourself because no one else will. They won’t like your answer, but they are not going to fire you. They need someone to get the work done and they don’t have time to bring someone else in at this point. If anything, it should prove your value to them and perhaps they will reconsider letting you go.

      But until that happens, they can pound sand.

    • I’d be careful about being too much of a jobsworth with people who will almost certainly be providing references, if not referrals.

      • Jobsworth = amazing word.

        I guess I need more information on the particulars of this person’s status. But as I see it, they’ve already thrown him/her under the bus. It’s one thing to continue to be helpful and competent for the remaining two months (don’t ruin your reputation!), but dumping him/her with tons of overtime is unconscionable and so indicative of corporate greed. In this situation, the poster needs to make themselves their number one priority. If you allow yourself to be a doormat, people will treat you like one.

        As for the recommendation, it really all depends on the situation. I doubt these people are working to help this person out, if they are cutting them loose.

        • I don’t think it necessarily follows that the current supervisors are not on this person’s side or won’t help them get the next job. Lots of people around DC work on soft money and can’t always be slid into another project with the same group when the project is done, and it’s nothing personal.
          I agree that dumping lots of extra work at the end seems inconsiderate, but hard to judge without more info.

          • Yeah, it really depends on the particulars of the situation, and the line of work. I’m always paranoid about references, and despite the crappiness of the situation, I might rather take the chance of busting my butt so a (hopefully sympathetic) supervisor could say to a potential employer “Despite her contract being unfairly/unfortunately terminated, she handled the bad situation with grace and really went above and beyond to tackle all the work that needed to be done before her departure.” Also, my field is not obscure, but it’s a remarkably small world; I basically got my current job not so much on the strength of the references I provided, but on the informal recommendation from another co-worker who (unbeknownst to me when I applied) was friends with my new boss. But a lot of my field hinges on relationship-building and communication and “soft” skills…I know of other fields where employers care more about the specific technical expertise you bring and less about what your former employers might say.

          • Good luck! Sounds like a tough spot, but hopefully things will work out.

            When it comes to the workplace, I really don’t trust anyone on anything unless it’s in writing. I’ve heard of this happening to so many of my friends when they are trying to exit a job or their contract isn’t renewed. They are trying to squeeze as much out of you as they can before you leave. That’s why I’m skeptical here.

            It seems you’re being a bit idealistic when you say that you “hope” your boss will tell your next employer that you handled the situation with grace. In fact, the vast majority of employers generally do not provide new employers with anything other than facts – i.e. confirmation of dates of service, final salary, rank, and means of departure (fired, end of contract, layoff, etc.). Past employers are frequently sued if they provide any subjective information to a potential employers. It might be worth seeing what your current employer’s policies are when it comes to references.

            If you are hoping for a glowing positive reference, I’d sit down with your current boss explicitly tell him that’s what you need, if you’re going to be putting in extra hours for him. A job is a two way relationship and your boss should be willing to help you with your non-monetary needs if you are going to bend over backwards to help him out.

          • zero_sum: First, sorry if I caused any confusion–I’m not the original Anon whose contract is being terminated, I was just responding with my perspective (admittedly not knowing much about the original Anon’s line of work and exact situation). Second, I guess I was saying, I’ve tended to err on the side of trying to never, ever burn any bridges, if possible, even if the job stinks and has kind of screwed me over, because you never know where those people might pop up again in your career. But I think your comment confirms my guess, that this dynamic can be completely different in different fields. It may or may not be optimistic to hope your old boss will put in a good word for you, but having worked in my current field for almost 15 years, I can assure you that “subjective” reference information is most DEFINITELY used constantly for hiring decisions. No one has ever wanted contact information for HR so they can confirm my dates of employment; they ask for references of supervisors, supervisees or fellow team members. And that’s just the formal references–I can’t tell you how many times a colleague has called me up and said “Hey, I have a resume from someone who’s at X organization…you used to work there, right? Did you work with so-and-so at all? What do you think of them?” (In fact, some of my co-workers prefer the more informal intel because they’re assuming the references you supplied are ones that you’ve cherry-picked because you know they’ll say good things.) That said, I’ve also heard of a lot of situations like the ones you describe–maybe that’s more prevalent in government agencies or larger corporations?

  • Rave: Wonderful run this morning!
    Rant: Wore shorts – come on its January this should be tights weather!

  • RANT: There is no real estate inventory in this town. I’ll never find a house.

  • Rave: My dog has a staph infection on his skin. Anyone have experience with this? He’s now on antibiotics and taking baths with a Rx shampoo. It’s quite the wallet-drainer. :/

  • Rave: Friend posted this link on FB and it made my day: https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=l-gQLqv9f4o. Not cool, Robert Frost.

  • Rant: Dishwasher almost caught on fire last night & subsequently had nightmares consisting of fires and carbon monoxide poisoning.
    Rave: my boyfriend didn’t mind hopping out of bed (and arming himself per my demands) to go check out the noise…
    Rant: Finding out my apartment I am renting was a foreclosure purchased for 10k….. why couldn’t they put working appliances in the unit or paint?

  • Rant: Guy that I was seeing just ended things. Over e-mail… sigh. Really liked him and pretty upset both that it ended and how it did; regretting how I handled some things. I wish that he had tried actually talking it over with me rather than just e-mailing me though.

    Related rant: Dating in DC. Just about ready to give up and maybe try going to another city. I’ve been here for over 6 years and haven’t had much luck.

    Rave: lovely out today. wish it wasn’t going to plunge back into cold temperatures though! DC weather needs to make up its mind.

    • It could be worse. My last gf broke up with me via text message.

    • Someone who’s enough of a wuss to break up with you via e-mail is not a keeper.

      And breaking up via text message is even more lame.

      • Sorry for you both! I got dumped exactly 2 weekends ago by phone – he said “at least I’m telling you in person,” as if that made things okay. I waited in stunned silence to see if he was stupid enough to say it twice. And he was – no surprise there! Feel better…

        • he’s an extra special idiot because over the phone is not “in person”. enjoy life without the dolt!

      • Man, yeah – at least it wasn’t text message! And I called him out on it, said I wish he’d at least told me over the phone. Proud of myself for doing that, ahah. But still sucks. True that if he was willing to do that that he probably wasn’t a keeper though. I need to improve my judgement of people!

        Thanks. πŸ™‚

    • I once had someone just cease communication, no acknowledgement that it was over. I waited about a month without trying to contact her and then sent an email saying that I had been thinking it over and thought that it was time for us to take a break. My email was totally sent in jest, included “it’s not you, it’s me” and every other cliche. I later found out she thought my email was serious and that I was nuts which made it even that much funnier to me.

      • Ceasing communication sucks. I had that happen with the guy I dated before this. He just stood me up and then I stopped hearing from him. Wtf.

  • Rant: I think I have plantar fasciitis, and I can’t get into a new dr for a few weeks. Anyone have any ideas, I have been stretching my ankle and calf daily.

    Rave: warmer weather this week.

    • As a soccer player who constantly has this problem, the only thing your Dr. is going to tell you is to stretch, take anti-inflammatories, and massage when you can. Unless it’s a super serious injury, most aren’t, just annoying and constantly painful, you can’t do much else.

      • Are you seeing a foot DR? My DR gave me a steroid shot once…hurt like hell but it works. He also builds these tape/foam things that sit in your instep and really work.

    • anon. gardener

      my podiatrist is Dr Lazar on 19th St. I’m always able to get an appt fairly quickly. you never know – it could be many things. good luck – hope it’s something easier to fix than plantar fasciitis.

    • I had chronic PF for several years and nothing helped (including stretching, no impact exercising, inserts, and steroid shots) until I got a strassburg sock. It is ugly and I was embarrassed to wear it in front of my bf (now husband), but it really works. Also, I bought a black and white foot roller thing from Fleet Feet (not sure about the brand, but it is made of hard plastic) and it has also helped.

      Good luck and be aggressive in treating it!

    • GiantSquid

      I was diagnosed with it a few years ago. Had a cortisone shot in both heels that was excruciating (and I have a high tolerance for pain) making me hobble around the house for 24 hours. I would have preferred to suffer the fasciitis. Took quite a bit of Advil. I also had custom orthotics made and wore them constantly for the better part of a year. It’s cleared up completely and not come back for three years (knock on wood). He didn’t treat me for this, but I highly recommend Dr. Eliezer Trybuch.

    • The calf stretching did wonders for me when I had it. Also, put a can of something in the fridge, or if it won’t explode, the freezer. Roll it under your foot to ice it.

      • Rolling a golf ball under the feet while you sit is supposed to help. I haven’t tried it, but a family friend, who is an uber athlete and has struggled with PF in the past, swears by it. Also, I’ve started wearing Pedag shoe inserts (they’re German). They’ve provided some much needed relief for my PF. My uncle, a runner previously with PF, has a lot of good things to say about the Birkenstock inserts. He says they cleared his PF right up when he wore them religiously.

    • I highly recommend custom orthotics. I have a pair made by my former podiatrist (on the west coast) that were about $500 but cost me about $50 out of pocket. They are rigid and 3/4 length and have lasted 4 or 5 years.

      • I had custom orthotics made when I was in h.s. for recurring tendinitis problems. they were awesome. but yeah, I hear very expensive too…

    • Helpful suggestions everyone! Thanks so much!

    • i tried those sock things, stretching everyday, and various inserts. the only thing that worked were these inserts:

      i know we’re all different but for me, it took about a week to work, pain never came back.

  • Rant: My gov office blocked PoP after the New Year.

    Rave: As of this morning, the site is unblocked! Woohoo!

  • Random question: Does anyone know of good restaurants in the Petworth, Adams Morgan, Columbia Heights area that do weekday brunch (Friday)? We have a party of five and are looking for a good sit-down joint.

  • Rant: My new roommate is 23. I let myself be pressured into okaying this guy and am now regretting it. Not that I exactly have my life together but I’m too old to be living with a 23 y/o fresh out of school. I’m almost 31, dammit. We’re still looking for 2 other new roommates and I’m going to be a stickler on age. This will NOT become a frat house.

    Rave: Weather!
    Rave: Leftover applesauce meatloaf and peas for lunch.
    Rave (I think): Meeting with a life coach for the first time tonight.

    Rant: Instead of dealing with possibilty of living in a frat house, looking for a new place to live. Interviewing as a possible roommate is harder than interviewing for a job.

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