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Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

by Prince Of Petworth June 12, 2017 at 9:15 am 115 Comments


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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • mtpresident

    Rant: Feeling so completely and utterly spent in so many ways. Every time I turn around, I feel like I need to take care of something else. In theory, cutting back sounds like a great idea–but I haven’t found what to cut yet. I’m really glad I was able to bring food to my dear friend with 1-month-old twins and hear about her somewhat horrific birth story so she could process it a bit more. I want to support my aunt (who is struggling mightily with my cousin’s cancer diagnosis and all of the uncertainty that comes with the initial weeks of appointments and figuring things out) by sending her a care package with a teddy bear & coloring books. We got birthday thank you notes largely completed with mtpkiddo last night, but I realized this morning that I spaced on end-of-year gifts for her teachers. This weekend, we’re going to be in Baltimore with really dear friends and their kids. It’s all good and important stuff, and I’m trying to not over-do any one thing–but there are too many things. I was so happy to talk to my cousin this weekend and hear her sound really good–but I still wanted to cry afterwards. I just don’t have any emotional reserves, and I’m not as present for my kids as I’d like to be. Ugh. It will get better. Thank you for letting me vent 🙂
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    Rant: Did I mention that mtpwife has pink eye and a skin infection from a bug bite? At least the antibiotics have worked swiftly for both.
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    Rave: mtpkiddo is just so delightful sometimes–she’s so excited to now be four! Of course, this morning, she asked me if she’s four and half yet. Too funny.

    • artemis

      I didn’t even think to do end of the year gifts, so you are one step ahead of me, mtpresident. I’m sorry to hear about your cousin. And I’m sending you very big hugs.

      • mtpresident

        It’s not something we’ve done with daycare–but for elementary school (which our pk is a part of), it seems like a nice thing to do since then we’ll have summer break and a new school year with new teachers.

    • Wow, that is a lot of heavy stuff. Hopefully you’ll get a reprieve soon, because that’s a lot of emotional energy.
      Sending hugs!
      And lol at mtpkiddo

    • Emmaleigh504

      I’m so sorry so much rough stuff is happening. Don’t forget to take care of yourself. hugs

    • Blithe

      Juggling what feel like competing priorities sucks sometimes. I’m glad that you can see things getting better soon. hugs

    • Idontgetit

      Virtual hugs!

    • textdoc

      Awww — hang in there, mtpresident!!
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      Maybe it would help if you gave yourself permission to lower your expectations for yourself? Like… sending your aunt a care package would be awesome, but maybe you could allow yourself to substitute something less labor-intensive, like phoning her and/or sending a gift certificate for a restaurant?
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      I didn’t know end-of-year gifts for teachers were even a thing. (Maybe they became a thing in the many years between when I was in grade school and now?) Surely teachers are delighted to receive them, but wouldn’t be miffed if not all the kids gave them one?
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      In any event… hang in there. (And let me know if you want to do lunch sometime!)

      • Formerly ParkViewRes

        I agree with textdoc on the lowering expectations aspect. Gift certificate or maybe a gift basket that someone else can arrange for you.

        Never heard of end-of-year gifts either until recently. A FB friend posted about it asking for gift ideas. She said the room mom was suggesting “cash donations for the teacher’s Europe trip” but she felt like that was too much and crazy to ask for it. Teachers do a lot though and they get paid shit. I also know a lot of teachers pay out of pocket for stuff throughout the year.

        • mtpresident

          Woah–fwiw, all I have in mind is having mtpkiddo draw a picture & help me write a note and then attaching a gift card. Definitely nothing fancy. But still something to remember to do. Care package was just a few things from Target & a card–again, pretty simple. I think it’s a combination of a very busy few months and fewer emotional reserves on account of my cousin’s diagnosis and other recent cancer stuff with others in my sphere.
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          Thanks all for the support! And textdoc–lunch sometime soon would be great!

      • FWIW, I’m not expecting anything from anybody. I got some holiday gifts in December, but they were a small plush animal, a box of chocolates, and a bottle of sparkling cider. They were nice but unnecessary.

      • FWIW, I’m not expecting anything from anybody. I got some holiday gifts in December, but they were a small plush animal, a box of chocolates, and a bottle of sparkling cider. They were nice but unnecessary.

        • mtpresident

          Thanks for the reality check. I’ll admit I was feeling like a bad parent for not potentially doing something–like we don’t thoroughly appreciate our teachers’ efforts.

    • Anonamom

      I’m sorry, mtpreseident, and I also completely feel you on all of these accounts. I know you want to keep giving, but you need to give to yourself for a little bit, and recharge. The other have had some awesome ideas so far. The only think I will add is that I have done wine for end of year gifts for the last 4 years, and it always comes well-appreciated. This year, I only gave an ed-of-year gift to Littlest Anonachild’s teacher because, well, she absolutely deserved it! I think this is one thing that has gotten out of hand over the years to be perfectly honest, and has become yet another thing parents put too much pressure on themselves for. It’s time to reel it in for me at least.

      • mtpresident

        All of that makes sense. Thank you. Wine is a fantastic idea, especially since I’ll be in the classroom tomorrow. Food for thought. Many thanks.

  • Formerly ParkViewRes

    Rave: Pride was fun and it was so great to spend some time in DC and see friends.
    Neither Rant nor Rave: I was at Pride Toronto last year when BLM protested. It was MUCH more dramatic than the protests at the DC Pride Parade as it stopped the parade for what seemed like an hour. It seemed like Pride Toronto and BLM had some productive meetings and conversations over the past year, but then it fell apart and it didn’t really accomplish anything.
    Rave: The weather was so nice in DC on Friday, and pretty great on Saturday as well!
    Rant: BUG BITES. Ugh, do not miss that aspect of DC.

  • CapitalDame

    RAVE: My niece will be here tomorrow!
    RANT: Its so damn hot
    RAVE: This weather has convinced me that my home search should include a pool or space/room in the budget for a pool. I know maintenance and cost is a lot, but I grew up spending everyday that we could in our pool and have many happy memories.

  • Rant: A very disappointing and hot Nats game yesterday. But at least I got to enjoy some babka ice cream.
    Rant: I did not enjoy the dude on the Ft Totten platform who decided to light up a joint while waiting for the green line to the game.
    Rave: I ran 18.5 miles on Saturday! Well, ran/walked some of the last few miles. Trying to get a lot of the mileage built up for MCM in the fall before it gets too spectacularly hot/humid out.

    • 1301

      Awesome miles! When it gets super gross out, beating the sun up can help. Waking up that early is the WORST, but you can knock out your miles without totally dying and there’s something kind of satisfying about putting in double digits before the rest of the city has even sat down to brunch.

      • Yeah, I had been going out around 7 on weekends, but now that I’m running about 3 hours, I really gotta start hitting the trail earlier…I can always (and do) nap in the afternoon!

  • PetworthGuy

    Rant: Beach Dr construction causing headaches. FIGURATIVELY because of the cluster that is the detour on Porter St/Connecticut Ave/Cathedral Ave every morning for the past 8 months. LITERALLY giving me headaches because of the ever-increasing number of potholes on Piney Branch Rd NW that my car has to dodge, duck, dip, dive, and dodge. I have reported them to 311 multiple times and they have confirmed it is their jurisdiction, but you cannot submit a request online because the map doesn’t recognize it. When I called in twice, my request was closed both times for “not being able to locate pothole”….probably because there are over 50 on that road and the workers were lazy and thought “well theres no way I’m fixing all of these”.
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    Rave: Proposing to my girlfriend this week!

    • Irving Streete

      Good luck!

      • PetworthGuy

        Thank you 🙂

    • Emmaleigh504

      great rave!

    • textdoc

      Good luck with the proposal!
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      Does your commute involve Piney Branch Road NW — not Piney Branch Parkway? I haven’t been on Piney Branch Road NW in forever, but I know Piney Branch Parkway is full of potholes.

      • PetworthGuy

        You’re right, my mistake. I meant to say Piney Branch Parkway. That’s what caused my initial confusion, because I assumed the park service would be responsible, but 311 confirmed it’s their jurisdiction (I did state it correctly while on the phone as parkway, not RD)

        • textdoc

          How weird. So Rock Creek Parkway and Beach Drive are NPS jurisdiction, and Piney Branch Parkway is DDOT jurisdiction?

          • PetworthGuy

            Apparently. I was skeptical also but after confirming it twice with two different people and submitting repair requests, it looks like it’s DDOT’s jurisdiction. I’m not sure what to do at this point, as repair requests seem to fall on deaf ears. I would like the see the president’s motorcade drive through that….I bet it’d be fixed within the hour.

      • PetworthGuy

        And thank you for wishing me luck with the proposal!

  • artemis

    Rave: I had a very productive weekend. I’m hoping all the cleaning, grocery shopping, and prep cooking make this week go more smoothly.
    Rant: I still have a neglected garden that needs a lot of weeding.
    Rant: Partner is working so much this month and then traveling for work.
    Rave: I’m looking forward to getting out of town to visit with the in laws this weekend.

  • Cassie Fields

    LOST DOG: Hi Folks. Yesterday my dog Leroy ran off in the woods near Matapeake dog beach, on Kent Island in Maryland, off Romancoke road. You may have seen Leroy prancing around Shaw in DC. He is a black, miniature pinscher/chihuahua weighing in at about 11lbs. He is wearing a black collar with silver ID tag and a blue and black harness. Call or text if you see him: 786-473-2353. He’s super sweet but very skittish, so best not to try to chase him. If you know anyone in the area, please spread the word. Thanks!

  • LedroitTigah

    You know when you meet someone and they pique your interest and then you google-stalk them and you think, “holy sh*t! we have the exact same interests!” and you get sort of nervous about it because its seems like it can be a ‘thing’ in your life rather than the fun summer fling you envisioned? Yeah.

    • textdoc

      That sounds exciting!

    • Emmaleigh504

      have fun with it!

    • anonymous

      And you know when after confirming you have absolutely everything in common (religion, politics, profession, general values), you take a few small steps to include him in your activities and then …nothing happens? Good luck to you, Ledroit Tigah. I’m being negative in my reply, but I’m just recovering from a similar (initial) scenario that did not work in my favor. I’ve invited (and he’s come to my group events), but not been invited- and so it goes… Soul-crushing when I think of everything we have in common. I hope it works for you, though!

      • textdoc

        “I’ve invited (and he’s come to my group events), but not been invited” — Maybe I’m being overly optimistic and/or a devil’s advocate here, but… are you sure he was actually aware that you were interested in him?
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        If someone invited me only to their group events, and not out on an actual date, I would assume that person was interested in me only as a friend.

        • anonymous

          Hi textdoc- there is a strong possibility he is not aware, but I don’t want to be the one to make my intentions clear before he does (I’m a pretty traditional person in that respect, wanting the guy to make the first move). I assumed that my invitations to my group activities and overall friendly and inviting manner would be a hint, but perhaps not. I’m in a wait mode, but still feeling pretty pessimistic that he hasn’t invited me to anything. C’est la vie!

          • textdoc

            Fair enough. Sorry it didn’t turn out like you’d hoped.

          • Anon Spock

            If inviting someone to shared activities that you both enjoy and being friendly= dating interest, then I want to date pretty much all my friends. Men generally aren’t the most perceptive bunch, so if you’re unwilling to express a firm interest, expect nothing to come from it.

          • Anonamom

            I really suggest taking the bull by the horns and show your interest. There’s nothing to lose, and so much more to gain if he is interested. You could be missing out just because you are traditional. This isn’t really a traditional world, or at least not a traditional city, in that respect anymore.

          • anonymous

            Thanks, Anon Spock and Anonamom. I’m going to reevaluate my approach. I appreciate the advice.

          • HaileUnlikely

            As a heterosexual man I wholeheartedly agree with Anon Spock’s statement that “Men generally aren’t the most perceptive bunch.” If anything, that’s probably an understatement. Some of us are really f*cking dense.

      • LedroitTigah

        I feel you, anonymous – and have been there in other situations (basically got friend zoned). But this is different in ways I don’t want to reveal on a blog 🙂 Will just see what happens…

    • JohnH

      Are summer flings a thing in DC?…..assuming this isn’t involving an intern…
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      When I think of an adult summer fling, it’s you’re going to the same beach each weekend. Not I’m living in hot as balls DC just as I am every month of the year, just not as hot as balls each month.

      • LedroitTigah

        I feel like summer flings really work for me. In the winter, I hibernate!!! And, not, its not an intern… 🙂

        TBH, though, I’m a little commitment shy, so Ill tell myself that someone who has expressed interest would be good as a summer fling (or spring fling, whatever) and I don’t need to think about their long term fitness as a potential partner. Its a mental game I play with myself so as not to feel too disappointed if stuff doesn’t work out.

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: Back to work. It was so difficult to wake up this morning.
    Rave: Time to start planning my next vacation so I can have something to look forward to.

  • Rave: DOG is sparkling clean, my bathroom is sparkling clean, most other parts of my house are at least tidy
    Rave: lovely weekend with lots of productivity and relaxing, like rooftop and backyard drinking relaxing
    Rave: made delicious ice cream and fish tacos this weekend
    Rave: Story District show and Day Breaker this week!
    Update on the following story in case anyone cares: Friendly Guy A (FGA) who offered to “take care of” the guy who had followed me then attempted to say I followed him, came up to me at the bus top the other day to tell me the situation has been taken care of and that guy won’t bother me anymore. I have no idea what that means, I hope it’s all okay and no one is overly upset. But, Friendly Guy B (FGB) is a bit jealous that I approached FGA with my problem and not him. He let me know that it’s his neighborhood and he’s got my back and I can go to him. Lol. I’m just happy this seems to be over.

    • Emmaleigh504

      lol who knew simply walking your dog could cause so much drama! Glad it seems to be resolved.

    • Irving Streete

      Stalker guy sleeps with the fishes.

      • textdoc

        I too was wondering what “taking care of it” might mean. 😉

  • topscallop

    Rave: What a great weekend! I decided on a wedding ring, went kayaking, saw Wonder Woman, used my DC drinks passport, and spent tons of time with my fiance. Since so many of our upcoming weekends will be taken up by weddings, family visiting, and out-of-town trips with friends (all of which I’m excited for but can get to be a lot) it was nice to spend some one-on-one time together.
    Rant: got a little too much sun on the Potomac yesterday and was wiped out by the time we got home
    Rave: we reorganized our small kitchen and now there’s more counter space to use
    Neither: I was really feeling my outfit when I packed it in my gym bag last night but now I wonder if I’m too matchy-matchy. If you see a girl around metro center today who looks like a Delft tile come to life, that’s me.

    • “Delft tile come to life” ha ha! But I like Delft tiles!

    • Blithe

      LOL “…who looks like a Delft tile come to life…” I’m totally tickled by your description! I am SO wondering what shoes go with “Delft tile”.

      • artemis

        Wooden clogs, obvi!

        • topscallop

          haha no wooden clogs, or bonnet for that matter…they’re blue wedges kind of like these: http://www.zappos.com/p/nine-west-esmme-blue-suede/product/8880395/color/2743
          together with my blue-and-white dress, blue cardigan, and blue purse, I am decidedly monochromatic today. Maybe it’s because I’m a water sign, or I subconsciously thought it would help me feel cool on this hot day!

          • Blithe

            OOOH! Nice! Although artemis had me hoping for wooden clogs! lol

      • textdoc

        I too love this description!

  • blues

    Rave: Back to the gym for the first time in forever. Crazy work, then illness conspired against me but it feels good to be back.
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    Rave: Thinking of signing up for a 5k in the fall. I was a semi-serious runner about 11 years ago and then I took a new line of work that meant travel and long hours. Just this morning was thinking about running and then FB’s algorithm showed me a race to sign up for.
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    Rave: So. Many. Strawberries. We went to a farm in MD and picked some amazing strawberries. Strawberry cornmeal griddle cakes: check. Strawberry cake: check. Froze half for smoothies and still have another 1.5 lbs to figure out.

    • mtpresident

      worse comes to worse, you can make strawberry puree and freeze–great for drinks and baked goods!

      • blues

        Good call, mtpresident! I get the feeling these aren’t going to last long in the fridge, even with the vinegar rinse we did.

    • artemis

      Strawberry balsamic sauce! It is amazing on vanilla ice cream or as coulis for chocolate cake. Some people use it as a sauce for pork as well.

    • cx20020

      Where was this strawberry farm in Maryland?

      • blues

        FAR – normally we go to Homestead Farm in Poolesville but they are out of strawberries. We went to Larriland Farms in Woodbine. It took us about 1:20 to get there and the same back. Butlers was closer, but Larriland has a better website that provided good specifics about whether or not they had strawberries available i.e. some ripe, some not, come early to pick.

  • skj84

    Rave: Had a great time marching with my friends salon at Pride on Saturday.
    Rant: Family vacation is veering into Griswald’s territory. There is a disagreement over car rental, and my brother is trying to claim one of the nicer rooms despite paying less than everyone else. Hopefully we get the crazy out before we head up on Saturday.

    • Irving Streete

      you need to get Jeslett’s Friendly Guy A to have a word with your brother. 🙂

      • Then let me know what happens!

  • Blithe

    Rant: I went to look for something on my iphone calendar and realized that with some update, Apple decided that it was a good idea to just delete old stuff. Deleting anything really should be an Option, not a default.
    Apple Rant 2: The internet solution to this means having an icloud account set up. I don’t, and, for multiple reasons, haven’t really wanted to. Is it too much to ask that I be able to input data — and have the data just stay where I put it? Without having things automatically downloaded that I didn’t ask for? Grrrrr.
    Rave-ish: Some of the info I wanted was on an old ipod that I — fortunately hadn’t updated. I’m seriously going back to paper. This experience makes me glad that I’ve kept my electronic gadgets as unconnected from each other as I could manage.
    Rave: Going to hear Pat Metheny tonight! For the second time in less than a year!
    PoPville-centered Rave: dcd’s late-day description of his very sociable parents in last week’s FQotD still has me smiling. Stuff like that makes me feel delighted that the human spirit goes way beyond the dismal stuff that passes for ‘news” these days.
    Rave: Swimming! Hot day + cool pool = pretty blissy

    • dcd

      That is so nice, Blithe, I’m glad that made you smile. Also, a timely reminder that, however frustrating my folks are sometimes (who doesn’t have frustrations with their parents?!?!), they are truly wonderful people.

  • Irving Streete

    Rave: First day of racing since the back injury and we actually won one of the races, a sweet come-from-behind against a younger crew. We’re not going to be the crew we were last year — and I’m not going to be the rower I was, at least until fall season — but looks like we’re going to be OK.
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    Rant: G/f travelling all week.

  • houseintherear

    Rant! Pablo the Westie kept me up all night, with the exception of 6:02-6:44am, for no apparent reason. He does this a few nights a month- falls asleep normally, but wakes up after a short time in a full panic, panting, shaking, pacing the room, desperate to wake me up. I let him outside, give him food and water, check his temp… nada. The start of dementia? Or maybe just bad dreams.

    Rave: Last Monday of the school year! YAY VACA.

  • hiphopanonymous

    Rave: Fantastic weekend! Friday = Yards Park and Orange is the New Black (only one episode, trying to take it slowly…). Saturday = packed bikes, picnic and camera and headed to Great Falls to enjoy the amazing weather! Then home to watch Beauty & the Beast. Sunday = errands early, then to Sandy Point for some beach time! Ended this amazing, summery weekend by making strawberry rhubarb bars! (yes, bars, sticking to my Midwestern roots)
    Rave: Since couch Wayfair delivered to us is *slightly * damaged, they don’t want it back and gave us a full refund. It is still PERFECTLY usable, so able to give free new couch to newly married friends for their first apartment!
    Rave: Our new (non-Wayfair) couches are being delivered tomorrow morning! *Fingers crossed for a smooth delivery*

  • That One Guy

    Thanks for the photo! Saw a guy with a Captain America shield walking down Pennsylvania Ave and wondered if there was as an overlapping population of people who were both here for the comic convention and pride march. That answers that.
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    Headache.

  • anon

    rant/question: I’m confused at what the protests were about during the Pride parade? it just seemed like a lot of mixed messages (e.g., “no pride in war crimes,” corporate america ruining pride and working against lgbt people?, “wells fargo = native genocide,” BLM taking over and chanting their usual). And I guess I can understand a point or two of what they were trying to make (or what i though they were trying to make), but it was so disjointed and chaotic…like what is the fucking point? am i any less gay because i’m a part of this group? or does my gayness just not matter because it goes against the protesters’ agenda? Idk. It was extremely frustrating for a day that’s supposed to be about inclusion and love to turn into an absolute fcking “you can’t sit with us” shitshow just because some moronic idiot thinks they know what i do at my desk every day.

    • Formerly ParkViewRes

      I tend to agree and yes I understand Pride started as a protest, but there was a time when corporations didn’t want to be affiliated with the LGBTQ community and wanted nothing to do with employing them. You used to not even be able to get a clearance if you were gay. Pride has certainly become commercialized, but aren’t we trying to be inclusive? I don’t know, as I mentioned above, something similar happened at Pride Toronto last year. But it was truly scary at first as they let off smoke bombs to start it so I thought there was some kind of bombing at Pride. Then the parade was halted for almost an hour until the director signed off on their list of demands. Then there were subsequent meetings over the past year and Toronto Police was banned from participating in the parade. But now BLM isn’t marching this year either. So it kind of feels like two steps forward, one step backwards.

    • skj84

      I think it was one group, and they were protesting police involvement/corporations involvement in pride, as well as the perception of silencing of trans/marginalized groups in the parade. I don’t even know how to feel about all of this. I do agree to a point that Pride is pretty corporate, and could be more diverse. However I think its better to have corporations as allies, than not. And the protection of the police. Pride was started as a protest by black and trans activists. I believe in the right to protest, but I don’t know if this was the right protest? Disrupting your allies? I agree with what they had to say, but in doing say they tried to silence everyone else in the parade and I’m not ok with that. Its complicated.

      • Anon Spock

        Being an ally doesn’t require a presence in the annual parade nor does it require ignoring problems like those companies backing dapl. No different than a white ally respecting black pride and choosing not to attend. If you’re a true ally, I hope you’d be most focused on how to further that relationship and why they’re protesting rather than whining about whatever you’re losing during that protest.

        • skj84

          As mentioned above. I actually do understand why they are protesting. And I agree with them. Still not fully onboard with them completely disrupting the parade for everyone else.

        • anon

          It’s possible to support a group’s goals but disagree with the way it’s trying to achieve them.

          • Globetrotta

            Except now the broader community knows that there is an issue there. No Justice No Pride has been attempting to work with Capital Pride for some time now but this doesn’t seem like it has been acknowledged or known.

            Is Capital Pride really an ally if they choose to dismiss the concerns of this group? According to their site, they have been trying to work with CP for at least a few months and were essentially told not this year.

            When a member of a marginalized group tells you that they don’t feel included in an event, it can’t be counted as a day of inclusion. Also, it is not anyone’s job to tell how others to air their grievances – they are speaking their mind in the way that feels right and true to them, and no one gets to say that is wrong.

          • anon

            Do you really think the broader community was unaware of Black Lives Matter, the DAPL protest, etc.?

    • Total fail in the “pick your battles” world. Sure, you have legitimate gripes. But this was just stupid. Like showing up at an animal shelter pet parade with lunging pit bulls. Just don’t.

  • It’s just me

    Rant – My SIL said she’d let me know when my niece was in town for her 8th grade trip so I could take her to dinner. I’m now seeing that my SIL is liking the pics of the 8th grade trip on FB, and they’ve already moved on to NY. She and my bro did this years ago when they were in Baltimore and didn’t tell me until they were home. Both a rant about not seeing my niece and a rant about the school having the pictures viewable to anyone, which I think is super creepy.

    • wdc

      If I were chaperoning an 8th grade trip, I would not want to keep track of whose aunt had taken her for what time period. I would want all the kids on the same activities at the same time, to better keep track of them.
      And my uninformed opinion seems to be close to best practice: My brother and SIL were asked not to share the DC itinerary with local friends and family, because they hated it when strangers popped up at their museum stops to surprise the visiting kid. It’s very disruptive, during an already stressful time.

      • wdc

        asked not to share my nephew’s itinerary, that is, because the chaperones hated it when strangers popped up

      • Anonamom

        It can also be disallowed. Our Midwestern cousins’ high school has an annual DC trip. One year, a cousin was allowed to visit unimpeded. Then, they had to have permission, my brother had to show ID and essentially sign my cousin out (I didn’t go that time), and the latest time, the cousin was not allowed to meet up with us and anything other than a us showing up where the class was at the time was not allowed. There are way too many logistics and liabilities involved, that I could completely understand a school not allowing this sort of thing, even if a parent was the one chaperoning. In the county my kids currently go to school, you can’t even ride in a parent’s vehicle on a school field trip.

      • DCLadyinWaiting

        When I first moved to DC, I led groups of middle and high school students for their DC trips as a job. You are absolutely correct — it makes it a lot harder for the chaperones/leaders to know who is who, liability-wise, and it’s a huge distraction to the activities we had planned. It didn’t stop some local family/friends from crashing, and those were always ridiculously stressful times because the students were more interested in getting out of the tour to socialize than staying with the group.

  • jim_ed

    Rave: T-2 Days until I leave for nearly a week in Kentucky for fishing and bourbon. Speaking of which…
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    POP HIVE MIND – I’m staying one night in Louisville, so what are some recommendations for dinner and drinking afterwards? Nothing fancy, solid bar food or something similar would suffice. As for drinking recs, I’m going to be with a buddy from Staten Island who unironically wears jorts, so nothing too hip or precious where we’d get dirty looks for ordering macro brews if we feel like it. Also, planning to hit Four Roses, Woodford, and Makers Mark as our distilleries. If anyone has an overwhelming opinion on any that aren’t worth visiting, or other’s we’re absolutely missing, let me know.
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    Rant: Taking trips like this makes me feel a little guilty of both missing my kid and making my wife single parent while I’m gone.

    • Anonabeer

      The woodford distillery is a beaut even though their bourbon is just okay. I liked garage bar for drinks. Feast BBQ is walking distance for some food before.

      • anonabeer

        also, if you decide you do want to drink fancy beer Holy Grale is pretty cool (they probably have no macrobrews though)

    • dcd

      Haymarket Whiskey Bar – complete with skee ball lanes and a music venue – is fun. There’s a great place to eat – kind of a semi-indoor-outdoor place, I think with a classic car theme – the Garage Bar?
      .
      As far as distilleries, Four Roses was my favorite tour (we had a VIP tour, but the regular one is good too). Makers was fun. Beam is actually a lot of fun as well – got free etched bottles. If you want to see Willett, they’ll tell you that you don’t need a reservation – don’t believe them. The best part is getting the limited release items that aren’t available anywhere other than the distillery – the Makers 46 barrel strength, the Four Roses single barrel cask strength, etc. Will follow up later.

      • dcd

        Sorry, was running off to a meeting. I learned the most at the Four Roses tour, for sure. Since you’re going in the summer, I’d definitely make reservations for tours if you can. My current favorite label is Michter’s, and it’s conveniently located in Louisville – if you have time, I’d recommend that (though I haven’t taken the tour). If you’re intending to hit three+ distilleries, I’d highly recommend a driver. I would definitely go by Willett, they had the most interesting limited release bottles available. If you’re flying, make sure you bring a hard-sided bad that can be checked, as well as a backpack or extra soft bag – you can them stick your purchases in the hard bag, and move other items to carry on or check to the soft bag. And if you are amenable to bringing an extra bottle home, I would definitely like to chat!
        .
        I just saw above that Garage Bar was recommended by Anonabeer as well. We also went to a bar inside a museum – can’t remember the name – that while OK, I didn’t love and was not a jort kinda place. (The reason I can’t remember the names of any places (rather than being the intuitive reason) is that one of the guys who was with me worked for a huge Louisville company, had been going there for years, and knew the scene, so we just followed his lead.

    • I Dont Get It

      So where are you going fishing in Kentucky?

  • textdoc

    Rave: Got a lot done over the weekend.
    Rant: … but not as much as I wanted to, because doing outdoor work (gardening) for even just a few hours left me exhausted.
    Rant: In future, I need to get my planting/digging done earlier in the year. It’s completely draining for me after the outdoor temperature is above 80 degrees or so, especially since most of my yard is in direct sunlight after about 10 a.m.
    Rave: … but I decided to make an exception this time because I saw some pretty lilies that weren’t yet in bloom, and what can I say? I love colorful flowers.

    • textdoc

      Additional rants/raves:
      .
      Rant: Textcat woke me up about half an hour before my alarm was set to go up.
      Rave: To her credit, Textcat can be a very effective alarm clock/snooze button. With the actual alarm, I’m too apt to hit “snooze” and go back to sleep… but Textcat is pretty good at interacting with me until I have no choice but to get up.
      .
      Rant: This weather — too hot. Ugh! Soon it’ll be that time of year when I end up wearing the previous day’s top on my commute to the office, and then changing into a fresh top once I get there.

  • topscallop

    Late question, spurred by Bank of America (along with Delta and probably other sponsors) pulling support from Shakespeare in the Park because the Julius Caesar character resembled our Cheeto-in-Chief: does anyone here bank locally, and do you like your bank? I found a list on a website called banklocal.info but I don’t know how to make a decision based on the limited info there.
    I have Bank of America and wanted to switch around the time of the DAPL protests, but didn’t know where to switch to…any suggestions? Pros/cons of your bank? If you use a local bank or credit union do you get hit with ATM charges whenever you travel?

    • textdoc

      I have a very low opinion of banks. Would recommend a credit union instead.

      • anon

        Based on my experience as an IT auditor of financial institutions, I would opt for a local/regional bank over a credit union.

        • Anon Spock

          Why? I imagine most people know little or nothing about it auditing.

          • Accountering

            I suspect he is saying that in their experience as an auditor, he has found that credit unions have very poor IT controls, thus being much more likely to be hacked/compromised. As a result, a smaller regional bank likely has better controls.

          • anon

            exactly what Accountering said. the issue lies with the oversight of FDIC/OCC/Fed over banks vs. NCUA over the CUs. Historically speaking, FDIC/OCC/Fed examiners were much more strict in their IT controls examinations of banks (as required by GLBA and FFIEC for all financial institutions), so CUs were left to lackadaisically implement security controls. I changed jobs not long after NCUA made clear they were going to start cracking down on their exams (and my firm got a ton more requests from CUs wanting/needing (because they’re required) their external assessments performed. I really hope it has gotten better, however.

        • HaileUnlikely

          Interesting, thanks for the tip. I can imagine some of the larger regional banks being more sophisticated, but wouldn’t necessarily expect that to be the case with the very small local banks (e.g., City First), though I’d be happy to learn that I’m wrong about that.
          .
          Also, I wonder if there might be any significant tradeoffs such that smaller institutions might be *easier* to hack but also be less likely to be hacked because they are comparatively much much less lucrative targets. I imagine there’s a lot more brainpower in the world trying to hack Wells Fargo than trying to hack Lafayette Federal Credit Union, even if the latter is a softer target in absolute terms. Many of the big banks have had very high-profile security breaches.

    • textdoc
    • Andie302

      it’s not local, but we’ve had a really good experience with Ally

    • Anon Spock

      Only speaking for unions, but many allow free atm use at 7-11s and other federal unions if yours is federal like navy Fed, etc. I’ve never had a problem finding a 7-11, was a type place when traveling.

    • cx20020

      As for ‘big’ bank, I have been happy with PNC. I may not agree with everything, but I have found PNC to be very fair.

      Ally and Capital One 360 are both great online banks

      And the best credit unions I have ever worked with are not around here, unfortunately.

    • Blithe

      I don’t know how they would handle the ATM charges issue, but I’ve been very happy with Industrial Bank. I’ve had extremely positive experiences with their customer service staff. I’ve also had very positive experiences with PNC, particularly at the now-closed Friendship Heights branch, and at the Dupont Circle branch. (As a DCNative, I give them points for maintaining the customer service-focus of the Riggs bank branches that they replaced.)

      • AMDCer

        I left Riggs before they became PNC, mainly because the customer service at the Dupont branch was horrendous! I was once sitting at the desk of a representative and he took a 15 minute phone call while I sat and waited… Closed my account soon after. I was sorry to do it since I liked that Riggs was local, but I guess there’s a reason they were taken over by a national…

    • Elvis’s Mom

      My boss has multiple accounts with United Bank and has been happy – he has bigger ducats than I, so not sure how good the service is when not in Private Banking, but they were also recommended to me a few years back separately, if that’s of any help. I’m not too happy with BofA for this nonsense either and may switch to United myself.

  • Revel: Last day of school is tomorrow!
    Rant: So many freaking grades to input

  • Anonamom

    Rave: The oldest is officially a middle schooler!
    Rant: People who feel the need to be ‘extra’ at graduations. I get that it’s exciting, but come on people, it’s fifth grade.
    Rant: We will never be that family who has all the grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc at these sorts of things, which is when it comes in handy to have lots of siblings. However, the school specifically did not allow siblings in the school to attend, so it was just me and the SO. It made me just a little sad since there were kids who had their entire extended families there.

    • Anonamom

      Forgotten Rant: Friday, Littlest Anonachild broke glasses #2. He was wearing them on a croakies strap and they were smooshed by a basketball.
      Rave: I got the protection plan and they swapped the old lenses into new frames right there. I also ordered him another spare pair.
      Rave: HSA.

      • textdoc

        Boo on the glasses getting broken, but yay on the protection plan!!

    • Aw, sorry to hear it. My school didn’t allow the siblings to attend kindergarten or fifth grade promotion either and it was a bummer. But lucky duck about promotion – tomorrow we’re paying for the day without women.

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