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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • Rant: Police Week. Can’t they go somewhere else?

  • Rant: Migraines! Why do I get so many migraines in May? This happened last year too. As soon as I get rid of one, another one is on the brink. I just want to feel normal :[
    Rave: Looking forward to seeing y’all tomorrow after work for Wine and Bitch!

    • Are you sure it’s migraines? I used to get killer headaches in May too. Mine seem to be related to changes in barometric pressure, big weather changes, and occasionally pollen. Aleve-D (the one behind the counter) is the only thing that worked for me. Or Excedrin Migraine, but I don’t think they make that the same way anymore.

      Also, an old fashioned ice pack works wonders. We’re all so used to medicating ourselves that we forget sometimes just numbing the area and then falling asleep can be very effective. It’s so hard to convince people to use ice, but it really does work!

      • I had the same thought! But it’s on one side towards the back of my head/neck, which is how I get my migraines. For now I’m dosing up on coffee and allergy medicine and seeing if I can manage through it for a couple more weeks. (This is a super bummer after being tricked into thinking my migraines were getting way better — I only had one in 3 months! Way to break my record run…)

    • Could pollen be a trigger?

      • I’ve been thinking this. I took extra allergy medicine this morning (on top of my normal allergy medicine) to see if it helps. Blech.

        • Good luck! Figuring out migraine triggers can be a years-long endeavor.

          • Coffee, while sometimes used as a migraine treatment, is also a common trigger. As is wine, thanks to its sulfites.

          • Yep – coffee is a trigger for me if I consume it regularly. I can use it as a drug – meaning if I have a migraine, I can have some with my meds – but I can’t consume it regularly or I get very nasty rebound migraines

        • Have you tried taking a decongestant (even if you don’t feel congested) too? I’ve had allergy-related headaches that mimicked migraines (pain all on one side of my head, etc.) but that didn’t respond to migraine medicine.

          • ditto the decongestant suggestion! i get pretty terrible tension headaches and migraines that cause incredible discomfort in the base of my head and neck and radiate to other parts of my head. they’re often triggered by changes in barometric pressure. (look up cervicogenic migraines)
            consider doing chest and back opening stretches on a foam roller and i’ve found that laying on the ground with tennis balls under my head between the ground and my C1 vertebrae (think two points at the base of the skull) and gently rolling offers some relief.
            i hope you feel better!!

          • Thanks! I have been taking decongestant, and the headaches seem to be responding to my migraine medicines (although I don’t want to keep taking them every week for fear of a rebound). I seem to be better today so maybe I’ll try a few more days of the decongestant + double-allergy-medicine and see how I do.

      • The pollen is KILLING me on the headache front this year.

    • I’m looking forward to seeing everyone, too!

      • Bummer! I just realized yesterday I can’t go, my landlady is coming by to look over the property and see what kind of upkeep/maintenance they need to have done on the house, and I have a few things to show her / ask about… Maybe next time?

  • Rave: DC Water is having a competition to name the new trash boats!
    Rant: They already poo-pooed Boaty McBoatface

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: Don’t feel like working and there’s so much to do.
    Rave: Vacation in 2 weeks!

  • Rant: Inconsiderate bicyclists running lights and nearly hitting pedestrians and other bicyclists in front of the White House on H St. where there’s lots of traffic – pedestrian, auto, and bicycle – making the rest of us bicyclists look bad.

    Rave: Beautiful weather for my bike commute in to work!

  • RANT: Trump is such an Ars*hole.
    RANT: Fox News leading headline right now is on the Seth Rich murder. You know what? F*ck them.
    Rave: Taking Friday off. Need to step away from all screens for a bit.

  • Rave? Rant? Neither?: My daughter is spending a week with her cousins at their grandparents’ house over the summer, hanging out and going to surf camp. My brother in-law and his family are visiting and driving her down the Sunday after school ends, which happens to be Father’s Day. She discovered that she was leaving on Father’s Day as we were making breakfast on Mother’s Day, and was VERY upset about it. It took me a long time to convince her that I knew about it already (I did), that it was OK (it is), and that I’d be a crappy father if I decided she couldn’t go to camp and hang out with her cousins for a week because she had to be with me on Father’s Day. She was very sweet, and it’s always nice when your kid is upset about not being able to spend time with you, but I wish she could learn to take things in stride a little more, and believe people when they tell her there’s no problem. She puts herself on these self-inflicted emotional roller coasters so often.

    Rant: Without going too much into a **very** long story, my brother-in-law and his wife (and indirectly their three kids) are involved in a family drama (other side of the family, not us) that makes IDGI’s stories look like Sunday dinner at the Waltons. It involves more than twenty years of dysfunction, a poorly documented family business, years of unrecompensed labor, threats of eviction made in front of an 11 yo (on Christmas Eve!), at least one lawsuit, a temporary restraining order, and who knows what else in the coming months. There’s a limited amount we can do to help, and I really feel for the kids, who are essentially being cut off from one entire side of their family after living next door to them for their entire lives.

    Rave: It’s good that they’re (finally) extricating themselves from this mess, and regardless of how it turns out have a strong marriage, three great kids, good jobs, and will land on their feet.

    • Additional Rave: Not to shill for other websites, but there is an ongoing series on GGW regarding the proposed redevelopment of Brookland Manor that is both interesting and informative. The situation really illustrates the challenges in keeping and developing more affordable housing in DC. It is a situation where, it seems to me, an objective observer can really see everyone’s point of view, which is increasingly rare.

      • A word of caution: There is a lot of misinformation in those posts, so before forming an opinion after looking at the blog, do some fact-checking in the docket on the Office of Zoning web-site.

        • And you have to take everything GGW reports with a grain of salt; they have a bigger agenda than Fox News.

        • So you are going to claim that there’s is misinformation, not identify it, and tell me to go check the docket at the Office of Zoning? No thanks. I’m not looking to make a career out of this, I just thought it was an interesting series. If you think something is inaccurate, say so – but I’m not about to, at the urging of an anonymous poster on the internet, start blindly fact-checking an article by reviewing docket entries. Sheesh.

    • As to your daughter, may I ask how old she is? Some of the extra emotion could be relating to her age. I think some ages are higher drama/emotion than others.

      • She’s 10, alternatively going on 7 and 15, depending on the day. And yes, we are on the leading edge of puberty, and all that entails.
        A large part of it, I think, is that she often is very focused on fairness. Since we were making a special breakfast for Mom on Mother’s Day, and had some fun stuff planned for later in the day, the realization that she’d be leaving early in the morning on Father’s Day and wouldn’t be able to do anything like that with me really upset her. Part of me is happy she wants things to be fair; another part of me wants to make sure she realizes now, since she’s no longer a little kid, that the world isn’t fair, and although it’s OK to not like that, you can’t let it define your existence or take over your emotions.

        • This is interesting to me, and it’s one of the reasons that I hate the intense focus that we as a society put on specific days (e.g. Valentine’s Day, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, birthdays). One way you can square the idea of fairness with this situation is by reminding her that she can do “Father’s Day” with you *anytime*, it doesn’t have to be on June (whatever). Do it the week before, the week after, or in October. Heck it might even be more special that way since the whole damn country isn’t doing it too.

        • Oh, one of the things I love about kids is their inborn sense of fairness and justice – it really is inborn, there are child psychologists who study it in infants and very young kids. She will find out the world isn’t fair soon enough, though the same hard bumps most of us do. Don’t be in any hurry to end her innocence about how the world works – it will happen. She still is a little kid, really.

  • skj84

    Rant: I thought I was dealing with allergies, but now I think I’m actually sick. This would be my second sinus infection this year.
    Rave: at least I can work from home. Still in my jammies.
    Rant: every time I go to my parents house start getting these pangs about wanting to move to a smaller market. I could afford to live on my own in a townhouse in my parents city. Then I remind myself that I’d have to live in a small market with very little to do. With a baller house.

    • I’ve also had two recent sinus infections. It’s really annoying and takes forever to shake them.

      • And the reason to use decongestants sparingly is that they have what is known as a rebound effect – it you continue using them after 3 or so days of use, they can actually make the problem much worse.

    • Allergies lead to sinus infections, as your doctor should explain to you. I am grateful I saw a good one who did explain it to me my first spring in DC when I got massively sick. The allergies cause congestion which causes post-nasal drip with caused strep throat to take hold in my case, in addition to the usual sinus infection that takes hold in the sinuses due to the congestion.
      Being armed with this information has allowed me to keep this from happening from allergies (and from the start of head colds, too) again when they hit – the key it to do what you need to do to keep the congestion from happening – sinus irrigation, guafenisen (it’s the ingredient in every mucus thinner out there) to thin the mucus so it runs out, allergy meds as needed to stop inflammation of sinus tissues, decongestants when needed – sparingly. because they generally aren’t needed when you use the first three (irrigation, antihistamine, and mucus thinner.)

  • Rave: This weather. It is such a perfect day.
    Rave: I had a good chat with my bestie last night. Talking to her always helps me feel more centered and happy.
    Rant: Trump. Always Trump.

  • Rant: Work. We started mandatory overtime about two weeks ago, around the time that I was supposedly getting a non-promotion with more responsibility, only to hear that my boss used the opportunity to undermine the position/me when she was notifying my co-workers. The combination is probably just enough to push me over the edge.
    Rant: Very difficult parenting day yesterday with both the oldest and the youngest. After not getting home until almost 7, I have to launch into Stern Parent role, and then log back on to work for two more hours of work. It’s bullshit, man.
    I need a plan.

  • RAVE: TODAY I GET MY BRACES OFF!!! Its been a LONG road to recovery after I fell and broke my jaw 2 years ago (almost to the day!). This has been the hardest thing ever. You don’t realize how important your jaw (and teeth) are until they don’t function properly. My life, prior to jaw surgery in the fall, was reduced to living off of mush, because I couldn’t chew. I cannot wait to eat ALL THE FOODS.

    RAVE: 18 days and 6 hrs left to I get married to my best friend! He is the best thing that has ever happened to me, I cannot wait to make it offic.

    RANT: I am getting married in 18 days. All the Stress.

  • Rant: Had an attack of my allergies yesterday. So bad that I had to call in at work.
    Rave: Weather today.
    Rant: Ruminating over all the ways my upcoming business trip to Minneapolis could go wrong.

  • jim_ed

    Rant: Wizards lost 🙁
    Rave: Spares me watching them get drilled by LeBron
    Rant: The hot takes this morning. My God, the takes are thermonuclear
    Rave: Takes still not as hot as Bradley Beal aka Bao Bao aka Big Panda was last night.

  • Rave: I semi-impulsively bought a Dyson Animal + vacuum yesterday at Costco and omg I LOVE it already! I haven’t even tried out all the neat tools, but just vacuuming the main floor I sucked up soooooo much gross stuff, then steam-cleaned the hardwoods and (vinyl, ick) kitchen floor. Ah! I love clean spaces! Next up – my room (gulp!)
    Rant: Trump. This insufferable fool is going to get us all killed. How do we GET HIM OUT OF OFFICE?!?!?
    Neither: Trying really hard to take things one day, one step at a time instead of falling in to my usual mindset of frantically trying to plan far ahead and freaking out because I can’t.
    Rant: Terrible pain in my right knee, possibly from over-working it on Saturday, and/or all the squatting to weed my patio for hours on Sunday. It’s so stiff and painful! Should I try ice? heat? NSAIDs? ideas?

    • Andie302

      I am obsessed with all things Dyson. I have one of the bulk models from over 10 years ago and it still works great! I wish the hair dryer wasn’t $400!!! I can’t justify much more than $25, so that’d be a stretch for me! Sorry to hear about the knee pain – I wish I had some advice but I don’t want to point you in the wrong direction.

      • We also have a super old Dyson that works phenomenally well after all these years (seriously, it may have been a wedding gift to my SO and his ex… the vacuum outlasted their marriage). We have a stick Dyson for the hard surface floors, and it really has changed my life.

        • We love our Dyson cordless. Really easy to get the whole house vacuumed quickly without plugging and unplugging it. It was acting up recently and losing its charge after only 30 seconds or so. Took it to the Dyson repair center in Fairfax, and even though it was out of warranty they gave us a new battery and motor. Thumbs up Dyson. Expensive, but worth it.

    • I usually take ibuprofen for gardening-related back pain — I’d give it a try for your knee pain and see if it helps.
      I also sometimes use a microwavable heat pack for back pain, but I don’t know if that’s actually a recommended thing or if it’s psychologically comforting because it’s warm.

      • Thanks, I’ll give the ibuprofen a try while I’m at work, see if it helps. I’m just a bit more worried than usual because that’s the knee in which I tore a meniscus 6 years ago, so I don’t want to anger it!

    • LBP, I have a foam mat that I bought for gardening so that I can kneel rather than squat and/or bend over all the time. It may be a worthwhile investment.

      I would try NSAIDS and gentle stretching.

  • Rave: less poop in my yard! I hope this lasts.

  • Rant: so much work, so little time. I don’t think I can go to bocce or Wine and Bitch tomorrow 🙁
    Rave: beautiful weather!
    Question: A few people had Bar Harbor/Acadia trips last summer. What were the best parts? So far I’m camping for two nights and I’m there over July 4th.

  • Rant: Feeling unfulfilled at work and thinking about a change. It’s only been two years and I’m not fully vested in my retirement fund. Is it dumb to think about applying to other positions?
    Rant: Nausea from the Metro. Seems like everyone morning and evening I have severe nausea during and after my Metro ride. There seems to be so much more breaking and speeding up and slowing down. It’s driving me crazy!
    Rave: Really excited to spend some time with a really good friend this weekend. She always helps me out of my funks. Can’t decide where to go for dinner, though.

    • You can always apply – it might just make you happier to apply and interview. But I find it most effective when I’ve made up my mind I really need to go. Then I don’t hesitate to take an offer it I get it. I had a friend at work who used to get offers and agonize for weeks over whether it was a better job that what she already had, and who then never took the offer – seemed like a real waste of time and energy to me. I don’t bother to look until I’m fed up with what i currently have – makes decisions easier.
      If you aren’t completely fed up with where you are, but just unfulfilled, another way is to try to find some fulfillment elsewhere while the job still works for you otherwise – through vounteering, taking a class, working on another degree, have a kid, etc. I don’t know your situation, but I found it hard to find most of my work fulfilling until I got a a graduate degree – the only exception was the non-profit I worked at before going back to school, as I had got more responsibility there and got to do some more interesting work with a goal or end purpose that I actually cared about.

    • Rant #2: Yup, I really think metro needs to look at their DRIVERS as a big impediment towards increasing efficiency on trains especially in the core. I was waiting for a redline train at metro center yesterday and the driver had to adjust I kid you not ‘3 times’ with pauses inbetween to get the train into the ‘correct location’ to open the doors. Not to mention pumping the breaks the entire ride back for no reason (not like there was a train directly infront of us….and at that point, why not just pause a minute and then go from there? SMH the drivers are awful and it almost seems like they are trying to make the experience unpleasant in some cases….don’t even get me started with bus drivers

  • Rant: 6 weeks on from miscarriage + procedure and still can’t move forward (both physically because of waiting for you know what as well as mentally – it feels like everyone around me is happily pregnant).
    Rave: Feeling happy to kind of get control of my body back and working out a bunch more.
    Rant: Want to get pregnant again which will mean losing control of my body again…

    • I’m sorry–that’s such an awkward phase to be in. It just takes time for your body’s hormones to reset. Sending giant hugs.

  • Rant: my mother-in-law. I had my baby shower this weekend at which she told a few of my close friends that I won’t allow her to come to the hospital when the baby is born (among other negative things about me). WTF. That’s a complete fabrication, nothing neither me or my husband have EVER said, nor would we! She’s a very dramatic and self-involved woman and it’s always been a challenge getting along with her, but I’ve tried and she’s just never happy unless we see them every weekend, something which I simply can’t do. I wish we lived in different cities. Bah, so much stress with her when I’m weeks away from having my first baby. And my husband is of the opinion that there’s no sense in talking to her/them bc nothing will change, she is how she is.

    • Well, the good news is, now you’re free to not allow her at the hospital after the baby is born.

    • Wow sounds intense! Having positive energy around your baby is the most important thing, and it sounds like this woman has none of that. I agree with dcd, maybe banning her from the hospital is the best thing for everyone!

  • Rant/Rave: Exciting and interesting work future but I need time to actually think and run with this. But in just implementing the current program I lead, so much work that I rarely get time to sit and think!
    Rant: Several really long flights coming up – worried about the further laptop/tablet ban breaking before I take off. Need to hedge my bets and bring physical book & kindle because a friend wasn’t allowed to carry on her kindle recently!
    Rave: Long flights to cool places.

  • Andie302

    Rant: Horseback riding accident on Mother’s Day lead to the death of a family friend. She’s a single mom leaving behind a daughter. Just heartbreaking
    Rave: This tragedy has brought a lot of love and support for her family and daughter from the community. Their family is a big part of my hometown and I hope it’s helping in some small way.
    Rave: Feeling so much better than my low point last week. Thanks again for the kind words!