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Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

by Prince Of Petworth March 2, 2017 at 9:15 am 69 Comments

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • Something Like Anonanon

    Rant: There is always at least one jerk who parks on the southbound side of 16th street and doesn’t move their car in the morning, slowing down SO MANY people just trying to get to work.

    Revel: At least when I’m sitting in traffic, I can see all the pretty blooms that have popped out early.

    • Jst

      Rave: your User name is awesome!

      • Something Like Anonanon

        Thanks! :)

    • Anonynon

      they really need to put in the bus lane, or just making parking on 16th illegal at all times

    • AJSE

      I use 16th to park almost every night (I move my car at 5:30 am) and agree that they just need to make those furthest right lanes bus lanes. People fly down that stretch which means that it’s unsafe for pedestrians/people getting out of their car. It also noticeably agitates traffic when someone parks before 7pm or leaves their car after 7am. At least you can take comfort in that if they’re parked after 7am, they’ve received a $100 ticket?

      • Something Like Anonanon

        I always crane my neck while I’m sitting there to check and make sure there’s a ticket on their car. Sorry if that makes me a jerk. For the record, I lived on 16th street for years and know what a pain it is to get up and out of a spot by 7, but you just do it.

  • lec6329

    Rant: Last night taking the 42 bus home after a long day at work and these jerk teens started throwing trash and stuff at people all across the bus. The poor bus driver tried to kick them off but they wouldn’t go and just kept threatening people on the bus the whole time. It was so uncomfortable. And then after I got off the bus, I saw some cops in Adams Morgan and asked them what I should do and after they looked up from their phones they said well the bus driver can call metro transit police. Great…Anyways, that was my rant.
    Rave: today is my Friday!!

    • FridayGirl

      That sucks, but it is technically transit police’s turf. I believe there’s a transit police number right on WMATA’s website (homepage?) and the public can call as well.

  • mona

    Rant: Why do I feel like republicans are hold to different standards than democrat? When Hilary testified to congress and say the info she was dealing wasn’t classified and it eventually turned out that it was classified republicans called for her to be prosecuted because she lied to congress! Jeff Session lied to congress about contact with Russians, nobody is even talking about prosecution because he lied to congress, they are barely talking about him resigning, they are only talking about him recusing himself from investigating himself (I mean do we really need to ask for that? isn’t that obvious it is the right thing to do?) and he wont probably do that do either. What has this country become? so sick to my stomach…

    • Something Like Anonanon

      I am so disappointed with the Dems (I am one). They do NOT know how to fight the GOP/Trump, and they are just going to get further behind. Honestly, the fact that we had a Supreme Court spot stolen from us still makes my blood boil.

      • FridayGirl

        I mean it doesn’t help that they’re the minority and that is NOT their fault. It’s the fault of the American people.

        • mtpresident

          Well, that and gerrymandered congressional districts.

    • J used to be in DC

      Because they are held to a different standard. They’ve made themselves the ‘party of patriotism’ (flag pins) so when you question it, you’re a socialist or whatever. They’re colluding with a foreign government. Or covering it up. If a democrat were doing this…holy hell.

      • Blithe


        • Blithe

          And because Republicans have been creating the standards. Alternative facts, alternative standards. It’s sickening. And destructive. And, yes, deplorable.

  • bizzinger

    Rave: I’m so enjoying tutoring. Kids are hilarious.
    Rave/shameless self-promotion: We’re doing another Feminists United fundraiser tomorrow at Acre 121 – https://www.facebook.com/events/1616312885063332/. Hope to see some Popvillers there!

    • UDPie

      Such a cool fundraiser – good luck! I wish I could be there to support!

  • artemis

    Rant: My anxiety is through the roof this week, and it is apparent in the stupid mistakes I’m making. I need to stop, breathe, and chill.
    Rant: Negative self-talk when I make stupid mistakes. At least therapy is helping me is teaching me how to interrupt the negative self-talk.
    Rave: Reminders that there are still good people in the world and that I need to be better at self-care..
    Rave: Embracing decisions that make my life easier and less stressful. This week I started supplementing Baby Artie’s bottles with formula. My supply has dropped, and trying to keep up has been an endless source of stress, pumping five times a day, and clogged ducts. What I can do will just have to be good enough.

    • Anon

      I beat myself up when I decided to stop exclusive pumping. Looking back it was so silly of me. Baby is happy healthy and most importantly fed!

    • mtpresident

      Good for you on your final rave. I get the pumping anxiety and the emotional difficulty with formula supplementation. This parenting business is hard.
      On your first rant–try to take a walk (even within the office) when you feel anxiety rise? Sometimes that can help. Good luck.

    • rfff924

      I’m sorry you are having a tough time with anxiety. I echo what mtp said about taking a walk when you feel it rise…especially because the weather has been good! I know that helps me a lot–basically any kind of exercise even if it’s a stroll. And kudos for you with the breastfeeding–I am so impressed with women who can EBF so long. I’ve already had to supplement with formula because despite trying everything (bf 8-9x plus pumping 3-5x plus galactogogues) and getting many consults my body only makes 18-20 ounces a day. But once I came to terms with “Fed is best. Period.” My stress level decreased greatly. You are a wonderful mom to baby Artie. And you are amazingly supportive on this forum. Thanks for that!

    • B

      Longtime anxiety sufferer here, too – I think many of us are. Please also be sure to include a lot of exercise, sleep and, if you aren’t doing so, consider a sustained practice of meditation (a real course on how to do this really is warranted). None of these are cure-alls, but have been very helpful to me.

    • artemis

      Thank you all for your kind responses; it made me tear up a bit at my desk. I took a long walk in the fresh air during lunch. And my Lenten resolution is to meditate, journal, or do yoga daily. I think that will help with the anxiety.

  • Irving Streete

    Rant: According to informed sources, The Big New York Job is not going to happen for, in my opinion, the stupidest of reasons. Sure, moving to New York had the potential to seriously screw up the old LTR, and there would have been a gazillion logistical hassles. But, in the short term, I feel like I blew a one-run lead in the bottom of the ninth, on some freak bad hop or bad umpires call.
    Rave: Girlfriend is happier than she wants to admit. Assuming the back continues to improve, I’ll be back with my rowing team by summer, I’ll at least get to live in my house for a week now that I’ve finally bought and framed the perfect piece for over the fireplace.
    Rave: Daughter got a new job with one of the better Italian joints in town, working under a woman chef — a good move all around and she’s definitely getting into Washington’s (too small) Grrrrrl Power chef network.

  • That One Guy

    Rave: I am enamored with Swing’s interior design at their 14th location. Something about the space resonates with me. I wish I could park myself there with a book and pass the day.
    Rave: It was amusing to see a Vespa on the HOV lanes of 395 this morning.
    For Pablo or anyone else into film photography:
    It looks neat.

  • skj84

    Rave/Rant: Extreme indecision on job stuff. A position opened up that I think I would be perfect for on my team. I know I can do it, but I’m afraid of rejection. What if management decided I’m not ready, or it goes to someone else. I know that I have to try, but this rejection would sting more than others. In a similar vain, I have the option attend a model call this weekend. If chosen it would be a fun opportunity and pays really well. Same fear of rejection, in this case they have a tendency to pass over women of color. Its incredibly infuriating, to go to these calls, and the only person of color they choose is someone who looks vaguely “ethnic”. And for the record all the audition notices ask for women of all ethnicities. I have been chosen twice in the 10 years I’ve been going to these calls, so maybe I have a chance. But the last time I went to one, they literally looked through me, and it stung. I guess I have to take that risk?
    Rave: Checked out the Mario Bar at Southern Efficiency yesterday. It was fun! Loved the decor, which included some animatronics, and the drinks. It wasn’t too crazy packed yesterday, but probably won’t stay that way for long.

    • Andie302

      A therapist once asked me “What’s the worst thing that happens when you get rejected?” – if the consequences aren’t that bad (you keep your job, you’ve let management know you’re interested in progressing in your career) then it’s worth the risk. (Hint: it’s almost always worth the risk.)

      The modeling thing would be a blow to my ego if I were in your shoes, but I have a strong distaste for judgment based on the way someone looks. If you think it’s worth the chance of getting it, go for that too!

      Even if you don’t end up with either, you put yourself out there! I suspect one or both may go in your favor, but they won’t if you don’t try! If you don’t have the gumption to do both, go for the job thing – it sound like the potential positive outcomes are greater.

    • anonymouse_dianne

      Hey anyone who rejects you skj is an idiot. I say go for it and if it doesn’t work out come and tell us all about it.

    • BRKLND

      I always try to frame things like this in a what would management think if you didn’t apply way. Maybe they think you are a perfect fit as well and if you don’t apply you are sending the message you aren’t really interested in increased responsibility/invested in the company/or whatever. I know rejection sucks (trust me I have had a ton of it lately) but Andie’s therapist is right on. What is the worst thing that could happen? You could be embarrassed or discouraged or disappointed…but you will still have a job and all the other good things in your life. This is just a tiny blip on the radar screen. Or think about instead of what happens if I get rejected – turn that into what happens if they select me?

  • MPinDC

    Rave: Who knew turmeric is available as a fresh root? And that it can be grown at home?
    Rant: My back went on strike yesterday
    Rave: Camilla is in bloom, daffodils are all up and blooming – even though it is early, early early they are still very cheery

  • TryingtobeAnon

    Rave: Doctors were responsive and got me in to see them.
    Rant: They gave me a 50/50 chance that this won’t end up well and are also warning me against some plans I have coming up that may make it less safe. And now I don’t know what to do.
    Rave: Your sweet and supportive comments yesterday.

    • wdc

      My thoughts are with you. It’s the worst, not being able to DO anything to ensure the outcome you want.

    • artemis

      Thinking of you and sending you best wishes. Can you talk things over with your partner (if you are partnered) and try to come to a decision re: plans together? It might help you to feel less overwhelmed if you all can feel like you are in it together.

      • TryingtobeAnon

        Thanks artemis. We’re talking about it but neither us have enough information or any previous pregnancy knowledge to know what is the right answer. And with the world of contradictory information, it’s terrible.

        • mtpresident

          So glad that you were able to get in to see doctors, and also sending thoughts and best wishes. My offer stands if you want to reach out to a semi-anonymous person to have another person to bounce ideas off of. DCUM can be another place to get lots of opinions, but it’s not always the most supportive environment. {HUGS!}

    • Lexicon

      I’m so glad you were able to get in to see your doctors but am sorry they couldn’t give you some better news. As much as we know about pregnancy, there’s still so much we don’t. I just want to reiterate my advice to be kind to yourself during a really tough time.

  • HeartbrokenInBrookland

    Rant: Heartbreaks are hard work. Has anyone used Talkspace before? I definitely need to see someone so that I stop internalizing, but finding a therapist isn’t fun.
    Rant: I feel super indecisive about life and want to move back home to the Chicago area but the job prospects aren’t as good. How does one make such decisions?
    Rave: Classpass is saving me right now.

    • hiphopanonymous

      I can’t remember the name of the on-line therapy I used (BetterHelp, I think?) but it was super helpful. I could spill my guts out via message (which is awesome, b/c I’m better in writing) and she would message me back (also awesome, as then I could go back and reflect on what she said AND what I said). I also saw a PhD student at GW’s counseling program, which is more a ‘pay what you can’ deal. She was good but had to move on at the end of the semester and I didn’t want to transition to someone new.

  • skaballet

    Rave: Got up and worked out before work this morning
    Rant: Circulator bus took forever

    I’m moving so renting my apt. If you or anybody you know is interested let me know!

  • hiphopanonymous

    Rant: Cold outside = tights and sweater plus HOT in the office = no tights and no sweater. Something’s gotta’ give and it’s too damn hot to work.
    Rant: Sessions – ’nuff said. My blood pressure is through the roof with this stuff…
    Rave: Hubby and I playing around with our awesome Nikon last night and got some sweet pics of Ticket to Ride. I’m glad he’s into this hobby with me!
    Rave (I guess?): Doctor’s appt this afternoon during which we will discuss changing up my medications with the thought of semi-soon possibility of pregnancy. A) Terrified of messing with the meds and B) slightly terrified of semi-soon possible pregnancy!

  • UDPie

    Rave: Sesame bagel with veggie cream cheese. Yum.
    Rant: Lots of moving parts of work trip to Kenya next week.
    Rave: Great night sleep in my own bed.
    Rant: Visa and passport issues might delay my husband’s return tonight – it was the fault of someone at his office and that person has made mistakes like this before. I feel bad being angry but when someone’s crappy work messes with our family, it makes me angry.

  • E

    Rant: Feeling like shit today due to yesterday’s presentation to the director and assistant directors. Graphs that I thought were easy to understand were difficult for them to comprehend. My immediate supervisor kept talking over me making me look stupid. One of the assistant directors did not agree with a huge part of my presentation because he didn’t agree with how I was measuring a main dependent variable and actually got into a bit of a discussion with another assistant director about it. Another assistant director didn’t like some of my comparisons saying that I was comparing the wrong thing. I felt so drained and embarrassed when it was all over. It made me question my abilities as a statistician.This was one of the worse presentations I’ve had in my 12 years of working here.
    Rave: Teleworking tomorrow.

    • HaileUnlikely

      Sorry to hear that. That blows. I’m getting the idea that this is something that you put a lot of time and effort into, basically all by yourself, and that your audience for yesterday’s presentation was learning of your work for the very first time just then. Is that accurate, or at least reasonably close? Is that how the workflow typically goes where you work? It might just be that we work in organizations that are structured very differently, but where I work nobody’s project would get so far along without some input from director-level leadership along the way that a scenario such as you describe would be likely to play out. Is this something (not the details of your project, the but the workflow more generally) something that might be helpful to discuss with your supervisor (or somebody) there.

      • E

        Thanks. I did put a lot of effort into it by myself. They had a proposal giving detailed info about what I was presenting and they had the slides prior to the presentation so it wasn’t the first time they had seen the material. But at my job, prior to folks writing the report, every report has to have a presentation to the director and assistant directors prior to it going forward to publication to work out research issues but I’ve never had this level of discussion and disagreement. My boss isn’t in today but I’ll see her Monday to talk to her about it.

        • HaileUnlikely

          Ok, makes sense. At my organization (which I’d bet is smaller than yours – it’s pretty small) the sort of presentation/meeting that you had yesterday would be at an earlier stage of the project, before much work has been done, early enough that such discussion/disagreement is expected, helpful (usually…), and not generally thought of as embarrassing.

        • HaileUnlikely

          p.s. I find it helpful to get input from people who were not intimately involved with my project on things like making sure that tables and figures understandable to the intended audience. (My organization’s reports are intended to be read by a mostly non-technical audience. The analysis underlying the report has to be sound and the report has to make clear that it is sound, but if only a technical expert can comprehend what we did and get the gist of what it means, that represents a major failure on our part.)

    • anon

      Ugh .. that sounds like a horrible feeling. Remember, though, you are a statistician. Are those people you are reporting to? If not, you may well be right. Maybe they just aren’t capable of understanding your graphs. Put aside the emotion of the experience when you can and use the discussion to figure out if there are ways to make your points more clearly, if there is anything to their argument that is valid to incorporate, and also, if they have some other agenda (I find that this is often the case) that understanding your points would conflict with carrying out. I find when people have another agenda (usually their own profit or power) it can be hard to tell if their arguments come from a place of ignorance or are more cunning than that. Sometimes they pretend to be stupid so they can carry out their plans – but it can be really hard to tell if they are actually ignorant or stupid, or just pretending to be to maintain plausible deniability.

      • E

        Yes these are people that I do report to. There were some things that I did agree with that I could’ve done better. But if I had included the majority of the things they mentioned, the presentation would’ve been totally different and twice as long.

    • anonymous

      First and foremost: that really sucks. I’ve been there, I think all of us who have to present on technical work have.
      Are your director and assistant directors also statisticians? Conveying technical concepts in a clear way is truly an art form, and it’s even harder if your audience is non-technical. Haile’s advice about getting informal review beforehand is really good. My team has independent verification built into our workflow, but even still we usually circulate presentations and papers for informal review. It can be surprising how much our opinions differ on how to present an idea. Even if I decide to not take the advice, I’m at least prepared in case a similar question comes up in the briefing.

    • That really stinks, I’m sorry you feel that way. I know it’s a painful feeling.
      I don’t have much constructive to say, but I once sat through an hour long call with 10 statisticians arguing about robustness vs. ruggedness and there was no conclusion at the end! So I know that statisticians can disagree and it doesn’t mean any of them are wrong. It does mean it reigns as the most painful conference call I’ve ever been on though.

  • LittleBluePenguin

    Rave: There’s so many things I can and want to do in the next few days! Dinner again with friends who are in town, yoga and brewing classes (which one to choose?!?! There’s one on Saturday and Sunday!), other yoga classes, visiting with friends….
    Rant: There’s too many things to do – I need some good sleep at some point, but I have FOMO! Also, I should do my taxes soon! And laundry! and cooking! crap!

  • Hookdntx

    Rave: Today is my Friday, beach time here I come
    Rant: lent started, as someone who has recently discovered a lactose intolerance, all my Friday go to meals now have to be adjusted


    Trying to change things up…does anyone currently work for or can share past experiences working for DC gov?

    Rant: The tree in front of my house needs a permit (no cost permit) to get removed (it is encroaching on our foundation – eek!). Fingers crossed the city will approve and won’t make me apply for the 2k + permit.

  • n3

    Palm oil plantations are destroying the habitat of Orangutans. Avoid if possible.

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: Having to tell my office mate to clean his area.
    Rave: Realized this morning that Donna, as dumb as she is, has learned her name. : )

  • Rant: everyone around me at work is getting awards lately and I barely get a thanks. Granted I have a big project that not’s done yet, but I keep thinking that I’m not going to get any recognition for it even though A. that obviously hasn’t happened yet and B. this is probably one of the most recognition-able projects I’ve done- it was stalled and I took ownership and am getting it done, it’s not part of my normal job, and it will have a sizable customer facing impact. But I keep “painting the negative narrative” and thinking that I’ll be ignored because I’m the quiet one who doesn’t need help because I know how to get things done and stay off my boss’ radar by maintaining peace in my group.
    Rant: my boss wanted to appointment me to a new position, but when he told me about it there was 1 sentence about how I’d be good for it and paragraphs about how it would free up resources and help the department. But it turns out he has to post it. I want it and I know I would be good at it, but I have this nagging feeling he only half wants me for it.
    Rave: another coworker was really inclusive and thankful and made a show of it in front of others.
    Question: how do you tactfully ‘toot your own horn’ to your boss or ask for feedback or validation?

  • Quotia Zelda

    Rant: Anxiety-induced insomnia.
    Rave: Benzos.

  • AMDCer

    Rave: Was able to help out my chronically ill and rapidly declining friend. She lives in NY so I can’t help her out on a day-to-day basis, but last night she asked if I could research and find an organization that would bring dogs to one’s home for a bit of puppy love. It didn’t take much Googling to find Therapy Dogs International! I have already connected them and she is so happy and looking forward to setting up a visit. It feels good to help a friend.

    • That is such a great rave! She asked you for something concrete, you were able to do, and now everyone is happy and teary eyed! Or maybe that last part is just me.

      • AMDCer

        Thanks – that’s exactly right – it’s wonderful that she asked me for something specific and I was able to deliver. She always says that just being able to talk and me listening is helpful (and I’m sure it is), but I liked being able to do something like this for her.

    • LittleBluePenguin

      oh! That’s wonderful! what a great and helpful friend you’re being to her!

    • Blithe

      How wonderful that you were able to help your friend! And what a wonderful resource! I hope your friend enjoys her puppy time.

  • Blithe

    Rant: Two months ago, in a fit of dystopian panic, I re-read “The Handmaid’s Tale”. I’ve tried to avoid re-reading “1984”, “Animal Farm” and “Brave New World”. And also “Kindred”. Today, I mistakenly clicked an article on how the Republicans in Congress are handling health care, and started wondering if I still have a copy of “Lord of the Flies”. Sigh.
    Rant: Along with my “Lord of the Flies” thought, I ALSO had the thought that very soon, prison and the military could become the best options for health care, housing, and even steady meals for some. This has always been true for a chunk of America. Now that’s likely going to be even more true for even more people. Even Deeper Sigh.
    Rave/Rant: Finally signed on to LinkedIn. Which is much more fun, and going to be much more useful than I realized. But for some reason it won’t let me set things up with the priority that I would like to give them, even though this apparently used to be an option. Soooo, this is not going to be as useful or as fun as it, perhaps, could be.
    Rave: textdoc!!!!!! :-) I always enjoy reading — and learning from — her comments!
    Rave: The alternative universe that is PoPville. Yes, to balance out the news, I spent a nice chunk of time re-reading the chicken-bacon-ranch pizza guy saga. lol

    • rss

      I skimmed chicken-bacon-ranch this morning after you guys posted abut it yesterday. amazing!

    • artemis

      Blithe, are we on the same reading bender? I’m reading “Kindred” for the first time, and rereading “The Handmaid’s Tale” is next up in my line up.

      • Blithe

        Although I fervently hope that this is not the case, maybe we’re on the same fit-of-dystopian-panic bender. I’m trying to think of things to read to balance out my panic. Maybe Madeleine L’Engle? I also haven’t read anything else by Octavia Butler, so now might be a good time. And maybe see if there are other works by the author of “Mistress of Spices”. I think my hope is to pursue a theme of realistic empowerment — and it’s probably no coincidence that the writers I’m seeking out are often classified as either science fiction or magical realism.

    • textdoc

      My rave for today: Blithe’s second-to-last rave. Thank you! :)

      • Blithe


        And thank YOU!

  • Brapattack

    Rave: We’re pregnant! Last night I ran my fingers along my wife’s little pouch and it felt so good.
    Rant: Went to a zika country recently. Took zika test today, and will get results in 3 weeks. Feeling hopeful.


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