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Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

by Prince Of Petworth — September 22, 2016 at 9:10 am 194 Comments

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • Rant: Good lord Connecticut Ave was a mess this morning.

    • mtpresident

      Ugh. I wonder what 16th looked like….

      • mtpresident

        Feeling grateful to live South of (most of?) the Beach Drive closures, so fingers crossed won’t be as badly affected? Need to make a mental note to leave some extra time for pick up this morning, though….

      • I can’t even think about it. Silver lining is that this will push me to walk more in the mornings now 🙂

      • FridayGirl

        The southern part of 16th (between K and V St.) was totally fine around 7:30, but I know that’s still pretty early. We’ll see how it is going back north today.

    • Colhi

      I drive out of DC on 16th every day. Today, the other side of 16th coming in looked terrible, at least above Columbia Heights up until about Silver Spring.

    • OP Anon

      The residential side streets in Adams Morgan were a mess (I live near the Harris Teeter). A lot more MD plates than usual, half block back-ups at 4-way stops, drivers not waiting for pedestrians to cross the street, etc.
      It’s bad and will probably get worse. Lots of traffic is spinning off 16th and 18th due to back ups. This was at 815am.

    • saf

      11th was also a mess, and Sherman was worse than usual too.

  • Nancy

    Rave – just a moment to say thanks to folks who keep this website going. Not to be too much of a sycophant, but I enjoy reading posts & comments here. As opposed to comments on news websites which can be about a new recipe for chicken and comments still end up with “Obama is the devil” or some such nonsense. I always enjoy checking this out in the mornings. Keep on keeping on.

    • Thank you very much! Mark in your calendars our 10 Year Anniversary Party – November 10th! (details to come)

      • FridayGirl

        YES!

    • Also, thanks for free coffee updates, and the like, that was delicious yesterday!

    • eggs

      +1

  • anonymous

    Rant: Person I’ve been seeing for past six months and official for the past three- decide to break up cold turkey over text, with no explanation other that it’s not working and not willing to discuss.
    Rant: Work is so busy right now- and add first rant- make it even more harder to focus at the moment.
    Rave: None

    • FridayGirl

      Wow. I’m so sorry. That is incredibly rude, no matter the situation. No one deserves that kind of breakup.

      • anon

        Sorry to hear that. It stings, but on the bright side you’re no longer wasting your time with someone who’s immature and cowardly. Better to find out now than later.

        • Anonymous

          Come on now. You don’t have to insult someone you don’t know to make someone else you don’t know feel better.

          • FridayGirl

            But, I mean, anon isn’t really wrong… breaking up with someone you’ve been seeing in any capacity for half a year through text is cowardly. It just screams “I don’t want any responsibility for my actions so I’m going to avoid you as much as possible.”

          • I agree with Friday girl. Someone who can’t pick up the phone and string together two sentences about why this is working for them anymore is putting their discomfort above anonymous’ feelings.
            Any time you start any kind of relationship you should imagine that you are signing a contract that says “I accept the risk that my feelings may be hurt or that I might hurt someone else” but a lot of people don’t want to be accountable for other people’s feelings, not to mention their own actions. Those people shouldn’t date, but they do anyway. There’s nothing wrong with calling them cowardly.

          • Anonymous

            FridayGirl: I have no idea, and neither do you. Maybe it screams “mental illness.” Maybe it screams “something really bad is going on with me.” Maybe it screams “I’m a coward.” Maybe it screams “I have deep flaws like just like you do.” I don’t know and neither do you. If you want to comfort OP you don’t have to speculate on what kind of person the other is. That is my point.
            .
            And one small difference – you’re saying the act is cowardly which is arguably reasonable. anon said the person is cowardly, which to me is not reasonable or necessary.

          • anon

            I’m the one who made the original “cowardly” remark, and I stand by it. He or she is perfectly within their rights to end the relationship, and on some level is doing the right thing by ending it as soon as they realize they’re not into it. But text message is such a lame move. I remember once when I was young (23), deciding to break up with someone very sweet and well meaning who I just wasn’t that into at that time. It hadn’t been that long, but we met up with a restaurant and had a brutally hard conversation. I felt like crap and definitely hurt her, but she respected and appreciated me for doing it in person.

          • dcd

            “And one small difference – you’re saying the act is cowardly which is arguably reasonable. anon said the person is cowardly, which to me is not reasonable or necessary.”
            .
            I’m usually the most pedantic person in any given conversation, but come on – on an anonymous forum, this is hairsplitting even for me.

    • anon

      Sucks. But, you are probably better off without discussing it anyhow. In my experience, it just tends to be painful with no insight gain, and processing the conversation(s) means it takes even longer to get over – as much as you want as sense of understanding why, sometimes you just don’t get that anyway – you get meaningless excuses. Perhaps the person gets that this is the kindest way to do it, based on what explanation(s) they would have. Tell yourself the best explanation you have based on what you know about what they were looking for, so you can move past this person as soon a possible.

      • FridayGirl

        “as much as you want as sense of understanding why, sometimes you just don’t get that anyway – you get meaningless excuses.”
        .
        I agree about this but you should at least CALL the person, if not tell them in person. Texting is so cowardly.

        • Anon

          Agreed – this should’ve at the very least happened over the phone, even if it didn’t involve a productive conversation about reasons, etc.

      • Anon

        I somewhat agree with this – imagine that the reason they broke things off is something that you can’t/won’t change about yourself. As such, I can’t imagine that such a conversation would end up being particularly healthy/helpful for you.

        • mtpresident

          The party breaking up could still opt to not mention that information–the phone call could be as simple as stating a decision that s/he is looking for something different in life or something along those lines.

          • textdoc

            +1.

      • Anonymous

        Agree, to some extent. The things they tell you over the phone or in-person may end up harming you more in the long run than the lame text. The text is disrespectful, but at least it’s not brutally honest. 95% of people’s egos can’t handle a brutally honest conversation.
        I guess the conclusion to all this is that it just sucks to be the person getting dumped.

        • FridayGirl

          “95% of people’s egos can’t handle a brutally honest conversation.”
          .
          What is your definition of “handling”? People are allowed to feel hurt. We’re human.

    • AnonDC

      My condolences on that break up! Last year someone I’d been seeing very seriously for six months (traveled to meet each other’s families already, etc.) broke up with me via email. Total coward. His own friends apologized to me for it.

    • Emmaleigh504

      That sucks, I’m so sorry.

    • textdoc

      So sorry to hear this, anonymous. It was rude, cowardly, and selfish of this person to break up with you via text.
      .
      And anon 10:27, who said “Perhaps the person gets that this is the kindest way to do it, based on what explanation(s) they would have” — That’s not the “kindest” way to do it, and there’s no obligation for the breaker-upper to be brutally honest.
      .
      I occasionally see people trying to justify “ghosting” or breaking up with someone by text. But I have yet to hear anyone say, “My SO broke up with me by text, and you know what? I really preferred it that way.”
      .
      If you’re going to break up with someone, you owe it to them to have a conversation and to let them ask whatever questions they want to ask. It’s the courteous thing to do.

      • NotABot

        Spot on, textdoc. Breaking up is hard to do and there’s no easy way to do it but there are sure as heck crappy ways to do it e.g. by text. Unless you fear they’ll hurt you if you do it in person, do it in person.

  • Rant: Charlotte, my hometown, is all at once saddening, embarrassing, exhausting, depressing, and abandoning me. The videos I’ve been seeing this week of Reginald Denny style street vigilante justice are so sickening. For all these protesters know they’re going around assaulting people who are / were champions of their cause…can they really afford to lose allies? Or purposely drive the wedge further? It’s so unfortunate that for many people that will be their only perception of a movement, and they’ll ignore the good actors. Growing up in Charlotte I was assaulted multiple times because of my race, because my high school had a pretty bad gang problem, up until my senior year. I learned early on to hold individuals accountable, not groups of people, but I’m not so ignorant to think that everyone can compartmentalize so easily. I’m both at a loss for words, and have so much more to say, I’m really glad that I’m about to roll into a 4 day weekend to contemplate.

    • stacksp

      Bro, it is no longer a wedge, its a full blown chasm with only one remedy at this point and it doesnt involve rhetoric or talking points or training or conversations else these scenarios will be replayed out every few weeks in different cities.

      • Anon

        What’s that one remedy and how do you see it playing out? Because I can’t imagine there’s anything resembling sufficient political will to make it happen at this point.

        • stacksp

          Prosecution. If these things keep happening and no one is ever held accountable or prosecuted, the same scenarios will continue to play out. Every case/situation is different but in the minds of the protesters, justice is never served in these instances. At some point, that has to somehow change or else we will never move past where we are currently and it may even get worse.

          No amount of sensitivity training or outreach or “dancing” by politicians and political heads in urban communities will fix what is currently going on.

          When people see an armed terrorist captured with a flesh wound after setting off bombs across NYC or a guy actively eating another human being, it is just bad optics and sends a poor message.

          • Anon

            I feel like we need Federal prosecutions at this point – it’s become increasingly clear that the local jurisdictions aren’t willing to prosecute themselves. But again, I can’t discount the political angle here either: Obama likely doesn’t want to advance the existing rift that might risk Hillary’s chances in November.

          • There absolutely needs to be Federal intervention, unless the government is willing to accept the eventuality of more cities burning like Ferguson and Baltimore. Federal standards need to be in place for things like training, body cameras, oversight panels, etc…the problem with implementing that is too many people will fight it as a “militarization” of state and local governments, something which has already increased with DHS funding in the wake of 9/11.

          • dcd

            “the problem with implementing that is too many people will fight it as a “militarization” of state and local governments, something which has already increased with DHS funding in the wake of 9/11”
            .
            Yes, and others will fight it as an unwarranted and unwelcome federal interference with state’s rights. ‘Cause states have such a terrific track record so far, we should just let them keep doing what they’re doing . . .

      • Anonymous

        “only one remedy at this point”
        .
        What is the one remedy?

      • anon

        Unfortunately, I agree with you that police violence against the populace is going to get much, much worse for a long, long time before anything changes. We’re heading into some very dark times in this country, and have been for the past 15 years.

        • I don’t think that violence by police against citizens is increasing, but it’s inarguable that the public’s awareness of the violence that has and does exists has increased, along with a proliferation of video evidence that can show the circumstances that lead to violence. Unfortunately police departments haven’t been required to track those statistics on their own, but at least a few independent sources have taken it upon themselves to do so:
          http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-36826297

          • anon

            Violence by police may not be increasing, but the means and the tactics they use certainly have changed. Police departments have been militarized in this age of the war “against terror” with military-style training and new weapons and tools for police to use against civilians that were not designed for use against civilians.
            .
            Part of what black lives matter is pointing out is that the police are viewed by many as a military occupying force. Many of those whose lives are not touched by this don’t see that this is so in some communities, or to some people anywhere they are depending on who they are/what they look like.
            .
            For further insight, read up on the prison strike currently going on in prisons across the country. Perhaps more insight can be gained when you read about our crazy amount of mass incarceration, largely of non-whites, who are forced to work in prisons for hardly any wages for for-profit corporations. The Thirteenth Amendment did not outlaw slavery – it specifically excepted slave work for prisoners with the words … “except as a punishment for crime whereof the party shall have been duly convicted.”

          • Oh I agree, and I alluded to that above. It’s going to be a delicate line for police and feds to balance if they actually try to tackle what to do about this issue. With so much public demand for transparency going on I can’t see them sweeping this away for much longer, citizens are standing up and forcing them to do something about it, even if I wish they would use slightly different methods.

  • artemis

    Rave: Commute seemed to work ok this morning. On the advice of Anonamom and Mtpresident, I ordered a better baby carrier yesterday. I may just forego the stroller all together if I feel strong enough to wear Baby Artie. If nothing else, it will be a good workout.
    Rant: I have just been feeling out of sorts lately. I don’t really know what’s up with me. Just feeling kinda blah and disconnected. I’m not quite sure how to fix that.
    Rave: I randomly ran into a friend on the metro platform. That was a nice start to the day.

    • Anonamom

      Awesome! Which one did you go for? I was thinking about it driving home yesterday (yes, I randomly contemplate the woes of my fellow Popvillagers on my long commutes) and was going to suggest that perhaps the issue is the type of carrier you’ve used in the past as some are more ergonomic and supportive than others. I’m glad you’re giving it a shot!

      • mtpresident

        lol, so do I 🙂

      • artemis

        I got the Lillebaby instead of the Ergo. Baby Artie has very tall people genes on his father’s side, and the reviews I read online indicated that it tends to fit bigger babies better. I also think the carrier will be better during inclimate winter weather – I can keep him warmer and dry under an umbrella when needed.

        • Anonamom

          Yeah, I had no luck with Ergo either. I used the structured carrier when the kids were older and went with a Boba because it was for longer kiddos too (although a quick search reveals they look more like a simple MeiTai these days). They are definitely better for weather too. There are special hoodies and jackets you can get that zip baby up in the carrier, but aside from that, it’s just easier to tuck a blanket of whatever weight around baby in a carrier too. And for rain, it’s the only way to ensure a dry baby. Best of luck!

          • mtpresident

            The ergo has a ran cover & a fleece cover that you can attach for inclement weather–and they snap together for winter use. Perhaps lillebaby has something similar? Or the ergo version might work if the two carriers are similar enough. Those have been great for keeping my kids warm during the winter months.

    • mtpresident

      Awesome! Good luck! The ergo is one of our most-used baby purchases, perhaps outside of the crib. Btw–the back carry position is also super handy once Baby Artie is big enough (he may be already), so long as you’re not looking to sit.

      • artemis

        Thanks! I will report back.

  • Formerly ParkViewRes

    Rave: Last Chance U. Very interesting doc on college football.
    Rant: College football and all the BS surrounding it. I feel like it’s so corrupt and we don’t even know about it all.
    Rave: Tenants renewed the lease! I didn’t even want to think about finding new ones so that’s a relief.

    • SBinDC

      Yes! I consumed Last Chance U in like a day and a half. I thought there were moments that were a little “poverty porn”-y but overall it was fairly nuanced. I’m such a sucker for sports drama.

  • ctk

    Rave: Lush @ 9:30 last night.

    • AliceInDC

      Took me way too long to figure out that you were not talking about the bath products store called Lush.

    • Quotia Zelda

      Oh man, that takes me back to the very first mixtape Mr. Zelda made for me when were dating. For some reason that made sense to him at the time, it included “Untogether.” Oh, the 90s.

      Now, Middle Zelda and her boyfriend made a Spotify playlist together. I guess that’s the modern mixtape?

      • textdoc

        “Untogether” was a great song… if not exactly appropriate for a romantic mixtape. 😉
        .
        Alas, they didn’t play it at last night’s show.

  • Quotia Zelda

    Rant: Still dealing with this stupid cold.
    Rant: Eldest Zelda also has a cold and feels even worse than I.
    Observation: Middle Zelda had a cold, but she’s over hers now. I think that makes her patient zero.

  • mtpresident

    Rant: parents going hyperbolic on bus-related concerns.
    Rant: makes it harder to see/react/respond to the real safety issues that need addressing.
    Rave: level-headed people responding to help reduce the hyperbole and organize concerns.
    Rave: responsive school staff who try like the dickens to make everything work as smoothly as possible.

    • dcd

      A school bus? Your daughter takes a school bus? How’d that happen?

      • mtpresident

        They are busing to the temporary location a little over a mile away while their school is renovated.

        • dcd

          Blech. That stinks. Do they pick the kids up at home, or you drive them to school, and they transport them from there? Is this a DCPS or a charter?

          • mtpresident

            It’s DCPS–they pick up from the permanent location & bus to/from the temporary location. People also have the option of transporting their kids to/from the temporary location, but the temporary location is out of the way for the rest of our commute, so we are happy to use the bus. I would, however, prefer that if they are making the effort to use car seats & booster seats for the PK kids, that those devices are properly installed–otherwise they are less safe than not using them!
            .
            The alternative was kids being in trailers for two years without access to outdoor play space. The temporary space is much better–and, frankly, other than the inconvenience, is better than the pre-renovated permanent facility.

          • mtpresident

            I am already practically salivating at the prospect of both kids being in the same place so close to the house in three years. I can only imagine how nice life will be then!

  • Pixie

    Rave – Stopped by the new Compass Coffee this morning, it is awesome. I’m so happy to have them near my job, although I have a feeling I’ll be spending a lot more money on coffee now.
    .
    Rant – 25 minute commute home yesterday turned into a 45 minute commute. No tweets, no alerts, no explanation. Thanks, Metro.
    .
    Rave – Today is my Friday!

    • CHGal

      Re: commutes – the green line northbound has had a significant number of trains only going as far as U street every night this week, in the 5:30-6:00 range. There were messages about it Monday, but I’m wondering what’s causing it to still happen. .

  • Tract44

    Rant: Why has the green line been so slow this week?
    Rave: I am getting a lot of reading done this week while sitting on the train. I’m only 2 books away from my Goodreads goal.

    • Tract44

      Edit: Just saw the above comment. I guess that explains it, although it was slow this morning too.

    • BethPopville

      Any favorites? Always love some recs!

      • Tract44

        Just finished Devil and the Bluebird by Jennifer Mason-Black and I recommend it if you like YA fantasy. It reminded me a little of Francesca Lia Block’s books, which I loved when I was younger.
        . And My Lady Jane by Cynthia Hand was a funny retelling of Tudor drama with a supernatural twist. I’ve been on a magic realism kick.

  • Anonamom

    Rant: There are days where I honestly feel like this country is going straight to hell in a hand basket. This is one of them.

    • LittleBluePenguin

      yup. 🙁

  • That One Guy

    Rant: I’m all for kolaches, but I wish a Korean bakery would set up shop somewhere downtown so I could get some cream filled pastries along with a coffee. I know, I should shut up and move to Korea.
    Rave: Bye bye contact dermatitis. I can actually wear shorts without people thinking I’m carrying the plague.
    .
    Autumn! If not pumpkin spice, what other food thing would embody/symbolize this season?

    • Quotia Zelda

      All things apple! Pie, cider, cider doughnuts (Atkins, yes please!), baked apples, etc. etc.

      • Anonamom

        +1, I am way more of an apple person than a pumpkin person.

      • Moho

        Atkins!!!!! I miss them (and more importantly their apple cider doughnuts so much)

        • Quotia Zelda

          I just wish we had Mountain Day in the working world.

          • textdoc
          • Moho

            Mountain Day is the greatest part of fall! The president cancels classes and all activities for the day and students go climb a nearby mountain (unless you went to Smith… they go apple picking). Ice cream and baseball caps are handed out at the top amidst all sorts of fall fun.
            Alums around the world meet for ice cream in their cities on Mountain Day every year.

      • topscallop

        Atkins! I miss those cider doughnuts. My parents always got the pack that was half sugared, half plain and my sister and I would fight over the sugar ones.

    • LittleBluePenguin

      Latkes! I just associate them with fall for some reason (also, anything pumpkin spice and apples!)

      • mtpresident

        Latkes? Really? Those are winter thing for me…

        • FridayGirl

          Agreed. Because Hanukkah.

          • LittleBluePenguin

            Yeah, but I’ll occasionally practice making them in the fall, you know, to get ready for when I make them in the winter!

          • mtpresident

            That’s awesome 🙂 They are generally just a once-per-year event for me, but I like your style.

    • FridayGirl

      I 100% agree with your rant.

    • wdc

      Meaty stews. Bean soups. Homemade bread. I’m looking forward to pulling out my cast-iron dutch ovens, which get almost no use when it’s hot out. Ooh! Chicken and dumplings!
      (I’m excited, can you tell?)

      • That One Guy

        Meat stews + Bean soups = CHILI!?!?!

        • dcd

          My neighbor is hosting her fourth chili cookoff in October, complete with bourbon slushes, mechanical bull and various other shenanigans. This is out first one – she had to cancel last year’s – and I can’t wait. Apparently, the same person has won the last two years, people take the chili very seriously, and there are some pretty exotic entries. I can’t decide if I’m going to enter, or just gorge myself (there are usually 15+ entries), and I’m not a big chili maker – anyone have suggestions for a great chili?

        • wdc

          Chili: I wish. The kids don’t like it, and I can’t blame them, because I didn’t like it as a kid, either. They’ll come around eventually.

          • mtpresident

            we have a fantastic crock pot chili that is North Indian inspired–mtpkiddo doesn’t like chili in general, but LOVES this one. I can send along the recipe if you want to experiment.

          • wdc

            Yes please!
            Beans are well-liked; it’s the tomato sauce and especially the chunks of tomato that wrinkle noses at my house.

          • mtpresident

            Interesting. This one has some tomatoes (we usually double the amount), but only a small amount–though you can certainly try excluding them if you prefer. I’ll try to get the recipe with a screen shot and send it along.

          • dcd

            Ditto on the yes please for the North Indian inspired chili! If I win, I’ll properly credit you!

          • mtpresident

            Lol, sure thing–I’ll try to post the recipe tomorrow.

    • That One Guy

      Additional rave: the google doodle! Hahaha…good one

    • mtpresident

      Butternut squash, sweet potato soup…

  • Anon Spock

    Revel: Roomie is home infrequently, and pretty chill when she’s around. Any complaints are minor ones which are easily trumped by having the apt to myself so often.
    Rant: Long meetings at the end of the day.

    • Hookdntx

      Having a roommate who travels frequently is kind of amazing

  • LittleBluePenguin

    Rant: If you put me on a 15+ minute hold, you are going to regret it. I will hound your ass until I get what I need. Grrrrr! I do not have time for these shenanigans today!
    Rave: Um…Almost the weekend?
    Rave: Coffee. Sweet nectar of life.
    Rave: These cooler mornings! I want full-blown fall so badly! Boots and sweaters and scarves, bring it on!
    Rave: Got to chat with my best friend last night. I miss her and her family, but it’s good to catch up even if it’s just on the phone.

  • FridayGirl

    Rant: I thought I liked my new position but today I hate it. I keep asking questions and asking for advice, no one’s answers are helpful if they answer at all, and after being scolded for a stupid thing this morning I feel like I’m doing everything wrong and people just haven’t noticed yet. Cue panic attack that almost threw me into tears at my desk. First one in 6 months.
    .
    Rant: I really hope this feeling goes away. I almost stayed home today. Maybe I should just call in tomorrow.

    • Anon

      This is obviously presumptive, but I’m willing to bet that you’re internalizing (whatever happened) much more so than necessary. Everyone makes mistakes – be it your mistake or that of your supervisor who scolded you – and I assume you’re not senior enough for that mistake to carry that gross of a negative outcome to your agency. It will be okay, promise! 🙂

      • FridayGirl

        Probably. And actually it wasn’t even a supervisor that was scold-y. It was someone from a different office! Geez. So yes, you’re probably right about all the other things. Thank you….

        • mtpresident

          Can you take a short walk around the block for some air? Some deep breaths and a few minutes away might help.

          • FridayGirl

            Thanks, mtpresident. I actually did that pretty quickly, as soon as I felt I couldn’t recoup here. I’m back now and feeling a little better. Just tired and grumpy (part of which is just me being particularly tired this week on the whole…)

          • That One Guy

            Are you sill having trouble sleeping? Maybe that’s also adding to the tired/grumpy.

          • FridayGirl

            That One Guy — Yeah, that’s definitely adding to the tired grumpy. Not sure why the sleep issues though because I haven’t felt particularly stressed or anxious until this morning.

    • FridayGirl

      Additional rant: Even when I feel better anxiety-attack-wise, it makes me so fatigued for the rest of the day.

      • joctag

        I feel ya sista.

    • Anonynon

      Need to thicken up your skin a bit, in government you will very rarely receive ‘praise’ for work well done, and at the same time…if you mess up its usually not that big of a deal. While it took me a little to realize this, the first time It got to me but then talking with other folks about the particularly grumpy govie…they all hated that person. It sounds like you might want to start looking for work outside government because it seems like it might not be your cup of tea

      • Formerly ParkViewRes

        This is your experience, and not true in all agencies. In my agency I saw someone who was there 10 years get fired. I also saw people who hated their jobs at HQ, but once they got to the field they loved it. Also, do you not consider awards to be “praise” because I do and they also gave those out…

      • textdoc

        Anonynon, I thought you were a contractor. No?

    • OffTheAvenue

      “I keep asking questions and asking for advice”

      This. I’m sure you’re doing this for all the right reasons (how to do your new job the right way) but sometimes you have to play the fake-it-til-you-make-it game and not be asking all the time.

      And best of luck with your new job!

      • FridayGirl

        So I found out that it turns out that I was right originally, before I started asking, which in turn led to the scolding by the other office, because I may have actually been told wrong. Boooooooooooo.

        • FridayGirl

          [I should note that at the same time, it’s hard to do fake-it-til-you-make-it in my office because we can kind of mess people up if we give them the wrong information and I’d rather not single-handedly cause an international incident.]

    • anonymous

      When I first started my job my (former) boss once yelled, “you’re a pain in my a**!” because I hadn’t filled my timecard out yet (still before the deadline). Sometimes people yell or scold someone for really stupid reasons, often because there’s a lot going on that has them stressed out. Don’t let it get to you too much.
      .
      You’re new, you’re going to get things wrong. Even when someone snaps they know that in the back of their head.

      • FridayGirl

        thank you, anonymous. i know this is late, but your response made me laugh and actually made me feel much relief! i guess it really does happen to everyone.

  • Rant: Second time this week I’ve biked past a bicyclist who got hit by a driver in Thomas Circle. Drivers in DC are dangerous.

    • FridayGirl

      Drivers everywhere are dangerous. I wish I could feel safe biking but I don’t trust drivers or myself in a city. BUT also some bikers are not great. Earlier this week I saw a biker riding up 15th Street in the car lane when there is that entire protected bike lane to use…. not that it’s reason to hit someone but sometimes bikers can be very unexpected/unpredictable, just as much as cars.

      • Anonamom

        +1 to ‘Drivers everywhere are dangerous.” Every day I feel like I am taking my life in my hands when I get on 83; granted, I’m now completely surrounded by Maryland drivers, but it amazes me how fast people drive and how few fucks they give about giving people room to merge into traffic. There’s not a week that goes by without a major accident on that road or the Baltimore Beltway, and honestly I am never surprised. Seriously, Baltimore makes DC look like a safe haven.

      • Bikes aren’t required to use the bike lane: http://ddot.dc.gov/sites/default/files/dc/sites/ddot/publication/attachments/DC-Bike-Law-Pocket-Guide-Oct2012.pdf

        There are jerks, as with all modes of transportation, but a lot of what I see is driver inattentiveness causing the issues.

    • Anon Spock

      How did you determine who was at fault? I drive through thomas circle daily, and I see just as many unsafe driver as cyclists.

      • anon

        If the cyclist gets hit, as with pedestrians, the driver is almost always at fault. That’s not sarcasm – it is true.

  • Rave: Hit the 30-week mark today and everything checked out at my appointment. Fingers crossed for a similarly smooth remaining 10 weeks!
    Rant: 10 weeks. Cue panic attack.
    Rave: Some possible very good news at work. Trying not to get my hopes up but things are looking good.

  • Hookdntx

    RAVE: Iceland is so close I can taste it! 2 weeks!

    Question for the masses: Clothing resale places…. Buffalo Exchange, thredUp, or somewhere else to sell some mid level in excellent shape clothes?

    • sweeneyc

      I hope Iceland doesn’t taste like that fermented shark thing they eat over there! 😉

      • That’s literally the worst thing I’ve ever eaten in my life, and I will try pretty much anything anywhere.

        • wdc

          Me too! Hands down the worst.
          Although there was this Japanese snack food… it was tiny whole dehydrated crabs, filled with dry sweet bean paste and rolled in sugar. They tasted like beach rot, and stuck in your teeth. That’s the runner-up.
          Rounding out the medalists for worst thing I’ve ever eaten: calf brains pureed and served like deviled eggs.
          These three things each have a trifecta of terrible taste, odor, and texture.

      • Formerly ParkViewRes

        Gross! I’ll be in Iceland in 12 days. Anyone have any food/restaurant recs?

        • mtpresident

          Are you sure you want to think about food after those suggestions?

          • Formerly ParkViewRes

            Yes, because I want to avoid food like that, haha! Though my wife is a pretty adventurous eater so she’ll prob try some weird stuff.

        • Hookdntx

          I was told the Hot dogs are not to be missed, Kex for biscuits on the harbor and aptly named Reykjavik Roasters for coffee.

          I think also Dill for something fancy

        • If you see a donut cart, stop at it, especially if it’s by the Pen!s Museum in the little park with the statue of some horses.
          Do not bother to try the “Black Death” liquor, it’s gross.
          Make sure to try Bjork, the birch liqueur, it is delicious. You can sip it, neat.
          If you go to the Saga museum, at least have a snack at the cafe. it’s cute and has some good traditional food and beverages.
          I wasn’t really impressed with the hot dog I had and I love hot dogs.

          • saf

            Black Death is delicious – if you like caraway

        • anonymous

          best late night food – Hlöllabátar, a little stand in the center of park in Reykjavik.
          and the shark, while not good, is not that bad. Wouldn’t go out of my way of ordering it but just tasted like a smoky ammonia. And there is a nice little brew pub by near the parliament. can’t remember the name but very good beers.

        • Formerly ParkViewRes

          Thanks everyone!

        • anonymous

          I mostly only know Reykjavik, but we liked:
          – Microbar for beer (wide selection)
          – Lobster soup and fish kabobs at the Sea Baron (they also have Minke whale if you want to try it…pricey though)
          – Grey Cat for breakfast
          – The Laundromat Cafe (yes, there’s really a laundromat in the basement)

          • wdc

            Do grey cats taste better than other cats?

    • M

      It takes a bit of time, but I love the app Poshmark. They keep 20% of the purchase price (They keep $3 if the sale is under $20.. or something like that) and send you a shipping label. I’ve bought some great J.Crew work pieces that were a steal and sold some nice pieces I just don’t wear or don’t fit me anymore.

  • sweeneyc

    Rant: Back seems to not be getting better. Cancelled PT, stopped stretching, scheduled cortisone shot, lost sleep, snapped at girlfriend.
    .
    Rave: Found present for girlfriend’s birthday. Thanks again for all the suggestions.

  • Irving Streete

    Rant: so confused from sleeplessness that I’m logging in to PoP using my work login.

    • MPinDC

      I hope the cortisone shots relieve your back pain.
      Like you, I tried PT and stretching but in the end it was the shots that worked. Plus, stretching when my back hurts seems counter-intuitive.

  • Chinatown

    Rant: Sick coworkers sneezing and coughing over everything and everybody. Cover your mouth or go home!!
    Rant: Eat too much this morning.
    Rave: Discovered Cava Grill yesterday. It was really good.
    Rave: Teleworking tomorrow.
    Rant: I got a headache.
    Rant: Charlotte. This seems to be happening every few weeks now.

    • dcd

      I may have posted this before, but if I had an entrepreneurial spirit, I would open up a Cava Grill in every college town I could find. I even know of the prefect spot for on in Chapel Hill. Ah well.

      • womp

        +100
        .
        it’s a life goal of mine to go back to Texas and open one in Austin because OBVIOUSLY.

      • mtpresident

        I love Cava. It helps that it’s one of the few places I can reliably eat at without causing mtpbaby gastrointestinal distress. But wow is it delicious!

      • dcd

        I still labor under the delusion that Cava is healthy – or at least healthy-ish. Please don’t disabuse me . . .

      • textdoc

        Where in Chapel Hill?

  • Rant: vendors coming into the teachers lounge trying to sell you crap. I just want to eat my lunch in 23 minutes!

    • wdc

      Wait, what??
      The front desk guy at my kids’ school is like the the bouncer at the hottest club. You HAVE to be on the list, or you are not getting in. Is this really a thing?

      • Well, vendors that have permission to be in the school. Last guy hounded me about why I didn’t know they were coming and were so damn pushy about me buying a life insurance policy.

        • anon

          Life insurance salesmen are the worst. I once told one who told a group of people I was in that everybody needed life insurance – I called his bs and said that as a single person with no children and no one dependent on me, or who needed money if I were to die, I decidedly did NOT need life insurance. He proceeded to mock me in front of the group for having no family.

        • houseintherear

          This is why I eat in my classroom now. This and the smell from the never-cleaned refrigerators and microwaves. Solidarity, fellow teacher!

          • I know, but I get such a short time and my classroom is so far away that it further eats into my time.

  • eggs

    Rave: Today is my Friday. Sleeping in tomorrow!!
    Rant: I’m off tomorrow to drive to PA for my grandmother’s funeral. Not looking forward to this weekend.

    • LittleBluePenguin

      Oh, I’m sorry for your loss, eggs. Hugs!

    • Emmaleigh504

      I’m sorry for your loss.

    • mtpresident

      I’m so sorry for your loss. May her memory be for a blessing.

  • Emmaleigh504

    Happy World Rhino Day!
    Rant: Office mate is the loudest eater I have ever heard. ugh
    Rave: There’s a scent that is hot for men right now and it is yummy smelling. I wonder what it is.

    • That One Guy

      Sorry to say that I saw something about the last Rhino in Vietnam being shot. 🙁

  • joctag

    Rant: Lived in DC for three years now and STILL can’t find a decent place to get my hair cut without paying $100+. Suggestions?

    • Formerly ParkViewRes

      Yes, but it involves going to Rosslyn. It’s so close to the metro though, or if you want to drive I never had a problem finding parking in the neighborhood. Miracles 1501 Wilson Blvd, Arlington, VA

      • Cleveland Park runner

        +1,000,000! I love Miracles!

    • anon

      You are just looking in the wrong places. I’m female, and have never paid more than $35 for a haircut, not here or in NYC, even when I started making a lot of money. And I get good haircuts – I often get compliments. My hair is straight, so not terribly complicated, but is so straight and fine (thin strands though not a particularly thin head of hair) that it can be very limp so it needs to be cut to have some body, which takes some skill. I’m not particularly good-looking, so having a good haircut is one of the things I have going for me. There are plenty of local salons with good haircutters you can walk into and ask the price and try someone out – you might like what they do, or the next one. That’s how I’ve always found my haircutters, by trying a salon or two near my home. Start with the neighborhoods you live and work in or otherwise frequent. A $100 haircutter, to me, would be primarily a bs artist.

    • OffTheAvenue

      Zoma on Georgia Avenue, just across the line in Silver Spring. It’s an Aveda salon; Jane’s excellent haircuts are $50; the other stylists there look like they give good cuts too. I switched to there about 2 years ago after getting tired of costly cuts.

    • NotABot

      Eastern Confederate. It serves men and women and is hip and affordable. Whenever I go, there are always a mix of men and women getting their hair cut and most people are regulars.

      • stell

        I will agree with Eastern Confederate. Been going there for a bit and always happy with the haircut. I believe it’s around $55.

    • Hilly

      Jonathan at Michael Anthony Salon on the Hill (at Eastern Market). He’s awesome! $66 for a women’s haircut.

  • AliceInDC

    Rant: Allergies have been SO bad this week. I keep taking the generic version of Benadryl sinus and walking around in a drowsy, Zombie-like state.
    Rave: Costco run tonight with the fiance. We have way too much fun there and I always get a giant frozen yogurt at the end… I’ve been doing this since I was little and went to Costco with my dad every weekend.
    Rave: Parents who are willing to take things off my plate when I’m weighed down. They are currently on the hunt for a wedding officiant (they have more connections to the geographic area than I do).

    • I had awful allergies last week and zyrtec finally worked for me! Don’t know if you tried that one yet?

    • OP Anon

      +1000
      My allergies EXPLODED yesterday evening while going on a walk around the neighborhood. And I take 2 Claritin pills every day. I’m a mess today, looks like I spent the night crying.
      I’m pretty sure it’s due to the changing of the seasons.

  • Rave: I know we have a bunch of Drive by Trucker fans – the new album is streaming on NPR today http://www.npr.org/2016/09/22/494571497/first-listen-drive-by-truckers-american-band and it is awesome.

    • Hookdntx

      +1000 WHEEEEE

  • houseintherear

    Rave: Gave up all liquids except water (and occasional weak tea) two weeks ago, and have not died.

    Rant: I’m halfway through my teaching career, and realizing that the children of the world are changing. Drastically. The majority of my students are terribly behaved and disrespectful, to each other and adults and everyone. It’s sad and very scary.

    • anon

      Adults, and barely-adults, have changed – they are the ones raising the children differently. It does sound scary though – I can’t imagine having to teach children older than around age 7-8 or under college age.

      • houseintherear

        Yes, you’re exactly right.

    • Anonamom

      Where do you teach? Honestly, a change of scenery may help. I am amazed at the difference in children between DC and where we live now.

    • Hmm, interesting. In my PG school, my kids are mostly fine.

  • wdc

    Helped myself to a little pepper oil a colleague left in the office kitchen. Knowing said colleague and her alimentary preferences, I used the smallest smidgen physically possible. And I still have the urge to shout “hoo boy” or “hot damn” or something similar.

  • textdoc

    Rant: Crazier-than-usual dreams. Not feeling rested after waking up. Feeling almost permanently groggy and like my mind is in a fog.
    Rant: As far as last night/this morning is concerned, the above was probably aggravated by going to the Lush show and not immediately going to bed as soon as I came home.
    Rave: But the show was good.
    Rave: It’s almost the weekend.

  • bizzinger

    Rave: Job offer came through. However, it’s a tiny bump in pay so there’s negotiations to plan. Not going anywhere without asking for 20% pay raise. Decision due next Tuesday.
    Rant(?): Timing. I have two potential final interviews tomorrow (with places that had gone radio silent for a while. Both could conceivably be ready to make me an offer by next Tuesday…
    Rant(?): I also have two final interviews early next week, one of them on Tuesday.
    *
    So that’s five pending opportunities, one of them a bird in hand (and a commute to Tysons). Thoughts? Suggestions? Jokes to calm me down?

    • anon

      Focus on the money negotiation, but not ONLY on the money negotiation. Because even with a very hefty raise, other stuff can matter a lot too – enough to make the pay raise not worth it. Job satisfaction, room for growth (and future pay increases), less boredom, more learning and challenge, and not-crazy managers (though it can be hard to tell, there are some signs in interviews) can matter as much as money in making for a happier life. If you get enough offers at the same time, you can always go back and forth between them to get the best money. But then choose the best place for you.

      • wdc

        I’ll add to this: employer contribution to health care and retirement savings? professional development stipend? PTO? Onsite amenities? These are all worth money and should be factored in alongside the salary itself.

    • ae

      Could you metro?
      It would have to be a huge raise with opportunities to telework before I’d accept a job in Tysons.

      • bizzinger

        It’s about a mile from the Tysons metro. That’s really what i keep coming back to – I don’t have a car, and it doesn’t make sense (lifestyle and budget) for me to get one. I live on NW and while I want my life to change, this is a big jump.

      • Anon

        Yea, 10k isn’t getting me to commute to Tysons. Big ole NOAP!

    • Formerly ParkViewRes

      For me personally, I wouldn’t take a job in Tysons. I commuted from Arlington to Herndon for a year and it was pretty terrible. I cannot imagine DC to Tysons would be much better. The problem is so many people reverse commute now. Even with metro, I couldn’t do it every day.

      • Anonamom

        This is my thought process too. The traffic in NOVA is like a new dimension of hell to me, period. If it’s metro accessible that is one thing, but non-metro would be no go.
        Personal views aside, it sounds like a car would be a must for this commute (unless a mile walk is ok for you, and it will be for some), so factor in this cost too – car payment, insurance, gas, parking (home and work), repairs and maintenance – and don’t settle for any less that the percentage you want plus this amount.

        • Formerly ParkViewRes

          Right–oh and I took the toll road, which is expensive and keeps getting more expensive. The worst was the evenings. Unless I left work by 4:15 it was hell once you got off the toll road onto the ramp to get onto 66! Complete clusterf. Oh god, this is bringing back nightmares. I’m so thankful that I now have a ten minute walk to work.

          • bizzinger

            This is really helpful. I’m just not excited about the job because of the commute. I don’t want to move (except for moving in with the fella, which is a whole other bag of wiggly things). You should be excited about something before you agree to it. I’d enjoy the day-to-day, but I can see the commute sucking me dry.

  • logandude

    Rave: the mere existence of Crestwood as a tranquil suburban oasis in the middle of the city
    Revel: a beautiful morning for a stroll through Crestwood

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