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Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

by Prince Of Petworth November 25, 2015 at 9:30 am 169 Comments

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

  • UDPie

    Rave: Posting this from the air – and I”m incredibly tickled with technology right now :-).
    Rave: Had a great few days in Guadalajara at a conference – our workshop went well and I met some great people.
    Rant: 4AM wake up call.
    Rant: No thanksgiving visitation rights for my friend who is still institutionalized….
    Rave: Can see her tonight and Friday night (only for one hour each day…)
    Rave: So grateful for you, PoPville, for your support, help, advice, goofy tips, etc. etc. Thank you!

  • Janie4

    Rave: Basement apartment done after nearly two years of planning and work. Have my C of O, my business license, and once I get over to DHCD next Monday, I will be ready for inspection and occupancy.

    Rave: Thanksgiving is one of my favorite holidays. And we’re having guests.
    Rant: forgot my phone at home.

  • Kelly anne

    rave: listening to the rat pack sing christmas songs. I am officially in the christmas spirit. :-)
    rave: I plan to drink a lot tomorrow. hell yeah

    random question: has anyone used boxed.com? I keep seeing their ads on the metro. any good?

    • Anonamom

      Ooh! This makes me want to find my Rat Pack Christmas CD!

    • eggs

      Woo beer! (in response to rave #2)

  • artemis

    Rave: Last work day of the week. I’m looking forward to a long, unscheduled weekend.
    Rant: Lots to do tonight to prep for Thanksgiving dinner.
    Rave: I’ve been sleeping better in the past week than I have in months.
    Rant: The news lately: Chicago, Minneapolis, escalating tensions between Turkey and Russia, Donald Trump. Ugh.

  • skj84

    Rave: So much to be thankful for right now. I feel bad about ranting.

    Rant: With that said i’m on of 4 people in my office right now. And since I’m hourly it would be in my best interest to stay till 5. At least I do get PTO tomorrow and Friday.

  • Revel: no school til Monday
    Revel: treated myself to Little Red Fox
    Rant: got two pastries and ate them both here
    Revel: I can actually spend time with the cat I’m sitting for the next several days

  • textdoc

    Query: Anyone else interested in repeating last year’s unofficial PoPville Thanksgiving Orphans dinner at the Black Squirrel tomorrow?

    • I have been unorphaned for this year and I’m not sure how early I’ll be going to Have de Grace but if it’s later in the day, I’d do lunch.

      • Sorry that’s a crap answer but I’m trying to figure out details now.

      • textdoc

        The Black Squirrel’s buffet runs only until they run out of food, so I was planning to get there when they opened (like last year).

        • I meant if I’m going to MD later in the day. I’ll be a “maybe” until I can confirm the time

        • textdoc

          Sorry, I should have specified — they open at 12 noon.

    • textdoc

      Anyone? Bueller??

      • I’ll have to pass. But if anything materializes for Christmas, I’m down :)

      • Farragut

        Sorry Textdoc, I’ll still be working when Black Squirrel opens! Have fun!

    • Tall E

      Sorry Textdoc, I’ll be cooking for the feast I’m headed to later. If I have time I want to be OUTSIDE! (signed someone still at work)

  • SinSA

    Rave: Last workday of the week!
    Rave: Tentative good health report from my doctor yesterday
    Rave: Sophie’s green sauce. I don’t get to eat there as often as I would like but whenever I do, it is delicious.
    Rave: Going to make that cranberry butter cake tonight to bring to Thanksgiving tomorrow.
    Rant? Why is my ex liking all of my Facebook pictures again out of nowhere? It’s not annoying, it’s just…odd.
    Rave: My cat is somehow freaked out by my small humidifier and is constantly watching it – she’s funny.
    Rave: In dating news, a guy emailed me yesterday and said “Hey beautiful, any interest in spending time talking to a very attractive, very successful man?” and I said “Absolutely! How kind of you! Please let me know who that might be.” He blocked me. Heh.
    Rave: The new Captain America trailer is pretty awesome.

    • phl2dc

      HAHAHAHA at the dating rave :)

    • Anonynon

      that’s amazing.

    • I Dont Get It

      Lol love your dating rave!!!!

  • Chinatown

    Rave: teleworking today in sweats
    Rave: My mom is here to help me move.
    Rant: Worried that move will have problem after problem. I already know it’s supposed to rain on Saturday (move day) so that’ll put a damper on the move anyway.
    Random question: How much do you tip movers? It’s my first time using them and I’m not sure what to tip).
    Rave: Get to stop teleworking 2 hours early today thanks to boss.

    • emvee

      I’ve heard you should tip about 5%, keeping in mind if they do an amazing job and are super quick, you may go higher, and go lower if they aren’t the best. That being said, I’m curious what other folks say. Good luck with your move!

      • anon

        Wow! Is it really 5%? I had a $4k move (DC to Arlington), so would that be like $200 each or $200 for the four guys to split? I just replied about this saying I tipped $15 plus food… Now I feel bad if it should have been that much more.

    • westends

      It depends on the quality of service, obviously, but I typically give $20 per mover.

      • FridayGirl

        +1. I also do $20/mover. (This was on a ~$500 move with 3 movers.)

      • Anon

        I usually tip about $20/mover.

    • anon

      I’ve tipped $10-20 each mover, each time I’ve moved. This last move I tipped $15 each because they brought another guy and I didn’t have the ability to run over to get more cash out. I also provided bottles of water, sodas, coffee, teas, donuts and pizza each time. For four guys, I ordered six pizzas. It was more than enough food and they seemed super grateful.

      • FridayGirl

        +1. Please provide a bottle of water for each of them! My movers really appreciated it, but no food was necessary (it was right after lunchtime).

      • andie302

        I normally do $20/person, and definitely have water/Gatorade and lunch if the timing makes sense.

        Your move is going to go wayyyy smoother and faster with movers. Congrats…sometimes adulting is great :) I talked accountering into a mover for our move in May and it was the ONLY part of the move that went smoothly!

        • AliceInDC

          +1 hiring movers from my last move in D.C. was one of my best adult decisions to date. I’m already dreading a UHaul move next summer…

          I tipped $40/mover for that move + Gatorade/water but they were exceptional and my building manager was incredibly mean and went out of her way to make the move difficult for them.

        • Accountering

          I am just going to leave a +1 to hiring movers. If you are an adult, you should hire movers.

  • Quotia Zelda

    Rave: No rants today because…
    Rave: Tomorrow is Thanksgiving! I love Thanksgiving so, so much.
    Rave: The Pilgrims on PBS last night. Those Burns brothers are geniuses, and I’m glad my employer has the wisdom to support them.

    • Emmaleigh504

      I found the Pilgrims a little dull, but I did watch most of it. I think I’m not quite the target audience.

      • Quotia Zelda

        And I am 100% the target audience.

    • OffTheAvenue

      I was watching the Pilgrims until my daughter made fun of me (I was finding it a bit dull, also, TBH) so we switched over to Gone Girl on HBO– OK, I find that kinda funny. Happy Thanksgiving, all!

    • AMDCer

      I watched it, but couldn’t make it all the way through the Jamestown show. Hearing about cannibalism right before bed doesn’t make for a good night’s sleep…

    • AMDCer

      Did you watch “Saints & Strangers” on Nat Geo? I really liked it.

  • rachel

    question: I want to get a gift for a good friend who moved back to DC from the west coast a few months ago to take an incredibly grueling job (think, staying past midnight regularly during the week and working most weekends). she is also planning her wedding, and her fiancé still lives on the west coast. she is really into cooking, baking, and running, among other things, but I don’t think she has time for any of that stuff with the new job. What is a good gift that I can get her that takes her extremely limited schedule into account? I was thinking a birchbox membership – because it’s a fun package to get every month, and since it’s makeup/lotion so she can use it on the run. any other ideas? maybe something helpful for a new bride-to-be?

    • Emmaleigh504

      I just subscribed to Try the World and got my first box yesterday. It was full of good food, some that could be eaten right away (amazing tomato spread) and some ingredients (smoked paprika). If she likes food and cooking, she may like that.

      • rachel

        I was JUST coming back to ask if anyone had any health snack/food subscription services that they liked!!! that is a great suggestion, I will check it out!

        • I’ve been happy with graze.

    • anon

      A Le Cresuet or Staub french oven/pot. If she into cooking and doesn’t have one, she is going to love this. It’s pricey, but she will keep it for years. It goes from stove-top to oven, easy to clean and cooks meats wonderfully without having to really check on it. Sign up for Sur la Tables email listing and you can sometimes get coupons that do not exclude Staub.

      • AnonAgain

        There are also cast iron dutch ovens on Amazon that are a lot less pricey than Le Cresuet but still really good. My dad got one where the lid doubles as a cast iron pan and he loves that thing. Uses it to bake bread in addition to cooking all sorts of things.
        .
        If she’s short on time, maybe one of those combo pressure cooker/slow cookers that have a timer? That way she can cook without needing much actual active time to finish the meal. They get a bad rap, but I absolutely love my slow cooker, I use it for all sorts of meats, sauces, stews, soups, and to cook dried beans (can never get those things to cook properly on the stove, but in a slow cooker they’re perfect every time).
        .
        On the running side, maybe some accessories? She’ll need some gloves and maybe a hat soon, or maybe a small running backpack so she can run home from work (or to work) with her extra clothes, or a gift card to Underarmour or something.

        • HaileUnlikely

          Agreed. I’d go with one made by Lodge. They make good cast-iron stuff at very reasonable prices. (I don’t have a Lodge dutch oven, but I have lots of Lodge cast iron stuff and I am extremely happy with it. Their “Pro-Logic” product line tends to be slightly more expensive but significantly better than their regular line that just says “Lodge.”)
          .
          If you want a Le Cresuet, though, you can save a ton if you’re not in a hurry by checking frequently and waiting patiently until one pops up at Marshalls – they don’t always have them, but they do once in a while, at a significant discount.

          • anon

            Also HomeGoods. I saw a bunch at the Bailey’s Crossroads one a few weeks ago. The G-town store probably has them too.

          • Blithe

            I’ve also seen Staub for very good prices at Rodmans, and I’m pretty sure I’ve seen Le Creuset at TJ Maxx. Le Creuset also has outlet stores. I think there’s a HUGE difference between the Lodge cast iron cookware and the coated types like Staub. I would only get the plain cast iron type for someone that I was SURE wanted it. I’d get the coated type for pretty much anyone. I think the gift package idea is a good one — if your friend has someone to pick up the packages. If not, having to get things re-delivered or picking them up, or be worried that they’ll be left unattended could be a source of further stress. Do you think you could take your friend to one of your favorite restaurants — that she might not be familiar with — and try to get some ideas? Is there such a thing as gift cards to TaskRabbit? If her schedule is that tight, she might really appreciate having someone who can do running around errands for her.

        • anon

          Just be careful with buying enameled items that are red and made in China. I remember reading about how China doesn’t regulate the paint used and if it chips, there’s something in the red paint that can make you sick.

      • rachel

        thank you for the great suggestions, everyone!!! She has le creuset already (in fact, she gifted me and my partner a le creuset dutch oven when she stayed with us for several weeks before officially moving back), but I am filing all of these suggestions away for other people’s gift ideas :)
        Blithe – also great point about the packages. I texted her to ask if she could receive packages & luckily she has roommates with “non traditional” work schedules that are almost always home during the day to receive them.

        happy thanksgiving all!

    • Planner

      Gift card from Sur la Table?

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: too many doctors’ appointments, getting old sucks
    Rave: making funeral potatoes for Thanksgiving. making the cheese in the shape of a fish on honor of my grandpa who always ordered the seabass at Thanksgiving at his place.

  • phl2dc

    Rave: Early dismissal!

    • What time?!?

      • FridayGirl

        Me too! But only 59 minutes.

        • phl2dc

          59 minutes? What an odd number!

          • FridayGirl

            I’m pretty sure it’s the most amount of time anyone below the Secretary can release people. It’s probably in the FAM somewhere and I haven’t looked.

          • andie302

            This is the amount of time that a supervisor can give within their discretion. Otherwise, it have to come from higher authority. My problem is that my boss didn’t identify who is acting. If it’s me…we’re getting 59 minutes (unless something comes through department-wide, which happens occasionally).

          • anon

            It’s the amount an SES or Chief can authorize to civilians (non-military personnel). Anything more has to be authorized higher up in the chain.

          • textdoc

            What Andie302 said.

      • textdoc

        PoP, I think early dismissal varies by office — it’s not a uniform government-wide thing.

        • I think last year most folks were out by 3.

        • FridayGirl

          This is true. It varies by Bureau in my department.

        • anonymouse_dianne

          Most feds were given 2 hours admin leave. For me that works out to 3 pm, but folks who come in super early leave even earlier.

          • anon

            We’re getting 4 hrs admin, so it must vary from agency to agency.

          • lauren

            i get out 3 hours early where i am. ;-)

            1:00!

        • Anonamom

          So jealous. No early dismissal here :(

      • phl2dc

        2 pm y’all!

        • FridayGirl

          Congrats! That’s nice!

        • Pixie

          Woot!! Same here :-)

      • 1:00 for me! Can’t actually believe it…guess that’s in lieu of getting bonuses/decent raises this year.

        • phl2dc

          :-\

      • Quotia Zelda

        My agency is out at 2, which gives me lots of time to pick up the turkey and bake pies.

    • mvexplorer

      :( My agency NEVER gives early dismissal. Hoping for a Thanksgiving miracle!

      • rachel

        mine doesn’t either, but my boss will definitely give out 59 minutes.

    • andy2

      I get 3 hours – thanks Ernie.
      The MARC and BWI are sure to be a joy.

  • Anonamom

    Rave: After trips to three different grocery stores in the last 18 hours, I believe I finally have everything I need for Thanksgiving dinner tomorrow. I really hope the $4.24 bag of mini marshmallows from Whole Foods were worth it taste-wise… they were, at least, worth not having to go to a different grocery store later in the afternoon.
    Rave: I am a (sort of?) aunt! Ex-SIL whom I am still pretty friendly with gave birth to a healthy baby girl earlier in the week. She shares a middle name with my daughter, which I find beyond sweet. Can’t wait to see them in a few weeks! Not sure if I’ll get to be an “auntie” in title, but I realize now that really doesn’t matter anyway.
    Rave? Rant?: I seem to have entered my annual period of career self-reflection. Before kids, I was on track to go to nursing school with hopes of becoming an NP one day. Now that I’m a decade older, have experienced pretty much every aspect of healthcare, I still feel strongly pulled to this. With the kids all in school, being at a point where I am finally financially stable enough to take care of things financially while attending school, and having a supportive partner, I’m beginning to wonder if it’s time to make the jump. The one hitch being that I already have a pretty well-established career in a different area, and it might be silly to give that up. Sigh. Decisions, decisions.

    • fka Shawess

      Anonamom, could I ask you to send me an email to chat privately about on of your raves? I’m at shawessdc at gmail. Thanks!

      • Anonamom

        Sure thing!

    • Caroline

      If it’s the same bag of mini marshmallows I was forced to buy at Whole Foods last year, they are terrible. I still have a partial bag I should just throw away.

      • FridayGirl

        Uh oh. I feel your rave/rant about taking so many trips to different stores. I only planned to do a little thanksgiving by myself so I’d have leftovers, but it took me three grocery stores to find a turkey breast that didn’t cost as much as a full-sized turkey at Trader Joe’s. At that point I gave up and bought the cheapest one I found, which was at Giant, and I’m thinking that it might be terrible.

        • Anonamom

          Don’t fret! You can still make it awesome. Butter and herbs will make the cheapest of turkeys taste yummy. Just be careful not to overcook.

          • FridayGirl

            Thanks, anonamom! I’ll try that. (I’ve just been spoiled after so many years when I was younger going to the actual turkey farm to get our family’s fresh turkey the day before thanksgiving. A “Giant Foods” brand turkey just seems fundamentally wrong. Hah!)

          • Anonamom

            Completely understand :) I’m not sure what you are planning, but another way to punch up flavor would be to place a bundle of fresh herbs (poultry mix works well), fresh cranberries, and a few slices of oranges in the cavity. The flavor just permeates the meat. the Yes in Petworth had a ton of fresh cranberries as a very reasonable price (less than $2 for 8oz I think?) and as of last night also had packs of pre-cut poultry herds.

          • Emmaleigh504

            cook the bird with champers or beer to make it really moist and delish! This is how I cook my chickens and omg the yummm http://www.food.com/recipe/juicy-champagne-thanksgiving-day-turkey-401313

      • Anonamom

        Ahh, damnit! If that over-priced bag of marshmallows ruins my sweet potatoes, i will be pissed.

        • Caroline

          It could be worse. I bought several bags of the marshmallows to put in hot cocoa jar favors for my sister’s baby shower. I didn’t realize how bad they were until it was too late to exchange them. Some things really shouldn’t be “natural” or “organic” or whatever supposedly justified the price.

        • saf

          Ok, I like those marshmallows.

          Although, I don’t eat any marshmallows straight. I cook with them.

    • blahblahblah

      FWIW, I have a friend who was in a similar place in her life when she went to nursing school. She has three kids, and I imagine that her husband helped out a lot. But she got through it. She is now working as an RN and really enjoying it. Good luck!

      • Anonamom

        Thanks for this :) I’m really glad it worked out for her. In a lot of ways, its a career that would be better for my family. I’ve looked into program at the community college in the county I will potentially be moving to, and they have an accelerated program to complete the courses and clinicals in one year. This is incredibly appealing to me, and was not an option when I previously considered this move.

        • blahblahblah

          It sounds like the stars are aligning for you to do this!

  • dcd

    Rave: Made Rick Bayless’s black beans with pork shoulder. It hits 3.5 of the 4 sweet spots: easy (slow cooker, and simple sauce); multiple means; daughter likes it, and it’s not total unhealthy (that’s the .5 rating- 1.5 lbs of pork shoulder isn’t health food, but spread over 2 dinners it isn’t too bad).
    Rave: my chicken soup is a big hit – needs a little tweaking, but well on its way to being a staple.
    Rave: seeing extended family the next few days.
    Rant: New house not ready until January.
    Rant: the breakneck treadmill begins now – Thanksgiving, final (and numerous) house decisions, daughter’s birthday, Christmas, holiday travel (though it’s a week skiing in Utah, so I’m not exactly begging for sympathy), packing, and them move in early January.
    Rant: Cost of window treatments and furniture.

    • anon

      What kind of window treatments do you need? I have practically brand new curtains in neutral colors that I am planning on bringing to the Goodwill. Buyers of my house are allergic to cats and were going to throw everything out. Sellers of my new house left their super nice custom wooden blinds so no need for them here.

      • dcd

        I . . . have no idea. Not my department, but I’ll ask my wife. Thanks!

  • RachMd

    Rave: Staying in DC for Turkey day with friends = zero drama
    Rave: It’s a ghost town. Wonderful time to hit up museums and the movies
    Revel: Applying to a job where a good friend works even though I’m under qualified. Friend asked the hiring manager about the qualifications and said I should apply anyway, so at least I might have an in for a first interview.
    Rant: NO RANTS. Have a Wonderful Thanksgiving!

  • It’s just me

    Rant: I chipped my 2.5 qt Pyrex and went to replace it and now they only sell 2 qt and 3 qt pyrex. I feel like Goldilocks. I have several recipes that fit perfectly into a 2.5 qt, but will overflow a 2 qt and I’ve tried in a 3qt and the 3qt is just too big. Grrr.

    Rave: finally cleaning out my house

    Rant: how the heck am I going to get all of this stuff to Goodwill?

    • andie302

      Ebay?

      • andie302

        I should’ve qualified – for the 2.5 qt pyrex, not the stuff that needs to go to Goodwill.

    • anonymous

      Maybe try Corning or Anchor Hocking – I bought a Corningware 2.5 quart baking dish within the past couple of years (advice might not apply to the shape you’re looking for).

    • It’s just me

      Thanks for the advice on the Pyrex. Probably too late for tomorrow (I didn’t see any Corning or Anchor at the store last night), but it gives me hope for the future! :)

    • dcd

      Ahh, memories. All through high school, and summers during college, I worked at the Corning Factory Store (or Corning-Revere Factory Store), even rising to the exalted rank of 4th Assistant Manager. If I had a nickel for every customer who came in and complained that the replacement lids didn’t fit her 35 year old casserole with the little blue flower on it, or the new Pyrex(TM) measuring cup didn’t stack correctly with her 16-yo old ones, I’d never have had to work a day in my life.
      I still have a couple of pots that somehow, mysteriously, got dented and had to be written off just before I moved to my college apartment.

    • georgetowner

      Vietnam Veterans of America will come and pick junk off your front porch. Inspired by fka Shawess’ long-ago organizing binge, I’ve had them come by three times already to pick up stuff. If I had to wait to find a car and haul stuff to Goodwill myself, it would never happen and my basement would now be impassable.

  • Farragut

    RANT: Allison’s out of town this week, and
    .
    RANT: I’m working here all week (yes, including tomorrow).
    .
    RAVE: More book-reading time, I guess! After I get out of work today, I need to rush to a couple libraries before they close for the holiday.

  • Irving Streete

    Rant: Wife’s birthday today on top of the prospect of cooking and hosting Thanksgiving tomorrow without her putting me in a reflective mood. Over the years we put on or played lead chef a lot of good dinners for a lot of great friends, too many of whom will not be there tomorrow.
    .
    Rave: Cooking tonight and tomorrow with my daughter. I have some dear friends who are great cooks, some of whom I’ve been sharing a kitchen with since my daughter was very young, but there’s a rhythm and communication with her that I don’t have with anyone else — kind of a Jacques and Julia or Mick and Keith thing going on. I just have to remember that she pretty much cooks as well as I do and keep the fatherly/chefly advice to a minimum. She has so much of her mother in her.
    .
    Rave: My girlfriend. Stepping into difficult situation and handling it with utter aplomb, making the house and the table look beautiful, tolerating my uncharacteristic anal-retentiveness and occasional outbursts as the whole thing comes together.
    .
    Rave: Another gathering of the tribes. Plus wine. Can’t beat that.

    • phl2dc

      JACQUES AND JULIA! Aww, what a great pair.
      .
      You have a wife and a girlfriend?

      • Anonamom

        His wife passed away.

        • phl2dc

          Ohhh, must have missed that part, sorry. I’m not good at remembering who is who on this forum just yet :(

      • lauren

        i assumed his wife was deceased….?

    • AliceInDC

      I love your first rave.

    • I Dont Get It

      **** to your rave!!!

  • FridayGirl

    Rave: It’s a beautiful day in the neighborhood!
    .
    Rave: Feeling in the holiday spirit, and getting a lot of work done at work and work done on my final paper, too.
    .
    Rant: Things are still going with the Guy, but I’ve been feeling more and more restless about our time together. I want to spend time with him but he hasn’t planned a real “date” for us in several weeks. We either end up staying in (which is boring for me, since I’m sitting inside most of the week as it is) or I end up suggesting something and feeling like I’m dragging him around and he’s not interested. I’ve realized this may just be a fundamental incompatibility. I had high hopes for this one, too….

    • Anonamom

      Have you tried discussing this with him? My BF and I are the same way – I like to go out, he doesn’t. Sometimes I have to compromise, sometimes he has to compromise. For me, it’s worth it, but if it’s not for you, then there’s other conversations you need to have.

      • FridayGirl

        I tried mentioning it to him when he called yesterday but it didn’t go so well (it went from me suggesting “Can we just go out on Saturday on a date and I can finish my final on Sunday?” to him countering “Well in that case, let’s just take a weekend off and you can spend both days finishing your final” which sounded knee-jerk, immature, and was a red-flag). I think we need to talk in person and then, yes, we may need to have a different conversation….

        • Anonamom

          Yikes. That is a red flag to me. My knee-jerk response in reading that was “well, eff you too, buddy.”

          • FridayGirl

            Ha, yeah, I basically just said I needed to go and hung up at that point.

        • phl2dc

          RED FLAG! RED FLAG! This reminds me of a past relationship of mine that had similar red flags and I still went on with it because I really liked him. NOPE. NEVER AGAIN.

          • FridayGirl

            My next calculation is: Can I put it off dealing with it until finals finish in a week and a half. Normally I would just peace out, but my last break-up before this (almost 2 years ago) was also the week before finals and it was awful.

          • HaileUnlikely

            Ditto, although honestly, I was in the guy’s role, not in FridayGirl’s. I don’t think I was as averse to going out as this guy sounds like he may be, but she wanted to do stuff much more often than I did, and wanted to do more time-intensive stuff than I did (frequent day trips etc.) Going our separate ways was definitely best for both of us.

          • Anonamom

            In that case, I say take him up on his “break” idea and go from there.

        • blahblahblah

          Oh, that reminds me a lot of my first BF. He was great in a lot of ways, but he HATED going out. (I think he had some social anxiety.) He would go with me, but would be so miserable that it wasn’t much fun for me. At the time, I was much more of a social butterfly than I am now, so I remember it feeling really constricting that he always just wanted to hang out at home. Good luck, that is a tough position to be in.

          • FridayGirl

            Thanks. Yeah, he’s a good guy overall, so it’s been frustrating for me the past couple of weekends. But if we’re incompatible we’re incompatible. (It’s funny because I think the last guy I dated was actually a little too much on the opposite end of the spectrum — he ALWAYS want to be out. Which was exhausting. I just want to go out for awhile and go home. So I understand from both sides. I’m having a goldilocks problem.)

          • Anon Spock

            There is rarely a perfect fit in dating. You’re idea to go out 1 day and work the other sounds very reasonable to me, and his rejection of it screams red flag to me also.
            Any relationship worth it’s salt has compromise.

        • Blithe

          Contrarian viewpoint: Since there’s no way for me to tell what the BF’s tone was like when he made his comments, is it at all possible that during a very hectic holiday weekend, he tried to be considerate of your need to study and tried to give you all the time that you needed to study for your final — instead of nudging you to spend time when you could be studying hanging out with him? I ask, because when I was in graduate school, someone who could temporarily put my personal needs and goals above the mutual push for us to hang out would definitely have been a keeper. Either way, I agree that you two need to talk in person about how you spend your time, and how you decide how to spend your time together.

  • Blithe

    Rave: As my holiday plans have been forced to change by circumstances that I can’t control, I appreciate the opportunities to create and share new traditions, even as I miss the old ones. Bittersweet is not a bad place to be.
    Rave: I spent part of yesterday having a lovely, unexpected, wonderful chat with a nonagenarian neighbor. Yay neighbors.
    Rave: Despite my quite valid complaints, I do recognize that it’s better to have things and not need them than to need things and not have them.
    Rave: Gratitude. And the recognition and appreciation of how much I have to be thankful for — even as I work to improve many things that need to be improved.
    Rave: Happy Thanksgiving to my PoPville friends and community!

  • emvee

    Rave: Adele on Jimmy Fallon with kazoos and a xylophone on repeat is making me happy.
    Rave: Kiss Me Kate at STC tonight.
    Rant: Neighbors still refusing to lock the front gate after the spitting-in-the-face incident. So glad we’re out of there soon.
    Rave: The dog becomes exponentially more snuggly as the days become colder.

    • Pixie

      I have also noticed this trend of decreasing temperatures and increasing doggie snuggles :-)

  • fka Shawess

    Rant: Definitely not seeing an improvement in my health, so it really looks like I could be here for a while. Possibly months, even.
    Rave: I still feel like I’m getting amazing care and trust my doctors to make the right calls on whether I stay or go.
    Strange: I LOVE Thanksgiving and am not the slightest bit sad about possibly missing this year’s festivities. There’s nowhere I’d rather be than in a safe, stable place with my girls

    • andie302

      Sorry to hear there’s no improvement, but happy to hear you’re getting great care! Absolutely agree on taking care of you and the girls :) This will be a Thanksgiving you’ll never forget! I love your great attitude! Fingers crossed that you see some improvement, or at least remain stable.

    • Blithe

      I’m sorry that things have not improved — but very glad that you’re getting amazing care and have a team of doctors that you trust. I’m not sure how to word this, but it’s so cool that you’re already in Mommy-mode: this Thanksgiving, you’re doing what’s best for your health and doing the best possible things that you can for your daughters. Although this year will certainly be a different type of celebration, I hope that it’s wonderful in it’s own way for you and your growing family. ((hugs))

    • Anonamom

      I’m sorry things haven’t improved, but I’m very glad that you are under great care! On your “strange” – you are having your own little Thanksgiving with them, you’re not missing out, just changing things up a little :)

    • Emmaleigh504

      Thoah and Thuy are happy they are in a safe place with you. Hopefully your husband can bring some Thanksgiving yummies to you.

      • Blithe

        Thoah and Thuy? Not Blithe and Bliss? ;-) I’m also wondering what the Fruit of the Week update is now…..

        • fka Shawess

          Coconuts, heads of cauliflower, or eggplants. But with wiggly, stabby limbs :) I also think baby b is trying to get out the side door, which is just as weird and painful as it sounds :)

          • Blithe

            Ouch! But also very cool! It will be interesting to see if baby b turns out to be very independent and adventurous! And thanks for the update: I’m imagining dancing eggplants! :-)

        • Emmaleigh504

          I named them Thoah Melancond Lastname and Thuy Hebert Lastname ages ago. Shawess and Mr Shawess are totally on board with my names. ;) I like Blithe and Bliss though… maybe they could have 2 middle names.

          • Emmaleigh504

            crap. Thoah Melacon Lastname.

          • I Dont Get It

            What?

          • Emmaleigh504

            I’m the baby namer as well as the enabler :D

  • Anon Spock

    Undecided: Date had some good and bad qualities. The holiday will give me some time to mull it over. If nothing else, I was able to try a new restaurant.
    Rant/rave: Having to let a friend go because they can’t have fun without getting drunk. Hope they get help soon.
    Rave: At least 2 Thanksgivings to visit.
    Rave: Plenty of sleep in my future.

  • Pixie

    Rave – Tried out a new taco place for dinner last night, J&J’s on Georgia Ave and Sheridan. It was delicious.
    Rave – Early dismissal today!! Happy Thanksgiving Popville!

  • kanon

    Rave: planning a trip to Puerto Rico this January with my mum. I think we’ll do a combo of beach/el yunque, and i welcome any and all suggestions for places to eat/stay/do.
    .
    Rave: flexsgiving. Celebrating the holiday friday so more family can come together without traffic nightmares

    • AliceInDC

      I love the Bacardi tour.

  • topscallop

    Rave: with all my world travels this year, my holiday gift shopping is done.
    Rant: for everyone except my boyfriend of two months. He’s apparently gotten me gifts already (and probably gone overboard) and I’m not sure what to get him. Does anyone have recommendations for a meat of the month club type thing? Bacon or jerky or something local, not too expensive? I was also thinking a cooking class or tickets to something we could do together would be nice, and a new set of high-thread count sheets. He’s coming home with me for the holidays so I also need to fill a stocking…

    • It’s just me

      Sur La Table has some good cooking classes – including some “Date Night” cooking classes that are billed as couples classes.

      • topscallop

        Thanks!

        • It’s just me

          Oh, and another Sur La Table hint – for their classes, there tend to be more men in the cooking classes and no men in the baking classes. And, at least in my experience, I’ve seen more men in the ethnic classes. Granted, its a pretty small sample size, and I haven’t taken any grilling classes or really meat-centric classes (which they offer).

    • Pixie

      It’s not local, but Zingerman’s (an amazing deli/cafe in Ann Arbor, MI) does a wide variety of meat, bacon, and other food of the month clubs. Their products tend to be on expensive side but Zingerman’s quality is excellent.

      • AliceInDC

        +1!

    • Emmaleigh504

      I don’t know how much they cost, but Omaha Steaks are meat gifts my family sends. They are delicious.

  • andy2

    Rave: Thanksgiving and have lots to be thankful for
    Rave: Early dismissal
    Rave: Upgrades confirmed for flights today
    Rant: Laundry service is going out of business
    Rave: Found a new service that is cheaper!

  • Rant: grief is such a funny thing. Yesterday was the anniversary of my mom’s death. She’s been dead for half my life and was in a vegetative state (similar to Terri Schiavo) for the last 5 years. There’s not a whole lot for me to miss (I don’t remember birth-10 years all that well and a lot of it was crappy). So then I feel guilty for not being terribly sad. I cry about everything else, but not this.

    • phl2dc

      Don’t feel guilty. Most of all, don’t let anybody make you feel bad about not being terribly sad.

      • Emmaleigh504

        +1 feel your feels, no anyone else’s.

      • Nobody except for me is making me feel guilty. Basically it’s just made me go a little bit cuckoo.

    • Anonamom

      Agreed – don’t feel guilty. In situations like these, you had years to mourn your mom before she was gone. We all deal with grief in different ways, and that doesn’t make any of our grief any more or less real.

    • Blithe

      Your grief is YOUR grief, and how you handle it is how YOU handle it, so I hope that you can eventually let go of any guilt that you feel for not feeling a certain way. I’m sorry for your loss — the things that you remember, and the things that you don’t; the things that didn’t get to happen, and the things that did — that hurt.

    • Quotia Zelda

      I’m similar. I’m such a crier – “Allentown” makes me cry, FFS (apparently I have strong feelings about the Rust Belt) – but I only cry a very, very little when beloved pets or relatives die. Instead, I talk about them. Incessantly, to anyone who will listen. I think a lot of people find that odd, but it’s how I deal with grief.

    • eggs

      Everyone feels grief in their own way, it doesn’t make you a bad person to experience it differently.

  • AliceInDC

    Rave: Going home today!!! SO excited to see my people and regroup.
    Rant: Have to sit through one more class before heading to the airport…
    Rant: Turkey Trots always seem like a good idea when I sign up a month out.
    Rave: Convinced my non-running dad to run it with me while my runner mom kicks both of our a*sses.

    • HaileUnlikely

      I have fond memories of once being young and fit and actually being competitive in my local Turkey Trot. Now I’m older and heavier and lazier and am anticipating getting my @ss kicked by my 11-year-old cousin who still thinks of me as the runner that I was when he was five.

  • The OP Anon

    RAVE: at my sister’s brand-new gorgeous home in NC (I’m amazed what $240K will get you in the middle-of-nowhere) with my brand new niece. She’s a little grumpy worm, but she’s my grumpy worm :)
    RANT: due to hell’ish traffic in VA on I-95, we got into NC late yesterday and all the good BBQ places were shut down. Had a middling meal at Smithfield’s outside Raleigh.
    RAVE: getting delicious BBQ in an hour at the Carthage airfield. GIT IN MY BELLY.

  • zem

    Rave?: Long-time lurker venturing into here…time to break out of a social rut and finally comment. And perhaps show up at the next HH to meet y”all?!
    .
    Rave: AliceInDC’s comments about MLaw. They mirror my experience, and I firmly believe that law school at Michigan (v. the other options) was one of the best decisions of my life. (AliceInDC, hope you continue to enjoy! And, you must take Blood Feuds with Miller!!)
    .
    Rant: A pest company did two years of regular service before noticing termite damage?! Really? They’ve already concluded the termites are gone, but the first few guys didn’t pick up on the damage in the first place. Grr.
    .
    Revel: Thanksgiving food! Yum! I’d actually be happy eating cornbread dressing all day and nothing else….

    • Emmaleigh504

      welcome. and now you’ve got me thinking about HH. I don’t think I can pull one together for December, but can someone else? I can totally do Jan, tho.

      • andie302

        I probably can! Any particular day/time? I’ll check in with people early next week and go from there. Hint: It’ll probably be somewhere we’ve been before :)

        • Emmaleigh504

          The beauty of planning HH is picking the day and place that works for you!

      • I Dont Get It

        Ugly Christmas Sweater theme!

  • zem

    Well, as a newcomer, I don’t really have a vote, but I’ll be there if it isn’t 12/9 or 12/11.

    • zem

      And I’ll try to reply better between now and then! Happy Turkey Day, all!

      • FridayGirl

        Same! And I promise I will actually come this time since I will be DONE WITH CLASSES! :D

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