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by Prince Of Petworth August 17, 2015 at 9:30 am 190 Comments

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

  • FridayGirl

    Rant: 3 potential dates this past weekend. Actual number of dates that occurred: 0. Thanks, Tinder!
    Rave: Rested, organized, went to H Mart!
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    Rant/Rave/Question: My office has been hinting that they would like me to leave for awhile. I applied to a new position last Thursday and should hear back for an interview mid-week this week. I was previously scolded for not telling them I applied for my language fellowhip this past summer until I received it. Should I mention that I’m looking for a new position, or just keep it to myself until I’m hired (which is my preferred method)? I don’t want to stab myself in the foot by hinting that I’m actually looking to leave since I’ve held a hard line that I’m not going anywhere.

    • Anon Spock

      I understand their issue with the fellowship, but I wouldn’t mention the job search. The fellowship was basically an extended vacation that you dropped on them vs you looking to leave for good. In the future, I’d mention fellowships and the like, so they have time to get someone on standby.

      • textdoc

        Agreed on this. The fellowship had an impact on them because it meant you were gone for an extended period while you were still working for them. The prospect of a new job is something totally different.

    • Luckycat

      I agree, do not mention the job search. What kind of hints have they been giving that lead you to believe they want you to leave?

      • FridayGirl

        Thanks for the feedback on this, Luckycat and Anon Spock! I’m glad I had the right idea about not mentioning the job search.
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        My last day of work before I left for my fellowship, my supervisor (almost verbatim) told me that they think I would fit better elsewhere and that I should start looking for a new position. When I returned last week, they changed my portfolio away from my area of interest and now I just have random stuff that doesn’t really fit into other people’s work.

        • Anon Spock

          Sounds like the fellowship affected them understandably hard. A lesson learned if you do another.

    • CarmieCarms

      Yeah don’t tell them about the job thing.

      Are you back in town!? :)

      • FridayGirl

        I am!! And hoping to go to the happy hour this Wednesday! Huzzah! Will I see you there?

    • Accountering

      Don’t mention the job search. If they know you are looking to leave, they may lay you off or terminate you on their terms. Always look out for #1 (you!) in a case like this.

      • my old boss on the Hill always told me to never leave a job until you signed papers for a new one if you don’t have to. Always hold your cards close.

        I don’t understand the fellowship anger – if my employee (if I had one) did this, I’d be happy – more educated employee, looks good for my organization that I have people receiving such fellowships, ect. However, the Fed manager side tends to disagree because they seem to generally not like anyone doing anything they haven’t done, aren’t doing, or that doesn’t directly benefit them. Sorry you’re being pushed out!

        • Anon Spock

          The issue appears to be the lack of ample notice, but it’s not clear how far out they knew.

          • FridayGirl

            They knew about 3.5 months in advance of the fellowship. The time between my applying and receiving the fellowship was only about 3 weeks, so while more advance notice may have been helpful, they are being a irrationally irritated about it, imho. Jindc is right about the feds though!

          • Anon Spock

            Aww ok I got the impression it was MUCH less notice. That certainly sucks, but hopefully you’ll get something better & you’ll look back and laugh.

          • textdoc

            How long was the fellowship — a month or so?
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            I have to say that if I had an entry-level employee who was taking off a month (or more) to do something that wasn’t directly related to his/her job, I wouldn’t be too thrilled about it either.

          • …I’d be thrilled that I had an employee that showed initiative for professional development, especially if it was at no cost to my office. I guess this is why I have no desire to be in charge of people. Just seems like most managers want you to stay put so you eventually become unable to get a better job because your skillset hasn’t improved.

          • textdoc

            Maybe I phrased that poorly. My impression was that the fellowship fit in well with FridayGirl’s interests, but was in no way related to her current job.
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            I do think it was bad form for them to grant the leave and then grumble about it before and afterward, though. If it was that big of a deal for them, they should’ve just said, “Sorry, we can’t spare you for that long.”

          • textdoc

            I do think it’s true that federal managers often put their immediate needs waaaaay ahead of employee development, though. A few jobs ago, I wanted to do a detail in another office within my agency. It took close to two years for management to be willing to let me do it, and it was for only a month!
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            Meanwhile, when someone in management wanted to do a SIX-MONTH detail somewhere else, all of us people lower down had to scramble to accommodate it.

          • FridayGirl

            The fellowship was 8 weeks, but my current position is a position specifically for Master’s students, and the fellowship was a requirement for my Master’s program to get me to a certain language proficiency level (which it did). So although it wasn’t directly related to my work, my position (in theory and contract) does allow for absence due to academic requirements.
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            Anyway, long story short, if I receive offer for new job, new job will be in office directly related to my interests and I’m sure all parties involved will be happy in the long run.

          • textdoc

            Thanks for the clarification, FridayGirl. Yeah, under those circumstances it does seem odd that your boss would be making such a fuss.
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            Fingers crossed for your getting an interview and an offer!

          • FridayGirl

            Thanks, textdoc!

  • nick

    I kept thinking of that Tom Petty song yesterday watching the Nationals game. Everybody with me now! “I’m freeeeee, free fallin’!”

    • palisades

      Last year, FP, the MASN Nats broadcaster, would always say “Enjoy the Ride Folks.” That was while we were winning 10 games in a row and walk-offs were a daily occurrence. Boy how things have changed.
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      I think this team is worn out. There seems to be a hangover from last year or something. We need some fresh blood. Werth needs to sit his ass on the bench. Span needs to come back.
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      Honestly though, even if we somehow manage to make it into the playoffs, we don’t stand a chance in hell.

      • Hangover?

        Hangover from last year? Wouldn’t that have manifested early in the year when they were in first place?

        New blood? Scherzer? Papelbon?

        Any other cliches available?

        • palisades

          Have you watched any games this year? lol. They were awful for the beginning of the season. Then they went on a tear for a month, took over first, and have now begun a freefall.
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          Yeah Scherzer and Pap are new blood, but we still have the same guys at bat every day, and they aren’t performing. Scherzer just looks worn out now, and I’m not even sure Pap still plays for the Nats.

  • AnotherLonelyDay

    Rant: I fell in love with a wonderful guy who fears commitment. Cliche, I know. And I should have seen it coming, but the first few months were so great and now it’s reared it’s ugly head.
    Rant: I can talk to him about it, but I can’t fix it.
    Rave: Hearts heal, it just takes time.

    • say what

      I know you dont want to hear this but its been my experinece that people don’t fear committment in general, they fear committment to specific people. Everyone knows that guy or woman, who serial dates, or dates someoen for 10 years but never gets married and then boom. married to someone else 10 months later. He doesn’t want to commit to YOU. Just move on to someone who will be totally into you, you deserve nothing less.

      • Emily

        Benedict Cumberbatch comes to mind. He had a 12 year relationship with a woman. The broke up and *boom* he’s married. And I think they have a kid now.

      • AnotherLonelyDay

        Thanks, I do appreciate a different perspective. While I think what you’re talking about does happen, I also think some people run from relationship after relationship because it doesn’t meet some unobtainable vision they have in their mind. His history and some other info. I now have suggests that’s the case here. But either way, you’re right: I should be in a relationship with someone who wants to be in a relationship with me.

        • FridayGirl

          Totally agree with both you and “say what” — I dated a serial dater and have no doubt he’ll eventually pick someone and settle down someday, but I also think that it’s going to take the realization that he will literally never find someone who is 100% ideal. (And I’m sure there are women that are looking for far-too-perfect men, as well.)

    • jdegg

      I think that guy just broke up with me. He told me early on that he goes out with someone for six months and then feels the need to move on. I thought I was the one to change all that. I lasted 5.5 months. He’s on to his next fling.

      • Anon Spock

        He was upfront, and you didn’t believe him…but seriously who does that? Why not just casually date ppl rather than having these short term involvements?

      • AnotherLonelyDay

        I’m sorry. I hope you’ve been able to move on. You deserve better.

      • FridayGirl

        Ha! I had the “Well, it’s been 3 months and I don’t think it’s going to work.” talk one time then I realized that’s what people do. That was lame but 6 months is even stranger…. So sorry!

        • jdegg

          This guy is never going to settle until he gets so old he needs someone in the house. His idea of a great vacation is three weeks alone on a camping trip, and going camping alone every long weekend. And I was the Friday girl.

    • Irving Streete

      Just curious — how long had you been seeing the guy? What sort of commitment were you pressing for? Is there a particular urgency that brought matters to a head?

      • Anon Spock

        I’m curious for a response, but I couldn’t imagine continuing to date someone after several months if they won’t commit (I’m thinking more being exclusive not getting married, of course). Same if someone said they didn’t want kids or whatever.

        • Irving Streete

          I’m not sure what “commit” means in this case, though. After about a year my wife-to-be and I put the melodrama (emphatically NOT commitment-related) behind us drifted along quite happily and monogamously for 6 or 7 years — moving in together but without any promises — until it became pretty clear we were both in it for the long term (plus, it made the grandparents so happy when we made the legal). On the other hand, we were pretty young and had a lot of time.

          • Anon Spock

            Yea, I’d be married in much shorter time, but I’m pragmatic. I’m leery to live with someone I’m not at least engaged to. People are buying property with someone they’re just dating….way too scary for me.
            We don’t know about commit, so hopefully we’ll figure it out.

      • AnotherLonelyDay

        Ah, the challenges of posting personal info. in an online, anonymous forum. ;) We’e been together 6 months and have been exclusive almost the entire time. I’m not thinking about marriage or even living together so not those types of commitment. I’m talking more about being “all in” and really giving a relationship a chance to see what it will become. Does that make sense to anyone but me?
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        He’s been noticeably distant at times lately and I’ve been hesitant to ask him about it because of some things I don’t want to share here. But it’s gotten to where I can’t ignore it and still be happy. I know what I need to do, I just don’t want to do it.

        • Anon Spock

          Hmmm no, I don’t see how an affirmation makes it different than it is right now. Are you talking emotional availability? I’m just confused how you aren’t giving a relationship a chance by seeing how things go and being exclusive.

      • AnotherLonelyDay

        I also just want to add that I trust him and I really don’t think there’s someone else. It’s really not his MO.

        • Anon16

          Are you dating my ex? Sounds exactly like the last relationship I was in. But get out now before you get sucked into 2 years of dating, only to find out its not going anywhere.

          But for real, sorry you are going through this. It sucks and the “acting distant” is so damaging to one’s self-esteem. It’s worth not being in a relationship to not have to handle that and constantly questioning yourself, him, and what you have.

          • SinSA

            It happened to me, too. It really sucks, all of it sucks. But having clarity helps, and so does moving on. (Almost 2 years of dating The Boy as well)

  • skj84

    Rave: First day at new job today!! I feel like the new kid transferring in. I hope the other kids like me!

    Crowd Sourced question: I have to move at the end of the month. I may have a room set up, but in case it falls through I’m looking for backup. I’m not super picky on neighborhood, just looking for a range of $750-$1000. Preferable with only 1-2 roommates, but at this point I’ll take what I can get. Anyone have any leads? Any help would be much obliged.

    • Emily

      Hurray new job!

    • FridayGirl

      Congrats on the new job, and good luck with the housing search!

    • Of course all the new kids will like you — you’re skj!

    • MPinDC

      Yay for the new job!!

  • Anon Spock

    Rave: Awesome weekend
    Rave?: I think I have a date planned next week, but she’s super slow to respond/hasn’t confirmed.
    Rant: People who favorite you online then don’t want to talk and meet. Just dumb!
    Rave: 2 weeks to closing!

  • Emily

    Uppmärksamhet: Unofficial HH at Southern Hospitality in Adams Morgan on Wednesday, August 19. Theme: Red
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    I plan on being there at 5. The hostess has a place for us at the bar, to the left when you first walk in. Or ask for Emily, Popville, or Prince of Petworth. See ya then!

  • Blithe

    Rant: RIP Julian Bond. Hearing Julian Bond speak when I was a kid helped me to understand the importance of being an activist. I appreciate the spark.
    Rave: Westminster Church Jazz Night. I went for the first time last week. The atmosphere was comfortable, diverse, and welcoming, and the music was stellar. I will definitely be doing this on a regular basis. Next time I’ll try the food too.
    Rant: Somehow I’ve managed to misplace the “serious” book that I’ve been planning to read. How?
    Rant: Water from Brita pitcher tastes icky. Way yuck. Since I drink a LOT of water, I’m researching options.
    Rave: Lots of down time with friends, and even a few good deeds accomplished. Life is Good. And with some re-commitments, I’m determined to make it even better.

    • artemis

      I share your rant regarding Julian Bond. He really was an amazing speaker and an incredible human being and activist.

    • Herewegoagain

      If you are looking for a water filter for home use I recommend Aquasana. I have two under sink models at home. I think they have pitchers now too but have never tried them.

      • Blithe

        Thanks for the suggestion.

  • LittleBluePenguin

    Rant: Monday. Have a massive sinus headache and my migraine medicine is barely touching it. Contemplating going home, but I generally think that unless I’m throwing up or have a high fever, I should be at work. Meh.
    Rave: Good, fairly relaxing and productive weekend.

  • CarmieCarms

    Crazy summer.
    RomCom is awesome, in case anyone wanted an update on the post-first-date/wedding thing.
    Got back from my trip 2 weeks ago, still kinda getting in the swing of things, but….
    My boss is out for 2 weeks so I get to fill her shoes momentarily. Whoop!
    Random RAVE: My friend granted my birthday wish and is sending me those pop vinyl characters, creating a red-headed army to frighten people away from my desk. Because I’m a professional boss lady now.

    • CarmieCarms

      RANT: Super bummed about not being able to see Stevie Wonder this morning.

      • skj84

        Same! If course even if I wasn’t working, I probably would just be waking up.

      • SinSA

        Me TOO.

      • blahblahblah

        Seriously. Can we get a little more notice on the awesome concerts, please?

    • Yay on the RomCom update! Thanks for satisfying our collective curiosity!

  • domrep

    Rant: Summer colds are awful, looked like I was feeling better towards the end of last week but felt run down by the end of the weekend. Couldn’t sleep last night, thought I could sleep off a headache and woke up with one.
    Rant: Thought I would feel less stressed out after having booked our wedding venue and caterer, but the stress has come back again when looking for a photographer. I don’t know how involved the groom is when it comes to wedding planning, but I made a commitment to be as involved as I can be. I think it’s just the price tag that shocks me more than anything. In my head, I’m like “really? all this to take pics?” I get the work that’s put in afterwards, but it’s somewhat of a culture shock.
    Rave: Met with a photographer and a videographer yesterday and he’s quoting me a price that would be really hard to beat. We’ll still look around but considering the average for just photos alone is like $3500, the package he offered is a bargain.
    Rave: 2 weeks until a quick Bahamian cruise, hopefully hurricane season stays as quiet as its been all summer.

    • ParkViewRes

      Do you have a budget? I think that makes it easier in some ways. We have a budget and it isn’t a lot (compared to the average cost of a wedding) so right off the top I knew we wouldn’t be able to afford a videographer and that was fine with me. Also, be careful about “bargains’ and things that sound too good to be true. The photos are what you’ll have forever so you’ll want to make sure the photog knows what he/she is doing.

      • domrep

        Yeah we do. We actually met with someone last Friday and she quoted us $3200, but those are just for pics. This guy is is quoting us 4 grand after a bit of negotiating. 1 photographer, 1 videographer. I can’t remember the other details, I know it included an album, online pics with rights to print…2 hour engagement session (could either be video or pics), drone shots for an hour and he’s got really good reviews on the wedding wire and the Knot. We would rather have the same company take pics and videos rather than a different company for each. That just sounds like a situation I’d want to avoid.

        • textdoc

          Drone shots? So the wedding isn’t taking place in the District, I take it?

          • domrep

            It’s in the National Harbor area. Pretty cool thing might I add, definitely wasn’t didn’t think that was possible.

    • LP

      So far for my wedding, everything is about $1000 more than I had originally budgeted. Yeah for an inflated industry!

      • ParkViewRes

        Did you negotiate? We negotiated with nearly everyone except the photographer because he was already giving us a discount.

        • domrep

          Yeah he originally gave us his standard package which is all the bells and whistles and that was 7 grand and I looked at my fiance and with my eyes that said “we’re not paying this much.” That doesn’t mean we want to go cheap on this either b/c the photos are extremely important. I’m a numbers guy, I think our budget is $25K with room for flexibility and just going by what the Knot planner recommend, the photography should only be 10% of the budget.

    • anon

      As a professional photographer (not wedding, but regardless) it is a million times more than “just taking pics”. If it was “just taking pics” you could hire your BFF to do it for free. There is often years of experience behind this, thousands of dollars of equipment, knowledge of lighting, framing , posing… And then typically on top of that with whatever package you might be purchasing you have physical products included.

      I have never seen any other skilled craft as devalued as photography is. It is so sad but somewhat understandable given everyone and their dog calls them selves a photographer with an iPhone. Plus, you get what you pay for. Wedding photography is HARD and the pressure is real. Good luck sorry for the rant just want to give some perspective from the other side.

      • artemis

        +10,000 to this. Anyone with a phone camera thinks they are replicate what a professional photographer does, and it just isn’t true.

        • ParkViewRes

          That’s part of the problem though. I don’t think I *knew* one wedding photographer five years ago and now I can name at least six off the top of my head and only a few of them are top notch. You have to really look to find the good ones and they’re definitely worth the money. You get what you pay for in most cases.

      • domrep

        Anon – totally get it. This is more of my naivety coming out. I’ve never been married, first time going through this process obviously so it’s a culture shock. I would read about wedding budgets and my first reaction is “30 grand on what?” Now I know. This guy was talking about uplighting for the venue and I never thought about that and even asked my fiance after “do we need that?” It’s so much info, and so many things to pick up on.

        • ParkViewRes

          Sit down and have a talk with your fiancee about what you want! Don’t let the wedding industry tell you what you need! No, you don’t need uplighting! If you want it or it’s important to you then budget it in. For example, we’re not buying a ton of flowers because we don’t care much for flowers. Also, 10% of the budget on photography seems low. About 23% of our budget is going to photography, but then we’re spending 2% of our budget on flowers.

        • anon

          The website A Practical Wedding gives some great advice/perspective on wedding planning! A post on budgeting for instance: http://apracticalwedding.com/2015/03/realistic-wedding-budget/

        • anon

          30 grand? Do you mean 3 grand? Lol
          Ask him to show you examples with and without the lighting he is mentioned. He should be able to show you some. I fully think that having off camera lighting makes significantly better photos.
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          Back to your question: 3 grand pays for the experience skill craft and equipment of your photographer. Is there a 2nd photographer in evolved? Pays for him/her. Pays for the hours and days spent planning, site visiting, shooting and edting and retouching your photos to make you look your absolute best. Maybe because you don’t see it as a tangible thing it’s hard to see the value but believe me there is value in this if you hire someone who knows what they are doing. As I said it’s not easy.Ask yourself what you plan to do with the photos too. If you are the kind of person who aNts them on your walls then she’ll out for someone who can make that happen for you… You don’t want craps on your walls with hard flash and bad shadows blurry people. If you just want to share on Facebook and forget about it maybe someone cheaper will do.

          • anon

            Oops sorry read your post again and thought you were referring just to the photos not the whole wedding!

    • Pixie

      Are you getting married in the DC area? Because everything is crazy expensive here. Be prepared for everything to cost way more than you think.

    • BRKLND

      We are wedding planning as well…I was absolutely shocked to find out how much everything costs. I knew it would be expensive but I had no idea it would be this expensive. We have what I think is a large budget, but compared to the average wedding it is basically rubbing two pennies together.

      I didn’t know you could haggle photographers on price. We aren’t far enough along (I have no idea how far in advance I am supposed to be checking things off the list) to have contacted a photographer yet.

      • domrep

        According to my fiance’s wedding planner book, we’re like 3 months ahead of schedule. I think you can find it online, it details everything up through the day before, and post wedding.

      • Betsy Transatlantically

        The farther you can book in advance, the better! We got engaged in May 2013 and got married in Aug 2014 – we booked everything in the first six months and secured 2013 prices.. When I saw the 2014 prices, I was glad we’d pushed through!

        • Betsy Transatlantically

          Whoa. May 2012 and August 2013. Whoops. Don’t tell my husbamd!

  • anon

    rant: new hair cut. Looked cute in the salon, but now has reverted to that horrible triangle on top of the head curly thing that curly hair does when it is short. It does not flatter my already fat face. The curls looked so great when I left the salon on Saturday. :( I may have to wear it in a ponytail (if I can get it in a ponytail) for the foreseeable future. Also not flattering on my fat face. Ugh. This is why I always have boring long hair.

    • Have you tried experimenting with different locations for your part? There are a few times where a haircut drove me nuts (my hair tends to be flat on top and then “floof out” around my ears) but changing the location of my part helped a lot.

      • anon

        I’m going to try that. It has only been a couple days, so I’m trying not to despair yet. I’m going to keep trying a couple different things. At least I have products that make my hair not frizzy, so it isn’t a complete nightmare. Plus, it is only hair and it’ll grow back and at least I tried something new.

    • AnotherLonelyDay

      Can you go back to the stylist with your triangle head and say, “Help!”

      • anon

        I can, and I will. I am going to give it a week and see if it calms down (or if I calm down). If not, I’ll go back. He’s out of town this week anyway. It may be that I just don’t like my hair short, which may not be fixable, and is not anyone’s fault. I used to straighten my hair, so I didn’t have a good idea what it was going to do curly.

        • blahblahblah

          Are you seeing a stylist who knows how to cut curly hair?

          • anon

            Yes, absolutely. Only dry cuts for me these days. I just think I may not like short hair on my head.

          • blahblahblah

            Dry cuts are the BEST! And I hear you. I don’t like short hair on me, either. I don’t think it is flattering on me, and I would miss having the styling options for longer hair.

    • sunnytime

      I always feel better with fun new headbands, scarves, barrettes, etc. Maybe that will help?

  • LP

    Rave: I met an adorable dog (Missy) from Washington Humane Society out on her run with PACT on Saturday in Rock Creek Park. I already have 2 adopted cats in my apartment, and cannot take on a dog, but I tweeted her picture out to help the Clear the Shelter campaign. I am happy to see that Missy found a Furever home – she was not longer listed on the WHS website this morning! It made my morning!

    • LittleBluePenguin

      YAY! What a great rave!

    • FridayGirl

      Hooray! This is awesome!!

  • Emily

    Rave: Made tons of jame over the weekend! I have 4 half pints of nectarine, 5 half pints of blueberry, 1 blueberry and black pepper experiment that I forgot to label (surprise!), blueberry lemon.
    Rave: still have some blueberries and some blackberries to do something with. Any canning ideas?
    Rant: I was going to give these away as Xmas presents, but I think my driver might be flying.
    Rave: homemade raspberry jam on hot, buttered toast!

  • FedEmployee

    Rave: My girlfriend and I are getting a puppy. He’s really cute. And his name is Sully. Two weeks!
    Rave: There are no rants when you’re getting a puppy who’s fluffy and playful and cuddly. Yes, I am reduced to a pile of mush, currently.

    • Emilie504

      Congratulations! Take lots of pix for AAF, pls!

      • textdoc

        +1!

  • M

    Anyone else hear what sounded like gunshots around 11 last night near the Petworth metro? Thought I heard about 10 shots in fairly quick succession so I’m not sure what else it would have been.

    • LittleBluePenguin

      nope, sorry. I did hear what I thought was a girl screaming her head off from far away, but I couldn’t see anything awry, nor could I pin point where exactly it was coming from. gosh I hope nothing went down!

    • Yes, at 11:12 I head what sounded like more than that, maybe 16-18. They sounded like they were south west of me, so like Park and Sherman-ish, but I could be wrong. I’m not even sure they were gun shots. I never heard sirens.

      • M

        Yea I never heard sirens either, but it sounded different than fireworks so not sure what else it would’ve been. Hmm…

    • textdoc

      I heard them, but from they way they echoed I thought they were fireworks.
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      I debated calling 911, but didn’t. I probably should have.

      • hammers

        no they were fireworks, I could see them out of my window. very odd and jarring.

        • textdoc

          Glad to know that they were indeed fireworks. Yeah, I thought they sounded like fireworks, but was perplexed, thinking: “Fireworks on a Sunday night, in the middle of August?” (July is one thing.)
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          Maybe someone misplaced a stash of fireworks in July and just now located them??

          • hammers

            no clue. they were definately the pricey mortar types. Jabronis messing with my sunday night sleep!

    • Anon

      I heard the same thing from my house, but wasn’t sure if it was gun shots or just some sort of repetitive loud banging noise. Hoping it was the later… When I walked by this morning I didn’t see any signs of anything.

    • saf

      They didn’t sound like gunshots to me. Too deep.

      Couldn’t figure out what they were though.

  • MPinDC

    Rave: House History workshop this weekend – facinating to look through old documents and photos. For example, 1937 real estate atlas where most of the houses on my street hadn’t been built yet, also showing earlier street names. Looked at all the deeds from 1937 – present (house originally sold for $5,400), old census records (my maternal great-great grandfather could read and write, his occupation was listed as poultryman).
    Note: Evalulation asked where we learned of workshop – Prince of Petworth was one of the options (and the one I checked) :)
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    Rant-ish: How is it almost the end of August?

  • SinSA

    Rave: I had a mostly fun weekend (I have to remember that I cannot drink ALL of the cocktails though, and expect to have a productive next day) with friends and some really adorable snuggle-time with my cat. Like so snuggly it was hard to leave her this morning!

    Rave: I have a date tonight that I am excited about. And he emailed me this morning to say “Have I mentioned I’m really looking forward to meeting you tonight?” That seems promising. And I also have other potential dates lined up. I’m not very good at dating a lot of people at once, though, but I have to keep trying.

    Rant: Someone that I thought I had exchanged a couple of really cool emails with sent me an email asking for a photo (in a much more graphic way). Immediate block!

    Rant: I have called my lady-doctor 3 times now about my bcp. I need to be on the brand name version (and she knows this) but my aetna pharmacy was all “We talked to your doctor, here’s a 3 month supply of generic brand because: free) and I also need to be reimbursed for all the times I have paid for my bcp, as my doctor never called them to say that I need to be on it (like I thought she had). Not sure what to do – she’s been great in every other way, but I was supposed to start the new pack yesterday. :/

    Rave: Looking forward to the unofficial PoP Happy Hour on Wednesday!

    Rave: Looking forward to this short week – heading to NYC for a long overdue weekend.

    • shadesofpale

      +1 I cannot drink ALL the cocktails and I cannot say yes to ALL the plans.

  • ?: had the date with the guy who ditched me Thursday. He was unobjectionable but I don’t know…
    Rave: pity party from last week is over for now.
    Rant: first day back to school
    Rave: it looks like I have lots of support here.
    Rave: checked out the Book Thing in Baltimore yesterday… It’s like a used book store but everything’s free. I now have a fully stocked classroom library. Accountering, this may be a good place to go to fill up your bookshelves.

  • Irving Streete

    Rave: Incredible long weekend at the Masters Nationals Rowing Championships: Capital finished fourth out of more than a hundred clubs and I took home three medals, including a gold.
    .
    Rave: Girlfriend came up and we got the coolest-ever reno’d loft from AirBnB in a particularly cool nook of Philly’s Old City neighborhood and commuted ten minutes into Camden for the racing. Girlfriend supportive above and beyond the call and has excellent motivational and relaxation strategies.

  • I Dont Get It

    Rave: Made some progress in getting the house put back together.
    Rant: Still a long way to go and will not be 100% considering all the issues with the senior citizen lady dogs.
    Rave: Made a delish chicken stir fry with Thai basil from the garden!
    Rant: The new loud woman in the fishbowl tied up the printer for almost 15 minutes. Ironically I was trying to print out a one page document to prep me for a meeting on the paperless office environment.

    • Anon Spock

      Are you unable to use dog diapers?

      • I Dont Get It

        I can’t find any to fit me.

        • textdoc

          Best. Response. Ever.

  • rant: violence. It’s just so disheartening to see how bad this city is reverting back to the fear and intimidation of peaceful residents. What parent wants to send their kid to college here? What family can say that, if this continues, they’ll be happy staying? I mean, I’m sure there are…but my kid’s favorite playground is in between gang territory. Why is that OK for our mayor and police chief?
    rave: won’t be my problem much longer
    rant: But I love the District and really want it to be a safe city
    rant: a family on my local listserve witnessed the last Shaw shooting and in the rush to flee, dropped an ipad that their special needs son uses to communicate (he’s nonverbal)
    rave: neighbors emailing back asking if they can contribute money for a new one for him. What a great neighborhood

    • I Dont Get It

      Your last rave made me feel a little bit better after such a horrible weekend.

    • ParkViewRes

      The violence is really scary and disheartening. I’ve always said DC is my home and I’ll never move, but now I am really starting to feel uncomfortable. I mean just walking during the day yesterday I felt uncomfortable. I was thinking about how we work down Georgia Ave to Shaw during the day and I never thought I’d be in danger (only at night), but you never know.

      • I make my husband promise he’ll uber places vs. walk or bike anymore. He wants to go out with friends, he has to promise. How pathetic.

        • ParkViewRes

          But the account I read about Matthew Shlonsky said that he was getting out of a cab in front of Right Proper when he was shot! He stepped out of the cab and said something like “I think something hit me.” Then he collapsed to the ground! :(

          • FridayGirl

            Ugh. I would love to work to change this violence streak and make DC into the city I knew even a couple years ago when I first lived here, where I felt relatively safe. But the way things are going, I don’t want to stay. And my family is worried about me. And the fact that even taking a taxi/uber doesn’t protect you is ridiculous.

          • oh Lord, wish I hadn’t read that. I usually make him go right from the metro to our house. But luckily that’s over for us. I just feel bad for my community.

      • My husband and I moved to Takoma Park a couple years ago and I’m now thrilled we did. We’re close enough to the city if we want to do things there, but we can completely avoid it if we need to (since we both work in MD). I hate that such a great city is seething with such rampant violence. I lived in DC for nearly a decade before moving and it breaks my heart that my gut reaction is “wow, I’m glad I don’t live in DC anymore.”

  • Rave: My dapper gentleman of a dog! I met him Saturday at the Clear the Shelters event and he was perfect. I love him so much already. He’s good on the leash, he’s chill, he doesn’t love my hardwood floors and has voluntarily restricted himself to the living room where there’s a rug, but he’ll take 3 steps to get closer to see what I’m doing in the kitchen. I had to laugh because they said no cats because he has a prey drive for small animals, it turns out that includes some large animals like men on skateboards.
    Rant: Chicken bones. In 24 hours he got a hold of 2. And street pizza. Man did he want that ant covered pizza crust.
    Rave: He wasn’t thrilled with me stuffing my hands in his mouth to get the bones out, but he dealt with it pretty well.
    Rave: My niece has been talking to a picture of the dog and wants to know if I’ve told the dog her and her sister’s names. She did an impression of the dog too. My sister tells me there was a lot of panting involved.

    • textdoc

      Congratulations on the dog! What does he look like? What size is he?

      • Thanks! He’s about 8 years old and he’s a Rottweiler/Rottweiler mix. He has white toes and a white strip down his chest, so he’s probably not 100% rottie. Though the rest of his coloring is the standard black and tan.
        He’s about 70-80 pounds with a long, plush tail. My first dog with a tail!
        He has some distinguished grey around his mouth.
        He’s lean and has a lovely, shiny coat.

    • hammers

      yayay!! congratulations on the new addition to your family. so this is not the rott?

    • Pixie

      Yay new dog!! Did you adopt the older rottweiler from WHS? And yeah, you’ll get used to reaching in their mouths to dislodge chicken bones, unfortunately.

      • Yes, that’s the one!

        • Pixie

          Yay!! He looked like such a sweetie! :-)

    • LittleBluePenguin

      Aww! I love this whole post!

    • Tall E

      Congratulations on the adoption! Hope the nieces get to play with him soon.

    • Emilie504

      your nieces is my favorite niece I’m not related to! Did you tell the dog their names???

      • Haha, thanks!
        No, but I will tell him all about them when I get home tonight.

    • BeverlyS

      Somewhat ridiculous suggestion, but they make socks for dogs with grippers on them (it’s supposed to help preserve your hardwood floors, I think) – just in case you’re interested.

      • That’s not ridiculous at all.
        I was trying to get a rug to match the one I have to fill a sizable area, but Home Depot called me this morning to say they actually don’t have it and it’s only sold in stores. Ugh. So grippy booties might be a good stop-gap measure.

        • anon

          I imagine dogs would prefer grippy socks over grippy booties.

          • textdoc

            I got the impression that Jeslett and BeverlyS were talking about the same thing and just using different words (socks/booties) to refer to it.

          • Yeah, something on his feet with grippies. That’s all I meant.

    • shadesofpale

      so happy the dog is home with you and your brothers thoughts on you getting him didn’t discourage you! Pets are the best!

      • Thanks! It might even be a win for him in the end because the kids love dogs and if they spend enough time with mine maybe they won’t whine to him that they want one. We’ll see.

        • textdoc

          I like that argument. :)

  • SBinDC

    Rave?: Going to the dentist tomorrow for the first time in almost 10 years. I have super high anxiety about visiting the dentist after some bad childhood experiences, and am super embarrassed that it’s been this long. However, I’m feeling better already for finally getting this major life thing under control and taking positive steps toward health.
    Rave: Spent a week in Gulf Shores, Alabama, and while I thought the beaches were beautiful, I have never been happier to be back in DC in my life. SO many confederate flags and casual dropping of the N word, and it made me really uncomfortable. Yikes.
    Rave: tan feet!

    • Pixie

      Good luck at the dentist! I avoided the dentist after 7 years because of bad experiences and lack of insurance and money. My appointment went fine and I felt amazing afterwards, like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders!

    • Anonymous

      Good luck. I was in a similar situation a few years ago, after having a traumatic experience at the dentist as a child. It felt good to finally face my fear. (Of course since I don’t have dental insurance I probably still go too long between cleanings…)

      • Anon Spock

        I have dental insurance with care first which is $10/month. Hmo, no frills, and I’ve never had a cavity fwiw. Nothing about the plan has changed in years. Two cleanings a year is $40.

      • SBinDC

        Thanks for the well-wishes all! I have some sensitivity/pain on one side of my mouth so I know that I’ll likely have to have work done, but I found a place that supposedly works with high anxiety patients. I know it’ll be more expensive than other places but I am trying to think of it as paying for the experience, and if I have to pamper myself a bit at first to get back into regular dental care then so be it.

    • Emilie504

      They don’t call Gulf Shores the Redneck Riviera for nothing.

      • SBinDC

        You know, I was kind of expecting/dreading it (avoided this trip two years ago with old friends but decided to go this year for the good of the friendships) but also simultaneously trying not to be judgmental before ever having been there. Unfortunately my skepticism was warranted. Additionally, food was generally mediocre and expensive, and largely deep fried, but luckily I was somewhere with a kitchen so I was able to cook myself some excellent seafood for a few nights!

        • Emilie504

          Bad food? I’ve never had that problem there. I have some good memories of Gulf Shores. fun times. Sorry you didn’t like it.

    • That One Guy

      What was your trauma? Mine involved a needle, gas mask, and waking up with 8 filings. Don’t know which is more to blame for the teeth, crappy genetics or powdered milk.

      • SBinDC

        “Wave if you can feel the drill”
        *waves and waves and waves and waves…*

    • Caroline

      I’ve spent a lot of time in that part of the country for work. One time I was enjoying the happy hour in my hotel’s lobby, when one of the employees came in and started a non sequitor about how he saw a lesbian couple at a restaurant. The lesbian couple apparently wasn’t doing anything besides having dinner like a normal couple, but that was enough to him to harass them and then braq about it to me. I listened to the whole ridiculous story in disbelief– how could lesbians be a novelty to someone?– and then said, “I’m a lesbian too you know.” I’ve never seen someone’s eyes grow so big, so rapidly.

      • textdoc

        Hah!

    • anonamom

      I was in the same boat last year – though it had been slightly longer for me. I ended up with 9 cavities, and no major work needed, but a year later my anxiety has kept me from going back to get the cavities fixed…. I hope all goes (went?) well, and please don’t be embarrassed – you aren’t the only one!

  • That One Guy

    I sometime find myself at H Mart thinking that there should be a driving test before people are allowed to push a cart through the place.

    • Emilie504

      lol yest! my safeway needs to give parking the cart lesssons.

    • Caroline

      Haha! I lived in Annandale for a while, and it was a culture shock moving back to DC where shopping for groceries is not a contact sport.

  • hammers

    ravey/rant: ok, it’s time to get serious about getting back in shape. I think I need a trainer to do so. I’m finding it hard to search through yelp, and most gyms arent forthcoming about rates, etc. can anyone provide a recommendation for me? I can no longer use the Holidays as an excuse for why I haven’t hit the gym…. :(
    rave: taking control of my life.

    • textdoc

      If you wait a few months, you can use the holidays as an excuse again!
      .
      ;)

      • hammers

        haha sad but true.

    • Anon Spock

      Why do you think you need a trainer?

      • hammers

        I have been trying to motivate and guide my own excercises for about 5 years, and I’ve finally accepted that it isnt working for me. I think having a person help me out who knows what they are doing would help me.

    • I used a trainer and then he started his own company – we work out outside or at the community center. He’d come to my house, but the kid and dog get in the way. Mobile City Fit. I went to Allen. Lost a lot of weight. Had baby, very difficult recovery, and then no time/money to workout like I was. When I re-started solely for fitness, not weight loss, ect, because I am not in the right mind set for that right now, he never made me feel bad about gaining weight. He worked me out just as hard. Alternative, find a gym with classes you like. I did both, when I was childless and flush. I hear good things about Balance gym.

    • AnonAgain

      I was looking into a trainer but got scared away by the cost (the ones I found were $600/mo for a minimum commitment of 6-months). Instead, I went and got a fitness plan from my gym, which was free and far more involved than I expected, so maybe look into that? We had a consulting session first to go over goals, injuries, and likes/dislikes, and then I met with her for two sessions to go over the exercise circuits.
      .
      I still need to self-motivate myself to do the circuits she created, but know she’s going to follow up with me in ~2 months to see how things are going and if there’s anything to tweak, which helps. In the meantime I can also always ask for advice or a change if something’s hurting or not working for me. It’s still early, and I’ve been distracted by trying to get to dragon boat practices 4 times a week, but seems like a good first option.
      .
      Good luck! I’ve been super frustrated lately since nothing I do seems to be working (watch what I eat, tracking my meals for the past year+; went to a nutritionist; tried to bump up my workouts), so I’m hoping this does something.

    • anon

      Another option is to find gyms or studios that have strength-training classes–they might run you about $15-$18/class, which is way cheaper than a trainer, and you still get a fair amount of personal attention. I’ve liked ones at Off Road and Reformation Fitness, but lots of places have them.

    • shadesofpale

      You have to find what works for you, if it’s a trainer then try it out. But there are some options with a group training class so the price is a little more affordable (although can still be pricey) like Elevate fitness or solidcore. Regardless like jindc mentioned find one that works with your personality and motivates you to stick with it. Good luck!

  • textdoc

    Rant: I learned late Friday afternoon that a friend of mine had died. Not a close friend, but someone whom I had known for about 12 years and who was extremely close to closer friends of mine, for whom this must be devastating. All of a sudden my rants about my difficult visiting Family Member seemed petty and trivial in comparison.
    .
    Lesson learned: Don’t take anyone or anything for granted.
    .
    Rave (somewhat bittersweet rave, in light of the above): Visiting Family Member is now leaving this week.

    • LittleBluePenguin

      Oh dear! I’m sorry for your loss, Textdoc. I am glad, though, that your VFM will be out of your hair soon. Perhaps in light of his/her imminent departure and the loss of this friend, you can have a nice remaining few days together and make some happy memories, because as you said, you don’t want to take anyone or anything for granted.

    • blahblahblah

      Oh no! I am so sorry about your friend.

    • Tall E

      So sorry for your loss. I hope you and your friends can share some memories. Glad for the VFM update.

    • Emilie504

      Condolences

    • FridayGirl

      Oh textdoc, I’m sorry for your loss.

    • I Dont Get It

      I’m so sorry to read this!

  • NotABot

    Rave: I have two dates this week. Let’s hope they happen. Both men are v different, so it should be interesting.
    Rant: unfortunately, one is during the unofficial HH. Hey, if the date doesn’t go well, I might still have time to make HH.
    Rave: went to the pool this weekend. nice and tan.
    Rave: low match and I hungout as friends. it was nice & happy we can be friends after everything.

  • Tall E

    Rave: Upshur pool was so overrun yesterday, my friend and I ended up at her brothers’ fancy club pool. Very civilized!
    Rave 2: Told a friend that I was thinking of adopting a second cat and she said there’s a declawed friendly cat on the street near her place. While I’m worried about health issues, if she can catch this cat that may be the one I end up with.
    Rave 3: red hair for the themed happy hour Wednesday ;)

    • Emilie504

      :D

    • NotaBot

      I was at Upshur yesterday. It wasn’t as bad as the last time I went a few weeks ago. Fewer children running around.

    • textdoc

      Nice on the possibility of rescuing this friendly declawed cat off the street!

  • Ekington Chick

    Rant: Just read about the horrific treatment of elephants at the Guruvayur Temple in India. I’m hoping more people will get on their facebook page, tripadvisor, google reviews etc to condemn what they’re doing.

    • shadesofpale

      I was lucky enough to visit part of Africa a few years ago and since then I’ve been obsessed with the treatment (or mistreatment) of elephants around the world. They are such smart creatures and have the most kind eyes (those and whale eyes get me every time) and it’s incredible what people do to them. Heartbreaking.

      • Ekington Chick

        Thank you for your response. I just wish there was more we could do. I noticed that a petition has been started to help them, but I feel like more immediate action is necessary.

  • UDPie

    Rant: Long day visiting my friend who is back on the east coast. She is doing so poorly, so anxious, so panicky, so depressed and STILL NOT ON MEDS/THERAPY.
    Rave: Long drive back to DC to remind myself – she’s here, I got to hug her and look her in the eye and tell her how much I care about her. That is something to be grateful for.
    Rave: My Uncle received new lungs!! He had a successful double lung transplant this morning!! Wow…what a gift.

    • blahblahblah

      Your friend is very lucky to have you. And agreed, how have they not made plans for her for meds and therapy? You’d think that would be the first thing on their agenda.

  • blahblahblah

    Rave: Restaurant Week! It’s a nice chance to catch up with friends I don’t get to see that much.
    Rave: Nice, relaxing weekend. Lots of sleep, lots of reading, some working around the house.
    Rant: I love my new building, but the amount of things that need maintenance (that should have been handled before I moved in) is aggravating.

  • Anonymous

    RANT: Broken air chillers (non-AC cooling system) at Farragut North and Dupont Circle will be out of service for the rest of the year. Seriously, Metro? Trains already feel far less chilled than they used to and now this? Fall better arrive now.

    • I Dont Get It

      That’s ridiculous but not surprising.

  • CoffeCup

    Rant/Question: I went to the CP Firehook (my local place, I go at least 2-3/week) and as always brought my own coffee cup. Since it was hot, I brought my ice coffee re-usable cup from Starbucks. FH wouldn’t give me coffee in the Starbucks cup, insisting I use their plastic cup. I declined and walked to Starbucks instead explaining I was trying to keep one plastic cup out of a landfill. What do you think? On one hand I kind of see their point, but their plastic cups don’t have a FH logo (just plain plastic) and aren’t we all trying to give the environment a hand these days? When I go to Whole Foods they don’t care if I’m using Trader Joe’s cloth bags and vice versa.

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