Thanks for the replies, Shorebird & Staciplus! I would like to speak with you both. It would be easier to do this via the phone. Staciplus, I will email you my phone number at the email address you indicated. Shorebird, please email me at: [email protected]. Please include your phone number for me to call.
The good news is that my wife has been able to pet her with out hisses or growls, though I still get hisses. I attribute that to me smelling like 5 other cats. I bottle raised 4 of ours from 3 week old kittens and they have very closely bonded to me, not my wife. I always get a lot of sniffing from Shadow and tepid hisses. I can pet her though, and when I scratch her cheeks she leans in and enjoys it. I’m thinking it’s a matter of time and it’s all about her comfort zone and her timetable.
And yes, I do love the black cats. I lost my most beloved cat of 15 years, Spooky a couple years ago. He was a majestic and artfully sculpted black boy with a small white spot on his chest. He was the best cat I ever lived with!