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General Discussion August 31, 2015 at 1:01 pm

Am I losing my mind? A story of irrational neighbor nonsense

Dear Neighbors, Friends, and Rational Humans,

I am writing to share with you the ongoing frustration my roommates and I endure at the hands of an irrational neighbor. We have lived above her for about a year and a half, and she is constantly complaining, or suggesting things we should do differently. Almost every complaint we have received since moving in has been either trivial, irrational, or both. This neighbor is the queen of passive aggressive text messages, emails, and even the occasional hand drawn sign (see attached).

She actually hung that sign on the banister next to our front door and expected us to leave it there to inform guests, and even the mail carriers, that we are all being too loud on the stairs. Aside from not “treading lightly” when entering and exiting the house, past complaints have included “we can hear you closing doors and flushing toilets” (seriously?), a bike being parked in the backyard that is a “fire hazard and an eye sore”, and she even blamed us for some illegal dumping of old furniture that occurred in HER parking spot, and instead of asking if it was us, she just assumed that it was and went ahead and contacted our management company about it behind our backs. The list goes on and on.

After many many months of trying to be neighborly and just sucking it up and conceding to her ridiculous demands, I finally lost my temper this weekend. She sent me a text on Saturday morning to let me know that a car was blocking her ability to get out of her spot, in the attached picture, her car is the grey one. the screenshot of the text messages shows the conversation that occurred between us.

This picture was taken at the time of the incident, she clearly has plenty of space to back up a few feet and easily pull out of her spot. Before I even got the chance to read her response to my message, she was angrily knocking on our door to yell at us to move the car immediately. I lost my temper. I told her there was plenty of space and that as a matter of principle I would not move the car. I then told her I would go out there and move HER car for her. She obviously didn’t like that idea very much. After this, voices were raised, obscenities were thrown around liberally, and my roommate who is much more patient than I am said he would move the car. My roommate received a passive aggressive thank you, doors were slammed, and that was the end of it.

Please, PLEASE, for the sake of my sanity tell me that this is absurd. I could have given the keys to an 8 year old and watched them pull out of this parking spot with ease. Its not like she attempted to get out and couldn’t do it, she just looked at the cars and decided it wasn’t possible. Why create all this drama? I simply contributed to the drama myself because I’m sick of these absurd demands. What’s her excuse? I think that she, since she owns her unit and we rent ours, just gets some sick satisfaction out of telling us what to do. For me, this was just the straw that broke the camel’s back and I just couldn’t let her get away with it.

Who is being unreasonable here? Me or her? How does one deal with this type of nitpicking? I mean, pick your battles, right? At this point I’m just going to tell her to send her complaints to my more patient roommate, or directly to my landlord. Dealing with her directly is affecting my blood pressure, and my overall mental health.

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Events August 31, 2015 at 11:13 am

CentroNía Presents RISERS: Celebrating Immigrant Youth in DC

CentroNía is proud to present RISERS, a film and mixed media installation about America’s undocumented immigrant youth, directed and produced by Andy Fernandez.

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RISERS is a short film and portrait series which explores the cultural identity of young undocumented immigrants in Washington, DC. The short film captures immigrant youth at a unique moment in their lives – unsure whether their immigration status shall be legalized as they embark on their college educations and careers. The film centers around Brenda Perez and Gerson Quinteros whose lives and stories are emblematic of the mission for immigration reform. The viewer witnesses how two young inspirational youth activists can not only rally their peers, but also educate us all on the challenges and complexities of undocumented life.

Andy Fernandez was born in Washington, DC and raised in Arlington, VA. The son of Bolivian immigrants, he has a deep appreciation for the immigrant experience. RISERS is his first short film.

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Public Safety August 31, 2015 at 11:13 am

Man Breaking into Church ST Condo Building

Be on the lookout for this guy in the Logan Circle neighborhood. Here are a couple of links that include still images and video footage of a guy breaking into my Church ST condo building on two separate occasions. On July 13th, the perpetrator piggy-backed into our building after a guest was buzzed in and stole a couple of bikes. On August 11th, the same guy broke the magnetic lock on the front door and stole some electronics from two cars parked in the garage.

He managed to get in and out of the building and steal stuff on both occasions in fewer than 20 minutes. Owners and our front desk person notified the police

July 13th break in (around 10:30pm)
https://www.dropbox.com/sh/aogs55q677h7bzw/AACiFGZggd7yBDxSyL_fjFGwa?dl=0

August 11th break-in (around 12:30am)
https://www.dropbox.com/sh/wqpwmqv4phswtkn/AABOftGfil0VawatpH2BJjU0a?dl=0

Travel and Transportation August 31, 2015 at 11:12 am

Is anyone missing this bicycle?

One of my neighbors seems to have a different bicycle every time I see him. For the past few weeks this has been outside of his gate.

Announcements August 29, 2015 at 10:30 am

Found- Lost dog Quincy and 9th st nw

Lost male dog found on Quincy St NW and 9 St NW by petworth metro. Very friendly seems like a puppy only about 20 lbs. May be a golden retriever or lab mix. Wearing lime green harness but no tags. Contact if you have any info

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Announcements August 27, 2015 at 9:59 pm

Alley repaving

Anyone have any experience living with alley repaving? Ours is supposedly being redone in the next few months. We are basement tenants with no access on the street and we’re wondering how it works since the city apparently says it will take two months. Anyone have experience with alley construction?

Announcements August 27, 2015 at 8:46 pm

Want to Adopt the Sweetest Dog?

Hi,

My friend’s neighborhood is fostering the sweetest dog who was rescued from a high kill shelter in Georgia

The dog’s name is Lucy, and she is around 2/3 years old, female, and is a mix of Bulldog, Boxer, Lab, and Hound. She is great on leash, house trained, and is so nice! She is fine with other dogs while on leash, but she would need to be adopted into a home where she is the only pet.

Information about her back round, personality (again sweetest dog ever!), adoption fee, and breed can all be found on https://www.petfinder.com/petdetail/30925406. The organization that Lucy is being adopted out of is called, Homeward Trails. You can view their website at http://www.homewardtrails.org. The dog adoption forms can be found at: http://www.homewardtrails.org/adopt-a-pet/adoption-forms/

Please feel free to share. Also if you know of other locations to post Lucy’s information, please let me know!

Respectfully,
Samantha
srose1291@gmail.com

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Schools and Education August 27, 2015 at 12:26 pm

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Events August 27, 2015 at 9:57 am

iPhone 6 Found

My wife found an iPhone 6 on her way to work this morning near the corner of Rock Creek Church Road and Harewood Road NW. If this phone is yours, contact the front desk at Washington Yu Ying Public Charter School at 202-635-1950.

Announcements August 26, 2015 at 2:00 pm

There's a lost cat on 11th St NW!

Spotted: an adorable black & white cat hanging around the 3100 block of 11th Street in Columbia Heights (across from Tubman elementary). The neighbors started noticing him/her 2 days ago – SUPER friendly, affectionate, well kept, etc… Clearly a pet, but has no collar.

Unfortunately, we can’t take it into our home – we plan to schedule a pickup to the WHS, but would rather find the owner! Please let me know if you have any information or recognize this little furball!

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Announcements August 26, 2015 at 2:00 pm

comparing apartment buildings near Mt Pleasant/Adams-Morgan

I’m looking at pretty comparable 1-bedroom apartments in the Chalfonte (Harvard and Argonne, off 16th), the Argonne (same), and the Park Meridian (16th and Euclid). The sizes and prices are similar enough that the decision really comes down to building quality. Does anyone have recent experience with any of these buildings? If so, can you speak to pests, management responsiveness (or management attempts to screw renters), heating/cooling issues, noise, construction, or anything else that might be relevant? Thank you!

Events August 26, 2015 at 10:48 am

DPR Doggy Pool Day

Has anyone heard anything about a doggy pool day this year? It is usually announced by now.

Announcements August 25, 2015 at 6:27 pm

Stolen Bike

If anyone sees a red Mongoose Sahara with a car club on the inner frame and no bike seat – please let me know. It was stolen from the 100 Block of 15th Street NE today. I think the “club” and the absence of a bike seat might make it too much trouble to ride far – so who knows, maybe I’ll get lucky and they will dump it!

Announcements August 25, 2015 at 3:28 pm

LOST DOG (Basset Beagle Mix) Brooks IVO 16th & Belmont NW

Hello, We lost our short legged brown and white basset beagle mix dog at 1000 Tuesday morning August 25th. He was last spotted on 16th NW and Belmont. He was a stray before we adopted him, so can be skittish if chased. He is a very good dog, so if you find him, let him come to you. His name is Brooks. Please call text or email if found. 202-365-8120 bcglander@gmail.com Thanks! Brian

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Real Estate August 24, 2015 at 10:53 pm

Landlord trying to start a boarding house – help!

Hello!

I live in a group house in Petworth, 3br upstairs plus a basement w/ 1 br. Previously (for at least 2+ year) this house was rented to a group and the housemates would find a tenant to fill an open spot. This past May, a tenant moved out of the basement and we began looking for someone to fill her spot. The landlord then decided that she would do some work to the basement so we stopped looking.

Now, instead of doing renovations, she is insisting on finding a tenant for the basement space herself, and keeping us out of the process. This person would share all common spaces with us. We are very concerned about a stranger moving into our home, especially since one of us is a transwoman. Everyone in the house is currently on a separate (identical) lease.

We are a collective group house with norms and collective expectations, shared food and chores etc, we are NOT a boarding house and do not wish to become such.

Has anyone else experienced something like this? Is there a legal route so that we can choose our own housemate?

Thanks!

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Am I losing my mind? A story of irrational neighbor nonsense

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Am I losing my mind? A story of irrational neighbor nonsense

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Am I losing my mind? A story of irrational neighbor nonsense

Unless there is a wall behind her car that is not visible in that picture, I do not understand why …
Replied on August 31, 2015 at 1:01 pm

Am I losing my mind? A story of irrational neighbor nonsense

Dear Neighbors, Friends, and Rational Humans, I am writing to share with you the ongoing frustratio…
Replied on August 31, 2015 at 11:13 am

CentroNía Presents RISERS: Celebrating Immigrant Youth in DC

CentroNía is proud to present RISERS, a film and mixed media installation about America’s undocu…
Replied on August 31, 2015 at 11:13 am

Man Breaking into Church ST Condo Building

Be on the lookout for this guy in the Logan Circle neighborhood. Here are a couple of links that i…
Replied on August 31, 2015 at 11:12 am

Is anyone missing this bicycle?

One of my neighbors seems to have a different bicycle every time I see him. For the past few weeks…
Replied on August 29, 2015 at 10:30 am

Found- Lost dog Quincy and 9th st nw

Lost male dog found on Quincy St NW and 9 St NW by petworth metro. Very friendly seems like a puppy…
Replied on August 27, 2015 at 9:59 pm

Alley repaving

Anyone have any experience living with alley repaving? Ours is supposedly being redone in the next …
Replied on August 27, 2015 at 8:46 pm

Want to Adopt the Sweetest Dog?

Hi, My friend’s neighborhood is fostering the sweetest dog who was rescued from a high kill s…
Replied on August 27, 2015 at 5:14 pm

3rd Annual Boundary Stone Bike Ride: 9/19/15

and here’s the link to register: https://www.bikereg.com/bsride2015
Replied on August 27, 2015 at 5:12 pm

3rd Annual Boundary Stone Bike Ride: 9/19/15

Update: the ride will now leave from Jones Point Park. Same time – wheels up 9:30am!
Replied on August 27, 2015 at 12:26 pm

Got wisdom? We need long-term MENTORS for motivated low-income students!

Nationally, 41% of low-income students will enter college, while only 8% will finish by their mid-2…
Replied on August 27, 2015 at 10:47 am

LOST DOG (Basset Beagle Mix) Brooks IVO 16th & Belmont NW

Brooks is still in the same area. Someone just reported him asleep on their front port on fairmont …