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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • Rant: Coworkers got my boss fired. I think they’re targeting me next.
    Rant: Being paranoid at work.
    Rant: Can’t quit without a new job and looking/finding a new job sucks.
    Rave: It’s Friday? Probably won’t be fired today, and it’s the weekend.

    • How did they get the boss fired?

    • Make the time to look for a job now, as looking for a job when you don’t have a job sucks worse.

      And, from one who has seen this happen, and has been targeted, it pays to learn at some point how to fight back effectively, rather than just move on – as the nastiness is everywhere, pretty much. I’m still working on that part – moving on is just so much easier.

  • Rant: Hemmed and Hawed too much on how to get to NYC tomorrow, so I ended up booking a bus ticket. So please, give me your best advice on the taking the MegaBus and allay my fears!
    Rave: Very excited to see my best friends from college, it’s been 10 years!

    • Andie302

      Don’t be hungover. And if you are, definitely don’t think about throwing up in the toilet because that will make you throw up…and those toilets……. In all seriousness, I never thought it was that bad as long as I had some reading material of choice and the person next to me fit in their seat. I’d try and get there a little early if you have a strong preference about window/aisle or front/back. Have a blast with your girlfriends!!!!

      • I was worried about the seat issue, so I paid extra to reserve a table/window seat… hoping I made a good choice! I will try my best not to be hungover!! Thank you for the advice 🙂

      • That One Guy

        Don’t know if the system changed but I remember the lines to get on the buses being somewhat disorganized at Union Station (if that’s where you’re catching the bus) so add a little extra cushion time to figure out what’s what. Also if you don’t like the rocking motion try to sit on the first floor of the bus.

        • I’m leaving from White Marsh, and sitting on the first floor. I dislike double decker buses from riding one too many as a student (while drunk or hungover… not good memories!). I was planning on getting there early though.

          • You should be ok, although you may have to assert yourself when it comes to your reservation – people tend to spread out if the seat next to them is not occupied, and they often sprawl across the table seats if they’re open…If anyone is is your spot, just politely let them know that’s a reserved seat and you have the reserved ticket. And try not to use the bathroom if you don’t have to! Lots of good books/podcasts help! As does Bendaryl / Nauzene if you feel queasy.

    • Have you taken a Megabus before? My main advice would be to BRING LAYERS — they’ve all been fiercely over-airconditioned when I’ve taken them.
      I always try to sit up top, at or near the front.
      Have a great trip!

      • Clueless

        +1 to bringing layers. And another +1 to sitting near the front; the smell of the bathroom deodorizer alone can be a huge bummer on a bus ride.

      • Never – I have always driven or flown to NYC. I was strongly considering driving this time too, but just didn’t want to do the drive by myself. Thanks for the advice on layers and the restrooms, I will definitely follow that! Perhaps a scarf to cover my nose would be a could idea…

      • I would drive it – I usually do. I took the bus once, and after my knees had been in one place for those hours, they were in pain for days. And I’m under 5.6. Never again!

  • rant: this humidity. my hair is HUGE. I thought I had at least a few more weeks of good hair before summer hit!

  • Rave: Patio, including grill and firepit, is finished (or nearly so)!
    Rant: Rain all weekend. No grilling or smores.

  • I Dont Get It

    Rant: I’m not sure I’ve convinced my TaskRabbit that the absent “roommate” is the one with the hoarding habit and Wiccan altar.
    Rave: TaKorean last night. Nice addition to U Street.

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: Eyes are so puffy this morning I look like I’ve been beat up.
    Rave: procrastination

  • Rave: Thanks, all, for the Vermont ideas! I wasn’t able to get back online until later last night but really appreciate the suggestions.

  • RANT: Metro reinstating dude who was falsifying paperwork on track whose problems ultimately led to killing Carol Glover. When the compact is written in just such a way that WMATA really can’t fire people- people who falsify records- it sends a message, loud and clear, to employees: do whatever you want; our hands are tied. No amount of money in the world is going to fix that mess. Throw out the compact!!!!

    • HaileUnlikely

      I agree with all aspects of this, however, I think linking that specific reported action to the death in question is too easy but inappropriate. He falsified the inspection report for the fans. However, unfortunately, the fans still worked. I say unfortunately because the record reflects that the inadequately trained ROCC staff ran the fans in the wrong direction, sucking smoke toward the train rather than pushing it away. The poor woman in question may have been better off had the fans been non-functional.

      • Interesting point on the fans themselves working. However, falsifying records should be grounds for firing, period. And it wasn’t just this guy- it is permeated in the culture at WMATA. My point stands: If you can’t fire someone like this, it encourages the other bad actors to continue lying and neglecting important safety functions. It blows my mind that there are no consequences, and that a Federal judge is forced to reinstate a loser like this guy. The level of dysfunction is breathtaking.

        • Agree completely.

        • HaileUnlikely

          I completely agree that he should be fired for falsifying records. I’m just saying that linking him to the death is convenient, easy, and almost too obvious, but factually wrong.

          • I posted this the other day, but as I understand it, the “defense” to the termination was (i) everyone did it, and (ii) supervisors tacitly approved the record falsification (or perhaps coerced employees into doing it), so the employee has to be reinstated. In my view, the proper response is not reinstatement, but, “Really? More people did this? Can you spell those names for me?” Then fire them too.

          • HaileUnlikely

            If it is possible to substantiate the accusation that the guy’s supervisor coerced him into falsifying records the supervisor should be taken out back and shot, or something like that. (In that case, I’m not sure how I’d feel about reinstating the inspector. I don’t feel good about it, but I’d be significantly less opposed to it in the event that his supervisor were fired and prosecuted for coercing or ordering employees to falsify reports.)

  • Quotia Zelda

    Rant: So tired. My eyes feel like they’re going to slide off my face.
    Rave: Just one big meeting this afternoon, then things slow down a bit at work.
    Rant: It will be an exhausting meeting. I hate videoconferences.

  • Rant: Supply is tanking. Literally doing everything including pumping 3+ hours a day. I think my breastfeeding journey is coming to an end. I was hoping to make it 6 months but baby is happy, healthy and already supplemented with some formula. Will continue to pump a couple times a day and nurse evening/morning and see what happens.
    Rave: Already gave up one of my scheduled pumping sessions and am enjoying coffee while working on a rooftop terrace. I was missing life.
    Rave: DH. He’s just so awesome, supportive, loving, respectful, patient, etc. etc. etc. Thinking of picking him up a nice treat on the way home from work.
    Rave: Baby F’s secondary hair is coming in rapidly after he lost most of his newborn dark fluff. It looks like gold and is quite thick. Can’t wait to see if he ends up with wild hair.

    • I am so sorry to hear about the supply issues. It is so challenging. And I know that I put so much pressure on myself that it became such a source of stress. I will say that it isn’t necessarity a complete either/or. You could potentially wean yourself from the pump and continue to nurse while you’re together (if that works for you/is what you want).. Either way, please remember FED IS BEST. Happy, centered, not stressed out mama is best.

      Enjoy the roof deck.

      • Thanks! This is what I’m hoping (fingers crossed)–but also know given my supply issues there’s a real possibility I could dry up. I’ll see what happens and try not to stress (always easier said than done) about it. What I really am looking forward to is getting time to myself back.

    • I hate to admit it but my supply issues and the constant feeding schedule my lactation counselor set up for me (breastfeeding and then pumping for 20 minutes regardless of how long she fed plus supplementing with formula for each of the 8 feeding sessions) had me feeling pretty down and exhausted… to the point where I was questioning if I had PPD. Switching to formula only was the best decision for me. Suddenly having time in my day again was amazing and I started to have good quality time with my daughter instead of constantly feeling stressed about feeding her. Ultimately, you need to figure out what will work best for you and your family.

      Good luck! And I hope you enjoyed your coffee time.

      • I actually was borderline for PPD according to the questionnaire I filled out at my 6 week follow-up. I had baby blues pretty badly, but by 6 weeks the clouds were starting to clear and I was supplementing with formula at that point to give me a break. But I told my midwife that much of the anxiety and depression I had felt and was still feeling to some extent was surrounding breastfeeding which was very stressful. When I came to terms with supplementing and less pumping, I started to feel better. And I will likely get used to this new change and feel better.
        I did enjoy my coffee very much, thanks! Though these days there’s not enough coffee in the world. I’m so glad you’re enjoying some good quality time with your daughter 🙂 I was so happy to see your update about having your baby while I was on maternity leave, but don’t think I was able to respond until now.

        • Thanks! We’re completely in love with this little girl. I honestly had no idea I could ever feel this way.

    • Bear

      Pumping sucks. My supply is pretty good when we’re just breastfeeding but I don’t respond well to the pump and I’ve had to pump 5 times a day to get enough for the bear cub to take with him to day care. I’m trying to drop back to 4 times a day but I’m just barely eking out enough. If his day care intake increases I’ll probably have to supplement, and that’s fine. That last pump of the day was just too much.

    • Not sure if anyone is still reading this one, but care to share what kind of formula you’re using? We’re 3 months over here and I’m already back at work. Spent time in the NICU from day one and never took to latching, still continuing to try though. So pumping all.the.time. is killing me. Especially because apparently my child is a great sleeper and yet I still have to get up three times a night to pump to keep up with it. Want to keep some BM in there, but would love some sleep, but still so wary about formula. Which is so stupid. I know fed is best, but it’s hard not to judge myself.

      • I went back to work at the three month mark as well. It is hard. Please give yourself MAD PROPS for exclusively pumping. I think I would have switched to formula exclusively within a week if I had had to EP.

        And sending you best wishes that baby takes to latching. I do know babies that finally took to it at the 4-5 month mark.

        I supplemented with Similac Sensitive, and my little guy never seemed to have any issues with it.

      • Except for the stint in the NICU, I had a similar experience. Little badger (LB) was really bad at breastfeeding, so after a month we switched to exclusively pumping. We had to supplement as well and started with Enfamil (they sent coupons) then switched to Kirkland (Costco brand) because it was so much less expensive. The internet contends that Kirkland is just rebranded Similac. We were fortunate that LB didn’t care what was in the bottle, so that worked for us. Maybe this is naive, but I believe that the likelihood is most/all baby formula is safe/healthy since the outrage would be huge if there turned out to be an issue.
        On the exclusive pumping front, if your baby is 3 months old, you can scale back on the nighttime pumps. Your body will adjust to producing less overnight and more during the day, so your supply shouldn’t drop. You’ll want to scale back slowly so you don’t get engorged overnight, though. One nice thing about exclusively pumping is that I was able to cut back to pumping four times a day without losing supply around 3 months. It freed up a lot of time and I only had to pump once at work.
        Lastly, the guilt is real, but try to be nice to yourself. Breastfeeding is great for the baby but it’s also important that mom be happy. Like others that have posted on here, I was able to be a much better mom once I stopped stressing so much about breastfeeding.

      • Thank you both! I honestly had no idea it would be so hard. You’d think something so natural would happen more easily. I do hear the latch could still happen, so there’s hope! The shield drives me mad, she knocks it off every time. I wish I could just pump once a day and get the 28 ounces that she drinks, dreams : )

      • Thank you! Who knew something so natural would be so hard. I honestly had no idea, I just thought she would latch and we would all go on our merry way. But the pumping really gets to me, thank you for your thoughts. I think supplementing is what I want to do, I just have to get out of my own way.

  • RAVE: I was really encouraged by all of the comments people posted about me possibly relocating to be closer to family. I know I’m not the only one who has had to make this decision, but its nice to hear from people who chose to stay or go and how they feel about that choice now.
    RANT: I ended up being away from a computer for most of this week and wasn’t able to respond to most of you and feel awfully guilty about it
    RANT: Still not any closer to making a decision one way or another. It just seems like such a BIG decision, I sort of don’t know where to start.
    RAVE: Weekend is almost here!
    RANT: I’m not seeing a clear path for growth in my job… and its frustrating. I don’t mind putting in early and working late when the situation calls for it… but not if there’s no end point there.

    • Andie302

      If things with your job don’t appear to be getting better regarding extra hours, maybe part of the decision-making process could be to start looking for new work in both places. If you find something great where you grew up, then you would really have to think about the move, versus now it’s sort of this pie in the sky decision. (You could also apply this strategy with your partners work, starting to look at real estate listings, any number of large things that could sway you in one direction or another.)

      • Thanks, that’s part of my thought process too. There is a ton of overall growth happening at my company… but there doesn’t seem to be a clear path for me to benefit from it and that’s aggravating.

        Relocating wouldn’t necessarily mean relocating to my “hometown” (I’m a military brat, and only lived in the place my family now lives for 2 years before making DC my home) and I never liked it there. It’s Trump country and landlocked. But, I feel guilty being out here as my dad’s health declines. I’m also getting burned out by the overall cost of living.

  • Andie302

    Query: Does anyone have a blender they love that will crush ice? There’s a vitamix on sale right now at Costco, but that seems like overkill for the occasional smoothie I would like to make. That being said, I would probably use it for soups, etc. if I had it. Any recommendations?

    • HaileUnlikely

      Negative. I’ve burned out the motors of multiple cheap blenders making smoothies. What’s the price for the Vitamix at Costco?

      • Andie302

        They have the smaller S30 for $299 (that’s the regular price) and then they have the 5300 on sale right now for $324. I figured if I am going to pull the trigger, I would just spend the extra $25, right?

      • I know people rave about the vitamix! My blender is on it’s way out and I think I would upgrade to a vitamix since the motors on cheaper ones last about 5 years for me.

    • The VitaMix isn’t overkill. Get the VitaMix especially since it’s on sale. Won’t have to worry about it dying on you or jamming.

    • I’d spring for the Vitamix. I got a Ninja thinking I couldn’t justify the vitamix… and its falling apart 2 years later. Now that I’ve discovered spinach, avocado, and ginger smoothies make for a filling and fast breakfast on the go I use it almost every day.

    • I love my NutriBullet blender!

    • I’ve had a Hamilton Beach for almost 4 years now. It works great for my occasional smoothie (maybe 5-6 times/month). Not the exact model, but closest I can find: https://www.amazon.com/Hamilton-Beach-Crusher-Multi-Function-54220/dp/B0086DY572/ref=sr_1_8?s=kitchen&ie=UTF8&qid=1492784552&sr=1-8&keywords=hamilton+beach+blender

      • I Dont Get It

        I have a similar blender for $30 and I use it almost every morning. Spinach, yogurt, flax seeds, nine frozen blueberries, 3 ice cubes and some water. Ive had it for at least three years.

    • The Vitamix is AMAZING! You can do lots of things with it. Also check the Vitamix website for refurbished ones. This is what I got which was much cheaper than the new ones, but still came with 5 year warranty. I can’t remember how much I paid as it was several years ago.

    • I love our Vitamix. We have a Nutribullet too, and it’s much less powerful or durable. The one advantage that it has is that it’s easier to use and clean. We have the tall Vitamix, and it is a real hassle to get food out of the bottom, especially if it’s a thick smoothie or batter – a lot more waste. (Sur la Table makes a blender spatula that has helped a lot.) I would opt for the shorter, wider blender canister rather than the taller, thinner one – easier to store, as well. I still use the Nutribullet for things that don’t require the power of a vitamix – crepe batter; powder-based shakes (as opposed to veggie-based smoothies.)

    • We have both a Vitamix and a Kitchenaid blender. They both make fine smoothies, though we use frozen fruit not ice. I actually prefer the Kitchenaid for smoothies because you can put it in the dishwasher. Vitamix is supposed to be hand washed. The Vitamix will blend the f- out of anything you throw in it though.

      • Also, when buying a blender, pay attention to the power of the motor. Look at the horsepower and/or wattage. The more powerful the motor, the better it’s going to blend.

    • Our little Ninja is awesome for smoothies and margaritas. For bigger batches (aka, soups), I have a Cuisinart with a glass bowl. But beware, the spinning mechanism on the base is rubber (what idiot thought that up?) and has to be replaced every so once in a while.

    • For crushed ice, put the cubes in a tea towel and smash it on the counter. Simple. For everything else, blended soups, smoothies etc. just get a good stick blender. Seriously, it does everything and you will use it far more often because it is so simple to use ( just blend the soup right in the pot) and simple to clean. (just rinse it under the tap!) I make smoothies often with frozen fruit and juice (OK – wine) with the stick blender. I have a blender and a Cuisinart, but the stick blender is 95% of anything.

    • I wanted a Vitamix for years and years and when I finally got one this Christmas I cried. It’s amazing. You can make nut butters, soups, smoothies, you can throw out your juicer (so much healthier to get all the fiber), ice cream, margaritas, the options are endless! You are already splurging on one, so go with the 5300 for sure.

    • I have a super old (10+ years) super cheap (less than USD20 back then) Osterizer and it still keeps going, crushing ice and everything without a problem. Spare parts are cheap and easy to find if really needed (I think I replaced the blades part once, but that’s it). If this blender really dies one day I’ll buy another cheap one just like it. I don’t think the cost of the Vitamix can ever make it worth it given my experience with a cheap one.

  • Rant: Still trying to get my money back from Metro from the other day when they had a track fire. Got in at Dupont, left after 7 minutes still charged $2.15 on top of the $4.75 for U St – Glenmont via Fort Totten to avoid the Red Line.
    Rave: Got free tix to TedX Foggy Bottom tomorrow and DRAM on Sunday!

  • Rave: TGIF–what a long week!
    Rave: A Wider Circle is coming to pick up a bunch of furniture today.
    Rant: New Haverty’s couch won’t be delivered until the “first third of May” — wtf is that scheduling window? So we’ll be about 2-3 weeks without a couch. I wish I could have gotten the delivery times closer together, but AWC could get us in today.. or the end of June.
    Rave: Nursery is looking less like a storage room and more like a baby’s room. A rainy day indoors tomorrow will give me more nesting time.

    Rant: my all-time-favorite, most excellent, once-in-a-lifetime manager’s last day was yesterday. Our whole team is happy for her (moving across the country for personal reasons), but we are going to miss her a ton.
    Semi-rant-rave: I’m applying for her job. It’s complicated. I have a feeling I won’t get it because I’d be jumping up two pay grade levels, but I’ve essentially shadowed her for 2 years (what better experience than that!). Also, horrible timing (see nursery comment above).

  • Rant: Office culture where being late by two minutes is a very big deal; yet, a coworker is in the bathroom flat ironing her hair. Lovely.
    Rave: I have had a really productive week at work. I think I’m starting to feel on top of my game for the first time since having Baby Artie. Given that Baby A is now a toddler, perhaps this should be a rant.
    Rave: My allergies are slowly improving.
    Rave: I have an appointment today at Coup de Foudre to be resized. I am so excited to be back in a properly fitting bra. Sorry not sorry for talking about bras in the RRRR.

    • Bring your old bras to Coup! They are collecting for Bread for the City until 4/28.

    • Maybe the over-emphasis on timeliness contributed to the bathroom hair stylist? I’d rather do my hair in the bathroom where only 1-2 people might see than be late & have everyone upset about it. Flat ironing is a bit much though!

    • I Dont Get It

      Oh we’ve had bra talk before. For days as I recall..

  • Rave: Oh thank the gods it is Friday! I literally think I might cry with joy when I get to go home, I’m so unbelievably tired!
    Rant: Extraordinarily rude person who has been making my life miserable is continuing to make my life miserable. There are soooo many other places this person could go, why here if he’s so obviously unhappy about every little thing?!
    Rave: Just have to get through a few more hours…going home and straight into my bed is all I can think about.

  • Rave: Going out of town with friends this weekend for a low key bachelorette-ish weekend. So ready for wine tasting, cooking, & relaxing!
    Rant: Must make it through this work day first.
    Rave/Rant: Sephora opening right by my office, and their 10% off sale. I just recently got into makeup, so this is a dangerous combination! question for the PoPulace – if you were to recommend one makeup or skincare product to someone starting mostly from scratch, what would it be?

    • Andie302

      I don’t do much makeup, but I started filling in my brows in the last year or so and man it makes a big difference. I’ve had people tell me I have perfect brows, and on their own they are far from it. I just got a brow brush and tried a few different shades to see what looked best. I have VERY dark hair/eyebrows, but it’s still a shade of brown that was lighter than I would’ve expected. One of their ladies helped me figure out the shade. Bonus that it works well for me when I occasionally play around with contouring.

      • Oooh, eyebrows had not occurred to me! Thank you!

        • +1 to eyebrows; I’m obsessed with Anastasia’s brow whiz.

          Two other things that I love: glamglow’s super mud mask (oddly satisfying since you can see all the crap it’s sucking out of your face).. expensive, but I’m sure they can make you a sample before committing; also, Sephora has a monthly samples box a la birchbox that always has some pretty good stuff ($10/month). You also get a coupon in there to come in for a makeover/they show you how to use the products you got.

      • Brows are one of my two things I don’t leave the house without doing. Eyeliner is my other, but that’s a personal thing.

        • I love Tarte’s eyebrow mousse – it comes with the double ended brush and spoolie!

          • yep, that’s my fave as well! I won’t leave the house without the eyebrows brushed with that and at least a coat of mascara, otherwise you can’t tell I have eyelashes / brows!

      • Great point about brows – and a pro tip for anyone like me who totally overplucked in the ’90’s (sigh) – using 100% argan oil on your brows every night will help them grow and fill in. I’ve been doing it for several months now and can’t believe the difference – I had pretty much resolved myself to having really sparse/thin brows, and am so pleasantly surprised that this works. Good for lashes, too!

        • How do you use that for lashes?? Just rub in and let sit?

          • I do it occasionally at night before bed since my eyes will be closed- you can rub it on the lash line, but very sparingly. You may end up with a little bit getting in your eyes, but it doesn’t seem to be a problem or too irritating. YMMV.

    • I really like Benefit’s Fakeup for undereye circles. I’m also a big fan of light-colored eyeliner rather than black (I prefer gold, although I’ve also heard pearl or pink recommended depending on your skin tone) because it brightens eyes without looking like you’re wearing a ton of makeup.

      • I honestly didn’t even know you could get eyeliner in colors other than brown & black (see, told you I was a makeup beginner!) I really like this idea, thanks!

    • In addition to brows like we’ve discussed above, which I’d 100% recommend, I’d also say maybe a light powder for your face. I use BareMinerals’ and it’s nice for a bit of a coverup without having a full face of foundation.

    • Depends on your makeup goals and skin, and admittedly this doesn’t have to do with Sephora, BUT if you’re getting into experimenting with makeup try e.l.f. (available at Target, but I order online and shipping is free over $25). Their products range from $1 to maybe $6 and there are certainly some “misses” with it being that cheap, but when you only spent $2 on a eyeshadow and hate it, no harm, no foul. I’m saying this as someone who got into makeup and spent hundreds at Sephora on things that I didn’t end up liking or using. Once you figure out “I like this type of foundation for oily skin and medium coverage” (for example), you can then find a higher quality version of that at Sephora. Good luck!

      • I meant to add that I pretty much exclusively use e.l.f. products now (after some trial and error) and they have some really great stuff. I would consider myself very “in” to makeup, wear a full face of it everyday, etc. I do splurge occasionally on things like primer and brow products, but e.l.f. has a ton of amazing options.

    • Clueless

      On the skincare front, I’d recommend getting a good nighttime face oil or lotion. I’m all for face oils and currently using the Caudalie Vinosource Overnight Recovery Oil. It smells nice and my face feels super soft in the morning!

  • Rave: Made signs with new post-Women’s March friends for March for Science.
    Rave: Signs facing inner courtyard at the science agency where I work. Resist!
    Rant: CR related stress.

  • Rave: The Baby Bunny is now two months old! How is it that the time has flown by so fast?
    Rave: It seems I’m finally getting the hang of being a stay at home mom and I’m really happy I made the decision to leave my job. I never thought I would be able to say that.
    Rant: I’m still trying to figure out how to incorporate household chores into my daily schedule. My house is a wreck at this point.
    Rave: Planning a trip down to TN and NC in June to visit family and friends. I really can’t wait to see everyone.

    • It was so tough for me to incorporate chores in during my leave and just when I thought I had a routine down, his nap schedule would change and I’d be stuck again. Also, sometimes I really needed a break during his downtime–taking care of a 2 month old is no easy task! Try to cut yourself some slack or plan on doing only one thing per day so that you can still take a break, rest, eat, etc. I always found throwing in a load of laundry to be a pretty easy task. Then maybe while I was prepping lunch I’d wipe down the counters in the kitchen or quickly do the kitchen floor or dust the living room. Basically clean a room over the entire week in chunks. My partner was great at either helping clean on the weekend while I watched/fed the baby or vice versa. But I’m a bit resolved at this point that the house might be a bit messy at times and that’s okay as we adjust to a new little being in our household that needs lots of (well-deserved!!!) attention!

    • I’m glad you’re liking being a stay at home mom. As of right now, it looks like we may go that route too because the job market is so tough here. I worry I will get bored though, but then again I find things to fill my time now and there’s no baby to take care of! What do you like about it?

      • I think the big thing for me is seeing the day to day changes in her. Now at two months, she’s smiling and laughing a lot. She definitely has a unique personality that has emerged and she loves babbling to her toys. Plus with the hours that I was working, I don’t think I would have really had any time with her during the work week and that was really stressing me out during the pregnancy. And I won’t even go into the cost of childcare in DC… it was pretty ugly when we checked it out. Such a large chunk of my pay check would have gone to childcare that it just didn’t really make sense to us to go down that path. I didn’t know how I would react to suddenly being home all the time but it’s not as bad as I thought it would be. Plus I don’t think I’m emotionally ready to be separated from her yet.

        And honestly, I have yet to get bored. In fact, I’m craving some downtime at this point. I have an incredibly easy-going baby and it’s still rare for me to have more than an hour of free time per day.

    • Bear

      For me, it wasn’t really until around 12 weeks that I felt like I started being able to tackle anything aside from caring for baby, so cut yourself some slack and take it slow. I agree with rfff924 that laundry was something that was fairly easy to do in between naps.

    • I’ve never been a SAHM, and I am far from a new mom at this point, but I can share what works for me. First off – set good, attainable expectations. You have a newborn! Unless you are June Cleaver on speed, your house will be a mess. Enjoy this stage; baby isn’t crawling or scooting, isn’t sticking everything with in reach in her mouth, and so it’s ok for the house to be less than tidy.
      For me, I tend to clean on Saturday mornings when the kids are still asleep. I can tackle the most without anyone else in my way and I tend to wake up early. This means the rest of the week I just have to tidy up and straighten. I know others who do one room a day, but that has never worked for me. There are a few things I make sure I do every day that really helps:
      1) The dishwasher is ran every night and emptied every morning. It is SO much easier to put dishes directly into the dishwasher that to empty and load a full sink of dishes.
      2) I do one load of laundry every day; if it backs up, I am screwed and tempted to throw a match in the pile and just start fresh.
      3) If you have hard surface floors, a Dyson Stick Vac is worth it’s weight in gold. I quickly vacuum every day and it’s silly, but it makes a big difference.

  • Rant: Someone is literally swiping flowers from my yard the minute they come up. I now have only flowers on the left side of the sidewalk to my door. What gives? If you asked me, I’d give you a sample of the bulbs, but what you’re stealing won’t survive and makes my yard look like crap.

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