Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • Rant: Had a guy purposely try to run me off the road today because I dared to honk my horn when he swerved into my lane.
    Rave: Nice weather we’re having today!

    • What do we have to do to get MPD to do some kind of traffic enforcement?? The dangerous and aggressive behavior is out of control, and completely unchecked.

      • houseintherear

        Yesterday a guy turned left when the light turned green, in front of a waiting line of cars (the first car almost hit him). There was a cop behind me… nada. Oh and then the cop ran a red light a block later. I think we’re all screwed at this point.

  • Rant: For some reason since yesterday morning I’ve been fighting off anxiety, which I haven’t had to deal with for many months now. I’ve forgotten how awful it feels, like I’m going to burst at some point and not be able to do anything the rest of the day.
    Rant: In the past two weeks, my load at work has suddenly doubled, I’ve taken on other people’s worries along with my small-but-still-anxiety-inducing issues and I feel like everyone is getting snappy at me when I’m really trying hard not to snap back.
    Rave: This too shall pass.

  • justinbc

    Rave: That’s a really cool kite!
    Pre-Rave: Go Heels!
    Rave: Thanks to the input from last week got in touch with 2 different artists about doing a mural on our side wall, can’t wait to see what they come up with.
    Rant: Kitchen contractors are just not getting that I don’t want insanely expensive cabinetry hogging 1/2 my budget. In 3 separate designs now they keep including over the top cabinet selections. Starting to get frustrated and about to look into new designers.

  • Rant: So much work. So much politics. So little time.
    Rant: Lots of weekends at hometown recently – checking in on my mom after her surgery.
    Rave: Mom is doing well. Got to celebrate my good friend for her bridal shower and the white wines I brought (all “weird whites” as my mom calls them) were hugely popular!
    Rant/Rave: Saw my friend for the first time in 12 months – the one who disappeared to the middle of nowhere to flee any type of medical treatment for her severe bipolar disorder + manic behavior. She came through, coming a long way for the shower and bringing what she had promised. But she was very clearly in a manic episode, or hiding it, and it just hurts to think we tried so hard and nothing has changed. Alas, she’s still alive so there’s that.

  • Rant: cyclist did not stop at four way stop and told me to “move a little faster” while I was crossing the street in the marked crosswalk in front of him. That’s not how it works!
    Rave: It won’t be Monday again tomorrow, and spring weather is coming. That’s the best I’ve got.

    • Same rant as a driver. I stop, turn signal is on, and I start turning as the cyclist blows through his sign. I think he called me a f*ucker.
      I’d certainly walk slower for that asshat.

    • I make a point to walk slower when cyclists or cars are clearly in a hurry and don’t want to wait for me to cross when I have the right of way. Passive-aggressive? Yes. Satisfying? Also yes.

  • Quotia Zelda

    Rant: Looking at the summer calendar, I’m not sure there’s a week when all 5 of us can get away for a vacation.
    Rant: The problem is 95% my work/travel schedule.
    Rant: Dear New Orleans: Temps in the low 70s are not the plan for my visit. Try again.

  • skj84

    Rant: Allergies have kicked in full force. I’m dealing with itchy eyes, coughing and congestion so bad I had to work from home today. I’m worried that I have my seasonal respiratory infection, which usually does not respond to meds. I generally have to let it run its way through my system, which can take weeks.
    Rant: I just realized how shady it looks to call out on opening day.
    Rave:Big Little Lies finale! What a thrilling hour of TV, on of my favorite finales ever. I’m sad the show is over, but I think 7 episodes was the perfect run.

    • In the last two years, I’ve called in sick on the Monday after Thanksgiving and the first day of the NCAA tournament. Both times, totally legit, but I’m sure there were suspicions…

    • That One Guy

      I feel you on the allergy/respiratory issue. I fear I’m dealing with something similar.

    • Well, thanks, now I now why my eyes have been itchy and dry the last few days. I don’t usually have this seasonal allergy, except for my first spring in DC when it progressed to strep.

    • Blithe

      I’m relatively new to seasonal allergies, and I’ve already run through claritin, zyrtec, allegra. and flonase. (claritin and allegra worked beautifully, then abruptly stopped working. Zyrtec made me horribly sleepy, and flonase didn’t do anything as far as I could tell) Since last year’s allergy season, I’ve been taking Sabadil — a homeopathic remedy by boiron — and it’s working well to control my symptoms. It definitely helps with my itchy eyes and congestion. Could be worth a try — either instead of or in addition to whatever you’re taking now. I also tried irrigation, on the advice of pro-neti pot PoPvillagers, but it didn’t seem to help with my symptoms.
      – Hope you’re feeling better soon!

  • saf


  • Rave: Moving day

    Rant: Moving day

    Rave: the old owners had cleaners come to clean the house instead of just broom sweeping

    Rant: I had hired cleaners to come this morning. I didn’t need them, but when I found out the old owners had cleaned, it was too late to call and cancel. The poor cleaners came bright and early at 8, but I sent them away, paying them and giving them their tip anyway. The worst is that I delayed my movers by a couple hours to get the house cleaned, and it would have been great for the movers to be able to start earlier.

    • Rant – I miss Columbia Heights already.

    • Added rant – I got a self-install kit for Comcast (no FIOS here). Worked really well except there is no cable outlet in the living room. So I have to have Comcast come out and install a new jack. I may live with netflix and hulu in that room for awhile.

    • Where are you moving to?

  • Rant: Highly emotional weekend. Loving people is hard.
    Rant: Rolled my ankle a little running yesterday. It feels okay but a little stiff today. I want to run but I know it’s probably a bad idea.
    Rave: Took today off for necessary BASEBALL!
    Revel: Don’t try to have more, try to have enough. Hard but necessary lesson.

  • Rave: Bitter(s) Friday with a workshop on bitters in the Conservatory of the Botanic Garden, hopped grapefruit bitters steeping on my countertop. And nice to see Jeslett
    Rave: Clowning around on Saturday and Sunday at a clown workshop
    Rant: Overslept, slogging my way through the morning

  • Rave: Long bike ride (50+ miles) Saturday. Cold, windy, and goodness I’m slow, but I’m really proud of myself for doing it.
    Rant: Friends buried under by student loans. the math on some loans (especially private loans) is just astonishing. One friend is paying 9% interest.
    Revel: Hurray for opening day!

    • Yeah…I did my taxes this weekend – they cap the student loan interest deduction at $2500, which is about a grand less than I actually paid. I’m f*$#ing screwed.

      • How are you screwed? Did you count on deducting all of it? Or just screwed because you’re paying a lot of interest?

        • Just screwed in general, since I’m paying interest and can never make a dent in the actual loan. The big giant one is under Dept of Ed and I’m praying to whatever god may be out there that they (congress, etc) don’t get rid of the PSLF, since i’m about 5 years in already, but I feel like chewing off my fingernails when I think about it too much!

          • Yea, I don’t worry about paying it off. In 20 something years I’ll need to have the money set aside for taxes to cover the debt forgiveness. Seems like a much easier goal to me.

          • That did not help me feel better…..nor does the goal seem easier, but maybe I’m missing something?

    • Sofi and others offer refinancing for student loans. If they aren’t under dept of ed trying to get a 10yr forgiveness, they should definitely explore refinancing.

      • They all won’t take mine because I have too much and really want to do it all together, otherwise it just isn’t worth it 🙁
        I feel your friend’s pain bizzinger, a couple of mine are in the double digits for interest.

  • Rant: mtpkiddo up in the middle of the night *again* and had a terrible time going back to sleep. Poor kid. I’m not sure we’re handling it right, but I’m also not sure what the “right” way is between not allowing weekend naps and trying to get her to fall asleep on her own and in her own bed after some comforting. It’s hard on us, but it’s obviously hard on her, too. Ugh.
    Rave: mtpbaby slept fine despite me forgetting to close his window and it getting pretty chilly in his room overnight. Oops.
    Rave: morning yoga. Though I need to get up a little more promptly so I have a bit more time to spend on it.
    A little bit of both: I might start encouraging mtpbaby to wean. On the one hand, I’ll miss those snuggles. On the other hand, I’m worried if I don’t stop soon-ish, it will be a much harder thing. And it will be so amazing to eat all the cheese I want again! It will also be nice to not be “needed” as part of the bedtime/waking up process in the same way. Mixed feelings, of course.

    • Why is everything with parenting so bittersweet? I weaned from the pump last week (yay!), but part of me can’t help but feel sad because it is the first step in the process of eventually weaning Baby Artie, who is looking more like a little boy every day. I think I’m going to have very mixed emotions when that happens.

      • I think there is good and bad in every stage, and while we want to ultimately succeed in raising independent and capable adults, there’s something so very sweet about their snuggles and some of the ways they need us. So much is very bittersweet, for sure. Oddly, weaning my daughter wasn’t too bad–largely because she mostly did it herself at around 14 months, and nursing was often a challenge along the way for one reason or another. It also may be harder this time around because I’m pretty sure we’re done on the kid front. I don’t think I want another baby, but I will miss mtpbaby’s babyhood–at least some aspects of it.
        Congrats on making it through the long slog of pumping!

  • Rant: Took multiple phone calls, hours of waiting on the phone, and being a loud advocate for myself to get an appointment. When you’re going through a pregnancy that’s “not progressing” this is NOT what I want to focus on.
    Rave: Thankful I live in a city where this procedure is relatively easily accessible and where I don’t expect to be sadistically manipulated by a doctor and where I have health insurance and a job that allows flexibility.
    Rant: Beyond infuriated that women who need this procedure for whatever reason or cause, who have to travel for hours, have to take off work without pay, hide from their partner, and pay a lot of money in order to get the support they need and deserve.

    • Gah, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I can’t even imagine. I’m keeping you in my thoughts!

    • Please know you are in my thoughts. Sending love and hugs your way.

    • It is unconscionable the way healthcare is withheld from women.
      I am impressed by your ability to think of others right now; I hope someone is taking care of you, too.

    • So sorry. You should be proud of being able to be a good advocate for yourself. I hope you have the support you deserve. It is indeed tragic that so many women are so alone when facing this decision, and you’re correct that insurance difficulties, outright hostility, and a lack of providers nearby means it’s a much bigger hurdle for many others in a similar situation. Wishing you the best.

    • It sounds like you are handling this with so much grace, and the compassion you feel towards others in such difficult circumstances – coupled with difficulty in accessing such a procedure – is truly beautiful. I hope you know are loved, whoever you are, and that there are many internet strangers who are holding you in their thoughts as you walk through this tough time. Hugs!

    • I’m thinking of you, Anonforthis, and sending hugs and comfort your way.

    • I’m sorry Anonforthis, it really should be easier for you. You are in my thoughts.

    • Sorry for that. Sounds like you have your head on straight. Is the appointment for PP or another facility? I wish I could find an OB/Gyn who offers the full spectrum of women’s reproductive services. Don’t really want to deal with unfamiliar appointment processes and docs.

  • Rant: I am in my first trimester and have a cold, and can’t really take anything for it. Also feeling prettty crappy regardless. I can’t take today off work but really wish I could….
    Revel: at least I’m not vomiting?

    • Depending on your symptoms, tylenol and cough suppressants may be your friend. Good luck!

    • I think you can use Afrin for congestion. But I wouldn’t swear to it. It’s been a long time for me, and the recommendations change with surprising frequency.

    • Mucinex, Netipot, and lots of fluids. This is still my do to remedy since I’m still nursing. I hope you feel better.

    • Ugh I feel your pain. First trimester – and I can’t take the only allergy meds that work (steroid nasal spray), and I can’t take my ADD medications. So I’m not really functional. Thankfully I’m almost at end of first tri, and my bad symptom (fatigue) is much improved.

  • That One Guy

    Rant: Trying to sleep, but only being able to breath through my non-dominant nostril (is that even a thing), kept me tossing and turning. It wasn’t until like 4:00 am that the nostrils switched on/offf positions and I fell asleep.
    Rant: I’m preemptively complaining about not getting tickets to the mirror room. Kusama! Ha.

  • Rant: Husband is having health issues. That make no sense. And that none of the doctors so far have any answers to. Kidney and heart rate impact are a big deal in my book – but none of them think so.
    Rant: This is my busiest month at work and I am pretty much losing my mind from stress there – then you add the health issues…. I think I might break.
    Rant: This one friend picked the day my husband was in the hospital to get all preachy and judgmental. Not helping.

    • My dad had renal and cardiac issues. It was pre-diabetes and a lifetime of too much ibuprofen. He stopped sugar (even though he wasn’t overweight at all) and advil, and got better. But it took the doctors a while to figure out the kidney/ ibuprofen connection, IIRC.

      • Eek. This makes me nervous from all the ibuprofin/acetaminophen I’ve taken over the years because of my migraines. I try to keep it low-dose and not often but still. I should try harder.

        • Me too. Between 20 years of agonizing cramps, 10 years of wrecked joints and sore muscles from sports, and a lifetime of tension headaches, I wonder how close I am to my lifetime limit.

        • I have kidney issues, and ibuprofen and NSAIDs are bad news. Acetaminophen is filtered by the liver, not the kidneys, so it’s ok.

          • But acetaminophen is one of the (if not the) most commonly fatally overdosed over the counter drugs in the country – the safety margins are very slim – so it scares me.

      • We’ll add that to the list to check out but I seem to recall his blood sugar is fine. But he did crush an arm in an accident years ago and kind of lives off of ibuprofen (which he considers better than living on/addicted to oxy). So many things can go so wrong!

        • Yeah, my dad was also relying on ibuprofen for chronic pain. When he had to quit the NSAIDs he started doing biofeedback exercises and found them to be very effective.

  • Revel: Please join us to knit & crochet! We meet Tuesdays at noon near L’Enfant Plaza. email me at Michelleknitter at gmail.com for info.

  • Rant: Monday. I hate Mondays.
    Rave: FaceTimed with my little brother last night before (I went to) bed. Super excited for his visit later this week!
    Rant: I woke up shortly after I had finally fallen asleep last night (too much coffee yesterday late morning/early afternoon) due to terrible dreams about my brothers. I can’t remember exactly what it was about, I just know I woke up shaking and had to get up and walk it off. Ugh. So tired now!
    Rave: Great time at the yoga and beer workshop on Saturday

  • Rave: I did not go out to breakfast with my family this weekend!
    Rave: instead I took my dad to yoga and he took me to brunch
    Rant: I did get a “we didn’t see you too much this weekend” upon leaving. Well, if you spend all of your time cleaning my sister’s house and getting up at the crack of down then no, you’re not going to see me too much. You’re free to come clean my house.
    Rave: bitters class and seeing MPinDC!

  • Rant: day 3 of migraine. Mild enough that I managed to enjoy parts of Saturday and Sunday and go to work today, but man it’s a drain on me physically to have to deal with this and function.
    Rave: the sun shining through my windows at work (having windows at work!), and the momentary reprieve from said migraine bc of painkillers.
    Rave: actually thinking about working out tonight after work (low key of course to not rouse the migraine monster lurking in the background).
    Rave: the little things that my SO does that makes me laugh/smile. I’m thankful this morning for the support he gives me when I’m caught in the migraine rut.

    • Re your migraine: I had a migraine from Thursday night to yesterday afternoon, so I feel your pain! (Literally!) I hope you feel better as the day goes on.

    • Another sympathetic migraine sufferer. Last week was a bad one! Here’s hoping this week is better.

    • maxwell smart

      You’ve probably heard this before, but it could be a food trigger. You might consider an elimination diet to see if there is something triggering your migraines.

      • Elimination diets are good. But I’m almost positive I know the cause of this one and there’s little I can do about it unless I want to give up my woman parts 🙂

    • Emmaleigh504

      I had a migraine all weekend. I feel for you. Hope it goes away soon.

  • Rave: the eagle cam-both parents were there and feasting on fish this morning. Eaglets looked good.
    Rant: Emi is decidedly a night cat. 930 pm, trying to go to sleep and she’s playing like kitten with a toy mouse in my room.
    Rave 2: headed to phx Thursday, haven’t seen my sisters kiddos in person in a year. Will be making macaroons there instead of schlepping them from here.

    • Forgot another rave-took a tour of the Frederick Douglass house, highly recommend! But get tickets in advance.

    • It’s so weird how they put a microphone in/near the nest, and you can hear the eagles shredding their fish. It kind of gives me the willies.

  • Rant: Baby Artie awake at quarter to three and four this morning. I am tired and fueled by ice coffee today.
    Rave: I had a lovely weekend with the family.
    Rant: I need to start planning my garden and weeding my flower beds. I’m a little nervous about keeping up with the yard while working full time and parenting a toddler. It may mean that my house is messy because if it comes down to playing in dirt or mopping floors, the dirt will always win.

  • Rave: I correctly predicted the teams that will be playing tonight for the NCAA championship. I know I had 5 brackets going (and 4 went down in flames with some of the upsets) but still I’m gonna pat myself on that back for that one.
    Mega rant: My mother and sister bullying me into moving back south and be close to them. Hell fuck no. It’s MY life. Not theirs. They just cut me off whenever I tried to explain why I’m living up here. And my mom just keeps saying that I’m “scared of moving back” when I haven’t had a chance to say anything. I hate that they refuse to listen to what I have to say. Also, my sister did whatever the hell she wanted to do for years and it was perfectly fine. Just so goddamn hypocritical.
    Rave: Feeling better since getting rid of all of the email subscriptions to every place I’ve ever ordered from online.
    Rave: Lightening my workload at work.

    • My mom (and to a certain extent step-dad) used to give me all rashes of shit about first, moving to DC, and now moving farther north. I got everything all the time – it’s dangerous! it’s expensive! won’t someone think of the children? – and I just ignored it and shut it down. Every. Single. Time. Lather, Rinse, Repeat. You are a grown adult, and they don’t get to have that say ( I mean, unless you are financially dependent upon them, that’s another story). My honest suggestion would be to set a boundary (“Mom, I know how you feel, however, me moving is not up for discussion.”) and stick to it (“yeah, mom, we’ve had this conversation, I’m not moving.”), it may get better, it may not, but at least you are standing your ground.

      • I would only add: yes, you told me that but it’s not up for discussion. Let’s change the subject or I’ll hang up/leave the room etc. Then do it.

  • I recently bought a used car without tinted windows. I am very fair-skinned and sunburn easily. I would appreciate any recommendations on vendors in the area for window tinting. Thanks

    • Crap. You just reminded me that I forgot to put sunscreen on mtpkiddo this morning. Her cheeks have been so pink recently from playing outside at school!

    • Modern auto glass (non-tinted) should block most UV rays already.

  • Rave: Managed to pull off awesome travel-themed bridal shower for a friend this weekend. She loved it!
    Rant: Out of office retreat for work tomorrow, which will be spent learning about a topic that does not affect me as I am only the office admin. Boss said I can skip the event, but if I do then I’m stuck in the office with a substitute whom I don’t care for and who is currently mad at me. Decisions…
    Rant: Took my camera out in last night’s GORGEOUS evening, took 189 pics, and only then came home to realize that my camera was set to monochrome the entire time. DAMN! Such beautiful tulips…
    Rant: Have to start prep for an upcoming event, and the person in charge of said event just really gets under my skin. This event also requires me to work on a Sunday. Ergh.

  • Revel: the weather!
    Rant: boss telling us at the absolute last minute about something being due
    revel: 7.5 more days till spring break

  • Rant: My mother is driving me nuts. She just called and yelled at me for 10 minutes (until I just hung up on her) about how I don’t understand what she is going through dealing with her mother, who she says is being difficult and yelling at her. Uhhh….
    Rave: My wife is wonderful.

  • maxwell smart

    RANT: Foiled again for Infinity Mirrors tickets. It’s just not going to happen unless I show up at the museum at 6am and camp out for same day tickets. 🙁

  • rave: Enjoyed yesterday’s weather with a trip down part of the Capital Crescent Trail that was new to me…

    rant(?): The Colonial Dames of America were having an open house at the Abner Cloud House. As a part of their literature, they mention that the second leading cause of death for women in colonial times was fire (from long skirts being worn too close to fires). I told them that this could not possibly be true given the state of medicine and public health in the early 1800’s, but they uncritically stuck to their story. Upon further investigation (aka: one simple Google search), everything suggests that this is a popular myth…

    • Thank you for calling out the bullshit. You are a good person. Even if they didn’t listen.
      Signed, a historical dress enthusiast, and someone who quaintly believes facts matter

  • Quick question: For a small (~560 square feet) one-bedroom condo, what is the market value of a renovated kitchen and bathroom vs. an unrenovated (circa 1988) kitchen and bathroom?
    I’m appealing my property tax assessment. There’s a slightly larger one-bedroom with a renovated kitchen/bathroom that sold a few months ago, and I’m wondering how much to deduct from that amount once I adjust for lesser square footage. Should it be $30K? $40K? $50K?

    • Can I pile on with a tangentially related rant: I can’t stand my ugly, crumbling, non-functional bathroom in my 1 BR/1 BA condo anymore. It is also circa 1980s but was done with really poorly thought out fixtures and everything leaks, pools, and puddles where it is not supposed to. I need to renovate it. Basic budget for a renovation where I am not moving pipes, just updating everything? Also time estimate? How do people renovate their bathroom in a 1 bath place?

      • It depends on how big the bathroom is and the fixtures, tile, etc. you select. I’d say 10-15k. And 2-3 weeks. I think you’d have to move out if that’s your only bathroom unless you belong to a gym and want to shower there every morning or evening. But still then you have the bathroom situation.

        • So for tax purposes, should I say my unit should be worth 15K less for the unrenovated bathroom, and an addition 30K less for the unrenovated kitchen?

          • I don’t know, it’s all so subjective. I don’t think FMV in a condo that small for renovated kitchen/bath would add up to 45k. Maybe 25k? I know we put about $36k into our house in a short period of time and refinanced only 9 months after buying. The appraisal came back at almost $120k more than we paid for it. Our taxes have also increased by a lot since we bought the house, but they were really low to begin with and we were receiving the homestead deduction, but obviously had to do away with that.

        • Oops, outed myself there. Anyway, how much less should my unit be worth than an otherwise identical one that just sold with renovated kitchen/bathroom?

        • Wow, that feels a bit foreboding. I was somehow thinking it could be done for maybe $7K-$8K. It is really small (the width is the width of a tub with basically no room to spare), and I don’t want anything fancy. Just bright and clean and functional. I also realize my property assessment is also probably too high.

          • You could probably do it for $7-$8k, but of course that’s assuming nothing is wrong under the tile, with any of the pipes, etc. You said you have leaking so I can’t imagine they won’t find any issues. As an example, we had 5 quotes for our smallish bathroom and the quotes ranged from $5-$18k! And the quotes were all for the same thing. It was crazy.

          • Whatever you do- Get your tile and fixtures from somewhere other than Home Depot of Lowes. Will add more value and uniqueness to you unit.

    • Many years ago, when I appealed my assessment, I got some assistance from a person in the tax assessment office (back then, you could only access the necessary data by going downtown and looking it up on their computers). He told me some standard numbers or formulas that they use to add and subtract for various differences between the properties, like in comparing my house with one that had central air conditioning. I would suggest that you might see if you can get any information from the tax assessment office on the factors that they use.

      • Thanks — today is the last day for appeals and I’ve procrastinated as usual, but I might try that if they don’t accept my initial appeal and I have to appeal again.

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rave: Watching 90210, Dylan and Brenda are fixin to start dating. Brenda and Dylan forever!

  • Did anyone catch the premiere of the Real Housewives of Potomac last night? It was phenomenal and included footage from the birthday party at Carnegie Library

  • Late Rave: Was yelled at for “cutting off” a fellow cyclist and I try really hard to bike safely so when I double checked my video footage and it proved I not only called the pass, I completed it well before it would require her to brake, I feel vindicated. My guess, given her outfit and riding style, is that she was wearing headphones and staring straight ahead.

    Rant: another woman told me to shut up when I stopped her, 10 feet from the crosswalk, from walking in front of me in the bikelane without looking.

  • Rant: I was given a supposedly pregnant cat to foster – turns out he is a HE with balls the size of walnuts and a tomcat stink that is permeating my house and making my own cats and dog upset.

    Revel: He is super sweet, affectionate and friendly, and after neutering will make an adorable companion for someone.

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