Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • Andie302

    Two unrelated questions:
    1) Does anyone have a service they recommend for cutting down a dead tree?
    2) If you pick a location for a bachelorette party and it requires flights, does the bridal party pick up the airline ticket for the bride?

    • I have planned/attended a couple destination bachelorette parties. In both scenarios, the bride paid for her own flight but the bridal party went in for her portion of the hotel room.

      • agree with artemis.

        • Andie302

          Thank you both! That was my inclination as well but another bridal shower member thought we cover it. I think if I just coordinate with the bride (because we’ll likely fly together that weekend) then she’ll cover it.

          • +1. As long as bride is in agreement with flying for the party, I also agree with everyone here. I know someone who was in a similar situation a couple years ago, except the bridal party was expected to pick up the tab, and it caused MAJOR issues to the point where the plan was scrapped and the party moved back to DC. (Ooof!)

    • HaileUnlikely

      I don’t know specifically about dead trees, but I have used Adirondack Tree Experts for routine tree care (big trees, required bucket truck etc) and have been very happy with them.

    • 2 NO! what? is that a thing? I already feel like it’s a lot when brides ask their friends to go to a shower, bachelorette party, and a wedding, especially if one or more of those events is in a different city (or god forbid they are ALL in a different city). as a soon to be bride I can’t imagine asking my friends to shell out MY airfare on top of that.

      • Um, to be honest, that is why I am NOT attending my friend’s bachelorette party – even though I’m a bridesmaid. I’m co-hosting the shower, so it was one or the other in my book…sad to miss it, though.

        • I have the same situation with a friend of mine only I’m the reverse — going to the bachelorette party and not the shower. I honestly don’t see the point of wedding showers, and I’m not having one for my wedding. [and ftr I am having a bachelorette party but it’s two days before the wedding in the same location as the wedding.] If you absolutely HAVE to have a shower because of your family then have it with your family, don’t inconvenience your friends more – especially if it’s out of town and ESPECIALLY if you’re already asking them to go out of town for the wedding and ESPECIALLY ESPECIALLY if you’re asking them to go out of town for the wedding AND a bachelorette party.

      • Yeah, it’s gotten quite out of control. We didn’t even have a bridal shower because I felt it was unnecessary and we already had a small registry so I didn’t see the point of getting gifts at the shower.

      • HaileUnlikely

        Agreed with both of the above. While I obviously have not been involved in bridal showers firsthand, I have seen much awkwardness and hurt feelings caused by bridal showers that involved expenses far out of line with the financial circumstances of some of the expected attendees.

      • Yup, I would definitely pick up my own tab as the bride. I’m really struggling with my wedding/bridal shower/bachelorette planning because everyone in my bridal party lives in a different part of the country. It is tough.

        • Andie302

          It really is! The wedding is in Maine, the shower is in central PA, and the bach. party will be in Nashville. The bridal party is from Maine, NYC, DC, and central PA. Nothing is easy to plan when this is the case!

          • topscallop

            This is one reason I’m not having a bachelorette! If I could avoid the shower as well I would, but my fiancé’s mom really wants to throw me one.

          • Sounds familiar, Andie! I feel the same way, topscallop, but my friends really pushed for the bachelorette. We decided to just do a bachelorette the night of the shower in the same city.

          • hmmm that is tough. If I were the bride I would honestly make it clear that everything is optional for the friends. That way people who have the time off & financial resources and desire can go to everything, but for people who have less flexibility with their jobs or money can do what is easiest for them.
            Like, I have 5 weddings to go to this year, if I had to go out of town THREE TIMES for each of those weddings (plus my own) I would be broke and also not have a job. People need to be reasonable.

        • @ Alice – that seems like such a smart compromise – bachelorette party on the same night as the shower.

      • +Dress, shoes, makeup, hair, mani, pedi, etc., etc., etc.

  • Rant: News onslaught yesterday was just painful. GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH.

    Whats this now about no electronic devices larger than a cell phone being allowed on direct flights from the Middle East – but ONLY from non-American airlines? Don’t affected airlines have every right to sue the US government for adverse competition? If the decision was made for nat’l sec matters, then you would think it should also apply to US airlines. Ugh. Having flown through Doha a bunch of times, I would suspect the pretty rigorous screening of hand luggage would be preferable than having electronic stuff be placed in checked luggage under the plane.

    And whats this about Tillerson skipping a NATO meeting to go to Mar a Lago with the Chinese President? And then heading to Moscow later that month??

    I’m just… they don’t even care anymore about how any of this looks.

    I’m sad.

    • “If the decision was made for nat’l sec matters, then you would think it should also apply to US airlines.”
      I had the same thought. I would like to believe the action was based on national security, but one could so easily just change airlines…
      At this point I’ve basically stopped watching the news because it just makes me upset.

    • I think it does apply to all carriers, except no US carriers currently fly directly to any of the affected airports. I agree it is a BS policy to help protect US carriers from their gulf competition.

  • Rant: Dealing with bad side affects of antidepressant.
    Rave: Able to get an appointment with doctor to resolve but…..
    Rant: The appointment is on April 29th.
    Rave: Wearing outfit that I’ve been wanting to wear all fall but it was too hot to do so. Burnt orange and tan plaid skirt with tan sweater and chocolate high heeled calf high boots. Feel good about my outfit.
    Rant: Woke up tired as hell this morning. Even after my latte, I still want to go back to bed.

    • Gah, I am so sorry about your first two rants. Scheduling you for an appointment in late April when you’re dealing with bad side effects is totally not okay, in my opinion. I would call them back and ask if there’s ~anyone~ else you could see sooner, or asking the nurses to ask the doctor what to do over the phone. I know people who have had very severe side effects to antidepressants and they were nothing to play with or wait on. If they’re bad enough you might consider just stopping the medication for the time being.

      • Yep, everything FridayGirl said. I can’t imagine not being able to get in for over a month!

      • I would even see my PCP in that case, unless that is who you’re already seeing.

      • I agree with everything FridayGirl said except stopping the medication. It is dangerous to stop antidepressants without guidance from your doctor. Good luck!

  • Rant: Why am I so sleepy this week? Last week I thought it was the time change, but now I’m thinking it’s just the longggg absence of three-day-weekends in the spring along with the weather being so up-and-down.

  • Rant: Pup woke me up early early this morning
    Rave: Pup woke me up early early because she had an urgent need to go out
    Rave: Thanks to the PoPvillager who recommended Melissa Clark’s Cook this Now. I bought it for my sib for her birthday but I’m sure I’ll also have the chance to sample the recipes!

  • Rant: All in my office but three of us have been sick. Now my boss is sick. Now my throat is scratchy. IT’S COMING FOR ME!!
    Rave: Listened to most of the Comey hearing yesterday and my faith in humanity and goodness has been restored just a little. Thank you to the people who were calling s**t out!
    Rant: The fact that “Tweets” were actually a part of the hearing. WTF…
    Rave: B/c boss is out sick, can spend a little time on bridal shower games. (Don’t judge – if not for that, I’d be sitting here doing nothing).

  • Quotia Zelda

    Rave: Winston has a playdate this weekend with another corgi. I predict so much adorability.
    Rant: Meds help the allergies, but now I feel a wee bit woozy.

  • Rant: Cube-mate “massages her ankle” for 5 minutes every few hours and always stares directly at me (or in my direction) while she does it. Supremely uncomfortable.
    Rave: Day 5 of eating on track is going well.
    Rant: Why is dating so HARD in DC

    • dcgator

      Haha sorry to laugh, but this Rant is kind of hilarious. Possible she’s just looking into space, which happens to be where you are?

  • Question: What’s your favorite children’s book/a great book that’s been published recently? I have two baby showers soon where they’ve asked for books, and I’d really like to also give something that tells the story of a person/child of color.
    Rave: Tried a Vietnamese place called Sprig and Sprout in Glover Park last night. I highly recommend it: great food, terrific price. Hello, delicious banh mi for about 7 bucks.

    • houseintherear

      Not recently published, but Ezra Jack Keats books are always winners. Faith Ringgold is another fav of mine (Tar Beach especially).

    • Click Clack Moo (cows who organize and go on strike until farmer meets their demands)
      A is for Activisit
      The Colors of Us
      We are Stardust
      Dragons Love Tacos (main character is a white boy, but the story is hilarious)
      I love all the Pete the Cat books too.

      Check out Mighty Girls website for ideas and google “teaching tolerance through picture books.”

    • anonymouse_dianne

      Stella Luna is not new but timeless. A baby bat falls from the sky and is adopted by a nest of birds. The bat is very different from a bird but they come to accept each others differences.

    • Grace Lin writes some really wonderful, magical books.
      Both “The Day the Crayons Quit” and it’s sequel are simultaneously fun and silly while delivering nice messages about gratitude. My nephews still love both books even though they’ve outgrown them a bit.

    • topscallop

      When I was little, a friend gave me The Mountains of Tibet for my birthday, by Mordicai Gerstein. It’s about reincarnation, and the illustrations are beautiful.

    • I just purchased “Beautiful” by Stacy McAnulty, and Joanne Lew-Vriethoff (Illustrator); it’s cute, features children of color, and has the message that girls can do anything (play in the mud, collect bugs, play sports) and be beautiful.

    • Anything by Robert McCloskey (Make Way for Ducklings, Blueberries for Sal, One Morning in Maine) none of which are about a child of color but are my favorite child book gifts.
      As far as a story featuring a child of color what about Fly High about Bessie Coleman or Seeds of Change about Wangari Maathai who won a Nobel Prize.

    • I love The Little Mouse, the Red Ripe Strawberry, and the Big Hungry Bear. I kept reading it to my kids after they were kind of over it. Also, for somewhat older kids (but still reading-to age) the same authors’ King Bidgood’s In the Bathtub.
      And all the How Does a Dinosaur books.

    • saf

      While I hate to send you to the burbs, there’s a great children’s bookstore right by the King Street Metro called “Hooray for Books” that has the BEST books and great advice.
      “The Princess and the Pony” is very popular with my (bi-racial) nieces. (The princess’s family is bi-racial.)
      When they were younger, we got the “The Snowy Day,” and a doll of main character.
      Also, do you want a nice book to be kept for the future, or for a baby to have? There are lots of nice board books and soft books.

    • I just learned about a cute series of kids books called Ordinary People Change the World and there’s a bunch of books on people of color (Rosa Parks, Jackie Robinson, Maya Angelou, etc). I got a few for a baby shower last week.

      Also, my friend reads her daughter Good Night Stories for Rebel Girls and it is pretty awesome. Each page is a story of a different powerful woman in history, including women of color.

  • Rant: Got “downsized” from my job last week under kinda sketchy circumstances.
    Rave: Hated the job and am getting decent severance.
    Rant: Just got to my last swig of coffee and found chunks in it.
    Rave: Soon, no more office coffee!

  • skj84

    Rant: I feel drained and depressed. I had frustrating moments on both the projects I’m working on yesterday that left me scrambling. To make matters worse I woke up in the middle of the night sick to my stomach. I had to cancel my early morning weight class which will probably incur a late cancelation fee, and ended up working from home today.
    Rave: Stopped by Whole Foods again last night. Much less crowded, I had no issue getting a seat at the bar. I do wish that you could pay for the prepared foods upstairs, its a different system. Granted I should’ve grabbed my food first, then come upstairs to the bar. Oh well, its still a great deal. Pizza, cookie and beer for under $10? I can’t complain about that.

  • Pablo Raw

    Rave of Raves: I participated in a photography project to document the inauguration weekend, the book it’s on it’s way to be printed now.

  • Revel: ordered a bunch of bike accessories on amazon and I think I’ll be ready to go get the bike tomorrow or maybe even tonight.
    Revel: did a bunch of driving for Lyft this weekend. The gig kind of sucks but extra bike money is really nice!

  • Rave: Found some potential summer sublet options.
    Question: Most sublets with roommates say “420 friendly”… what is the best way to ask whether the place will smell like pot? Unfortunately I won’t be able to check out places in person, just via Skype.

    • I’m not a very tactful person, so you may not want to listen to my advice but… can you just say that you are sensitive to smells, and while you appreciate everyone’s right to smoke, you just wanted to check whether said smoking is done inside or outside of the house?

      • That sounds very tactful to me. Asking if people smoke inside should ideally help.

        • I agree, I think this is a very tactful way to go about it! I don’t partake at all so wasn’t sure how to approach this situation – this is helpful. Thanks!

      • That sounds like a tactful way to inquire… but honestly, I’d assume that most places describing themselves as “420 friendly” are going to smell like pot.

        • That was my original thought as well but it seems like most places in all of the neighborhoods we are looking at have this label. Might just decide to pay a higher rate a eliminate the concern for both parties but was curious about thoughts.

        • I’m not sure if growing weed smells, but otherwise, if they’re only smoking outside you won’t smell anything.

    • You can also ask a friend to stop by the best contenders to check for you.

    • Answer: You likely won’t want to live with “420 friendly” roommates, nor would they want to live with you. Find a non-420 roommate.

      • Fair point. I posted to get thoughts on the situation so this is helpful, thanks.

      • Out of genuine curiosity, why do you think that?

        • OP doesn’t want smells. There will be smells.

          • And as for the second part of the response, people who don’t mind smells tend to not get along super well with people who think the smelly smells are smelly and want the smells to stop. All around just not a great idea, even though I’m sure everyone is very nice.

          • Reading between the lines, I don’t think your previous comment had anything to do with smells.

          • anon420, if you want to accuse Anon of something, just do it. Don’t beat around the bush by pretending to be “genuinely curious” and “reading between the lines”. My experience with PoPvillers “reading between the lines” is that they’re not very good at it.

          • Ok, here’s what I’m accusing Anon of: I believe Anon is biased against 420-friendly individuals in some way – perhaps he considers them criminals, perhaps he thinks they’re messy, or lazy, or perhaps he thinks that people who smoke weed are just bad people in general. I asked – out of genuine curiosity – because I myself am a 420-friendly individual, and don’t consider myself to be a criminal, or messy, lazy, or a bad person.

            OP asked specifically about SMELLS related to smoking pot, but Anon’s response did not in any way address the SMELLS related to smoking, and instead made a blanket statement that OP wouldn’t want to live with any pot smoker, nor would any pot smoker want to live with OP. I’ve gotten along just fine with many non-smoking roommates, and have always agreed to smoke only in my own bedroom and minimize smells when asked. (OP, to your issue re: smells, if the person does smoke in the apartment, they might not be able to eliminate the smell entirely, but can minimize it significantly. Of course, people have different sensitivities to smells, so if you are sensitive to it they might not be able to minimize to an acceptable level.)

          • anon420 demonstrates the paranoia effect of too much weed.

          • Anon, I apologize if I misconstrued your statement, and the fact that other commenters think I’m a kook indicates that may very well be the case, but your original comment that was not responsive to the OP’s question, with its blanket statement about how no 420-friendly person wouldn’t want to cohabitate with a certain individual struck me as odd.

            My point being here being that I disagree with Anon, and think that OP very well may be able to find a 420-friendly roommate who will be respectful of her preference for minimizing smells. If OP is intolerant of ANY smells, it’d probably be best to look for a completely smoke-free apartment, though the fact that OP is considering a 420-friendly roommate in the first place makes me think that she may be willing to tolerate some smell.

          • Hahaha, yea, the paranoia is strong with this one. Asked to elaborate, I literally replied with “smells”, after which OP goes on this long-winded tirade, projecting a slew of their own insecurities about being a pothead. You’re certainly not doing your 420 brethren many favors, Chief Rips.

        • You high, mate? There are no lines to read between. No clue why you think I’d lie to you in my response on a (quasi) anonymous message board.

  • rant: My old condo quickly became uncomfortable thanks to poor air quality immediately after I helped someone move out of their condo that we believed was above a meth lab. I got rid of many of my possessions before moving (including all the stuff I kept from the place we cleaned out), but my new place is having similar issues and some of the problems are now tactile as well (ie: I’ll touch something that’s a problem and my skin will instantly dry out).

    On one hand, this just doesn’t seem possible or make sense, on the other hand: actual lived experience that says otherwise… Some people say I should just get rid of all my stuff, but that’s really expensive to do (and some things just can’t be replaced) and it also feels like throwing the baby out with the bathwater. I also think that I’ve become more sensitized to whatever contaminant this is thanks to extended exposure, as it doesn’t seem to bother other people in the same way. That being said, I’m just not quite sure what I should do next…

    • Andie302

      Maybe test the theory by going to stay in a hotel for a night or two and see if it gets better? If not, at least you know you don’t have to get rid of all of your stuff!

    • I don’t want to scare you but your stuff is not the only common factor here. The problem could be with your body, not your stuff. Have you gone to see a doctor for a checkup? I would even say that it’s possible that you have a health problem unrelated to your old condo or the could-be-meth lab.

      • Yeah, I’m pretty sure there is some underlying health problem that’s affecting my perceptions. That said, the person who lived above the meth lab is having the same issues as I am and it’s not a really noticeable problem when I’m not at home (and yeah, I spent several nights in hotel rooms before I moved)…

        • This came up before in an RRRR I believe, but I’m not sure what happened to the woman. Textdoc, do you remember this?

        • Whoa? I’m curious to hear more about this presumed meth lab. Is this in a prominent building, or some podunk “boutique” condo?

          • Did someone else have this situation? I know I had a similar rant maybe six months ago when I was trying to figure out whether to give up the unbelievably good apartment I had at the time. The update was that I moved and did not get the success I was looking for…

            The presumed meth lab was in North Carolina. The presumption was based on the strong odors coming from the unit, the people stopping by for five minutes in the middle of the night and the things left in the trash receptacles (and maybe the demeanor of the guy who lived there).

          • Oh, maybe it was you and I’m misremembering. For some reason I thought it was a woman — but I could be wrong.

  • topscallop

    Rave: started 30 day shred this morning, which made me feel less guilty about my second rave –
    Rave: I got a free mini donut from District Donuts, and it was delicious
    Rant: post office hours

  • Rant: More antibiotics for the chest infection that refuses to vacate my body. Hoping yesterday’s chest x-ray will help resolve this issue?

    Rave: Dinner with a good friend tonight!

    Rave: Embarking on a weight loss thing once the antibiotic/bronchial issues are done and I’m really excited about it!

    Rave: People in our office who have some power seemingly care about the situation that is dragging everything down and they’re prepared to actually do something about it and want to know what’s going on. I had forgotten what it feels like to be heard, and to have someone decide to fix things. (it hasn’t happened yet but it’s going to happen this week, I think)

  • maxwell smart

    REVEAL: Had my first PoP siting on Friday at the Cathedral Commons Giant. I felt like I had seen a celebrity!

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: Haven’t been feeling good lately.
    Rave: hot tea

    • Emmaleigh504

      Bonus rant: work finally said no social media at work instead of no facebook at work. Twitter helped make work bearable and now it is forbidden. I hate my job.

  • Rant: The news every single day
    Rave: At least John Oliver helps me laugh at the news.
    Rave: Baby Artie slept through the night for the first time in many days. I feel like a human for once.

  • Rant: never been out of the country in my 30+ years of existence
    Rave: duolingo helping be get a grasp of the Dutch language, because
    Revel: I’m finally leaving the country for my honeymoon tomorrow and I cannot wait to drink all the beer, fiets all the bikes, and eat all the frites!!!

  • Rave: had a lot of fun sitting for Pablo last night.
    Rant: wtf is happening in this country? I can’t take the nonstop absurdity.

  • I Dont Get It

    Rant: We are having a 2 day all-division meeting in Durham in May. First it was “suggested” that we drive if Durham is fours or or less. Whew, dodged that one, the hotel is 4 hours and 22 minutes per Google. Last night we got an email that there would be a chartered bus from the downtown DC headquarters. Peer pressure is building…
    Rave: I’m doing fairly well on my flexitarian meals so far. Most are vegan but cheese occasionally appears and that was definitely not vegan bacon I had on Sunday. My Irish butter leftover from St Patrick’s Day is also allowed since it is magically delicious!

  • Late Rant: Tour de Fat is changing this year. They won’t be in DC until late August, tickets are $25 (rather than just paying for drinks as in years past — and they haven’t indicated if that will include drinks and how many) and it’s at night instead of all day. I’m pretty bummed about this, to be honest. I might just save my money for Snallygaster.

    • *late July (typo! my brain is short circuiting today)

    • skj84

      wow! What a bummer. I usually volunteer for Tour De Fat, but missed last years due to the rain. I was really looking forward to it this year.

      • Me too with the rain. And I was actually going to ask people if they wanted to take a Friday night volunteer shift with me this year — but that might not be an option now. Wahhhh.

    • maxwell smart

      Haven’t done Tour de Fat, but I had, perhaps, a little too much fun at Snallygaster last year. Those bourbon porters really add up.

      • Ha! Yes, I specifically limited my intake of those barrel aged beers. They’re dangerous! I generally find Tour de Fat to be more family-friendly and carnival oriented — a beer festival without such focus on the beer. But the $25 ticket price when they’re not yet saying what that includes turns me off to it this year…. bleh.

  • Rant: Broke up with my boyfriend last night. 🙁 Most amicable breakup I’ve ever had and hopefully we’ll stay friends, but we were both pretty emotional. Just feeling very sad and drained.
    Rant: Work is super stressful and busy, and only a couple of weeks until my manager moves to her new position. I feel like my threshold for dealing with stress is pretty low at the moment.

  • French

    1. Does anyone have any volunteering opportunities on the weekend for children in a medical setting? I have prior experience!
    2. The new Clean bandit music video!

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