Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • Quotia Zelda

    Rave: Daddy is recovering from the stem cell transplant and can eat in restaurants again. For someone who lives in New Orleans, this is an important milestone!
    Rave: Got tickets for the parents to visit the NMAAHC when they’re here for Middle Zelda’s graduation.

  • Rant: Incredibly boring day in training today. I don’t understand what our guest speaker is talking about and something tells me I don’t need to. I wish she’d get to the point!
    Rave: Short day on Friday and looking forward to weekend plans!
    Related Rant: If only I had a date one off these days that I was actually looking forward to. It’s been months.

  • Pablo Raw

    Rave: Traded my couch for a camera
    Rave: Film photography

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: Forgot my sugar so no sweet tea for me today.
    Rant: All this up and down weather has my arthritic thumb hurting and I forgot my arthritis glove to help alleviate the pain.
    Rave: Dad can eat restaurants again! He couldn’t for several months after his bone marrow transplant for cancer that left him with no immune system.

  • Rave: Pregnant!
    Rant: Dealing with medical issues that have arisen now that I’m pregnant. And having those confront me for the rest of my pregnancy.
    Rant: Not telling anyone as it’s really early and also trying to figure out this crazy year ahead.
    Rant: Scared since the response to what I do or happens has been: it may be nothing or it may be a sign of a miscarriage. Wait and see. That’s terrifying.

    • Sending good vibes your way!

    • Sending good vibes your way as well! I’m sorry to hear about the medical issues and/or miscarriage risks. Pregnancy is an exciting time, but can also be so stressful. I’ve been through some of the same (including a miscarriage the first time around). Feel free to reach out (mtpresident.popville at gmail) if you want an anonymous person to talk to.

      • Thank you mtpresident for the good vibes. I’m so sorry about hearing about your miscarriage but also so happy to follow along with your stories about your cuties. Thank you for the email – I might take you up on it! It’s crazy – I have good friends who have been pregnant but I don’t feel right reaching out to them yet/raise expectations. Is this crazy?

        • Totally understood. It’s hard in the early stages and I can understand not being ready to discuss with people you’ll see/hear from more often. I also held the information pretty closely for quite awhile because I wasn’t ready to be excited (a defense mechanism against future disappointment rather than being ambivalent about having kids)–so you’re definitely not crazy. Or if you are, you’re in good company : ) For what it’s worth, I also had intermittent spotting with my daughter–and it turned out to be a benign issue with my cervix. One of the things that is difficult about spotting, especially during the first trimester, is that there isn’t a lot that can be done to prevent miscarriage once it’s started–so it’s really just a wait & see sort of thing. That might be part of why your doctors feel less urgency, though that’s obviously harder as the pregnant woman. You can get an ultrasound to see whether there’s been growth and whether there is a heartbeat if you’re past 6-7 weeks, but that’s about it.

    • I’m all also sending some good vies your way. Pregnancy is such a mixed bag. You’re happy to be pregnant but so scared about anything that could go wrong. I dealt with a miscarriage and then a possible miscarriage (early spotting that luckily resolved itself) for my successful pregnancy and it drove me crazy. I got frequent ultrasounds to check on things but they never actually made me feel any better since there’s nothing to be done and not much that can really be seen that early. Be good to yourself and definitely reach out in some way, shape, or form whenever you need to vent/communicate.

      • Thank you for this. That’s one thing I’m dealing with now (early spotting) and while I have doctors that I respect they are hard to get a hold of and basically really risk averse. I just don’t know enough about pregnancy or resources to trust to be able to know what is or isn’t something to worry about. I’m sorry you had to deal with miscarriage and happy to hear that you ended up successfully with a good pregnancy! I’m trying to keep quiet to not raise expectations of family/friends or lose work support and that makes it difficult.

        • It can be hard to find the correct support in times like this, especially when your normal sources (family, friends, work colleagues) don’t work as in this situation. I actually was dealing with infertility/struggling to get pregnant and while generally I think the BabyCenter website/forums are pretty awful, their infertility boards were amazing. I found it really helpful to connect with women who were having similar experiences – it was helpful to know I wasn’t alone in what I was dealing with, plus many of those women had so much knowledge to share because of their own journeys. I also eventually did go see a therapist and continued seeing her throughout my pregnancy just to have someone to go to about all my fears/anxiety which I found helpful.

          Here’s my e-mail too – feel free contact me if you need a sympathetic ear: alexiseb at gmail.com.

    • I am sending you positive vibes!

    • Congrats on the pregnancy!! I know it can be scary, especially when you have issues that feel big to you but small to doctors. To be perfectly honest, spotting is fairly common and do to a myriad of reason, most of which have nothing to do with the baby (a lot of spotting, for example, actually come from the vagina and not the uterus – keep in mind that when you are pregnant, your vascularity is increasing, and you will bleed easier/more). The best advice when you start spotting is to get off your feet, lay down, and relax. I have been through three pregnancies and spotted with all of them. The worst was when I was bleeding (not spotting) with my second and called my doctor (whom I had a very good relationship with), and he told me straight up that I knew that if I was miscarrying at that stage, that there was nothing he or I could do. Which was hard, but true. Thankfully, despite what I thought was heavy bleeding, there was nothing wrong and the next day I saw a baby with a healthy heartbeat on a screen. I’m not sure if you’ve had your first appointment yet, but I’m sure that will help. Good luck 🙂

  • Clueless

    Rant: When earbuds are plugged into my iPhone and I’m playing music (via Pandora, Spotify, iTunes, etc.), my phone will sporadically pause/play/skip tracks on its own. It will also pull up Siri on occasion without me touching anything. Pourquoi???
    Rave: Rediscovering my admiration for Donald Glover/Childish Gambino. I just love him.

    • mine has been randomly pausing lately as well…. No idea why!

      • I’ve had this happen too, and it’s usually just before something on my headphones craps out, like one of the ear buds. On the upside, the pause/play thing continue after the earbud stops working, and as a female, I don’t mind having one stop working since it allows me to kinda hear what’s going on around me.

    • Mine has been doing the same when plugged into my car. Maybe an apple problem?

  • Rave: “better” sleep last night (only woken up once, by mtpbaby, and he put himself back to sleep after a handful of intermittent cries over the course of a few minutes). I even fell back to sleep reasonably quickly! Woot!
    Rave: Learned that my parents have gotten involved in a few meet-up groups. Even my mom found a book club that way! Especially for my mom, that is HUGE. I cannot express how thrilled I am.
    Rant: So disquieted by the announcement of the “VOICE” initiative or whatever it is.
    Neither: Decided to get mtpbaby evaluated for speech delays. He’s made some progress in the last month, but it’s so minimal. I realized yesterday that we may also be missing some words–I think he’s saying “help” and “truck” at appropriate times, but you have to know what he’s seeing/looking for to know what he’s saying. We were so spoiled with his big sister having such great diction from the start–I think it’s going to be a bit harder this time around.

    • Hopefully everything is ok, but if mtpbaby is under 3 DC has a great early intervention program (Strong Start) he maybe eligible for. We have a speech therapist and had a PT through it and they’ve been invaluable.

      • Yup–that’s who we’re going through for the evaluation (he’s not quite 1.5). My guess is that he’s delayed, but will catch up. I’m not worried about it, but figure it’s good to get it checked out in case we can help him along–mostly because better communication should reduce frustration and tantrums in the short run. Thanks!

  • Rant/Rave…. There is a condo building down the street that just put units on the market. Its like $160K over what I paid 2 years ago. it seems REALLY expensive for my area but Yea, Property values and BOO property Taxes.

  • rave: japandroids last night at the 9:30 club
    rant: vocal cords not sufficiently prepared to literally “yell like hell to heavens”
    rave/query: found a smart trip card on the ground the other day… turned out, it had a pretty fair amount of $$$ loaded onto it… is there a good way to determine whether or not it is registered?

    • You could try calling SmarTrip customer service and asking what to do. Otherwise it’s entirely possible that if it was registered, that person has already reported it as lost which would ultimately stop you from using it.

    • Where did you find the smart trip card/did it have any keys or anything with it?

      • I ask because my girlfriend lost her keys/smart trip on Monday morning in Adams Morgan

      • I found the smart trip card by itself on m street, just east of the intersection with rhode island and connecticut on monday night… I’ll try calling customer service to check if it’s registered this afternoon…

    • anonymouse_dianne

      There was a good review of the show in the WaPost today.

    • Try to register it yourself. It’ll tell you if it’s already registered.

  • Rant/Rave: Had muscle aches in upper arms and back all day. Hurt so bad that I had to go to the doctor who determined that stress was the cause.
    Rant: the weather outside.
    Rave: Had a seat on Metro all the way to work this morning from my home station.
    Rant: Would like to apply for another job. But having difficulty finding references. I’ve been on my current job for 12 years. The supervisor who hired me retired. A more current supervisor who just left to take another job said that I could use his name as a reference but due to ethics rules, I can’t use his name until next year. I certainly don’t want to use the references I used 12 years ago. I feel stuck in this.

    • Andie302

      A few thoughts for you: are you drinking enough water? Not to discount your stress, but I find that when I’m dehydrated I have random muscle trouble that I don’t normally get. Stretching may have the benefit of stress and muscle relief – worth a try before bed to relax?

      For the job, do you have the contact info for the old supervisor? If you ask the more recent person, will anyone find out? It sounds like otherwise you may not have any options. I’m not saying ignore the ethics rule as much as questioning whether anyone is enforcing aforementioned rule. (Easy for me to say, I’m not in your shoes.)

      I hope you’re able to find a situation that gives you some relief! Rooting for you!

  • Rant: feeling incredibly insecure at work. Feel stuck in a rut, even though I’m working with one of the senior-most persons in my institution.
    Rant: got test results back using my doc’s online portal. unfortunately, the name of each test is weirdly missing, so I know I’m off for some of them, but don’t know which for! And they don’t call me back to go over the results!

    I hate complaining so much, but am feeling like I’m in a bit of a rut. ugh.

  • I Dont Get It

    Rave: Since I no longer have a car I don’t have to worry about street cleaning days although

    Rant: I still get anxious when I first wake up on those days trying to remember where I parked me car.

    Rave: When a car alarm goes off I no longer have to open the front door to look and see if it is mine.

    Rant: A car alarm has been going off and on over the past 15 minutes.

    • Andie302

      Thank you for the reminder – my car is in a Thursday spot and needs to be moved tonight. I cannot stand street sweeping – it’s temporary stoppage is one of the only things I like about winter.

  • Rave: Yummy foods today.
    Rave: Return to my own bed tonight.
    Rave: Great books lined up for long trip ahead.

  • Rave: Got to see a bunch of friends last night who are in town to lobby lawmakers regarding a specific aspect of healthcare.
    Rant: This weather is awful. Could it please just stop yo-yoing all over the place?!
    Rave: Gonna see other friends tonight
    Rant: Will probably get home late again tonight. I’m tired! I want to go to yoga tomorrow but I don’t know if I can do 4 nights in a row of being out late and getting up early…Getting older sucks!
    Rant: I’m really cranky but trying to hide it so I’m acting peppy and people probably think I’m a psycho.

    • Forgotten Rave: My old college friend has a podcast called “Ghosted Stories,” where she and her friend interview different people who have been ghosted, or sometimes the ghosts themselves. It’s hilarious and heartfelt, and sometimes touches on deeper issues, but I would HIGHLY recommend it, especially for anyone who has been ghosted / has ghosted on others or just wants to laugh.

      • LBP, I started listening to Ghosted Stories shortly after you posted about it (I needed at least one new podcast to get through today) and I have had to conceal giggles since!! It is so funny, well done to your friend!!

        • Yay! I’ll pass your kudos along to Chelsea! But it really is funny and thought-provoking at the same time!

    • Random question: are your friends here to lobby for a specific disease?If so, we might know a lot of people in common!

      • sort of – they’re here to lobby lawmakers regarding funding for research for patients born with heart defects….If we have the same group of friends, we need to meet up!

        • Ah, the people who I know that are here to lobby are doing it for funding for diabetes research. Fly-in season on the Hill has definitely started!

        • There’s lots of lobbying going! I know people in for neurological stuff.

          • I’m hopeful but doubtful all the same – it sure seems like the goal of this administration is to cut, cut, cut away any funding that not spent towards the military-industrial complex, which makes me want to gag.

        • As someone whose daughter was born with a heart defect that required surgery, please give them a huge thank you from me!

          • dcd – not to be too nosy, but is your daughter still in care? That’s one of the biggest problems we’ve had, patients and parents thinking that surgery is a permanent cure. Which unfortunately, it very rarely is. I myself am only here as the result of some pretty amazing surgical interventions, and would be happy to chat more if you were interested in additional resources for you/your daughter!

  • Rant: It’s 80 degrees in the office for the third day in a row.
    Rave: Which is reason to pull out a summer dress and show off my pasty legs!
    Rant: ENTIRE TOE is now purple/bruised (after dropping a table on it last week), not just the point of impact.
    Rave: Did not waste one minute of my time on the SOTU (STFU?) last night and watched Harry Potter instead.
    Random: As of tomorrow, I’ll have been in DC for…12 years. Holy crap.

  • Thanks for the wedding invite advice everyone! The invite was in the mailbox when I got home yesterday, so didn’t have to reach out. I sent my RSVP, and I’m going to message the bride as well.

  • Rant-ish: SO has kids, and last night one of them had a scary medical situation (while with his ex). Everything is fine now, but I just felt so helpless and tongue-tied when it came to offering support to SO–not only am I not their mom, but I’m not even A mom. I realize that this stress is all totally internal–SO has never made me feel like anything I’m saying or doing is inadequate or inappropriate–and also that this is an issue best dealt with by talking to SO. However, that talk needs to wait until a time when he’s not stressed out about his child, so in the meantime, it helps a bit to vent (semi) anonymously.

    • I’ve been there, both as the parent with the issue, and the SO. It’s hard knowing your place in these situations, it really is, and to be perfectly honest, your “place” may change on a situational basis. For example, my SO’s ex has no problem with me making medical decisions for her kid, but doesn’t like the idea of me buying her a bra (it’s a milestone to her, to me it’s just another piece of clothing). We’ve had our fair share of crises in the last few years, and in each one, it was handled differently. The most important thing is to be there for your SO, and the rest will follow. Good luck!

    • anonymouse_dianne

      being a step parent is one of the hardest jobs in the world! I was in a similar position, and I found some very helpful books. The most helpful was one whose name I don’t remember, but it was written by the person who wrote The Peter Pan Syndrome. This was before google so maybe I can find it there.

    • Thanks for the kind words, Anonamom and anonymouse. I’m trying my best to remember to just be patient, flexible, and open.

  • Rant: Super hectic crazy afternoon yesterday, including the excitement of Littlest Anonachild being temporarily ‘lost’ and the kids (and I) freaking the eff out. Thankfully it was just that he missed his bus stop, and the driver circled back around to drop him off. The whole ordeal last less than 10 minutes. but was still scary.
    Rant: My kids are why I have grey hair and pimples.

  • skj84

    Rant: In a glumpy mood. I just realized that its been almost a year since my Grandmother died, not to mention a year next week since my best friends mother passed. I’m frustrated about some work stuff, and a few other things. Plus my root canal tooth hurts. I need to get my crown replaced asap.
    Rave: I haven’t worked out at all this week, or really eaten healthy. Which is probably contributing to my sense of malaise.
    Rave/Rant: Partied with friends for Mardi Gras last night. I had fun, but stayed out way too late for a school night.

  • Rant: second time in months someone went through my car. I found my insurance info and insurance laying on my driveway
    Revel: unlocked doors and nothing of value in my car means no damage, but this is getting old!
    Rant: being the adult in the room sometimes when the little people are testing you can be difficult when all you want to do is scream

    • houseintherear

      I hear ya. The kids are especially ridiculous lately… we all need spring break.

    • I’ve never really understood the rationale behind deliberately leaving car doors unlocked.

      • I would assume it’s to, if possible, prevent smashed windows. If you don’t leave anything of value in the car, it’s seems preferable to have someone rifle through your old tissues and the papers in your glove box rather than have them try the handle, find in locked and then smash your windows to get nothing. Obviously it doesn’t solve the problem of someone who just smashes windows for fun, but it could help take the “smash” out of the “smash & grab”

        • Yeah… but I’ve never had any windows smashed in 15 years of parking in D.C. Which I attribute to keeping the inside of my car bare.

        • Blithe

          +1 I used to work in an area where the schedules of the people parking on the street were very predictable, and there was a lot of smash and grab going on, particularly near the Christmas holidays. Windows would get smashed — apparently — so that people could steal change from the cup holders. I knew several people, particularly people who had detachable gps systems who would deliberately leave their cars unlocked. Their strategy was to clear the glove box and the trunk completely — since the trunk could be unlatched from inside the car. Other people locked their cars, but left nothing in their cars and left the empty glove boxes open. Remarkably, I’m told that baby stuff — like car seats, was never snatched.

      • anonymouse_dianne

        If you have a soft top convertible it can save you tons of money from having your top cut open.

  • Blithe

    Late in the day Rave: Late last night, I decided to choose an attitude to kind of guide me through the next month or so. I woke up this morning feeling wonderful, for perhaps the first time since the election. Whew!
    Rant: I really want to see an exhibit at the Hirshhorn, but I don’t see being able to snag an online ticket, and, since I wouldn’t be in that area for other reasons, don’t want to make the trek and not get a ticket. It’s a champagne problem, but I’m hoping that I’ll be able to check out the exhibit while it’s in town.
    Rave: I’m loving the warmer weather — despite the possibly alarming implications, and the threat of snow and a low of 23 degrees on Friday. My bare toes are very happy today!

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