Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • Rant: Driver driving erratically on 16th street during rush hour. Crossing lane line, scraping curb then putting on turn signal and sitting at the curb until horns blared, at which point she took the turn in the middle of the road. Her passenger side mirror was folded into the car. Not sure if she was looking at her phone or having some kind of medical emergency, but she looked a little frantic from her rear view mirror. I was too afraid to pass her. And it was a DC driver (I have a theory that DC drivers – while maybe not as bad at Maryland drivers yet – are dark horse of crap drivers in the area).

    Rave: Lovely weather.

  • Rave: Husband arrived safely and it’s been so lovely!
    Rant: Mom and Dad ended up switching rooms with us because my brothers couldn’t be bothered. But thanks Mom and Dad!!
    Rave: in a glut of incredible books to read! I’m deep in A Little Life, and on my Kindle I have Cursed Child, My Brilliant Friend, and Eligible from the library.
    Rant: I have to work and I can’t just sit down and immerse myself in those wonderful novels.

    • Quotia Zelda

      It took me a little while to get into My Brilliant Friend, but I ended up loving it.

    • topscallop

      I’m 10% into A Little Life (thanks, Kindle!) and liking it so far. I loved the Elena Ferrante series, and Cursed Child is waiting for me at the library. I guess my rant is similar- too many books to juggle at a time, and having to work instead of read in bed. I’ll have to look into Eligible since it sounds like we have similar taste! I’m also reading Quiet to see if there are any useful tips for introverts in the workplace.

      • I really like Curtis Sittenfeld, the author of Eligible – you should check out some of her other novels too (not that we need a bunch more novels on the list!). Now how to prioritize – do I keep reading A Little Life and leave the others until I’m finished or do I jump between novels…? Oh, tough decisions.

      • How are you liking Quiet? I was thinking of reading that one, being an introvert who is struggling at my work place. Sidenote – I’m reading Shrill and I LOVE it.

        • topscallop

          I haven’t gotten too far into it yet, but I’m definitely identifying with a lot of what the author says up front. I’ve been called “shy” my whole life, and every performance evaluation I get at work mentions that people want to see me display more confidence. I’m not shy, I just don’t enjoy talking to everyone at all times. I think I have a normal degree of confidence in myself and my ideas, I just don’t display it the same way everyone else seems to understand it. I’m looking for tips on how to communicate in a way that demonstrates that I do know what I’m doing, but without trying to convey a different personality than my own. I’ll have to look into Shrill after I’m done!

        • Loved Quiet (I’m an introvert so a lot of what she was saying was validating).

    • I *loved* the Elena Ferrante novels. You’re in for a treat!

      • I’m so looking forward to it. But totally anticipating heading down the rabbit hole and devouring all four once I get started…

        • I did the audiobook version of the first one, and got halfway through the second before I couldn’t take it anymore. They’re not bad novels, but they plod along and I needed a break!

          • I felt that way too. The audiobook was interesting enough, but all the characters started blending together and the story just kept going along but never really getting anywhere. I can’t imagine going along with 3 more books.

          • It reminded me of my Italian grandmother telling me stories about her youth, so I liked the comforting familiarity. I’m surprised it appeals so much to people who don’t have that reference though.

          • I just loved the storytelling, the imagery, and the characters – I was totally immersed.

  • Quotia Zelda

    Rave: Billy the Kid
    Rave: Emoji wars with Mr. Zelda
    Observation: Youngest Zelda is now officially the tallest person in the family.

  • Rant: if you don’t actually want to go on a date with me, don’t ask. I’m so sick of this.
    Rave: new life goal for August: make out with an actual lumberjack.
    Rave: vacation is so close I can taste it.
    Rave: my boss is trying to get my involved in a project that actually interests me and uses my degree.

  • Question: Does anyone have a recommendation for a good place to get hair braided? I usually go to Miss on 14th street, but there’s a mysterious message about the number not accepting calls. Weird since there’s a Yelp review from a month ago. Could it have closed that quickly?!
    Rave: All the friendly people on my morning run!
    Rant: It’s Tuesday and I hate Tuesday. It feels like the longest day of the week.

  • skj84

    Rant: My landlord scheduled a contractor to come in to do work in the basement without telling me. I woke up this morning to hear someone moving around in the basement. The only reason I didn’t freak out was because I remembered they had someone come by yesterday. I called my landlord and confirmed. She does things like this all the time, scheduling workers last minute and expecting someone to be there.
    Rant: I’m looking forward to opening my show, but rehearsals are draining. We are way out in Virginia and the ride back and forth is exhausting. Luckily the show is over after this week.
    Rave: Finally feeling completely better after nearly a month of bronchitis/sinus issues. I don’t get sick very often, but when I do its usually pretty intense.

  • Rave – Braved the red line this morning and it wasn’t too bad.
    Rant – I have a lot of work travel coming up this month and I’m not looking forward to it.
    Rave – Finished my Iceland vacation travel arrangements! I am looking forward to that trip.

    • Oh Pixie! You’ll have to give me details sometime as to what all you’ve worked out, Iceland-wise. I’m hoping to plan a trip for next year or the year after (some of it depends on what my BFF is doing and where she will be moving to next), but i can’t wait to hear all about it!

      • Hopefully we can chat at the next Popville happy hour! Basically, after spending too much time/energy trying to keep all the names of Icelandic towns and attractions straight, I gave up and started researching local tour companies. I picked one and they they’ve done most of the planning and worked with me to put together an itinerary!

        • Speaking of which… can skj84 or Justinbc or someone schedule an unofficial PoPville happy hour in the second half of August? I don’t think we’ve had one since the last one Emmaleigh504 scheduled at Southern Hospitality in Adams Morgan.

  • Rave: Feeling better enough to come in to work for half day
    Rant: I will leave at lunch and probably have to take a nap before I have enough energy to finish working from home.
    Rave: Still, I’m not dead!
    Rant: Yet.
    Rave: Still feeling grateful for the love and care that surrounds me.
    Rant: Nauseous. I have to eat food so I can take pills, but I don’t want to eat anything at all. What can /should I try to eat?

    • skj84

      Can you eat saltines? Or dry Cheerios? Those are my go to when I’m too nauseous to eat.

    • Lemon gatorade! As cold as you can get it. Cold counters nausea. And the crust of baguettes. Not the squishy middle, just the crust.

    • Try simple carbs – toast, dry cereal (not too sugary), crackers, pretzels. I also like drinking Coke (regular not diet) when I”m nauseous. Glad you’re starting to feel better!

    • Quotia Zelda

      I’ve found that dry crackers work, along with ginger tea. Also, very tart things. Limeade and lime popsicles saved me when I was pregnant with Youngest Zelda.

      • My mother in law swears that smelling lemons reduces nausea (though it may be one of those Indian Old Wives things).

    • Try the BRAT diet. I’m a migraine sufferer and nausea is a regular symptom so when I attempt to eat I tend to stick to this. B (bananas), R (rice), A (applesauce), T (toast). And plenty of fluids. I hear coconut water works wonders (but I can’t stand the taste so I don’t drink that). Also, any broth works too.

      • +1 to this. I also do peanut butter and crackers if I need something a little more filling than just bread. Also ginger ale.

  • Rant: Still woke up in the night a million times last night. Coffee isn’t helping my tiredness.
    Rant: Shouldn’t watch the Bachelorette and am hiding all engagements and weddings on facebook. I know a TV show is far from real life, and one of the greatest lessons I’ve learned so far is “don’t compare,” but the older I get the more I realize I have no clue how to build a real relationship. And the more I envy people with good families, who grew up with siblings and parents who set a good example, and who will be there to walk their children down the aisle. It hit me last night that I have never met a boyfriend’s family, and no one has ever met mine, and even if they did I don’t have much to show for it. And even though I know someone who loves me will be understanding, it’s still disappointing to me that I grew up so far from average.
    Rant: Suddenly a very busy day at work.

    • Coffee may be *causing* your tiredness. In some people, the caffeine hangs around way longer than you’d think. Have you tried cutting caffeine after noon? Or after 10am?
      I recently, regretfully, let go of my lifelong soda habit. I though that 4pm coke was necessary to get in one last productive hour. But when I quit, both my heartburn and my insomnia got much, much better. Just a thought!

      • Thanks, wdc. I wish this was the answer! I’ve only been drinking coffee first thing in the morning and I don’t drink soda, either. I think tonight I’m going to try totally turning off all my screens after 8pm and just reading and going to sleep extra early to see if I can reset myself :/

      • Agreed – don’t discount caffeine from being at least partially responsible. Though it sounds like general life stress/anxiety may be playing a bigger role here. I surely don’t sleep as well if I’m ruminating on something or other.

      • skj84

        Try drinking water with coffee. You may be dehydrated which causes further exhaustion. Water can wake you up.

    • Ill be honest, though, FridayGirl — even those of us who come from a stable home, with parents who are still together and still in love, can be confused about how to build a real relationship. Dating these days is just weird, and sometimes it really is about timing and finding someone with whom you click. I don’t think theres anything fundamentally wrong with me, and I still haven’t found someone with whom I can make it work. So don’t feel too discouraged…. we are all just trying to figure it out!

      • Thank you.

      • +1

      • Agree, I’m not sure anyone really knows how. My husband and I both come from really broken families (not saying yours is, just for comparison). We were a disaster when we first met – so confused on how to treat each other and how to behave… and we’re still figuring it out. But, we’ve built something truly wonderful as partners (albeit later in life) because we wanted a better family for ourselves and our children. I have no idea where I’m going with this, but it may surprise you who or what is out there – just keep being you and find happiness in your imperfect story – I’m sure it’s beautiful in it’s own right.

    • I’ll just say two things. One, don’t be too envious of others. Everyone has their troubles even if you can’t see them. You may think you want what they have, but the truth is that, at most, you only want *some* of what they have.
      Two, “reality” TV and social media are full of garbage and IMO more harmful to our mental health than we realize. All it shows us is glamorized and glorified versions of other peoples’ lives, and when you’re not feeling so great about your own that will only make you feel worse. Pick up a book or a hobby instead; or better yet, a book club or a hobby group.

      • Agreed on the reality TV front. I’ve been saying for years that it’s not just silly entertainment. Of course it shapes the way we view the world. It both increases our expectations and decreases our empathy. I’ll be horrified, but not surprised, when something akin to the hunger games becomes a real thing that real people watch.

      • +1 to your first part. I know I am a little older, and more of my friends are announcing separations and divorces these days than weddings and engagements, but there are a lot, A LOT of people in relationships who show the world what they want them to see, when below the surface of FB photos and #WCW/#MCM posts, things are far from peachy.
        Just to add too, my parents were a very crappy example of a loving, supportive relationship; I’m on the down slope of my thirties now, with one divorce and several failed long-term relationships under my belt, but I just wanted you to know that your past, the example that was set for you, does not have to hold you back. I recognized sometime in my 20s that I had a lot of issues, especially with trust, as a result of not only the way my parents were to each other but how my (biological) dad was towards me. I had to overcome that in order to be open and ready to a relationship, and it took a lot of work. Even to this day it crops up, but I’m better at recognizing it, have two awesome BFFs who will call me out for it, and a partner who is understand and patient (most of the time lol). So hang in there. It can get better!

    • Friday Girl, if it helps, I gew up in a family that didn’t set the best examples about love (whether romantic relationships or familial ones). It took a lot of trial and error, a lot of friends who hung in and loved me, and a lot of therapy, but at this point in adulthood, I feel pretty confident that I’m “good” at relationships (whether as a friend, lover, parent or partner). I don’t say that to humble brag, more just to make the point that even if we didn’t start off with all the advantages of good models as kids we can still build good lives and meaningful relationships. For me, part of the process was “grieving” the things that I didn’t get as a kid (and really needed) and then convincing myself that I deserved them as an adult and doing the hard work in therapy and in my real life to figure out how to get them.

      The other part is just dumb stupid luck. Seriously – I think part of having successful (however you define that term) relationships is just luck. And any smug coupled people who say other wise are deluding themselves.

      • Thank you, artemis. The part about grieving — and luck — were actually really soothing. I think you said what I couldn’t quite figure out how to think in my own thoughts.

  • Rant: smoke detector decided to let me know the battery is going around 3:30 this morning.
    Revel: got my butt back to the gym yesterday and did just over 3 miles of running (10 minutes running, 2-3 minutes walking).
    Rant: I reaaaaally need to sell my car. Making the extra insurance payment is killing me. If it isn’t gone by the time the next payment is due, I’ll just cancel it, surrender my tags, and keep the car in my driveway I guess.
    Rant: Reading everybody else’s dating/tinder/okc rants makes me realize I haven’t even been on a date in almost a year. And that was with somebody who never told me until we met that he was moving to NY in 2 weeks so it was never going to be an actual date. I probably should make more of an effort. Or maybe not, since it’s mostly rants I see.

  • Rant: Got explicitly sexually harassed this morning on my walk to work. Like “ooh, that skirt’s so short it’ll be easy to get it out of the way! C’mere baby! *hip thrusts*” (it’s not that short, and I am NO baby)
    Rant: When I stopped to tell the troglodyte off, he called me a bitch and raised his hand to me.
    Rave: When I assumed fighting stance (just like riding a bicycle!) he almost stumbled he backed up so fast. Put both hands in the air and tried to smile and said he was joking and he liked my outfit and backed away and into a store. Oh, a compliment is all it takes to get what you want from a woman, even if it’s just wanting to not get your temple caved in?
    Rave: He backed down. I doubt I really could have caved in his temple. Wrong shoes. 😉

  • Rave: Things seem to be fully over between the daughter and the delightful but unsuitable boy. Daughter seems relieved to have it over.
    Rant: Please God don’t let Stoner Joe be the rebound boy!
    Random Thought: hmmmm…the way now clear for the Tall Oarsman as soon as his girlfriend goes off for the Peace Corps (not my greatest dream but some of the more Gossip-Girl-y team members like to giggle and hope for drama).

    Real conversation:
    Me: Yeah, he texted me last night and I told him that he was a good guy and would do OK, and that you were expense and high maintenance and he was batter off without you.
    Daughter: Me? Expensive? He never spent a dime on me!
    Me: Yeah — and look what happened.
    Daughter: [glares and laughs]

    • I am totally pulling for Tall Oarsman! Stoner Joe is delightful but fairly useless and will never drive her to be better (I should know, I have a Stoner Joe for a brother)!

  • I had convinced myself that I didn’t need to see Hamilton, the one song I heard during the Grammys was hard to understand, and wasn’t that great anyway, I wouldn’t get into the hype, people were crazy expending so much effort and money trying to get tickets, etc. I was totally secure in my decision. And then . . .
    Rave: We got the soundtrack. Before spending 20 hours in the car over the course of a week. Holy cow, so freakin’ great. Now my 9 yo requests the soundtrack while we’re around the house, and walks around belting out her favorite tunes acapella, (current favorite lines: “oceans, rise, empires fall” and “uh, France?” also, “Jesus Christ, this will be fun!”, which is both not great and hilarious).
    Rant: I find myself actively considering what would be a better use of funds – a ski weekend for three, or tickets to the show. And I really don’t know what the right answer is.

    • Well, that depends where you’re going and how good your family is at skiing.

    • Oh the Hamilton soundtrack is incredible! I too fluctuate between springing on buying tickets for a ridiculous price or just waiting until the hype dies and I can see it without breaking the bank …My best buddy is in the theater business in NYC and he’s seen the original (at Public Theater) and the Tony winning cast, and while he says it is incredible, he also reminds me that the musical will be fantastic and mind blowing even without Lin Manuel. And that there are so many other incredible shows out there that you can see with the equivalent of the thousands of dollars you’d spend on one night of Hamilton…that’s his two cents.

      • “just waiting until the hype dies and I can see it without breaking the bank ”
        That’s my thought too, but I have no idea when that will be.

        Funny story – my parents, who love going to the theater on the cheap, are waiting for tickets for both the Book of Mormon and Hamilton to be released as “Twofers.” I hope they live so long.

    • My kids love Phantom of the Opera. It a little weird how much they love it. We play/ sing the music, watch the Emmy Rossum movie over and over, one kid has a cape and uses it for dramatic effect while performing. I had promised to take them to NYC to see the show live someday.
      So when I heard it was coming to the Kennedy Center, I stalked the website and got the best tickets I could. We’re going later this week. For the last several days, they’ve woken up each morning and asked “Are we going to see Phantom tonight???”
      When I suggested we tag along on a friend’s ski weekend (their good friends!), they both went “Meh”.
      So, there’s my opinion, worth exactly what you paid for it.

      • Haha my siblings and I were obsessed with Phantom when we were younger. We played the soundtrack over and over. To this day my mom cannot stand listening to it.

    • Quotia Zelda

      I’m loving the Hamilton soundtrack. My love for George III is rivaled only by my love for Dick Casablancas.

      • It took me a split second longer than it should’ve to figure out that your “love for George III” must pertain to George III as depicted/sung in “Hamilton.” For a moment, I thought you were reeeeeally into the historical figure.

      • I have friends who saw it on Broadway early in its run, and they say Jonathan Groff was just awesome. Of course, so was everyone else.

  • Rant: Woke up thinking it was Wednesday. So disappointed to find out that I’m ahead by a day and it’s only Tuesday.
    Rave: Got a text photo this morning of my nephew as he was getting ready for his first day of school. I can’t believe the little guy is in the second grade now.
    Rant: I really want to go see the corpse flower today (I have a weird obsession with them) but I’m pretty sure that would be a recipe for disaster with my already far-too-sensitive stomach.
    Rave: Dulce de leche over vanilla ice cream is the most magical concoction ever.

    • I went to see/smell the corpse flower around 10 a.m. this morning. It smelled, but only a little bit. So you might be OK, depending on whether the smell gets more intense over the course of the day.
      STRONGLY agreed with your last rave! I need to go back to Buenos Aires.

  • That One Guy

    Rant: Did something to my shoulder. Aggravating it by sleeping on my side, which also makes has the added benefit of stirring me from sleep.
    Question: which fitness tracker do you use? Trying to get suggestions for my non-tech mom.

  • I Dont Get It

    Rant: Weird vibe during yesterday’s review of my self-assessment. Sometimes I think my former boss just doesn’t like me!
    Rave: The fact that the owner of the Whitelaw Market felt compelled to apologize to me for being closed for three days so his family could take a vacation. Geez, you’re open 7 days a week—I think you deserve a break and the rest of us will survive!

  • Rant: I have the slowest-drying hair in the world. I got up at 6am to wash it this morning and it’s still damp.

  • Rave: I leave for Rio tomorrow.
    Rant: I honestly believe the media wants the Olympic games to fail. We get it, they are facing some challenges. But must every single story be a negative one?
    Rave: Going to have a blast exploring Brazil with the BF and two good friends.

  • justinbc

    Rant: Restaurants that are closed on Mondays but don’t publish that information anywhere.
    Rave: Got published in City Paper today!

    • skj84

      Congrats on your rave!

      • justinbc

        I guess I can’t submit the link here, but for anyone wanting to read it’s the article on Gose beer 🙂

        • skj84

          Just read. I’m really starting to come around on Gose. I wasn’t on board at first, but tried a few at Brew at the Zoo that I found tasty. Just had one at Dangerously Delicious that I really enjoyed, and of course I can’t remember the name!

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