“Making new friends can be difficult — so let the library help!”

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“Making new friends can be difficult — so let the library help!

Join the Georgetown branch of DC Public Library for this platonic spin on speed dating, designed to introduce you to a series of potential pals in a high energy, low pressure way.

Please register to participate at bit.ly/geofrienddate

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  • So…so DC.
    And, probably incredibly useful because of that fact.

    • so DC? meh. i’ve twice moved to a city where i knew no one, and, while meeting new people and making friends is easy for some, it’s not my biggest strength. i really would have enjoyed something like this in my ex cities in TX and AR.

      • It’s so DC because, at a higher rate than normal, people move here for work without strong friends and family networks. I wasn’t being snarky.; I even said it’s incredibly useful.

    • Yeah, I’m not sure I get the snark. It’s usually much harder, the older you get, to meet people and make friends outside of the office social circle (if one even exists and/or you want to participate in it).

    • SouthwestDC

      I would totally do this if my neighborhood library did it.

      • Originally I was going to diss on this idea, but then I saw your comment about your neighborhood library. I have plenty of friends in DC and the DC area, but I moved to a different part of the city 6 months ago after living in one neighborhood for 10 years and feel a little disconnected from my new neighborhood. This would be great to get to know others in my neighborhood.

        • SouthwestDC

          That’s what I was thinking. I’ve lived in my neighborhood five years and I know lots of people: the ones that live on my block, the ones at the dog park, the ones in my yoga classes. But I don’t know how to translate those casual relationships into friend status. Hopefully this thing is successful and other libraries start doing it.

          • Next time you’re in the library, definitely tell the librarians that you’ve heard about this and you’d love to have it at your branch! One of the trickiest parts of planning library events around here is trying to figure out what the heck people will actually show up for, and the more we hear about something from patrons, the more likely we are to decide that we should do it. (And tell your friends!)

  • Making friends is not hard. But it does require that you take your face out of your phone. Maybe thats why people are failing at it.

    • SouthwestDC

      Tell us your secrets! I think a lot of us are friendly enough but have trouble turning casual interactions into friendships.

    • OH YAY! someone bitching about others having their faces glued to their phones. because that’s the cause of every.single.fckng.problem these days.
      *rolls eyes*

      • Well one it comes to being social in person (and not through a little app) that might, you know, have a roll.

    • justinbc

      Making (and retaining) friends is also significantly different for guys than it is for ladies.

      • The dreaded Man Date.

        • And I’m a gay man in DC, so 99% of my friends are similarly (financially and socially) situated gay men. So something like this is great! (I’m kinda over the homogeneous cocktail party.)

    • What if I use my phone to find friends? Or talk to the ones I already have? Is that ok with you?

    • I don’t agree, however, I do think this has something to do with it:
      http://www.nytimes.com/2016/04/12/t-magazine/is-staying-in-the-new-going-out.html?_r=0
      I recall reading another article a couple years ago about how no one hosts parties anymore. A house party is a great place to meet people but the tradition is sadly dying out.

      • That New York Times article got major side eye from me when it came out. My friend group is really big on the house party. I feel like I attend at 1-2 a month, especially once it starts warming up outside. Maybe in NYC the trend is dying, but DC it seems to be alive and well.

        • I don’t think your friend group is typical for DC, or anywhere else.

          • maybe. I wonder if neighborhood/career/group demographics come into play? Most of the people who host parties live in group houses. A few have their own places but less space.

          • My people do house parties all the time. Most of us have kids, so we gather at someone’s house, the kids hang out in the basement where the video games are, and the parents all cook together and drink wine.
            It’s not just one closed group, either. It’s kind of universal among middle-aged folks I know.

        • Yeah, I seriously can not remember the last time I went to a house party (I’m not counting organized dinner parties because that generally involves a group of already acquainted people). I assumed (having moved from the West Coast) that house parties just were not really an East Coast thing since people typically live in smaller spaces and access to bars and/or transit is much easier (which reading between the lines means house party in transit-less cities means lots of DWI, but that’s a different story).

          • I agree on the smaller space aspect. And I think that was one of the issues that NYC has. A lot less space than DC has to offer ergo less house parties.

          • west_egg

            I used to attend lots of house parties when I was in my early 20’s and all my friends spilt the rent on rowhomes with 5 other people. Now I’m in my 30’s and haven’t been to one in years. I think it’s as much a stage of life thing as anything else.

        • Agreed with west_egg — I assumed that it was a “stage of life” thing, and that people in their 30s are more likely to meet up with each other at bars/restaurants, rather than in their homes.
          .
          It would be weird if house parties were dying out among twentysomethings, though.

  • binpetworth

    I’m not sure how easy it is to suss out potential friends via a 5-10 minute conversation. Most of my close friends evolved into such following lengthy periods of interaction (usually via work/school); some of them I would not have known would be such great friends based on our initial meeting.

    • justinbc

      If you’re an introvert though this might be just the help in meeting people you need, that is if you can convince yourself to go talk to strangers. Lots of people work in offices where they definitely don’t want to be friends with people outside the cube, and once you’re done with school you can’t really use that for new friends (outside of alumni events).

      • Lots of people work in offices where everyone else is the opposite sex, lives 50 miles away, and has kids their age (surely it’s not just me that has this problem).
        Plus I feel awkward when I try to approach someone as a potential friend. I’m sure it’s not true, but I can’t shake the feeling they think I’m hitting on them or otherwise being creepy. Events like this make it easier because everyone knows everyone else has the same objective.

        • Coming off creepy or annoying was one of the reasons I wouldn’t reach out to people I was afraid of alienating potential friends. I started to attend Meetup’s as a way to break that feeling. I figured since everyone was there to connect it was easier to go up and start talking to strangers.

          • SouthwestDC

            Yeah and reaching out to an introvert when they’re not in Meeting People Mode is rarely successful. I like things like Meetup because I’m more receptive to meeting people when it’s planned.

          • Attending Meetups is an excellent idea. I haven’t been to one in awhile but that’s mostly because I’ve been hanging out with my Meetup friends outside of Meetups. Meetups are definitely a welcome environment where it’s ok (not creepy!) to walk up to people and randomly start interacting with them. Unfortunately, it can take attending a lot of Meetups and different types of Meetups and follow-up after Meetups, to actually transition from Meetup acquaintance to True Friend.

      • +1000. I had a very hard time connecting with people my first 5 years in this city. I was very shy and it took a while for me to break out of my shell. An event like this would’ve been perfect for me.

        • I’ve been here 11 years and my social circle consists of either people I’m related to or people my wife has known since high school.

    • Yes and No. Obviously great friendships take a while to evolve, however in a few short minutes you can probably at least determine if you have shared interests, etc.

      • I feel the same way! It’s similar to dating – usually you have a gut feeling right away.

    • It appeals to me because people who attend library events are my kind of people 🙂

  • just use the BumbleBFF feature on the Bumble app (yes, seriously)!

    • I would except it’s not very usable for both meeting women friends and guy dates. The description I have written for guys I’m interested in would appear very awkward for a fellow female to read.

  • I live near this library and go there frequently to pick up books and dvds and occasionally use their computers when mine conks out. I would say about 75% of the ‘regulars’ there are homeless people. Don’t see how that would help my puny social life. I’m not shy either, I’m just not meeting a whole of interesting people, men especially. Read somewhere there 8 women for every man in DC and half are gay-not that there’s anything wrong with that.

    • justinbc

      I can’t imagine where that stat comes from, but it’s got to be false in just about every way possible.

    • The nice thing about special events at the library is that they often attract a whole crowd of people who *aren’t* library regulars, regardless…that’s the aim, anyway 🙂

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