Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind โ€“ quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct peopleโ€™s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • Rave: Holiday meant my clients were quiet yesterday, meaning only an 8 hour work day for me!
    Rant: I need it to be about 20 degrees warmer.
    Revel: I think I’m falling in love. It’s amazing and terrifying.

  • Rave: Birthday week
    Rant/Rave:…that might be ruined by this storm. Is it really happening? Been reading online, usually there’s one or two models that go against the grain but it seems like all the models are in agreement on something happening.

  • Quotia Zelda

    Rant: Snow later this week! Middle Zelda and I are supposed to leave on a trip on Saturday, and I’m paralyzed with indecision. Do I just wait and see what happens (seems like a bad idea)? Reschedule my flight for Friday (easily done but will be more expensive – slight increase for flight, another night hotel, big increase for rental car)? Reschedule for spring (much less convenient for me and especially for Middle Zelda)? Ack. I just want somebody to tell me what to do.
    Rant: Winter in general. Why is it a thing?

    • Imo, unless you leave REALLY early on Friday, you’re going to be stuck on Friday too….

    • Honestly, I would just let the airline cancel on you, then reschedule entirely for another date (but go into it knowing you’re going to reschedule). It may start snowing Friday morning, so you MAY get out, but there’s no guarantee.

      • Quotia Zelda

        I am leaning toward this, except that between my work schedule and MZ’s school schedule, it’s really hard to find dates that work even half as well.

        As if I needed another reason to hate winter.

    • SouthwestDC

      I’m going through the same thing right now. Normally I’d be all for the snow but it’s my grandmother’s 95th birthday this weekend and I’d hate to miss it. But I’m driving, so I can wait till the last minute to decide.

    • If they cancel you on Saturday, would you be able to make the trip still work if they rescheduled you for Sunday or Monday (which is likely what would happen)?

    • I would wait a bit. Sometimes airlines will waive change fees for citites affected by a storm, but usually only do so one or two days out. I was able to make free changes to my itinerary to avoid Winter Storm Goliath at Christmastime.

  • Rave: Finally visited my dentist and eye doctors. Its been two years. My vision has changed a bit, but my teeth are fine. You have no idea how relieved my teeth are fine. I was convinced I needed a root canal. Not even one cavity! Woohoo!

    Rave: Time to upgrade my glasses. I’ve had the same pair for 6 years. I love my glasses, they are my signature, but change is good. And it’s good to have a backup pair. I’m going to try Zenni Optical.

    Rave: Since both my appointments were in Bethesda I decided to stay the weekend. I miss my old hood. It is amazing how much has changed in the 4 months since I moved. And it was nice hanging with my Aunt.

    • Quotia Zelda

      I’ve had good results with Zenni.

    • Bear

      I haven’t had my eyes checked in almost 8 years. Granted, I never needed to wear glasses all the time, but I’m overdue for switching my license from DC to MD and I have a feeling I’m in danger of crossing the line where I’ll need to wear corrective lenses. Where do people go here to get their eyes checked? Do people recommend an actual eye doctor or one of the glasses stores?

      • I’ve been seeing the optometrist for nearly a decade. He is based in a practice in Bethesda. However barring any major eye issues, i’m sure any glasses store would be fine. I know many people use MyEyeDr. Many locations throughout the area.

      • I’ve seen an opthamologist for the last 10+ years – Dr David M Bachman. He’s on 20th St near L NW

      • I’ve had pleasant experiences at MyEyDr, after having seen a family friend optometrist for years. Bonus points for MyEyeDr for having a pretty easy online scheduling system and sending email reminders of my appointments. They also tell you before performing any of the tests that cost extra, so you can decide if you want to do them.


  • Rave: Please, Weather Gods, let the snow come mid-morning on Friday so that we get a snow day. I’m worried about everyone having to commute home if the models hold and we don’t have a snow day. Also, I’d really like a snow day.
    Rant: My capstone class. I’ll get through it fine but like… talk about not a great idea/poor execution on the school’s/professor’s part.
    Rant: My office building is still roughly 64 degrees. They have not turned on the heat yet. wtf.

    • Additional Rant: Thought I could still use my Starbucks birthday reward today but I guess the last day you can use it is your birthday, not the day it expires. I don’t remember that from past years. Oh well. Starbucks sucks anyway :[

      • You should still be able to use it. Just ask the cashier, they’ve been really flexible in the past for me.

        • Okay. I might go ask. I did email customer service and was like “wait a minute! this is not how it’s worked for me before!”

  • rant: having a period.
    rant: cold out
    rave: hot chocolate
    rave/rant: snow later this week.
    rave: snuggles with my dog in bed this morning before i had to get my butt up. he’s a great snuggle bunny.

  • Rant: Tired of going on dates with women who look/dress like 12 yo boys.
    Rant: My patience is already shot for the year.
    Rave: Short work week.
    Rave?: Back in the gym this week.
    Rave: Crockpot.

  • Rave: Wonderful, super relaxing weekend! I ended up going to SpaWorld with a fellow friend in need of de-stressing, and it was so. very. worth it! Then more relaxing with wine and a group of PoPvillager friends, two yoga workshops, and lots of pretty decent sleep.
    Rant: Didn’t get as organized as I’d hoped to this weekend because I was focused on relaxing.
    Rant? Super weird dreams. All weekend long.
    Rave? Snow? Can we please have a snow day?

  • Rave: Bundled up in snowboarding gear for my bike ride this morning – pleasant and crisp ride this morning.
    Rant: Husband in a difficult time zone for connecting. Haven’t directly spoken to him since Sunday…and this will be life for the next couple of weeks.
    Rant/Rave: Tough, crazy weekend with a presentation at a conference, visiting old friends, husband leaving for extended business trip, and good friend who has been dealing with major mental health issues visiting. Still processing all of that.
    Rave: Had some great moments with my friend – I know I love her, I know we’ve had incredible times together, I know she is good hearted and wonderful but with all the mental health issues on, it was hard to focus on anything else. Glad to have glimpses of her over this weekend.
    Rant: The moments of quality were far outweighed by the manic swings and the anxiety and OCD. I’m at a loss….

    • Two additional raves:
      Rave 1: Signed up for unlimited yoga new student special – want to go three times/week until it runs out (it was 20 for one class or 49 for unlimited…).
      Rave 2: Successfully fought medical bills/collections agency until they removed the ding on my credit (I gave correct info to medical company, they incorrectly sent to old address and old name so I never received anything until my credit was hit). Back to my old credit score, phew!

  • Query: Where in D.C. can one go ice skating? (The photo for today’s RRRR looks like it’s from the Georgetown waterfront — is it?)
    I know about the ice rink at the National Gallery’s Sculpture Garden, but haven’t yet been there.

  • binntp

    Rave: Great seeing some of the ladies of Popville this weekend for wine, cheese & cake.
    Rave: Got in an 11.5 mile run on Sunday. After snowing every weekend in February last year prior to Rock n Roll, I vowed to be ahead of training this year and get my mileage up before the snow comes. It’s working!
    Rant/rave: Snow. Wish it was coming during the week. I could use a snow day!

    • Wow, I’m impressed & jealous of your second rave! Eventually I’ll be able to pull off long runs again, but I’m giving myself a year or two before trying to ramp up the exercise again. I’m just glad that I’ve gone running with my daughter in the jogging stroller at least once each weekend this year!

      • binntp

        I think you have one small valid excuse for not jogging yet–sleep comes first with a newborn!

      • That’s impressive too! I’m on about an every-other weekend schedule and my littlest is 7 months. I need to get more committed, but it’s hard when the choice is nap/sleep in or run and I’ve been up several times in the night.

      • Indeed, binpetworth, that it does! I keep telling myself I have time to get back into a fitness routine, and until then, daily walking to get places is enough.
        equidistance–thanks! This just started with the new year (so, three weeks in), so we’ll see if it continues now that I have to get up early during the week. Yuck on still being up several times overnight with the baby. We finally resorted to the Ferber approach at 8 months with my oldest, but that was a long 8 months. We’ll see what happens with this one, whose night patterns currently seem to depend on how gassy he is.

    • you’re smart. I’m pretty far behind on my rnr training. I haven’t done double digit mileage since November.

  • Rave: Wonderful three day weekend which included ice skating and a family birthday party. I made some pretty freaking awesome storm trooper cupcakes, and the cutest koala cupcakes. The koala cupcakes also had the benefit of being absolutely delicious. I, for one, am very glad the cupcake craze is over because now I can go back to impressing the kids with their birthday cupcakes.
    Rave: SNOW! I am very much looking forward to the storm this week!
    Rant: Dogs awake and barking at 3am, then 4:30am for no particular reason.

  • I Dont Get It

    Rant: 24 X 7 Weather porn.
    Rant: Iโ€™m getting caught up in it since I fear cascading flight cancellations could leave me stuck in Florida on Sunday.
    Rant: I felt so sorry for Lizzy last night sleeping on a cold tile floorโ€”I put down blankets but still. Iโ€™d love to bring her upstairs but she freaks out when touched now . She peed her dog bed earlier this week so it is out on the deck waiting for the thaw so it can be cleaned. Senior Citizen dogs!

  • Rave: 3 day weekend!
    Rave: Looking like a huge snowstorm likely on Friday. Please can we get a day off… I love reading the snow discussions on Capital Weather Gang, it’s pretty interesting.
    Rant: too dang cold. I wish I could wrap myself in my comforter to get to work…

  • Rant: So hard to get out of bed. Especially with winter-averse rescue dog all snuggled up under the covers. Just wish he didn’t snore so loud.
    Rave: Lovely wedding in upstate NY this past weekend but man, it was cold. I brought it back with me, apparently.

  • Rave: the boiler at my office is fixed, so I’m nice and toasty as I work my butt off.
    Rant: most of the stressful things at work are out of my control by this point, so there’s not a lot I can do to relieve the stress.
    Revel?: Need to find a way to tell someone I’m interested, without breaking up the friend group. It’s also someone I’m already emotionally close to, and we’re pretty touchy-feely as friends go, so my normal method of lots of lingering eye contact and touching arms and telling them something deeply emotional won’t necessarily register with him as “oh, she is romantically interested.” Maybe I just tell him outright, right before I leave the country for a month? Or is that weird?

    • I did this this weekend. Drunk. By email. (Don’t do that). But, question for the hive, assuming you are a girl- I feel like men know when a girl is into them and will take it into their own hands if they want to reciprocate, but that if they haven’t yet, they aren’t interested. Sexist? Wrong? I hope my bad juju turns into your good!

      • I don’t think men have any greater sense that women are into them at all. In fact, I’ve known some pretty clueless guys and gals, and I don’t think gender has anything to do with it.
        Also, as a woman, I think that this thought process is a little out dated. Ladies, we do not need to wait for the guy to make the first move! It’s perfectly ok to send the first message, ask him out, kiss him first, etc.

        • +1 I would think guys would know less often as many women tend toward the subtle approach for fear of breaking stereotypical norms.
          If a guy is uninterested simply because you made the first move, would you really want to date him?

          • “If a guy is uninterested simply because you made the first move, would you really want to date him?” – +1!
            If a guy has an issue with a woman making the first move, then chances are he’s also going to have an issue if it turns out she’s more successful, makes more money, has her own mind, that sort of thing. Also, if a guy has an issue with a woman being assertive or out-going, then I am not the woman for him.

          • “If a guy is uninterested simply because you made the first move, would you really want to date him?”
            Is anything in life ever that simple? If his context for her is friends, but she says she wants more than friends, so he thinks about changing his context to that and he likes it, is that bad? Not everyone goes around thinking of every single person as a possible romantic interest. I don’t think about my friends that way, so yeah, it would take a friend to make the first move for me to consider it. That wouldn’t be “simply because he made the first move.”

          • “Simply because you made the first move” means that he’d be interested in dating unless the woman made the first move. If he’s not interested because he likes you more as a friend, that is not the scenario at issue. No that scenario is not bad nor does it have anything to do with the topic at issue: it being “wrong” for women to make the first move.
            I’m really not even sure what you’re talking about to be honest jeslett.

        • +1 to the clueless factor – or in the instance above maybe he doesn’t want to mess up a good thing by crossing the already blurry line. I would just go ahead and tell him if I were her.

  • Rave: Got everyone out of the house by 8:30 this morning. Was aiming for 8:15, but I’ll take it for a first day back.
    Rave: Being able to hide in my office a little bit while I re-acclimatize.
    Rave: Plenty of things on my plate to keep me busy.

  • Rave: Tried Rus Uz in Ballston yesterday and it was amazing food. Also splurged on yummy tea from the market next door.
    Rave: Snow but only because the worst is predicted for my telework day, so I can stay home in PJs and drink my tea.
    Rant: I’ve been having seemingly random hip/lower back pain for the past several weeks and I’m getting worried that I have sciatica or something.
    Rant: Called to make an appointment and discovered that my doctor moved, and I don’t like the other doctor at the practice.

    • palisades

      Rus Uz is great. I think people scoff at the idea of a creative and delicious restaurant in Ballston, but I was really impressed.

  • Rant: Really hard weekend visiting my Dad. He was in the ER last week, no one bothered to tell me until I was at baggage claim. Everyone else knew. Excuse was “There were SO MANY people to call” — his children, all of us, should be the first people you call. He’s now wearing an ID bracelet that says DNR and I had to help write part of his obituary.

    Rave: Good quality time with him that I won’t trade for the world.

    Rave: Date tonight. Trying to be excited but failing miserably.

    Rant: After literally years of no communication, my ex husband texted me yesterday. I was polite and said “yes, this is the right number” and wished him well. He’s taken it to mean that he should come here and visit me on the way to visiting a friend in NC. (He’s remarried. I do NOT want to see him. Trying to find a classy way to explain that without sounding like a total bitch). I mean, the divorce was amicable, but I don’t need to keep him in my life.

    Rant: Work.

    • Accountering

      To your rant, just calmly explain that you have moved on, and would prefer not to revisit that part of your life. You wish him the best, but aren’t interested in a visit.

    • I’m so sorry about your father and that your family didn’t tell you. Can’t imagine how difficult that is for you. ๐Ÿ™

    • Regarding the ex, I would suggest a simple, “glad you are well, but, no I’m not interested in meeting up.” I’m with you on that sort of thing… my divorce was relatively amicable too, but if it weren’t for my kids I would be perfectly happy to never see him again.

    • I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. Lots of positive thoughts headed your way.

    • I’m sorry, SinSA, that sounds very difficult. It’s enough that your dad is in the ER, but then to also feel left out has to be hard. And the ex piling on? Virtual hugs and hot chocolate.

    • Emmaleigh504

      I’m sorry about your dad. hugs

  • Rant: I need to advocate for myself to my boss. This makes me nervous because I’m afraid I’ll start crying in front of him. Not a good look. I need to figure out a game plan.
    Revel: part of me figures the worst is over and now I can just focus on doing my job well
    Revel: had a very productive weekend. Also I found a new therapist that I have a good feeling about.

    • Re your rant: I still haven’t figure out how to “advocate for myself” professionally. I feel like standing up for yourself in a place of work is viewed as being whiny and unmotivated when that’s really not the intention. I tend to get emotional,too, although if I give it some time and talk it through with a friend or family member then I’m able to be very factual — maybe you can try rehearsing a few conversations? But I do tend to lack patience, which turns into bluntness, which no one appreciates… so… I feel your pain is what I’m trying to say.

      • Bear

        It has taken me a really long time to figure out how to do that. And to be honest, the thing that did it was being screwed over so badly in a previous position that I no longer cared what my bosses thought of me. My best advice is to try to keep the emotion out of it (hard sometimes, I know), be direct about your expectations, and be prepared to justify whatever asks you may have with objective data. And hard as it might be, don’t let it affect your work. If things are bad enough that the quality of your work is affected and you are not getting any response or support from your superiors, it’s probably time to look for something new. At the end of the day you may not get what you want or think you deserve, but at least you will have stuck up for yourself.

      • saf

        Here – the best work advice in the world is from Alison Green at http://www.askamanager.org

  • Accountering

    Rave: Got in an awesome run before work today! If you saw the crazy guy running on the mall and doing push-ups and sit-ups by the Washington Monument, that was me!
    Rave2: What a great day! Everyone else looked so miserable to be outside – rightfully so, but thanks to tons of layers, under armour etc, I was loving it!
    Rave3: Starting to think I want to buy my bike in the short term.
    Rave4: Finally getting the finances in order after the massive renovation last year, and a ton of upheaval. All good things!

    • Nicely done! I always feel so badass going running in crap weather, whether it’s brutally cold, raining (or storming), or hot.

    • Kukki Bakemono

      I giveth you props, good sir. I’ve been internally convincing myself to meet my run group at 6:30pm today, but not totally committed yet because it’s going to be 24 degrees at run time.

    • HaileUnlikely

      Awesome, good job! I got in the best training block of my adult life during “Snowmageddon” back in 2010 – I was 6 years younger (duh), 25-30 pounds lighter, infinitely fitter, and off work all week 2 months before what was my last marathon, so I spent a couple hours each day running in the snow. That was great fun. If we do get walloped with snow this weekend, I’ll regret having let my fitness slide so far that I will not be able to capitalize on the weather in a similar manner again.

    • Jealous! my alarm went off at 5am and I had a cat on top of me and a cat next to me and a freezing cold room, so my run didn’t happen this morning. But lets hope it happens this evening. Although I do really try to take a step back in the winter from my high mileage to give my body a break but I have such FOMO when everyone else is running!

    • it’s only the first few miles that are the hardest in this weather.
      With the proper gear, I had no problem yesterday doing 40+ miles on my bike.
      By mile 2 it was it smooth sailing.

  • Rave: Okay, AliceInDC, you’ve gotten me totally hooked on Kiehl’s. Well, you and the samples they gave me last time. There’s no longer a sale, but I did earn 6 times the points by shopping through my credit card’s site.
    Rave: my dog kissed me last night! That’s no small feat.
    Rant: there was so little traffic at rush hour yesterday I figured there wouldn’t be an after work grocery store rush. I was wrong. And the Safeway didn’t have any fennel (plan A) or basil (plan B). Both salad options were a bust.
    Rave: SNOW. I hope we get over 8″ so I can take my new, taller, 10″ LL Bean boots for a spin.
    Yeah, you heard me, Emileigh. New LL Bean boots (though I returned the sheepskin lined 8″ boots).

    • SouthwestDC

      Where can you get good fennel around here? Whenever I try to find some at a regular grocery store they either don’t have it or the bulbs are miniscule. I’ve really been missing it since I moved here from NJ.

      • I can usually find it at the Dupont farmer’s market, but I’d guess others might have it as well. I made a fennel and root vegetable lamb stew a few weekends back that was awesome!

        • SouthwestDC

          That sounds amazing and I can’t even eat lamb! It’s been a while since I browsed my famers market, I’ll have to try that.

      • I was able to pick up a bunch at the Trader Joe’s on 14th St NW.

    • Sorry… but not really. I use four of their products daily and I’m trying to figure out a good, preventative eye cream but I’m afraid of trying too many samples and liking them all!

      Also, love rave #2.

      • Seriously, my skin is glowing.
        I previously tried to keep costs down by using the best drug store options, but it’s night and day with this new stuff.

        • Do they have stuff that’s good for very very very dry skin?

          • They gave me two moisturizer samples-
            Ultra Facial Deep Moisture Balm
            Ultra Facial Oil-Free Gel-Cream
            and the Daily Reviving Concentrate.
            So, I used 3 drops of the concentrate then some of either moisturizer. The first one, the balm, is incredibly moisturizing. My nose and chin have been dry and flaking and this has completely stopped that. This is what is making my skin looks like it glows. But, I think it’s a little too heavy for my whole face, for daily use.
            The Second one, the gel, is really moisturizing, not as much as the balm, but it feels like a moisturizer and a primer. Seriously, I’ve been petting my face when I use that one. That’s the one I ended up ordering. And the concentrate, because that also feels divine.

          • Ooh, I was considering buying the Daily Reviving Concentrate… now I might just have to bite the bullet. Maybe Ill combine it with the gel you mentioned. This is a dangerous cycle.

        • I’ll bite: What products are you using? I’m a Kiehl’s fan, too, but not sure I could say my skin glows.

    • Emmaleigh504

      la la la cannot hear you la la la ๐Ÿ˜‰

  • Rave: I’m preggo and pretty late in the game (38 weeks) and still feeling good
    Rave: Love snow and looking forward to cooking a weekend storm feast- stew, chocolate chip cookies using the whole Costco size bag of choc chips.
    Rant: Scared the storm pressure change will make me go into labor and I’d rather not give birth this weekend but nothing I can do about it.

  • Rant: The other Mrs. Rabbit’s work completely ruined yet another holiday weekend. She was on conference calls every night.
    Rave: We still managed to slip in a date night amidst all the craziness.
    Rave: Already bought lots of wine and the ingredients for beef stew… bring on the snow.
    Rant: My previous rant about my friend’s cryptic FB posts continues, though now it’s bordering on emotionally abusive by making it seem as if she’s back in the hospital or that something is wrong with her baby even though her mother has told me that she is not in the hospital and everything is okay. She’s been dealing with several mental illnesses since I’ve known her and it seems that pregnancy is making everything worse (and making it harder for me personally since we were both due on the same date). Even though we’ve been friends for over a decade, I’m starting to question whether or not our friendship is worth it.

    • Re your last rant – perhaps hiding her FB feed for awhile would help.
      I’ve done this with friends that I didn’t want to unfriend, but didn’t want to see their way-too-frequent posts

      • I think I may have to do that. I just hate feeling like I’m not a good friend but this is getting ridiculous. At least other people are calling her out on her behavior.

  • Bear

    Rant: The cold that just will not go away. I’m feeling a lot better but still pretty tired and congested.
    Rave: Positive feedback on my first major deliverable at work. Feels good, especially given that I had to get it done while suffering from the plague.
    Rave: Lovely overnight in the mountains with my closest friends in DC. It was a much-needed break and so nice to get out of the city!

  • Rave: Explosions in the Sky at 9:30 in May.

  • Rave: adopted a second dog this weekend! She is getting along so well with our other dog, it’s been so much easier than I was anticipating.
    Rant: $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ (<– approximately how much she cost us this weekend between adoption fees, multiple pet store visits, vet costs, etc)
    Rave: She's the sweetest thing ever and seems to just want to make us happy. She's definitely had a hard life til now and will only get within arm's reach for pets still, but she hasn't had an accident inside since an hour after we brought her home and she's been mostly perfect in every way.
    Rant: She's from Puerto Rico and this is the coldest weather she's ever experienced. We got her a nice coat but she still is really miserable when we go outside. She just stands there and shakes so hard she almost falls over. Anyone have any suggestions for getting her outside to go potty when she now knows that the leash means cold air and won't get near us? And once we do get her outside, she just stands there – any ideas on showing her that she can just potty around the trees off our patio and we can go straight back inside instead of having to stand around for 15 minutes until she goes?

    • Congrats on the new pup! I have a new puppy, and we’re pee pad training her, so she doesn’t have to go outside. However, I do take her on walks and to get fresh air, and she has come to equate her sweater with going out in the cold (which she also hates) and started to fight it. (also, I’m not taking her out until it gets back over 30, she still has puppy fur and the sweater only helps a little). So, I’ve started putting on her sweater for no reason, hoping to get her to think she’s not always going to be cold when she puts in on. Could you do that with the leash? Just put it on her randomly? I don’t have any suggestions for the quick bathroom business, other than perhaps only waiting 5 minutes then going inside, and waiting for signs or 30 minutes before going outside and trying again, for 5 minutes.

      • She won’t go inside, so my original idea of just getting one of those grass pads or whatever is out. She won’t have accidents inside either, so it’s not an issue of waiting for signs – she HAS to go after not going #2 for almost 30 hours (like just happened yesterday into today) she’s just refusing to go while outside because it’s too cold and she wants back inside.

    • Accountering

      Sorry you are going through it, but the idea is kind of funny. Dog doesn’t want to go outside because its cold, but then is so cold she won’t go potty so she can go back inside.
      Our schnauzer is ridiculous, when its cold our raining, she will be outside for less than 30 seconds. She has that concept down!

    • Congratulations on the new addition!

      We have a rescue dog that doesn’t like cold and doesn’t like to walk. We’ve found that giving a treat and praising every time they do their business is a slow but steady way to win them over.

      • Yeah that’s what we’ve been doing. She definitely now knows that if she has to potty it has to be outside, we haven’t had any accidents inside. She’s just holding it for way too long because once she’s out she’s too cold to think about going anymore I guess. She just went #2 for the first time in about 30 hours, which worries me that she’s going to make herself sick if she keeps this up.
        Don’t even get me started on my worries for the snow predicted this weekend. She’s never seen it before. Hopefully we can shovel some of the mulchy area of our patio and she’ll go there.

        • I got my dog when he was a little over a year old and he didn’t go #2 for days. I remember calling my vet out of fear that he was making himself sick. After a week he calmed down, was comfortable was us and his whole new life, and resumed a normal bathroom routine.

  • Rave: was so proud of myself this morning; had everyone’s bag packed last night and we left the house by 8:05.
    Rant: forgot 3 year old’s backpack, so what was supposed to be an on-time start to work was late (again)
    Rave: nice laid back weekend with some sleep!
    Rant: everyone has a cold

  • Rave: I left a pot of vegetable stock to simmer while I watched Mercy Street, and at some point the flame went out and the house was filled with the smell of gas. I cracked open a window but it was too cold to really air out the place, so I just hoped the carbon monoxide detectors were working. The dogs and I survived the night so I guess it was fine!
    Rant: I thought I’d be proactive this year and buy some snow melt, but I got overwhelmed by the choices. I wanted it to be pet safe, but the reviews indicate the pet safe ones don’t really work. Then I read one that said it damages brick, which makes me nervous because the sidewalk is brick. Then I started thinking it’s probably not the best thing for stormwater runoff and maybe I should just forgo it altogether.

    • Be very careful with ice melt on bricks. Last year, our got pretty damaged between the freeze/thaw cycle and the use of ice melt. Had I known, I would not have used it so liberally.

      • They should really have a disclaimer on those products. If it wasn’t for the one lone guy complaining on Amazon I wouldn’t have known.

    • If you just need traction, I’d get some sand to put down instead.

      • Last year the snow/ice fused to the sidewalk and was impossible to scrape off, so I was really trying to prevent that from happening. Traction is good, but we’re really supposed to have it cleared right?

    • Where did you find choices? I went to 2 Home Depots and a Lowes and only found non-pet safe stuff. ๐Ÿ™

    • Somewhat related question, what do dog owners do to protect paws from salt? Will I look like a weirdo if I get booties for my dog? Does Musher’s Secret really work?

      • My friend uses booties for her dog
        I have a more portable pup so I pick her up when I see salt. It’s not 100%, but I also know she woudn’t do booties. And I wipe her paws when she comes in, in case she has salty paws.
        Salty paws, now that should be the name of an ice cream treat, or a bar in Fells Poiont

      • *Fells Point*
        ** not sure why I feel the need to correct my spelling, but I do….

      • SouthwestDC

        I don’t think anyone will think it’s weird, but the dog won’t like it initially. I just try to steer mine away from the salt.

      • I have booties for my dog, and it’s been fine. He doesn’t hate them but he doesn’t like them either. But at least he’ll go outside in poor weather now.

  • Rave: I got in some great runs this weekend, along with two yoga classes. I am determined not to die at the 10 miler in March.
    Rant: This cold. I guess we’re back to leggings under pants.
    Rave: A long weekend for baking, reading and relaxing.
    Rant/Question: There is a pretty pungent weed smell in one of our closets that is absolutely coming from another unit. I wouldn’t care so much, except it’s the closet I keep my clothing in. We rent a condo, so we can’t exactly go to management, and I honestly don’t care that folks are smoking weed. I care that the scent is getting into my stuff. I’m not even sure which neighboring unit it’s coming from. Suggestions on how to approach this? I’m considering reaching out to my landlady to see if the building has a no-smoking policy, but even then, I can’t do much beyond knock on various doors and say “Hey, if you’re smoking weed, I can smell it in my closet! If that’s not you, never mind!”

    • A polite knock or note saying you don’t care if they smoke, but it’s getting into your closet and making your clothes smell should hopefully do the trick. The next time you smell it, figure out where in the closet the smell is strongest may help too narrow the potential units or go into the hall to see if you can smell it near a particular door.

      • +1. I’m totally for looking like a college RA and smelling around near people’s doors. Agree with Anon Spock on this one. They probably just don’t realize (and would hopefully alter their behavior in some way so that the complaint doesn’t rise up the chain).

      • I suppose I’ll have to go out sniffing front doors next time this happens. I’ve narrowed it down to three possible units, so this should be fun.

    • I would check into your buildings smoking policy. If there is a no smoking policy, it seems pretty open shut that that someone is in the wrong. Does your landlady just rent your condo or others in the building. Talk to her, she may be able to find the culprit. If anything, maybe the building can release a blanket statement asking people to be courteous with thier smoking.

    • Allison

      Or they might be like my neighbor and just “cover up” the smell of weed with strong incense, resulting in a nauseating weed/incense mixture smell. FML.

  • Rave: excellent vacation weekend in the Caribbean!
    Rant: the airbnb was a total bust, though. Really sketchy and marginal. We ended up moving to a resort, which killed our budget considerably but was really really lovely.
    Rave: being financially secure enough to blow our budget without much damage

  • Rant: After carefully selecting a practitioner for follow-up after my displeasure at my current practice (thanks all for the input), I went in for my Friday appointment after confirming time and date 3 times only to be told my appointment had been half an hour earlier and there was no one who could see me. This was after I took time off of work, commuted on the red line into Maryland, and then had to commute back to the hill for a total time of over 2.5 hours. I was livid and a total mess in the waiting room–it was embarrassing for me, I’m usually patient but I’ve really had it. Suffice it to say, I’m back to the drawing board and feeling demoralized.
    Rave: At least we got away to Annapolis this weekend for some family time. That was great.
    Rant: I’m hating how angry and bitter I’m feeling. Seeing a therapist on Saturday and am hoping that session will help.
    Rave: Potential for snow which means a cozy fire and snuggles with my sweetie. He’s been such a champ.

    • Is the second rant related to medical issues? If so I’d be curious to know if seeing a therapist helps. My wife is going through some stuff (and she’s had incidents like your first rant which is why she can only work part time now) and I’m wondering if that would help. Or maybe I’m the one that needs to see the therapist to learn how to be most supportive and still take care of myself.

      • Second rant is related to medical issues in a way. We’ve been going through a miscarriage and although I actually am feeling as okay as I can about that and hopeful for the future, it has brought up a lot of secondary unrelated/inter-related? issues. We’ve been seeing a therapist who deals specifically with pregnancy loss, and I think it’s important to note that we’ve been going to see her together. My husband says it has been really good for him for exactly what you’re saying. It’s also helped me realize better what he’s going through as well. I think it never hurts to attend one session, even if you go by yourself. I find it helpful to talk to a neutral person, especially because they’ve counseled a lot of people and can be really astute with how you’re feeling and what you’re going through. Good luck–I hope you find the support you need.

  • Kukki Bakemono

    Rant: Have put off getting a snow shovel since last winter so now it looks like I’ll have to get one after work today.
    Rave: I’ll probably ride my bike to Frager’s to get one so that means I can ride back home carrying it like a lance and possibly engage in an impromptu jousting match with any who wish to challenge my rightful place on the throne.
    Rave: May get my first legit snow run in this Saturday.
    Rant: Will probably be running in the snow this Saturday.

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: the cat knocked my jewelry box off my side table in the night. I thought I got everything, but now I can’t find 2 rings, one of which was my grandfather’s wedding ring.
    Rave: had a nice long weekend

    • Quotia Zelda

      Uh oh, you’ve turned into mom.

      • Emmaleigh504

        except I didn’t put the rings some place safe, Donna knocked the box off a table and it spilled under my bed. not the same thing! And I fully expect to find the rings, I just didn’t have time this morning when I realized they were missing.

  • Rave: Just got back from a Caribbean cruise with my family. It was totally over the top and silly and I had a wonderful time.
    Rant: While on the cruise, my suspicions were confirmed that my brother is a heroin addict. My whole family had suspected for a long time and I encouraged him to talk to them, especially my parents with whom he is living, since he had been lying to everyone up until the point we talked. He told them what was going on last night, which is good, but I have the feeling this is going to be a lifetime’s worth of struggle and heartache, and am not feeling terribly optimistic. He’s only 24 and extremely stubborn. Anyone dealt with this before or have any advice?

    • Oh gosh. I haven’t dealt with a family member having heroin addiction, only alcoholism. What did he say when you talked to him? I mean did he acknowledge it’s a problem, or did he act like it wasn’t a big deal? There have been a lot of stories on heroin use among younger people these days. Is he open to getting help?

    • Oh man, SBinDC! my heart goes out to you. I have personally dealt with this situation – and am still dealing with it, actually, though with a different sibling now – so I know what it’s like to want to hope but not be able to fully, to want to trust but to also have to remain skeptical, etc. I’m not sure I have tons of advice, but I can certainly talk if you ever wanted to chat.

    • I have experience with family members who were alcoholics and also opiate (though not heroine) addicts. In my experience, this is a lifetime battle. There will be time she gets better, and they will be followed by relapses. The important thing to remember is that you, and no one else for that matter, can make him change. He has to want to. But also, equally important to remember, is that addiction is a disease; it is not a character flaw. Often times, the roots are in deep-seeded issues that will require counseling and will need to be dealt with before the addict can truly move past their addiction.
      Also, please, when/if you he gets to the point of seeking medical help, check out any detox center or rehab he might go to, thoroughly. Most rehabs only last 28 days, and that is only scratching the surface of recovery for opiate addicts. Don’t be afraid to suggest medical treatment with Methadone or Suboxone; recovery rates are far higher among addicts who are treated medically versus the cold turkey/AA-type of program.
      Finally, take care of yourself. Encourage your parents especially to take care of themselves. Living with and loving an addict is honestly one of the hardest things you will ever do. Don’t lose yourselves and each other to his addiction.

      • anonymouse_dianne

        There is a great article in today’s Post Health section on medical treatments of opiate addiction.

        Where do you read Capital Weather gang?

    • palisades

      Brother had a longtime addiction to painkillers and the sorts. Took hitting rock bottom/getting arrested/rehab/and a relapse but he’s clean and healthy finally. It’s been almost 4 years now since he got clean. He’s married and owns a house with his supportive and great wife. Be patient. Don’t give up hope.

  • special_k

    RAVE: The January Cure. My place has never been so clean or organized.
    RAVE: Freecycle!
    RAVE: Life is so much better when you have good people in it and I do.
    QUESTION: I’m having some of said good people over (this weekend if there’s no snow) and looking for a good but easy vegetarian recipe that has no flour or added sugar. I always make chili so don’t want to do that again. Anyone have a good soup or stew recipe that fits the bill?

  • Emmaleigh504

    Super rant: Just found out one of my favorite people at work has stage 4 cancer. Fck cancer!

  • Rave: I get to go to Florida for work and get out of the cold!
    Small Rant: I’ll miss the snowstorm, but at least I scheduled my flights to spend the weekend down there so I should be ok getting back next week
    Bigger Rant: A major reason I wanted (and extended) this Florida trip was so that I could see my grandmother….she passed away suddenly 2 weeks ago. Friday (the day of our dinner date) is going to be really tough.
    Rant: I thought I could get through typing that without tearing up…guess not. I hate crying at work.

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