Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • Rant: Feeling awful about all my family and friends are struggling with – Uncle has to have a lung transplant, friend starts chemo today, another good friend is in denial about major anxiety, SIL is in a decades long abusive relationship and needs medical attention……cannot deal with
    Rave: Over the moon about my best friend and his engagement. They’re visiting soon and I cannot wait to celebrate with them!

    • GiantSquid

      Seconding your rant. Mr. Squid’s dad’s throat cancer might be back, a family friend is in rough shape health-wise, and Mr. Squid’s still trying to get his brain and job figured out. It’s really tough to see people you care about hurting and not able to do anything about it. Sending them a note to let them know you’re thinking of them helps. Plus venting your frustration helps you.

      • I’m sorry about all the rough stuff going on with you all. For me, I feel bad ranting about it because I’m not the one going through it but it really is a lot! Best of luck with it all.

        • Bear

          Totally with you on this. Three friends have miscarried in the last couple of months, a coworker’s father died during heart surgery, another coworker’s 30-year old daughter died inexplicably in her sleep, another friend’s husband got laid off, another friend’s father is having serious health issues, plus my own father’s health issues are persisting. It’s a lot – too many emotions and a lot of not knowing what to say or do.

    • With that – any one have ideas about good post-chemo support? Magazines? Popsicles? Dropping off dinner?

      • All of those things, also possibly just sitting and being with them (but bring a little get well basket, maybe with some lotion, a funny magazine, something to make them smile)…sometimes though, sitting there and just being there is the best thing.

      • I always appreciated food, but everyone handles chemo differently. If you choose dinner, be sure to ask your friend what s/he’d like. My taste buds changed dramatically during chemo, and my stomach wasn’t exactly normal either.

  • skj84

    Rant: I had to remove my Instagram profile from my Tinder. Guys were finding me through my Tinder account and following my profile. Just creeped me out, I may Tinder stalk, but I don’t let them know it!

    Rave: my haircut is not as terrible as I initially thought. The back is the worst part, but the front still has good length. Still don’t want to wear my hair down.

    • I’ve never used tinder. Is including the link just a faster way to upload more photos?

      • skj84

        I assumed Tinder gave the option to view Instagram photos, not access the whole account. Which is not the case.

    • I’ve always thought IG put too much information on Tinder for me to be comfortable with. Toats support removing.

    • Never tried Tinder either, but I heard you link it to social media accounts. That somehow bothered me. YOu can find me and then really stalk me.

  • Rave: Somehow got sucked in to watching Late Late Show clips – the carpool karaoke with Justin Beiber is amazing. Loved James Corden’s Smithy on Gavin and Stacey was great, so don’t know why it took me so long.
    Rant: This heat/humidity just kills me
    Rave: Pittsburgh weather this weekend claims to be in the mid 70s. Hopefully that’s true!

    • I adore James Corden! If you can, watch him in “The Wrong Mans,” it’s on hulu but you might be able to find it elsewhere…

  • Rant: Groggy.
    Rant: Discovered another broken-off flower stem among my treebox daylilies today. I really don’t want to think someone is messing with them, but I keep seeing damage that doesn’t look like it could be accidental.
    Rave: My crape myrtle is putting forth little berry things that I think are either going to turn into flowers or signal the imminent bloom of flowers. I’ve been getting a little impatient, as I’m seeing crape myrtles in bloom all over D.C.!
    Rant: Should’ve done some planting/transplanting earlier this morning, but it was just too hot.

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: so not loving the new work situation. It’s only been 3 days and I am homicidal.
    Rave: It’s Andatu’s 3rd birthday today!!! http://www.rhinos.org/adopt-a-rhino

  • GiantSquid

    Rant: Been filing for unemployment in DC when I apparently should have been doing it in Maryland.
    Revel: DC Unemployment office called me to let me know that my claim was being forwarded to MD and there would be back pay.
    Rant: Still no luck with finding a rental and the herd seems to be thinning.
    Revel: Mr. Squid has started applying to other jobs (finally).
    Rant: It’s going to be super toasty today.
    Revel: New dresses tomorrow and my curly hair is loving the humidity.
    Question: When is the cookbook exchange? I’m culling our collection in anticipation of the move.
    PABLO RAW: take my film & camera, please!

    • The cosmetics/cookbook swap is Sun. 6/28, 3 p.m., in the Kogod Courtyard (the enclosed courtyard at the National Portrait Gallery/American Art Museum building, 8th and F Streets NW).

      • I am ridiculous excited about this. And a littttle bit concerned that I might not be able to get past security with my haul.

        • *ridiculously. Also, IDGI, please come for real. I will bring lots of nice sunscreen options!

          • I Dont Get It

            I doubt that I can make it but I do have cookbook that I want to bequeath to Emilie504. It’s an old Congressional Club book with recipes from First Ladies and Congressional wives. Some of the recipes are crazy retro!

          • Emmaleigh504

            Oooh that sounds like an awesome book!

          • Emmaleigh504

            Wait. How did you know I would like that kind of cook book? Was it that time at Tulane? Are you stalking me?

      • So excited about this! And I am also worried about security not being amused by my big bag of stuff.

    • i believe the exchange is Sunday – if you have any interest in taking some of my cookbooks with you, let me know and maybe i can bring them by if you’re somewhat local? We’ll be in PGH and it’ll be nice to see some of my lesser-used (ok, never used) cookbooks find a new home! I will say that my Spiralizer cookbook got used last night so I’m keeping that one 🙂

      • GiantSquid

        I can take them for you. Downside is that means I’ll reach critical capacity for the bike and will probably need to drive over. Prince can give you my email so we can arrange drop off.

      • I’ve also got a good bit of sample sizes – I got a lot of donations for an event I organized from the salon and Sephora, but we didn’t need all of it and it’s just been waiting for a new home. If anyone is DRIVING or has an easier way than me making Giant Squid schlep it on her bike, let me know!

        • I’m not biking and I would be happy to help with this.

        • GiantSquid

          I don’t mind driving, especially if it’s this hot and/or rainy. Maybe we can sneak stuff in via stroller?

          • ok – I’ll email you and have others on retainer if needed!

          • Last time I went to those museums (a week or so ago), they didn’t inspect bags. I doubt they would hassle you about cosmetics, unless they thought you might use them to damage the artwork.
            My chief recollection of their bag policy is that if you bring a backpack, they make you carry it on your chest rather than on your back.

        • That One Guy

          I can drive if people need help carrying things.

          • That One Guy

            Also, just throwing this out there, Dolcezza and Sweet Rare are not too far away in case people need a change in venue. The Library is close by too but not its conducive to conversation.

    • Pablo Raw

      I’ll get it tonight whatever it takes!

  • Rant: I was running along Georgia Avenue yesterday around 7pm and saw this guy get into his car. I then looked at this car and noticed the backseat window was busted!! He looked back and saw it and said “SHIT!” I said ugh yeah that wasn’t like that, was it? He got out of the car and said no and I said you need to file a police report. I asked if he had anything back there and he said yes, a laptop. Ughhhh, police happened to be driving by so I flagged them down. Poor guy, I know he shouldn’t have left that out, but he had Virginia plates so probably not aware. It was daylight though and tons of people around!!
    Rave: Leaving work early today.

    • I walked by that same vehicle (SUV with VA plates) while the guy was talking to the policewoman. I heard him saying something about it being broad daylight, so he thought he’d be fine. (It was a little after 7:30 p.m. when I walked past.) Poor naive guy.
      It was an area with lots of foot traffic (across the street from the CVS), but that didn’t stop the (apparently rather brazen) thief/thieves.

      • Yes! I must have just missed you b/c I stood with him until the policewoman got out of the car and he started talking to her. Then I said sorry and good luck. Right–it is such a busy area so someone had to have seen someone, but still doubt it will ever be recovered.

    • I Dont Get It

      Ha, this was going to be my rant today! I saw a young lady talking to a cop on S St who I guess had just arrived to taker her report of a broken car window. She said something like “They went through my book bag but didn’t take any of my books.” DC plates but as I said, she looked young.

  • Rave: Wife’s back from a long trip
    Rant: Wife’s back from a long trip
    Question – where can I buy small bronze statues?

  • Rant. Walking dog to daycare took 3x as long as I intended, so I was late to an appt.
    Rant: Still no gym time. Going nuts!
    Rave: Sunday brunch.
    Question: Any good bars/restaurants for mocktails? I imagine many bars can whip something up, but I couldn’t find any menus if they exist.

    • Gymtimes are so hard to schedule!

      • Nah! My issue is a minor injury keeping me from going. I have plenty of time, so it’s that much more annoying.

    • GiantSquid

      Beuchert’s Saloon does excellent mocktails. They have a NA version of a Moscow Mule that is quite refreshing.

    • Rasika and Founding Farmers have a great selection of alcohol free drinks

    • skj84

      Bourbon Steak does good Mocktails.

    • I think that most good cocktail bars can make great mocktails, but few will ever put them on the menu. When I order mocktails, I generally ask the bartender or server what they can make and they usually make me something to my own preferences using whatever syrups and juices they usually have on hand. It rarely, if ever goes wrong. I think the best ones I’ve had have been at Two Birds, One Stone and The Gibson. Bourbon Steak also is terrific, as skj84 said.

  • Bouncing back from the weekend, but overall good.
    Rave: Longwood Gardens in PA. Beautiful and an excellent excursion for friendsies.
    Rave/Rant: The nearly uniform sun I got on the drive. Except the seatbelt tan.
    Rant: RomCom got dramatic over word choice but I think it’s okay now.
    Rave: We went to Kramerbooks seeking information on my upcoming trip when it was very late and we were very drunk. Kudos to him for being up for late night book runs.
    Rant/ Ennui: I am having a lot of trouble caring about work when it’s so beautiful outside. Then I freak out about not doing enough work and have a panic attack.

  • justinbc

    Rave: New air conditioning is a godsend.
    Rant: Working from home = now impossible thanks to the cats.
    Rant: Improper drainage on our street leads to huge mosquito colonies after every big storm.
    Rant: Dead sports season…c’mon football already!

    • For what it’s worth… I have to shut my cat in my bedroom when I’m teleworking, or I can’t get any work done.
      For the improper drainage on your street… have you tried getting DC Water to fix it (like if the catchbasins are clogged)? Or is it something different than that?

      • justinbc

        It’s different than that, more to do with the original design of the road / slope / etc.

      • justinbc

        And yeah, I need to figure out a good place to put them out of my way. Currently both bedrooms are cat-free, so the only storage option is the bathrooms, which is obviously not ideal.

        • Ahh, I see. Yeah, not ideal.
          Can you move your laptop to one of the bedrooms and shut yourself in? Or will the kittens meow at you through the door?

    • +1 to football. I can’t ever shut my cats out, then there is meowing. Good news when they are a bit older generally work time is also their prime napping time so they’ll be up in your grill a bit less. At least that’s what happens in my case they just enjoy napping near me while I work.

  • Rant: Stressing out this week.

    Rant: Thinking about sending The Boy an email since we had that talk a few weeks ago, going to think about it some more and make that decision by the end of this week. If I do send it he gets a very easy opt-out to take with no more awkward discussions.

    Rant: My out of town friend with the baby. She chose to have a baby, and her life now revolves around him and that’s okay, I understand babies sort of take over. What’s not okay is no matter what I’m planning, she tells me I (and other friends without children) need to work around her baby’s schedule/makes us feel super guilty if she and/or her hubby can’t join us for things because “that’s during her nap time” or “that’s too late for us to have lunch with you, she eats at 11am”…(I’m visiting her family and my newlywed friends in a few weeks and the newlywed friends and I made plans to try to do something as a group and we were told we can’t do it, because of it being her nap time. We’re moving forward with our plans, the family just won’t be joining us for that part and I guess we’ll deal with the guilt trip later?)

    Rave/Rantish Going to see my dad this weekend (rave!), chemo is making his memory practically non-existent and I hate cancer (boo) but I’m hoping that with less family around this time, we’ll have a really good visit. Weirdly enough, his wife is being really nice to me very suddenly. I’m not sure how to take that.

    • That’s really unfair with the friend. I’m assuming you’ve accommodated her at times, so she needs to accept that she can’t drive the train all the time. Why can’t the kid snack or draw or something while you’re having lunch?
      For the boy, an easy out email sounds good if things remain unresolved. Sorry you’re still unclear on that situation.

    • Many of my friends have had kids over the past few years, so I understand where you’re coming from. I will say that it does get easier to hang out as the kids get older. For now though, her life will revolve around her baby.

      • +1. I think it’s entirely fair for the friend to friend to have a schedule, but agree with SinSA that the guilt tripping is entirely inappropriate. This is her family’s schedule, not yours, and it’s unreasonable to think that her family’s schedule should completely dictate group gatherings. It could be a kind gesture to reach out to her at the beginning of the process of planning group events to see what times to do work and accommodate them if you can. But only if that’s something you really want to do. Also, is this a friend you can hang out with on a more one-on-one basis? I’d hate to advocate for leaving a friend out just because they have a baby, but it sounds like scheduling might be easier if it doesn’t involve big groups.

    • Your friend shouldn’t let the baby run her life, much less her friends’ lives, like that. Yes, throwing the baby off schedule can bring a little bit of grief, but that’s part of the deal. Sometimes a cranky baby is the price of doing things with friends, and sometimes missing friends is the price of having a baby. Unlike Hulu, Thai food and and Tinder, parenthood is not an “on demand” environment.

      • +1. It also helps to be honest that some friendships can’t survive family expansion. I think this is something a lot of people have a hard time coming to terms with (on both sides).

    • How old is the baby? FWIW, some kids are *really* schedule dependent, so it’s hard to mix things up–and food and sleep are the key components to keep steady in that case. That said, the guilt trip isn’t cool. That’s where it veers into unacceptable.

      • +1 on “That said, the guilt trip isn’t cool. That’s where it veers into unacceptable.”
        The baby being schedule-dependent is one thing. The friend’s insistence that you accommodate the schedule not just some of the time but ALL the time (?) is unfair. Like “[T]he newlywed friends and I made plans to try to do something as a group and we were told we can’t do it, because of it being [the baby’s] nap time” — the appropriate response from the friend would be “I can’t attend,” not “You can’t schedule it then.”

        • Their daughter is a year and a half. I do hang out with both the mother and father one-on-one on occasion, when they are in town for something as we all have a lot of the same friends (they live an hour and a half away now but used to live closer to here).
          I’m staying with The Newlyweds, due to the fact that I want to have a visit with them not dictated by a small human (and the Parents with Baby, aka “PwB”) as I missed out on the wedding reception last month due to her bedtime.

          The Newlyweds and I are going to do things that we want to do, and include PwB when possible, but we’re all frustrated that the things already suggested run into her naptime or the child’s bedtime and then are feeling manipulated into doing things muuuuch earlier (no. we just aren’t going to, and unless they want to hire a sitter for a few hours, we won’t see them as much as we’d like to).

          • That’s a tough age–and it may be a little while before they’re past it. Old enough to want to run around and not be still, but too young to be engaged in quiet activities when adults are otherwise engaged/at a restaurant/etc. At least that’s been the case for my daughter. We’re still somewhat in that boat and she’s just turned two.
            Your plan sounds perfectly reasonable. That said, you sound disappointed to not be able to spend more time with them. Perhaps ask them what activities would work with their schedule and incorporate that into the plan one of the days? For us, sometimes brunch works better than other meals, followed by a walk or hanging out at a playground so the adults can still hang out and chat but the kid is contained. Or we entertain at our place more–someone disappears for a bit to get the kid down for nap/bedtime/whatever, and then we continue to hang out/play board games/etc. But that depends on the personalities of the people involved….

    • I’m with you on this issue – I understand that it ebbs and flows and that right now their life revolves around the baby but when you’re the only one doing the accommodation for everything that gets tough to maintain (we’ve been doing it for a few years now with different friends and it’s hard! Just have to push through and hope it gets better I guess, or that they’re understanding and want to be friends with us when we have kids….).

      • UDPie: how does it work with you, the accomodation? Have you ever mentioned it to your friends with children?

        • Mostly it’s accommodating timing, location, activity, and quality of conversation. We’re figuring it out and setting ourselves up for success, it really isn’t that much of a burden as we don’t have a kid and love the people (big and little!) we’re spending time with but can wear you down when it’s every outing/social event. We have friends with an older child (5) and friends with younger children and knowing that the friendship comes back and/or is enhanced after a few years of baby/toddlerdom is helpful. It helps lend perspective because friendships with good people can be for the long haul and being understanding of their limits now can be worthwhile in the long run.
          In today’s day and age when scheduling is crazy and everyone is “soooo busy” it’s honestly just another addition to the craziness of trying to maintain relationships nowadays.

          • Thanks, UDPie and Mtpresident. I’ve got a lot of friends who have kids, and I love spending time with all of them – this specific example is just the first time my friends and I have dealt with the guilt part of it. Other parents do say “Sorry, we can’t make it, another time?” or just flat out, “No, I’m sorry that won’t work for us.” and I accept that, and we try to work something out so we can all spend good quality time together (this little girl is adorable and I love hanging out with her). And then there are the friends with kids who bring them along happily to whatever, sometimes joining us late (because of naps, or eating, or meltdowns) or having to leave early, because of the same thing. Totally get it. I’m sure in a year or so, it’ll even itself out. Thanks for the encouragement.

    • Of course the baby is going to run their life! The way I see this, it is your problem that you can’t accept that. I had a friend who had a baby, and another mutual friend complained all the time about how she couldn’t have a conversation with the mom again, etc., whereas I had no problem with it – our friendship was just fine. But I accept that a greater responsibility, to a baby, takes precedence over all else. I’m not expecting that you’ll change your views (haven’t seen it happen with others) – just don’t expect her to change her priorities, either. Of course, she’d like her schedule to be included when you are planning events, but you aren’t interested in doing that (I have to really wonder why not), but in any event she can’t make you schedule around her – so just do what you want and stop trying to change her. Which is what I hear in your comments that you are trying to do. You can never change other people! And anyway, her way of parenting is a valid one, for her and for many, even if you think she should leave the kid with sitters to meet your schedule. So accept that and move on. Maybe you’ll be friends again, and maybe because of how she feels about your attitude, you won’t – but you can’t figure that out now.

      • Did you miss the part about the friend trying to guilt-trip the OP for not scheduling everything around her? And the OPs comment that her other friends with kids didn’t try to guilt-trip her?
        I got the impression that the OP was trying to be accommodating, but for every timeframe the OP proposed, the friend countered with a baby-related obstacle.

        • textdoc: YES. Everything I (or my friends that I’m staying with) has suggested it’s not remotely convenient. We’ve all suggested things at different times of the day and it doesn’t seem to work where everyone is happy. We’re not going to meet them for breakfast at 8am, we get that they cannot be at dinner at 8pm. We’re still trying to figure something out though.

          • Good luck. I hope your friends appreciate your efforts–I know I would. Fingers crossed you’ll find something that works reasonably well for everyone 🙂

      • And ditto to textdoc’s impressions–I got the same impression and I have a 2yo. I don’t get the impression that SinSA compares to the mutual friend you describe.

  • Rave: Took a class last night in Beginning Welsh through knowledgecommonsdc – roedd yn hwyl (it was fun)
    Rave: Cold brewed coffee for hot summer mornings
    Rave: Kale-chi turned out delicious; grilled cheese with kale-chi is extra delicious
    No rants [yet]

    • “grilled cheese with kale-chi is extra delicious” I want this Right Now. Did you already share your kale-chi recipe and if not, can you please? I have a big kale harvest to do this weekend and this sounds like the perfect thing to do with it!

      • I hope you like this – I’m a big fan of fermented foods!
        Tear or chop kale leaves (after removing the stem) and soak in a brine. Use iodine-free salt and filtered or distilled water for the brine (I used 3 T of salt in a large salad spinner bowl full of water).
        Put a weighted plate on top to keep the kale submerged under water, leave overnight.
        Drain and rinse the kale a few times, add grated carrot, some onion and then pepper paste (1 t grated ginger, 2 minced garlic cloves, 1 t sugar (use real sugar), 2 T Korean pepper (gochugaru, I found this at Best World in Mt P), bit of water to make a paste. You may find you like more ginger, less garlic, more gochugaru…
        Mix well with your hands, pack really tightly into mason jars leaving an inch of headroom
        There should be enough liquid to cover the top of the kale-chi; you’ll need to put something on top to keep kale-chi submerged – either a smaller glass, or a ziplock bag filled with water.
        Put jar/jars on saucers, leave on counter for 2-3 days (taste regularly to see when you think it is ready to eat).
        Keeps in refrigerator for a month+

    • Nice on the Welsh! Was this at Petworth Citizen’s Reading Room?

    • Another rave: Renewed my Global Entry for another 5 years – took ten minutes max at the GOES office in the Ronald Reagan Bldg
      Here’s my rant: Forgot about getting my car inspected => inspection sticker expired. Ooops.

      • Accountering

        Get it done now! You are already on the hook for a $20 late fee from DMV, but they will ticket you as well if they see you.

        • First I need to have someone take a look at the muffler/exhaust that doesn’t sound right; this just fell off my priority to-do list!
          Fortunately I have a parking spot & don’t drive often.

  • justinbc

    Random: I’ve got about 1,000 different beer bottles that I had been collecting over the years (thankfully we have an attic) for a specific art installation I had in mind that is clearly never going to happen now. If someone would be interested in actually using them please let me know. Many are very hard to find or no longer produced and all have full labels in tact.

    • That is a lot of beer.

    • If nobody bites and you end up recycling the glass, it might be fun to steam the labels off for an album/scrapbook.

      • justinbc

        Yeah I had initially attempted to do that with some wine and beer bottles and it was such a pain to get them off seamlessly I just gave up haha. Too many of them use glue without the proper backing so it just shreds to pieces.

        • Not sure how you tried to get them off, but my brother collects labels from beer bottles & he has a lot of success by soaking the bottle in water for about 24 hours. Most of them slip straight off, 100% intact.

          • justinbc

            Tried soaking too. Most beer bottles aren’t as bad as wine with the labels. But some of the fancy 22oz ones use a heavier glue.

          • Use wash soda and hot hot water, soak, they slide right off. Some just fall off.
            You can buy wash soda, though it’s somewhat hard to find. You can also just bake baking soda, spread out on a baking sheet, for 30 min at 450F. I use about 3/4C in a sink full of hot water.

          • Just hot water will do, not sure where the “hot hot” water came from.

    • its a little late in the season but reach out to the burner community, some may find the need for an art installation
      or i know of a group making bottle/ mudish? benches in moco… could reach out to them to see if they would need that many

      • justinbc

        Good idea, someone could easily create their own version of Philly’s Magic Garden with this supply! I’ve got an upcoming restaurant that might be interested, but if they don’t take them I’ll contact the art guys you mentioned.

    • I would take some to bottle my beer please! However, I do generally remove the labels for that.

      • justinbc

        You can definitely have whatever I’ve got left after the restaurant folks take what they need. I’ve got pretty much every size imaginable.

    • I bet if you listed them on Craigslist they’d be snatched up pretty much immediately by homebrewers.

    • Are they all bottles or do you have cans as well? I know can collectors.

    • Allison

      Please tell me you weren’t going to put them on your wall so you could sing “100 bottles of beer on the wall”

    • If they aren’t screw tops then a home brewer would probably go bananas over these since they can be cleaned and re-used for their own suds. You may try throwing it out on FB or Craigslist.

  • Rant: Hit by a cyclist this morning walking to work. He said “passing on your right” so I moved to the left and bam! Bruised arm.
    Rave: He stopped, apologized, said it was totally his mistake and made sure I was ok before going on his way.

    • so he was trying to pass on your left? but got confused? ugh.

      • Probably. And sometimes when you tell people “passing on your left” they move left–so the confusion can happen with both parties. Hope the bruise goes away quickly!

      • Yep, he ended up passing on my left – well, not really passing, but colliding with me. I think he said right and went right. To be fair, he was a younger, probably mid to late teens and was perhaps still learning the rules of cycling on the sidewalks and was at least trying to be a responsible cyclist. No harm, no fowl in my book (bruises fade!), and I really appreciated the apology and concern. I have had joggers collide with my kids who couldn’t have given two f*cks, so really it was appreciated!

        • “No harm, no fowl in my book” — You sure he wasn’t playing “chicken”? 😉

        • THIS is why we should be a civilized city like all the others I’ve lived in and not allow biking on the sidewalk (unless you are a really little kid.) Not anti-cyclist, I ride, but I think it is dumb to mix walkers and cyclists on the sidewalk.

  • Rave: Bleeding seems to have stopped and my beta levels yesterday were still super high. Still cautious, but hopeful.
    Question: This is a bit of a long shot, but can anyone recommend a personal trainer who is especially good with pregnant ladies? I’ve gotten really out of shape as a result of my various medical interventions and want to start working — healthfully, safely — to prep for a natural birth.

    • fingers crossed for you!!

    • Maybe find a prenatal yoga class? I don’t know any trainers, but I’ve been enjoying prenatal yoga. So that could help. The midwives might also be able to suggest someone(s).

      • I am definitely going to do prenatal yoga but hope to do some more serious strength training, especially on my lower body. Do you have any prenatal yoga classes that you would especially recommend?

        • I did pilate throughout my pregnancy and it was great! It’s good for strength training without being too strenuous on the body. The studio I go to, Reformation Fitness in Shaw, was great about modifying exercises to make them pregnancy friendly.

          • Do you happen to remember which teacher(s) you liked? I went to a class there last weekend and the instructor seemed thoroughly freaked out when I told her I was pregnant and tried to modify everything so it was way too easy.

          • Sorry — two weekends ago.

        • Past Tense studio in Mt Pleasant has a prenatal class–that’s where I go. Tranquil Space (I think that’s what it’s called) has a prenatal class as well that I’ve heard good things about. Prenatal yoga might be really great for strength training as well–chair pose/lunge combos are quite something! And you can take what you learn to practice at home as well. I should do more of that, come to think of it.

        • Britany’s class at Yoga District on 14th St is wonderful and a great support system/community. Anne Theil’s at Tranquil Space in Dupont is great, too – much less of a community feel (people don’t talk to one another), but Anne’s knowledge is top notch. She was a midwife in Germany. She also has a “birthing with yoga” class that I really enjoyed – and I don’t like yoga. I also want to recommend Susan Messina’s childbirth class. It’s at her home, and her knowledge is unreal. Her class is funny and informative. We took a weekend intensive and really enjoyed it. She’s a special person – lesbian couple who had fertility issues, experienced loss, ect so she’s realistic and not judgey. /rant

        • oh I also think Fuse has pre-natal pilates and B-Fit has pre-natal barre. Might not be specifically what you’re looking for, but throwing that out there.

        • I’ve definitely seen pregnant women in the barre classes at Biker Barre. Don’t think the trainers are specifically trained to work with pregnant women, but that type of exercise might be up your alley. Low impact strength training, a lot of focus on core work, etc.

        • Thanks for all of the great recommendations!

  • Rave: Delicious salad I had in San Diego successfully recreated last night at home – cucumber, honeydew, arugula and tzatziki. Nothing fancy, but so incredibly delicious.
    Rant: Neighbor asking me not to take my car out of the garage in the mornings – granted it’s at 5 am – because the garage door wakes her up. I really like her, but we live in a city and in a shared building – there’s lots of extraneous noise. I can hear our (very old) elevator from my bedroom but I’m not about to ask people to stop taking it late at night. She’s expecting me to modify my schedule or park my car outside overnight for mornings when I need it, but neither of those are workable. Such is life.

    • Maybe try to mollify her by suggesting a white-noise app or machine? That would likely go over better than “Sorry, this is a city and there’s noise.”

    • Umm, yeah, that would be a big fat no from me. Sorry, but that really is asking too much.

    • that’s a pretty odd request. It’s not your fault she can’t sleep through it. white noise might help, but you have to get to work and she shouldn’t expect you to change that because she hears it.

    • That is a no and I wouldn’t think twice about it.

    • Accountering

      I would also say to not think twice about it. With that said, I would respond to her and explain your reasoning. She is obviously concerned enough to think about it and mention it to you, I think a quick explanation may be a strong move for neighbor relations.

    • I know it’s subjective but is the garage door particularly loud or squeaky? It’s possible that a little bit of garage door maintenance (I’m thinking specifically of lubrication, but there might be other things) could make it smoother and quieter.

  • Quotia Zelda

    Rave: A good night’s sleep!
    Rave: All the beautiful summer produce right now.
    Rave: I make the world’s best blueberry pie.
    Rave: Blueberry pie makes an excellent breakfast.
    Rant: Just broke one of my favorite necklaces. It’s long, so restringing it takes forever.

  • Rant: In such a bad mood and I’m not sure exactly why, but I’ve been in a funk for the past three days. My roommate fled to the beach because she’s having severe anxiety issues, and I wish I could join her. Everything is pissing me off and making me feel overwhelmed, and there’s nothing different that I can identify which would be making me feel this way. Grr.
    Rave: My neighbor’s tiny little puppy. He’s just the cutest thing in the world and ever since I met him last week, he gets so excited when he sees me. I mean, he gets excited to see anything and anyone, really, he’s not playing favorites, but it’s just so cute to have a little furball so ecstatic to interact with you, he’s really showing up my cats 🙂
    Rant. This. f’ing. Heat. I hate it.

  • Query: Anyone have any recommendations on a handyman?
    I’ve e-mailed Mike from Renaissance (not to be confused with the Renaissance that does tuckpointing on brick houses), whom somebody from PoPville recommended a while back, but haven’t heard back yet.

  • Rant: Dreams about the ex are never a good way to start the day. I very rarely dream about anyone I know, and rarely dreamed about him while we were together – but I’ve frequently dreamed about him since he broke up with me. Grrr. Still thinking about him too much, I guess. I seriously wish I could just zap all memories of him!
    Rave: I plan to shortly enjoy the view of attractive shirtless guys on the beach to distract myself.
    Rant: Super groggy this morning.
    Rant/Rave: So hard to focus at work the day before a vacation!
    Rave: I forgot we have next Friday off for the 4th of July weekend, so I just have a one day work week after I get back! Excellent.

    • I have very vivid dreams, and when the occasional ex pops into them, it always sends me through a loop, so I feel you!

      • I Dont Get It

        I wouldn’t overthink these dreams. I have very vivid dreams and pretty much anyone I’ve ever met, or not met in some celebrities cases, shows up. Some of the trippiest are when I dream I’m at dinner with my deceased mother, my father and his new wife.

    • If it helps, sometimes the dreams come out of nowhere and aren’t an indication that you are “thinking about the ex too much.” I have so moved on in my life and still sometimes have very vivid, upsetting dreams about people I dated ages ago. I have just stopped reading too much into it.

  • Rave/Rant: got up at the 515 to go running – felt decent till 2 miles in and the heat and humidity hit hard
    Rant: The unnecessary additional layers that were created in my office – killing me!
    Rave: 3 more days in the office and then VACATION!

  • Rave – Went to a great yoga class yesterday and it completely turned my mood around for the better!
    Rant – Wearing a suit on this hot day.
    Cautious rave – First day of training class for my reactive dog this evening! I hope she does ok and is on her best behavior.

  • Rant: Feeling bad about my weight gain. I’m almost 200lbs! I’ve got to do something. I’m going to cut down eating after dinner and change what I eat. The hard part will be starting to exercise again. I used to walk 3 miles a day 4 times a week but now I do nothing. I know what I need to do but the motivation isn’t there. I feel so sluggish.
    Rave: Just finished a draft of a report that’s been a bear to do at work.
    Rant: The weather outside. I was soaked in sweat when I got to work at 8 am .

    • Do you want a random internet stranger to touch base with about progress, because I could totally use someone to keep me on track and would be willing to do the same in return. I’m thinking of a 7/1 life reset – taking advantage of the second half of the year a bit more than the first half! If interested let me know! We could maybe meet for classes nearby? I’m in Shaw and work near McPherson, so not terribly far away…based on the assumption that you’re actually IN Chinatown 🙂

    • I had a really similar “I have to do something” moment yesterday. Mr. Eggs and I are switching to 100% clean eating as of tomorrow (except for vacation next weekend because it’s the Fourth and beer and burgers are a requirement). I’m so done with feeling like crap.

    • If you’re interested, GW has a weight loss clinic that takes insurance. It’s a lot of information we all already know, but Dr Hynes is really nice and it’s a good support program. I’m in a similar boat, but am not in a place where I can do too much about other than the eating aspect because time to work out is severely limited. Even time to cook is. One of the reasons we’re moving is my health. You can do it, though! (I lost 75lbs on WW and it felt amazing….but my choice was to have a family and I didn’t really know what it meant to put yourself last until that happened)

    • That One Guy

      I too am losing the fight with the squat. It’s like the nothingness is winning.

  • Rave: I love summer so much, even the sweaty and gross parts of it.
    Rant: Househunting is such a pain. I am so tired of making the trip to look at places, then hearing that the reasonably priced one has been rented, but wouldn’t you like to see the one for $300 more? No, I would not.
    Rave: There is a place that I really like for a fairly reasonable rent and good location. The waiting to hear if I got it or not is killing me!

    • GiantSquid

      Your Rant is why we’ve stopped checking out large apartment complexes. I understand that they’ve got their systems with pricing and whatnot, but there’s a reason why we’re checking out the place advertised at X amount. If we could afford Y, we would have said so. And all the ancillary costs like parking, trash, pets, etc. etc. etc…

      • ugh that whole “paying for trash and other stuff” must have come after I stopped renting because when I started to look at renting again, I was blown away. $10 for trash? Why can’t I just take my trash out? It’s such an airline move – nickle and dime so your price looks lower but the cost is much higher.

        • Actually it’s the opposite of what airlines are doing – airlines are giving you the choice to not pay for things you don’t need or want.

          • Airlines are charging for things that used to be free. It’s not like they’re reducing their fares by commensurate amounts.

          • The things didn’t used to be free, they were included in the cost of the ticket. Now those things are not included in the cost of the ticket, and the cost of the ticket is not as high as it would be otherwise. People just don’t like knowing that all the stuff they want to receive actually has a cost and is not really free.

          • Accountering


            Ticket prices have stayed stagnant, and these fees are pure profit. For evidence of this, check out earnings per share for airline stocks. Airlines have never really consistently made money. They are at a point currently where when you back out ancillary fees, they are break-even. Their profit is entirely from these fees.

            They have taken a standard ticket price from before, and just started charging for all the things they were providing for free.

          • “Ticket prices have stayed stagnant, and these fees are pure profit.”
            That sounds like what I just said: “Now those things are not included in the cost of the ticket, and the cost of the ticket is not as high as it would be otherwise.” Whether it’s pure profit or not is irrelevant to me – businesses are entitled to try to make a profit, are they not?

          • Accountering

            Of course they are. I was more saying before they were giving them away for free, and as a result were breaking even generally, now they are charging for them, and making record profits. Agree, we are essentially saying the same thing, just a slightly different nuance.

      • Exactly. There is some wiggle room in my budget, but not that much! And yes, there are So. Many. Fees. Amenity fees, move-in fees, reservation fees, pet fees, pet rent…

  • Rave: date with low match went really well. checked-in. all is good. still casually dating.
    Rant: he’s traveling for a few weeks. i think i might miss him. feelings…why?
    Rave: social life is booming. made so many new friends in the past month. life isn’t terrible.
    Rave: my sister. she’s the best & has my back whenever i need her.

    • Missing someone doesn’t mean you’re emotionally attached necessarily. I miss my dog when he’s away, but I don’t want to marry him. 🙂

    • That’s true. I don’t feel so weird about possibly missing someone I’m not particularly attached to at this moment.

  • rant: people that park / stand their car in the bike lane – especially when there’s an open spot along the curb RIGHT NEXT TO YOU.
    sorrynotsorry about the loogie on your window
    rant: also people that make a right on red across the bike lane, when there’s a red arrow that means “don’t turn now”. bonus point that I have to brake to avoid getting run over.

    • If the light is red, why are you going straight through in the bike lane — shouldn’t you be stopping too? (Or am I not visualizing this correctly — is it a green light for going straight, but a red arrow for no turning right?)
      Agreed that it’s annoying when drivers turn right on a red arrow. What do they think that red arrow is for?? If it were just “Stop before turning,’ there would be no need for an arrow; the red light would be sufficient.

  • Rave: New hot water heater. I hadn’t realized how bad our old one was until the new one was installed. It’s quite lovely.
    Rant: Medication side effects. It’s gonna be a long couple of weeks (or couple months if the latest attempt worked).
    Rant: The mother-in-law visit begins in less than 36 hours. House is generally ready… with the exception of the office/guest room where she will be staying. Need to get on that tonight.
    Rave: I’m officially on vacation for the next month. Wife begins her 3 week vacation tomorrow. We both decided that since it’s been 4 1/2 years since we’ve seen her mother, we should dedicate the time to her.

  • Pablo Raw

    Rave: 4th of July is coming, which means
    Rave: Foo Fighters – Heart – Buddy Guy – Etc. concert!

    Question: Any PoPvillians going? maybe PoPville unofficial meetup?

    • Jealous! I want to go so badly, but once I factored in all the costs (tickets, transportation, food and drinks throughout the whole day, a dog sitter for the day) and dealing with transportation on the way back and batting crowds leaving the mall…I decided against it. I’m very sad about that decision though I know it’s the best option for me and the mister 🙁

  • topscallop

    Rant: generally feeling grouchy about work. I feel overwhelmed and stressed and like I don’t have enough support or understanding of what I’m responsible for to do a good job, and it’s making me procrastinate, thereby setting myself up to not perform highly. I need to break this cycle! Maybe not reading RRRR at work would help, haha.
    Rant: two meh dates last weekend. The first one I just wasn’t attracted to, and the second didn’t ask me anything about myself, or when he did, it was just to set up his next point. Also I keep getting messages from people in other countries, which I find puzzling. What exactly do you think is going to happen, dude from Tunisia?
    Having trouble thinking of raves…at least I slept well last night? My air conditioning works, my health is good, and I’m seeing friends this weekend who can cheer me up. There are things to be grateful for!

    • I can so relate to your first rant. My bosses also tend to focus overly on the stuff they can see, not realizing how much “invisible work” happens behind the scenes to make those things possible. The slacking does not help my case, but it can be a tough cycle to break out of.

      • That One Guy

        Bosses like to eat cake, on demand, but never think that it has to be made. It magically appears when they stop their feet.

      • topscallop

        Thanks for relating! That helps 🙂 This morning I checked off some of the small things that have been clogging up my to-do list so I can feel like I accomplished something, even if the bigger things are still looming. I might take some time this weekend to Kondo method my apartment again – maybe feeling more in control in one area of my life will spill over into higher confidence levels elsewhere.

  • Rave: I woke up this morning feeling more resolute and like myself than I have in weeks. I don’t know what caused that mental shit, but I’ll take it.
    Rant: I’m so unmotivated to do any of the boring tasks that I need to complete this week at work.
    Rant: I’m the most impatient person I know.

  • Rave: I told my (catholic asian) mom last night I’m planning on moving in with my partner when my current lease is up in september and she DID NOT DISOWN ME like I imagined. She was actually very neutral which was the best possible outcome I was foreseeing. It could still be shock, I’m not sure, but I have a pretty close relationship with her despite our differences and it was very nerve wracking to consider how she would react.
    Rant: actually moving.

    • yay for her “good” reaction!

    • That’s good!. But don’t expect that she’ll actually ever accept it. My [another ethnicity] very catholic mother didn’t disown me when I came out to her, but she’s never actually accepted it, either.
      You may not be in that place forever, it’ll end if you marry this partner or another one; my mother will die never accepting my right to have love in my life, as she’s quite elderly now, and it has been a few decades with no change whatsoever. Religious dogma sucks.
      As does moving. Good luck!

  • Bear

    Rant: This weather! Was dripping after the 10 minute walk to the MARC train, then again in the 10 minute walk from the metro to my doctors office, then again on the way back. I am now in the office and feeling like I need another shower already!
    Rave: Good appointment with my endocrinologist today. After probably 2 years of my thyroid being really unstable I’m very close to normal range again. Plus he did bloodwork on other hormone levels, and everything checks out. I’m cleared to start trying to get pregnant as soon as my fiance are ready to start trying. Now I just have to make sure that doesn’t happen before the wedding, since I put a deposit down on a dress already.
    Rave: Finally getting started on a research project that has been stalled because of proposal and project commitments. Feels good to use the more analytical side of my brain and take a break from cat herding for a little while.

  • I Dont Get It

    Rave: My very thoughtful sister sent me two silhouettes (thank you spellcheck for finally figuring out what I was trying to say!) of us in oval maple frames our mother had made when we were little kids.
    Rant: My very thoughtful sister, bless her heart, sent me two silhouettes (thank you spellcheck for finally figuring out above I was trying to say!) of us in oval maple frames our mother had made when we were little kids. As design-challenged as I am, I hardly have a grandma’s house décor for silhouettes in oval maple frames. More stuff for the basement…
    Rant: My house smells of mothballs and dog pee and I blame Muriel Bowser.

  • Rave: USA women’s soccer!
    Rant: If it was USA men’s soccer, I’m thinking that the primetime games would be on network (not subscription) channels…
    Question: Any suggestions for a good place to watch the game on Friday with four teenage cousins? They’re visiting from out of town and all play soccer, so I’d like to go somewhere lively (for the “city” vibe) where we can also have dinner and have seats (but that doesn’t require IDs at the door). They’ll be sightseeing downtown in the afternoon and I live in Petworth, so pretty much anywhere in NW would be good!

    • I was at Simple on Georgia Ave in Brightwood last night and they had the game on. It’s a bar/restaurant but family friendly. Wilfredo and the crew are awesome and it definitely has a city vibe to it!

  • Rave: The kids are gone so now I can officially say I’ve survived my first year! I just need to clean out my classroom and it’s summer vacation!

  • EckingtonDoodle

    Rave: Still feeling relaxed from the wonderful weekend I had at Cape Cod last weekend.
    Rant: This week starts 10 hour workdays for the summer.
    Rave: This week starts Fridays off for the summer.

  • If anonnn is still around, you and textdoc are right, I have an LG combo washer/dryer. Sorry, I got confused.
    It was installed by the developer, so I don’t know anything about that process. Mine stacks under my hot water heater, which is on a wood platform that the developer built. My hot water heater is squat and fat, not tall and thin, so this works out pretty well.
    My water is covered in my condo fees, so I’ve never seen a bill. My understanding is that they are extremely water efficient. A lot of people talk about how little detergent they use because of the efficiency. I don’t think it costs much in electric either.
    LG has some good videos on their website last I checked. Pro-tip: you can wash without drying and dry without washing, just don’t touch the knob of the cycle you don’t want. If you leave it unselected, it skips it. Let me know if you have any other questions! I’ll try (sometimes unsuccessfully) to answer them.

  • Another late contribution today, but oh well.
    Rave: A good friend got married this weekend and the wedding was so, so nice. And so -them-.
    Rave: This friend has completely turned her life around since joining AA. I’ve known her since we were kids and never saw her as low as she was a few years ago. Once she joined AA about two years ago, she became the happy, funny person I remembered. And now she has this awesome new groups of girlfriends.
    Rave: The possibility of making a big new group of awesome girlfriends in your mid-30s.
    Rant: I’m not sure this is possible without AA!

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