Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • It’s the best day of the year! (Especially when you have red hair 🙂 )
    Rant: tomorrow’s hangover.

  • Becks

    Rave: I love working from home!
    Rant: I have to work at the office the rest of the week.
    Rave: Happy St. Patrick’s Day! Any advice on dinner with an Irish flare?
    Rant: Adult acne. I was blessed as a teenager and young adult with clear skin, free from blemishes. I have pimples!
    Question: What do you do to get rid of deep pimples?

    • epric002

      i have the same chronic rant- i’m sorry, it totally sucks. have you seen a dermatologist yet?

      • Becks

        I haven’t. It just started about two-three months ago. I thought it would clear up, but more just keep coming and in the same area. I bought some acne cream but that didn’t help.

        • Same here. Great skin as a teenager but I’m paying for it in my thirties. My derm said it’s really common – and this generation of 30 something women is getting it worse than ever before — he thinks it’s because we’re more stressed more often. Sigh. The only thing that seems to work for me is Retin A and tea tree oil. You need an Rx for Retin A, but you can get tea tree oil at Whole Foods. It’s kinda smelly so I just use it at night.

        • epric002

          if by deep you mean cystic, topical stuff might not cut it. it could also be hormonal. i’m a fan of dr. perkins at metro derm. good luck!

          • hooville

            Second Dr. Perkins at Metro Derm. I had the cursed late 20s onset of adult acne as a woman starting last year. Had a bullet proof skin care routine already in place and thought for sure if I just kept up it would go away, or it was stress from changing jobs, etc and it would subside — waited four months and nothing. Was tired of the full face heavy makeup to try and cover it up so I went to the derm. Dr. P hooked it up with some Aczone (topical AB), short course of oral AB (for while the topical kicks in) and Retin A generic and I was cleared up significantly in two weeks and was all gone in about six.

            A year on I haven’t had any outbreaks save one or two zits here and there (and I don’t even get my monthly cycle zit anymore like I have my whole life). He is a godsend. And has been professional and right on the mark with other minor stuff I’ve seen him about over the last year. Couldn’t recommend more.

          • Dr. Perkins is the BEST.

    • Same story here.
      ProActiv worked for quite a while.
      Clinique’s acne products (there’s a box of three things– a cleanser, a toner, and a moisturizer, I think) worked, but not as well, after the ProActiv lost its effectiveness.
      Then you’re into dermatologist territory, and experimenting with BCPs and other medication. It sucks. I’m sorry.

    • Shepherd’s pie! I made some last night for dinner with ground lamb and it was delicious.

    • Also, products with alpha hydroxy acids have been great for my adult acne prone skin.

      • Becks

        I use Clinique face soap and moisturizer. I will try the Tea tree oil. Thanks for the advice. I do think it could be related to stress and hormones.

        • Not sure if this is the case with your face soap and your particular situation, but I found that what I used to use — Neutrogena — was too drying, which meant that my skin was producing more oil to try to compensate. (This was the case even with the regular version of Neutrogena; the “for oily skin” version was even worse.)
          I stopped using soap and since then have washed my face with just warm water.

    • Allison is impressively knowledgeable about products for treating different kinds of acne — if she sees this conversation, perhaps she can recommend something.

    • My brother had bad, cystic acne, decided to cut out most dairy (for other reasons) and his skin cleared up. My mom did the same thing and her skin cleared as well.
      I recently started using one of those handheld scrubber things (like a Clarisonic, but cheaper). I do that in the shower, then use a few drops of argan oil to moisturize after. My skin has never been more clear. I figured out that the deep, painful ones were partly because the winter makes my skin so dry. Most topical acne treatments make the dryness and flakiness worse, which made the acne worse.

    • Based on some advice I got here, I started doing oil cleansing and it really worked. 1/4 castor oil, 3/4 safflower oil. I cleanse with that, then get in the shower and clean with a salycilic acid wash. Works wonders. I’ve also greatly reduced my dairy intake (only have a bit of cream in my coffee in the morning).

  • Quotia Zelda

    Rave: Almost warmish weather.
    Rant: It won’t last.
    Rant: People at work who don’t get back to me. A simple email or phone call saying yes or no is all I need.

  • epric002

    rave: this weather is awesome. last night i took the dogs on a long walk, flirt poled the puppy, and took myself on a 1.35 mile run! 😀
    rant: still cannot seem to drag my butt out of bed early enough in the morning.
    rant: dogs were hella annoying on their walk this morning. formerly foster puppy has apparently forgotten the rule that he has to sit when people pass by on the sidewalk. there were almost no acceptable spots for grouchy corgi to pee this morning. each possible location involved a 2-3 minute sniff test followed by an attempt from every conceivable angle, after which she rejected 95% of them and moved on to the next attempt. ARG!
    rave? i listed my wedding dress on tradesy over a year ago and had honestly forgotten about it until i got a purchase notification yesterday! has anyone ever sold anything on tradesy? what do i need to know?

    • Becks

      +1, Your second rant, while frustrating for you, is hilarious!

      • epric002

        omg, they are SO annoying on their morning walks. afternoons are usually a peach, and husband usually does the morning walk but he’s traveling for 2 weeks so it’s all me. if you passed a crazy lady telling her dog to “just effing piss on it already!” this morning that was me. ugh.

    • The sniff test is the worst! I wonder if formerly foster puppy gets just as frustrated having to wait for grouchy corgi.

      • epric002

        eh, he has the world’s shortest attention span, so is constantly getting distracted by any noise/movement nearby. he usually only gets frustrated with her if she is reactive towards another dog. then he barks at her, like “now i’ll never be able to meet that dog! thanks a lot!”.

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: weaponized pollen is coming.
    Rave: Thanks Hammers for telling me about the adorable baby white rhino video!

  • Rant: The suspension of Top Gear host Jeremy Clarkson and the subsequent decision not to air the final two episodes of the current season. Yes, Jeremy Clarkson is completely in the wrong (for punching a producer because there was no hot food at the end of day of filming), but why should we, the fans of the show, have to suffer?

    • I’m with you on this. I don’t see why they can’t aire the final two episodes without the buffoon host.

    • From what I’ve read, all the features and set pieces are filmed, but they generally do the studio shots and star interviews week-of. No JC, no episode. I’ll miss it, too, but they’re just as fun to watch from years ago on Netflix.

      • Why not just run studio shots without Clarson though? Surely May or Hammond could handle interviewing their “star”.

    • It’s amazing the guy is still on TV – he has a history of racist comments.

  • Rave: Agent thinks we will get 3 or 4 offers by our deadline
    Rant: Everyone is Irish today. No, no you’re not.
    Rave: Husband got in to another law program. He doesn’t want to go there, but ideally he would get a job where we want to move and go there at night. But I think that job ship has passed. Thanks, federal government.

    • Fingers crossed for your offers!

    • Congrats to your husband!

      • Yes, this too!

      • Thanks! He’s 2 for 2…waiting on the big ones, though.

        • That’s great! Luckily most of the big ones seem to be making decisions pretty quickly at this point in the cycle so I’m sure he will hear some more good news very soon.

        • Good for both H of JinDC and Alice!
          Question – what is your definition of “here” – because the latest US News rankings (whatever they’re worth, and it ain’t much) don’t put any DC law school in the top 10. Can’t imagine you’d consider Charlottesvillve to be “here,” either.

    • Good luck! We had 10 offers on our place the first week – it’s a nice position to be in. It’s helpful if your agent prepares a spreadsheet so you can see the important terms side-by-side, especially if you are asking for a rent-back, if the closing date is important to you, if you case about how the buyers are paying for the home.
      Rant – now we’re on the other side of the coin – sellers are considering offers today on a place. Multiple offers, escalation clauses, waiving inspections (we did a pre-inspection), one offer is by a flipper – aargh. We really like the place, and its potential, though it needs some work. And by “some,” I means a metric crap-ton of work. This is supposed to be the fun part of the process – it isn’t.

      • yeah she’s going to sort through them. We’re lucky – it’s vacant and all that. Our renters were great. I have to decide if a few thousands is more important than a quick closing

        • I honestly don’t understand how this is a question for most non-wealthy people. I can wait an extra month if it means I get $5K more without doing any additional work. There’s no other job on earth that will pay me that – aside from sitting on inherited assets that pay dividends.
          My mother sold our childhood home in a “hot” market last year. She received an all-cash offer that was $10K under the asking. She was going to take that until I intervened. A young couple offered $10K over the asking, but needed financing. So it was going to take an extra 4 to 6 weeks to close, but my mom would be $20K richer. There’s no way-in-hell my mom’s time is worth that much. She took the young couple’s offer based on my reasoning and everything went well. It’s a seller’s market, lending standards are already tough, and buyers are pre-approved – you have every incentive to wait and take the higher price.

          • Well, I still have to pay mortgage and condo fees. Which is not easy with no rent coming in. So there’s that. $3k isn’t worth waiting. $10k definitely is. but that’s after taxes and fees, which aren’t insignificant

          • It depends on a variety of factors. If you carrying costs are $4500/month, it’s not worth it. Similarly, if you need to close quickly in order to make competitive offers on a new place, it may not be worth the extra money to wait.
            Assuming your situation applies to everyone is almost never a good idea.

        • I agree with Anonymous above. When we sold our condo in the area, we received 4 offers. We ended up choosing the higher but financed offer over the all-cash that was only at asking, and everything worked out well. Although, technically we actually chose the second highest financed offer because the personal letter on the chosen offer was kind of endearing. It wasn’t a huge difference monetary difference, but it just made us happier to go with the more interesting local. So it doesn’t always come down to finances 🙂

          • We also took the second-highest offer. The higher offer came from a couple who made a big deal about stuff they said needed to be fixed; basically criticized the house left and right. The (slightly) lower offer was from a sweet lady who fussed over our cat and complimented our art collection. Gushed, really. We’ve never regretted selling our first home to someone nice, and giving the crabby couple the finger.

    • Andie302

      Congrats on the offers!

  • Rave: Good music out in 2015.
    Rave: My resume fubar didn’t hinder me. Waiting on conflicts.
    Rave: Being out of the gym for over a month, but I got compliments on my improvements on the 2nd day back.
    Rave: Proactive roomie asking if we need anything while she’s already out. First time it’s ever happened.
    Rave: No rants worth mentioning.

  • Rave: Spring weather makes me so happy.
    Rant: Wanderlust without appropriate funds.
    Rant: Steam radiator won’t stop clanging. I live on the top floor of a co-op building so I never have it on, and it’s as shut as I can get it, but it won’t stop making noise. Any suggestions? This is my first time with steam heat. I believe it is a single pipe system (from my googling).
    Revel: I actually dreamed last night that I had a bunch of raves/rants/revels, but of course now I can’t remember what any of them were.

    • Air in the pipes might be a cause of the noise – I”m not sure how this would work in a multi unit building but you could try bleeding your radiators. If you don’t have a radiator key, try Annie’s or the Ace in Dupont Circle. Wikihow has easy instructions on how to do this.

  • Did anyone see what happened at the S Street dog park this morning or maybe last night? There’s blood splattered all over the sidewalk near the gate. Kind of a lot of blood. I’m no Dexter, but I’d guess it happened in the last 12 hours.
    Must be a dog fight, right? If the cops were involved (if people were involved) they would have cleaned it up a bit?

  • Rant: Had some heavy stuff to transport so I drove to work yesterday for the first time in a long time. I honestly forgot how awful the experience is, especially in the afternoon. Beyond the traffic, the number of full-on combat-aggressive drivers was astounding. The vast majority had DC plates, too.
    Rave: Between how little I use it and street-cleaning shuffle, resolved to sell that car off in the next few months.
    Rave: Very nice e-mail this morning from the boss’ boss’ boss complementing a piece I wrote, great way to start the morning.
    Rave: Finally committed to taking vacation in May! A pile of use or lose leave is a dumb but effective motivator.

    • I hear you on your first rant. I’ve been noticed a lot of a-hole drivers recently have DC plates.

      • First rant is one of the many reasons I want a new job. I want to work in the city again because driving in and out of the city every day is just so stressful and annoying 80% of the time. Not to mention I also want to go carless.

  • Rave: Only woke up twice last night, and fell asleep again easily both times. Yay! Much more well rested.
    Rave? I hope? next u/s in an hour and a half. A little nervous, but trying to remember the odds are likely in my favor.
    Rave: If nothing else, I’ve got a super awesome daughter who is an absolute delight 90% of the time. Her favorite request on our commute home is “more tickle”, which of course leads to an absolutely infectious giggle. And she’s so sharp, pointing out things she sees along the way. Just so so so much fun.
    Rave: Starting to feel a bit more like myself–maybe successive colds are finally subsiding? Maybe I can start getting up for morning yoga or running soon???
    Rant: Now my wife is sick. Poor thing is coughing up a storm. A little painful to listen to, since I know that’s how I sounded for weeks. 🙁

    • Took me a second to figure out that “u/s” was “ultrasound” — at first, I was thinking “Understudy??” 😉

      • Ha–oops! Too much texting with my midwife friend & reading random DCUM crap. You’re right, though: u/s = ultrasound 🙂

    • Everything looks great! Could see tiny little leg buds that look like flippers, and a nice, strong HR of 181bpm. 🙂

      • So glad to hear this! Congrats on the wonderful news 🙂

      • Emmaleigh504

        Do you know if it’s a boy or a girl? Will you share that information with the rest of us?

      • Thanks AliceInDC!
        Lol, Emilie, way too early to know that. I’m in the vicinity of 9 weeks along. Pretty sure that we’ll opt to be surprised at the delivery again. It was nice to do that the first time around. So there likely won’t be news to share on boy v. girl until sometime in October 🙂

        • Emmaleigh504

          Hmm I must be mixing you up with someone. Surprises are fun. Have a happy and uneventful pregnancy!

  • Rave: My sweet dog, husband, and family
    Rant: Having to move. Looking at buying. Anyone familiar with Huntington neighborhood?
    Question for the popville: Where is the best place to live in the DMV where I can have an honest to goodness backyard without breaking the bank?

  • Rant: My cat is becoming senile. He has started waking me up in the middle of the night, repeatedly, just for love. He does this thing where he uses his face like a shovel, under my arm, or under my neck, and makes grunting noises while he shoves. So I pet him and try to get him back to sleep, but it’s never enough, and then he starts shoving at me again. Oh, and he drools when he’s happy. So post-petting, he shakes his head to re-order his mussed fur, and drool flies everywhere. This is not how I want to spend my 4am.

  • skj84

    Rave: went dancing last night at Roofers Union. I had a blast, though I really need to start taking lessons again. My feet don’t want to move that fast!

    Rant: Sore this morning. Oh my aching muscles.

    • Ooo, what kind of music did they play? I’m always looking for new dance spots.

      • It’s a dance night started by swing dancers, they play both swing and blues music every Monday. The beginner lesson before the dance alternates between the two styles weekly. There’s a public FB group under Roofers’ Ramble, though I have a sneaking suspicion this is not the type of dancing you’re looking for.

        • I love all kinds of dance! Have done salsa, tango and zumba classes and have always wanted to try swing. An old bf and I went on a double date with another couple to the swing night at Glen Echo Ballroom years ago and everyone was so welcoming, even to us clearly inexperienced college freshmen!

          • skj84

            Jam Cellar at Josephine Butler has classes and a weekly dance every Tuesday. And Roofers Union has lessons at 8:30 every Monday.

    • I keep missing it. I know Bumper Jacksons were playing, was it a good mix between lindy and blues? My long term bet is that is skews blues, but as long as there’s a good mix now I’ll try to make it some time soon.
      Was is crowded?

      • skj84

        The Bumper Jacksons were playing. Last night was as actually more lindy heavy. There were a few blues songs in the mix. I’m better at blues than I am a Lindy, so I wish there was more of a mix, but I still have fun. I may stop by again next week.

        • I missed a lindy heavy night 🙁
          I like to get my blues dance on sometimes, but I just don’t enjoy it as much. Not that I should complain, there are plenty of lindy only weekly dances.
          I can’t go next week, but hopefully I’ll see you there the week after.

  • Rant: Pivot tables
    Rave: Girl Scout Cookies!
    Rave: Started us on a cash only budget this weekend (due to the husband finally accepting that his under-employment has reached long-term status and we need to act like it, combined with an unexpected $1800 car repair bill) and it’s going really well so far. Yes, we’re only a few days in, but I was able to get everything we needed at the grocery store for $125 and we have our spreadsheet filled out with an action plan for each bill/debt. I am determined that we will be (somewhat) stable before this baby is born in July.
    Rave/Rant: Gender ultrasound is Friday. I’m excited, but impatient! Come on Friday!

  • Rant: DC Craft Beer Festival was supposed to be this Saturday at the convention center. They sent an email last night announcing that due to overwhelming demand, the event is being moved to MAY 9. This stinks to high heaven. The demand for the event is so much that they have to put it off for nearly two months? Really hoping PoPville will look into this, because it’s completely shady.

  • Rant: went to a show last night. the guy who recently faded on me was there. I caught him looking at me and when I turned to glimpse at him, he quickly walked away. okay, are you ashamed of what you did?
    Rave: hungout with my new guy friend last night at the show and met his friends. those guys are cool. I want to be friends with all of them.
    Rant: can’t stop thinking about guy who faded on me. the heart wants what it clearly cannot have.

    • Anonynon

      what genre of music are all these shows you go to? I assume EDM because i know that has a very tight knit following?

      • We have similar taste in music when it comes to punk and general indie rock. I would never go to an EDM show. He would though.

    • skj84

      Feel you on your last rant. Yesterday I hung out with the guy who I was super into. We had a thing going, then last year he slow faded me. Out of the blue this past week he starts messaging me again. I know no good could come of this but I’m still really into him. I had my guard up the whole time we were together. He didn’t make any moves, so I don’t know what’s going on there.

      • skj84: he messaged you after that long. did he apologize for fading out or did he just pick up where you left? that is interesting.

        • skj84

          Picked up where he left off.

        • skj84

          We met doing a show and he is in my friend circle that way. So it wasn’t a complete fade out. But this renewed interest is confusing.

          • That’s interesting that you’re in the same friend circle. I guess you were bound to spend time together eventually. As long as you feel comfortable, this might be a sign of good things.

          • Just to echo what Anonymous 11:45 am said below: you say you were super into him, but that your guard was up the whole time. This might have been very confusing to him – believe it or not, guys do pick up on stuff like this. Sounds like maybe both of you are keeping each other at arm’s length but still somewhat interested.

      • “I had my guard up the whole time we were together. He didn’t make any moves, so I don’t know what’s going on there.”
        Perhaps this explains why he didn’t make any moves? Maybe he wants to take it slow to see if you’re on the same page here.

        • skj84

          Yeah. I know I probably was not helpful in the situation. I feel like if he’s interested he needs to be the one to amend the situation. And I let my nerves get the best of me. It’s like in my heart I want to be with him, but my head knows it’s not a good idea.

  • Mug of Glop

    Rave: No running to talk about!
    Rant: Three meetings today (two left to go) after an epic losing battle with a science machine yesterday. Haven’t even had a chance to make my coffee yet. (Remind me to pick up more coffee on my drive home.)
    Rave: Big salad for lunch. With Boston lettuce instead of romaine. I like me some Boston lettuce.
    Rave: Small SPD party this evening, followed by the steak dinner I owe myself for finishing the stupid marathon. Can’t decide if I’ll make it plain or topped with blue cheese and sauteed mushrooms. I guess it’ll be a game-time decision this evening. OM NOM NOM!

    • Emmaleigh504

      Ew Boston lettuce is gross. (yes I have lettuce opinions)
      I say go for the blue cheese and mushrooms, you earned it!

      • There are some salads where boston lettuce is great! And great on burgers!

      • Mug of Glop

        Boston lettuce is great! It’s got just the right texture for salads, and the leaves are big, so you don’t have to futz around with prying the spines out of the romaine leaves to put them on sandwiches. And they’ve got a pretty good flavor, whereas romaine and green/purple leaf is too bitter and iceberg is too inert. I also am neurotic about lettuce, as my friend in the next cube in the student offices from grad school will attest to over a defeated sigh.

    • Some day I want to meet you and hear more about your science machine. I’m away from the machines and bench for that matter, but there aren’t enough scientists around, IMO. Good luck!

      • Mug of Glop

        Yeah, I have to try to make it out to one of the happy hours at some point. I’ve been pretty lazy about it thus far.

  • Andie302

    Rave: After 10 or so days of congestion, I decided to give the neti pot a try. It was great!
    Rant: I thought I had it figured out, and then “water” started running down my chin and onto my shirt. At least I was standing in the shower.
    Rant: I’m still coughing, now it’s just much dryer.
    Rave: Ding dong the wicked brick wall is dead! Two layers of brick over three stories has been demolished. Anyone want free bricks?
    Rave: It turns out that when they rebuild the back wall, the interior will increase by 6″. This is about 16SF…which is much needed, especially in the upstairs rear bedroom.
    Rave: Heading to Mississippi tomorrow night…I can’t wait!

  • Rave: my two, darling children
    Rant: the absolutely forsaken state of my relationship with my wife. I know that if you do it right, kids SHOULD use up all of your time, energy and attention, but I so wish there were a way for us to give them everything they need and still have something left over for each other….

    • I totally disagree that children should suck you dry. They should learn that they are part of a unit that has many moving parts, and the relationship between their parents is also important. When they’re tiny infants, maybe not, but that stage only lasts a few months. After that their bedtimes should be early enough to allow for adults to be adults for a couple of hours each evening (the laundry will wait), babysitters are a good way of making sure they interact with many different people, etc. Honestly, I can think of nothing WORSE for children than seeing their parents operate as two independent people sharing the same house. I know that seeing the love and affection my own parents shared when I was little was important for my own relationships later in life.

      • Emmaleigh504

        I agree. Parents with a good relationship (romantic or not) is important for the kids. It shows them how to be good grownups in relationships.

        • Emmaleigh504

          And let me add the relationships change etc, it doesn’t have to be a perfect grownup relationship, and rough patches are to be expected. But a good working relationship between parents is possible while giving kids all the love they need.

      • I found this response quite smug. You’re confusing should and does. Some days, any part of your life can suck the other parts dry, but parenthood is particularly demanding. I’m sure you failed to notice your parents making all kinds of sacrifices for you, just like we all failed to appreciate those sacrifices until we assume the mantle of parenthood. And, no, sometimes, the laundry can’t in fact wait; that’s why I was up late washing green dresses last night for St. Patrick’s Day. The point is for parents to get back in balance whenever and however they can.

        • I didn’t think it was smug, and it didn’t confuse should and does. Arggg said his children SHOULD use up all of his and his wife’s time and energy; Anonther disagreed, and so do I. I’m firmly in the camp that parents should spend time and energy on each other, without kids; I’m also of the opinion that individual parents are entitled to alone time (if it’s feasible, and it usually is). It makes you a better and more productive person, parent and spouse.

      • I strongly believe that the parents’ relationship should come first. Before everything – kids, jobs, schooling, etc. Without a healthy, strong relationship everything else will collapse around it.
        Of my wider friend circle, the marriages/families I admire the most explicitly take this approach. Parents are strict about having date night every week, parents have a bit of personal time every night, etc. It forced the kids to understand there are boundaries. And when you’re secure and happy in your marriage, your life shines in all sorts of other ways.
        Looking back at my own family – where the focus was always “put the kids first” and “make money for the family, thus I must over-work” – I see that these other approaches are doomed to fail (3 generations of divorce – yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay).

        • I Dont Get It

          Of course our parents loved us but we always knew that they had a relationship together that we were not part of. I think this expains my sisters 40 year successful marriage while raising two great kids.

      • I agree with you. Children should not “suck you dry”. Even my friends with special medical needs and autistic children never refer to their children as “sucking them dry”. I am a single mom. I make sacrifices every single day. But that doesn’t “suck me dry”. What I can say, is that in my own personal experience, I felt at the end of my rope a lot because my ex-husband was not a supportive co-parent and partner. The OP’s original comment could have just as easily come from my ex about me before we divorced. He always blamed the kids for the ails of our marriage. But it wasn’t the kids. It was us. To the OP – please, talk to your wife, seek counseling, fix your problems, or get out while you can still effectively co-parent. Don’t put each other or most importantly your kids through this.

    • Flip side – I 100% agree with you. Between work, housework, caring for children…it’s incredibly difficult to find time or energy to invest in your marriage. As the mom, at the end of the day, I’m often “touched out”. I’m also one to prefer silence and relaxing the energy of a “date night”. I guess I try to remind myself that this stage of our lives isn’t permanent. I try to make sure I know my husband knows I appreciate him, and even though he’s a goof….I try to thank him for his efforts and let go a little myself. Perhaps have a “come to jesus” with your spouse about what you’re feeling? Whether you feel like you’re missing out on attention or are unable to do the giving at this point. Good luck!

  • Rave: For the first time in about 18 months, I woke up for four straight days without a hangover.
    Disappointed Rant: I have a hangover today. :-(

    • Are you the person who’s posted before about your drinking problem? Please try not to beat yourself up — focus instead on your four-day-in-a-row no-hangover success.
      Have you sought help (like AA)?

      • Thanks for you kind words. Yes, I’m trying to remind myself how I feel like crap today versus feeling great the last three days (the first day I didn’t feel so hot.) I’ve been in rehab and it’s nothing like on TV. Instead of a fun roommate like Lindsay Lohan I had an accountant from the State Department. I’ve tried AA and it doesn’t really work for me. In fact the last time I went I hooked up with someone I met there—it’s called the 13th step LOL.
        One day at a time…I’ll provide an update tomorrow.

        • have you tried antabuse? the side effects suck if you drink, but maybe you will be too scared to drink and as a result will stay sober. also, campral works for cravings.

        • Have you looked into any of the AA alternatives like SMART? That might be a better fit for you. Please keep trying! I don’t know you, but I am wishing you well.

  • Anonynon

    Rant: Girl I asked out for wednesday asked if we could play it by ear, she might have to work late. To me i take that as a big fat no, but better than no response obviously. Still glad I gave it a shot!
    Rave: Being that single guy in my friend group isn’t that bad really. Forever the 5th and 6th wheel
    Rave: Cant wait for march madness to start

    • Emmaleigh504

      Maybe she will surprise you and say she doesn’t have to work late. #optimist

      • Or you could suggest a different evening when she doesn’t foresee any possible work-related conflicts? (Although it would have been better if she’d been the one to suggest it.)

    • special_k

      I wouldn’t read too much into her needing to play it by ear. See what happens and if it turns out she can’t go out on Wed., I would send her text to the effect of okay, let me know if you want to get together another time. That way you’ve expressed interest in seeing her again (more than once) and you’re making it clear ball is in her court. Good luck to you!

    • Ask if another night works better since you like to have solid plans. If another night doesn’t work better, let it go.

    • I Dont Get It

      Wait are you FBB?

  • Rant: Ron Machen
    Rave: St.Patrick’s Day party tonight!
    Rave: husband making delicious dessert for party.

  • Rave: Have really been enjoying learning new piano music. In the past year and a half, I’ve been getting back to speed after being on a 3-year hiatus for grad school. Just ordered Chopin’s Etudes and Waltzes- most of which are beyond me, but looking forward to a challenge. Also, trying out Scriabin- a Russian composer. Lots of stuff out there- not enough time.
    Rant: Apparently the guy in an apartment on the floor above mine must have been really loud last night. It wasn’t affecting me that much because I had my white noise machine on, but I heard several loud tappings signaling disapproval from other neighbors. This is the guy who has a penchant for yelling, “Ohio!” or “Ohio wins!” He really needs to learn how to be a more considerate neighbor!

    • I Dont Get It

      I think the Ohio thing explains it all 😉

      • Yeah, that and being a total meathead- haha!

        • I’d bet he’s playing a video game and yelling at the other players (on Xbox the mic is across the room if they don’t use a headset), hopefully one knock on his door or even passive aggressive note would end it? Source: I play FIFA and you wouldn’t believe the stuff people say.

      • Accountering

        Sounds like a quality bro. Carry on, nothing to see here.

  • Rave: My favorite radio station is playing all Irish musicians in honor of St. Paddy’s Day. Awesome start to my work day.
    Rave: This weather!
    Rave: I’m very much looking forward to a Guinness with my dinner tonight.
    Rave: No rants today.

  • Blithe

    Revel!: Spring!!!!!
    Rant: Allergies.
    Rave: The miracles of Allegra and Claritin.
    Rave: My PoPville Shopping Enabling Team!!!! Yay Team!
    Rant: Congress: I woke up in the middle of the night and mumbled: “Tom Cotton and the rest of his crew in Congress are a cesspool of iniquity.” I think I need to pay less attention to the news and more attention to things like sandals and frocks.
    Rave: Matzo brei !!!

    • Hahaha, I love your rant.
      Tom Cotton just reminds me now of that anon who said he/another Republican Senator was her ex. Makes me so curious!

      • Emmaleigh504

        +1 I want to know more!

      • I know!!! This is what I think every time I see his name pop up

      • Blithe

        What?!!!! Oh my! #teamwanttoknowmore

      • That was me! (And I appreciated the support and condolences I received on my previous rant.) This probably wouldn’t surprise anyone, but I’d say his most notable quality might be his absolutely massive ego.

        • Hahaha no, I can’t say that would be too surprising!

        • Emmaleigh504

          I want dirty deets, like was he a good kisser? Did he have clammy hands (he looks like he would)? How did he treat the watrons at restaurants? 🙂

        • Blithe

          Lol, nope, I’m not stunned. And I’d like to add my applause and admiration for your considerable survival skills and good humor – – re: our comments and curiosity.

          • (Same person here as before; I just gave myself a less anonymous name.)

            Thanks so much, Blithe!

            I’ve never seen him be a jerk to waiters or the like, and I don’t think it’s his style, to his credit. I remember thinking that he was a good kisser, but you do have to question my judgment at the time.

          • Emmaleigh504

            grr my response went above. Thanks for satisfying my curiosity!

    • #TeamSandalsAndFrocks!

  • Rave: Antidepressants. They’ve finally started kicking in, side effects have mostly subsided, and I’m feeling like a normal person again. No longer on the verge of crying all the time, and I’m feeling strong and have energy. Woohoo!
    Rant: Wishing that I didn’t need them.
    Rave: May go out and do something for St. Patrick’s Day, as a stressed out coworker said she needs a drink. We’ll probably just avoid Irish places and hopefully other bars won’t be quite as crazy.

    • It’s going to be a shitshow pretty much everywhere. Pick something really offbeat and you might be ok.

    • Emmaleigh504

      Hurray on your first rave! And on to your rant, don’t beat yourself up for having to take medicine. Do you beat yourself up for taking advil when you have a headache? or medicine for asthma? no! You take them to stay healthy. Here’s to your health!

      • That is very true – thank you for putting it like that, Emilie! I had just kept hoping that I wouldn’t need it (and for a year I was doing so well, was happy and didn’t need them at all – although looking back on it they probably would’ve helped, I was still a bit more insecure than I should’ve been). But it does make for a much better quality of life, so it’s worth it.

        • Meds are helping now – that’s what is important, It isn’t uncommon for people to benefit from medication at different stages in their life – perhaps in a few years you’ll be fine without them.
          And as Emilie said – here’s to your health, both physical and mental!

        • Pablo Raw

          Also I’m gonna say that attending the unofficial PoPville karaoke is helping you; karaoke is an ancient Japanese tradition that is known for helping humans achieve happiness. 🙂

      • +1000. I feel this way about taking meds and about seeing a therapist.

      • What a great way to put it, Emilie!

    • Hooray for your first rave! Hang in there. Don’t be too hard on yourself for taking medication. It’s all apart of taking care of yourself.

    • skj84

      Jack Rose is doing a party tonight that sounds fun. Drink specials on the roof. Of course that may also be a shitshow, but slightly classier?

    • Now that the meds are kicking in – you are thinking of mixing those with alcohol?

      • I will probably be sticking to soft drinks, but it’s not like I’m not going to go to bars. She said she needed a drink.

  • Rave: Looking forward to Admitted Students Day this week at the current front runner. One step closer to a law school decision.
    Rave: I have a ridiculous pro/con list for this decision.
    Rave: Dog is slowly but surely becoming less shy. He has started going up to people in our building who ask to say hi to him (instead of backing up and hiding behind me)– big improvement. He definitely prefers men but is coming around to women.
    Rave: Wearing a spring dress today. Hello shins, long time no see!
    Rant: Forgot to wear green.

  • I Dont Get It

    Rant: Senior citizen dogs! Lizzie has been waking up around 3:00 am, becomes agitated and paces around the bed and then dives under it bumping the mattress all the way and then races out to the hall way and then comes back in. Repeat process over and over. Lucy meanwhile who sleeps in the bed with me is developing a really bad snoring problem. The cat who is not senior, has decided that 4:00 am is the best time for morning ablutions and loudly uses the litterbox in the master bath. He digs in the litter for what seems like 15 minutes and then jumps in bed and tries to climb on me and I’m all “Uh, no, I know here those feet just were!
    Rant: Found rat feces in the container I use to hold the dog food. Cat get out of the damn litter box and do your job!
    Rave: Can’t wait for Empire season finale!
    Rant: The last time I drank green beer was in college. The next day was the first day of Spring Break and I remember being really hung over in someone’s car for the 3 hour trip from Bloomington. As I exited the car when I got home my mother came out to greet me and as she was about to hug me I leaned over and threw up. Good times! Anyway I just wanted to post this as a reminder to those celebrating St Paddy’s Day to do it in moderation.

  • skj84

    Question: I heard back from a company I applied for and they want me to send two pictures for consideration. It’s an event assistant gig for a conference. I think this is super sketch. The reason was so they can see if I have a “professional” appearance but I feel could be used in a discriminatory manor.

    • Yeah, sketch- don’t do it. If they want to get a feel for whether you are appropriate for the job or should be “the face” for their org, it’s called doing an interview. I thought photos were illegal, anyway. At least in the fed gov, if you submit a photo, I think your application can be disqualified.

    • I Dont Get It

      Don’t do it. That is just creepy!

    • Is the company/ hiring staff European? Because it’s the norm to include a photo in most parts of Europe. (And in former colonies.)
      But in either case, was the request in any way ignorable? Like one of six other things they were asking for? Maybe someone screwed up (boss made a joke, assistant misunderstood and put it in writing) and you should give them a chance to realize it and put it behind them?
      Finally: cree-py. Don’t do it.

    • You don’t want to work for a company like this. Assessing professional demeanor is the reason we have interviews.

    • Do you have a professional appearance and are worried they have ulterior motives or are worried you don’t have what they are looking for? Are they not going to meet you at some point for an interview and make the same judgement on professional appearance?

      • skj84

        I am concerned about ulterior motives. Like I run the risk of being disqualified before I even land an interview based on looks? If this were an acting or modeling gig I wouldn’t care. But it isn’t and the suggestion rubbed me the wrong way. Especially since it wasn’t in the original job description. Weirdly enough I have seen a few event planner job listings that ask for a picture along with resume.

        • I can definitely understand the concern. I’d think though if it’s industry standard it’s more because they want to ensure a conservative appearance regarding piercings/tattoos/hair for a person in a client serving role especially in DC vs other major metros ala LA or NY?
          As a consultant I’ve had banks ask for my headshot on RFPs and while I thought it was odd, it was just their culture.

          • Blithe

            I concur with skj84’s concerns. As an African American with a cv that doesn’t clearly hint at this, I’ve often been concerned about providing information that might get my application dumped in file 13 — before I’ve had the chance to interview and establish personal connections. Because sometimes efforts to find candidates who might be a “good fit” for their culture aren’t focused on details like piercings and tattoos.

        • skj84

          Blithe hit the nail on the head. That was my biggest concern. My name also does not ping “African American” and yet I have a feeling I may not get past the next round with my pics. While my casual look is eclectic, I have no issue going full DC for interviews. So this request rubbed me the wrong way.

    • Ally

      That is just really bizarre. I wonder if there would be a tactful way to cite privacy concerns and ask how the photos will be used, if they’ll be returned, etc.? I’d make darn sure it’s a reputable place, first, though. Odd request. Good luck all the same, though!

  • Rave: Went to the gym yesterday for the first time in a looooong time
    Rave: Calories burned at the gym re-balanced with Pete’s Apizza – delicious and half price on Mondays for the rest of the month
    Rave: Pizza for breakfast
    Rant: The scale is quick to recognize the pizza consumption 🙁

  • Gas leak on 17th and M!! Yikes!

  • Question: Is it too late to get some Hopslam? Know of any store that has it in stock? Thanks in advance!

  • Sad: Found a house I loved, but realized that I have too much uncertainty at work for the next 6 months to buy right now.

    rant: Upstairs neighbors are loud. Actually, I don’t think they’re particularly loud, I just think my soundproofing stinks. I’ve talked to them and they’re getting newer, bigger rugs. Anybody know how to increase soundproofing in a condo?

  • Rave: Following LA’s lead, I am taking a (maybe permanent) break from online dating and worrying about relationships. My roommate is in a new relationship which rubs salt in the wound (even though I’m very happy for him) but besides that, this definitely is a great decision.
    Rave: Declared this week Treat Yo Self week. Yoga, a haircut, and a massage.
    Rant: This Treat Yo Self week is necessitated by work stress, friend drama, relationship woes. Also Tom Haverford and Donna Meagle aren’t here to do Treat Yo Self with me 🙁
    Rave: Despite the above rant, super happy with life and the way things are going.

    • Anonynon

      I don’t know if going cold turkey for online dating solves the problem. Having mostly done online dating the past two years, although I did randomly re-connect with someone from the ‘real world’ (aka not online dating website) I would say that relationship was even more confusing than any of the online ones. At least with online dating things seem straight forward, if you don’t hear from them its over. In the real world this girl contacted me, asked me out, kissed me on the first date, then said she wasn’t over her ex, then kept snap chatting me, then eventually asked me out again (no kiss after that date) and haven’t heard from her since early january. The problem is sketchy flakey people not necessarily the way in which you meet them. I wish there was a dating site for people actually interested in dating and not making a game of it, le sigh

      • I agree, while it doesn’t solve all dating issue it definitely cuts down on them. I just date more when I’m doing online dating, so there’s more to worry about. I totally agree with you about a site for people who are actually interested; maybe we could also include those who are over their previous ex’s, aren’t planning on leaving DC the second you get into a relationship, and who understand that snapchat isn’t a real form of communication. But that’s just not the real world!

        • I find that not worrying about dates anymore has freed me up to go out and have a social life with new friends. I”ve met a lot of new people and made new friends as a result of putting myself out there in the real world. I hear that a lot more people meet their SOs through mutual friends, so I hope that’s true.

          • +1 this exactly (plus also more time for me- gym, cooking, whatever). Still working on finding places/groups/activities to meet people through.

          • Anonynon

            I agree…i actually ended up meeting the person in real life right after i had said i was done doing online dating (but that was just a coincidence i realize now haha). I think maybe limited to 1 app would be good (no need to have every single one, its just overwhelming). Everyone is very passive on those apps too…for example iv been matched up with probably 30 girls this year, however i can’t think of a single one who took the initiative to text me first. I have reached out to a few gone on a few dates here and there…but nothing is sticking. Might be time to shut down as well and head to the PoPville HH 🙂

    • Ally

      I could see a break being a good idea. In my case, before I met my husband, I took an entire year off from (serious) dating. My Dad had just died and I’d just gotten out of an abusive relationship, so I didn’t think I was in any place mentally to be a good partner. That year off did me a world of good, I had a lot of fun, and my head was in a much better place. My now-husband held my hand about a week after my year-old “sabbatical” was over and the rest is history. I think if I’d started dating him right after all the mess, it would probably still have worked out, but would have been a lot rockier.

      • Ally

        To clarify, though, I’m not advocating a permanent break. If you’d like to settle down or have a significant other at some point, that’s most certainly not going to help. Hope all works out well, though, whatever route you take!

  • Rave: I had a good chat with my dad for his birthday this morning even though he’s not usually much of a chatter.
    Rave: went out to get coffee just because it’s so gorgeous out.
    Rant: I got suckered into judging a contest last night and it was way more work than I was told and it took over three hours. There were cookies, but they ran out and I didn’t get any.
    Rave: breaking out the unlined pencil skirts because it’s no tights weather!

    • Emmaleigh504

      Great idea! I think I’ll got get coffee b/c it’s nice out (and favorite aunt gave me a generous starbucks gift card for xams). Have to soak up the nice weather before the cold front comes in later today.

  • Ally

    Rant/Rave/Mostly Rave: We were convinced we were having a little girl and even named her. Nope! It’s a boy! 🙂
    Rave: Ultrasound revealed that it’s a healthy boy
    Rant: A dry St. Patrick’s Day. I may need to resort to some green mocktails tonight.

  • justinbc

    Rave: My favorite day of the year, and it’s actually beautiful weather which makes it even better.
    Rant/Reminder: It’s Paddy, not Patty. Please get it right.
    Rant: I’ve got loads of green everything else, but I still haven’t been able to find any green shoes I like (I have one pair of boots that has some green tint, but under most lighting they look sort of grey). Maybe some year.

  • Rave: Still extra busy at work. Yes, that’s a rave.
    Rave: Starbucks has coconut milk now. And flat whites. And coconut milk flat whites. I’d take coffee at (any DC roaster) any day over Starbucks, but it’s nice to have a good Starbucks option on back-up.
    Rave: That amazing bird I saw on the way to work today.
    Rant: I’m still a grouchy jerk today.
    Also: Emilie, I want to have a game with you where we name all the things 🙂 I think we have a similar love of naming.

    • Blithe

      I’m looking for some good H names ( so far Haden and Harleigh are winning) and some good J names ( so far Jasper is in the lead). So if you have any suggestions I’d enjoy adding them to my lists. 🙂

    • Emmaleigh504

      yes please! Name all the things! My sister’s choices are usually boring (traditional), I need some variety!

      • I lean a bit toward boring and traditional, but prefer the traditional names that are a bit out of use. I definitely think we’ll overlap! 🙂 Blithe, thanks for volunteering to be our guinea pig! Are the H and J names for a little person/little people? A boy?

        • Emmaleigh504

          I like to come up with fun (silly) and normal names. I also like to make sure it goes with all the names the person/pet has (dishwasher don’t need last names). Then I come up with possible nicknames. I’m still sore with my one aunt for naming her kid Margaret and not going with Daisy as a nickname. She had reasons or something. #disapprove

        • Inanimate musical instruments — that I’ve anthropomorphized a bit. H would be more masculine, assertive, in-your-face-ish, J a bit more magical, nuanced character with more layers, more depth. Thank you both for your interest!

          • Emmaleigh504

            oohhh I’ll ponder and get back you!

          • Blithe, I like where you’re going with this! I’ll keep chewing on this, but off the cuff, I’m coming up with Hank, Hugo, Hunter and Harrison. And for J, I’m leaning toward girl names for some reason: Jasmine, Jessamine, Josephine, Jeslyn. Also: Judah and Josue. I don’t think I’d pick any of these for a little person but I like them as instrument names 🙂

          • Blithe

            Emilie, I’m actually liking Jordyn-Grace. Which would mean having to acknowledge the Duggars as my role models. Gulp. Wince.
            – Shawess, I’m really liking Jeslyn! I agree with you — a lot of names that I wouldn’t wish on a person can be foisted onto instruments. If I ever use an S name, Sebastian is in the lead.

  • Late-in-the-day rave: A purple crocus has bloomed in my front yard! Now for the other 49 crocuses (or whatever the number was) to come up.
    Rave: 71 F at the moment!
    Rant: I have rants, but I’m saying “La la la, not listening” to them.

  • Rave: job application is moving along.
    Rant: turns out a colleague of mine also applied for this job >:(
    Rave: I’m more qualified for the position 🙂

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