Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • rant: dark, disturbing dreams
    rant: two friend dates I had this week both bailed for reasons that are understandable and acceptable, but feels bad man.
    rave: saving money, I guess?
    rant: waiting for w-2 anxiety. I worked for 3 different companies in 2014, 2 I expect to get my w-2 with no problem, but the one place that was really disorganized and weird didn’t even reply to my address change request. I have mail forwarding set up when I moved, but I’m not really sure if its working (I haven’t gotten any forwarded mail, but that might be because I’m getting no mail.) Anxiety max!
    funny: I got my credit card year end report and oh my god I spend too much at TJ Maxx, I need help.

  • Rave: Thank you, PoP, for this blog. By the time I had my cereal, I already knew about a violent stabbing to a fellow biker that occurred on my route home. I was able to reroute my bike trip in the afternoon after work. This blog serves as a very useful tool for knowing what’s going on in your neighborhood- grateful for that.
    Update on that story: the cyclist who was stabbed near the Navy Yard provided an update in the posting. It turns out he was stabbed near 7th and L SE (not the 700 block of 7th) around 4:40 pm, right around the corner from the Blue Castle (where the Richard Wright Public Charter School is housed). This happened when the students were being let out for the day, and he believes it was indeed a student from that school. Everyone be safe out there.

    • I’ll never understand how young people can be so angry and full of hate to take it out of innocent bystanders. This happens all too often and makes me really sad for the victims AND our society when this is what young people feel is OK

  • epric002

    rave: mimi reiger power flow class last night.
    rant: so sore today.
    rant: people who schedule lunchtime meetings and do not provide lunch. a 12-3 meeting, to which i have to travel, and no lunch? eff you very much.
    hopeful rave: puppy goes to his socialization trial/first day of k-9 divine on monday! really hope everything goes well as this would be a great outlet for puppy energy/socialization.

    • I LOVE Mimi Rieger! And I can’t wait to take my pup to puppy preschool. Any chance you want to do a puppy playdate before then (or any time, really)? My vet says we should introduce our pup to other dogs at this point, but only those who are up-to-date with vaccinations and that are good with small dogs.

      • epric002

        oh i wish we could, but i think your guy might be too tiny (dachshund puppy, right?)/my guy might be too big and rambunctious. he certainly loves meeting little dogs on walks, but he’s kind of a bull in a china shop when he plays. but if you ever want to do a walk/hike with dogs in rock creek park, let me know!

        • Epric, would you be interested in a joint doggie walk in rock creek park? May likes other dogs but she’s not quite ready for the dog park yet. WHS suggested we start out going on walks with other dogs to help her socialize. We also just registered her for obience school, she starts next week 🙂

          • epric002

            definitely! i was thinking about trying to take him this weekend. where are you doing obedience school? (i’m sure WHS would love to see some photos of foster alums together too 🙂 )

        • Boo! A rock creek hike sounds awesome, but I’m not sure when we could do that safely….

          • epric002

            is he just too young to go on long walks/hikes yet?

          • We don’t have him on a leash yet. He seems to always want to be by the side of me or my husband anyway, but I don’t feel very confident about just letting him roam free yet. Once he’s been microchipped and we’ve had a chance to start leash training, I expect to do plenty of hikes.

          • epric002

            oh ok, that makes sense. i’ve really never done the itty bitty puppy stuff before so this is all news to me! let us know when you guys are ready. when the weather’s nice, we try to take the dogs for a walk/jog/hike in RCP every weekend.

    • Allison

      To those long lunch meetings, sometimes I try to grab a to go lunch on my way and apologize for having to eat in front of them. Or, if you want to make a point about not scheduling lunch meetings, bring stinky, loud food. ^_^

      • epric002

        i like your style! if i were the only one from my office going, i totally would. but my manager (whom i generally like and get along with) is also going and thinks that skipping meals is no big deal/a good way to lose weight. 1. it is a big freaking deal to me if you’d like me to be functional/civil; and 2. i am not trying to lose weight, and even if i were, that’s not how i’d go about it.

  • RAVE: a 1st date tonight – after a very long time – with a very lovely woman with a precedent for witty banter that veers a bit into risqué, which is soooooooooo nice.

    RANT: chemically-treated outdoor surfaces led to a very slippery office yesterday, and I was among the people who fell, in my case going down the stairs. I was worried about breaking my wrist or elbow while I was falling, but I ended up instead with two bruises, one of which is will soon be *very* impressive, so this is really more of a rave than a rant, but it did hurt, and I could feel blood from the contusions spreading through my tissues. Now we must file a report.

  • Revel: Cashion’s! Man, I haven’t been there in a while, but their drinks, service, and noshes are still great after the 15 years I’ve been going there. I don’t particularly like the setup of the new menu, but for apps and cocktails, it can’t be beat. (Note: the cocktails of the week are $5 during happy hour!)
    Rant: Bicyclists. You guys have it tough, I know. Cars either don’t notice you are are aggressively against you, and the physical dangers are real and serious. I respect and admire people who bike in this city. But folks, sometimes you DO have to stop at a stop sign or redlight. And sometimes it would be nice if you yielded to bus or car pulling out from the curb–like most vehicles do–rather than yelling at them or swerving dangerously into the street. And when you do stop at a light, could you try not to stop smack in the middle of the crosswalk? I know you’re watching cross traffic so you can run the light as soon as there’s an opening, but the crosswalk is for pedestrians, and it’s irritating to us. (Sorry. Bad commute this morning, in which I was nearly taken out by not one but two bikes flying through red lights and by a car since I had to walk out of the crosswalk go around a bike stopped smack dab in the middle of it.)

    • As a cyclist (who also happens to be a pedestrian and a driver), I agree with most of your rant except for this:
      “And sometimes it would be nice if you yielded to bus or car pulling out from the curb–like most vehicles do–rather than yelling at them or swerving dangerously into the street.”
      The car pulling away from the curb to enter traffic has to yield to all other traffic already in the roadway. I don’t know where you get this “like most vehicles do” idea from. As a driver I always wait until traffic has cleared, or someone gives me the go ahead to go in front of them. As a cyclist this type of behavior is really dangerous and when it does happen it’s so quick, that it gives cyclists very little time to react safely.
      I really hope you’re not out on the streets driving like this. I am, otherwise, not that cyclist you described.

      • I know that the vehicle pulling out has to yield. But sometimes–just SOMEtimes–it would be nice to see a bicyclist be the one who gives the go ahead for the curb vehicle to pull into traffic. I have never, ever seen a bike do that, but I see cars do it a lot. Maybe I just run across more polite drivers than you do.

        • I got into a heated argument with a driver about this while riding my bike — I didn’t yield (not legally required to at any rate), and he laid down on the horn so long that I stopped and after a bunch of swear words from both of us, I suggested that he try using his turn signal. He looked at me and said, “I never even considered that.” after that we made up, and he even wished me a happy mother’s day. I can probably count on one hand the number of times drivers use their turn signals. So yeah, it would be nice if SOMEtimes drivers would use their turn signals to let us cyclists know they are trying to turn or pull out. Otherwise, am I supposed to read your mind???

          • Ha! That’s a great story. Yes, you’re totally right–none of this works if drivers, cyclists, and pedestrians don’t show even basic traffic courtesy. As the great Costanza once said, “You know, we’re living in a society here!”

    • “And when you do stop at a light, could you try not to stop smack in the middle of the crosswalk?”
      + a lot to this. This is really annoying and makes me less sympathetic to cyclists complaints of clueless drivers.

      • Emmaleigh504

        I like it when they yell at me for being in the crosswalk, you know, using it to cross the street when the light says I can. That’s the best. f*#@ asshole cyclists.

      • I know you shouldn’t HAVE to, but you can always politely say “excuse me.” Too often people would rather get angry and rant on the internet, than interact calmly in real life.

    • Emmaleigh504

      I love Cashion’s too. I need to go more often.

    • Agree with the pedestrian point of view. I have to be VERY careful crossing 14th near my house, because there’s frequently a line of cars stacked up at the next light. And as often as not, there is an invisible bike racing down the bike lane on the other side of the waiting cars. Peds have the right of way in a crosswalk, but I have almost never seen a cyclist give way, or even pause to make sure a ped isn’t about to pop out inside the crosswalk from between the stopped cars.

  • Rave: I can’t imagine having a more perfect puppy. I am completely obsessed with him. Photos coming soon!
    Rant: I’m not sure how I’m going to go back to work on Tuesday without feeling at least some separation anxiety. Whenever I leave the room where his crate is, I can hear him whine, whimper, and occasionally bark. I’ve been trying to ignore it, knowing that I can’t get into the habit of constantly being with him whenever he whines, but I worry about him “acting out” if I leave him alone for too long. I also would just prefer to be with him, playing and snuggling. In other words, I’m just as worried about my own separation anxiety as I am about his.

    • Aww…

    • epric002

      start working on him being in the crate by himself for short periods of time with something delicious/distracting, so you can slowly work up to however long he’s going to be by himself. did you guys find a dog walker?

      • epric002 and AliceInDC, I’m planning to come home every day at lunchtime until we can settle into a good rhythm and until he’s had the next round or two of shots (distemper and bordetella, specifically). After that, I’ll get a dog walker. I didn’t realize until recently just how many dog walkers there are in the neighborhood, so I think I should have a relatively easy time finding one when the time is right.

    • Aww. I really struggled with going back to work after I got my dog, even though he was over a year at the time. Have you considered having a dog walker stop by a couple of times a week? It gave me peace of mind to get a text from my walker letting me know all was okay.

    • So happy to hear that things are going well with the puppy! It is definitely tough going back to work. For my puppy, I had a dog walker and I would come home for lunch, so that way she was never in the crate for more than about 3 hours. It was definitely worth it while she was so little. Dachshund puppies have small bladders! There will be crying, but he’ll learn that you’ll always come back, and that he won’t be alone for too long. Also, I fed my pup her meals in a Kong while she was in her crate, so that kept her busy for at least part of the time I was gone. We also had LOTS of playtime before I left in the mornings to tire her out. Good luck!

      • epric002

        +1 for feeding with kongs/treat puzzles in the crate. keeps them occupied, fills up their tummies, and then they should sleep!

      • Thanks, anon dachshund owner — that’s a good idea to both come home and have a good walker. We have the pup housetraining indoors for now. (This was recommended by a trainer because it’s so cold outside that it’s hard for him to just be out there, let alone take time to pee.) So we’re less worried about the bladder and more about the social aspects and giving him enough time to burn energy. I’ve been playing with him for a half hour in the morning and at noon, as well as about an hour at night, but it seems like he could use even more than that.

        • epric002

          this won’t really help during the day, but if you’re able to travel to rockville, your dog’s friend has some excellent training, socialization, and free workshop opportunities, including leash manners, puppy classes, and “puppy party” (a drop in play session for puppies up to 6 months). http://yourdogsfriend.org/classes/

        • When I got my dog (mastiff mix), I actually took her to doggie day care 2-3 days a week for half a day. That way, she had regular extensive exercise and socialization. She was usually exhausted for two days after a few hours there. Or, find a dog walker who will walk him with another dog.

        • We also did the indoor housetraining to begin with until after her vaccinations were complete (don’t worry, they do pick up going outside quickly once they’re allowed). The dog walker played with her inside until it was safe for her to go on walks, so that may be an option if you’re worried about a bored puppy.

          Also, I know it’s weird since we’ve never met, but if you’re having a hard time finding dogs to socialize with while he’s so small, I’d be willing to offer my dog since she’s a small dachshund and loves puppies. I’m sure Dan could put us in touch.

  • Rave: The sun!

  • Rave: Not 100% but back on my feet after being sick in bed for two days. I think I was only awake for a total of 8 hours in the past two days.
    Rave: Feeling better just in time for Pearl and the Beard and Wild Child tonight!
    Hopefully a rave: Hanging out with bf’s roommate and bf’s brother sans bf (he’s out of town). It’ll be nice to get to know them better.
    Rant: Short staffed because three of my coworkers are sick now too. Cursing my boss for making me come in and spread my germs on Monday!

  • Quotia Zelda

    Rave: King cake arriving today!!! AND, it will be a 2-king-cake season, even though this year is a short Carnival season. It seems like every year has been a 2-king-cake year lately.
    Rave: Clearly, I have the best parents in the history of parents.
    Rave? Rant?: I’m thinking about a new bag, but I haven’t seen it in person. That would be fine – I could just return it if it’s not right – except that they offer monogramming and I SOOOOOO want it monogrammed. But monogrammed bags can’t be returned. But, the color I want is on sale! I’m dithering, and I realize this is ridiculously first-world-y.
    Rave: Emilie will enable me 🙂

    • SFT

      Do you know of any bakeries up this way that do a king cake justice? I haven’t had a real one in years! The good New Orleans bakeries charge $50+ for a cake and delivery. Boooo!

      • Quotia Zelda

        I haven’t tried any of the bakeries in this area because my parents always send one. I’ve heard good things about Bayou Bakery in Arlington, but I’ve also heard (from a Louisiana friend who comes to DC regularly) that it’s gone downhill lately. Plus, their king cake is almost as pricey.

        • I have some crescent rolls and icing. 😛

        • SFT

          Yeah, I’m just gonna suck it up and order one, it’s been too long! Excited for the coffee too!

          • Emmaleigh504

            Safeway has French Market!!!

          • SFT

            I just looked at Haydel’s, and they have the Making Groceries card game. I forgot about these cards. We used to play at my grandma’s when I was a kid. OMG, I’m sooooooo getting the Making Groceries package!!!!!!! This is the best day ever. No, the best day will be when this comes in the mail!!!!!!

          • Emmaleigh504

            Haydels is the best!

          • SFT

            We just used to pick them up at Schwegmann’s.

          • Emmaleigh504

            Did you ever have a Tastee donut king cake??? That was amazing! But most of our came from the grocery store or McKenzie’s. My favorite was in high school b/c we would end up having them in every class and you could taste king cakes from all over.
            My pal down there uses the leftover king cake to make bread pudding! I would love to do that, but I don’t get daily king cakes here 🙁

      • oh – best buns in Alexandria (right?) makes very good ones.

      • Le Caprice DC has great king cakes! Someone shipped one to my boss from New Orleans last year, and it was so disappointing. Stale and bland.

        • That is to say, someone shipped a cake from some famous NOLA bakery to my boss and it was disappointing. Le Caprice DC has good king cakes that are not disappointing.

          • Emmaleigh504

            I”ll try Le Caprice one day, but I have no faith that they will have a good king cake.

          • Emmaleigh504

            The picture of a king cake and the description of king cake they have on their website is not New Orleans king cake. This is why I don’t think it will be good.

          • I just went to the Caprice website, because the one I had from there was just like the one from the fancy NOLA bakery except fresh and tasty. Are you looking at the Galette des Roi? Indeed, that is not a New Orleans king cake. But so so delicious. I’ve had two so far this year. Need to stop in and see if they’re still making them. They have the ring-shaped deals with gold green and purple sugar that you call king cake, too. Or have in the past.

          • saf

            La Caprice has French King Cake, not NOLA king cake.

          • Emmaleigh504

            New Orleans king cake or GTFO.

          • Emmaleigh504

            I would have to taste the dough to know if it’s good. It looks gross, but that is probably just the picture. When I looked up king cake there, they only had the french style ones.
            I’m very picky about kind cake, so I am not optimistic.

          • Emmaleigh504

            And really Miss Patty, you saying they have great king cakes means nothing. You had 1 crappy one from New Orleans. That doesn’t mean all NOLA king cakes are subpar. Some bakeries have yucky king cakes (I hated McKenzies filled king cakes), or maybe it was just a bad 1 off. Le Caprice didn’t carry those purple green and gold king cakes at the start of the season, and that’s is a negative in my book. You enjoy there king cakes, and that’s great for you. Have at it.

          • Emmaleigh504

            whatever. and the rhinos are old new. try harder

          • Hey! Play nice, you two! Surely you can agree to disagree?

          • I tried. I sent rhinos. *shrug*
            I’m not bothered, though, considering the source. Emilie can’t be very southern if she would take that tone with an older lady.

          • Emmaleigh504

            not when it comes to king cake. 😉 king cake is serious business.

          • Emmaleigh504

            hahahahaha “take that tone with an older lady” how old are you? You make yourself sound 80!

    • Ralphie!

      Honest questions…if the cake doesn’t have the purple/green/gold sugar on it, is it still a King Cake? And is just plain cinnamon traditional or can they be filled with almond paste?

      • Ralphie!

        Oh, and Hi. Longtime lurker, first-time poster.

      • Emmaleigh504

        if it does not have the colored sugar it is not a king cake. Plain king cakes are called “traditional” but we do filled cakes in our family (much to my father’s horror). I like cream cheese filling.

    • What is the bag? I fully support the Reese Witherspoon philosophy of “If it’s not moving, monogram it.”

    • Emmaleigh504

      I have to see it before I enable. But dude, you can afford it and you never buy yourself bags. Just buy it and monogram it! Do all your letters fit?
      BUY IT!

    • Emmaleigh504

      Also: Our parents kick so much ass 😀 we are lucky.

  • Rave: Kiddo slept well last night!
    Rave: I got my butt out of bed for yoga this morning!
    Rant/Rave: Replacement crib aquarium arrived yesterday. Kiddo was SO HAPPY to have it back; I just hope we don’t regret this later. 🙂 If nothing else, we’re kicking the problem down the road and hopefully won’t need to deal with it for awhile.
    Rant: Teething canines
    Rave: Ibuprofen
    Rave: Relatively easy morning with few fights about diaper change/getting dressed/breakfast.
    Rave: Kiddo decided to “take some for the road” by shoving two handfuls of black beans in her mouth just before getting down from her chair. She still had some in there 45+ minutes later when I dropped her off at day care. Hilarious. Though it would have been less funny if some of them had ended up on me during the commute…

    • special_k

      “Take some for the road.” Awesome.

      • Glad you appreciated it. Her teachers were pretty amused when I warned them about it too. Presumably she finished it by snack time since she would have eaten more then 🙂

    • At first when I read “teething canines” I thought “Huh? Now Mtpresident has a puppy too??”

      • Oh man, now that would be a lot to add into the mix! We would love to get a dog at some point, but we’re not home enough and I think my old lady cat would kill us in our sleep. She’s never quite forgiven us for bringing home two new cats within one summer.

  • Anything free/cheap and fun happening this weekend? Dying to go out but still counting my pennies after the holidays.

  • My dog (Chili Pepper) has informed me that I spend too much time on the computer. She usually stands on the keyboard to get my attention. Today she decided to chew at the edge of the screen.

  • Andie302

    Rant: Floundering on whether to travel to Jackson, MS to visit and friend over St. Paddy’s day. She just sent out a text about it, so I checked flights and it’ll be around $300. Because the invite is extended to so many, I suspect she can’t house us all, but I know a few of the people on the invite aren’t going…so it’s hard to tell whether I will have to pay for lodging. If we participate in the parade that’ll be another $50 for tickets. My closest friend isn’t going. Because of the house renovation my cash is pretty limited right now, but I put myself in that position with my decision-making. I don’t want to dissapoint my friend(s), but my gut is telling me to skip it. Hmmm….
    Rave: Caps win last night
    Rant: Missed HH…hope you all had fun!
    Rant: Also feeling pressure from my real estate team to be more involved, but I’m back to full-time. I think I’m just a touch hungover and anxious. I wish I could go to yoga tonight, but I have book club. Sensing a theme?
    Rave: These aren’t really big dillemas in the end! I’m lucky

  • Rave: Landlord came to his senses – sent an email saying we could move out by the end of the month and he would return our security deposit. I’m assuming he either read the laws OR spoke to an agent who was like “YES TAKE THEIR OFFER TO MOVE!”
    Rave: anyone else ever in a similar situation, DCRA was very helpful – they will give you an affidavit saying your landlord is not renting legally and the tenant court will default in your favor. It’s a small fee, but probably priceless if you need this.
    Rant: Moving. The worst!
    Rave: All the good POPville advice! Party on our deck! (wait, no)

  • SFT

    Rant: I can’t get my team to use their Outlook calendars properly. I just asked my coworker to forward me several meeting invites and he took a screen shot and forwarded it to me in an email. It took every ounce of strength for me not to stand up, wave my arms around, and yell “are you f–king kidding me, Bob!?!”
    Rant: The mediocracy of my office kills me a little more each day.
    Rave: I always look like a rock star for knowing how to do basic tasks 🙂

    • oh man I remember the days of having to manually attach items and try to explain what a browser was over the phone. For my basic ability to operate windows I was called ‘a gift from god’ from the crazy religious lady who ran the place.

      • SFT

        We are a $300million development firm. How people don’t know basic functions is beyond me! It’s also a clue as to why we aren’t a $600million firm anymore :/

    • OMG Yes to all of this. I had a woman at my federal agency tell me the other day that she couldn’t send a picture over because she “didn’t know how to attach it to email.”


    • Thank you for sharing! This made me laugh out loud and gave me new perspective! 🙂
      REALLY, they took a SCREEN SHOT? Actually, it is kind of impressive that they knew how to take a screen shot and send it… 🙂

      • SFT

        Our CEO’s executive assistant sent out an email announcement the other day. It said “We will be moving the all staff meeting to the third Wednesday of each month, please update your calendars accordingly”. And the Chief of my Division will routinely walk around to everyone’s desk to ask if they are free for a meeting at a certain time. Outlook scheduling is basic business, ya’ll.

      • A coworker of mine printed an article out from the internet, scanned it, and emailed it as an attachment. And she wrote in the body of the email “this is kind of blurry so I will mail it to you as well.” Which she did.


        • Wow. My mom does crap like that but she does not have a job that requires computer literacy. I had a coworker at a former job who didn’t know how to copy and paste, and would print and retype everything. I actually got in trouble for trying to explain copy and paste to her.

    • You’d be a rock star if instead of getting overcome with frustration you would take 5 minutes to show people what you want.

    • hammers

      Oh my, I actually LAUGHED OUT LOUD at that. He knows how to take a screen shot…but not forward. priceless.

  • Emmaleigh504


  • palisades

    Rant: Oscar nominations. I’m over Clint Eastwood. Tired of Oscarbait movies like Imitation Game and American Sniper.
    Double Rant: Jake Gyllenhaal and Nightcrawler were absolutely given the finger here. Gone Girl too. David Fincher is never given enough credit.
    Rave: So happy for JK Simmons and Whiplash.

    • Pablo Raw

      Nice to meet you at the HH!

    • skj84

      Yeah, I wasn’t thrilled with the nominations this year. Bummed Selma basically got shut out. And no Best Picture for Into the Woods wither I am happy for Bradley Cooper though. And the Marion Cottiard nom was out the blue.

      • Selma was nominated for the highest award. Pretty much polar opposite of being shut out. And have you seen 2 nights and 1 day?

        • palisades

          You’re certainly not wrong, but for the life of me I can’t understand why American Sniper is so toted and why Cooper is getting so much praise. I doubt it will win many awards, but I think it took up spots for movies that had a much better chance of winning (David Oyelowo)

      • How was the Marion Cotillard nomination out of the blue? She won Best Actress several years ago.

  • hispanicandproud

    Rave: All this puppy talk is making me miss my doggie today.
    Rave: Hitting the F5 key to refresh my internets.
    Rave: First profile pic challenge on Facebook! Let’s see who gets annoyed first.

  • Pablo Raw

    Rave: Back to introverting after yesterday’s very fun HH
    Rant: I think I talk too much after the first beer.

    • Pablo Raw

      Rant: a little bit concerned about trying the microwaved Tortilla Espanola that was suggested last night in a HH conversation. It is just strange that in order to make it work I’ll have to be wearing a tin foil hat.

      • emvee

        I’m still in shock that you can microwave a potato in a damp papertowel. #themoreyouknow

        • Emmaleigh504

          you can just stick a potato in the microwave on nothing. I love microwave back potatoes, but I always use a plate.

          • Just remember to poke some holes in the potato with a fork or you might end up with an explosion.

          • Emmaleigh504

            nah, live dangerously! I’ve been baking potatoes in the microwave for 50+ years and never poked one hole or had one explosion.

          • Pablo Raw

            This is what emvee told me: poke a hole in the potato and fill it up with water, cover the microwave all around with paper. Turn it on. As a safety measure, make sure you are wearing a tinfoil hat. Make some eggs. Open the microwave = Tortilla Espanola! If you see something else there, call 911. I’m kind of skeptic.

          • Pablo Raw

            She also mentioned something like “crucify the potato”. I don’t know, it was loud in there, maybe I didn’t hear well.

          • emvee

            I don’t remember the context for why I supported crucifying potatoes, but I do recall saying something along those lines…

          • Emmaleigh504

            Seems like a lot of work for an iffy outcome. I think your time and adventurous spirit would be better spent making danger pudding. And it isn’t done in a microwave, so you won’t destroy your appliances.

        • You people still eat carbs???? 😉

        • skj84

          I’m an impatient person so I usually make my baked potato’s in the microwave. Just have to be careful not to over cook.

        • Pablo Raw

          I’ll try it, but I’ll have 911 dialed on my phone just in case!

  • Rave: fun times at HH, it was nice to meet some new people.
    Rant: slight headache today.
    Rave: my boss said I’m a sane person, I thanked him for the compliment.
    Rant: I do not have a three day weekend coming up.
    Rant: stuff at work is changing, there will be some drastic changes soon, but I don’t know what, or when, and in most cases I don’t know why either. I’m starting to get worried.

    • Extra rant: my uncle STILL says crap like “don’t blame me, I voted for the American.” It’s driving me insane.

      • Wowzers. Just remember, you can’t fix stupid. No matter what evidence you show him, he’ll move the baseline.
        I’m curious, though, did you ask him about 2008? Because McCain was born in Panama… Also, Obama didn’t spend two years living with those god awful surrender monkeys in France like Mittens did.

  • Rave: My job is at times like herding cats – but with a project spread over three continents and multiple agencies and difficult bureaucracies I’m really excited that its all coming together for a huge achievement in April. Meetings next week should seal the deal – but its not done till its done.

    Rant: Really going to miss sitting on the beach this weekend when I’m sitting on a plane for 18 hours and then freezing in Russia for a week.

  • justinbc

    Rave: Awesome turnout for the HH last night at Barrel. I think we had somewhere between 20-25 folks show up, definitely one of the larger gatherings we’ve had. I hope everyone had a great time and got some safely!

  • Rave: Finally starting our master bath remodel process, have a few architects coming this weekend to take a look!
    Rant: I”m terrrrrrrified of how expensive it’s going to be. There’s old lathe and plaster behind the walls and the pipes are rattly, the entire thing needs to be gutted. :-/
    Rave: Thursday! Fun plans tonight, Friday, Sunday AND MONDAY (RAVE THREE DAY WEEKEND!)
    Rant: So over gray weather.
    Rave: Got a tiny little bonus this week. Nothing major but still enough to make me feel good and like I’m somewhat appreciated at work.

  • Rant: Just found out that a family member passed away last night after lingering illness. I feel horrible for my family but glad that she’s not suffering anymore.
    Rant: It looks like I will be going home for a funeral soon.
    Rave: I am meeting the new niece this weekend.

  • Rant: I always overthink relationships, especially in the beginning. I need to learn how to slow down, enjoy the moments, and not project too much in to the future.
    Rant and Question: My apartment building wants to increase my rent by $130, which is an 8% increase. This feels like too big of a jump! But is it? I will try to negotiate, but I’m not sure what to expect. I live in Navy Yard and a new building just opened across the street, with more in the pipeline. Current rates for my apartment in my building are about on-par with what they want to raise my rent to, but those units don’t appear to be moving. Two months ago they tried to pull a similar tactic with a friend (raise the rent by over $50), even though those units were listed on the web site for considerably less. That person moved to the new building.

    • Someone who knows more than me should weigh in but I’m pretty sure that’s illegal in DC – I think rent control laws are 2% plus COL increases? I seriously doubt COL increased 6% in the past year.

      • Emmaleigh504

        My rent control place can go up 10% a year depending on some economy stuff. It’s only ever gone up 2% because of economy stuff (there’s an equation, I don’t do equations) and one year they paid me to stay.

      • If I remember correctly, the rent control laws only apply to buildings built before 1975 where the owner has more than four units. Does that apply to your situation?

        • The rent control doesn’t matter since the increase is below the limit even it was rent controlled. Have they increased before? How long have you been there? Seems like they’re not trying to take you for your ride like the friend since things are on par with current prices? Maybe you can negotiate or offer another year for no/low increase.

          • Sorry but it is above the limit rent control allows, (basically inflation plus 3%, with a cap at 10%). Therefore it does matter. Given the neighborhood, I’m guessing the building was built after 1975 so rent control isn’t applicable.

            Also, rents have gone down in the past year in many areas. I would either move or negotiate a lower increase if I were the OP.

          • They could always apply for a higher increase if there were improvements, etc. If the new building is nicer and cheaper (usually free months or discounts are on the table), then moving there may be advisable. They didn’t negotiate with your friend, right?

          • Emmaleigh504

            Vaguely related rant: I tried to get my stupid building to charge me more rent for an upgrade I wanted for my apartment. They couldn’t b/c of rent control, and I”m all but what about improvements? Nope 🙁 I can still do the upgrade but I have to pay upfront instead of rolling it into my rent, which saves me $ in the long run, but I spent the money on airplane tickets to Sweden. Stupid good management company.

          • Even with rent control they request a higher increase to go toward capital improvements. Maybe your work wouldn’t qualify?

          • Emmaleigh504

            It doesn’t 🙁 but they did other improvements to the whole building! I just could not convince them to charge me more rent 🙂 Oh well, I get my improvements after I go to Sweden.

          • Emmaleigh504

            Actually, every time they do improvements on the building like when they added the gym, they don’t use that to raise the rents. I have a really good management company.

    • I’ve heard from multiple friends who live in Navy Yard and Pentagon City that the large corporate-owned buildings usually try to slap a large rent increase each year. They’re banking on the fact that you’re too lazy to move and pay for it, even if they are offering new tenants a cheaper rent for the same unit.
      Also, the increase is very negotiable. My friends have negotiated down to 1% increase or even no increase, if they extend their lease. Negotiate hard.

    • I feel you on the overthinking relationships in the beginning rant. I am contantly overthinking. You are not alone in that.

  • skj84

    Rave: I had fun seeing everyone yesterday.

    Rant: My office is doing a sales trip this weekend and I’m not invited. This is really pissing me off. There is a big conference on Sat and all my male colleagues are going. I never even got an invite.

  • I Dont Get It

    Rant: My flu came roaring back today. Fourth day of PTO in 2 weeks and my customers and boss aren’t happy.
    Rave: Nurse Lucy has been cuddly.
    Rant: Nurse Lucy has the breath one would expect from a 17 year old dog.

    • Emmaleigh504

      lol just remember it’s the relapse that will kill you. I’ll be sure to put it on your tombstone.

    • While I cringe at a lot of what comes out of Sarah Silverman’s mouth, this joke kind of stuck with me: “My dog’s breath smells like all the farts in the world passed through my grandpa’s teeth.”

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: Procrastinating b/c I got a bunch of praise for my work in Dec. My work in Jan has sucked so I feel guilty, thus procrastination. Procrastination is why my work has been sh itty. it’s a spiral of doom.

    • Emmaleigh504

      Rave: did 1/2 of what I need to do today, still procrastinating with the rest. I have 2 hours to get some motivation.

      • Emmaleigh504

        Rave: found motivation and finished the other thing with an hour to spare! Now I can start that other thing….

  • emvee

    Rave: It was great meeting folks at HH last night!
    Rant: I wish I had met more of you! Until next time.
    Rave: My brother invading my house to cook a giant roast so it will be ready when I’m home. +500 for living near awesome siblings.

    • Pablo Raw

      You didn’t say anything about crucifixion, it was me. I also should say that I have a terrible sense of humor that doesn’t work most of the time, but it was great to meet you 🙂

  • Rant: So sore from last night’s intense ab workout.
    Rave: Good sore!
    Rave: Looking forward to having dinner with my mom tonight.
    Rant/Rave: The law school rolling admissions process and not knowing where I will be living come August.

    • re: law school. definitely. My husband is applying to one program. I think we’re going with the whole “if he gets in, he’ll defer”. Good luck! I hope you hear earlier rather than later

      • Thank you and best of luck to your husband! I went the opposite route and applied to wayyyy too many schools and now have heard from about half and am in limbo. I’m thankful to have options but it’s a lot to think about.

    • Allison

      When deciding which law school, consider where you will have a support network of non-lawyers, be they friends or family. You will need them more than you know. If there’s a school in a city where you know NO ONE, maybe bump that one a little lower on the priority list. I couldn’t have done it if I’d moved here alone.

      • Thanks, Allison, this is really good to hear. All of my close family and friends are in the D.C. area and luckily everywhere I’m considering is at least in driving distance. There is a big part of me that wants to try a new area but I do worry about what you mentioned.

      • Some other unsolicited advice from a law school grad who doesn’t practice: I would also consider if it is a city you’d want to settle in, especially if the school isn’t top tier. Unfortunately the snobbishness of rankings does matter in terms of job prospects after law school. Also, definitely wait until you get financial aid offers before making a final decision. And avoid reading One L or any of those other fear-mongering reads before you start your first year. Good luck with the application process!

        • Thanks, artemis. I really appreciate your input. I have been avoiding all of the obsessive admissions message boards/blogs and I think it has really helped me to keep my stress level low (for the most part). Hopefully I will be able to make it to the next HH and have a better idea of my choices by then.

        • Allison

          And for god’s sake don’t read Above the Law.

  • Rant: nobody can make up their mind when telling me what to do so I’m always in trouble for not listening to somebody.
    Rave: enjoyed meeting lots of new people at the HH last night. I wish I felt well enough to stay later.

  • Rave: got my merit increase today for 2014 performance. Woo!
    Rant: boss-man was a bit cagey about telling me what I need to do to get promoted to the next level in 2015 (which usually includes a 25% raise).
    Rant: way too many ‘effing meetings, which precludes me from doing my actual work. Was in the office nearly all day last Saturday, will probably be here until 11pm tonight 😡

    • Emmaleigh504

      congrats on the merit increase!

    • Congrats! Time to buy more music gear!

      • Wow, 25% increase for promo? What industry do you work in? I just got promoted and my raise was only 3%, which is/was really disappointing. Oh well, I had already been planning to look for a new job in 2015 and this is more reason to do so!

      • I’m being a good boy and saving to buy a place before rates go up. Closing costs suck 🙁
        Random question: does any one have experience with the DC Open Homes program? I can’t figure out if you’re saddled with PMI if you take one of their loans. I’m assuming so, since they are Fannie/Freddie’s. The rate is good, though.

        • A friend of mine went through DC Open Homes. Yep, has PMI. Interest free loan for the downpayment though!

          • The down payment loan is actually forgiven on a 5 year amortization schedule for each year you live in the residence. So it’s basically 3.5% of purchase price in “free money.”
            But yeah, PMI sucks. Does anyone know if you must take one of their loans through DC Open Homes? Navy Fed has no-PMI loans for first time buyers with less than 20%.

          • Accountering

            Those loans have PMI in the form of a much higher interest rate. Sure, you are technically paying PMI, but for a 0% down loan, the interest rate is ~5.00%.

          • Wouldn’t it be better to pay the higher rate, instead of a low rate + PMI? That gets you a bigger interest deduction. PMI is not tax deductible. Eventually you could refinance.

        • There is always a seller subsidy to help with closing; it paid for all my closing costs. The PMI rate just went down by .5%, so hopefully, it would be too much of a saddle.

    • RANT: The Swiss Franc and the SNB. Jesus H Christ, you’re ruining my Alpine snowboard trip.
      Yesterday, $1 USD = 1.01 CHF. Today? $1 USD = 0.89 CHF.
      Dear god.

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rave: New shot buddy to replace the p**sy shot buddy who never comes to HH anymore. Yay PH! Don’t wimp on me, dude. (work is so not getting done in a timely manner today)

  • Rant: Moved buildings so further from home and less fun.
    Rave: Still have ot and a job.
    Rant: Sickness coming on…boo!
    Rave: Lady doesn’t expect me to text all day, everyday. Gives us plenty to talk about in Saturday.
    Ques: going out between Chinatown and metro center any particularly awesome dinners nearby that are reasonably priced? Should I make reservations?

  • Rant: Feel like death warmed over. But it sounds like I’m better off than some of my coworkers who got sick at the same time (fever, worse body aches). We went out clubbing together this weekend and we think we must’ve gotten something there, as 5/6 of us came down with something at the same time…
    Rant: Dragged myself to work, too much stuff to do. Wearing a face mask which feels like it’s eating my face because it’s so big and my face is so tiny… My Japanese coworkers were laughing because it looks so silly on me, lol.
    Rave: Passed out at 8 last night and slept pretty much until 7 this morning. NyQuil, I love you so much.

    • This sounds exactly like me yesterday. I hope you start feeling better soon! NyQuil is our friend.

      • It is! Although I realized yesterday that I was out of it and had to drag myself to CVS… But now I have it again and it is wonderful. Afrin is another very good friend right now.

  • Rave: little sister is going on an international vacation. She needs it!
    Rant: continuing series of nightmares about ISIS sowing anarchy among disenfranchised youth in the USA. Monday night’s was the darkest, featuring an execution video with the executioner extolling children to kill their parents. Fortunately, last night’s has already mostly faded from memory.
    Rant: have to take the (fake) Christmas tree down soon – I love the lights!
    Rave: another long weekend is not that far away

  • Rant: I wish I could refinance and get the same low rate of 3.75 on my investment property. Sucks they charge higher rate on investment property. I would save about $400.

    • What’s the going rate for investment properties?

    • Well yes, the higher rate reflects the higher risk of default. If there’s another real estate crisis, you will bail on your investment property first. LOTS of people did that in 2008.

      • I know i know I know. But based on my financials and carrying costs and rental income and equity I’m I’m a pretty OK situation. No I’m not important or entitled, just expressing my hopes/wishes. .

    • Wow. You all are way ahead of me in house-buying knowledge. Any recommendations for a starting point?

      • Figure out how much you can spend (bank may ultimately say different) and what sort of place you wan.

        • From what I gather – I should have 20% ready for a down payment. So, if I want to spend $500,000, I need $100,000 saved. Seems damn near impossible without wiping out my retirement savings.

          • “I should have 20% ready for a down payment”
            That’s the general rule-of-thumb that’s always mentioned but as you note that can be damn near impossible (and unwise, if possible) for many potential buyers. Do plenty of research, I’ll bet there are some options that don’t require such a big down payment. (I put down about 9% for example, although that was 3 years ago.)

          • You need 10% down to avoid pmi, but you could do as low as 3%. I don’t think most first timers are doing 20% unless they’re very well off or the place is very inexpensive.
            Make sure you have your lender letter ready to go. I missed out on places because I didn’t have it although I was prequal fairly quickly.

      • Andie302

        Get pre-qualified before you start shopping. Do it with 3-4 broker/lenders at once, because if you do it outside of a 30 day period it can have more of an impact on your credit score. That way, if you find something you love, you’ll be in a position to move quickly. I’ve had multiple clients miss out on the first place they liked because this wasn’t done.

  • Rant (or Rave, still deciding): a bunch of coworkers meddling in my dating life. one wants to set me up with her friend and others telling me HOW to date and WHERE to go on dates. Does everyone think I’m pathetic? Blah blah something about being young, smart, and pretty so why am I single.
    Rave: THIRSTY men online. Ha.

    • Ha! I have a former coworker whose wife is always trying to set me up, even when I am not single. It’s frightening/hilarious. It’s like “yes, tell me more about this Korean exchange student who lives in your basement…” or “ooh, your office just hired a woman in her 20s? Funny, because those are my only two requirements – I’m sure we’ll be married within a year.”
      Have you been to Le Diplomate?! It is THE place for a date. You should totes go there on a date. OMG! I think I know someone you might like… how do you feel about a dark-haired tall guy who went to law school but doesn’t work as a lawyer?

    • Where to go on dates??? Do people give advise on that sort of stuff. Good places to meet people seems like better advice. The setup is neutral, and if he has plenty in common I’d say rave worthy even if it didn’t work out.

      • My coworkers don’t approve me grabbing drinks with my dates. They also claim I should always pay for my own drinks, which I do even if the guy offers. They went on about activity dates. Oy.
        I’m not sure I want to date a coworker’s friend esp when said coworker is much higher in the office hierarchy than I am. Like a supervisor, just not my supervisor.

        • Wow, yeah, that sounds like bad news regarding the supervisor’s friend.

        • Your office sounds like a hub of awful dating advice.

          • Generational divide. I am on the youngest person in my office. We have different ideas about what constitutes a good date.

        • I almost always do drinks for a first date. Try to keep it relatively informal and inexpensive. If they know details, maybe they don’t agree because of the hook up aspect that I think drinks tend to influence a bit more than dinner or an activity. I agree on paying for your own drinks, but if he had a reason (had to reschedule a bunch for work, etc), then I may say its ok. Activity dates are fun, but again, not for a first date. I’ve done hiking or mini-golf which was fun.

          • Am I the only one here who thinks the person who asks someone on a first date (the askee) should pay? Disclaimer, I literally never ask first. I always offer to pay my own way, but I certainly take someone more seriously as a prospective partner if they’re like “Nah, it’s okay, I got this.”

          • Emmaleigh504

            I’m in the split the bill or asker pays. But I’ve been the asker and the asked. The only time I would judge someone negatively is if I’m the asker and they don’t offer to split. If my offer to split or pay is declined, I don’t take them more seriously as a prospective partner, I just think they are nice. Unless I get a call later about why I didn’t put out.

          • Friday, that basically means guys should always pay because after numerous discussions it’s obvious most of the women, at least on Popville, never ask out guys. I find it a bit unsettling that someone’s worth as a prospective partner is partially based on whether he will pay your way. Some women (not saying you) are clearly out for free food and drink without much interest.

            I say this as someone who usually does the asking, but I’d feel exactly the same if I never asked. If I ask for the check on the first date, and she doesn’t reach for her purse or offer to split, I’m not going to speak to her again. Anyone who is that entitled is probably not going to work for me.

          • Emmaleigh504

            I agree with Anon Spock that it comes off as entitled if one doesn’t offer to split the check. At least wave your hand in the general direction of your purse 😉 (Yes I’ve done this, but a) I didn’t like the guys and b) they were all no I”ll pay before I could actually touch my purse.)

          • *Disclaimer that I did say I always offer to split! Frankly I think it’s ridiculous that girls go on dates for free food, and it’s kind of ruining things, if that’s how people view things. Maybe I’m too old-fashioned. Or I grew up in the wrong country. Or something.

  • Accountering

    Rave: Caps showed the Flyers who’s boss last night. They took a point from us in Philly, and we gave them nothing in return in DC. Caps 1, Flyers 0. Just as I like it 🙂

  • Rave: Second interview of the week went well today PLUS I was offered a second round interview AND a first interview with a separate organization. So…four interviews in one week is pretty amazing, especially since it’s been four months without ONE bite.

    Rave: PoPville input on make-up. My mom is coming to visit next week and I think with all your help, we’ll have an awesome day of make-up trying out and buying. Thank you!

    Rave/Rant: Friend is moving back to California – away from her parents – but back into the life that initially made her so anxious and panicky. Trying to support her locally has been hard enough. I’m hoping I can be supportive from afar as well…

  • Rant: Super annoyed by sloppy Washington Post reporting that Obama was going to grant 6 weeks of paid parental leave to federal workers. Most other news sources are reporting that it will simply be the ability to take up to 6 weeks advanced sick leave. I got really excited this morning when I saw this, but now I’m even more angry that a)federal workers don’t have paid parental leave and b) that everyone doesn’t have paid parental leave in the US. UGH!

  • hispanicandproud

    Rant: People who stare at my crotch when I run in tights.
    Rave: Not my fault.

  • Rave: Last night’s PoPville HH.
    Rave: Seeing Cracker at the 9:30 Club following the HH.
    Rant: Not feeling well earlier today. (No, not because of Wednesday night’s activities.)
    Rant: My office is reorganizing our procedures in such a way that I feel like I’m being set up for failure. Well, maybe not failure, but definitely for inability to meet my own standards as far as quality and quite possibly for inability to meet theirs as far as time.

    • How was Cracker?

      • Good, but not as good as their show from last year around this same time — I was a little surprised by their decision to play “Low” and “Teen Angst (What the World Needs Now)” so early in their set (about 20 minutes in) AND back to back. They did play “Eurotrash Girl” later in the set, which helped compensate as far as the pacing.

        • The new stuff sounded outstanding, I thought. I See the Light and One fine Day were highlights for me. I almost wonder why they even play Low and Teen Angst anymore – I get the sense that most people who still go to see them know (and probably prefer) the slightly deeper cuts anyway.

          • IMO, it would be a shame if bands deliberately avoided playing their hits.

          • I’d agree in some cases but I’m not sure Cracker is making much money off of folks who only remember 2 or 3 hits from 20+ years. I think their crowd would accept it if the band wanted to play other songs instead. But I guess the good (?) thing about only having had 3 hits is that you can play them all and still have lots of time for other stuff.

  • rant. Just had a really creepy experience. I know for a lot of people this doesn’t seem bad, but it was for me:
    I was walking back from lunch, I noticed a large man dressed in a work jump suit hanging out on the sidewalk where panhandlers occasionally hang out asking for money. I kept my head down, watched my feet, and pulled myself in – I didn’t want to interact. He said “have a blessed day” to the man in front of me, then turned his attention to me. He first greeted me – which I ignored so I wouldn’t be drawn in to him. He then said he was sorry for whatever made me the way I was, that he still wished me well, that he didn’t know what made me the way I am, etc. until he was shouting, as I kept walking away. There was a cop across a driveway from me, talking to another person. The cop didn’t even notice what was going on. I turned down the driveway to go to the back door of my office building, and realized the guy had followed me at a distance. He was still yelling at me as I opened the building door. This guy now knows where I work. While his words weren’t threatening (although exceptionally judgmental – I don’t think I’m that bitchy or closed off or negative to people who know me, I’m just wary of strangers on the street), his actions were extremely threatening. I’m extremely uncomfortable and saddened that things like this still happen, and it’s necessarily so scary for women.
    Ladies, what would you have done? Is it worth talking to a cop who was clearly talking with another person, should I have confronted him (he was about a foot taller than me and had at least 150 pounds on me), did I do the right thing in walking into my secure building?

    • epric002

      since you asked what other women would have done. i would have put my RBF (resting bitch face) on, straightened my posture, shoulders back, and walked by him. i might have responded to his greeting with a hello/thanks and just kept moving. i would not have gotten a cop involved, nor would i have confronted him.

    • Emmaleigh504

      I am sorry that happened to you. It’s not your fault! I think either going into your secure building or going to talk to the cop are the things I would do. But I would go talk to the cop knowing that the cop would probably blow me off. But having the creepy guy see me with the cop would probably be good enough to get him to leave me alone or leave the area.

    • Well I’m not a lady, but I would reconsider your policy of ignoring people like this, for two reasons. 1) It obviously doesn’t prevent you from having an uncomfortable experience; it might even have the opposite effect. 2) If anything truly unpleasant does happen, you’ll have a much better chance of identifying him and describing what happened if you’re not looking away and ignoring him the whole time. 3) A simple “hello” and then keep on walking is usually pretty effective when encountering people on the street – it’s not likely to be perceived as rude but it doesn’t oblige you to stop and have a conversation either.

      • Sorry, three reasons, not two, obviously.

      • Emmaleigh504

        I don’t agree with speaking to them. I have never found that to do anything but encourage more unwanted interaction. I keep my posture straight, head up and look straight ahead. I do note what they look like and what they are wearing before I get to them, just in case. (I look ahead for possible issues.) I also keep a side eye out for anyone who may want to touch or grab. But I’m not speaking to some ass on the street just b/c he thinks I should. Had a guy the other day give me a lecture for not speaking back to him, he was asking for anything, just saying hi, etc. Nope not entertaining that, I just kept walking. He did not lecture any of the guys who didn’t speak back to him. F that noise.

        • The only time I’ve had a bad experience on the street if when I didn’t realize I was ignoring someone. By the time he got close to me, I had already planned out how I was going to take him down to the ground and get away. The other guy near me was more scared than me. I walk briskly, so a quick hello and keep it moving has worked fine for me on public transit and the street.
          We can argue gender equality some other time. Those guys are probably not worried about having some guy attack them, and you are, so try to lessen the chances. If a simple acknowledgement diffuses the situation, I’m all for it. I do ignore catcalling, but will usually return a polite hello.

          • Emmaleigh504

            Almost every time I’ve said hi or whatever it’s quickly turned into them telling me the nasty things they want to do to me. Nope, I just keep walking now. Rarely do they holler down the street how they would use their mouths on me in graphic detail. They can holler I’m a bitch all they want.
            And thank goodness, I’ve never had anyone follow me like the OP.

    • I would have done a similar thing as you, and I would have wished the cop was more attentive. I was followed down a street by some panhandlers once and I called the non-emergency police line once I got home to report it — and guess what they told me? They said I couldn’t report someone unless I stayed on the scene until the cops arrived! WHAT?! These days I find that making eye contact even if I don’t respond sometimes helps to ward off any unnecessary anger….

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