Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • Rant: I have zero confidence (not that I had much to begin with) in Metro when it comes to emergency situations.
    Rave: I bike-shared to work this morning.
    Rant: It will probably be too cold/icy to bike back this evening, so I’ll have to take the Metro 🙁

    • Have you considered the bus (if it’s feasible)? I just started taking it instead of metro and it’s a whole new world. So easy and convenient- depending on where you need to go, of course.

      • Oh… no I’m a bus person too… and I may become more of one after this. Although with a best case scenario, I can get to and from work on bike share and only have to take the Metro two stops in the morning (I can bike all the way back). Busing all the way to work is not much of an option for me. There is only one line that connects DC to where my office is in Arlington and it doesn’t run very often – as in once every half hour to 45 minutes. If I don’t bike (or drive for that matter), I usually take a bus/circulator/metro combination.
        The larger issue here is that, after yesterday’s event, I think a lot of people are losing what little faith they had in Metro being a reliable source of transportation, and those who can manage to do so will start to take other forms of transportation like buses, circulators, bikeshares, ubers, taxis, car shares and personal cars – all of which has the potential to create – or exacerbate existing – transit issues in our region.
        Maybe I’m being a little hyperbolic, but the bottom line for me is that I don’t trust Metro to do a better job in handling these types of catastrophes, and I don’t see any kind of leadership in government that will pressure WMATA to change it’s culture.

      • +1. Metrobus is way underrated in my opinion. In any case it’s very useful as a Plan B or C in case the rail is having problems.

      • justinbc

        Metro bus is newer, cleaner, generally less crowded, and the heating and cooling systems work better than Metro rail. I generally only take the tunnel if it’s saving me a significant amount of time.

  • Rave: ZEKE and 12-GAUGE!
    Rave: Such a great time at Solly’s yet again for another CFP OSU win!
    Rave: “We don’t give a damn about the whole state of Michigan” as time hit 0:00 and shots all around on the house.

  • Rave: Date went well. Frist time in a long time I started planning date 2 during date 1.
    Rant: Luckily she didn’t mind, but I neglected to check whether the place I picked was open on Mondays. It wasn’t!
    Rant: Metro delayed my bus which made me late to my date. First time I could have walked home faster.
    Superrant: Took DCFD 40+ mins to get to the person in the train who died. They might have died anyway, but that seems like a long time.
    Rave: Able to carry new tv in the house by myself. Just have to set it up.

    • Glad your date went well. She sounds like a nice person for not minding your date-related rants.

    • Hey Spock,

      Based on this post, and your posts yesterday regarding the “ghost”, maybe you need to relax a little? Seems like you may come on a little strong? I’m basing this entirely on 48 hours of you posting comments on a website, so I could be completely off, but it’s something to consider. No need to rush things. Just relax and see where they go. Give yourself (and your date) time to see how you both feel 🙂

      • Maybe…to clarify:
        On yesterday’s date: she first mentioned a second date. From there we started to figure out schedules, but haven’t set a time or exact activity just a day. She also showed the first interest when she repositioned to rest her leg and hand on my leg.
        On my previous the 1 date ghost: I did inquire first if she wanted to meet again and she said yes and threw the ball back in my court because I had the more full schedule. From there, I reconfirmed the interest the next evening and we began planning until she disappeared.
        On the previous person I sort of dated for 2-3 months: I broke it off because she wanted a full blown relationship when I had already determined (and mentioned) would never happen. I felt it was unfair to take up her time when I know she wanted x and me y. She also showed the first interest: resting her head on my shoulder in public, inviting me back to her place, etc.

        So in 1 of 3 situations I posted about here, I initiated the 2nd date.

      • Maybe you assumed I was “coming on too strong” because I misstated that i started planning the 2nd date without mentioning the above about how it came about. I=we in a back in forth sort of way.

      • What’s wrong with coming on a little strong anyway? I appreciate it when guys come on a bit strong so there’s zero confusion regarding how he feels about me.
        Although it seems that Anon Spock was not coming on too strong at all. Looks like his date gave him the go ahead to pursue another date. That’s great!

        • Anon Spock is actually a she. 🙂

          • Oops. My mistake. Either way her date gave the okay first. Anon Spock seems like quite the catch.

          • Textdoc- always can count on you to set the record straight. LOL I almost never correct someone because what they’re saying is usually applicable to me too.

            LA- Thanks. I tend to agree with you. 😀

          • In a man/woman relationship I’d think it might be coming on too strong, but as someone who also dates women it’s quite normal. Especially if her date was also giving her those signals and going along with planning it.

          • She says I’d really like to do this again. I say me too. At some point when are you free and all that jazz. We were both indecisive so I threw out a few ideas like dinner, movie, or ice skating with no particular preference to either. I checked out ice skating, and she is checking movie options. I don’t think the planning could be more mutual. I’m curious where I’m maybe coming on too strong??
            I’m very go with the flow, but if she is always indecisive I may end up planning most things but always with input and consideration for her tastes.
            I’ll wait until the 3rd date to move-in together. LOL

          • I don’t think you’re coming on too strong, but I can see where hetero people might see it that way. (Oh my god, the first date isn’t even over and the second one is being planned!). LOL, you haven’t even gotten a U-HAUL so it sounds like you’re actually moving TOO SLOW!

          • ParkViewRes: Lol, I was thinking the same thing 🙂

          • Emmaleigh504

            I think it’s only coming on too strong if they don’t want to see you again, otherwise it’s called showing interest.

          • Emilie: replied to you in the next thread down.

        • I don’t think it is coming on too strong to plan/confirm a second date during the first. If you like a person, why not be clear and put that out there? That’s so much more refreshing than the guessing games that often happen. At least for me, the only times I wasn’t receptive to that sort of thing was when I wasn’t feeling the same kind of connection or level of interest.

          • As mentioned not something I’ve done typically, but I see no reason not to carpe diem when someone tells you they’re glad they met you and definitely want to do it again. Very minimal planning at that.

          • Anon Spock: I don’t think you’re coming on too strong at all. Don’t worry about that. You seem respectful. I wish I dated more people like you. 😉

          • That was purely for curiousity as I’d never heard it before. Yea, I’m not doing any of that stupid stuff chicks complain about with men; I’m not a man after all. Some women are treated respectfully and nicely so rarely that they cannot handle it when it happens which is very sad. Was it justinbc who complained of women being shocked he wasn’t trying to make out on the first date? Ironically, ghost chick was the first person I liked but didn’t go for the goodnight kiss with and the first second date I wanted but didn’t get. Coincidence?

        • Maybe made that judgment based off 2 posts in 2 days. Without the background, I’m wondering how they jumped to such a conclusion as they haven’t resurfaced all day to my knowledge. I show an appropriate level of interest…no forced makeouts in public.

    • justinbc

      Nice work, and lesson learned to everyone about checking for openings.

  • RAVE: had an amazing trip in Chile from 12/27 through 01/09, living on my friend’s homestead, with wider forays. Now back at work. Sigh.

    RAVE: yoga/orgasms/women/etc.

    RANT: on Christmas, my niece reported to her grandmother that my brother’s yelling was “tearing out her heart,” and it’s also obviously affecting my nephew. My mom wants to constructively “confront” my brother about all this, and wants me to have a role, either as a participant, or just as a strategist. I don’t know how my presence would help, and I can’t think of anything that would get my brother to calm the heck down (he can’t relax…EVER), and not vent his frustrations with life on his 8 and 10-year-old children.

  • Rant: Metro.
    Rave: Flexible scheduling and a job that doesn’t mind if I’m not at my desk at 9:00 on the dot.

  • Rant: Still sick. Still worried and frustrated.
    Rave: Had a great night at the barn last night. Time with fuzzy, sweet horses makes everything better.
    Rant: Waterproof pants that aren’t waterproof. An informational interview with wet pants sucks. At least I didn’t have to turn around and show off the wet butt I had!
    Rave: Interview today. At a job I’d really want and for which I’m well qualified. It’s a long, hard interview process and this is just the beginning so I’m trying to manage my expectations.

  • Aglets

    Rave: I have a first-date tonight.
    Rant: I have a first date tonight. I keep typing ‘hate’ instead of ‘have’.

    I don’t know why i’m even bothering. I’m feeling very Eeyore about this. Maybe it’s because it’s been a few years since my last first date but I just can’t get excited about this one.

    • Aw, I know that feeling. It’s a bummer. I hope it ends up being worth it! 🙂

    • I think it is ok to not be too excited. Maybe I am an Eeyore, but I think having low (to no) expectations going into a date is actually a healthy place to be. If it turns out great, that’s a happy surprise. If not, at least you know you haven’t spent a ton of emotional energy preparing/anticipating it.

    • I feel the same way about first dates. Keep an open mind. The person might surprise you. Sending you good vibes.

    • haha I also have a first date tonight and now I am paranoid! ;p
      (But I also have low expectations for first dates these days, so I can’t really talk. I think it is easier and healthier!)

    • justinbc

      It’s been a few years since the last date and you’re not excited?! I would be bouncing off walls!

      • I don’t know if Aglets in the same boat as me, recently single after a couple years, but I would not be bouncing off the walls. Tinder wasn’t even around last time I was single, I feel like I’m lost in translation on dating culture now. It can be really intimidating to get back out there even if your expectations are low.

        • Aglets

          my last relationship ended a while ago (like august 2012) but then there was some residual (and quite spectacular) collateral damage around the dude. I don’t think of myself as having ‘baggage’ per se but after that- it will be hard to believe and trust another person…..is that baggage? i am not good at this…

          • It could be seen as baggage, but definitlely take dating slow until you feel more open to the idea of trust. No relationship can survive without it.

          • justinbc

            Sure, trust issues can be considered baggage. But honestly if you’re 30 and up and don’t have any baggage then you’re either just completely amazing or probably haven’t experienced life very much. Everyone has baggage, don’t let that get you down or get in your way!

          • Emmaleigh504

            I have fabulous baggage. I have a bag shaped like a panda, I have a beautiful Dior 61 that an artist friend drew on, I have a lovely blue satchel. and it’s all full of horrors! Some how fab baggage or well dress horrors are easier to swallow.
            Says the spinster librarian…

      • Aglets

        i’m no longer young, cute or interesting 🙂

    • Emmaleigh504

      Nothing wrong with not being super excited. I hope you have fun tonight!

    • I’m rarely ever excited for first dates. My usual feeling is one of dread, but I’ve been pleasantly surprised more than once. Hope you have fun! 🙂

    • The last first date I went on was in November. I was dreading it, but forced myself to go, and now I am in the begining stages of what I think might be a great realtionship! I have been single for years, so you never know which date might be the one to work out!!

  • Rant: Still have a leak somewhere despite 2-hour plumber visit last week.
    Rave: Plumber can come back Thursday.
    Rant: Low-back pain is better, but not totally gone. Would running/yoga be good for stretching it out? Or better to rest until it goes away?
    Rave: Massage scheduled for Saturday afternoon!
    Rant: Kiddo pitching a fit about sitting in her booster seat at the table for meals. Is it time to research alternatives???

    • epric002

      depends on the source of the back pain. do you know what the issue is?

      • No, it just started out of the blue about a week ago. I noticed it either just before or at the beginning of a yoga class last Tuesday. I don’t remember the class being intense on back strengthening, though I did shovel right beforehand. So maybe I tweaked something shoveling. It was light snow, but some was packed down from people walking on the sidewalk.

        • epric002

          if you think it’s muscular then yoga/stretching might help- do you have a restorative type class you can go to? i also think heating pads are just wonderful for lower back pain. good luck!

        • SFT

          Walking is the best thing for back pain – it’s a low-impact way to keep your muscles warm and loose. Swimming (if you have access to an indoor pool) is a great for back pain too! After 2 substantial back injuries, years of PT, and 1 major back surgery, I wholeheartedly recommend walking!

      • Thanks all (and emvee below), I’ll go to yoga Thursday morning & see what I can work out.

    • emvee

      Definitely yoga over running for back pain. Maybe something slower like hatha, rather than a vinyasa, would help. I also found that rock climbing works wonders for my pack pain, since you stretch your body in every which way.

    • Emmaleigh504

      Do they still print phone books? That was my favorite booster seat as a wee tyke.

  • I Dont Get It

    Rave: It’s my birthday!
    Rant: I’m still sick with a cold/flu thing.
    Rant: This is a bad week to implement my New Year’s Resolution and quit drinking.

  • Rave: Court side seats and lounge access @ Wizards/Spurs game tonight!
    Rant: Nothing yet!

  • Rave: Once again, taking the bus pretty much everywhere instead of the metro.
    Rant/Question: Really need to move to a cheaper place. I love my apartment – it’s my home, but it’s really overbudget. Does anyone have suggestions on succesfully finding a room in a house via Craigslist? I’ve emailed a few listings both early in the fall and this month (wanted to avoid a holiday move), but most places never responded and one place was nice but just not a good fit for me. Any advice?

    • 1. Post your own housing wanted ad.
      2. Post on FB that you’re looking. Friends of friends are probably more reliable.

      What’s your timeline and price point? I’ll keep an eye out.

      • Thank you! I didn’t think of posting my own ad.
        I have been asking around FB and work to see if anyone knows anyone. I’m looking for $1200 or less (including utilities), preferably in the Georgetown area because of my commute, but am also open to the U St./Dupont area. Aiming to move sometime in March.

        • Not sure if everyone can use it, but there should be a GT housing listserv. I’m thinking more grad students than undergrads, but it seems they’d have a good line on that area. If you work in Georgetown, you could live anywhere near P St as you have a direct bus line to GT.

        • madamhelga

          Are you open to Columbia Heights? A mutual board member for a non-profit I work with has a room open in a 3Br rowhouse. $950/month + utilities (utilities around $75/mo).

          • I wish I was, madamhelga! Unforutnately I work with people who live there and they’ve warned me of the tedious commute, so I’ve been avoiding moving that far north.

          • Have you considered the Union station area? You have circulator access to Georgetown from there.

      • Nicely done, Allison! 🙂

      • Thank you!!

        • …. Andddd after reading those, I’m thinking maybe I should give up while I’m ahead. Haha. Will keep asking people I know if they’ve heard of anything.

          • My impression has been that it can be hard to find a room in a group house because there are so many applicants. Have you also looked into apartment-shares? I’d imagine those have less competition.

          • There are plenty of 2bd houses or apartments in housing around town. Grouphouses aren’t the end all be all for inexpensive housing. 1200 is a good limit to give you options. I feel for the people with half that to spend.

          • Friends of friends are the best bet. Craigslist is a major time suck and getting accepted into a house is basically like winning the housing lottery. So many houses have been converted to condos and it’s taken a lot of affordable housing stock off-the-market.

    • I’ve had experience on both ends of the group house hunt. When I moved to DC, I looked at 56 places before I found a group house that: 1) was a good fit and 2) had residents that thought the same of me. Emailing in your words, “a few” listings is just not proactive enough.

      After I lived in the house a few years some of the roommates moved out and we had two slots to fill. We received over 300 inquires in two days. Obviously, we couldn’t respond to all of them, so only those individuals we thought would be a good fit got replies. Most of the people we responded had a few things in commong: they seemed normal, wrote competently, and had interesting hobbies or life experiences.

      Finding a slot in a group house is a lot of work – good luck!

      • …..and I would have failed my own house’s test. Stupid typos.

      • Yeah, I’ve been bad about being proactive because I really haven’t heard anything GOOD about trying to find a room in a house/apartment. But as time goes on, I’ve realized I’m not going to have a whole ton of options unless I can somehow win the *actual* lottery.

        • Also I’m thinking it’s probably a terrible time of year for moving. 56 places? I don’t think there’s more than 15 within my price range in the two areas I’m looking right now, even if I emailed all of them.

          • It’s a good time to move if your requirements are minimal because less people are looking. The closer it gets to warm weather the worse it will get.

      • My search for a grouphouse was short-lived after I went to a house where they chose not to buy a lightbulb so I could see the thing they called a closet to get an idea of the space. I felt like I was being interrogated on top of it for a not that great place. Houses that accepted pets typically had other pets. Closets masquerading as rooms, etc. I ended up getting my own 2 bd, and I’ve never been happier.

  • binpetworth

    Rant: Feel so bad about all the people on that smoky train last night. What a horrible thing to go through. Glad Florista (who posted late yesterday) and others are recuperating, but one death is too many.
    Rave: I went to Lincoln’s Cottage for the first time this past weekend. It was quite interesting to learn a lot about my neighborhood from 150 years ago.

    • Emmaleigh504

      Agree on your rant. Glad Florista finally made it home.

    • skj84

      also agree on your rant. Being stuck underground in a smoky train is one of my worst nightmares. I don’t even like pausing in tunnels. I’m glad there weren’t any other fatalities, my heart goes out to that poor womans family. And thank goodness this didn’t happen at the peak of rush hour.

    • Agree on your rave. I love Lincoln’s Cottage, especially to imagine what the neighborhood was like in the past. Oh and how Abraham Lincoln pretty much had my same commute.

    the fans are even worse they will never shut up about this game even if they didn’t even GO to Ohio state. My coworker for example I’m already hearing this shit about a game and I know it won’t end for years. He actually makes me want to quit my job it’s so annoying. No other university I know is this obnoxious.

    • Michigan fans are the worst (when they have something to cheer about). Notre Dame and USC are a close second. I actually appreciate the proletariat fanbase of Ohio State. it truly is the state’s university, unlike Michigan which is bastion of privilege, a wannabe Ivy. Even a lot of the OSU players are home grown and have been waiting their whole young lives to play for the Buckeyes.

      • Accountering

        I agree with this 100%. Michigan fans are annoying, and The Ohio State is very much a university that unites the entire state.

    • palisades

      Virginia Tech fans are up there

    • justinbc

      I can’t say I disagree with this. Although I wouldn’t quite quit my job over it, maybe just ask to relocate to a different office location?

    • *adjusts eyeglasses*
      Ahem….THE Ohio State University
      The article is, apparently, very important

    • Nah, I think it’s more that Ohio State fans just try to drag us down to their level. I will agree that the worst fans from both schools are the ones that never attended the university. But I can say that most of their fans are the worst. I’ve been hit with full beer cans crossing the parking lot outside of that stadium before.

    • Duke alum are pretty bad. Also, Duke fans. And anyone discussing Duke.

    • Accountering

      I went there, and happy celebrate. Its nice to be National Champions 🙂

  • epric002

    rant: metro, obviously.
    rant: going to have to figure out alternative commuting options if the yellow line doesn’t re-open soon.
    rant: feeling sort of cranky/glum today, for no apparent reason.
    rave: the cleo by panache maddie bra. i am in lurve. so much lurve that i now own two of them 😀
    rave: ebay for bras and swimsuits. bought a cleo by panache jecca longline swimsuit yesterday with two different style bottoms for only $40!

  • Rant: I’ve gone into total hibernation mode and don’t feel like doing anything except being a couch potato and sleeping.
    Revel: I overslept today (see above) and almost took a cab to work, but then a bus pulled up. I got a seat and the thing filled up completely and then flew down the street with few stops because no one needed to get off and there was no room for anyone to get on. I ended up getting to work early. Now, I *HATE* having buses fly by me when I’m at the stop, and I completely sympathize with and feel awful for all those people we passed, but, today more than most, I really needed to be the lucky passenger.

  • Rave: Metro commute was safe and uneventful for me yesterday
    Rant: All the folks injured, and the one woman killed by the accident – glad the one PoPvillager involved is okay
    Rave: Transparent – been meaning to watch it and after the Globes finally tuned in – very good!!!

  • Rant: Metro, the incident, a death and many hospitalizations.
    Rave: my dad was employee of the year! I’m super happy for him even though he’s totally shy about it.
    Rant lady problems: why do most super opaque tights have to have control tops? I held up my new $16 tights this morning and the waist band was about 8 inches across. I feel like I’ve had lap band surgery.
    Rave: I don’t care about football.
    Rave: Caps! They’ve been looking pretty good lately.

    • Congrats to your dad!
      And as for the tights, I feel the same way. If I wanted Spanx, I would have bought Spanx. I like breathing comfortably during the day.

      • I almost never wear pants to work, so I spend a decent portion of my winter wardrobe budget on tights and I’ve tried a lot of them. I actually bought a pair of Spanx tights, and they’re not as tight as these. I would recommend the Spanx over these DKNY. I got the Spanx ones at the Rack for basically the same price.

    • Ugh, no kidding about the tights – I HATE control top! And it can be so hard to find non-control-top tights. Yuck. And congrats to your dad for employee of the year!

    • Ha. I am always looking for control top tights and can never find them. Maybe we should take each other shopping? 🙂

      • Hue’s Super Opaque come in non control top, but the ones I see the most are the control top. These are DKNY super opaque. They weren’t cheap, but I’ve had a lot of luck with the longevity of their legwear.

      • SFT

        Spanx make the best control top tights I’ve ever worn. I’ve tried some non-spanx tights and the waistband comes to mid-stomach, which is super weird. They are a bit pricey, but in my opinion, totally worth it!

    • Try cutting through some, or all, of the waistband

    • I seem to have the opposite problem! I’d kill for control top fleece lined tights. Does anyone else have the problem of non control tops not staying up? Or am I just weird?

      • epric002

        i think i have the same issue. i don’t look for control top, but a lot of the cheaper tights i find don’t stay up. i think it’s body shape- if you have a pear or hourglass shape you have the same problem with tights that you do with pants- they need to fit over your behind/hips but then be small enough to stay put on your waist.

    • Another hater of control top tights here. I cut through some of the waist band to make breathing easier. Even though I’m getting them in my normal size, control top tights are always the worst.

    • I am a true believer in Commando opaque tights. The waistband doesn’t dig in nor roll down. They’re expensive-ish ($35), but I’ve had a pair for 2 seasons now and they still look great.

    • Control tops are the worst.

  • Rant: Cat battles. Endless rounds of hissing and spatting as my cat and the two interlopers refuse to play well with one another.
    Rave: Breaking in the new kitchen. Moving trash being picked up today. House starting to feel like home. If only I could find time to get the pictures hung.
    Rave: Booked a flight to Jackson Hole. I wonder what percentage of my ski clothing made it into storage and back out (unlike the onion soup bowls, where the lids have turned up but the bowls themselves are mysteriously MIA).

  • SusanRH

    Rant: Bought a house last year and we are now realizing that the previous owners covered up some pretty major structural problems. We had a structural engineer in yesterday and will need to have a number of beams replaced. Our engineer mentioned that we could sue the previous owners for failing to disclose the problems. Does anyone have experience with this? I hate the thought of going to court and suing, but also do not have the funds available to to fix this without taking out another loan.

    • Allison

      You should speak to an attorney about it. The laws surrounding latent defects are very confusing, and differ by jurisdiction, so any information you receive here should be taken with a huge grain of salt. You may be able to avoid a lawsuit by settlement, but your attorney would have to tell you what the chances are.

  • Rave: Partner finally home from a 10 day vacation to see family in England. This is the first we’ve been apart since we moved in together in October, and though I thought I’d be really excited for the time apart/space, I actually missed her more than ever!
    Rant/rave?: Thinking about doing a “barefoot bootcamp” with said partner; seems like a hybrid yoga and plyo class. However, I’m pretty out of shape/overweight and have never done yoga before in my life, and I’m TERRIFIED to go make a fool of myself in front of strangers. As I’m sure fellow overweight people, especially women, can relate, group exercise situations, beginning with gym class as an overweight middleschooler, have always been pretty traumatic spaces for me. However, based on the past I know my body will respond to a high-intensity workout regimen, and I’ll probably see enough results to keep me motivated to start a lifestyle change I’ve been putting off basically my whole life. What to do, what to do?

    • I’ve had the same fears. One thing that helped me is realizing that no, no one is actually staring at me. Just concentrate on yourself/your partner….go for it!

      • Allison

        If it makes you feel better, you can always grab a spot in the back of the class. And in any event, many people have their eyes closed while doing yoga (I closed mine about 80% of my yoga class because I knew the poses well enough to not have to look at the instructor and could follow verbal instructions.)

    • epric002

      is it by chance at yoga heights? i practice there and everyone is very friendly and welcoming and you will definitely see men and women of many different shapes/sizes/fitness levels practicing there.

    • special_k

      I’ve passed on more things than I’d like to remember because I was afraid of looking stupid or making a fool out of myself. I regret it now. Please, go! Have fun! And if you fall over, laugh about it. We’ve all been there.

    • topscallop

      I’ve procrastinated my fair share about starting some good habits and I have to say, in my experience at least, the best way to do it is to do it. Just start. Do one class and see how you feel. You don’t have to commit forever. You might find that you start making other positive changes as well. I can’t really speak to the group exercise phobia since I pretty much always embarrass myself (not the most graceful scallop) but just remind yourself that no one is looking at you. They’re all focused on their own form/performance/whatever. If you’re concerned about injury or something like that you could talk to the instructor beforehand and get an idea of how the class will go or if there are modifications you can try as you get used to the exercises.

    • I’ve been reading for almost a year and never commented….but I felt compelled.

      I am a Group Exercise Instructor, despite being terrified of being in front of people and the center attention. I really enjoy taking classes though and love exercise of all types as a complement to my 9-5 desk job. I can honestly tell you as an instructor who teaches to a room full of people, people are much more concerned about themselves. They tend to be looking in the mirror trying to dissect their own form, or watching me (the instructor). Seriously. It’s actually really funny when I realize no one is actually watching me..even though I’m leading! When I participate in a class that I feel less comfortable in, I go towards the back of the room or stand behind a row or two of people (the ones in the front row tend to be the best/most confident and I like to mimic their great form ;)) Everyone has to start somewhere and I would hope/think most of your classmates will admire your willingness to try something new!

    • KSB

      FWIW, I’m the overweight sister of a beautiful, lean woman. She commented in passing a while ago that anyone out there doing something is awesome – walking, jogging, Zumba-ing, yoga, spin, whatever – and that really stuck with me. True enough, 99% of the people around me when I’m doing something physical are simply acknowledging that you’re doing it, if they’re acknowledging you at all 🙂

    • You don’t have to be good at it- you just have to do it! A mantra that gets me out of bed on the dark cold mornings 🙂

    • I’ve been doing yoga for almost two years and have never- NEVER- been in a class that wasn’t full of all shapes, sizes, and colors. I promise you it will be fine. In fact, I bet you’ll love it and kick yourself (gently) for not trying it sooner. 🙂

  • laduvet

    Rant: What is with people who take a day to respond to a text – even if it was a simple question like “how was your day?” – is this a blow off? not important? Introvert verses Extrovert?

    Rave: Happy Hours scheduled with my two favorite people this week – yay!

    • Without further context, it could be any one of those things. Unless you are really close and it’s an emergency, I don’t think folks owe you an immediate response.
      Also, I think “How was your day?” is one of the worst things to discuss via text message. For me, texting works great for simple, straight-to-the-point questions/answers (ie. “Boundary Stone for drinks at 7?” or “Be there in 10 minutes”) as opposed to more complex, open ended ones. If you genuinely care to hear about how someone’s day went, you’re better off calling.

      • +1. I’m not much of a texter, but “How was your day?” is such an open-ended question that I don’t think it’s well suited to the text format.

      • Quotia Zelda

        “Unless you are really close and it’s an emergency, I don’t think folks owe you an immediate response.”

        +14 million

    • Allison

      I’m one of those people who may take a day to respond. My friend back in Texas frequently texts me at like 10:00pm my time, when I’m already in bed. I may not answer her until after work the next day.

    • On your rant: it really depends on who the person is. My closest friends don’t always respond right away and I’m okay with that because I know that they would respond quickly if they had something to say and if they had time. If it’s say a romantic interest, it’s different. I try to respond to people I’m interested in pretty quickly even if I’m busy. I’ll tell them I’m busy so they understand why I’m not responding quickly.

    • Could be anything. You really need to gauge based on the person. I personally just don’t text much and rarely think to check my text messages. I also just don’t check my phone very much in general – I never check it at work, and at home it is on silent so unless I see it ringing, I miss stuff. Since my phone is always on silent, I don’t hear them come in, and I just don’t ever look at the part of my phone that shows I have a text. Even when I do answer, it is usually a day or two later just because of that. Even with personal e-mails, I probably only check them every couple days.

      But if it is a person that is always on their phone texting, then it is probably something else.

    • SFT

      I’m a delayed text responder too. It’s not that I don’t care, but sometimes I’m just busy and forget to look at my phone. I also tend to leave my phone in my bag when I get home and sometimes don’t realize it until bedtime. It could be totally unintentional, some folks just aren’t glued to their phones.

      • emvee

        +1. This is definitely me as well. I hate phone ringtones, and can’t even stand the sound of the vibrating. So my phone is always on silent and I miss more than my fair share of texts/calls. It drives friends + family bonkers, but it’s not something I do because I hate them.

        • laduvet

          interesting! And i guess there are those who have their phone nearby and respond when they get a text. I hate stuff lingering!

    • skj84

      I agree. LIke I don’t expect a response immediately, but a day later is unacceptable. It really isn’t that hard to respond to a text. It especially annoys me if It’s through ichat and I know they saw my message.

    • Emmaleigh504

      Will you be attending the unofficial Popvilee HH at Barrel tomorrow? We can be your favorite people too!

    • I would say (the text is) not important, at least by my standards. I’m not addicted to my phone, so I often don’t even see text messages right away. When I do, I’ll respond if it’s actually something that needs attention right away. If it’s something vaguely conversational like “How was your day?” then I’ll get to it when I get to it – if I’m going to actually talk to the person within a day or two then I’ll just catch them up then….

    • hammers

      Not sure if it is an introverty thing or not, but having my phone on me all the time stresses me out. I don’t like to feel like I’m constantly at the whims of whoever is texting me. So yeah sometimes I’ll just say, “well, this isn’t important, I’ll answer in a couple hours, I need ‘me’ time” Then, occasionally, I will just straight up forget about the text. “How was your day?” yeah, I’m gonna forget about that one; feels like small talk anyways.

      • justinbc

        Yep, I definitely mean to respond, set the phone down, and then get a text a day or two later saying “sooooo, I guess that’s a no?” pretty regularly.

  • I am so done with my best friend’s drama. His girlfriend is a lying piece of $h1t, and he still wants to go back to her. In two months time when her avalanche of lies and drama comes barreling down on him again like it has every two months for the past year and a half, I am not going to be there for him. I’ve given her tons of chance and she’s promised change and whatever it takes every time. I’m done.

    Otherwise, I’m so sad for the people on the Metro yesterday. I have to say one of my nightmare terrors has always been some kind of incident like this while on the subway. I’ve had these nightmares ever since the 1995 Tokyo Subway Attack. So sad for the person who died and all those hospitalized.

    • “I’ve given her tons of chance and she’s promised change and whatever it takes every time.” Are you interacting with her directly?? Or did you mean to say that _he’d_ given her tons of chances?

      • That was my question too, textdoc.

      • No, she has promised my best friend that she will change. My better judgment says no when my best friend says, “I need to give her another chance, and I need your support on it.” So no, I am not interacting with her directly. But I still think it’s more of a we have given him tons of chances.

  • Rant: I’m definitely not managing my stress and anxiety well this week. Family health challenges + contemplating/negotiating big life changes with my partner have made me a big ball of neuroses and insecurity. Ugh.
    Rave: I am making self-care a priority: going to yoga/working out, reducing my caffeine consumption, seeing the doctor, keeping my therapy appointments. And objectively I do know that I won’t indefinitely feel this tightness in my chest.

  • Rant: Metro. So terrible.
    Rant: Not feeling well this morning. Muzzy head, congested, really out of it. Hoping I’m not coming down with something.
    Rant: I just want to hibernate. Curl up with a good book, stuff myself with warm tasty unhealthy comfort food, and not set foot outside until the weather warms up.
    Rave: Despite the above feeling, dragged myself to the gym last night for a run for the first time this month. I hate it, but really needed it.

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rave: Even though I started my commute the wrong way (picked wrong line to use b/c I was 1/2 asleep), I was only 10 minutes late to work and the whole commute was relatively painless.
    Rant: Far, far away person is making noises about visiting. This could complicate my life.
    Rave: Discussing Downton Abbey with Textdoc.
    Good luck to all the Popvillagers who have job interviews today!

  • Quotia Zelda

    Rant: My daughter pierced her nose. Notice I did not write, “My daughter went to a piercer.” No. She put a needle through her own damn nose.
    Rant: Mr. Zelda, former microbiologist, is beside himself envisioning all the ways this will lead to necrosis and her eventual death. I just think it looks bad.
    Rave: The Brits are right. A nice cup of tea helps with pretty much any situation.

    • Emmaleigh504

      I blame her aunt. (Note Popville: I am not her aunt, I am her Emily. Her aunt is her dad’s sister.)
      On the bright side, at least it wasn’t a French Quarter gutter punk. I almost had one pierce my eyebrow when I was her age. Mom pulled up to take me home right before. Then the gutter punks were all put in the paddy wagon for some reason. Two bullets dodged by mom being early!

    • epric002

      fwiw, i pierced my own ear when i was 16. once they noticed, my parents totally overreacted to it, btw. probably the only time my sister and i were ever on the same side of a disagreement as teenagers. i remember my father screaming at me, “you’ll never get a job!!!”. lolzy.

      • Hehe, I pierced my own belly button when I was 15 and totally forgot about it when I told my mom from the bottom of the stairs that I was going to the pool. I still remember her face standing there at the top of the stairs horrified. The resulting infection and scar were way worse than any yelling/grounding from my parents, though. Sigh.

        • epric002

          haha, their discovery of it also took place over the stairs. though i was at the top, and my dad was at the bottom screaming. i never got an infection from it though, and still have the 2nd hole. i think they actually made me go get the 2nd hole in the other ear so that everything was even. so weird.

          • epric002

            skj84 just reminded me that i did not in fact pierce my lobe, but pierced my cartilage. how did i end up with the double holes in my lobes??? did i do one of them? i can’t remember!!!

          • Hahah. Piercing your cartilage by yourself sounds painful!
            I tried to give myself a third piercing on my lobe with one of those home ear piercing guns but it jammed halfway through and my brother had to break it apart with pliers. SO painful. And that’s when I stopped piercing things at home.

          • epric002

            i didn’t even know you could buy a home piercing gun. i just went the sewing needle route. having one jammed on your ear lobe sounds awful!!!

          • Emmaleigh504

            hahaha I had friends jab sewing needles in my lob and cartilage in high school (different occasions). It hurts like Hell, but I was influenced by my mom who told me about her 2nd & 3rd holes that her friend did with ice and a sewing needle. I should have had her friend do it instead of mine. They had no follow through. It’s better if the needle needs to go all the way through in the first jab!

    • I had my nose and lip pierced as a teenager (at different times) and both were short-lived. If it really looks bad, she probably won’t keep it, and I doubt you could do much as a parent to dissuade it, either before or after the fact. I feel sad for you as a parent, but also completely relate to her as the teenager. But seriously, I doubt it will last. In the meantime, gentle nudges for regular peroxide washes?

      • Emmaleigh504

        Oldest Zelda (I’m assuming it’s her and not Middle Zelda) has many pierced relatives to look up to: me, her Auntie, her Grandmother (just ears, but lots of earrings!). The Zelda parents are pretty conservative compared to the rest of the family.

      • Quotia Zelda

        Oh, it actually looks really cute on her, I just don’t really like face piercings.

    • skj84

      I never pierced my own nose, but I remember my mother’s horrified reaction the day I got my second piercing in my ears. And my sister one upped me by getting her cartilage pierced. Of course years later the holes closed up.

    • Oooh. Ouch. I can’t imagine sticking a needle into myself. D: Hopefully there won’t be any infection and it heals cleanly!

      • Quotia Zelda

        She ordered a piercing needle from the internet and was really careful about following all the instructions for cleaning, etc., so it will probably be fine. Mr. Zelda can’t help it, though. He’s the kind of person who should not have been allowed to study microbiology.
        And, if she does get an infection, I promise not to be as filled with Schadenfreude as my grandmother was when my (middle aged) aunt’s tatoo got infected.

  • Rant: shooting/stabbing pain in my abdomen this morning as I was trying to get ready for work. I’ve always been prone to stomach aches on cold mornings, but this was a new number on the pain scale. Probably shouldn’t have eaten m&ms for lunch the previous day?
    Rave: birthday dinner tomorrow night for one of my oldest friends.
    Rave: commuting in heels. They are booties, so they have lots of ankle support, but since I started getting off at Dupont, I can’t scale the elevator like this. Professional (but comfortable) shoes I could get away with wearing while at work recommendations??? I need to alternate days in heels but I’ve been bad about it lately.

    • Allison

      Have you had your appendix out?

      • Emmaleigh504

        +1 or it could be an ovarian cyst. When they burst they can be hugely painful, or if they get big enough.

        • I’ve spend the better part of the last five years trying to get a diagnosis for something similar, so if you ever want to chat about that process, feel free to email me at shawessdc at gmail. In the meantime, if it’s persisting today, the emergency room is your friend! I’ve had really good experiences at GW Hospital, especially if you get there earlier in the day, when you’ll get more attention.

          • *spent, not spend.

          • Emmaleigh504

            I”ll add if you need a surgeon to remove an ovarian cyst, Dr Osmun is tops. He explains everything really well both ideal outcomes and possible complications. I had a possible complication and it was fine b/c he told me everything in advance and then explained it again when it was over. He’s super nice, has a great bedside manner, listens to you, and as a bonus is nice to look at. I love Dr Osmun.

        • Ug, I get ovarian cysts and they are the worst.

          yoyotan – is the pain more on one side/a specific location? That’s a good indication it might be a cyst. They can be plenty painful without bursting.

      • I haven’t. The pain has been coming and going all morning. Let’s just hope its from my poor posture

        • Allison

          Errrr, I would say this is see-a-doctor-time if you’ve never seen a doctor about similar symptoms in the past. Abdominal pain is nothing to mess with.

          • Agreed. I’ve had some pretty awful pain just from food sensitivities, and it could be that. But if you don’t have a hunch it would definitely be smart to talk to a doctor.

          • I’m a bit late, but would add that this sounds like it could be all kinds of things, including but not limited to appendicitis, a digestive issue, ovarian cyst, fibroids, endometriosis, or even “abdominal migraines.” It’s really tough to find out without testing, and even testing might not give you a definite answer.

        • Emmaleigh504

          the doctor is your friend. they can make pain go away.

    • skj84

      I always recommend Clarks. Comfortable and stylish.

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rave: This tweet: Swedish genitals song goes viral
    Rant: cannot click on the link at work.

  • Rave: so sunny outside! even though it is freezing
    Rant: got to work an hour early only to find out the person I was supposed to meet with was stuck in traffic and didn’t come until normal work hours
    Rant: I need to remember that even in an instant gratification society like ours (texts, emails, social media, phone, etc), people need time to respond. I get so anxious when I don’t hear from someone, be it friends/family/work/dates, immediately. Sometimes I really do think technology is hurting us.
    Rant: bored at work, which is probably contributing to the above rant, since I don’t have much else distracting me during the day

  • Another one here whose inner bear is desperate to hibernate. It just hit me today, in spite of the sun. I feel as if I could close the curtains, crawl in bed, and happily stay there for a week. I’d need snacks, though. I don’t know how the bears do it without snacks.

  • skj84

    Rave: I found a listing for my dream job. It pays a decent salary, is exactly what I want to do, and has good benefits.

    Rant: It’s in my hometown. A place I chose to leave a decade ago for a reason.

    I mean I haven’t even applied yet, so I don’t know if it would pan out, but I’m not sure that I want to go home again. Granted I would be near my parents and brother. And the cost of living is way cheaper there. And I wouldn’t be too far from DC. But I almost feel like going small town would be a step back not forward? I love the hustle and bustle of DC.

    • Allison

      Could you maybe try out that job in your hometown, and use it as a stepping stone to then find a similar position and come back to D.C.?

      • skj84

        That’s the way I’m going to look at it. Lateral move. It may be easier for me to move up in a smaller market than DC.

    • “But I almost feel like going small town would be a step back not forward?”
      You’ve been gone for a decade, and while you chose to leave for a reason at that time, you should consider whether that reason still applies to you as you are now. I left the DC area after high school and didn’t come back for almost ten years – and what do you know, I found that I actually do like it here as long as I organized my life in the right way. That means being happy in your job, having good friends, being close (but not too close) to your family, having activities outside of work, whatever. In short, don’t be afraid to reconsider now something that wasn’t right for you ten years ago.

  • Rave – feel like I’m starting to see the results of running/lifting again. Reminds me why I like working out. Think I need to find some classes or something fun to motivate me further though, since I’m never going to be a runner.
    Rant – worried about a “friend” (not someone I’m close to, but former roommate of a close friend) who seems to be manic/cycling and is posting some strange stuff on Facebook. Trying to be supportive to my friends in hopes they can talk to her and see what’s up.
    Rave/Rant – new relationship – so good but so many little things to over think/stress over!

    • What are you stressing about (if you don’t mind sharing)?

      • It’s hard to even explain – I think we’re both just figuring out how to coordinate schedules/distance (both DMV area but not close) and I tend to over-think things/get stressed about it more than he does (ie figuring out when we see each other, planning, etc). Also worth mentioning that I’m never stressed when I’m WITH him then it’s incredibly easy! First relationship in a long, long time, so I think it’s just a learning curve?

        • As a fellow overthinker, I understand. It sounds like you’re happy and having fun regardless though so yay! 😀

  • Pablo Raw

    Rave: Planning a trip home, was about to get my ticket yesterday when I realized I was not sure if my passport was still valid so
    Rave: I checked my passport and it is fine until 2016
    Rant: hoping weather doesn’t ruin my plans!
    Rave (Rant?): 88 degrees over there
    Rant: Family drama and I’m expected to be kind of the messiah that fixes everything.

    • Not sure if you (or other PoPVillagers for that matter) know this already….. most countries can deny entrance if your passport will expire in 6 months from date of entry. My BF learned this the hard way when we were going to Mexico for a week last May and his passport was set to expire in July. It doesn’t sound like you’ll be in any trouble… but it may be worth checking with country/ies you are traveling to.
      The more you know….

    • Emmaleigh504

      I kind of see you as the messiah that fixes family drama. You have that aura.

  • Rave: Got home last night and found a gift bag filled with four good beers on my doorstep. At first I thought the beer fairy visited, but a couple hours later a friend texted me to tell me he left them for me. I almost wish I didn’t know who left it because the mystery of it was kind of fun.

    Rave: Started going back to the gym regularly last week and I’m finally back to normal, sleeping great, eating right, very little alcohol.

    Rave: Netflix has all of “The Assets” (miniseries about Aldrich Ames that was cancelled after two episodes) available to stream. Great show, shame it was cancelled.

    Rant: Can’t really think of any. It’s been a pretty good week so far.

  • Accountering

    Rave: Ohio State! Such an awesome game, and I was very happy to see the best team in the nation beat the second and third best on back to back weeks. So cool! Very proud to be a Buckeye today!
    Rave: A bit hungover from the revelry last night. The good kind of hangover though 😉

  • Rave: Bought a condo last week!
    Rant: My contractor just called to give me the bad news that the floors under the old carpet are “some of the worst he’s seen in a condo” and he can’t install the hardwood floors until it’s re-framed and new subfloors and insulation are installed. I hope this doesn’t break the bank!

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: Woody Allen

  • rave: show tonight at Dr. Clock’s – ideally, I’ll be playing a homemade synth or two.
    rant: unmotivated at work because of the show tonight. Not sure how to overcome that.
    rant: not looking forward to the likely upcoming fingerpointing between DCFD and WMATA.

  • Rant: Major pothole on Montgomery avenue and Wisconsin in Bethesda. I can’t wait to see the damage tomorrow. fingers crossed i dont wake up to a flat tire in the morning or need to replace it. Any advice is welcome. Ugh.
    Rave: My boyfriend listening to me and trying to help me as I’m hyperventilating over said incident. It doesn’t help that he’s in Baltimore and I’m down here, but I’m grateful he helped me cope.
    Rave: Work was so busy, but so so good. I got to (mostly) actually focus on my duties, which is really rare on some days. Days like today make me appreciate my education and where I am.
    Rant: The gym being SO crowded. Between not being able to find parking and that pothole incident, I was frustrated and left. And then mad at myself that I left. Tomorrow’s another day, right?

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