Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • palisades

    Rave: Seeing friends because they’re all in town for the holidays.
    Rant: Coordinating.

  • Rant: Day 2/10 of winter break and I’m already bored to death with no travel, family visiting, or many friends around
    Question: Is this PoPville orphans Christmas Chinese food/movie thing still happening? I haven’t heard much more beyond Full Kee and a movie. Or am I supposed to be the one planning it?
    Rave: Ward 3 listservs. Since I was broke up until I started teaching in August, I still have this poverty mindset where I’m taking all the odd jobs I can get. It felt nice to make $100 to help someone organize her Christmas crap!
    Musing: I’ve pretty much decided I’m looking to switch school districts for next year since my current one is a mess. Problem is MD is a union state and VA is right-to-work. Ideally, Montgomery County would hire me, but I’m wondering if it’s better to work in a mess of a school district in MD or start working in VA with fewer union protections.

  • Rant: I received a letter from OPM saying my information may have been compromised due to KeyPoint solutions (background investigator) cyber hack. So annoying, that’s basically my whole life. Not as simple as canceling a credit card.
    Rave: Last day of work before having 5 days off!!

    • I’m in the same boat. I take small solace in the fact that a good bit of that information was probably already out there, and commercial data firms probably have much more complete/creepy data.

  • Rave: working from home today.
    Rave: working on my comfy new sofa.
    Rant: had a weird moment at my therapist. He chastised me for not being open to dating a guy that my realtor had been trying to push off on me for a year even though I was clear that I didn’t want to cause the guy was 9 years older than me. My realtor’s and therapist’s insistence felt creepy and strangely reminded me of when I was sexually harassed on a job several years ago. What about how I felt? I felt embarrassed, harassed and hurt when the realtor tried to force the guy on me. Am I taking things too far? Should I get a new therapist? We’ve been working well until this came up.

    • If you have had a good working relationship with your therapist up to this point, do you think it is worth having a conversation with him about how you felt his behavior was crossing a line and that it made you uncomfortable? If nothing else, it could be a good exercise in boundary setting/standing up for yourself.

      But if you feel like the therapeutic relationship is just too broken/violated at this point, definitely feel free to find a new therapist. You have to trust your gut when it comes to those things.

    • Is it possible that the therapist is pushing because he/she doesn’t feel like you’re open to this for an irrational reason? (I’m trying to figure out why a professional would push this, and that’s the only thing I could come up with.)

      • Time for a new therapist. When your gut is telling you one thing and your mind is reminding you of another past sordid situation I’d definitely move on

      • It is possible. My depression has made me have some irrational thinking in the past. I think if I talk to him like others have suggested hopefully I can get to the bottom of it. If not, I’m moving on.

      • I was wondering the same thing as anon 10:24 — “Is it possible that the therapist is pushing because he/she doesn’t feel like you’re open to this for an irrational reason? (I’m trying to figure out why a professional would push this, and that’s the only thing I could come up with.)”
        Maybe the therapist thinks that your being opposed to this guy solely because of his age is irrational?
        It definitely sounds like the realtor was out of line in not taking no for an answer. (See Gavin de Becker’s “The Gift of Fear,” frequently recommended by Carolyn Hax.) I’m hoping that the therapist wasn’t being similarly appropriate, but if he was, then it definitely makes sense to look for a new one.
        I agree with Artemis — try confronting the therapist about the whole exchange. (“When you said ____, I felt ____, and it reminded me of ____., where I felt really uncomfortable because _____.”) You might be able to resolve things to where you can continue working with him, and even if you can’t, I think (again, agreeing with Artemis) that it could be a good exercise in standing up for yourself.

    • Emmaleigh504

      Practice setting boundaries with the current therapist and tell him how gross he was being, WHILE you shop for a new therapist.

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: work. no sleep. annoying ppl. fml.

  • Quotia Zelda

    Rave: Last day of work before a week off. I have plenty to do, so I won’t be watching the clock, but none of my tasks are too onerous.
    Rant: What is it with parenting teens? One step forward, two steps back. I know y’all are tired of my bitching about it. I’m tired of bitching about it.
    Rave: Roti for lunch today. Roti is my life.

    • Ha – I’m starting to feel that way with my toddler. Oh my goodness the screaming when she’s not happy with something. And she seems constantly ravenous all of a sudden, so I think there’s a growth spurt going on as well. She grew 2″ between her 15 & 18 month visit. Oof.

    • Blithe

      Sometimes it seems like teens and toddlers have many of the same issues : the push for independence, identity development, separation, a combination of winning charm and, um other stuff.

  • 2 of my foster kitties got adopted! Two more to go – amazing transformation for this little grey tabby in the two weeks I’ve had him. He was totally skittish and very hand shy. Now he is friendly and sociable – all over me – stitting on my desk right now swatting at the computer screen and stomping on the keyboard. Available for adoption now through Homewardtrails.org.

    • I love your kitten updates, glad to hear more were adopted! I’m always tempted by the photos but I’m already maxed out with 2 (one is a homeward trails alum). When a friend of mine is ready to adopt again I hope to hook her up with you.

  • Rave: large bag of kettle corn from Costco
    Rant: I’m in the process of OD’ing and can’t stop myself
    Rave: glad I don’t do drugs
    Rave: 3 more days until holiday stuff starts to die down

    • I have this problem too with kettle corn or Smartfood popcorn. Which is why I can’t buy big bags anymore, way too hazardous to my health. Once I ate HALF of those big bags in one day. I shudder to think about it.

  • Pablo Raw

    Rave: Happiness and no stressful life is having to shop for only one person, one gift.

    • SouthwestDC

      How I wish I were you! My hard-to-shop for parents have December birthdays which adds to the gift-giving stress. Last night out of desperation I ventured into the Pentagon City mall, where I endured 2 hours of absolute hell and still left empty-handed. I should have done all my shopping online while I had the chance.

      • I like Uncommon Goods (it is online) for unique gifts. Sometimes you just have to get something unique and go with it. Or find something they like and donate to the cause. My mom loves her local theater, so I donate to them (or get her tickets to something I know is coming to town).

        • Emmaleigh504

          +1 my aged hippy parents get uncommon goods (they LOVE the mushroom growing kit) and my wildlife loving grandpa gets a donation to a wildlife charity, usually a rhino charity.

        • SouthwestDC

          Good to know for next time I guess.

          • Emmaleigh504

            You can also do what I do when I don’t get presents ordered in time: give them a card with the picture of the present inside and tell them about when it’s arriving. That way they still have something to open and you don’t have to attempt the mall.

    • I’m with you Pablo on this – my family went through different ways of giving gifts over the years (everyone gives gifts to everyone, drawing names, setting $ limits, encouraging homemade/re-gifted gifts). For one of my siblings, even toned down gift giving was stressful so we decided to give money to a local charity for their Christmas outreach program.

    • Pablo Raw

      It took some time to get people used to the idea that I don’t want gifts and I don’t give gifts; it was a bit difficult at first but now I think it’s the best for everybody. It is also less stressful for people who know I don’t want anythig.

  • Anonynon

    Rant: Emailed my management company about staying in my current apartment for 6 more months (praying they don’t raise the rent…a lot at least)
    Rant: Why is there literally no affordable apartments anymore…and the ones that are, are sketchy craigslist ads with no specific address and usually have a sketch email response. I am open to any neighborhood really…I don’t remember it being THIS hard two years ago.
    Rave: Work has screeched to a grinding halt. SOO bored at home!!! Hoping for some good posts today 🙂

    • This is precisely while I’ll have roommates forever (I’d rather live in a nice place with a bunch of other people than a shady/crappy apartment alone). Fwiw, I know when I was looking for a temp place, I posted on the Tenleytown, Cleveland Park, and Chevy Chase listservs (if those neighborhoods are the slightest bit appealing to you) and a few people had basement apartments available that weren’t too bad.

      • Anonynon

        I don’t mind living with roommates, problem is my roommate of the past 3 years (and several years during college) is leaving in august. Its going to be hard to replace that…but maybe if i play my cards right i can find someone cool on PoPville

    • Also agree with the lack of apartments. I have 2 roommates but LOVE my apartment and location. They are both planning on moving out by the end of the spring and I pray to god I can find cool replacment roommates because I really really really don’t want to have to move.

    • Where do you live? What’s your budget? I used to live in Navy Yard and when we moved in we received a bunch of rental concessions. Plus they’re building new apartments like crazyyyy in that neighborhood so I would think you could negotiate a couple months free rent.

      • Anonynon

        I currently live on the corner of 14th and Chapin NW (lower columbia heights/northern u-street?). Ideally I would like to move to shaw, bloomingdale, eckington or parkview/petworth. But I work from home so I don’t need to be close to downtown, or metro necessarily. But I don’t own a car so I need some transportation options. My current apt is $1,150 (maybe 100ish more a month for utilities/cables). I think the max I could go is $1,300 and that would be hoping i am due for a raise sometime early next year.

    • It seems to me lately that the only way to afford a 1 bedroom apartment in DC is to have 2 people. There might be a ton of new buildings going up, but they all want $1600+ for a studio, and they seem to have done nothing to drive down the price of other apartments.

      • You’re probably right. The only reason we could afford our one bedroom when we lived in Navy Yard is because my fiancee and I split the rent, which actually made it super cheap [for us].

      • I’m starting to wonder how long that can continue. It seems like a lot of these buildings have vacancies, and there are so many new ones being built. The other day, I was reading something that said that rents fell slightly in DC and that they might drop (or hold steady) this upcoming year as more new buildings are completed.

  • houseintherear

    Need a recommendation for a hair stylist/colorist who is great with blonde hair. Recently lost my awesome stylist at Parlour because she moved. 🙁 Thanks in advance-

    • I’d recommend Linda at Salon Balayage (18th and M)

    • I have had great luck at Bang – Verizon – call and describe your hair and they usually will put you with a good person. Right now I’m seeing Kat and she absolutely gets what I want without my being able to describe it well.

    • houseintherear

      Thanks, peeps-

    • I’ve been really happy with Jasmine at Salon Cielo (Dupont). That said, I haven’t really had any color done except for when she talked me into highlights (they were really good, I just can’t be bothered to maintain dyed hair).

    • Angie at Urban Style Lab is an amazing colorist and has taken me from blonde to light blonde to brunette and back over the years. Cannot say enough good things about her.

  • I Dont Get It

    Rave: $1.99 gas here! Got a haircut at a barber shop with pricing of “Haircut $13, Seniors $12, Hot Air Free”.
    Rant: My sister broke up the Texas Hold ‘Em Candyland game I had organized with the little kids. I believe it’s never to Early to learn bluffing techniques. My bible thumper sister thinks 5 year olds shouldn’t be gambling.
    Rave: IDGI SR thinks the overnight oatmeal I made is the best thing ever!
    Rant: “Chinese food” tonight which means this god awful buffet.

    • Dang, I was happy about paying $2.25 at Costco. Where is this magical $1.99 place?

    • gotryit

      Aunts and uncles are so important for kids. I’m sure that as a parent, I’m doing something wrong. Having an aunt / uncle to make up for that / provide sanity…

      • I Dont Get It

        I love being a Guncle!

        • Emmaleigh504

          I don’t think you get to be a Guncle to kids who are actually your nieces and nephews, just an uncle. You get to be a Guncle to your friends’ kids.

          • Whaaaaaaaaaaaa? No way. Your Guncle can be your actual uncle. Though, the term “Guncle” can also apply to your friends’ kids.
            My Guncle (my mom’s brother) introduced me to so much great stuff and taught me many important life lessons:
            -John Waters and Divine (TBH, we were probably too young to be watching Pink Flamingos and Polyester but whatevs that sh#t is hilarious)
            -Campy show tunes
            -Liza and Elton
            -The intentional hilarity of drag queens
            -The sadness and pain that is living with HIV

          • Emmaleigh504

            Hmm I don’t agree, that’s just uncle stuff. Uncles can be gay and super cool, guncles have to be gay and super cool and not related to you, otherwise they are just cool uncles.
            Why are we renaming shit that already has a name??? First Thanksgiving, now uncle. bah humbug.

          • gotryit

            I was going to disagree with you because my gay uncles were awesome growing up (especially late teen years). But they are cool because of who they are, not because they are gay. But then I guess I just don’t get the guncle reference.

    • SFT

      I come from Bible thumpers and we gamble. My dad always said that as long as we weren’t gambling away our tithe money, God was fine with it!

      • I Dont Get It

        Love it! Actually I was just kidding on that part but there is an unfounded suspicion within the family that I cheat when playing board games with little kids.

      • I was always jealous of my Jewish friends who got to play dreidel at Hanukkah. Way more fun and interesting to gamble and win all your friend’s chocolate 😀

    • “I believe it’s never to Early to learn bluffing techniques.”
      Agreed. My 8 yo loves to play blackjack, (“I’m lettin’ it ride, Daddy!”) and has demonstrated an affinity for Texas Hold Em’ as well. (There really nothing cuter than a little girl, after a successful hand, saying in her little piping voice, “Daddy, I have the nut flush!”) And at Thanksgiving, I taught her and my niece/nephews craps as well. (We still need to work on “Don’t Pass” etiquette.) These are life skills – as long, as my wife fears, as she doesn’t start running a craps game in the girls bathroom in middle school.

      • Important life skills and it also teaches them some principles of math: probabilities, etc.

        • That was the rationale I initially used for blackjack. We’ve moved past that in out house, though I still use it if someone raises an eyebrow at us as I’m reminder her that you only get one card each when you split aces.

    • Ah, brings back fond memories of my father teaching 6-year-old me to cheat at cards. These are important life lessons, people.

    • Quotia Zelda

      Ugh, I have so been there with the nasty Chinese buffet. The one my in-laws love has a huge variety of dishes, but none of them is good. The thing is, my in-laws are really amazing cooks themselves. I don’t know why they (and my husband!) love this nasty place. There is a dearth of good Chinese in their area, but who cares when we could be eating a) at one of the many very good restaurants that do exist in their area, or b) awesome Vietnamese food at their house.

      • Emmaleigh504

        wait. what? They like yucky Chinese buffets? Is it a New England thing? I don’t get New Englanders.

      • I Dont Get It

        Their hearts are in the right places because they believe this is what I want since I’m from the big city that must have fabulous Chinese buffets on every corner.

        Of course much of the buffet is dedicated to pizza, french fries and chicken fingers.

  • My mother passed away suddenly last Christmas Eve, the day before her birthday, Christmas day. I am sad and depressed this holiday season. I loss my faith and Christmas will always be meaningless to me in the future. I truly miss my mother because we were very close. I plan to be by myself Christmas because people can be so insensitive by telling you to move on. People grieve different in regards to culture. In some cultures, people bury their love ones the next day and move on with their lives as if the person didn’t exist.

    • So sorry to hear this. It’s only been a year, it would be insensitive for anyone to suggest you should be over it. Take care of yourself, and reach out if you decide that you need some company over the holiday.

      • How rude that people tell you to move on. I don’t care if it’s been ten years, losing someone close to you can leave a hole in you forever. Especially a mom. Hopefully there’s some cheer for you over the next few days.

        • Thank you, textdoc. I agree with you 100%. When my mother died in my presence last Christmas Eve, I went into shock and didn’t have time to grieve. I buried her January 2, 2014. I attended several grief counseling sessions at the Wendt Center on Connecticut Avenue, NW. Christmas was my favorite holiday and I use to decorate my apartment and I listened to Christmas music on WASH-FM. This year, my spirits are low and it’s difficult for me to listen to Christmas music without crying. Yes men do cry and I’m a sensitive caring human being. Thanks to all for your kind words because there are many lonely and depressed people because they too have loss a love one within the last year. Millions of people go into depression during the Christmas holidays.

      • Agreed. (Though I feel compelled to add that just because some cultures bury their loved ones the next day, that doesn’t mean that they miss them any less.)

      • +1. It’s terrible that anyone would be flippant about such a loss of someone so close to you, and I’m sorry that you had to deal with this in addition to managing your own grief. I hope you are able to find some peace this holiday season and agree with anon above that if you feel like reaching out, you should.

    • I’m so sorry for your loss, and I can understand not having the heart to celebrate Christmas this year. Do what you need to do to get through this time of year. I do hope you have people in your life that you can reach out to for support.

    • Blithe

      I’m very sorry for your loss. My mom died two years ago in December, and I can understand how hard it can be to grieve — when you’ve not only lost someone that you love, but, in a way, the celebrations that included them. Grief is a long-term process, and “moving on” and resolution are very individual. Some cultures and their traditions support this better than others. I wish that more of us had a tradition like sitting shiva — which openly acknowledges both the enormity of loss and grief and the role of family and community in providing practical help as well as social connectedness.

    • Accountering

      I agree, telling someone to move on is inappropriate. Perhaps Christmas will regain some meaning to you at some point, but that is on your timeline. So sorry for your loss.

    • Everyone grieves in their own way and in their own time, and no one has the right to tell you they think you should be moving on. Christmas and other holidays often trigger strong emotions – and I’m thinking to myself “why wouldn’t you be sad and depressed during the first Christmas without your mother?” You’re dealing with not only the anniversary of her sudden death but also the first Christmas/her birthday without her.
      Take care of yourself, and if you don’t mind the suggestion of an anonymous stranger…it might be helpful to go back to the Wendt Center for a few additional sessions.

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rave: those Italian panda dogs.
    Rave: Swifty

  • Rave: Last day of work for the year!
    Rant: People keep coming into my office. I have things to finish so please go away.
    Rave: Heading out of town for ten glorious days.

  • Rave – Utah going to get a mountain of snow, making for great skiing next week.
    Rant – Getting nervous about said snow and East Coast weather disrupting Christmas Day travel plans. (Yes, quite the first world problem I have, I know.)
    Rave – We don’t start skiing until Sunday, so have a cushion in case travel plans are disrupted.
    Rant – just a ton of things to get done, both at home and at work, before we leave.
    Rave? – long plane ride on which to sleep.
    Question – could the Popvillager who is going to Utah after New Years reach out again, if you have any suggestions for restaurants, etc? I lost the thread where we’d originally started discussing it.

  • Rave: Coffee with unspoiled milk – a better way to start my day
    Rave: Heading to the farm today, looking forward to some skeet shooting. If I can find rennet I’ll make ostkaka.
    Seriel fans – if you haven’t seen it, check out the SNL Seriel spoof. Very funny!

    • palisades

      Skeet shooting is on my 2015 bucket list. My friend does it in Charlottesville and it looks like so much fun.

      • I go out to Bull Run periodically, and it’s a blast.

        • I WANT TO DO THIS

          • And yes, that was enthusiasm, not a stuck caps lock key!

          • Shawess, I went clay pigeon shooting last year and had a blast (pun intended, har har).
            Though, I went down near Richmond at Old Forge Sporting Clays. With gun rental, ammo, and clay costs, it works out to about $1/shot. I’d recommend a 20 guage shotgun, less recoil and easier to aim, IMHO. The Italian Beretta I used was a beautiful gun, though I think it retails for nearly $2K 😮
            It was my first time shooting clays, but I was a really good shot! I hit 45 out of 50 clays. Let me know if you want to plan a trip, I’d love to go again this winter or in the spring! 😀

          • OP Anon, yes. Yes I absolutely do. I’ve only shot a gun once and it was a bear gun. I don’t want to do that again. The Beretta sounds like it’s more my kind of thing.

          • Wait – you rented a Beretta? WTF kind of range was this?
            And, you hit 45 of 50 your first time ever shooting clays? I assume you are an experienced hunter/marksman? Cause there’s no way that was your first time shooting . . .
            In any event, I would be up for a trip too.

          • OP Anon, I’m impressed with your shooting!
            The only target I hit was a stationary target (the clay pigeon propped up on a tree limb). We were using a .22 which had just a little recoil.

          • dcd – No, I am not an experienced hunter. Though I did earn the Rifle Shooting merit badge in Boy Scouts, but that was over 20 years ago and I really have not shot much since then 😡
            Old Forge Sporting Clays south of Richmond is legit, very Southern, and a very nice shooting club (it’s open to the public, look up the reviews on Yelp). They have a legit arsenal of very nice weapons that you can rent. Our trapper even took the time to show us how to use the Beretta shotgun, since re-loading is a bit tricky. This is the kind of place where people were driving fully loaded $50K Chevy trucks, hauling a $15K off-road 4×4 golf cart with a gun rack loaded down with 8 different guns. Southern “country boys” with money and lots of land go shoot there.
            We were shooting from a large stand, about 10 feet up in the air. The trap is located under your feet, so the clays fly out at various angles and speeds. The trapper was really impressed with my accuracy, but I think the credit is due to the gorgeous Beretta. It was an amazing gun, I’ve never shot anything quite like it.
            MPinDC: it’s going to be damn near impossible to hit anything flying at a fast speed with a .22; the bullet is TINY. It’s much easier to shoot clays with a shotgun which is packed with over one hundred pellets flying in a spray formation.

          • dcd – to be clear, I used a Beretta shotgun. I did not use a handgun.

          • Perhaps we were using a shotgun – my brother said the pellets flying would make it easier to hit the target. I’m still a lousy shot!

      • The PG county range is closer than Bull Run, and is a really good deal. They’ll rent guns and show you everything you need to know.

    • I Dont Get It

      I’m on episode 10! It was perfect for the 12 hour drive!

    • Enjoy the farm!
      I really didn’t like any Serial spoof -except- the SNL one. I think they totally nailed it.

  • Rant/Rave: Home alone for Christmas.
    Does anyone know of any volunteer opportunities in DC for Christmas?

  • SouthwestDC

    Rave: Spontaneous trip to Thailand booked! I’m used to planning trips months in advance, so this is kind of thrilling. Can’t wait to be soaking up warm weather and a new culture in three weeks.

    • Check out GranMonte vineyards! A friend of mine works there and I’ve been dying to go! They have elephants who go through the vineyards from time to time!

    • Have a great time! Where do you want to go in Thailand (outside of Bangkok)?

      • SouthwestDC

        We’re thinking Chiang Mai (maybe a stop at Ayutthaya on the way), and one of the beach towns. We only have 10 days. We’d like to see an elephant sanctuary and take a cooking class while we’re there!

        • Chiang Mai is lovely – good choice! I’d recommend flying between Bangkok and Chiang Mai (or you might be able to bus/train to Ayutthaya and fly on from there). With only ten days, best to maximize your exploring time and minimize travel time when possible.
          Although touristy, I’d still recommend eating at Cabbages and Condoms in Bangkok. And visiting the Jim Thompson Museum (and buying something made with Thai silk). Also, massages are really cheap : )

        • I enjoyed the Chiang Mai cooking school, we went to the market first and then the “school” which was a tin roof covered yard with little cooking stations,. We were in the middle of the lesson when the skies opened up, and just kept on going! Have fun.

        • I highly recommend the Patara Elephant Farm for an elephant experience.

    • If part of your trip includes Chiang Mai, go to Patara Elephant Farm. Can read the many reviews on TripAdvisor. It was on of the many highlights of my trip. Also go scuba diving. Even if you’re not certified or going to be certified, many dive shops offer 1 day discovery dive trips. Bangkok Airways was perfect for flying through out Thailand.

      • SouthwestDC

        I used to be scuba certified but hated it. Snorkeling would be fun though. Thanks for the elephant farm recommendation– that’s definitely something we want to do.

      • Highly recommend Patara Elephant Farm, it’s a little pricier than other sanctuaries but well worth it. They take pictures throughout the day with high end DSLRs and give you copies of the photos on DVDs.

        Maya Bay in Ko Phi Phi is amazing, I went towards the end of the day and only my tour group was there. I heard it can get crowded mid-day.

        Bangkok Air is also a great option. Your ticket price also includes access to their airport lounges with free food, beverages, and Wi-Fi.

  • Emmaleigh504

    Oh dear…. just saw a tweet that said “Basic Sauerkraut” and thought ugh, Basics are everywhere.
    My brain is screwy today.

  • Attention iindsay and any other interested parties — the current plan for the unofficial PoPville Christmas orphans get-together is:
    – 5 p.m. – dinner at Full Kee (Chinatown)
    – 7 p.m. – “The Theory of Everything” (Landmark E Street Cinemas)

  • Rave: Took a 3 hour nap when I got home last night, woke up and read for an hour, then went back to sleep. Definitely needed that.
    Rant: Found a second beetle in my apartment. Beginning to think my wreath is infested – definitely going in the trash tonight either way.
    Rave: Latkas with my cousin tonight!
    Rave: managed to grab an earlier flight thanks to the Northeast weather advisory!
    Rant: Can’t pull up my ticket via confirmation now and so I’m worried. Not looking forward to calling JetBlue.

  • skj84

    Rant: my coworker who got mad when I turned down his unsolicited advice yesterday. He was launching into this whole lecture on how he thought I could improve my sales technique and I politely stopped him. I told him if I wanted advice I’d ask for it, and he got so offended! I’ve proved myself as a top seller the entire time we’ve worked together and he isn’t a supervisor.

    Rave: going home to see the family tomorrow!

    • Just because it’s unsolicited doesn’t mean his advice wasn’t worthy. Seem like you were the rude one in this situation. My coworkers talk amongst ourselves all the team on how we can improve/resolve issues unsolicited or not.

      • skj84

        No I was not rude. He literally stopped me while I was busy to explain techniques I already know. I told him I already knew what he was talking about and he didn’t back off, and asked me to role play a situation with him. That’s when i asked him to back off. He was being condescending at that point. If I asked him to stop and he doesn’t listen I’m not the rude person in the situation. If I make it abundantly clear that I was busy and he doesn’t listen, I’m not the rude person in the situation. I wasn’t in some sort of distress when he came up to give me his grand advice.

      • skj84

        Nor was this a case of us bouncing advice off of each other. Completely different situation.

  • Rant: My office has a k-cup coffee machine. Considering we claim to be an engineering firm focused on sustainable design, I don’t really think this machine belongs in our office. But it gets used regularly by my co-workers. Many of whom fill a new styrofoam cup with every cup of coffee they drink.

    • We just got mugs for everyone in my office and don’t have paper cups anywhere in the building – maybe talk to your office management about doing the same? Or maybe look into the reusable k-cups where you fill it with your own ground beans?

      • We all already have coffee mugs, but the same reason people prefer k-cups also applies to the styrofoam cups. They’re convenient. It’s much easier to use a styrofoam cup and throw it away when done than it is to use a coffee mug that requires washing. Office management loves the k-cup machines. My emails about how wasteful they are just annoy them.

  • Blithe

    Rave: Almost done with my Christmas shopping.
    Rant: But not in time to mail things out for a pre-Christmas delivery.
    Rave: Oh well! I’m sure that my gifts will be well-received whenever they get there.
    Rave: Fun holiday celebrations over the weekend.
    Rant: My first encounter with Elf on a Shelf. Which I think is really creepy and possibly related in some malevolent way to the Patriot Act.
    Rave: Plans to decorate the gingerbread house TOMORROW! Maybe this will actually happen. Before Christmas!
    Rave: Virgil’s Cream sodas.

    • Did you see the article in the Post about Elf on the Shelf preparing children to live in a police state? It was (unintentionally, I think) funny.

      • I just don’t get how a product can burst onto the scene in 2005 and immediately proclaim itself a “tradition.”
        I guess it must have had some very good marketing from its creators for it to be able to get on shelves in Target, etc.

        • Emmaleigh504

          It’s only been around since 2005?? By the way the lovers of that evil thing talk, I thought it was a real tradition that I just didn’t know about since we didn’t do Xmas growing up. Now I hate it even more for being a fake, creepy tradition!
          Def think the Patriot Act is involved.

      • Blithe

        Nope, I haven’t seen it. I’ll look it up. Thanks!

    • I Dont Get It

      Re: Elf on the Shelf-snitches get stitches.

  • Rave: Loving that Crane (or is it a Herron) picture with the fish in his mouth, wondering just how did the photographer get that moment?? Saw two huge all white Samoyed dogs last night outside the Zara store downtown DC, really a nice sight. The pictures and setup on this popville site very peaceful, beautiful and thoughtfully laid out.

  • Pardon the link to a Buzzfeed article, but this seems so spot on to me. I love the way this 20-something lady deals with her family treating her like crap because she’s not married yet.
    http: //www .buzzfeed.com/johnc4197e36ba/my-sister-in-laws-lonely-christmas-cards-16imt

    • Those cards are amazing! Way to go Bridget! Your family sucks.

    • Related, and maginally less trashy: http: //www .businessweek.com/articles/2014-12-23/the-9-worst-questions-your-parents-will-ask-you-this-week-and-the-data-you-need-to-answer-them

  • RANT: Just got a notice that my insurance is going up $140/month. Sheeeesh – it’s officially become unaffordable 🙁
    Rave-ish: While I can technically afford it, I just don’t want to pay almost $700/mo. The cost has crossed over into “need to find new insurance” land. Sigh.

  • Quotia Zelda

    Additional Rant: I ordered presents for my daughters that I knew would not get here until January. That’s fine. However, the items were ready earlier and shipped over the weekend. Oh yay! Maybe they’ll get here! Nope, not until tomorrow, when we’ll be gone. I kinda wish they were still coming in January, rather than setting up the hope that was then dashed.

  • I want to know if our lonelyheart from yesterday decided to go visit his girlfriend and her family. Any chance he’s watching and can update us?

  • Need some last minute gifts ideas from local artists?
    For music lovers, CDs from local performer Roya – she plays Persian/flamanco/world music. http://royab.com/

    For fun art, notecards & T-shirts – http://www.branddave.com/freehand/home.html

    A little pricier, but commission a pet portrait from Betsy Karasik. http://www.betsykarasik.com/index.html

  • Rave: basking in my own “righteous wisdom” today.
    Rant: the fact that people still listen to Rudy Giuliani.
    Rave: feeling well enough to do some Christmas wrapping tonight.

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rave: acquired a duck, now all I need is Krispy Kremes!

  • Rave: my friends are still the best. Seriously, how did I get so lucky?
    Rant: Amazon isn’t offering overnight shipping on some last minute gifts, but that’s my fault. I’ve been pretty out of it this shopping season.
    I saw this late yesterday, but this is my take on the LDR breakup- an ex broke up with me while we were in an LDR and he did it the weekend after a romantic, surprise getaway he planned for us. I’m happy he did it by phone, but it bothered me for a long time that he acted like nothing was wrong that weekend. He had already started hooking up with someone else right before that trip though, so the reasoning was obvs different. I recently had a breakup that is somewhat similar to yours and doing it in person seems to have been the most palatable way with lots of hugging and crying, but it wasn’t LDR. Best of luck and be good to yourself, it’s hard to know you’re hurting someone you love even if it’s for the best long term. Boy, the short term sucks, but you’ll get through it. Not having the option to see them makes it easier too.

    • Anonynon

      Seriously….my ex moved 5 minutes away from me on a route that i had to travel though hundreds of times (to get to woodley park metro), thankfully iv only ran into her once….and it wasn’t that bad really. But still don’t like the idea that i could run into her.

      • You got trouble right below this BeagleBoy

        • Accountering

          This is excellent timing. I assume FridayGirl below is the ex that lives only 5 minutes from you?!

          • Accountering

            I think my favorite is this, from October 27th:
            October 27, 2014 at 10:28 am
            Rave: Things with friday girl are kind of sorta official now!
            Rant: She mentioned PoPville once this weekend so i probably should stop posting statuses haha

          • Nice catch below. I laughed at that when I saw it. Haha. And no, actually, that must be a different ex because I live about 40 minutes away by public transit (phew!).

          • Anonynon

            That is a different ex…but like an actually ex me and friday girl never really hit that status. Contrary to that post, I took her saying she wanted me to treat her as her girl friend the wrong way 🙂

  • Rant: Stolen Christmas packages left on the front porch. Note to self to request signature delivery from now on.

    Rave: Spent time with college friends in LA last week and attended one of my best friend’s weddings – it was beautiful! And I feel so refreshed after having not seen many of them for 2+ years.

    Rave: Apparently I am the “Friday Girl” that has been referenced on this site many times before. I read these fairly often so I’m not sure how I didn’t come across those posts earlier, but it gave me a good laugh today. I can assure you all that I am not particularly crazy, have had several fine relationships in the past (even while working and in school at the same time), have been told I’m not particularly high-maintenance by people who know me, and I am quite proud of having enough discretion to keep my private life off of a public forum. So it all worked out for the best! ^_^

  • Paging textdoc to the floor… Please post links to all previous posts regarding Friday girl so I can refresh my memory. I can go home pop popcorn and refresh my mind. Thanks in advance.

  • Pinging bagelboy…..hang in there bro. It’s just light hearted fun…. ***don’t ever tell your dad this story.

    • Emmaleigh504

      +1 Don’t leave us!

    • Andie302

      Agree 🙂 In light of all this dating gold I can share a fun dating story with you! I went home to DE and out to the neighborhood bar one weekend and saw some younger guy that I didn’t know. It’s a small town, so of course one of the girls I was with knew his name. He was probably standing about 15 feet away for most of the night, but instead of just going up and talking to him I tried to be cute and send him a facebook friend request. I didn’t get a response right away so I figured he wasn’t interested, and shortly after I sent it he took off for the night. I woke up the next morning (of course with a hangover) and a notification that he had accepted my friend request. The only problem: I sent the request to his dad with the same name. I wasn’t sure whether to let it go, or explain, so I sent a short note saying “I meant to friend your son, he was out last night”. That guy is still my FB friend 🙂 I think he went to school with my mom.

    • Agreed, I love FBB. I also wonder if we should go to the Mad Hatter one night and tie one on. And by the Mad Hatter I mean the Raven.

  • Usually I try to use my search powers for good and not for evil, so I’m not entirely sure this qualifies… but here, as best as I can tell, is the chronological story of Formerlybagelboy and Friday Girl.
    http://www.popville.com/2014/09/random-reader-rant-andor-revel-1146/#comment-835967 [not much discussion]
    http://www.popville.com/2014/09/random-reader-rant-andor-revel-1148/#comment-837259 [not much discussion]
    http://www.popville.com/2014/09/random-reader-rant-andor-revel-1159/#comment-846014 [not much discussion in this one]
    http://www.popville.com/2014/10/random-reader-rant-andor-revel-1168/#comment-853077 [not much discussion]
    http://www.popville.com/2014/10/random-reader-rant-andor-revel-1172/#comment-855658 [not much discussion]

    • This.is.amazing.
      I have to man the office for a few more hours since everyone else is traveling, but I have nothing to do so this is perfect timing. Off to read! ᕕ(ᐛ)ᕗ

    • Also, dcd wins again: http:// www. popville.com/2014/09/random-reader-rant-andor-revel-1146/#comment-836550 . He called this one EARLY.

      • Even a blind squirrel finds a nut every once in a while.

        And, textdoc – seriously, how do you do that?

        • I figured out the schematic for how RRRR links are named/numbered and then went forward/backward chronologically by going up/down one number. In each RRRR, I searched for “bagelb.”

    • Thanks for finding all these! I’m actually pretty interested in what qualifies as being an “interesting” person since I apparently have “nothing interesting going on” in my life. Ouch.

      • Tch. Different things interest different people. I’m guessing you just don’t share everything at once/think that things in your life are par for the course and not worth mentioning (which I do, but others might find my “same old, same old” interesting). And for the record, your posts on here make me want to be friends with you…

        • Aw, thanks. Actually, I’d love to join the HH sometime if there’s one coming up and meet some of you.

          • We’d love to meet you too!
            JustinBC has been arranging unofficial PoPville happy hours, usually one a month (with the exception of November, when there was an official PoPville happy hour, and December, when people were too busy).

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