Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • Rave: It’s winter break! I’ve had a really rough first quarter and a half, so this break is badly needed.
    Rant: I have no plans or desire to travel, so it will be pretty quiet and boring here
    Rave: 10 days until I move back to Woodley Park! I’ve been by the house several times in the last few weeks and it looks really nice; LL has done TONS of upgrades. I’m excited about the large refrigerator and having a dishwasher for the first time in years especially.
    Minor rant: dryer stopped working in the temp place and LL/roommate doesn’t seem to be in a rush to fix it.
    Less minor rant: other roommate is annoying the crap out of me, mostly with regards to not respecting my privacy under the guise of helping me (i.e. instead of returning a borrow item to me while I’m in the house or leaving it in a common area, going into my bedroom without permission and putting it there). Am I being too uptight about this?

    • “Am I being too uptight about this?”
      A little bit. Did you tell him/her not to go in your room? If not, you can’t expect them to be a mind reader. If they disregarded your previous instructions to not enter your room, then you can be upset.
      That said, I don’t want to see unnecessary clutter and crap in the common areas. No one knows when you’ll be returning home to put it away. That’s how homes get messy.

      • No, I never told her not to go in my room but I’ve never had that issue before. Everywhere else I’ve lived, and everybody else I’ve lived with has stayed out of closed doors. The LL never goes into my private space and she owns the damn house.

    • skj84

      I don’t think you are. I think roommate should ask first before entering your personal space.

      • Emmaleigh504

        especially if the door is closed. closed door= do not enter

        • Yeah. I meant to ask if iindsay typically left her door closed — if so, the roommate had no business opening it. The roomie could’ve put the borrowed item directly in front of the door.

          • I always keep my door closed

          • Which is a great idea until iindsay steps on it accidentally because she couldn’t see it in the dimly lit hallway. I feel like we’d be hearing a rant about a borrowed item being left on the floor in the hallway too.
            I don’t think it’s an obvious invasion of privacy to step into someone else’s room to return a borrowed item. I can understand if it’s not your preference, but it’s not like there’s a universally understood rule against. If they’re routinely going in there for all sorts of other reasons, that’s different.

          • I’m with Krampus on this one.
            If I borrowed something and left it on the dining room table for the owner to “put it away,” it would likely sit there for six days. Hence why I’d rather leave it on their bed, instead of cluttering up the rest of the house. Same goes for leaving stuff in the hallway on the floor, which someone will inevitably trip over.
            Living with roommates over the year has taught me one valuable lesson: never under-estimate people’s laziness.

          • So you couldn’t text the person to say, hey, I left x sitting front of your door since your door was closed? I just don’t get why running the risk that someone is going to be mad you went into their room is preferred over a drop and text or leaving it on a dining table. If it’s been there for more than a day just say something like hey, move your stuff. I’ve lived with roommates for 4 yrs, and I have never once thought to go into someone’s room without permission, and even when I need to go in to get cable installed, etc I always tell them when it’s happening.

    • Andie302

      I think if it bothers you then you should mention it, but don’t expect them to know if you haven’t said anything. I always try to ask myself “Would I care if the roles were reversed?” The roommate might’ve thought it wasn’t a big deal. I would set the record straight if it bothers you.

      • I’ve never told a roommate not to go in my room same as eating my food, and no, I’d never expect either thing to happen as a result. I don’t loan things out, but even if I did, why not just leave it on the table or wherever? The standard shouldn’t be whether or not you’re bothered by the same action (some people are very cool with lots of strange things), but whether we’ve discussed this situation. Would I eat someone’s food simply because they never told me not to…of course not.

    • I used to just put things on my roommate’s bed that I borrowed/packages/things I was afraid would get broken if I had someone coming over (like laptops left on coffee tables – one spilled drink and no one is happy). I never did it to invade privacy – I was trying to be helpful.

      • I guess if that’s how it was always done, that’s fine, but I just can’t imagine not having a high shelf to put it on, dining table, kitchen counter, etc. My roommate would have to walk past all these things to put something in my room. Also if my roommate was a friend prior to living together it would likely make more sense.

        • I’ve always lived in small 2br apartments with craigslist roommates, until I got my own place. We never had a great place to deposit packages, and it did always feel weird walking into their room, but I would just deposit stuff on their bed and leave.

          • I share a foyer with another unit, and they receive large packages. I am able to place the boxes in a way that doesn’t block the stairs or door in a much smaller space than an apt. It doesn’t make sense to do something that feels weird simply to avoid clutter. You also could have slid it into the room without going in. I guess I’ll just tell future roomies not to go into my room.

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: people who don’t understand that when most people at work are taking leave, that includes support staff. This is not a slow time for us, quit bitching that we aren’t getting to your work fast enough.
    Rant: supervisor who wont let us tell people we are short staffed, so they can understand why it’s taking longer than usual to get to their work.
    Rave: I’m not the boss or the front desk person, so people aren’t bitching to me directly.
    Rave: super busy means I’ll be hitting my very ambitious new production goal this month.

  • Rant: The flu. I might have to cancel trip to my parents for Christmas. Two coworkers also down for the count.
    Rave: I guess this means I start vacation today. I will be healthy to see them and my sister, neblings and B-I-L in a warm place at the end of the week.

    • Emmaleigh504

      drink lots of fluids and get lots of rest! I’m rooting for you to make it to the warm vacation!
      And as my grandfather always reminded us, “it’s the relapse that will kill you.” so take care after you feel better too!

  • SFT

    Rave: The holiday music station on Sirius XM. I love Christmas music!!!
    Rant: I have heard some of the worst covers ever. I think the Dolly Parton rendition of “Baby it’s cold outside” was one of the worst, followed closely by Madonna’s ‘Santa Baby’.
    Rant: After hearing Baby It’s Cold Outside about 50 times now, I just want to punch that guy and tell him to let the girl go home. She will be fine to walk a few blocks on her own. Quit plying her with alcohol and kisses, just lend her a coat and unlock the door, she clearly wants to go home!

    • HAHA we listen to the holiday music station on Pandora at home…often while lighting the Hanukkah candles. But, then you realize it’s like the same 10 songs…

    • KSB

      Over the weekend, I decided Lee Ann Rimes’s version of Rockin’ Around the Christmas Tree is my absolute least favorite Christmas song. There was some tough competition for this title, but she wins it in my book.

    • I have XM in the car and yesterday I had to put the Jam Band station on to get away from the Christmas musice (although “Santa’s Got a GTO” on Underground Garage was pretty fun). Now I’m haunted by the thought that I’ll be in the car and Phish playing “12 Days of Christmas” will come on.

      • SFT

        I had Backspin on yesterday and they played ‘Christmas in Hollis’. Now that’s a great Christmas song!

        • From today’s Post:
          “This time of year, Run-D.M.C.’s Darryl McDaniels doesn’t like to leave the house. “I’m scared to go to the mall, because every five steps somebody’s screaming, ‘It’s Christmastime in Hollis, Queens!’ Kids, grandmothers, it’s crazy,” McDaniels says. “I can’t be going shopping till after Christmas.”

          Run-D.M.C.’s “Christmas in Hollis” is a modern holiday standard, making McDaniels a member of a vanishingly small club: Most lyricists of classic Christmas songs are dead. “

    • It’s not Christmas until I hear a crappy cover of “Fairytale of New York”.

      • Allison

        The one that drives me nuts (besides any rendition of Little Drummer Boy, and I mean *any* rendition) are the 1950s recordings of the kids sing-yelling “I Saw Mommy Kissing Santa Clause.” NOOOOOOOO!

    • I HATE “Baby It’s Cold Outside”. I used to think it was really cute, then I really listened to it and realized just how creepy it was.

      • I don’t see it as creepy. The girl’s making excuses to stay too! I’ve always liked that one because I’ve been in her situation before.

        • Allison

          I agree. I think it certainly could be reasonably interpreted to be creepy, but the better interpretation is not creepy. (Yeah, I just lawyered that.) Also, I read somewhere that the song was originally thought up as a cute song for couples to sing at the end of Christmas parties to signal guests that it was time to go home. Not sure of its effectiveness, though…

          • Allison

            That is, the girl sounds extremely reluctant to leave and all her lyrics seem to be trying to talk herself into leaving (because she knows she should, for whatever societal reasons) but she doesn’t want to leave.

  • Aglets

    Rave: Essie drying drops . I’ve tried other quick-dry nail polish things in the past but this stuff is worth it!
    Rave: Szechuan House is back! They were my favorite cheapie chinese place on 8th st. back in the day, before they tarted themselves up as a fusion place and then tanked. Glad you’re back, Szechuan house!
    Question: Trying to figure out if it’s worth putting my cat through the turmoil of a car ride up to philly and back, a new cat and a new nephew. She’s friendly with me and not mean to people, but being a former feral kitty she’s extremely skittish. The visit is short (wednesday-friday) so i’m thinking of leaving her here with plenty of foods…

    • Emmaleigh504

      My cats would much rather stay home with lots of food and water than go on a roadtrip to strange places with strange people etc.

    • Can you get someone to come by on Thursday to check on her/scoop litter/etc? If so, I’d probably leave her home. But my cats both HATE the car (one of them freaks, hyperventilates, and defacates on the under-10 minute drive to the vet’s office), so I may be biased.

      • One of my cats poops and starts salivating within minutes of being in the car. We try to avoid taking him in the car as much as possible, and NOTHING has worked to prevent the car sickness. I’m glad to here my little guy is not alone in the car sickness issue!

    • anonymouse_dianne

      Ask your vet, but OTC Benadryl can make them sleepy and make the car ride less of a struggle.

    • special_k

      This has always been a big debate for me–leave the boys at home and have someone check on them once a day or bring them over to a friend’s house where they’ll have someone around a lot more, but don’t know where they are or what’s going on. Since it’s a short visit, I think leaving her home is best, but I would try to get someone to check in on her on Thursday.

    • Accountering

      Leave him at home. He is going to wind up sleeping all day anyways, and as long as there is plenty of food and the litter box is empty, he will be fine. I wouldn’t even stress about having someone check on them. What is going to happen in two days?
      Your rant here should be that you have to go to Philly! Haha 🙂

      • Aglets

        I love philly- kinda want to move back after 18 years here. Also, there is a little meatball of a nephew waiting and I LOVE HIM SO MUCH

      • “I wouldn’t even stress about having someone check on them. What is going to happen in two days?”
        I was saying something along these lines once to someone from the rescue group I adopted my cat from. She said something about having heard enough horror stories about bad things happening to cats left alone that she recommended having someone check on them every 24 hours.

    • We’ve taken our older cat up to NJ for the past two years, but her health has been failing recently, so I didn’t want to leave her home alone (she’s used to constant human interaction and twice-a-day wet-food feedings). Bad kidneys + 5-hours in the car = first time she couldn’t hold it until we got there. Very frustrating and stressful car ride. I’d advise against it if you can help it.

      • Maybe if you had to take her somewhere and she can go in most situations, do a temporary litter box with a cheap baking pan on the road. You can just toss it after. That does suck though.

    • have a safe trip to Philly and a good time seeing your new nephew!

      Leave the cat at home. There’s lot of cat sitters!

    • For what it’s worth, I’m leaving my cat at home (Fri-Sun). She’s friendly and social, but does not get along one bit with my parents’ cat, so for any trip that’s just a few days I know she’d rather stay at home.

  • binpetworth

    Rave: Super quiet at the office. Finally get to finish a month-long project that I’ve been doing in bits and spurts without interruption today.
    Rant: Dry air. I need to invest in a humidifer pronto. Every morning I have a nosebleed and scratchy throat. And my poor kitty has dandruff, probably also from the lack of moisture.

  • Rant: walked by a car that had its window smashed in on my way to metro this morning.
    Rant: backpack was in the back seat. When will people learn?
    Rant: Woken up early this morning by my darling daughter, who is at least screaming slightly less than she had been. Poor kid is uncomfortable, but 4 days of screaming on and off is exhausting.
    Rave: Finally out of the house on my own today! I’m at work! Yay!

  • Rave – Last day of work for this year!!
    Minor Rant – My parents and my SO’s parents are meeting for the first time this weekend and I’m nervous about it. There are cultural and political differences between our parents… I just hope everyone will be on their best behavior.

  • Rant: Last night, a man at 13&M was yelling, “help! I’m being attacked! Please call the police!” So I looked outside and it definitely didn’t look like an attack, but it looked like a heated argument. I called the police (and so did many people, apparently). Not more than 5 minutes later, about 5 cop cars show up…and the guy yelling “HELP!” had left! So the police were there with no one to question. Luckily, a few witnesses told them what happened (I guess since they were talking to the cops) but I mean really – if you’re telling people to call the cops, stick around! WTF? What a waste of resources.
    Rant: parenting. God I need a vacation.
    Rave: made some delicious soup and I get out early every day from work. Which is a nice change of pace. Also made my moms famous meatball sauce – she obviously usually makes meatballs, but my kid was sucking the sauce out of them and not eating the meat balls…so I figured why not just serve the sauce on pasta or over soft cooked chicken. The sauce is SO good I could drink it.

    • Accountering

      To your rant: If I was being attacked, and could escape, I would do that. I am not going to stick around and continue being attacked so the police can lock someone up?!?
      It isn’t a waste of resources. They were doing their job, and responded to a potential violent issue. This time it wound up being unnecessary, but it sounds like everyone did the right thing here to me?

      • Emmaleigh504

        I agree. If it were me and could escape I would, and then call the cops myself from a safe place. Jindc, you and everyone else were right to call the cops. Glad no one was hurt.
        Now tells us more about this sauce!

        • 1 jar of heinz chili sauce; 1 jar of the sauce filled with water; 1/4 cup brown sugar, 6-7 crushed (cheap) ginger snaps (non-cheap ones won’t disolve), handful of golden raisins. Cook until thickened. If you want to do meatballs, make small ones and cook in the sauce on low. Add more water if you need to. SO good.

      • + 1. I don’t think looking out the window a couple times provides nearly enough information to determine whether it was a waste of resources. I agree that remaining on scene is not exactly a top priority when one is being attacked.

        • Ok, like I said, “waste of resources” maybe wasn’t the right term. But if the people “attacking” you (I was watching, no one touched him and there was a woman with him trying to get him to stop screaming) flee, and you’ve asked people to call the cops, you should stay to make a report.

          I’m glad the cops came so quickly, but he couldn’t even stay to give them an idea of who to look for?

          but hey, at least I called the police when hearing someone say “help! I’m being attacked!”. plenty of people wouldn’t.

          • Accountering

            You did the right thing calling the police. Given that the attackers had left, I agree, he should have probably hung around to speak with them. Its hard for me to know how I would react in that situation though, and presumably if he was yelling to call the police, he felt that he was in danger, and I don’t think thats unreasonable.

      • He wasn’t being attacked, though! There were some women yelling at him – He was at his car with the door(s) open. He could have VERY easily gotten in to his car and called 911 and driven to a safer place. Or locked the doors and called 911. Multiple people outside were saying they were calling the police. And the people ran away. So he left, too? It doesn’t make sense.

        Maybe “waste of resources” is the wrong term, but it wasn’t necessary for him to yell that he was being attacked and to call the police if it weren’t true (FWIW I was watching out of my window and no one touched him). We have a cop in our building who was off duty and went to help and had called for back up, but everyone left. I think that’s dick. Make a report!

    • Yes, I imagine the witnesses speaking to the police are in a much better position to help them determine if it was a waste of resources.

  • Rant: My mom (who’s visiting) got taken in by the “I need to pay the locksmith” scam while I was at the office on Friday. Gahhh.
    Rant: Woke up in the middle of the night last night with a sore throat.
    Rave: Went downstairs and two mugs of hot lemonade, and felt much better when I woke up a few hours later.

  • Rant: Verizon internet service at my apartment has been absolutely terrible for the past month. Every evening I have bandwidth issues and am unable to maintain a connection to web services.
    Rave: 2 day week

    • Pablo Raw

      I’m sure there’s a price difference but I’ve had both Vz and Comcast cable internet, the difference in speed is very noticeable (Xfinity wins). It also includes online HBO.

    • FWIW we have Comcast and regularly have issues when trying to watch Hulu or Netflix and have very little doubt it’s them slowing down our service because we’re using those services. I don’t think it matters who your provider is anymore. blech.

    • houseintherear

      Buying my own modem, the new fancy pants kind that I can’t remember the name of, changed everything for my home internet connection. And I don’t have to pay the stupid fee every month so it’ll pay for itself in 8 months. Might be worth trying.

      • Pablo Raw

        I did the same, I just bought the one the Comcast technician recommended me. Also I have extra RAM because I work with photos. Maybe that helps.

      • KSB

        This is timely – we just added home phone for a variety of reasons (working from home more with spotty cell reception being the primary one) and are having Comcast modem problems yet again. First modem (just internet) was terrible; we added TV and were sent a new one, which worked much better. Now the modem with the digital phone line is back to leaving us pretty much offline between the hours of 7-11 pm. No wifi (which means no baby monitor via drop cam, no Netflix, no iPad games, no nothing.)
        It’s maddening. I’ll have to explore the buy-your-own-modem route now.

        • Pablo Raw

          Since I have my own, I don’t care much but I’ve seen something on the news about Comcast having a new service in which people have wifi coverage everywhere by using the modems that they give to people; apparently they are not allowed to use the wifi of people who owns the modem. I was able to install it myself over the phone.

  • Accountering

    Rant: Overdid it at brunch yesterday. Managed to combine that with food poisoning, and woke up after a 4-hour nap to puke my guts out, probably 3-4 times over the next few hours, interspersed with naps on the couch. Finally went to bed at 1:30am, but had to get up to go to work today.
    Rant2: No sick days in December because my boss is out for the whole month after hip surgery.
    Rant3: Still feel like death.
    Rave: Caps – keep winning please!

    • Accountering

      Yuck. Still feel like crap, but maybe a bit better. Super tired feeling coming on strong now though. I will definitely be heading home early!

  • Rave: First time back in the gym for a week. It felt good to move.
    Rant: I slept like crap last night. Coffee is fueling me through the day.
    Rave: 2 day work week! A two week vacation is on the horizon.
    Rave: I survived the early family Christmas get together on Saturday night. I’m glad I got to see my little sister before her due date. I’ll be out of town when the little one comes.
    Rant: My poor sister is so pregnant and so uncomfortable. I feel so bad for her. And I was really annoyed with the hovering, fussing, clucking family members. She’s a grown woman who is still working full time at the end of her pregnancy. If she doesn’t want to put her feet up, I think she’s grown enough to make that call for herself.

  • Quotia Zelda

    Rave: Potential disaster averted when I remembered that my BIL’s girlfriend is very likely to be at Christmas this year. Present has been acquired!
    Rave: A fun family weekend, including some 1-on-1 time with Eldest Zelda. It’s good for our sometimes-rocky relationship.
    Rave: Productive trip to Sephora for sunscreen and lipstick. I seem to buy a lot of lipstick.
    Rant: Taking daughter and her friends to the mall on the Saturday before Christmas. Middle Zelda is lucky I love her so much.

    • Emmaleigh504

      Loved Cricket’s picture from the weekend! She looks so good as a blonde! I hope she stays blonde forever and ever and ever!

  • skj84

    Rave: I had a great time at the game on Saturday! Tailgating before the game was fun, and the energy in the stadium was infectious. Plus the Skins got a win! Totally worth seeing the dejected Eagles fan’s trudging out of the stadium. Especially since the group near me was in full celebratory mode until that last interception. I hope I can go back for the Dallas game next week. Oh also JustinBC, were you at the game? I swear I saw you or your doppelganger there.

    Rant: I have to travel Christmas Eve. I’d rather leave tomorrow, but the bus home only departs twice a day. I would have to leave work early and I need to get my hours in. We’re closed the rest of the week.

  • hispanicandproud

    Rave: Leaving to New Mexico today! Can’t wait to eat some green and red!
    Rave: Helped tackle a thief who stole a lady’s wallet at Pepco on Saturday. Left my doggie at the counter and bolted out the door to help catch the criminal. Security arrived in minutes. Lady was happy!
    Rave: New office mates coming in January. Always a revolving door here and always feels like a new office every few months.
    Rant: Another office colleague bites the dust and quits. I should never make friends with these people.

  • Bear

    Rave: Two day week, and might work from home tomorrow so today will be my only day in the office. Also taking next Monday off, so I’ll have a whole week of not coming in to work. Hooray!
    Rant: Have been trying to arrange a meeting with a client for a while now and we can only find time to do it on the 31st. Not only is it NYE, my train isn’t running that day. It’ll take me twice as long to get to and from work…might just borrow the car and drive.
    Double rant: Got tipped off to some pretty sketchy stuff in my boss’s past. Makes me like him that much less, not that I liked him much in the first place.

  • Was out sick Friday, got a call that I had been promoted. What a rollercoaster the last 2 months have been, my dad passed away in November so there’s been days where I feel pretty low. Being sick doesn’t help, but that call sure did.

  • Mug of Glop

    Rave: I can drink my water again!
    Rant: Not really that confident that it’s any safer than it was last week, or really that it’s ever been terribly safe.
    Rave: There are so many toxic substances at work that I really shouldn’t be concentrating on the water at home…
    Rant: Uncertainties in everything.

  • Rant: Milk went bad very quickly – I found out not by smell but by taste. Ugh, and then drinking black coffee 🙁
    Rant: Even though my deep ancestors thrived in less hospitable climes while still chasing after their reindeer herds, I want to hibernate from December until March.
    And rave: More interesting work is coming my way and I have three trips scheduled for next year, all to places I haven’t been (Haiti, Mozambique and Ghana).

  • Andie302

    Rant: I too overdid it at brunch yesterday.
    Rant: I didn’t sleep last night because of my 5 hour nap yesterday.
    Rave: I actually feel pretty stellar for having drank so much and not sleeping.
    Rave: Loan conditionally approved
    Rant: but additional paperwork/details are needed for the underwriter.
    Rant/rave: It’s almost Christmas. I’m not ready, but everything will hopefully come together!
    Rave: Closing on the 30th, then hosting NYE the next night!

  • Rave: Wrapping paper, ribbons, and bows. I find wrapping presents to be really relaxing.
    Rave: Getting back into knitting after a long break.
    Rant: Being at work with three other people.
    Rave: Being at work with three other people means wearing jeans and taking a long lunch.
    Rave: I’ve been running consistently even though it is pretty cold for my lungs. Usually I just up in sub-40 degree weather but I’ve been pushing through! Looking for a good May/June race to train for.

    • Enjoy knitting – mom my restarted a few years ago and does amazing things. She knitted a little stuffed dragon for my son; a few yoda hats; socks. She loves it and even goes to knitting “shows”

      • That stuffed dragon sounds adorable. It’s great that your mom got back into it and is really enjoying it! I’ve been knitting on and off for over a decade– I really just need to stick with it!

    • Yay, hope you’re having fun knitting. I’m in a knitting group that meets at the Columbia Heights Panera on Saturday afternoons (from about 2-3ish) if you ever want to knit with us.

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rave: found out fave boy cousin sent my xmas present to my sister’s. I was beginning to think I wasn’t getting any presents this year!
    Rant: so far I’ve only gotten 2 presents. I feel like a spoiled brat, but where are my other 3?! Favorite aunt usually has presents sent to my house way before xmas!

    • Quotia Zelda

      It was my fault. It came in the box with the kids’ presents, but I didn’t actually look at all the tags. I just stuck them under the tree.
      Also, fave girl cousin is slow this year – things have only just started to arrive from her. Ditto your favorite aunt – nothing yet.

      • Emmaleigh504

        I guess the kids have slowed favorite girl cousin down. I hope favorite aunt didn’t order xmas presents from the same place bday presents were ordered! Mine never came! It took her 2 months to get her money back. Big headache for her.

  • Rave: Leaving for France on Wednesday & seeing my love!
    Rave: Camping in Spain during my trip.
    Rant: No rants, just happiness 🙂

  • palisades

    Rave/Rant: I love Capital Bikeshare, but there isn’t a station even remotely close to me. I know you can go on their website and request a station. Does anyone know what their criteria for adding a station is? Does it require a certain amount of requests or something? I desperately want one near me.

  • Rant: House stress, moving stress, girlfriend stress., sick daughter, cat stress, decorating stress, parents arriving this afternoon stress.
    Rave: Getting off work early. Can start drinking early.

  • Rave: Last day of work for almost two weeks! Heading home tomorrow. 🙂 Then Florida for New Years. Keeping my fingers crossed for warm weather.
    Rave: Last work Monday for 2014!
    Rave: Finished Christmas shopping over the weekend. Hooray!
    Rave: Had a fun mini holiday party/girl’s night/housewarming party at my place last night. Made some tasty mulled wine which I think turned out pretty well.

  • Rave: no accidents with the foster since instituting treats for bodily functions had outdoors.
    Rant: she’s already gaming the system and peeing twice on our walks.
    Rave: I’m on vacation!
    Rant: I still need to finish some work.
    Rave: tonight is single girl cocktail and movie night on the couch and my foster is a shameless snugglebug.
    Rant: off to the outlets, wish me luck.

  • SFT

    Question: i am roasting a whole duck for Christmas dinner (first time ever cooking a whole duck). Has anyone ever done this? Any tips?

    • This looks like a good method: https:// food52 .com/recipes/9115-slow-roast-duck and I’m tempted to make it now, too!

      • Emmaleigh504

        This is the way I do it! Except I don’t check it every 1/2 hour. I just leave it until the flip. Save the duck fat! It makes a great roux! Use left-overs for duck and mushroom gumbo!

    • Sounds delicious! It’s been several years since I’ve roasted one whole, but keep in mind it’s a lot fattier than chicken or turkey. A lot will render out, so I’d recommend a rack in your roasting pan.

    • Emmaleigh504

      I do it every year! It’s super easy. I’ll find the instructions I use and post a link.

  • Rave: close to Chirstmas so there’s not that many folks at work.
    Rant: Working in a swing space in the office which is just a room with a bunch of computers.The folks who are here are weird. One dude came in here loudly complaining about not wanting to be on call today andanother buy sitting next to me was eating something with a God awful smell to it.
    Rave: Got the week after New Year’s off. Can’t wait to leave to go home and see the family.
    Rant: High blood pressure. I’m scared cause my gandmother died of a massive heart attack while in her 40s. I changed my diet to a low sodium one, checking labels and all that but I’m still a little nervous.

  • Rave: We finished holiday shopping super early this year, and now I can just kick back for the next two weeks in a quiet office
    Rave: Excitement to make Christmas dinner
    Rant: I don’t have any great recipe ideas this year except a to make fennel-orange challah (a nod to Judaism for the three of five guests at said dinner). I also want to make a panettone, but that could be sweet bread overkill.
    Rant: Getting nervous about puppy’s arrival in a few weeks and trying to cram dog info into my head. I know puppies are a ton of work and that doesn’t scare me, but I just want to make sure I’m handling that work well, if that makes sense.

  • Rave: Passed my martial arts test, so I’m now a blue belt. I can teach classes now. Woot!
    Rant: Unintentionally stopped someone from moving to purple. We’re taught to be able to handle a 50lb heavier opponent who knows a lot less and my weight was too much for her.
    Rave: She wants to work with me on the above.
    Rave: Played the good not-gf and visited zoolights with my lady.
    Revel: Two weeks til closing on my new condo.

  • Rant: vacuum broke 2 hours before guests were coming over…
    Rave: neighbors who let me borrow theirs 🙂
    Rant: Won’t see boy almost a month because…
    Rave: …I’m going to Hawaii!…
    Rant: …with my mom who uses me as a therapist since she and my dad separated.
    Rant: at work instead of spending one last day with the boy
    Very ranty today… sorry all. Wish I could get in on the holiday cheer :-/

    • Anonynon

      at least you have a boy!

      • True, and he said we’ll skype. But crawling into bed with my mother (maybe – we aren’t sure on the sleeping arrangements) is not the same as crawling into bed with him. Definitely will make me miss him more.

        • Anonynon

          yeah a month is a long time depending on how long he’s ‘been your boy’, but good communication is all you need 🙂 good luck! Also very jealous you are going to Hawaii…i think i decided thats where i want my next vacation to be…maybe this time next year

          • It’ll be 4 months on New Year’s. So like a quarter of the time we’ve been together… but we’re kind of used to long distance. He’s gone 3 nights/4 days a week. It just sucks.

    • Oh, additional rant: Had people over for a holiday party, and the handicapped elevator wasn’t working. The management company is out for the week. So awkward/embarrassing….

  • Question about Postmates service. It says the driver fee is included in the delivery fee right? So I ordered $35 in food and they charged a $14 delivery fee plus a $3 service fee…and it STILL had an optional tip amount? Do people really tip on top of that? It’s already over 50% in fees!

    • Postmates is an absurd rip off. I used it once in San Francisco while on vacation and my order for $35 worth of empenadas ended up costing me nearly $60. Apparently, no restaurants in SF do their own delivery; everything is now done through Postmates or other start-up delivery services. Wtf.

  • Rant: Trying to sort out which model of Go Pro camera for a Christmas present – does anyone have one?

    Prices from $129 – $399 are spinning my head. It’s for a friend who owns a bicycle touring company and organizes crazy beach camping events. But they all seem waterproof and good for action, looks like the pricier ones just have things like Wifi – Any advice would be much appreciated!

    • Pablo Raw

      One of my cameras has wifi and I rarely use it; but it is an interesting function; I can control the camera with my iPad; maybe that’s what you need to know, if the giftee wants to do that kind of thing.

    • The pricier ones have near-professional quality cameras and recording options; the middle range ones are still really good. All but the cheapest have WiFi (which is only used for remote control of the camera; it doesn’t connect to the internet or anything.) I think they all come with a nice assortment of mounts and a waterproof case. Unless your friend is a real techy, gadgety, and photo/video person with lots of time to edit videos, then the pricier ones will not be worth it. And only if they are not at all good with gadgets and tech stuff would I recommend the cheapest model. I’d say the Hero 3 or 3+ is the right mix of affordable and really good quality.

      • I have the GoPro HD Hero 2 and like it. If they are not heavily into photography and videography, the 3 or 3+ is probably the best bet. WiFi is useful if you are on vacation and want to share a photo or three with friends and family. Fire up your phone or portable internet device, connect it to the camera, get some pics off the camera, disconnect from the camera, connect the phone/portable device (ipod, ipad, etc) to the Internet via WiFi or phone data, and share!

    • gotryit

      I have been eyeing the GoPros for a little over a year now, but I just don’t like the idea of another expensive piece of equipment. $300 attached to my helmet??

      I recently got a Garmin Virb (I know, sounds dirty) for $100. The video quality is great for me (1080p I think, maybe some wide angle options). The interface is kind of sucky, but I can transfer the video to my laptop and work with it like that if I happened to catch something worthwhile. No wifi on it.

      And I feel a lot more comfortable with only potentially losing $100 instead of $300.

    • The top of the line model is really for power users that need super high res video, etc.

      I have the equivalent of the Hero 3+ Silver, and it everything I could ever use as a “normal” user. For example, I’ve taken it snorkeling and elephant trekking in Thailand, jetskiing in Mexico, skiing many times, etc. and never felt limited.

      • Thanks everybody – after some googling I found a great video on youtube by some camera guys who explained all 5 go pros. They actually like the basic go pro hero ($129.00) and recommend it for basic entry-level, nothing fancy option.

        Rant: That one is sold out of Best Buy, Target & Radio Shack at DCUSA.

  • greenroofgoddess

    RANT: Power is out on the 3400 block of Holmead. Pepco can’t give us any more information than saying they hope it will be up by 3 PM. On top of having the block’s water and gas out on Friday from 9 AM to 11 PM (thank you construction crew at 3467 Holmead for breaking the marked gas line), this is not cool. The construction crew is not making any friends on this block…

  • RANT: Absolutely sick to my stomach about having to break up with my girlfriend of nearly 3 years over the Xmas break. We have been long distance nearly the entire time and I just can’t do this anymore. My entire work life and network is here in DC and she’s across the country for the next 5 years, minimum.
    I can’t meet her emotional needs, I’m just terrible at being in an LDR. I’m not happy, I require more immediacy and proximity to sustain a relationship. She asked me to go to therapy so I can learn how to better communicate my feelings and emotions, which would hopefully allow us to feel closer to one another despite the difference. But a few sessions of therapy just made me realize that this relationship isn’t meeting my emotional needs. We’ve spend the last three years trying to force a square peg into a round hole.
    The worst part about this is that I’m spending Xmas with her family at their vacation home and then we are supposed to go to NYC for NYE. We are supposed to spend 12 days together. This is the only chance I have to break up – she’s deserves to have this done in-person and not over Skype.
    Ugh, any advice? I feel so nervous and have a pit in my stomach. I already know she’s going to have a total breakdown, but the writing has been on the wall for quite sometime 🙁

    • Emmaleigh504

      I had a LDR break up with me on a vacation we planned together b/c I deserved in person or whatever. I would have preferred a phone call. And our vacation did not include staying with family. Either do it before and don’t go, or have a ticket home as soon as you see her and break up with her. Don’t wait a couple of days.

    • Oh man, this is not good. I’m sorry for both of you because it is going to be painful, but if it’s the right thing then it has to be done. Honestly I have no idea what to recommend; I get that it has to be done in person but this has to be the worst circumstance in which to do it. I’m wondering if you shouldn’t just show up early, talk with her and then head on back out. Sure it’s going to ruin Christmas a little bit, but I don’t like the sound of spending a fake 12 days of cheer only to reveal at the end that you were just playing along. Do you have a plan?
      And I kind of agree with Emilie – in this particular case, I wonder if a phone call might actually be the kindest option, though not ideal.

    • Do not do it while on Xmas/NYE vacation with her. Do it before you go or do it a month from now.
      Her family is going to be mad at you for wasting their time coming, mad at you for ruining their Christmas for causing this pain during Christmas, and mad at you for being generally insensitive.

      • Emmaleigh504

        Yeah, I would totally fake it though the holiday and break up in late Jan. early Feb. Plan a quiet weekend with her to talk, that way there are no romantic expectations for the visit.

        • Emmaleigh504

          Sorry ALH, there is no good way to break up. Good luck!

        • Thanks for all the smart words, PoP’tariet.
          I think I will scrap my initial plan. Although breaking up over Skype is not ideal, from your collective experience it sounds like breaking up over a vacation/family holiday would be even worse. I still really love her as a friend and her family is wonderful, so I’m genuinely happy and enthusiastic to be with them over the holidays. I won’t be “faking” my happiness, though I will certainly feel wistful.
          The fact of the matter is that we are in very different places in our lives (I’m quite a bit older). The distance is also an insurmountable roadblock and I have no plans to move. So I will just wait until late January to have this conversation.

          • Why can’t/won’t you just cancel the trip?

          • Taking into account comments above and below this, I have to say that I’m on the “cancel the trip” team. Even if you genuinely enjoy her and her family’s company, if she’s an even remotely sensitive person and you’re not a top-notch actor/liar, she’ll know something’s up and this could make the holiday really, really uncomfortable for everyone. If you break up right now, you’re also giving her the quiet of the holidays to work through it, which she might really appreciate (if only in retrospect).
            So sorry you’re going through this — breakups are always terrible.

          • Emmaleigh504

            Hmm now you sound like you don’t want to give up your vacation. Think about her and her family. They don’t want you there just for you, they want you there b/c you are with their daughter. Break up now and let her enjoy her family time.

          • Honestly, I don’t care about the “vacation” aspect. The tickets were purchased with airline miles, I can cancel them at anytime and get my miles back. I have no problem spending Xmas with friends here in DC or just by myself.
            I guess my viewpoint is that if I break up (a.) before I leave (i.e. today) or (b.) while on the trip, I’ve ruined everyone’s holiday, knowing the dynamics of her personality and her family. That’s not really disputable. If I attend the holiday celebration and wait until a month after the trip, at least everyone got to celebrate in (relative) peace and harmony. That’s Option C. At this point, it seems like that this is the “least worst” option. Though, I could see why Option A might also be preferable (time to be with friends and family, distracted from the breakup, etc).

          • +1 to Emile, textdoc and Shawess. . Why on earth would you think it’s appropriate to spend 12 days with someone with whom you just broke up – at her family’s house, no less? Even if she insists you should come (and she may), you should decline, as it’ll likely be miserable for everyone involved. Plus, she may use it as a 2-week opportunity to convince you to stay in the relationship, and, no offense, you don’t seem like the most decisive person in the world.

          • I’m projecting what I would want here, obviously, but you’ve known this woman for a few years, please consider what *she* would want or would be least upset about, not what you prefer or the Internet thinks is a good idea.

            For me, I would feel so, so betrayed if you came to visit, hung with my family, waited a month then broke up with me, knowing all along that was your plan. The terms of your relationship have fundamentally changed, it’s just that she doesn’t know it yet. Please think about whether she would appreciate (and later feel “wistful” about) the chance to spend one last break with you, or if she would be upset at being the last to know (you’ve already told the Internet!) that her relationship is over. I’m not dating you, so mine’s not the opinion that matters, but I would be beyond angry at not being let in on the break up for six weeks.

            If you’re avoiding the breakup now because you don’t want to be the bad guy, not because you think it’s what she would want, were she able to choose, knock it off and end things now.

          • ALH, although I buy the idea that a breakup now would disrupt her and her family’s holiday, it would also given them all the benefit of processing that disruption when they are (presumably) taking time off work and together. I assume the breakup would not be well received at any time; would January actually be better? I assume that she and her family would be way busier then, so I guess my question is whether she would appreciate the distraction of a January breakup more than the disruption of a December one. I sort of doubt it, but you obviously know her better than we all do!

          • +100 for the breakup now option. It shows both her and her family much more respect for one thing. She clearly knows things haven’t been working (i.e. sending you to therapy.)

            Plus since it’s been a long-distance thing, breaking up after a 12 day visit in person sends her the message “oh, now that I’ve spent so much close time with you I’ve decided I don’t want a relationship.” No easy or best way – but I’d say definitely cancel the visit and do it now.

      • +1 agreed 100%

      • SFT

        + another 1. Either do it beforehand or in a month from now. You don’t want to fake it through Christmas – can you spent authentic time with her and cherish the weeks that you have together now?

    • Agreed with Emilie and Beau, especially Emilie’s “Either do it before and don’t go, or have a ticket home as soon as you see her and break up with her. Don’t wait a couple of days.”
      I think you should break up with her by phone/Skype and then cancel the trip (even if it means eating the cost of the plane tickets). Yes, phone/Skype is not ideal, but it’s not fair to her for you to embark on this trip _knowing you’re going to break up with her_ at some point during the trip.

      • I was in an LDR where the other party broke up with me while I was on a trip to his country to see him. It was a miserable couple of days while I was stuck there before I could go home. It turned out he’d been having misgivings for a while; I wish he’d just told me and stopped me from booking the trip.

        • Accountering

          I agree with this. Do this over the phone or skype. Do not continue wasting either of your time, flying cross country to keep this charade up. Under normal circumstances, relationships should be ended in person, but this is not a normal circumstance.

      • +1000 I would rather have someone end the relationship over the phone than fake his way through the holidays and dump me afterwards. Pull that band aid off quickly. It hurts in the moment, but in the end sooner rather than later is always better when it comes to terminating a relationship.

      • 100% agree with Textdoc.

    • Just had my boyfriend break up with last Tuesday…I would much rather have had it “done” before the holiday than feeling like we wasted our time together during the holidays….and that it was kind of a lie. I would be even more crushed if he came out to meet my parents and then broke up with me during the trip. I HIGHLY suggest you do not go on this trip and break up now. You can say that you have been thinking about this trip, your relationship and it is not working out for you.

      • *break up with me.
        PS: Totally doing it ok with it:) Nothing like the holidays to get all bridget jones and then come out like a phoenix rising from the ashes…I am also going on Jam Cruise in a week and gonna rebound it up like noones watching.

    • Honestly, if it were between having my BF come to visit my family with me for 12 days and break up with me there, break up with me after spending 12 days at my parent’s house (which will likely be awkward because she’ll know something isn’t right) or break up with me in some other fashion and letting me have that 12 days with my family as a healing time, I’d chose the latter. Acknowledge that you’d prefer to do it in person, but that you didn’t want to have to do it at her parent’s house. Or go to the parents house, do it soon, and plan to come home as soon as possible. Check out the most recent Hax discussion, I think she covered a scenario somewhat like this.

    • I think doing it beforehand might be better as well. I visited my now ex-boyfriend in early August while we were doing long distance for the summer, and I could tell things were a little “off” – he kept insisting things were fine, but I was a little on edge because I could tell at points that something was different. He came back to DC a few weeks after that, and broke up with me when he had been back for a few days. I felt kind of lied to and upset that I went out and met his family only a few weeks before, only to later find out that everything wasn’t actually okay.

      • My two cents worth – either break up with her now (via phone or Skype), or fly down, end the relationship right away then get on the next flight back to DC.

    • Emmaleigh504

      How ever you actually do the breaking up, I hope it goes as well as a break up can go.

  • Rave: Trip to NY last weekend. I went to see two plays. The Elephant Man was amazing! I was skeptical at first because I thought Bradley Cooper was just a pretty face, but he really can act. Watching him transform into Merrick was amazing, and you just forgot it was Bradley Cooper at all. It’s Only a Play was really funny. I laughed the whole way through, but if you don’t know a lot about different actors or Broadway shows it could get boring really fast. Nathan Lane was phenomenal as always, but Matthew Broaderick was stiff, and I couldn’t tell if it was part of the character or he’d pulled a muscle in his neck. Megan Mullally was really good, but should never do a southern accent. All in all, I laughed the entire time, so I’m glad I went.

  • Anonynon

    Rant: Dating
    Rave: Not giving up 🙂

  • Rant: sick again. This past weekend makes it three for December in which I was too sick to really do anything. This, for the second time, is a flu or really bad cold. I rocked a fever that finally broke Sunday. I had to take today off, which makes me feel like slacking (since I am recently back from 2 weeks of leave).
    Rant: the illogical demand that protesters condemn the assassination of two cops.
    Rave: not being at work today means maybe I can wrap some presents!

    • Sharpton condemned the murder of the two cops, as did the families of Mike Brown and Eric Garner. But you in all you righteous wisdom have a problem with this?

      • Ok, Judgy McJudgerson, I’ll bite.
        If you re-read what I wrote above, you’ll note that I didn’t say I have a problem with condemnation of the murders. They are abominable. What I find rant-worthy, if you’ll please re-read what, in my “righteous wisdom”, I wrote above, is the demand that protesters condemn these murders is illogical.

      • The problem with demanding that “protesters condemn the assassination of two cop” is that it is a demand that’s set up to fail from the outset. “The protestors” are individuals from the grassroots with no single overarching voice to speak for them.
        The vast majority of protestors don’t want to see anyone killed or disrespected (police or citizens), but how are they supposed to communicate that to the satisfaction of the union or the NYPD? According to the union and NYPD, the best way for protestors to “condemn the assassination” is to stop criticizing police tactics and stop protesting. Um, but maybe that’s a little bit fascist?

      • Beau said that it was illogical to demand that the protesters condemn the assassination of two cops, which is different from saying that he had a problem with anyone who did so. The protesters have every right in the world to exercise their right to free speech. Furthermore, it’s possible to value the sacrifice made by the police and other servants, while still calling for the system to be reformed and for individuals to be held accountable for their actions. Regardless of whether or not you agree with their beliefs, the protesters have nothing to do with a mentally ill career criminal who randomly murdered two cops in cold blood. Are they also responsible for his shooting a woman prior to ambushing these officers? That makes no sense. It’s illogical to demand that they apologize for his actions.

  • I Dont Get It

    Rant: The House No One Lives in. The repeated response of “We don’t live here” when asked where is the cork screw, clothing hangers, blender, cable TV , ink pens etc
    Rant: The Central Time Zone. It just seems lazy.
    Rave; Arby’s for lunch every day!

  • Rave: The new(ish) Thai menu at Tsunami sushi on 14th. Had a fantastic meal there this weekend (nice Xmas present from the Mrs.). Good portions and reasonable prices as well. I highly recommend it.

  • Rant: I had a little old flip phone that suited my needs and lasted and lasted for years so I never replaced it until it died last summer, at age 8! New phone is a cheapo sort of smart phone (LG) which I’ve never really liked since I got it… and now it has died too, after barely six months!
    Since it was cheap it wasn’t insured. I have no idea what the warranty status is.
    It’s so aggravating to think of having to deal with ATT to replace it at lord knows what cost.
    I just don’t want to deal with this.

  • Rave: Cookies and an orange for lunch!
    Rant: Found a dead bug that looked a lot like a giant roach in our house. Hope it’s the only one…

  • Query: About how much would the following cost to go from near the Georgia Ave.-Petworth Metro to National Airport?
    A. Regular taxicab
    B. Uber black car
    C. UberX

    • I don’t use Uber but generally pay about $18 for a cab to National from Columbia Heights. During rush hour, it might be around $25.

    • Anonynon

      You can request a quote using the APP and its usually fairly accurate (and if it goes over you can complain and say driver took a bad route). Why not just metro? Its on the Yellow Line… or cab to metro and metro

    • Thanks, Shawess and ColHi!

    • I work really close to National and the Ubers I’ve taken there from DC have been in the $10-12 range (although I’m never coming from as far north as Petworth). But you could use the fare estimator to get a quote couldn’t you?

      • I opened an account with Uber account but (shh) my phone is a dumbphone and I’ve never actually used Uber myself. I don’t even have the app on my iPod Touch.
        I’m not sure if it’s logistically possible for me to set up an Uber ride for my mom (who doesn’t have a smartphone either), but I don’t particularly want her to be on the street trying to hail a taxi at 5 a.m. So that’s why I was asking about both taxi and Uber options.

        • Hey, Textdoc, try this: https://m.uber.com/

        • Install the Uber app on your iPod touch. You can use the app (connected to your home’s wifi) to “hail” the Uber to pick her up at your house. Of course, when you install the app, Uber requires you to add a credit card to the account. So your mom’s ride will be charged to your credit card (unfortunately there’s no way for her to pay cash for the ride – that’s how Uber gets their percentage fee).

        • Shawess and OP Anon, thanks for the tips.
          Right now it looks like it might be a moot point — my mom is now looking at leaving sometime in the late morning, instead of bending over backwards trying to accommodate my brother.
          (My brother likes to work on Christmas Day, since he can earn double overtime. He wanted my mom to arrive early in the day because he’s going to work at 4 p.m. I told my mom that I was NOT going to take her to the airport at 4:30 a.m. just because my brother had chosen to work on Christmas Day. Hence my inquiries about Uber and taxis.)

  • Bonus raves: Lunch at Bangkok Golden (mmm crispy rice salad) and $2.25 gas at Costco!

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