Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • Rave: Got a pretty good night’s sleep even with less than 8 hours.
    Rant: People who sit on the outside of the seats on a bus then act preplexed when you ask to sit.
    Rave/rant: Lady cooking me some Italian food tonight. God, I hope she can cook!
    Rave: I only have to bring wine and dessert.

    • One time I was on a packed bus and had to sit on the outside seat because someone had spilled something wet all over the inside seat.

      Gesturing and explaining to people who wanted to sit down that they do so at their own peril was terrible.

      I never want that kind of responsibility ever again. It was the worst bus ride.

      • Mike

        That is a vision of hell. I wish I had never seen this.

        • I know. I know. I wish I had just gotten up but in the moment I thought it would be too cruel to make someone else go through that.

          It was a really questionable stain, too, if you know what I mean.

      • I’m anxious just thinking about this scenario.

      • I should have prefaced it with a perfectly fine seat. Your scenario makes me sad, but we’ve all been there, right?

      • This reminds me of the time I went to sit down on metro, and the person sitting on the inside seat put his hand out to prevent me from plopping down into a pool of coffee (let us hope) on that empty seat. So of course the result was that he got a big handful of my keister. I have never seen a person more embarrassed in all my life. I thought he might actually perish of discomfort. I thanked him kindly and moved away. I didn’t say anything about the ass grabbing, but I jumped like a bunny in the moment, so it’s not like he could tell himself he didn’t actually make contact, or I didn’t feel it, or whatever. I wonder if he just let the next person sit down, to avoid the possibility of touching someone else’s nethers. Or decided it wasn’t worth the anxiety, and got up to stand far away from the wet seat.

      • I had to do something similar when water was leaking from the ceiling onto a seat. It WAS a lot of responsibility. Next time, I’ll just stand so that others can some how communicate to fellow riders that that seat is in the “sit at your own risk” category….UGH.

  • justinbc

    Rave: I like this photo a lot. Always good to take stock of how fortunate we are to live in such a beautiful city.

  • austindc

    Rant: I can’t find me a pumpkin!

    Related question: Does anyone know where I can get a pumpkin around Columbia Heights?

    • Giant doesn’t have them?

    • gotryit

      Sure – I see them on lots of porches around Columbia Heights – take your pick. (KIDDING!)

    • justinbc

      I’ve seen lots at Harris Teeter and Home Depot, not sure about Columbia Heights specifically though.

    • Safeway on Columbia–only place I’ve been able to find them for the past 2 years, and a pretty good supply to boot.

    • The Safeway on Georgia Ave at Piney Branch had a huge display of nice and inexpensive pumpkins (all sizes) a few days ago (I know not helpful if you don’t have a car, but maybe useful for others). The Safeway at Georgia Ave might have them (?) but no guarantee – I ended up buying ours at the Safeway in Chevy Chase and there were only about 5 pumpkins left and they were all HUGE. I got one I could barely lift for $8.99. So stocking is def random, but in theory Safeways carry them…

      • laduvet

        Cleveland Park and Woodley are stocked. See the florist across from Woodley Metro or Brownville Market in CL. Easy bus ride from CH.

    • Mug of Glop

      Whole Foods in Logan has pretty consistently had pumpkins, as has a stand/market/whatever in front of a church that seems not to be but is near the National Cathedral complex on Mass Ave before Wisconsin, but those might both be a hike for you. I’m actually pretty surprised they’ve been absent from the Columbia Heights Community Market.

    • Ally

      It’s a tad gluttonous, but Postmates will deliver from Safeway and Whole Foods, and they most definitely have pumpkins. So, your pumpkin could get a ride in the car before it gets to you 🙂

  • Rave: I got myself in bed waaay early and got almost 10 hours of sleep last night.
    Rant: I don’t care where you stand on the going in sick vs. staying home thing, but my coworker’s hypocrisy is killing me. I coughed like once and she was in cubicle telling me I should go home so I feel better and don’t get anyone else sick. You can’t get my sinus infection! Sinus infections are not contagious! Now she has a cold and has been coughing and sneezing for days, but she “has too much to do” and can’t take a day off. She’s just spraying things with Lysol like that helps.
    Rave: looking forward to happy hour tonight.
    Rave: the bf and I have a date to one of our favorite places this weekend, the Fort Totten Transfer Station. Seriously, check it out on Yelp, 5 star reviews.

    • justinbc

      FTTTS rocks! I’m pretty sure my partner wrote one of those reviews heh..

      • The Fort Totten Transfer Station is amazing — the employees are really professional and courteous. They have a really well-organized operation.

        • I literally love the FTTTS. Yes, literally. It makes my heart pitter pat. Every time we’ve been I’ve left saying “Now THAT is worth every penny of our tax dollars.”

          • Accountering

            Totally agree. This place is spot on, and without a doubt the best run city function. Keep up the good work FTTS!

  • Rant: Major crush on this guy who rides my bus, but if I say anything and he doesn’t feel the same way it would be super awkward every single morning. Ughhh.

    • You could always catch an earlier bus. Maybe this guy likes you too, and he’s worried about the same things. Carpe Diem!

      • Do it! If it goes wonky just have a good laugh about how you went for it and move on. Unless you’re a total creeper, I doubt there would be residual awkwardness if it doesn’t work.

        • Yeah, go for it. You never know what happens, it might turn into something. Better to have tried than not and be stuck wondering what if?

    • justinbc

      I’m curious, have you actually spoken to him at all? Maybe try actually chatting before flirting. You can probably gauge by his response if he’s at all interested. I guess it all depends on whether you get on the bus first (and get to pick your seat next to him) or he does, and how early in the ride because sitting next to someone on an empty bus is a bit awkward.

      • I agree with Justin — take a step at a time. Maybe find a way to strike up a conversation without actively flirting, see how it goes, and take it from there?

      • And keep in mind, if he’s a good guy, he may be looking at you thinking he’d love to chat you up, but he’s afraid of creeping you out. Just smiling and saying something innocuous may be the the break he’s been pining for, late at night, alone….

        • justinbc

          +1, I ride the bus with quite a lot of attractive ladies, and although I’m already spoken for I never chat with them in a friendly manner because of the number of people who come on here complaining about how some guy looked at them weird or leg happened to brush against them etc. It’s just not worth it when you see the same people every day.

          • I think most women can tell the difference between friendliness or accidental physical contact and genuine creepiness. Yes, it’s subtle sometimes, but we can tell. Of course it’s up to you to pick up on the signs as well and not harass someone if she clearly doesn’t feel like talking to you.

          • justinbc

            I’m quite certain they can, but like I said, it’s just not worth it (especially for someone who’s actually not looking to date).

          • +1 to justin; I disagee Anon. I feel that women have become so accustomed to real harassment and/or been told that they shouldn’t have to put up with anyone trying to enter their space no matter how friendly that the lines are becoming quite blurry. He said hello to me, it’s harassment, is something I’ve seen a lot of lately. Yes, I’m a woman in case there is confusion later.

          • anon 1.5: of course a friendly greeting is not harassment, however it all comes down to how the person says it. There is a big difference in just saying hi to someone passing on the street and staring a woman up and down and saying hi. My way of distinguishing between harassment and friendliness is this: would the person have said hi/talked to me this way if I were a man. If the answer is no, then it is harassment.

    • Do it! Throw caution to the wind. Chanel your inner Bogart and get that dame, I mean, guy. But seriously, do it. Anyone advocating you chit chat and take the romantic temperature interest in the young man is damn buffoon. Gather thee rosebuds while thee may! Just think Bogart and Herrick. Go for it!

    • I’m going to add one more Go For It! to the mix. Since my guess is that you haven’t talked yet, at the very least you can initiate a chat about the weather, see where he takes it, and go on from there. So if he looks at you like you have two heads or says something like “Yeah, my wife was complaining about the clouds too”, then at least you’ll be clearer — but it won’t be awkward. With any luck, this will be just the opening he’s been waiting for, so please update us as things go forward!

  • Rave: The awesome officers of MPD who stopped by to talk to me about a non-emergency issue last night. They were very polite, respectful, and gave me sincere advice.
    Rave: That picture of the Reflecting Pool!
    Rant: Horrible developers who have no respect for the property of others.

    • Ally

      I hear you on the developers! Had a crane parked in my alley that relocated my wrought iron fence about a foot over. Decided it wasn’t worth the effort to complain. I’ve decided I will like the look of a bent fence. Heh.

      • This developer is illegally dumping construction debris on our property in addition to leaving open bags of fast food trash and open soda bottles. I can’t even begin to tell you the damage they’ve done to our fence – lots of repairs in our future!

        I’ve talked to about 7 different departments in DCRA and DPW to get an inspector to come out and cite the developer for the illegal dumping and don’t know what I need to do to get someone to help us.

        To make matters worse, I just received a fine from the city for our neighbor’s trashcans. If it’s true that bad things come in threes, I’m just waiting for something else to go wrong today. 🙁

        • You council member might be a good resource (depending on what ward you live in – some are more responsive than others)

          • We’ve already emailed our ANC6B10 chair and representative (Brian Flahaven and Francis Campbell) along with Tommy Wells with multiple photos documenting the trash and damage. No reply. We’re finding it hard to find someone who can actually do something instead of transferring us from dept. to dept. It seems like it’s always someone elses problem.

        • Ally

          Uggh. Hope it gets better. I had a little of that (not to the same extent) with the condo development near me. They illegally dumped trash and parked in my space (note: in my back yard) without asking. Went back there to nicely talk to them and got laughed at. I used to be much more intimidating 😉 Hang in there!

  • Question: What time should we really get into line for Rose’s Luxury tonight? Just a party of 2, but I don’t want to be too late, or too early!

    Rave: I’ve been following Prince Of Petworth for the past year and it really has been a lot of fun and very informative. Some take away’s: Bras and boots are very important (I’m wearing my new bra now!), Justin is a good guy and people on here are harsh and his house is cool, I still don’t understand Anonymous posters- what’s your deal? How are we supposed to tell you apart?, Browser is worthless- but will win, and call your ANC rep anytime you have a complaint about almost anything.

    Thank you all for an entertaining year, look forward to 2015 and maybe getting the cojones to go to a POP HH!

    • get in line at 4 pm. not 4:15. you should get a table.

    • justinbc

      Haha, thanks for the shoutout. As anyone who comes to a HH will find out, I’m quite nice 🙂 And kken is right, if you want to be guaranteed a spot for the first seating you need to get there before everyone else starts getting off work, especially so the later into the week it gets.

    • Rose’s: Early is best unless you’re nearby or have plans for waiting around.

      My deal with being anon 1.5 is that I just haven’t bothered to come up with a handle. Just being lazy, but I’m always anon 1.5, so it’s almost like I have a real handle. LOL

      • Accountering

        How about: almost like I have a real handle
        I think quite a few people have come up with their handles at HH based on whatever happened, so perhaps that is the move!

        • First: Hilarious. Second: That’s one long handle.

          I’d have to actually make a HH for that to be possible. Working on it.

          • Come to the PoPville Anniversary Party!
            PoPvillagers are a friendly bunch and, as an anonymous posted after the last unofficial HH, also an attractive group 🙂

          • Not sure how my schedule looks like for the first week in Nov, but maybe?

            DC has loads of attractive people for me to ogle throughout my daily commute. That can only entice me so much. 🙂

    • The content of the comment is what should be of important, and not who says it.

      • Accountering

        Meh, I have to disagree. For a lot of things, yes, but on a random rants and raves? Plenty of these comments string together over multiple days, months etc.

        • I for one would prefer more “random”, and less “basically the same thing I said yesterday and the day before, and the day before….”
          Your way of using RRRnR is not unambiguously enjoyable for everybody.

          • Accountering

            Good news is, after yesterday, apparently I am the new most hated person on Popville! This is not “my way” of using Popville, it is a pretty standard usage of it. So sorry the monotony (I suppose?) of daily life is so disappointing to you. Perhaps you should move on from a quality of life and random rants and raves blog post?

          • Accountering: I might give you a run for your money after the CoHi creeper post. I made some people really mad. LOL

          • I Dont Get It

            Here’s a warning to both of you–don’t buy a $1000 espresso machine 😉

          • Accountering

            This is exactly what I was thinking!

          • justinbc

            LOL, better yet, when someone on this site asks you how much anything costs just ignore them.

        • If you require days or months with a thread, “get a room” as it were and take it to your real world social networking/emailing.

        • I don’t think the problem is anonymity, per se — there are plenty of times when anonymous comments here are appropriate and good, and even those of us with handles are still somewhat anonymous unless we go to PoP events.
          I think there are two bigger problems, which the anonymity can make worse: trolling and difficulty identifying -which- anonymous you’re talking to. When the two happen together (and I’m thinking of the thread about the 11th Street bridge because I was part of it), the conversation can devolve really quickly into flaming and name calling. And that’s especially weird when the name calling refers to unclear anonymous posters.

        • New feature: Most hated Popvillager of the week! It can be sort of like Chris Cilizza’s worst week in Washington. Congrats Accountering, or something…

      • Sometimes who says it makes it less important.

    • Dismayed to see that PoPOverWork’s enthusiastic, friendly comment started a thread that ended up devolving into negativity.

    • We tried to go for my birthday last week– I live a few blocks away and still haven’t been. We got there at 4:45 and the line was down the block (some had been there since 3:30). We waited in the line for 45 minutes, at which point people were saying the wait was up to 2.5 hours for groups of two (we were a group of six which would have been more like 4 hours so we left).
      So yeah, 4pm would probably be ok if you’re only two people. I remember the days when I’d be walking home from work at 5pm and there would only be about a dozen people in line!

      • justinbc

        Yeah the first time we went we got there at 5:15 and got a table for 4. Now I don’t mind waiting at the bar (or eating there) if it’s just me + 1 other.

    • And thank you, PoPOverWork for the great digest of recent RRRaR threads. I think you summed it up pretty darned well!
      A special +1 for the “call your ANC rep” comment because it’s true. And if I could add one thing, it would be that these threads have taught me to say hello to my neighbors.

  • Rave: Good friend from HS just sent out her Save the Dates. I’m already SO excited and it’s not for another 7 months.
    Rant: Forms/applications that only let you choose one race. I’m mixed race – do they expect me to just pick one?!

    • I guess “human” isn’t an option? Le sigh.

      • Human is not a race. There are plenty of good reasons, other than discrimination, for documenting somebody’s race.

    • I feel your rant Sparkly!! How is it 2014 and we haven’t solved this by now? I wish “human” was an option …. like when guys, thinking that they’re flirting with me, say “hey, what are you?” I’m a human being mother-f-er…

      • hammers

        Not even only guys flirting with you, it’s literally the first thing half the strangers I encounter say to me. No hi, hello, my name is X…just an invasive “what are you?” Train conductor? “What are you?” Soccer mom at the grocery store? “What are you?” Person walking down the street? “What are you?–No, where are you from? No where are you *from* from? No where are your parents from? I mean what’s your ethnicity??????” Like….I will probably never see you again, why do you care what makes up my face?

        • I’m white as they come, but it has been a revelation witnessing the things people will say to my husband and children.

          • Ah, yes, I don’t know if it happens more to white men with mixed children, but when I was in high school/college people often thought I was my dad’s wife/gf/mistress. *shudder*
            Either that or people would ask if I’m adopted.

          • People used to ask if my very Irish-looking mother was my nanny when I was younger. Especially when we lived in Southern California and I was always tan.

      • Oh dear lord, YES! “What are you?” followed by “Are you sure you’re not Brazilian/Turkish/Filipina/etc?” Uhhh, yes, I’m sure. And then, of course, there’s “Your English is so good!” Thanks, so is yours…

        • It amazes me that strangers feel free to ask this kind of question. Your comment reminds me of the video “Where are you from?”

          • My husband is an American Indian which is not super common around these parts and he gets asked what his ethnicity is all the time.

  • Rave: third and final interview today! a rave because I’m hoping this is the last one and whatever happens… well I can always share the story I suppose. Also I’m only due to meet 2 partners so hopefully it doesn’t run over an hour and some change. Thanks to everyone who has been cheering me on on PoPville!!
    Rant: rubber earring backing fused to the post of the studs I keep in for weeks, unsurprisingly, I’ve always managed to pull them off but not this time! Had to take wire cutters to the post and now I need a new pair. Ffff.

  • Accountering

    Rave: Potentially making a large purchase today. Keeping my fingers crossed!
    Rant: Accounting fraud. Stupid idiots.
    Rave2: Accounting fraud was massively overblown, and gave me an opportunity to pick up more shares at a 40% discount. This is a 10 million fraud at a company with annual revenue of 1.4 billion. Not a good thing, but they fired everybody, and are starting anew. Excited to see the losers who did this get jail time though. Fraud is never acceptable!

    • Are you buying shares of a client’s stock?

      • Accountering

        No, this is a publicly traded company. I work for a private corporate company anyways, and don’t do client work regardless.

    • That One Guy

      Sharing is caring, what company is this?

      • Accountering

        ARCP. It has crapped the bed another 7% today, so I may add a bit more. I added some at 9.10 and a bunch more at 8.20 yesterday, and then it rebounded and closed at 10.00. Not for the faint of heart for the next few days/weeks, but I definitely feel like this is an opportunity to be greedy while others are being fearful 🙂
        I am okay still buying after the fraud because of how large a discount it is trading at. The conference call they indicated it was from a non-controlling interest, and changed AFFO by only .03c. GAAP earnings were unaffected. The company owns and operates real estate, so its not like an Enron situation where they literally were falsifying everything. There are a ton of hard assets out there, and they are going to keep collecting monthly rent on them all. The thing is yielding 10.5% right now.

    • My fingers are crossed! I am also suspicious this has something to do with a post Andie made not long ago. Or, it’s just that textdoc and I are reading WAY too into your comments where your relationship is concerned.

  • Rant: Still not inspired to vote for any of these Mayoral candidates. Can anyone make a compelling argument on who I should vote for?

  • Not sure if this is a rant or a rave: So engrossed in the book Still Alice. Reminds me a lot of Flowers for Algernon. I’m crying through it as it reminds me of losing my Nana – it’s so poignant and difficult.

    Rave: Starting a “funemployment” activity – going to bike to all the 50 states avenues in alphabetical order (one by one – I’m never here for the 50 states Ride!). Planning to head to Alabama today – hit up the library down there. It’ll get me out and about and add some exploration of DC into my unemployed days!

    Rave: Awesome time with my husband last night – swim, dinner, movie (Saint Vincent) – loved being out together.

    • I wonder if WABA puts their route online for the 50 states ride. I mapped it after I rode it a couple of years ago. I can find the map-my-bike link if you’re interested.

      • That’d be awesome thanks! I’m going to break them up into individual rides (or string a few together, depending) but it’d be great to have the route!

    • Mike

      I’ve never heard of Still Alice but I played Charlie in Flowers for Algernon in high school and love love love that book/play/movie. Need to check that out.

  • Rant: kiddo was SO cranky this morning! And I can see the beginnings of tantrum-like activities. Ugh. But at lest I held firm, didn’t give in or give attention to the tanrrum-like activities, so hopefuly I’m laying the groundwork that tantrums don’t get attention? Fortunately, she was mostly chipper on the bus & the way in, and then did great at drop-off.
    Rant: We’ve over-done the symptom remedies for the stomach bug last week. Switching from applesauce to prunes and hoping we don’t overshoot back the other way.
    Rave: Yummy dinner last night! Show was fun, but a little long. And I didn’t get all of it (I’m definitely not a Shakespearean scholar!). But it was a nice night out, albeit too late.
    Rave: Colder weather – a rave, for now 🙂
    Rant: must get my butt in gear on exersizing. I know I’ll feel so much better if I do. But ugh, getting out of bed has gotten SO HARD. Need to keep reminding myself that my energy levels (and post-weaning waistline!) will be far improved if I can get back to regular exercise. Ugh.

  • Rave: Went to the hockey game and then to a sports bar to watch the last half of Game 7 — I felt as vibrantly, heterosexually male as I have in years! Dude! I ended up drinking long-neck Budweisers and pricing pickup trucks on line while listening to Nickleback until 3AM.
    Rant: Girlfriend says she’s not having sex with me until I finish folding the laundry and get the dishwasher emptied.

  • Random: kid wrecked his dirt bike in front of my house last night. was riding alone but had people in cars looking for him after he crashed… kinda strange
    i heard the whole thing, sounded like he grabbed too much throttle and went down shortly after

  • Mike

    Rant: STILL going in circles with my financial aid office. I finally got my scholarship money, so I’m happy about that, but now I am just trying to claim every possible penny before making my tuition payment. If I over-pay, I know I’ll never see that money again.
    Rave: Midterm exams are officially OVER as of 9pm last night. Still standing.
    Rave: FINALLY figured out our Halloween costumes and I am impressed with what we came up with at the 11th hour.
    Rant: The Better Half stepped in fresh paint (left on a sidewalk on Benning Rd. at 10pm?) while walking the dog last night and now it’s all over the rug and the couch. Annnnnd this is why we can’t have nice things.

    • jim_ed

      Re: Paint – Test it on a small area first, but I once spilled a half gallon of paint on my carpet in college and got it all out by liberally pouring a bottle of nail polish remover on it and scrubbing it out with a clean rag.

    • Ally

      What costumes did you decide on? I’m going as lame Bat Girl (that would be lame, as in the costume, not lame as in crippled). Not terribly original, but it’s technically PJs, so I’ll at least be comfy!

      • Mike

        I’ll be dressed as a nun with no shoes (“Barefoot Confessa”); Better Half will now be a cowboy (after chickening out of a pretty amazing Muriel Bowser costume that I had already completed). Miraculously, we pulled it all off with stuff found around the house.

  • That One Guy

    Rant: was woken up by dog at 6:00 a.m. wanting to go for a walk. It was too early, cold and dark to be picking up poop when I was having a fun dream just before.
    Rave/Rant: rolling back the clock this weekend. Potentially an extra hour of sleep, but more realistically picking up poop at 5:00 a.m. d’oh.
    Crave: Would definitely use a nice flaky croissant with some jam and a cup of tea. (Pinky finger pointing out, of course)
    Question: What was your favorite Halloween treat growing up?

    • Mike

      +1. I really need my dog to be better at understanding the mechanics of DST. I mean, she knows how to open doors and roll down car windows, so it shouldn’t be too much of a stretch, right?

    • 3 Musketeers! And the mud pie with gummy worms my mom always made.
      I don’t understand DST. Why do they do this to us? I will also be picking up dog poop in the cold/dark. Sigh.

      • I get that it makes sense for the kids waiting for school buses in the morning to be able to do it in the daylight, but if I had my druthers, I prefer having more daylight in the evening hours.

    • binpetworth

      My favorite Halloween treat as a kid was mini Mr Goodbars.

    • justinbc

      There’s such a lack of good croissants in DC. I wish it would steal some of the uproar from pizza and BBQ.

    • I Dont Get It

      Candy Corn, natch!

    • Popcorn balls! One of the neighbors would make them for the kids that she knew. In our neighborhood, a small number of families did homemade treats for the neighborhood kids, so we had a nice tradition of unwrapped treats in addition to the usual loot.

  • pablo .raw

    Rant: This October has not been good to me, I need it to end.
    Rave: It ends soon.
    Rant: That time when you have to wait for results of a medical procedure.

  • Rave/Rant: Need something really fun and unique to do in the city or for a day trip. I’ve been in DC for almost 8 years so I’ve done almost everything, including the lesser known attractions, like Lincoln’s cottage. I’ve also done almost all of the day trips possible. What is the most unique event/attraction/day trip you’ve ever done?

    • This is a great question and I’m surprised it hasn’t gotten a lot of replies! All I’ve got to recommend is a sort of walking tour of DC itself. My husband and I have been taking really long walks lately and it’s been a really nice surprise to see how much has changed in each part of town since the last time we visited. Why not pick a destination far from where you live and walk there, leaving plenty of time for stops along the way?

    • Find a park ranger and ask to see beneath the Lincoln monument. It’s not all that exciting per se — mostly an empty room with lots of supports to hold the place up and some random graffiti about Warren Harding. But it’s far from the madding crowd.

    • tweed ride is this sunday. so you have a couple days to tune up the bike and hit the vintage stores.

    • Fallingwater in PA. It’s about 3 hours from the city. I might try to get out there this Sunday, while the leaves are still on the trees.

  • Rave: The guy on Metro last night in a sheep costume, which consisted of a white hooded sweatshirt with ears and cotton balls sewn all over the front. I love Halloween.
    Rant: something feels wonky in my knee. Fingers crossed that it is nothing serious.
    Rave: One more day until Halloween weekend!

  • Rant: The weather forecast for Saturday when I have plans to be outside all day.
    Rave: Spending a couple days in NYC this weekend (Sat-Mon). Haven’t been in 7 years. We’ll be seeing Wicked on Sunday night. Cannot wait!
    Any suggestions on what I NEED to see/do/eat while up there?

    • justinbc

      Doughnut Plant, if nothing else.

    • Though it’s super touristy, the High Line is really cool and a big show of how much NYC has changed in the last few years. Things that never go out of style: the Met, Central Park. Momofuku Milk Bar for some really unusual dessert-type stuff. Also, the waffles and dinges trucks! (follow them on twitter)

      • +1 on the High Line. Very, very well done. And Momofuku- get the duck buns! I also never regret going to MoMA.

      • +1 on the High Line, and while you’re there, check out Chelsea Market, which has an outstanding selection of restaurants and small shops. Even if you’re not hungry, it’s a great place to walk around and window shop.

      • I don’t really get the High Line. I LOVE the concept. I guess if I wanted to go from point A to point B the High Line would be a nicer walk than the sidewalk. But as a destination? It was too crowded and not very interesting at all. I’m so spoiled living in DC. The idea of the High Line counting as greenspace is distressing.
        Or perhaps I’m missing something and someone will explain it!

        • What you’re likely missing is the relative lack of greenspace in Manhattan, particularly in that area of the city. NYC is a city of walkable neighborhoods, so to go from Chelsea to Central Park, let alone Inwood Park is a trek. It’s also a nice use of found space — that is particularly welcome as much of NYC seems to be morphing into a combination of Disneyworld and a suburban mall.

        • I lived right next to the High Line for year before it opened. It was a hulking mass of rusted iron that was an eyesore and actually inhibited development. Once the High Line project got off the ground, it led to billions being invested in the west Chelsea neighborhood, during a commercial area scattered with nightclubs into a thriving mixed use hub. The energy in Chelsea right now is so surreal. I lived on 9th Avenue for 5 years and it was soooooo windswept and desolate at night (aside from the tunnel traffic). Now the area is filled with rich foreigners, tourists, and strollers. It’s insane.
          And all of this was spurred by the High Line.

  • I’m a daily reader, occasional poster. I recently went on vacation and really missed you guys. I will probably never come to a happy hour (really, really shy and live in the burbs with young kids), but I think you’re all great. That said,
    Rant: The person who mentioned Taylor Swift’s “Shake it Off” probably a month or two ago. You mentioned it and I checked it out. Since then, I cannot get this song out of my head. Seriously. I sing it in the shower. I sing it to my kids. I sing it to my kids while they’re in the bath. I’m singing it (in my head) right now at my desk at work. I even catch myself doing some of the moves from the video. Help me!!!

    • I’m pretty sure that was me, and I say, don’t fight it! The song is great! Eventually it will go the way of “Call me Maybe” and just fade out (until making an awesome appearance in the Good Wife).

      You just reminded me that I need to get the whole Taylor Swift album that came out recently. Apparently the rest is pretty good, too.

    • Check out the Postmodern Jukebox version on youtube, it’s a better one to get stuck in your head.
      Says the grown woman listening to 1989 on repeat.

    • I Dont Get It

      Haha I already had a Shake it Off earworm today She was on the one of the morning news shows performing it.

    • Gee thanks. I hadn’t heard the song (shake it off) until just now (shake shake shake).
      Instant earworm…………I

    • If you really want help, the easiest fix is to replace it with another earworm. Let It Go!!!!! 😉

  • Rant: Life is so stressful lately. Main crisis at the moment is our 3 year old refuses to be potty trained and our seemingly wonderful charter school has a totally rigid potty training policy and icily points out that he will be un-enrolled if the situation does not improve. It has been miserable. Anyone with a toddler knows you can’t force this and I’m at my wits end. And everything else in my life is awry also, swamped at work, can’t sleep, all kinds of crap going on (literally and figuratively) that I don’t know how to deal with 🙁

    • Accountering

      Toys? I seem to remember my parents buying me crap if I didn’t have an accident or whatever when I was super young. Have you tried bribery? Feel for you, this sucks! With that said, I don’t blame the charter school. Dealing with a three year old that isn’t potty trained I think goes beyond schooling, and simply becomes day care.

    • My parents potty-trained me using chocolates as a reward. Since I never was allowed candy at any other time, I was willing to work for it.

      • A girlfriend JUST told me last night that her parents did this inadvertently while they were visiting, but that the result is her toddler is now requesting to go to the bathroom for the first time. The grandmother was giving her a single M&M for each time. Now she asks, and then asks for more candy after the one is gone.

    • jim_ed

      Is your child enrolled at the Ayn Rand School for Tots?

    • Oh, that’s a bummer. Have you talked with your kid’s pediatrician? I have friends who, after months of trying, finally potty trained their kid using M&Ms as a bribe/reward.

      • I was potty trained by M&Ms, too! And I worked as a nanny for several years during/after college and have trained many kids the same way. It seems like a bad idea, but when intrinsic motivation isn’t there…

      • We have tried everything! M&M’s, stickers, new toys, reward charts, pediatrician visits, a child psychologist. And now – a special ed evaluation at school. I hope it’s just stubbornness. Slightly worried it’s more than that 🙁

        • My sister – mother of 10 – says that the new diapers make peeing in your pants so comfortable that there is no reason not to do it. Maybe switch to heavy stinky wet cloth diapers for a while and hoist the little darling on his own petard.

    • hammers

      Have another kid! I was potty trained at 14 months because my little brother came around and apparently I wanted the attention. (The anecdote is real, the suggestion is in jest)

      • LOL. Got this one covered! Our younger kid who just turned 1 may be potty trained first, at this point…

    • My parents had the same problem with me as a child. I specifically remember her sitting me down and explaining that I couldn’t go to my specific school if I didn’t use the toilet, which actually did resonate with me. Bribery might help too (they used some cool glittery stickers with me), but an honest conversation might make a difference if you haven’t tried that already.

    • Get rid of the diapers/pull-ups. Accept that there will be accidents. if he has an accident, don’t make a big deal out of it, and make him responsible – he is old enough to get fresh clothes for himself, and help you clean up. As long as the diapers are an option, he doesn’t have much incentive to stop using them.

      Friends of mine had this same situation, two kids and the older one was refusing to use the bathroom. in their case the older child was jealous of the younger one, and wanted attention from her mother.

      • One of the families I used to babysit for used this method on their stubborn three year old. If he had an accident, he had to clean it up himself (mostly). He hated being messy and it worked very quickly.

    • This sucks, and it seems as thought the Charter School is being unnecessarily rigid in threatening to kick him out – but alas, that is the issue of Charter Schools and an issue for another post entirely. My son is in PK3 in a DCPS school and the whole potty training issue is basically a non-issue. Kids do not have to be potty trained to attend, and the school even provides pull-ups for nap time and children who need them.

      I have zero suggestions. I have three kids and they all potty trained at different times by different methods and as you pointed out, you just can’t force it. Good luck, and I really hope the school is more flexible with you!

    • That stinks (ha!). Not to derail the point, but this illustrates a pretty important problem. If you’re going to use preschool as the entry grade for elementary school (as many charter schools do), you simply cannot have potty training be a requirement. I get why schools don’t want to deal with non-potty-trained kids (both the ick factor and the liability concerns), but this has become a de facto requirement that kids who want to go a HRCS must be pottry trained by three, even though those kids should have an equal right of access to the HRCS when kindergarten arrives. It’s just wrong.

    • We are kind of in the same boat, although no threat to be kicked out. We’ve tried all kinds of rewards, big and small. The one thing we didn’t try is taking a weekend, taking off the diapers and saying “that’s it kid…no more diapers.”

    • – I would be wary of telling your son that he’ll be un-enrolled from school if he’s not potty trained. That could backfire if he thinks he could get a better deal, and be a huge burden if he loves attending school. I agree with those who’ve suggested using modern diapers and training pants are too comfortable. I would actually suggest trying a combination of the suggestions here. Explicitly tell your son that you want to focus on toilet training. Consider starting it on a long weekend when you’ll be at home (if schools are closed for elections, maybe do this coming weekend as a four-day.) Start with daytime training and use underwear. Have him practice pulling them on and off. Ask him if he’d rather train to sit or stand to urinate, and consider buying tinkle targets. Plan a series of rewards for smaller and larger accomplishments.
      Is there a reason that you’re “slightly worried”? My guess is that the combination of comfortable diapers, immaturity (some boys at age 3 just aren’t “ready”), and lack of true motivation on his part, and lack of consistent training (meaning home vs school environments) could easily account for it. While most kids are trained by age three, the current press to do so is an environmental issue rather than a developmental one.

  • You know which one who is? Which review is my bf’s? He hasn’t written one, but now I want to know which one you think he is any why. Unless this is Emily in disguise and she just thinks he’s the one with the killer beard.

  • epric002

    rant: giant zit is eating my face.
    rave: derm gave me a last minute appt this morning to fix it.
    rant: he couldn’t fix it. screw you adult acne.
    rave: got last minute ortho consult for the foster puppy today. please thinking healing and inexpensive thoughts for us 😛

    • I usually like a hot, wet facecloth on it. Warm it up in the microwave every 10 minutes or so, being careful not to overheat. It’ll dissolve some of that deep-seated stuff and relieve some of the swelling.
      Also, may be totally in my head, but I found that when I stopped having as much dairy every day (i.e. a full cup of greek yogurt) I stopped getting that really deep cystic acne. May be worth trying. Of course now that I’m knocked up, the adult acne is back with a vengeance.

      • re: hot washcloths. If you have a rice cooker or a small slow cooker, put a bit of water in it, then roll up some damp washcloths and put them in on low and cover it. It becomes a wash cloth warmer and you can just switch the warm washcloths out. I figured this out when I had an eye issue and had to keep warm washcloths on my eyes for about 30 minutes a night and it was a pain go go reheat them.

    • Try using a hydrocolloid bandage (aka the band-aids they sell specially for blisters) on the pimple overnight. If the liquid is close enough to the surface (or you carefully lance it in the correct place with a sterilized needle) the bandage will suck all the gunk out overnight.
      Try reading a subreddit called “skincareaddiction” (google it) — the things I learned there have drastically cleared up my adult acne. And even if I do get the occasional hormonal breakout, my skin doesn’t hurt as much so I’m less likely to touch it thanks to them.

      • epric002

        thanks for the suggestions y’all. i don’t have/get cystic acne anymore, it’s mostly super stubborn comedones, with an occasional big bad one- which this one is. everything is just extremely resistant to treatment, of which i’ve received almost everything available over the course of 20+ years. it’s just frustrating and exhausting. derm suggested we could try another round of accutane despite it not being cystic, so i’ll have to think seriously about that. he also wants me to consider trying some acid peels again- i did once once and it made everything so much worse for months afterwards. ugh.

        • No harsh peels! No! And no physical exfoliation (“scrubs”) either.
          For stubborn closed comedones try an alpha hydroxy acid (AHA). (Paula’s Choice 8% AHA is a popular one.) You may purge for a few days when you first try it, as it will open the comedones. It can also make you sensitive to the sun, so people recommend using it only at night, or at least following up with sunscreen if you use it during the day.
          You may want to check if you are sensitive to fatty alcohols, which are popular in moisturizers but cause some people to break out. (I personally like them and they work fine for my skin.)
          Additionally, Pocketderm is an online dermatology service that is popular among people who don’t like what their derms have suggested already. You have your appointments remotely, and your pocketderm prescription is shipped to your door.
          Yes I now know a crazy amount about skincare. After many years of trial and error all it took to fix my face was learning the right information!

        • epric002

          i was looking at the pocketderm site but i rather don’t understand why *those* dermatologists are going to be any different from the many, many dermatologists i’ve already/am seeing. i’ve been perusing the reddit forums and they’re just overwhelming. oil cleansing keeps coming up- anyone ever tried it? i’m reluctant to essentially start over. for the umpteenth time.

          • I can’t speak personally for Pocketderm because I haven’t tried it myself. I just know a lot of redditors who are happy with it after being frustrated with their derms.
            I do oil cleansing! I mix 3/4 CVS brand vitamin A oil (which is really just safflower oil) with 1/4 castor oil (can be found in the laxative section) in an empty bottle. Massage onto face for a couple minutes before shower, and let it sit on my face while I shower. At the end of the shower, I wash the oil off with CeraVe foaming cleanser, which is a gentle face wash at a pH that won’t strip your skin. I follow with a chemical exfoliator, which I let dry for 15 minutes for maximum effectiveness. Finish up with CeraVe moisturizer in the tub. It sounds complicated, but once it’s routine, you get used to it.
            I know it’s hard to start over; I’ve started over so many times. (And you feel crazy because you’re an adult and this is “supposed to be” a teenager problem!) Even worse, it’s hard to stick with a routine for more than a week without being tempted to jump to some new product promising an instant miracle fix that never comes. I’ll be honest, it took a couple months of following this routine before my oil barrier — which I had destroyed through years of using harsh products — restored itself and my skin permanently calmed down. All I know is I used to wear concealer every day. Two weeks ago I was able to put my concealer away in storage and have not worn it since. Annnnnnd now PoPville knows my obsession. 😀

          • I’ve tried oil cleansing and I really liked it. It made my skin very clear, but I think I didn’t make it routine enough and my skin has luckily mellowed out a lot recently, so my non-oil cleansing routine works well. I do highly recommend it though.

          • epric002

            how would you describe your skin type? how did you decide on those oils/ratios? did you try other oils/ratios? did it make it worse initially? (i know there are a zillion answers to these questions on reddit but i’m overwhelmed trying to sift through them)

          • My skin type is very oily, with moderate surface acne (no cystic). Oil cleansing didn’t make it worse at first per se, but did take a while for any improvement to be noticeable. I’d say it truly became effective for me when I also added the chemical exfoliator (Stridex in the Red box, which is just salicyclic acid). I chose my oils and ratios because I was told safflower oil is noncomedogenic and castor oil is one of the best oils for dissolving acne-causing plugs. 1/4 is the highest amount of castor oil that was recommended.
            If the sheer amount of information on reddit is overwhelming, the people that moderate that subreddit recently moved to their own website, skincare-addiction [dot] com, but they’re still in the process of adding content. Also, theoilcleansingmethod [dot] com is a much simpler explanation of oil cleansing to read.
            Skinvangelism FTW!

          • Also, for the first few weeks you oil cleanse, you may start to feel little “things” in the oil. (This is known as “pulling grit.”). Yes, they are your blackheads coming out. Embrace it!

          • epric002

            thanks for all the info allison! i’ll have to think on the oil cleansing for a little while…

  • Rant: I swear, everyone over 30 is married or partnered but me. It makes me feel like total rubbish. It’s been over 10 years since anyone has said “I love you” to me, and even then, the person who said it regretted it pretty quickly afterward. It really hurts to know that I am inherently unlovable and unwanted. I am a compeltely worthless human being.

    • Why is your worth connected to whether you have a SO? I’m sorry things are so bad right now. I’m not quite as old, but I felt the same way, and I had to just say stop it. The right one will come along when its time, but in the meantime, let’s get us in order. I’ve gotten in better shape, have friends and hobbies, and I’m generally in a good state on my own. Maybe change up the routine: new activites and places, finding something that makes you happy without someone, etc.

    • Awww, not unlovable, just going through a rough streak. Hang in there!

      • Both of these anons are right. This is just a rough patch and it’s an opportunity to devote time to yourself. I partnered several years later than most people in my circle and there were definitely times I was scared (more like terrified) that I would never find “the one.” Now I have the most wonderful husband and we’ve been together for four years, and I look back at that time when I was scared as a waste of negative energy. The best things I did in that period were to work out often (5-6 days a week), get better at cooking and force myself to get out and meet people at every opportunity. I’m so glad I did these things in retrospect and could probably have stood to branch out even more.

    • Dating over 30 is rough, I can definitely sympathize with you. But it has no bearing on your loveability and worth as a person. It’s just like job interviewing, but more emotionally draining. 🙂 And just like job interviewing, you can find the perfect job, but not be in a position to take it, or find something that is wonderful, but doesn’t suit your needs. That doesn’t mean that there isn’t anything out there for you, just that you maybe need a break from the search. Best of luck, I know it is hard.

    • I have been there. You’re not unlovable. You might be depressed. You’re definitely focusing some negative energy on yourself. To combat this, go out and try something new, follow through on something you might normally flake on, and be more active than usual. This is tough for me as it gets colder but it really does make a difference. Take care of yourself and eventually someone will come along. Please let us know if there’s something we can do to help!

  • Aglets

    Rant: I got home last night to find my (already messy) apartment even more messy because maintance had come into my apartment for something but then did god knows what to the toilet and there was water IN MY BEDROOM. things under my bed (clothing and books mostly) soaked. Gross. I would like to know what happened but good luck getting anyone on the phone for my property management company.

    Rave: I carved pumpkins with some friends last night and they turned out well. I love carving pumpkins!!

    Also rave: I am participating in Hill-o-ween tomorrow night. Kinda nervous but also excited!

    • That is unnerving and disgusting. I hope you’re able to talk to management and tell them what happened and that it’s unacceptable.

    • Can you share the name of the property management company? This sounds like a very stressful thing to have happen. I live in a Gables Residential apartment building that hires careless and incompetent maintenance people to save a buck (along with a hands-off property manager who is never at the property). It is a rent-controlled building (which might explain the cost-cutting and apathy), but I am paying market rate since I moved in not long ago. I don’t get the total disregard for customer service in these apartment buildings. It is not only unprofessional, it is rude. And in some cases, like yours, it really crosses the line. Could it be they have a captive audience and thus do not care about how they handle their tenants?

    • That’s really disgusting and awful. Did they come in without an appointment or any kind of warning? If so and it was not an emergency, that may be a violation of your tenant rights.

      • Aglets

        I got a hold of them- they said a pipe burst and someone had to come in and fix it- and they tried to call me. I just looked at my phone and somehow i did miss a 36 second call yesterday so i need to call them and apologize.
        I don’t know what’s up with my phone. I would have appreciated them leaving a note on my door…or at least, you know, locking it when they left…

  • laduvet

    Rave: looking at MA programs in Europe!!!!
    Rant: The paper work to apply for my UK passport
    Rave/Rant: The excitement of applying…and getting accepted and rejected! yahhhhhhhh!

    • Good luck! Just came back from getting my MSc in London – loved it and it ended up being so much cheaper than a US program.

    • Agreed! Got my MA in Belfast and it was one of the best decisions I ever made. Got the acceptance only a few weeks before I had to be there for classes, and it was the most crazy time ever, but wouldn’t trade it for a thing.

      (Rant: says I’m posting too quickly when I try to post, but haven’t written anything on here in over 24 hours.)

  • Super random question: twice this week, I’ve seen different people carrying the same kind of super-oversized stuffed animals around on 14th St near P and Rhode Island. Does anyone know what the story is? They look like the stuffed animals from the window of Monarch and I’m thinking there may be an interesting story there.

    • skj84

      Is there a carnival happening somewhere?

    • I think there’s a party supply store near there, just past Church Key? It’s one of the old shops on 14th that are leftover from the pre-gentrification days that would sell all sorts of weird toys, t-shirts, and knickknacks.

      • Yeah — that was the Monarch I was referring to! I wonder if they just got rid of a bunch of stuffed animals. I should have mentioned that the people carrying them were some of the panhandlers who hang out around the area, not kids coming from a carnival.

  • Rave: We saw the face from the Washington Monument this weekend. It’s so cool.
    Rave: Really proud of my son, who went up in the monument and enjoyed the view, despite a strong fear of heights.
    Rave: I’ve been included in the planning and, next week, will be a part of a pretty important meeting at work. It feels like a nice endorsement of my abilities.
    Rant: I’m a little concerned about office politics related to the big meeting. Someone else in my division who is at a higher level was not included, and she has the personality type to get nasty about it if she chooses.
    Rant: The elder teen is going to be the death of me. She’s an awesome kid, but she’s also stubborn, defiant, and kinda scatterbrained. When crossed with my own control-freak nature, it’s not good.

    • You just described myself and my mother!! Give her space and air to breathe, let her fail sometimes (scattterbrained) and all will be well in 10 years lol. Seriously, you described me and the parental perfectly – it worked out.

    • I’m embarrassed to admit this that having living in DC for more than 25 years but I’ve never been to the Monument. Does it take forever to wait in line? Do you have to get tickets before going?

      • You can get tickets online ahead of time, they are free, but there’s a $1.50 fee.

        • Definitely get tickets online ahead of time. The $1.50 fee is totally worth it. And don’t feel bad – we’ve lived here 10 years and this was our first visit.

    • What’s awesome about stubborn, defiant kids is that they have the skills for resisting negative peer pressure — because they’ve had a bit of practice standing up for their own ideas and ideals. Maybe take this as a opportunity to train your own control-freak nature in another direction, to reduce the opportunity for power struggles between the two of you. There are some positives to being stubborn and some positive to being control-oriented. I hope you’re both able to find constructive outlets for qualities that can be the basis of significant strengths.

  • janie4

    Revel: Made cake for the office yesterday. Kitchen now needs to be mopped, but the cake came out well. Which is good, because I am a natural anti-leavening agent.

    Eh: layers were thin on the cake. They’re nine inch cake pans, and I made the nine inch recipe, so not sure what went wrong. How the heck do commercial bakeries get the cakes to rise really high?

    Revel/ungrateful – got a time off award at work – I’m a fed. Probably got it because there’s no bonus money around for us peons, but some of the lower SESers are getting shots at $20k-$40k in bonuses. I’m happy for the time, but I really could have used the cash.

    • Re: Your cake
      A variety of things can affect whether it rises. Did you butter (or oil) and flour the bottom and sides? The batter needs the flour on the sides to “climb.” Was the oven preheated and at temperature for 10 minutes, at least? Did you open the oven during the process? You really shouldn’t open the door until you can smell cake. Did you fully cream the butter/fat, sugar and eggs? That puts air into the mix… Also, is your oven temperature its actual temperature?

      • Bottom and sides of the pan. Duh.

        • janie4

          I did butter and flour the sides of the pan, and I didn’t open the oven. I thought I creamed the heck out of my butter and sugar, but maybe not for long enough. It’s hard to tell.

          Hmm, maybe my oven is the wrong temperature. I will have to check on that. \

          Thanks for the tip!

    • If it’s a cake that uses baking powder, and you’ve had the same can for forever, getting fresh powder might also help. You can test if you need new powder by putting some in hot water/vinegar mix, if it doesn’t produce bubbles you should replace it.

  • I Dont Get It

    Rant: For once I have a real rant for R&R but I’m not up for the beat-down I would get from the PoPville chattering class.
    Rave: The weather this morning?
    Rant: Someone leaking “Lessons Learned” Powerpoint to the media? Really?

  • Rant: The Bowser commercial I saw this morning was too good. Not a great commercial but will totally win her votes among the mildly informed and some undecided. Doesn’t address what she will do but will get people to identify with her even more.

    • Accountering

      I am not getting into this today again. Suffice it to say, I have strong feelings towards my preferred candidates, and I quite looking forward to Nov 5th when all of this crap (senate and house elections too – come on CO, IA, AK, and KS voters, do the right thing!) is done.

  • skj84

    Rant: Decided to unfriend creepy due after he sent me a whiney message complaining I’m ignoring him at rehearsals. It’s not like there are over 100 people in this show and I spend most of my time in the dressing room trying to stay out of the way. No, I’m purposely ignoring him. I don’t have time for this crap. Just the sheer audacity of his message, we are not good friends or anything that would make it appropriate for him to send anything like that to me. I should’ve never friended him in the first place.

    Rave/Rant: The Tweed Ride is on Sunday. Unforetny I have a show so I really can’t stay long. I’m hoping I can bike part of the ride before my call. They usually start late though so I’m a bit worried. Even if I just meet up at the starting point, look fabulous, then bike to my show I would still enjoy myself.

  • Ally

    Rave: This recent MPD alert made me picture Carlton Banks falling on hard times: “Attempted Robbery at 2225 hrs in the 800 block of Kentucky Avenue, SE Lookout for B/M, 20’S, 5’7 150, DARK COMPLEXION, WEARING A BLUE SWEATER VEST AND KHAKI PANTS”

  • Question: I’ll be visiting DC next week for the first time since I moved. I moved before the Washington Monument reopened and I’d really like to go. How easy/difficult is it to get tickets? Do I need to camp out super early?

    • Have you checked online yet? If nothing is available, you don’t have to camp out too early. I host lots of tourists and all have got tickets for that day by going down around 8 a.m. And if it is just yourself, chances are good you can even go down anytime and find people who have turned back an extra ticket.

  • Question for the Pop community: what is the general opinion of relationships that come from online dating? Is it odd to hear that an established couple, very in love, met online? Does it give people pause?

    I’m on a dating website; I am definitely not expecting to find a lifetime partner (or even taking it very seriously, for that matter) but I wonder how the masses think of folks who do find that type of relationship from the internet.

    • palisades

      I find myself pausing less and less. Don’t think twice

    • justinbc

      Doesn’t phase me one bit. It’s almost become the most common way that people say they’ve met for my generation.

    • Out of the 5 weddings I went to last year, 4 of the couples met online. It doesn’t give me pause at all!

    • I don’t think most people under say, 50, would think poorly of a couple who met online. In fact, in May I attended the best wedding ever of my two friends who met on OK Cupid! There’s no difference between meeting online and meeting through a mutual friend, except your mutual friend happens to be a computer.

      • Even my parents, in their 70s, have expressed surprise at learning that someone met a partner NOT online.

    • My husband and I met online – he could not be a better match for me, nor could we be more in love. It used to feel weird to tell people that is how we met, but it doesn’t anymore. Truth be told, it meant that I did not need to rely solely on my own typically terrible taste in men, so it worked out great.

    • One of my friends is engaged to someone she met on Match. They’re a good match (no pun intended) so it definitely changed my perception of online dating a lot. I don’t do it but that’s just a personal preference.

    • I don’t even think twice. The two wedding I attended this year both met online and I met my SO on Tinder of all places…. to be fair I am a little shy of admitting that

    • epric002

      my husband and i met online, so no pause 🙂 our neighbors met online, a good gf is engaged to a guy she met online, and almost every single girlfriend in DC who has been here and single has done online dating.

    • Honestly, so many people have met through online dating now, I don’t think it’s weird anymore. My last two boyfriends were guys I met on OKCupid, and I never had an issue with saying how we met. No one I’ve told seemed to care (beyond some older family members who don’t really get it).

    • gertie_wickler

      I’m happy to admit that I met my husband online. In fact, our 5-year-first-date-anniversary was just on Wednesday. Never would have happened without OKCupid.

  • Revel: Goof Off
    Extra Revel: When you call the Goof Off support line a real person answers the phone! And answers my question!

    Rant: Removing old adhesive from stair carpet treads is still a lot of stinky work, even with Goof Off. Think it might qualify for a little day drinking? (Actually, I think I don’t care what you think – I’m popping one now!)

    • Haha, I did not know that “Goof Off” was a product until I got down to your Rant. I was like “there’s a Goof Off support line? Does it tell me what to read on the internet when I’m bored? ‘Cause I need it!”

  • Andie302

    Rant/Rave: Trying to manage my emotions…I don’t want to get too excited but it’s hard not to! I’m either going to have a huge rave in the coming days or a womp womp rant. We’ll see!
    Rant: Bad bathroom behavior. I started typing but honestly I don’t want to make anyone gag. Just yuck.
    Question: I have thick hair that’s sort of wavy. I HATE drying and straightening it. And lately, because I’m growing it out, it’s sort of awkward and unmanageable. I’ve cut it off twice in the last year because of this, but of course now I wish I would’ve stuck it out. Does anyone have product recommendations for either a styling gel that gives me more control (and if it makes drying faster that would be even better) and/or a finishing product for fly-away’s? This is why I hate winter. Stupid hair. Thanks

    • I think we have similar hair (which is why I took your rec for Zhen yesterday!) and I’m also really in need of a product like this. It would take me two hours to blow dry my hair so I always end up giving up and letting it air dry. Sigh. I’ve used John Frieda Frizz Ease cream for fly aways with some success, but I’m sure there’s something better out there!

      • Andie302

        Oh let me know how it goes with Zhen! I’m going to try the Bumble and Bumble suggestion below. A couple reviews says a little goes a long way so I’m going to get the travel size and try it. I have the frizz ease stuff now and it isn’t getting the job done. I wish I could air dry…I just never got in the habit of a shower at night.

    • Hey textdoc, we’re totes right about what’s going on ^
      I’d say meet me for a biscuit tomorrow and we’ll talk it over, but…..

    • Bumble and Bumble Straight Blow Dry. That stuff is magic.

    • Carol’s Daughter Black Vanilla Hair Sheen. Haven’t tried any of their other products (have heard good things), but the hair sheen was just enough weight to make my wavy, growing-out hair lie the eff down. Bought it at Target.

  • Rave: Tim Cook coming out.

    Rant: The news should not be about him coming out but about how great of a CEO he is and his commitment in fixing the new iPhone operating system or making Apple products safe from hackers.

    Rant: This is a personally complicated issue for many gays. Yes, he owns the right to handle in his own way and at his own pace. However, let’s hope he is honest with himself and others. Just because he came publicly should not give him a hall pass to hurt others in the process. Like my mom once said, “there is no right way to do a wrong thing.”

  • Rant: Flaky would-be buyer of something I was trying to sell on Craigslist. Grrr.
    Not really a rant or revel: This is probably bad and wrong of me, but I am thinking about going to a Halloween event directly from work on Friday, NOT being at home for trick-or-treaters, and keeping all my candy for myself. (I’ve had to keep it in the trunk of my car all week to stop myself from devouring it.)

  • Have to add a new rave: Just got a video from my brother of my 14 month old nephew walking and laughing. He’s all like “Hahahaha, suckers, I knew how to do this all along!”

  • Rant: Passive aggressive BS
    Rave: Realization of what I need to do and mustering the strength to do it

  • Rave: Donburi for lunch. Love that place.
    Rave: Excited for Halloween! Going to be Black Widow from the Avengers movies. Now to figure out what exactly I’m doing tomorrow…
    Rant: Dating, thbbbt.

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