Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • Rave: That picture
    Rave: I had the best evening of self-care last night: got a manicure, read while soaking in the tub and drinking some wine, and went to bed early. The perfect way to spend a rainy evening.
    Rant: My allergies are killing me.

  • Rave: Breakfast at Mason Dixie Biscuit Co. at EatsPlace in Park View. OUT OF THIS WORLD biscuits and honey fried chicken.
    Rave: working from home
    Rave: Moving in with my partner in 10 days!
    Rave: Moved my cat Charlie in two weeks early to help her get acclimated to the space and the current cat resident. We recently put cat resident on prozac due to wildy anxious behavior. Not only is he feeling better, he’s being a total prince to my Charlie, and they’re doing so well that they’re now in (supervised) shared space!
    Rave: no rants today

    • Ally

      Cool on the cats working out and getting along. How’d you do introductions? I recently adopted a cat and haven’t yet done introductions to my two existing cats.

      • Well, we had a really elaborate plan that was charted out over a series of weeks, because we thought cat 1 was going to be really awful and hadn’t planned that the prozac would make him so much more amiable. We started by intentionally scent swapping between our two apartments for a week or two before we moved–rubbing some rags all over the cats and their trees and then switching rags for the cats to smell the other cat. The source we used also said to switch their beds and other things they spend lots of time on. We moved Cat 2 in on Sunday and set her up in an empty bedroom that Cat 1 was never allowed in. Cat 2 is already pretty outgoing and boisterous but we wanted to give her some time to acclimate to the new space. The plan was to keep them separated but continue the scent swapping, feeding them wet food simultaneously on either side of the door so they would create positive associations with each other, and gradually increase exposure levels with switched food bowls and eventually litter boxes. Things were going really well so we let cat 2 out into the rest of the apartment while cat 1 was kept in the other bedroom, and eventually put up a baby gate while we were sitting with cats on either side of it so they could see each other while they were eating wet food. Boisterous cat 2 had enough of the distance and decided to jump the gate 3 times and so now they’re warily following each other around the apartment in a span of 4 days! Sorry for such a long response–usually I’m just explaining this verbally!

        • Ally

          Thanks and glad it worked out so well! I’m hoping mine goes similarly well. The cats have all seen one another and so far it’s been reasonably amicable. But, as you experienced, even the extra tall pet gate gets jumped, so right now we still have the new one confined to a bedroom.

        • I had a plan to do something elaborate like this, but new cat would have none of it, broke free from the bedroom and plan was forfeited. It all worked out fine, but I had picked new cat specifically for her gets-along-well-with-others personality.

      • How awesome! Sounds like a little my Cat from Hell episode on animal planet 🙂 But sounds like you’re doing a great job!

  • Rant: After 5.5 years in the same office, I desperately need a change. But that requires job hunting.
    Rave: It’s almost the weekend again!

    • I am so with you on your rant. I desperately need a change. I haven’t applied to anything yet because I haven’t seen anything interesting on the job posting sites I’ve checked. The unhappiness I have while at work is really affecting my life outside of work. TIME FOR CHANGE!

  • Rant: Tired of the rainy murky weather, I hope it doesn’t kill all of the beautiful fall days left. Hang on a little bit longer leaves!

    Rant: Really wanting to work on music right now, but can’t seem to find the time where the mood is right. I like getting older, but I’m slowly losing my ability to think creatively because I’ve sacrificed it in the name of paying a mortgage and having a financially stable life 🙁

    Rant: dog has picked up a new habit of pooping on the floor mid-day while I’m out at work, at least it isn’t on the carpet, He is 15 years old, I figure leave him to it because he’s too old for new lessons, but I’ve lost 3 pairs of shoes from walking around with the lights off when I come home from work… s#it. 🙁

    Rant: Got a facebook message from an old flame that is currently engaged but having second thoughts… Trying to convince myself if it’s worth being a home wrecker or not.

    • palisades

      ummm regarding your final rant, avoid at all costs. This shouldn’t even be a question

      • Well, we dated about 5 years ago and she was an angel… We simply lost contact because I was way too busy and got involved in another (bad) relationship… She moved to California about 2 years ago and apparently doesn’t like it at all. She is apparently just not working with her fiancee though they are still good friends… I wouldn’t marry her off the bat of course, but all my memories with her were great. I miss having familiar female company around, though I’m not desperate for drama, besides that, she’s very easy on the eyes if youknowhati’msayin… I kind of feel like I should just embrace the ideal that I’ll be the guy who steals people’s fiancees for the rest of my life… Always a groomsman, never a groom. 😛

        • Danger, Will Robinson.

          • Seriously. “She is apparently just not working with her fiancee though they are still good friends… I wouldn’t marry her off the bat of course […]”
            This reminds me a bit of Xochopili (sp?) the Anonymous and the “electrifying,” “live wire” woman he was having an intense flirtation (or something) with.

        • I’m sure it’s flattering to have an old flame reach out, but before she did, how often did you actually think of her and rekindling a relationship? I’m going to guess and say that what she probably needs right now is a friend to talk to about why she’s not happy in CA or with the fiance. While you appear to be looking for some ego (& perhaps ahem other) stroking. I mean, basically you said you’re lonely, you don’t remember fighting, and she’s hot, none of which are very substantive reasons. But you and I have very different opinions about relationships.

          • Trust me, I firmly believe in Karma. If I didn’t feel that their relationship was coming to an end anyway I wouldn’t get involved. She is only engaged, not married. I do have SOME standards… I have thought of her a bit since she moved, though not obsessively, and I’m definitely not the reason for their breakup. Who knows where it will go, but I don’t expect anything more than catching up with a good old friend, she was the one who said she missed me first… The older I get, the more “All is fair in love and war” kind of rings true for me… And “nice guys always finish last”… meh.

          • Let their relationship go its course. Only then get involved.

        • Good lord. That’s a long convoluted way of saying “I’m just thinking about me here”. as palisades said, this shouldn’t even be a question.

    • Do you just throw your shoes away if you step in it? That seems a bit extreme (I’ll come over and wash them for you!).

      • I have some work shoes that I kind of hated anyway… Threw them away out of spite… I usually clean them with an old tooth brush if I have to, but if you want to clean poo off my shoes for free, I’d never say no, what’s your emergency call number? 😛

      • I don’t trust anyone with my house keys… I have heard too many horror stories. What I really need is a wife perhaps. 🙁

        • that’s stupid – ask around your neighborhood for a good, reliable professional dog walker. I LOVE our dog walker – been walking my dog reliably for over 4, maybe over 5, years. She’s amazing and usually takes my dog when we go out of town, too. She also helps me out if someone is locked out, and it’s nice to have someone reliable check on my place.
          Your dog is old and needs to go to the bathroom. Get a dog walker.

          A wife isn’t a dog walker.

          • I wouldn’t just marry a woman to walk my dog! What kind of sick person do you think I am!!? I would also marry her for her rich parents!! 😛

          • Emmaleigh504

            Jack, marry her for her trust fund, not rich parents! The parents may be annoying, the trust fund wouldn’t.

    • Ally

      Yeah, be careful with this one. If you’re serious about wanting to date her, it would be best if she broke off the engagement on her own without you being a factor in the decision. Otherwise, it seems like that would be an issue that would continue to creep up.

      • Agreed, I’m not out to break up their relationship, it was happening before I was in the picture at all. They would have to have a clean break first… I’m not even stuck on the idea of dating her though, I’d have to know the new her a little to make sure she’s the same person I remember. 🙂

  • justinbc

    Reminder: Next PoPville HH at Sauf Haus in Dupont a week from today!

  • Rave: kiddo slept straight through until just before 7 this morning!
    Rant: I woke up at 6, anxious that the screaming would start any minute and couldn’t go back to sleep. Headache ensued.
    Rave: Day care drop off went great for the third day in a row! And kiddo was super cute snuggling with a classmate when I left. Even cuter because I pulled off pigtails in her hair 🙂
    Bonus rave: 20% off boots on amazon! I may have to pull the trigger on ordering after getting all the great advice the other day. I’m leaning towards black Jackie Button Frye boots. Any idea what the difference is between pressed nubuck & soft vintage leather? I can’t tell from the photos. Must remember to measure calf size to make sure they’ll fit…

  • Rant: My dog decided to stop and go to the bathroom right next to the couple breaking up in the park, and took her sweet time, too.
    Rave: Getting my sh*t together. Sooo close to being debt free. It’s been a long road.
    Rave: Taking my first driving class this weekend!
    Rant: Terrified of learning how to drive.

    • I’m sure your first rant was extremely awkward and anxiety inducing for you, but for me it is hilarious. Way to go dog.

    • I once “broke up” with a guy in a park (in quotes b/c I didn’t realize we were “dating” after 5 dates, so wasn’t anticipating it would take a whole conversation and break up scene) while 2 rats kept running behind him. Every time they got to the spot right behind him they would stop, look at me with a “man, I can’t believe this either!” look then continue on their way. It was hard not to laugh at the time, but I certainly enjoyed telling the story later!

      • Ally

        Been there. I was apparently “dating” my boss at my first job in DC years ago and had no idea. He’d invite me out to dinner and I’d have my boyfriend drop me off. I assumed it was just a mentor relationship thing until he tried to hold my hand. That was awkward.

        • This guy continues to send me “Hope you’re well, I find it hard to date other people when I know The One is out there” text messages once or twice a year, and it’s been several years since the break up with an audience of rats. So creepy!

          • Ally

            Yeah, had one of those. Broke up with him and he drove all the way from another city and sat in his car outside of my apartment for nearly a week. ‘Cause, you know…that made him so much more endearing. Sigh.

    • Emmaleigh504

      Just like when Kelly and Dylan decided they had to tell Brenda they hooked up while she was in France. The absolute BEST.

  • gotryit

    Rave: kettlecorn, still
    Rant: the dregs – but I’m too addicted to stop
    Rave: will never do hard drugs because I can barely handle a kettlecorn addiction

  • Lady on the bus this morning was going for the gold medal in being an annoying bus rider. Push to get on the bus first, then get on before people have had a chance to exit? Check. Now that you’re the first one on, attempt to reload your smarttrip card and get stuck? Check. Once you’ve done that, stand right at the front so that everyone else has to squeeze past you? Check. To add insult to injury, I was behind her, and her smartrip transaction didn’t even go through, so she was riding for free! I guess I have to appreciate that she went all in and left nothing on the table.

  • Rant: ball of nerves today. I haven’t been scheduled for my 2nd interview yet, but I know for a fact the firm has contacted my references (at my current org) and they are talking to my 2 supervisors this afternoon. I know my COO will give me a solid reference, but I’m worried about my CEO. She is just very flaky and under extreme pressure right now because of our big events, and I just feel like this is the wrong time for her to give a reference for me. I’m terrified she will throw me under the bus even though she agreed to be my reference when I asked about a month ago. On top of that, I wonder if my 2nd interview is contingent on my references working out? I’ve always experienced the reference check as the last step before an offer, but I know everyone does it differently.
    Rant: tired of being a poorly paid office minion. would vastly prefer being at least a well paid office minion.

    • Props for using the word “minion.”

    • Just wondering…If you are worried about what your CEO might say, why did you give her name as a reference?

      • I asked her to be my reference about a month ago, and she agreed and was very encouraging about my job search. However since then, things have gone off the scale for her in terms of her workload and travel and as her direct minion I’m just worried it would impact her reference. It might really be just unfounded anxiety, but I’m trying to get my foot in the door of a new industry so I’m trying to get it all right.

        • You could always (nicely) give her a few talking points to use. Maybe word it so that “you know she’s been busy and you’re appreciative of her taking the time to be your reference, so you wanted to make it easy on her by providing some talking points.” I’ve done it before, but only with references who I know very well.

  • Rave: Thanks POPers for your encouraging comments yesterday about our rescue dog.
    Rave: Feeling better today about her fitting in and being happy.
    Rave: Knowing she has a better life than ever (she was used as a breeder in a puppy mill)
    Rant: Puppy mill operators. The more I read, the more I want to cry or throw up. Or punch things.

  • Rant: Jealous that a coworker of mine just got a 6 month detail to the White House.
    Rant: I’m waiting to see if I get a promotion to a GS level that others who haven’t worked here as long (or as hard) as me already have.
    Rant: Nervous about upcoming surgery next month.
    Rave: ABC’s primetime lineup for tonight.

  • Rant: Woke up at 3AM to discover that my flight to Boston was cancelled.
    Rant: Went downstairs to the computer to discover that not only was the flight cancelled, but I’d made the reservation for the wrong day (today, rather than tomorrow).
    Rant: $588 for a new ticket
    Minor rave: at least it’s an 11:30 flight and not a 6:30.
    Rave: Rowing in the Head of the Charles on Saturday, the single coolest sporting event at which I will ever be a participant, for the first time.

    • If the flight was cancelled wouldn’t that mean you could get rescheduled for tomorrow for free? Or am I missing something?

      • Since I scheduled the flight for the wrong say, the rescheduled a new flight for the wrong day so — in their eyes — I was just blowing off a nonrefundable ticket. Also, I booked through Orbitz rather than going through the airline, which adds many new layers of complexity.

    • Good luck! My buddies in college were big rowers and LOVED the Head of the Charles. What a prestigious event. Enjoy.

  • Rant: RAT in our HOUSE. And he’s a smart little bugger. No food out, no real holes, plus we live on an upper floor of a concrete condo building and have never had an issue in the 3 years we’ve been there. Put out the traps. But now I’m worried maybe he’s a pet rat…or a pet ferret…and now I”m going to kill someone’s beloved…

    Rave: Had a crap day yesterday but my husband’s “rat hunting” outfit was so hilarious I couldn’t help but feel better.

    Rave: Had a good conversation (informational interview?) that was informative and energizing. It’s good to get out and pretend to be employed (dress up, leave the house in the morning, etc.).

  • Rave: Trip to LA canceled! Two unexpectedly unscheduled days!
    Rant: Too much to do to blow today off and leave the office.
    Rant: Vet bills. Just went through the credit card statement, and yikes, the cat sure has cost a lot recently.

  • Accountering

    Rave: Got invited to meet with a friend and his GF at Trusty’s tonight. Andie and I are excited!
    Rant: Can’t make it to our 7:15 Rasika Penn Quarter reservation as a result. Before I cancel and it gets snatched up instantly on Opentable – anyone interested?

    • Ally

      I love Trusty’s! It’s probably due to all the meat drippings on the griddle, but boy do they have an awesome veggie burger.

    • That must be a good friend, to give up reservations at Rasika. I was supposed to have lunch there Tuesday, but my friend had to leave town unexpectedly, so it got canceled. Bummer.

      • Accountering

        I made these a while ago, and when I did it grabbed next Saturday at 8:00, and the Saturday after at 8:00, just in case tonight didn’t work out 🙂

    • GiantSquid

      Ooo, lemme ask Mr. Squid re: Rasika

  • Rant: Just heard of a friend’s passing. It was a long battle for him, and I take solace in the fact he is not suffering anymore.
    Rave: Long weekend in NYC ahead.

  • Rave: I remembered my glasses this morning!
    Rant/Rave: last trip to the dentist today! For a year at least. One cavity to be filled and permanent crown adhered. It means I get to leave work early, which I feel like I deserve after yesterday when I got in way early and got stuck here late.
    Rave: Next up on the ice cream making docket- sweet potato with torched marshmallow. I also want to make her Middle West whiskey eggnog custard, but I might have to cajole one of my Ohio friends into bringing me back some Middle West whiskey.

  • Ally

    Rant: Two people shot last night a block from my house.
    Rave: Had a fun time at trivia last night, though am paying for it today.

  • Mug of Glop

    Rave: Headin’ down to New Orleans this weekend to celebrate the last of our local friend group turning 30! (Well, to celebrate in spite of that, really.)
    Rant: Ankle discomfort five weeks out from the Philly marathon is making me overly cautious.
    Rave: Four day fat and drunk weekend is a good excuse to take a training break.
    Rant: “Local friend group” looks more and more awkward every time I look at it. There’s got to be a better way to refer to it. Pseudo-platonic cohort?

    • I just call my local friend group, friends. But that’s just me, I like to keep things stupid-simple 🙂

    • “Local friend group” seems to capture the idea pretty well. What’s the deal with “pseudo-platonic,” though? Do members of the friend group have secret crushes on one another?

      • Mug of Glop

        The crushes are not so secret. They’re variously openly declared, backed by a gemstone dowry, and subject to legal contract. I suppose “variously platonic” or “quasi-platonic” would be better descriptors? I’ve not had enough coffee yet to fully coin phrases.

        • Emmaleigh504

          So not really “crushes”.

          • Mug of Glop

            Essentially not, no. Well, if there are crushes, they’re certainly secret to me! What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas, they say, but The Big Easy and its copious intoxicants may make for a really interesting time!

    • Group of local friends? The Thundering Herd? DC pod? DC friends? my local krewe? Insane Town Posse? Those fucking guys? bossmaster fresh and the curious chives?

    • A friend of my recently called me out for labelling my friends, “work friends,” “grad school friends,”, etc. I generally thought it was a helpful descriptor but perhaps really just an unnecessary label.

      • Emmaleigh504

        But they have different levels of closeness and fun. I have New Orleans friends (my besties), grad school/college friends (also from NOLA but not besties), DC friends (some from grad school and elevated, but not quite NOLA friends), work friends (we might go to lunch), Popville friends, Twitter friends (which gets into new and exciting levels for real life and strictly online), so many categories and levels!! But mostly I try to keep the categories to myself, but someone always asks where I know such and such from.

      • If you hang out with them separately, I don’t see them problem in describing them that way. I got the impression that Mug of Glop had a sort of posse of local friends, all of whom hang out with one another. Not everyone’s friends are centralized in one group.

      • Mug of Glop

        I don’t know, I usually refer to groups by both their unifying and distinguishing characteristics. Our insane town posse (thanks, Beau!) as a cluster is distinguished from the larger group of all of my local friends, as well as other friend network clusters that would condense around grad school, high school, running friends, etc. There are probably things you’d do with grad school friends (drunkenly complaining about your horrible research advisors) that you wouldn’t do with your work friends (dignified happy hour at that place no one really likes). I’m a scientist, though, so maybe I’m just way into taxonomy and nomenclature.

      • If everyone’s crushing on each other, clearly The Crush Crew. or Crushers. Or just call it what it is — Disaster waiting to happen.

    • I always liked the gang Thomas Pynchon populated “V” with: “The Whole Sick Crew.”

    • Rave: 1st time on rant-revel when I know who the poster is (beyond their popville name).

      • Mug of Glop

        I’m sure we’ll cross all sorts of boundaries when we get down there! Either that, or our two ITPs have the same, very unoriginal celebratory ideas.

        • Emmaleigh504

          Please remember to do some things just for the stories to share on Popville 🙂

          • Mug of Glop

            If any of us can remember them. Knowing our group, we’ll probably just talk about the food.

          • Emmaleigh504

            On the other hand, never let the facts get in the way of a good story 🙂
            The food is def noteworthy, but I want to hear about drunken antics! I’m too old for drunken antics, I need to live vicariously through Popville! (The Verit Mart is great after a late night of drunken antics–get the grilled shrimp poboy.)

          • Emmaleigh504

            *Verti Mart

  • Jury duty over and done with, at least until I’m summoned again. Really relieved to be dismissed during the jury selection process for a murder trial.
    Rave was hanging out with two neighbors who were also part of the jury pool and lunch at Rasika.

  • Rave: Butthole Surfers/Melvins track “Sesame Street Meat”
    Rave: time to blast some Harvey Milk (the band) in the office with everyone out but me.
    Rave: Putin fan art. I mean, at one level, yeah, bad news, but it’s hilarious.

  • Aglets

    Rave: local coffee roasters who open down the street from your job where you
    Rant: Have an insane fucking boss. I’m going to ask, at my next interview about Red Bull. Meaning: do you drink a lot of Red Bull? Yes? Well then, I don’t want to work here. I’m convinced it makes people insane.

    • WHOA! I never thought about the Red Bull issue like that, but the worst boss I have ever had is a Red Bull junkie. Multiple cans a day.

      • right? My last two bosses BOTH Red Bull Junkies….and while I’m usually inclined to say “if everyone hates you, the problem is you” in this case….it’s really them. and I am convinced Red Bull is one of the factors.

        • Obviously, we have a small sample size and the issue could be that terrible people are more likely to drink Red Bull rather than the other way, but I’d love to see a study about this.

      • Significant overlap with bosses who down copious amount of Diet Coke throughout the day. They are also awful people (see: Mark Penn)

    • When asking about Red Bull, include 5 hour energy. The worst guy in my office pounds 5-hour energy drinks like water.

    • Interestingly, I can think of a handful of really intense people I don’t like very much and all of them mainline red bull. I think you all are right on this common denominator, but then this begs the question: is it something about the types of people who are attracted to redbull that are distasteful, or is it the redbull making people into distasteful human beings?

  • Rant: Barely 11am and it’s already a pretty crappy day in the office. Everyone seems to be in the mood to throw others under the bus.
    Rave: Supportive boss who doesn’t participate in bus-throwing.
    Rave/Rant: Boyfriend comes home early Saturday morning from a long work trip before we both head out for more work travel. I’m not good at the whole being in different time zones thing.
    Rave: Had a painless trip to the DMV this morning. I was in and out in about 30 minutes. Now I wait for a new ID.

    • Did you switch over to a Real ID? I’ve heard it’s a pain, but it sounds like it was easy?
      I hope your day gets better!

      • Yeah and it was pretty easy. I think the SW DMV location is a lot less crowded that the other locations. I got there around 8:40am and made it to my 9:30am meeting in Navy Yard.

        Thanks! It’s starting to improve. 🙂

      • I went to the Georgetown location last Wednesday to get a Real ID and it wasn’t too bad. I arrived around 8am (they open at 8:15) and there were 7 people in line in front of me. As long as you have all of the documentation, it’s not painful. Just double-check the DMV website before you go. One thing that sometimes trips people up is that you need two different proof of address documents (i.e., lease and utility bill).

      • PDleftMtP

        Same experience as Honey Badger. They were sending a lot of folks home because they didn’t have the right stuff, but other than that pretty painless.

  • Rave: Still on a Stone Roses kick after having done an impromptu Stone Roses radio special on Sunday.

  • skj84

    Rave: Had dinner Maple last night with my Dad and Aunt. We had a service hiccup, but other than that it was a great meal. I got the fried chicken, mac and cheese and biscuits. Portion suze was impresseve, I couldn’t finish the chicken. Which is fine cause I’ll eat the rest for lunch today.

    Rant: This is going to sound a bit judgemental but here goes. My friend is also on the job hunt and I’m worried she’s selling her self short. She making many of her application decisions based on whether they would be convienant for her boyfriend. They’ve been together for a year, but not living together or engaged, though she expects something to happen soon. I understand she’s looking towards the future, but boyfriend isn’t making an effort to be flexible for her. I just would hate for her to turn down an opportunity and things not work out in her relationship. At least until they are closer to something perminant.

  • Rant(?): Husband is interviewing for a position he really wants that would have him traveling internationally once a month starting next summer, and the pay might decrease. As much as I want him to be happy, part of me is very nervous about it since we have a baby coming in December and my support network here is pretty thin. Trying to be supportive and pragmatic all at once really sucks.
    Rave: Tea on a gray, uninspiring day
    Potential rave: Pumpkin farm visit this weekend!

    • I feel for you. I am expecting a baby soon and my husband and I had many discussions about whether he should look for a new job. I can imagine that not having him around as much will be scary, but at least its not for a while until after the baby is born so you can both get more acclimated.

    • Traveling internationally once a month? Twelve months a year? That seems it would take a big toll on him, and on you.
      Preparing to travel can be stressful for me even after 20 some years of regular international trips. Coming back means dealing with jet lag at least for a few days.
      Your experience might be quite different but I can imagine this would be very challenging with a new baby in the picture. And all for less money?

  • homerule

    Rave: Bought a car this week. DC feels totally different with a set of wheels!

    Rant: My office is super cold today.

  • Rant: heating season, I need to have my heating system inspected, any recommendations? I don’t want a large company, I have been burned too many times. Looking for a small operations that provide exceptional service. Any recommendations?

    • I guess they’re not really small but I liked Michael & Sons. They run an efficient operation.
      I just had my system checked by them and my tech was thorough and answered my questions well and explained, but didn’t push, a few maintenance packages they offer.

    • We’ve had a good couple years with Argent Heating & Cooling – routine maintenance and a total furnace/HVAC overhaul when our 30+ year-old system eventually died.

    • They aren’t small for the area, but we have had fantastic service from Cropp Metcalfe. I like them because the techs tell it to you straight – HVAC companies will often try to convince you that you need a new system when you don’t, and Cropp definitely doesn’t do that.

    • epric002

      also not small, but sila was (and may still be) running a $69 inspection deal and i was very pleased with them.

    • PDleftMtP

      We’ve had a good experience with BMC/Clower.

  • Rave: Everything but my rant.
    Rant: People who don’t keep their dogs on a leash. Not every park is a dog park, and not every dog appreciates your dog running up to it. In fact, my dog is likely to eat your dog, despite her good looks. Off-leash dogs that wander make me and my dog look like jerks, and we’re the ones following the rules.

    • homerule

      I really dislike off leash dogs too! You never know what can come out of nowhere and spook them into running in the street.

    • special_k

      When I fostered, I was surprised by how many people we ran into who had their dogs off leash. They would always tell me that their dog was friendly, but the problem is–maybe my dog isn’t. I was still getting to know her so anxiety was high about how she would react to an off leash dog while she was leashed. Plus, if your dog comes running at us, your dog clearly isn’t trained enough to be trusted off leash.

  • Accountering

    Big Rant: The ad that pushed sound onto my speakers from POPville. I understand monetizing the site, but this was a big not-cool from me.

    • +1. I hate auto-play ads.

    • Even worse are the webpages (usually restaurants or hair salons) that play music when you go to the sites. With no apparent on/off control.

    • Emmaleigh504

      Just turn your speakers off at work. No one around you wants to hear your pings and whistles, or your music. Then you won’t hear the noise from ads.

      • But I have my own office, so my speakers are on (quietly!) because I listen to music or the radio when doing mindless tasks like sorting spreadsheets.
        And at home I don’t see any reason I should have to turn off my speakers just because I might want to check out a menu.

        • Emmaleigh504

          I guess I’ve just been surprised by awful music too many times. I keep my speakers off on both my work and home computer. And boy howdy do I hate the pings that microsoft seems to think I want.

      • I’ve never seen it from this site, but some sites even after I turn off my speakers, they automatically turn back on again and I have to turn them off multiple times before I can keep them off. But maybe its a bug in my (brand new) computer.

    • +1 Not a good surprise.

  • Rave: union convention tomorrow ,= 3 day weekend
    Rant: burned the f out from teaching already
    Rant: the boy did the “suddenly go silent” thing so that kind of blows.

    • Oh man, I’m sorry about your last rant. 🙁 Does this happen more often in DC or something? My friends in other cities are always surprised that the fade away/ghosting happens so much here.

    • Andie302

      Ugh…sorry for the fade out. A guy friend of mine once said it was easier than having a difficult conversation – but he also preferred it when a girl wasn’t into him over that same hard conversation. Still…so crappy!

    • the more and more i hear about the ‘guy fade out’ the more I empathize with the guy….I am sorry ladies but if you leave a guy with no choice, AKA he doesnt know how you feel and you dont know how he feels, yes it is easier to just fade out. If you tell him how you feel, then he fades out…thats a different story (he is a socipath). It doesnt even sound like you are upset about it so, isnt this just better for both parties? If you did care, then that is a different story, but it sounds like your Meh about him anyways. At least he is living up to your expectations.

      • The fade out after telling him how I feel is usually how it happens for me…
        In my experience, if I am sort of dating a guy and I feel like we aren’t hanging out as much as I like, or I am not sure if he likes me enough, I tell him how I feel. Then, rather than telling me he doesn’t feel the same way, he justs stops calling. And usually starts seriously dating someone else shortly after. I’m beginning to feel like “Good Luck Chuck.” Either that or I am ugly and boring. I think I’ll stick to thinking its the former.

      • You always have the choice to be a mature, considerate person. If either party is not interested and you have been on more than 1 date, it doesn’t matter how the other person feels and if they have told you. You need to communicate that you are not interested. Use your adult words to communicate like the adult that you are and that you are looking to form a life partnership with.
        UGHGUGHUGHUHGHU You people who make excuses for this BS kill me. Does it suck? Yes. Is it hard? Yes. But you shouldn’t be looking for a relationship if you aren’t even capable of communicating to someone that you aren’t interested in dating them. Stay out of the dating pool until you’re mature enough for adult swim please.

      • “if you leave a guy with no choice, AKA he doesnt know how you feel and you dont know how he feels, yes it is easier to just fade out.”
        Each party not knowing how the other feels does not equal “no choice.”

      • Gonna sound harsh, but the truth is that once I get what I want out of a “relationship”, I find little else that interests me. I move on to the next one for the excitement of the newness. And at the risk of breaking serious bro code, perhaps you best not give it up before it’s clear I’m committed. But be careful, I’ll make you think I am when I’m really not. Some day I may change, but I’m not forcing myself to do anything.

  • Rave: Lots of great Halloween events on the horizon. Excited to check out Baltimore Rock Opera at the Atlas at the end of the month.

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: Been planning this stupid office party for weeks b/c it’s expected of me.
    Rave: Everything is sorted. Done. Finito. All I have to do is enjoy the cake and cool coworkers.
    Rant: boss people keep wanting me to change the invite list. Today. Two hours before the party! No, just no. Where were these request when I gave you the invite list?
    Rave: Many fun things happening in the next 3 weeks!! I”m a bundle of excitement!!! (yes multiple exclamation points, they have meaning, yo.)

    • oooh – makes me so glad I’ve given up my party planning responsibilities in my office. I’m planning a work trip right before the holiday party so I can’t be roped in to plan it.
      enjoy the party!

      • Emmaleigh504

        lower level middle management sucks. I had to get everything approved. It’s f*cking cake! I believe this will be the first and last time I ever have to do it, since my other underling isn’t have kids.

  • Dying laughing. Washingtonian is reporting that the DC Elections Board printed its voter guides with the DC flag upside down.

  • Rave: Tomorrow is a state holiday so I get the day off!
    Rant: I want to move back to DC. I’m glad I have a job, even happier it’s in the field I want to be in, but if I could just get my dream job in DC that’d be great 🙂

  • KSB

    Rant: Smashed my hand moving a couch yesterday and it’s still throbbing. Nothing broken, but uncomfortable.
    Rant: Kindergartener commented last night that one classmate was always mean to another classmate. Always picking on him.
    Quasi-rave: She has identified what empathy means, even if she doesn’t realize it, and opened the door to continuing a conversation we’ve had (about kindness) but that now has tangible meaning.
    Rant: Need to do a sugar detox. I mean badly. Need to check myself before I wreck myself.

    • what constitutes a sugar detox?

      • KSB

        I’m looking at mostly a return to real, unprocessed stuff. I would typically roll my eyes at the “sugar is evil” fad but it’s staggering how much sugar is added to just normal stuff nowadays. YIKES.

    • Do you have any recs for doing a sugar detox? My sugar cravings are out of hand these days. I’ve quit cold turkey before, but I’m in a super stressful situation right now, which only exacerbates my cravings, and I think a plan would be the best way to go…

      • KSB

        I’m looking at eliminating all refined and processed sugar and I’m in the process of looking at plans/approaches. Whole30 seems the most do-able to me at this point (also cuts out all of the other good stuff but I really, really need a hard reset of my body right now, so it makes sense.) Different plans suggest eliminating natural sugars too, in order to curb cravings, even though naturally occurring sugars don’t necessarily impact the body negatively. Who knows?

        • cool – thanks – I’ll check it out.

          when I quit cold turkey, I cut out all natural sugars, too and I lost a ton of weight and my desire for sweets. I need to get my head in the game and get back on track.

          good luck!!

        • binpetworth

          I have had success going step by step, eliminating one sugary thing at a time. I started by no longer putting sugar in my coffee (I still use milk/creamer). Then after a few weeks, I swapped plain yogurt for flavored and added fresh/frozen berries instead of the artificial ones that come in the yogurt flavoring. Now I’m working on eliminating evening sweets. It has been sustainable to do it gradually.

          • I find once I cut out the unnecessary over-sweetened things (sugar in coffee, cookies, the occasional soda), I lose the taste for them in general. Then something like an apple or an orange becomes more than enough to satisfy a craving for something sweet.

          • KSB

            I’m taking a similar approach and it’s helped get me mentally prepped! Last week I cut out the after-dinner binging. Right now I’m focusing on making a big, healthy breakfast to start my day. Seems simple, but I usually gulp down a cup of coffee and don’t eat breakfast until hours later, when I’m ravenous and ready to inhale anything. Or I eat a quick bowl of cereal or a cup of yogurt. I love/hate the fact that I have little kids who are looking to me to model healthy food relationships for them. Pressure, but in a good way…

      • anonymouse_dianne

        Check out Kris Carr’s work. She detoxed and annihilated her cancer.

  • Andie302

    Rant: My best friend emailed this morning that a guy on the train mistook her for pregnant (and offered his seat) and she reacted by yelling at him and kind of making a scene. She said the guy was kind of creepy and might’ve said it just to get a rise out of her. Either way I know it was upsetting for her and wish I could do something to brighten her day a bit. I also wish she wasn’t so stressed that her natural reaction was to yell…that doesn’t seem like her at all. (I would normally send chocolate covered strawberries…thinking that might not be the move in this instance.)

    • Ugh. So rude. How about flowers or a desk plant?

    • Dave Barry nailed it when he wrote: “You should never say anything to a woman that even remotely suggests you think she’s pregnant unless you can see an actual baby emerging from her at that moment.” That being said, some guy tries to do the polite thing, gets screamed at publicly and then dismissed as a creep who’s taunting strange women on trains, and it’s the woman who needs the tea and sympathy? Until we get more proof that he’s actually a creep (instead of some socially inept nerd), I kind of sympathize with him (though, with her, as well). A lot of us have made that mistake once (almost never twice).

      • You must be a dude. Lots of men (yes, #notallmen) are creepy. Why should the burden of proof be on the person being creeped on?

        • Because “creepy” is awfully subjective and a very convenient excuse when you’ve just lost your shit for possibly no real reason, and your only evidence is that he offered you a seat.

    • While it was unwise for someone to say (to someone they don’t know) “take my seat because you’re pregnant” or something along those lines, it doesn’t deserve a public tongue lashing. A simple “I’m not pregnant” response would have been sufficient.

    • Can I ask what he said or did that creeped her out? If all he did was offer her a seat, and she not only made assumptions about why he did it, but made a scene, then she needs a plan for some serious stress reduction. I’d hate to think that her response to someone’s well-meant polite offer means that this guy and every other person who heard your friend will never ever offer a seat again to someone who appears pregnant, or “old” or otherwise in need of a seat.

      • Andie302

        She didn’t elaborate. She only said that he said it loudly enough that everyone in the immediate vicinity could clearly hear him and that he was creepy. She’s definitely testy for more reasons than I care to share (I started typing them but it’s just too much). I feel for her but completely understand what you guys are saying about jumping on him. If he really thought she was pregnant then he got an earful! Yikes

        • Maybe instead of sending her something, you could hang out for a bit? Do coffee or tea or a tranquil walk and talk? It sounds like she could use some support — and maybe a bit of re-framing.

        • Maybe instead of sending her something, you could hang out for a bit? Do coffee or tea or a tranquil walk and talk? It sounds like she could use some support — and maybe a bit of re-framing.

    • Your friend sounds like she was kind of a jerk herself. Hope once she settles down she realizes that; if not, you should be a friend and tell her. I’d guess she doesn’t need a gift but a chance to sit down with a sympathetic ear and get a load off her mind.

      • Andie302

        Yeah – I agree. I feel bad because there isn’t much I can do about her current issues. Her husband quit his (very stressful) job recently with a couple options but nothing solid. They are waiting for things to shake out and in the mean time she’s supporting them just outside of NYC. She’s trying not to give him a hard time and be supportive of his job search while also bearing the added stress of making sure the bills get paid. I’m not surprised she snapped.

        • It’s quite likely that after the fact she realized she [might have] over-reacted because of other stressors in her life. Being a supportive friend sounds like the right way to go.

  • Rave: Hosting a fall theme party with my roomate friday
    Rave: Friday girl will be coming, and my roomates lady friend
    Rant: A lot of beer and alcohol…i need to be super careful not to get too drunk in front of Friday girl (this will be the first time ‘going out’ together aka drinking more than two beers

  • I Dont Get It

    Rant: Tipping on food delivery! I never know how much to tip. For instance how much should I have tipped the driver last night for $15 in Chinese food and the ticket he got from a cop while he was double parked in front of my house? $3 and 10% of the ticket?

    Rave: The Ethiopian food I had for lunch.

    • palisades

      I’ve found with delivery food that if it’s a $10.99 meal, it’s another $1.50 for tax, then $1.50 for delivery charge, then another $1 or $2 for some random charge. By the time I check out it’s at like $17. I’ll tip a $1.50 or $2 max.

    • The ticket is entirely on him.

      • I Dont Get It

        LOL I get that that but if I had had some extra cash I probably would have given him another $5. It was kinda a dick move by the cop since it wasn’t rush hour and he really wasn’t impacting anyone.

        • He double parked, which is illegal at all times of day, not just when it’s busy. He rolled the dice and lost, and the person he’s delivering to shouldn’t have to pay more b/c of that.

    • I’m a fairly generous delivery tipper, but I would not pay for the ticket. that is on him. (plus, usually there is a legal spot on my street and they just choose not to use it because it is faster to double park)

      • Yes, this. Tip generously. What’s an extra couple bucks to you?
        But the ticket was HIS bad decision that had nothing to do with you, your generosity, or your delivery dinner. You can freely act like it didn’t happen.

  • rant: Yesterday’s heavy rains brought to light two unrelated issues in my DC rowhouse. I’d love suggestions for people/companies to contact to fix either or both problems!

    1. The basement is underground and has a door that opens to an outdoor stairwell that leads you to ground level. At the bottom of the outdoor stairwell is a drain. On days with heavy rain, the drain can’t keep up with the amount of water pooling at the bottom of the stairwell and it flows under the basement door and into the basement. We’ve had the drain snaked and have sand bags against the door, but water still gets through during a prolonged heavy rain. I’m not sure whether I need (1) a plumber to do something to the drain, or (2) a contractor to replace or otherwise better seal the bottom of the door, or (3) both, or (4) some other solution entirely. Thoughts/suggestions very appreciated!

    2. I noticed today that the roof of our front porch is leaking in several places. I don’t see any obvious holes in the tar on the top of the roof, but they must be there! Suggestions for someone who can repair the porch roof, which has wood slats on the underside that need to be preserved?

    rave: that there’s a forum like this to vent to and, hopefully, get help from!

    • “Suggestions for someone who can repair the porch roof, which has wood slats on the underside that need to be preserved?”
      I would recommend NOT using Keith Roofing. I had a porch roof — the kind with tar paper (I thinK) and gravel — that needed to be replaced. They replaced it with the kind of roof that has sheets of that heavy-duty black stuff (itself not really a problem), and in the process 1) drove really long nails through the roof that pierced the wood slats on the ceiling underneath, and 2) dumped a lot of the gravel in my drainpipe.

  • epric002

    rant: forgot the salmon component to my salmon salad for lunch. lunch is now very underwhelming.

  • Emmaleigh504

    Extra Rave: Demand for rhino horn is declining in Vietnam! http://gu.com/p/42fgb/tw

  • RAVE: Juggling multiple Tinder girls. Shibby!
    RANT: Juggling multiple Tinder girls is tough on the wallet. Plus, these don’t seem to be going anywhere.
    -Girl A is a workaholic and has no time to go out. Though, I like her the best: excellent banter, she’s classically beautiful, has a good head on her shoulders, and is age appropriate
    -Girl B is in DC on temporary assignment, but she seems a bit batty. She’s the artist.
    -Girl C is waaaaaay too young for me, but oh-so-hot. I couldn’t resist – bad Anonymous! Still working through her Daddy Issues, as many young ladies are wont to do at that age.

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