Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind โ€“ quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct peopleโ€™s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • Metro has been horrific the last week or so. I’ve been late 4 out of the last 6 work days thanks to Metro.

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: end of fiscal year and my motivation is kaput.
    Rave: downloaded a bunch of good Swedish music to listen to and help me with pronunciation.
    Rave: Drew a face on the wee pumpkin that sometimes hangs out on my desk.

  • Rant: The red line is always fucked up.

    • Today was AWFUL. T

    • It took my coworker 90 minutes to go from Union Station to Farragut North.
      So glad I rode the Yellow line down to L’Enfant and then took the long route to Farragut West.
      Does anyone know what happened to the delayed train near Dupont? My coworker who was coming from Bethesda said that she heard it was a massive physical fight.

  • RANT: Bus ride home last night when man at the front of bus got sick all over himself while still asleep…er, passed out.

    RANT: Red line this morning. WTF.

  • Formerly Broken Jaw

    Rant: My neighbors must be trash hoarders because once again I have more trash out for pick up than anyone else on the block. No doubt the House of Ten Faux Pumpkins has rooms knee-deep with largely incomplete Michaelโ€™s craft projects and unopened boxes from QVC and Lillian Vernon.

    Rave: I saw a guy in handcuffs near the metro and the cops were taking pictures of a pack of Newport Menthols for evidence. I know from my jury duty stint that that means most likely he was arrested for PCP possession or distribution. Newport Menthols are the cigarettes of choice locally to dip into the PCP vial before smoking it. If you have any more questions about PCP, let me know.

    Rave2: Jury Duty!

    • Why is jury duty a rave?

      Why do people do PCP of all drugs?!

      • Accountering

        Jury duty is a ginormous rave! I can’t wait to get called again. I would love to be able to serve on a jury, and hopefully help a victim get justice. Jury duty is a rave because it is a big way to help the city. The only way we get bad guys off the street is if impartial people like you and I are willing to sit and judge the facts, and are prepared to send them to prison.

        • I’ve lived here for 6 years and haven’t been called for jury duty once! What’s the deal?!

          • Emmaleigh504

            8 years, me either. DC hates us.

          • I don’t mind jury duty at all but I got stuck on a civil case. It was such a waste of time! There was so much stupid drama and ridiculousness that apparently had been going on for years and this woman just could not let it go.

          • Accountering

            I would have a difficult time on a civil case. To be completely honest, I would probably get myself recused from that one.

          • KSB

            Me too! 8 years, no jury duty yet. I’m ready to be called in…

          • Accountering, how would you get yourself recused from a civil case?
            Some of the civil cases I’ve been a juror for were rather tiresome — I felt like telling both parties to go stand in a corner and think about what they’d done — but don’t those cases deserve jurors too?

          • Me too! 7 years!!

          • Accountering

            Based on my one panel I have been on, and other things I have read, it is quite easy to get yourself recused from a jury. Would I actually do it, who knows, if called, I would probably feel my civic duty overrode my desire to do anything but listen to jilted lovers squabble, and go through with it. I talk a big game, but in the end would probably serve.

          • Do you have DC residency? I get called in every 2 years like clock work. I’ve been in DC for 10 years.

          • Do you have a DC driver’s license? I’m not sure where else they get jury lists from in DC, but I’m pretty sure that the DMV would be a big source for this.

          • If you have a DC driver’s license and register to vote there’s a pretty good chance that you’ll be called for jury duty.
            Although it’s been four years for me, I received a summons to serve next week.

        • Emmaleigh504

          hear hear Accountering! It’s a help to the city and our communities!

        • Formerly Broken Jaw


        • Also helpful: presuming people innocent until proven guilty, and juries that appropriately find people not guilty.

          • Exactly. Sounds like he has some sort of revenge fetish. Calm down, Charles Bronson.
            My goal is life is to some day return a Jury Nullification. The legal system is massively f#cked up in this country and the lawyers, cops, and judges all know it.

          • Accountering

            I think that goes without saying – but yes. With that said, I think people are found not guilty for other silly reasons – not trusting the police – not thinking the crime is a crime etc. Just because one juror had a bad experience with the police, does not mean that they are simply fabricating evidence and the young man deserves to walk. For example the motorbike crap. If someone hurts someone while riding one of those things – they deserve prison – and I would be happy to send them there. Other citizens of our fine city may disagree, and that is why people who care about the rule of law need to serve on juries.

          • Accountering

            I would love to return a jury nullification – if warranted. I have a pretty strong moral compass, and would happily let a prosecutor know I thought he was wrong.

          • Yeah seriously. And just so we’re clear, caring about the “rule of law” is not the same as sending people to prison. It means making sure that people have fair and transparent trials – so I’m not at all sure you would be a dream juror.

          • Accountering

            That’s fine, you are certainly entitled to your opinion. I know I would have no issues being impartial, and feel I am a pretty good arbiter of fact, and would be a good juror, regardless of your opinion.

        • You are a prosecutor’s dream juror.

          • Accountering

            Meh – I just think I am dream juror in general haha. I am quite impartial, but don’t feel even a bit bad for someone who committed a crime.

        • You don’t sound biased at all.

          • Accountering

            That didn’t take long! Who would you say I am biased against? Criminals? It is true, upon determining that I felt someone was guilty, I would have no problem delivering a guilty verdict. If that makes me biased… I guess I am okay with that.

      • Formerly Broken Jaw

        Probably because it is low cost, about $20 for the “dipper” and the effects last a couple of days. I agree it is a nasty drug– I can’t exactly remember one of the street nicknames for it but it was something like โ€œCrazy Nakedโ€ because if you see some naked person acting crazy on the street they are probably on PCP.

    • I also know lots about PCP from my time on jury duty! It’s a fascinating, but terrible, drug. A judge I know told me that you know it’s a bad drug because it’s the only one where the dealers are rarely users themselves – they see what it does to people and don’t want any part of it.

    • Emmaleigh504

      I used to know quite a bit about meth b/c way back when I was a public librarian in FL I was always having to help meth-heads do research on it. A judge in my county used to order people caught with meth to write papers on it. I’ve blocked it all out now.

    • GiantSquid

      Could have been crack as well. Just sat on a jury where the guy had an empty cigarette pack and he carried his crack pipe and paraphernalia in it.

      • Yeah, we learned about this in crim pro. One reason suspects hide paraphernalia in cigarette boxes is because the cardboard disguises the shape/feel of the object. So, if a cop is patting you down for weapons on reasonable suspicion, but doesn’t have probable cause to go any further than that, then they can’t reach into your pocket, take out the box, and look in it. (There’s some famous case about this where the guy was hiding his crack rocks in a box that I’ve forgotten the name of.) However, this little trick does not work if you’re already under arrest and they’re going to do a full blown search anyway.

    • Newport menthols are the cigarettes of choice around here regardless if they are being dipped.

  • Rant: had to report a neighbor’s dog to animal control. He has a huge fenced-in backyard, but he always lets his dog out front to do its business in the tree box (and of course never picks it up). While that’s annoying, the real problem is the dog is super aggressive and is never on a leash – it will charge at my dog snarling and snapping, and I have to yell and kick it in the chest to get it off her. He complained to me once that my dog walker wouldn’t take his dog too because it is “too high energy.” He also lets it out without a leash to get to his car, which is what happened this morning – as soon as he opened the door, it bolted out down the stairs and on to the sidewalk and tried to attack my dog. When I tried to point out this happened every time, he said I was “exaggerating” and “delusional” and walked away while I was still talking to him, saying very rude things to me. So I explained the whole thing to animal control, and they said they would send someone out to talk to him. I’m sure I’m going to get an earful next time I see him, but hopefully it will help.

    • epric002

      ugh. people like that should not have animals.

    • I really don’t get the “no leash” contingency in this city. It’s a damn city, not an acre of land in the middle of no where. The people who do that are self-serving idiots and I really wish the leash laws were bettered enforced.

    • The poopin-in-treeboxes thing is a huge problem. I don’t understand why dog owners think that space is exempt from clean-up. Do they think others can’t see it? I work at 25th and M, and the treebox near the Trader Joe’s is like a poop colony. I get it, there are no tree lawns in that part of the city, but YEESH

  • Rant: Job hunting is getting discouraging. I know it takes time but I hate my job so.effing.much.
    Rave?: Glad I walked to work instead of taking the red line today judging from some of these previous rants!
    Rave: Finally feeling well enough to get back into a work out routine after dizzy spells and a badly sprained ankle.
    Rant: I am so out of shape.

    • GiantSquid

      What do you do for a job? My current one is about to open up…

      • I’m a political journalist but trying to cross over to comms/PR. I have a Japanese/IR background.

        • Ally

          I think NASA’s hiring someone in Communications at the moment. May not be your cup of tea but remember seeing the posting last week. Have lots of friends over there (and used to work there) so it’s at least a cool environment.

        • I have no idea if this would be a good fit, but I have a suggested job on LinkedIn this week for a senior account exec position at Edelman focusing on energy and digital public affairs. I would apply myself if I had more of a comms/PR background. I’ve heard Edelman is a great place to work — and they have a big Chicago office.

    • That’s so interesting! As a comms person, I’m always looking for people with journalism experience (knowledge of any media landscape is excellent as well as quality writing) – I’d think you’d get picked up quickly. Where are you looking for jobs? Have you been here: http://publicaffairsjobs.blogspot.com/?

      • I think the other issue is that I’m applying to jobs outside of DC (mainly Chicago). I’ve applied to some jobs that I think I’m PERFECT for (that ask for knowledge of Japanese language/culture, journo/politics/comms background) and just never hear back!
        Thanks for the link! I’ll take a look — maybe there’s something there that’ll make me want to stay in DC. ๐Ÿ™‚

        • Do you apply as a local or with a local address on your resume/cv? That might help as well. I know a lot of HR folks will weed out non-local applicants because they don’t want to deal with relocation.

          • I don’t have my address on there. I could use a friend’s Chicago address but my current job is in DC, so I don’t know if that would look odd?

          • I would try using your friend’s address for Chicago applications for a bit, see if that improves responses at all. It’s not so weird to have jobs in other cities with the interwebs now. You can always say you telecommute and have to go to DC every now and then.

          • For the record, I am doing the reverse for a former roommate of mine who now lives in Chicago but is trying to get another DC job so I’m letting him use my address.

          • Thanks! I might give that a whirl!

      • I’m another journalist/job seeker thinking about jumping to comms and could use help navigating the PR-specific parts of job applications. I imagine that I would be a good hire for a comms/PR firm given my industry-specific background in journalism, consulting and analysis, but can’t really claim that I have PR or comms experience. For example, the Edelman job that I mentioned to SKT requires experience working on campaigns and I just don’t have that. But I do have four years of energy industry and communications experience. Is it even worth applying? If so, any good tips?

        • It might be a bit too late and won’t help you immediately but this year’s DC elections would have been good year to volunteer with a campaign. There are FOURTEEN candidates for the independent at-large council seat, I’m sure every one of them could have used help on the PR front and you would have gained a ton of experience.

          • Not a bad idea for the lead-up to 2016, though! Now I just have to find time to volunteer in addition to having a full-time job now ๐Ÿ™‚ But for whatever it’s worth, I suspect that the “campaigns” mentioned aren’t political campaigns as much as PR campaigns run in a similar fashion. And wonder if I could gain “campaign” experience of this type in other ways.

        • I can speak from experience, you don’t necessarily need to have a PR background – there are a ton of agencies out there now who hire amalgamations of talent. I worked with people who were former secret service agents, congressional LAs, environmental lobbyists, graphic designers, and a ton of former journalists. PR is primarily relationships, writing, and a ton of work. Having media friends is always a bonus ๐Ÿ˜‰ Also, some agencies are notorious for working you to the bone for very little compensation…

          • @BeverlyS, I’m curious about which agencies you may be describing. Are there any that 1) could hire someone with a background like mine and 2) would pay a reasonable wage? My salary right now is at the high end for my level of experience because I have two masters degrees from respected programs and about 9 years of total full-time work experience. And I like my job enough to stay here even though I suspect I could like my job more and make a better salary, So I might be out of the running just because I’m picky ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Rant: I have gallstones. I don’t know how big or bountiful they are. I went to the ER for them two weeks ago worried the pain was something else. Meeting with a doctor today to discuss options.

    Rave: My boss and work in general have been amazingly supportive and kind to me throughout this ordeal.

    • Emmaleigh504

      good luck at the doctor’s!

    • My friend in Indiana just had her gallbladder removed after suffering gall stones for years. In her case, it seems to be hereditary as both parents had to have the same surgery. Hope you find resolution!

    • I had my gallbladder out last year after about 5 years of issues. I’m happy every day that I got it removed. If you have any questions about the surgery or recovery, feel free to post them and I’ll try to respond.

  • Rave: Grateful I took the bus this morning rather than the metro
    Rave: I slept for eleven hours last night, and I am feeling human again.
    Rant: I soooo need to get back into a workout routine. September was not a good month for healthy living.

  • Rave: Yesterday’s RRR/R nutella discussion. I dutifully went to Whole Foods in search of coconut peanut butter. I was very focused. I had a mission. Just before I saw the coconut peanut butter all the way down on the very bottom shelf, my attention was captured by a lone jar of Justin’s chocolate hazelnut butter spread with almonds. I swooned. I bought. It will be a few weeks before I get to the coconut stuff.
    Query: Justin’s dark chocolate peanut butter cups are so wonderful that they deserve their own food group. Now I’m wondering if Justinbc is a gazillionaire chef who concocts peanut butter cups in his basement. Fingers crossed.
    Rave: Another shout out to the PoPvillagers: My new Blondo boots are definitely keepers. Major thanks to the folks who kindly recommended brands! With an additional shout-out to Emilie504 — who I’m pretty sure recommended the Blondos.
    Rave: Lentil, spinach, sausage soup. One of the few benefits of cooler weather.

  • Rave: Zabver Thai! I stopped by last night, met the owners who are just lovely and (most important) came home with delicious just-right spiced food. I recommend the wonton soup and the refugee noodles.
    Rave: Leftover Thai food for breakfast
    Rant: Wish I had planted more beets and less carrots in my garden

  • rant: red line, but reading #wmata on twitter is somewhat cathartic
    rant: getting pretty down about jobs, interviewing but not getting a call back whether they have said no for weeks and weeks which is frustrating
    rave: going to nip by the freshfarm market in citycenter this morning to get some honeycrisps- hope they are still being sold.

  • Accountering

    Sorry in advance if this is a bit sappy. I am feeling particularly “ravy” today.

    Rave: Officially 6 months since I separated. It has been such an amazing 6 months, and I feel like I have accomplished so much. In no particular order: Miami, Lake Tahoe, NYC, Philly, Delaware, Tough Mudder, lost ten pounds, amazing girlfriend, crashed on my Mintwood’s couch for three months (ridiculous! Thanks man!!) started a wildly successful business renting my house short-term on AirBNB and now Homeaway, got promoted, went to the gym and got back in fighting shape. I am at such a better spot in my life, have my self-esteem back, smiling about 100x more than before, and have my friends and famili. Such a necessary, and long overdue move on my part. I am feeling particularly proud of myself today for all that I have accomplished. Life is good, and I couldn’t be more excited for the future.
    Rave2: Going to caps on Sunday! Anyone interested?
    Rant: Think I am getting sick. Lame.

  • Rave: Good dinner hang out with friday girl
    Rant: So my lease is running up in Juanuary and my long time roomate (for about 5 out of the last 6 years of my life) is going to get his MBA and he wont be in the area…I am kind of freaking out because there is barely anything i can afford (a 1br place). My current apt is nice and great location in columbia heights/u street and is reasonably priced, but i am not solds on the idea of having a random roomate. I Would really prefer to have my own place, but holy cow there is NOTHING i can afford. (Currently paying 1,150 for 2br 1bath apt near 14th and florida). Can i find a better place for the same amount of money that would be a 1br? PopVille rentals are all unaffordable ๐Ÿ™

    • Accountering

      Uhhh, to answer your question of “Can i find a better place for the same amount of money ($1150) that would be a 1br?” the answer to that is an unequivocal no. Your current place is already a pretty good deal, and a 1br is going to run you closer to $1700. See Textdocs place as a good example, her place was pretty much at the bottom of the market for 1BRs, and it went for $1725.
      You are going to have to give up one or more of the following things – cheap, size, quality, roommates, location.

    • You definitely won’t find anything in that price range ($1000-1200) in the area you’re currently in. You’d need to move to a much less desirable/convenient location.
      You should post on FB that you have a room opening in your place. I prefer friends-of-friends over the CL randoms. You could also post the details here on PoP’ville and probably find a new roommate through here! Posters on here seem to have their life together…..mostly. $1150 for a room at 14th/Florida is a good deal!

    • justinbc

      I have 4 one bedroom / one bath units that I rent out between 950-1200 each, but they’re in Brentwood / Ivy City, very different than U Street. They’re currently all filled, but if something else opens up I’ll be sure to post it here.

      • I am not apposed to moving away from the U street area, I will make a note and try to reach out to you when the time comes close to make a deicison! I actually like the area over by Rhode Island Ave metro, but have not explored much off of RIA to be honest. I also work from home now so transit and walkability are not as important as it once was.

    • Andie302

      You could also go to the Housing Wanted section of craigslist and cherry pick someone that sounds like they might be a good fit for you.

    • I know the feeling of not wanting to have a random roommate. There are so many horror stories out there. A little inspiration: I met my roommate in January through Craigslist and could not have asked for a better roommate and friend!

    • you have three things going for you with your current place: time, location and price. that’s a great price for going halfsies, even if there’s just 1 ba. what you don’t have going for you is timing… jan is like the worst time to get new tenants/roommates.

      if you want to stay where you’re at but don’t want to roommate up with an online rando, start trolling your social circles. if you don’t have any, start getting some. maybe start having potential roommate socials at your place in the months leading up to end of lease notice.

  • Why have they been shutting the redline down on weekends for the past 5 years to do work on it, and insane service disruptions still happen 3 or so times a week? Whats the point? I don’t understand how or why anyone puts up with this garbage.

  • epric002

    rant: up 3 times last night to let the foster puppy out. he had an accident (only one ever) in the house last week and now i’m paranoid whenever i hear him get up during the night. i think i need to feed him less in the evening, but that’s when he has an appetite- he mostly doesn’t eat his breakfast. arg.
    rant: ordered the natori feathers bra that everyone recommended and of course it didn’t work for me. the sizing was ok, and the 30 band was decently snug for someone who usually needs a 28, but the underwires dug painfully into my sternum, which is a common problem for me with plunge styles. i remain plunge-less ๐Ÿ™
    rant: also returning the cape coat (way too big) and the skagen watch (face is waaaaay tiny).
    rave: not a cranky as my rants would have you believe.

    • Is crating the puppy at night an option? Ours was fine when she was in the crate in our room, being in that space made her learn to hold it. Also, we learned to take the food away from ours if she didn’t eat it – she gets the same amount morning and night, and if she doesn’t eat, it’s gone. We made up for it if she didn’t eat with training sessions involving lots of treats so she didn’t go hungry.

      • epric002

        he is crate trained, but we haven’t needed to crate him- he’s not destructive and hadn’t had any accidents until this. i’m going to try and change up his feedings so that he gets a smaller dinner and a larger breakfast. it might take a couple days but i figure eventually he’ll learn that he’s going to be hungry if he doesn’t eat his breakfast.

    • Emmaleigh504

      I’ve given up on plunge bras. They just don’t work for me.

    • Formerly Broken Jaw

      So we made it all the way to 10:42 without a bra post ๐Ÿ˜‰

    • Have you tried the Panache Porcelain? I have worn the t-shirt bra for year but also like the plunge. I’m on the smaller side of a 30 band.

      • epric002

        yup! i have the panache porcelain viva t-shirt bra and it’s ok- i think it will be more comfortable if i bend the wires. the matching brief though fits me terribly. i really just ought to give up on plunges- they don’t usually fit my shape AND then the wires usually poke me pretty badly, so they’re pretty awful all around. balconettes, balcony, and 1/2 cups though work really well.

        • Oh darn. You may want to give the moulded t-shirt bra a shot, I find it much more comfortable than the viva. I also like Freya plunges– but I haven’t had the painful wire probably with plunges so I can’t speak to that :-/

          • epric002

            i’m currently wearing the cleo by panache moulded t-shirt bra- it’s my new fave! i’ll have to remember to try the regular panache one too. i love the freya wire-free deco and the freya longline patsy, and my freya bathing suits!

  • Rant – Life has been full and hectic recently. Family members dealing with health issues, packing for my upcoming move, car problems, friends going through hard times, upcoming work trip, and job searching. Just a lot going on right now.
    Rave – Nothing planned this evening (fingers crossed it stays that way!) and I want to get home early and cook a big dinner. PoPville – what are you favorite fall recipes?

  • skj84

    Rave: Wonderful night on the town in NYC. Walked into a coffee shop that ended up being a speakeasy on a whim. Great cocktails and bartender. Plus one of my favorite bands, Dandy Wellington was playing.

    Rave: Not around for the red line meltdown today!

  • Rant: temporary crown and a sinus infection. I do not feel awesome.
    Rave: I decided to splurge on Jeni’s ice cream at Whole Foods, but I ended up getting it for free because it wouldn’t scan and the cashier gave up. I think I ate half of the dark chocolate pint last night.
    Rant: I kind of regret getting a workout buddy. She won’t workout without me, but she’s not as in shape and is not as game for mixing it up as I am. I feel like I’m not getting the workouts I want, but I don’t want to cause her to stop working out entirely because she feels like she needs someone to workout with.
    Rave: picked out new purple reading glasses.

    • Also rave: my last overnight foster finally got adopted and it sounds like a great situation for him.
      Rant: I was disappointed that only the long term foster was thanked in the adoption announcement. Obviously she took care of him for a longer amount of time, but it would be nice to be included as someone who contributed to his well being.

    • Andie302

      Hope you feel better soon!

    • Emmaleigh504

      yay free ice cream! I hope you feel better soon! I hate temporary crowns, mine always fall out at inconvenient times.

  • Mild rant: red line delays
    Raging rant: red line riders who lose whatever civility they once had at the first sign of inconvenience. Do you have human organs for transplant in that messenger bag? No? Then SIMMER DOWN! It was more than five minutes… but less than ten. I swear, I promise, on my soul and all that is good on earth, that you and everyone you love will survive this experience.

  • Rant: Apple, they took away the neat new spelling feature, I am being asked to sign in to my Apple account to hear a song that I own and sits on my phone, I have to sign in to my account to use the Metro App. What a mess.

  • GiantSquid

    Revel: Up dark and early to get the car inspected before it lapsed tomorrow. Guys at station were polite and friendly and it went quickly.
    Rant: people who try to cut the line.
    Rant: Missing bottle of nail polish. Worried it fell in the trash can. Need to stop storing nail polish above the trash can.
    Rant: Being between shoe sizes. Ankle boots came in. Ordered 8.5 wide. Fine in the heel and ankle but snug in the toe box when wearing thin wool socks. Not sure if I should size up or feet are complaining about being contained after a glorious summer of sandals all day, every day. They’re leather, so they’ll stretch…in theory.
    Rant: Housing prices in DC, both to buy and rent.
    Revel: Humid weather makes my curly hair look amazing.

  • Rant: hour and a half to get to work. Thanks, WMATA! I thought about biking in, but due to a laundry situation (not enough clean clothes), I would not have been able to bike to work and not be stinky all day.
    Revel: I am going to start using “Thanks, WMATA” instead of mockingly saying “Thanks, Obama” for anything that goes wrong. Burned my dinner? Thanks, WMATA!
    Revel: I now have a dining room table and chairs. I feel more like a grown-ass man than a grown ass-man, more and more.

    • Forgotten Rave: the free program PhotoRec for photo recovery on a SD card. Woweezowee! It really works!

    • Hey dude, I checked out your Soundcloud based on yesterday’s synth discussion.
      I’m interested in building my own synths, mostly for my own amusement/I need a hobby. Can you recommend any resources (websites, DIY kits, instructional videos) to help me get started?

  • Rave: I think the LSAT went really well on Saturday! Thanks for sending good luck ๐Ÿ™‚
    Rant: It is way too loud at work today. I usually keep my office door open since people are always in and out but it is now staying closed for the foreseeable future.
    Rave: Looking forward to weekend plans with friends I haven’t seen in awhile.
    Rant: Now it’s freezing in my closed office.

  • Rant: Had a crazy nightmare in which my brand-new tenants turned out to have undeclared pets (two dogs, two cats), two infants (not forbidden by the lease, obviously, but nonetheless concealed), and a small army of helpers/child-care workers. In the dream, I lost it when one of the child-care workers lit a cigarette inside the apartment. (The lease also forbids smoking.)
    Rant: I think the reason for this crazy dream was some complaints from the new tenants — not sure yet if these are legit or if they’re just being fussy. I kept telling myself last night that I was irrationally worked up over it and that I needed to go to sleep and forget about it, but my subconscious decided to torment me instead.
    Rave: Sold some more stuff last night on Craigslist.

    • As a tenant, I’m more vigilant/high maintenance about stuff when I first move in. I’d rather get it taken care of immediately during the time of transition. That’s why people paint walls when they first move in; they know that they’ll never get to it once all the furniture is moved in and they are already settled.
      They are also probably bringing it up so you don’t charge them for it later on; they want to draw attention to any issues now.
      You have smart tenants, IMHO.

    • I have a two-unit house and rent out the basement apartment. I supply one space heater as it can get somewhat cold down there and it’s hard to regulate using the central air. I had a tenant who asked me to go out and buy her three more space heaters. This same tenant saw one bug once and asked me to spray the entire apartment and also asked me to paint her front porch because it was too “dingy.” To be fair, she did calm down after the first few weeks and turned out to be a good tenant, but I was pretty concerned at first!

  • Rant: Red line
    Rant: Lame hipster guy on Metro who hugged a pole and kept it all for himself
    Rant: Woman on bus who kept coughing but never covered her mouth

  • justinbc

    Rave: Bought a bunch of pumpkins for decor from RI Home Depot. One of them didn’t have a sticker on it, so the cashier lady said it was on the house since I lifted up all the others for her to scan. Good customer service is so rare there I hardly knew what to say.
    Rant: Went to Harris Teeter after for groceries and saw gourds and pumpkins were a good bit cheaper there than HD. Argh.

  • JRPenguin

    Rave: Crashed after dinner last night, didn’t even put on PJs. I don’t feel like a zombie this morning!
    Rant: Booking plane tickets–why are they so expensive when I can take vacation? Argh.

  • KSB

    Rave: Tattoo tomorrow! After two years of planning, it’s come together and I’m excited. I was a nervous mess before meeting with the tattoo artist, but his design was amazingly spot-on and I can’t wait to see the finished product.
    Rave Add-On: Tomorrow is my birthday! Happened to be able to schedule the tattoo for that day, so extra special.

  • Rave: Dad out of the hospital in time for my brother’s incredible wedding. The family and friends had a wonderful time celebrating my bro and sis-in-law and we had awesome food, music, and fun.

    Rant: Prius driver that rode my ass honking his horn for a good three blocks last night because I had the gall to ride my bicycle…in the street…where he wanted to drive.

    Rave: No cavities!!

    Rant: Job search and getting my life in order. It’s so much easier to do laundry and organize my house than to force myself to sit down to do another cover letter or reach out to someone for an informational interview. Checking things off the to-do list when I can see the fruits of my labor is so much more rewarding NOW than checking off another job app that goes into the black hole…

  • Additional rant: My two contacts at DCRA — the ones who responded when I e-mailed about neighbors with grass/weeds over 10 inches — now seem to be ignoring my e-mails. I have one neighbor whose lawn has been mowed only twice since the beginning of May. (I think one of those two times was another neighbor mowing it for him and subsequently dumping the grass clippings on the lawn in a fit of pique.)
    Rave: I thought the enforcement period ended today, but it actually doesn’t end until October 31. Maybe there’s still hope of getting DCRA to respond to me, and (by extension) getting my slacker neighbors to do something about their overgrown yards.

    • GiantSquid

      when I had issues with neighbor’s tall weeds (like 10′ high), I took photos and tweeted them to DCRA. The issue was resolved quickly.

      • I don’t have a Twitter account; maybe I’ll have to get one solely to tweet stuff to DCRA. (You can’t guest-tweet things, can you?) I don’t know why they can’t make themselves more accessible by other means.

        • GiantSquid

          It would be a little awkward for me to tweet for you. 311 app submission?

          • There’s a “Grass and Weeds Mowing” option under 311, but it says: “High grass and weeds will be cut around Bridges and Highways only.”
            The wording on the DCRA site offers only a phone number (which I don’t like because it’s harder to keep track of my requests) and the Twitter option. I got around this the first time by e-mailing dcra.housingcomplaints at dc.gov, and since then I’ve been directly e-mailing to the people who responded to that first e-mail.
            I’ve heard that DCRA is responsive via Twitter, so I guess that’s the option I’ll pursue.

    • epric002

      i feel like i reported excessively tall grass through 311 for something having to do with rodents- apparently the tall grass helps them proliferate?

      • The D.C. Department of Health lists tall grass/weeds as an environment that provides “harborage” for rodents, but I don’t think they have any enforcement power over tall grass/weeds. When I saw an actual rat and rat hole in someone’s overgrown backyard (adjaacent to the alley) and reported it to DOH, they said to report the overgrowth to DCRA.
        I used to think that DCRA was also in charge of enforcement for overgrown treebox areas, but after I’d reported a couple such areas to them, they told me I needed to report it to DPW instead. I haven’t done so yet, but I’m confused. If overgrown treebox areas are DPW’s domain, does that mean that DPW is actually supposed to be mowing the grass/weeds in treeboxes??
        Whatever the official answer is, the de facto reality is that homeowners mow (or don’t mow) this area, but I’m still curious.

        • As far as I know, homeowners are responsible for maintaining treeboxes in front of their house. DPW is responsible for enforcement when they don’t.

        • Or maybe it’s not DPW. From the website:
          “Residents should report suspected violations to DCRA at (202) 442-9557 (choose option 6). Residents can also send Tweets to @dcra – include photos if you’d like – of properties with grass and/or weeds exceeding 10 inches. Please try to get exact address before making a complaint.”

  • Rant: I don’t understand this city’s obsession with Marvin Gaye. True, he grew up here, but he also had an oppressive father and got the eff out as soon as he possibly could. I guess we don’t have a lot of famous former residents to remember who weren’t politicians.

    • His music was wonderful — and for many of us, was an important part of the soundtrack of our lives. Also, the role of artists like Marvin Gaye and James Brown as supporters of civil rights efforts should not be underestimated. Perhaps you don’t understand the “obsession” because his music and his concerns weren’t /aren’t relevant to your life. Me, I don’t understand why we celebrate Columbus Day — but I recognize that there are people who revere and celebrate and value stuff that doesn’t have much meaning to me personally.
      Fame — is in the eye and the values of the beholder. We have a lot of famous former residents who were famous for all kinds of things. But in Amurrica, we tend to give more attention to people like Elvis than we do to people like Charles Drew and Charles Houston.

    • Actually, we have quite a few:


      Maybe not enough that have yet to reach an iconic status (I know, debatable). Other reason–maybe musicians tend to be an easier subject for a whimsical mural than say a comedian or an actor?

    • justinbc

      I guess I don’t understand what you mean by obsession? I see something Marvin Gaye related maybe once or twice a year, so it’s not like he’s adorned all over the District.

      • Not the original anon, but anon is probably talking about things like Marvin the bar, the mural, etc. I don’t know if it’s an obsession, but there are multiple tributes to him, which is weird if what anon said is true.

    • I’m going to try to reply again. This time without the link. There are actually more than a few DC born celebs–a quick google search will pull up a long list on IMDB.

      It’s debatable as to whether any of them have yet to achieve the iconic status of Marvin Gaye. Also, musicians tend to lend themselves easily as an artistic subject. More so than an actor or comedian or politician. With the wavy musical notes and all.

    • I don’t get it. First, I disagree with the premise. I don’t think DC is obsessed with Marvin Gaye; if anything, Chuck Brown fills that void.
      Even so, Marvin Gaye was a hugely influential and popular voice of Motown in the 60s, who was born and raised here. So what if his father was a bad guy? And most famous people have to leave their hometown at some point to make it big – don’t see why that should be a knock against him.

  • Rant: Being married is much more difficult than I expected. Despite many conversations before getting married on the”big issues” it feels like we are never on the same page and the compromises we came to are now being only unilaterally implemented. Having a hard time staying optimistic.

    • justinbc

      That really stinks. Would he/you be open to outside counseling? Even “successful” couples find it beneficial to talk to professionals from time to time.

      • +1. I wonder if a more neutral third party could help advocate for more cooperation and last unilateral action. Also, I feel for you and am sorry you’re facing these challenges.

      • how often does professional help actually work when there are no kids involved?

        • justinbc

          No idea if you’re looking for a specific percentage. I would wager though that many couples need help, whether they realize it or not, even if there is no child there to bind them together. Some people want to be better partners, they just don’t know how.

        • I would think that’s it’s easier to do counseling when you do not have kids. You have so much more time to focus on each other and way less stress/responsibilities competing for your attention.
          While the kids might force the couple to stay together, that’s no guarantee that they are happy. In fact people who stay together for the sake of the kids are usually the most miserable of all parents (see: my mother and father).

          • stats i’ve read suggest that counseling has a higher chance of success with parents as opposed to child-free couples.

          • I don’t have any stats — but often people with kids are more motivated to use counseling as a tool to make the option of staying together work well; people without kids may be less invested to focus on staying together as a family unit, and more invested in exploring ways to get their individual needs met, which might mean leaving the relationship. It’s often “easier” when the question is “how can we make this work?” rather than “Of all the possible options out there, should I/we make this work?” I don’t mean to imply that any of this is easy, rather that there’s a chance that some people with children may ask different questions and have different goals compared to some of the people without children.

          • +1 to what Blithe said — if there’s a difference in counseling success rates, I’d imagine that’s why.

    • Did the two of you live together before you were married? I’m genuinely curious since I live with my SO and feel marriage really wouldn’t change much about our current relationship.

      • marriage is different than cohabitation. it really is.

        • I disagree – it really depends. My spouse and I lived together before marriage and being married changed almost nothing about our relationship (besides we were married). Buying a house together didn’t change anything either. We have always kept our own bank accounts/credit cards/managed our own money/pay for our own personal expenses (clothes, student loans, etc) and each pay half of all joint expenses (mortgage, car, joint credit card only used for joint expenses such as going out to eat together). This is all changing slightly as we are expecting our first child in Nov because I will not be working as much, but we agreed upon how this would be handled in advance.

          • Yeah I wonder how much it would really change things. We already own a house together, but otherwise have separate bank accounts and do not share finances other than for the house and related living expenses. I don’t think we’d change that arrangement even if we were to get married. I think it might be psychological difference for some people, but for me it’s more about safeguarding my family (ie if one of us ends up in the hospital, etc).

          • Not much changed for us after living together before marriage except for finances… I’d be interested to find out how many people in a relationship/married/co-habitating share completely their finances. For me and my husband, everything is both of ours (debt, credit, assets, etc.) and we don’t have individual back accounts (other than retirement). But it seems like most people I’ve spoken to don’t do this…just wondering if it’s a source of frustration or a source of freedom.

          • epric002

            we took the advice of some friends of mine and have: joint checking/savings/mutual funds where our paychecks are deposited, we pay bills from, etc- we also have 1 shared credit card. we both kept our individual checking/savings accounts and credit cards, and each month we get an “allowance” that is transferred to our individual accounts- that is our money to spend however we want to on whatever we want. 2+ years into this system and we are both happy so far.

          • UDPie, my husband and I have a similar situation — what’s ours is both of ours. This system has worked really well for us for the year we’ve been married. We’re still working out some minor logistical kinks, like making sure that we communicate well about what bills have been paid and which still need to get paid, but for the most part I’d say that it’s been far more a source of freedom than frustration.

      • I lived with my husband for about two years before we got married and we’ve now been married a year. Very little changed for us after the wedding, other than the new responsibilities of owning a house we bought a few months ago and making progressively larger decisions together as a couple on things like finances. I imagine some upcoming big decisions might bring new challenges. But for us, at least, these relationships changes have been incremental rather than starting right when we got married.

        That said, we have a family member who got married right around the same time. The couple lived together for at least a year, but things changed a lot for them after the wedding. Without going into too much detail, I’ll just say that the wife has progressively ratcheted up her demands on the husband’s time and money in a way that seems completely unsustainable from the outside. I worry a lot about them.

      • jim_ed

        My wife and I lived together for 3 years before getting married, and have now been married for 3 years, and very little has changed in our relationship. Hell, we’ve even added an infant into the mix, and while the day-to-day responsibilities have changed some, the core dynamic of our relationship hasn’t changed much at all.

      • Yes, we lived together, though not for very long. It really is different when you’re married unless you’ve already blended finances, families, etc.

        We also we very proactive in discussing some tough subjects (very different finances, family members with severe mental illness, my lack of religious beliefs) and even did marriage counseling for 4 months before the wedding – required by my home country.

        Basically, everything we agreed to and every compromise we developed together he’s now failing to follow through on, though I’m expected to continue honoring our agreements. It’s discouraging.

        • I’m so sorry to hear about your struggles, OP. Out of curiosity, is the marriage counselor who you met before your wedding someone you could contact now for follow-up counseling, even through Skype or something like it? I wonder if discussing your commitments in the same context might help you renew the initial commitments you made.

    • Don’t know if this is relevant for your case but I was in a relationship for many years, with someone that I thought I knew quite well. Once I finally agreed that we were working towards marriage, he changed radically. It was only much later that I realized that he was acting out a lot of the patterns in his parents’ extremely dysfunctional marriage — and, in response to his unpredictable rages, I was acting out some of the patterns in my own parents’ dysfunctional marriage. “Marriage” for us, brought up a lot of less-than-fully-conscious stuff that being in a serious relationship had not.
      I’m not sure what your expectations were/are. Marriage — like most long term commitments, is difficult, and talking about issues is different from actually living them out on a day to day basis. FWIW, having people to talk to could be helpful for you both — for perspective, insight, problem-solving strategies, and support.

  • rave: finally have a bit of flexibility that is not painful so i can tie my own damn shoes. makes me appreciate the little things in life.

  • Oooh! Today’s photo was taken by Jamelle Bouie from Slate! I like it even more now!

  • i’m a bit concerned by the overwhelming sentiment that it is even encouraged that a civilian president salute the military. A “thank you for your service” seems more appropriate to me.

  • Andie302

    Rave: See accountering’s raves above…excited for him on all fronts!
    Rave: Egg salad with avocado and bacon sandwich
    Rave: Nearly 7 miles yesterday with only minimal soreness today
    Rant: Extended crappy mood – I think I’m morning the loss of summer. The good news I’ve gotten better over the years at not letting a bad mood impact my plans (because I always regret it later).
    Rave: Random free pants from a friend – just asked that I buy a drink next time we’re out and pay it forward…which is not a problem! I love giving away stuff that’s taking up space if someone else can put it to good use. I may be doing this with my winter clothes in the coming weeks.
    Rant: Ancy about my living situation for several reasons. I’m hoping to have a more definitive plan in the coming weeks.

    • I used to go to a deli on L Street (I think) where that sandwich was called a Bacon Whoopie.

      • Andie302

        That’s what I had ๐Ÿ™‚ I got it from Market to Market on 5th St in Chinatown. They also stuffed it so full that I could only eat half. Hooray for bacon whoopie leftovers. (And I couldn’t remember why this tasted familiar until I was nearly finished – they used to have something like this at Heidi’s Brooklyn Deli that I loved!

    • Totally mourning the loss of summer here, too. ๐Ÿ™

  • Update from yesterday’s post on joining online dating
    Rave: receiving a good number of messages each day, some really genuine ones. One guy I’ve messaged a few times asked me out, and I”m not sure how to respond. Iffy about it. Thoughts?
    Rave: i messaged ONE guy on my own and had great messaging back and forth
    Rant: radio silence now regarding aforementioned guy

    Ugh, rejection sucks, but I need to be able to deal with it. You’d think I’d be better at handling it, but it hurts every time.

    • epric002

      i vote “go” for iffy dates. if you’re corresponding with them and there are no glaring red flags- why not give it a try? is the “radio silence” only 1 day? if so, not sure that counts as rejection at this point…

    • Accountering

      RE the first dude: go out with him* (*if you like him that is) What have you got to lose? I like either a coffee, or a drink. That way if it doesn’t work you can bow out quickly.

    • If you’re at all interested/intrigued by the “iffy” guy I’d say go. You might be pleasantly surprised!
      I agree with epric002 — if it’s only been a day, I wouldn’t write that guy off just yet.

      • I know, it’s only been a day, and I’m also pretty terrible at responding to messages too. I won’t write him off. I’ve never actually had a conversation with a complete stranger that seemed like I was just chatting with a really good friend, so I was pleasantly surprised by this guy. Hoping for the best as always. Thanks, all!

    • I was feeling iffy about a date, went on it – and we ended up being together for a year. It’s worth giving it a go, unless you’re getting sketchy vibes. (Granted, there were other ones that I felt iffy about it that were indeed iffy, but I’m glad I didn’t miss out on that one.)

      • No sketchy vibes. I might just go and grab drinks. I need to “get out there” or whatever people tell me. Thanks for the advice!

    • Go on the iffy date!! I went on many. The worst ones were just a bad half hour or so, maybe an hour if you counted getting to and from wherever. I figure I’ve wasted a lot more time than that on even worse things. If it’s really bad, you’ve got some good stories for your friends.
      I also went on a few iffy dates and have a couple more friends in DC as a result, it was clear dating wasn’t going to happen but we had some interests in common so went in that direction.

      • epric002

        +1 i’d say quite a few of my online dates were iffy. there were very few people that i had very strong, positive, immediate reactions to. some of the iffy dates were the only contact i ever had with those people, and some of the iffy dates turned into multiple dates. i’d probably categorize my first date with my now husband as “iffy”- neither one of us remember much about initially contacting/corresponding with the other person. it’s a total fluke that we ended up going out again, and again, and again ๐Ÿ™‚ good luck!

  • the new ads that play video are not pleasing.

  • Random rave: Junip’s self-titled album from 2013. Perfectly suits my mood right now and is mellow enough that I can listen while working.

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