Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • justinbc

    UPDATE on PoP HH @ DCR: I posted this yesterday but it was late so not sure how many saw it… Due to a scheduling conflict with them having a fundraiser on the 20th they won’t be able to give us any space that day, so we’ve rescheduled to the 27th and they will hold the patio for us.

  • Rant: Can’t decide whether to take this job offer. Same pay, same benefits, same work (although possibly more challenging work and more responsibility, both of which I consider a good thing at this stage of my life). The commute is a little worse, but only because my current commute is so good.
    The only major difference is that I’d be going from a company of 80,000 employees to one of 250. Can those of you who’ve had experience at similarly-size companies tell me what the pros and cons of both were?

    • Congrats on the job offer! Not quite the same, but I went from a company of 6,500 to a company of 25 and I am absolutely loving being a part of a smaller team. There is a lot less of the complicated bureaucracy I was used to and it is much easier to get things done in a timely manner. I have also had opportunities to try things outside of my expertise just because I was interested and the work had to be done. I’ve gotten a lot more recognition for my work and more responsibility. The only major negative I’ve witnessed while working in a smaller office environment so far is that if you screw up, its painfully obvious who dropped the ball.

      • I would also say that at a super small company, there can be a lot of internal politics that you sometimes need to tiptoe around, but I don’t think that would be a concern with 250 people.
        In this case, I would look at the possibilities for the future. Does the job offer come with opportunities your current job does not? That would be the big case in its favor if so.

        • That’s the part of trying to figure out. I really don’t know which job would offer better opportunities, but that’s the thing I’d like to base my decision on.

      • Another thing to consider is each company’s reputation and future job prospects. Do you plan to stay at your next job for a while? How does the smaller company’s reputation compare to the larger one? Can you get the next job you want more or less easily?

        Also, at a smaller company, people matter even more. Did you get a good vibe from your potential co-workers?

        • I’ve been at my current job 8 years, so I think I’d stay at this one a long time. I’m not a job-hopper.
          This company has a great reputation– as good if not better than my current one.
          I’ve only met the person I’d be directly reporting to, but I got a great vibe from him. I also know a few people there that used to be at my current company, and I like them too.

      • Thanks! I have a tendency to hide in my cube and let others take the lead on things, because it’s so easy to do when you’re part of a huge company. I think it will be good for me to be in an envinronment where I’m forced to be more actively involved.

    • I went from a very large federal agency (tens of thousands) down to a very small one (a few hundred). I would say the biggest drawback I’ve found is that funding seems tighter (so less training opportunities), and also less resources. It may be specific to my agency, but I’ll have a task requiring 100 labor hours, be the only person working on it, and they want it in 50 labor hours.

      One of the benefits is that you tend to know more of your coworkers and have a better overall sense of the work you’re doing and why it’s important to your organization. That kind of thing tends to matter to me (sense of purpose).

  • Rant: Depression
    Super Rant: Suicide
    Rave: Those that are there to help those dealing with depression and it’s many forms.

    • Indeed. I’ve never been into Robin William’s style of comedy, but he was an integral part of my childhood and it’s terribly sad that his life ended so tragically.

      • Me too. I actually prefer his dramatic acting. See the episode of Louie (“Barney/Never”) he was in a couple of years ago. One of the best episodes of the series.

      • I don’t understand why people seem so eager to express this. His dramatic work was excellent, I agree, but his core was his comedy. Sure, we all have our tastes, but I’ve read this sentiment quite a lot, and since I don’t agree with it, I guess I’m wondering why it needs to be expressed.

        Anyway, he had some great stand up moments that I recall. He and Billy Crystal organized this live event for homelessness that I remember being hilarious and moving, as were some of his perfomances on Letterman after 9/11 and when Letterman had that heart attack. Mork on Happy Days first, and then Mork and Mindy was like nothing before it. Those were the days of few channels, and that character owned the culture for a brief period. All of which made One Hour Photo or Awakenings amazing performances.

        • Sorry, I didn’t know other people were expressing this sentiment. I guess what I meant was that he was a cultural force that shaped the childhood of anyone who grew up in the 90’s regardless of whether they liked him as an actor/comedian or not.

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: depression taking good people away. depression lies.
    Rave: surprise online sale at Kate Spade. Got a cute red purse for super cheap!

  • Rant: Robin Williams. Jesus. For my money, “A Night at the Met” is the best standup routine ever. So sad that genius is so often rooted in despair. RIP

  • RANT: Robin Williams. So unexpected and heartbreaking. I think the only other time I’ve been upset like this about a celebrity death was Steve Irwin. He was just a huge part of my childhood, and it’s upsetting to think that someone who brought so much laughter and happiness to other people was in such a place himself.
    Rave: Re-watching his movies and appreciating what a talented actor and comedian he was.

    • +1. I’m not one to get caught up in the lives of celebrities, but I’m very saddened by Robin Williams’ death. I agree about Steve Irwin also- LOVED his show growing up πŸ™

  • Rant: Death of Robin Williams. I always liked his work. Especially the Birdcage.
    Neither rant nor rave: His death made me think of my own depression. Hopefully therapy and medication will help me avoid his fate.
    Rant: My umbrella broke in the rain today. Got so frustrated with it, I left it on the sidewalk in pieces near a trash can.
    Rave: I brought a small pizza for lunch today. Got to enjoy the little things.

    • Birdcage and Good Will Hunting were my favorites.

    • E — I don’t know what it is like to be depressed, but I have seen depression and other mental health disorders take their toll on ones I love. Just please know that YOU CAN avoid Robin’s fate. Please know that people care.

    • Emmaleigh504

      The medications are getting better and better, the first one may not work, but don’t give up!
      Rave: Sometimes the little things, like pizza, are the best things.

  • Event-related PSAs:
    – Tonight (Tues. 8/12), 6 pm, Raymond Recreation Center, 3725 10th St. NW, Washington, DC – meeting regarding the former Hebrew Home
    “Muriel Bowser will be meeting residents to discuss DC Government plans for developing 1125 Spring Road (Former Hebrew Home and Robeson School) and the adjacent lot. The DC Housing Authority and the Department of General Services will also be in attendance to hear community concerns about the site.”
    – Wed. 8/27 (rescheduled from Wed. 8/20) – unofficial PoPville happy hour at D.C. Reynolds, 3628 Georgia Ave. NW
    Minor rant: I think I have some kind of community meeting I’m supposed to go to tomorrow night, but I can’t remember where it is or what it’s about.
    Rave: Calming sound of the rain.

  • Rant: Robin Williams’ tragic death. The weather seems appropriate today.
    Rant: I woke up melancholy today, thinking of all the people in my life who struggle with depression — one of whom I don’t talk to anymore. I hope he is well, happy and whole.
    Rave: Even if I am melancholy today, I am alive, well, happy and whole.
    Rave: A family member’s medical procedure seems to have gone well and without complications this morning.

  • Rave: The Popville HH is rescheduled. This might be bad for others, but good for me since I couldn’t come on the 20th.
    Rant: Bus driver last night drove right past people waiting at 3 stops. And it was raining!
    Rant: Trying to find a financial advisor. So many options. Sigh.

    • DC has held a free financial planning day for the last few years. You can schedule a session with a financial planner (free) plus attend sessions on different aspects of financial planning. I haven’t seen an announcement yet for this year – in the past it has been held in the fall at the Columbia Heights Educational Campus.

    • Accountering

      I work with a broker-dealer that supervises independent financial advisers. If you ever need anything or have any questions feel free to holler!

  • Rant: Devastated by Robin Williams. It’s sad when someone so universally loved dies, but tragic when they perceive no love from the universe.

  • Rant: Like everyone else, Robin Williams. I am heartbroken for his children. There is a great article on Cracked about comedians and mental health issues.

    Rant: It’s taking what feels like forever to hear about the outcome of my husband’s job interview!! I know it’s been like 2 business days, but still – I want to know. And I want him to get it so we can move. I’m so nervous – If he doesn’t get it, I don’t want to make him feel like I’m disappointed in him. I just want him to get it!!

  • pablo .raw

    I don’t know if it’s a rant or a rave: Recently, I’ve been feeling the need to listen to a lot of Duran Duran’s music.
    I’m trying to understand what’s going on.

  • Rant: my gf’s friend has brain cancer. Mother, in her late 20s. WTF? Life is just random like that, creeps me out sometimes.
    Rant: People who think one’s lifestyle caused the person’s cancer (thankfully not directly related to rant above, thinking of past experiences). Uh no, sorry, if only life were that easy to control…

    • Emmaleigh504

      ugh your second rant reminds me of a colleague who got tongue cancer, while she was getting treated people who work at the hospital including some nurses, kept asking her how long she smoked. She never smoked but they just assumed she did and that’s why she got the cancer. So infuriating.

      • Yeah, it is that kind of crap that drives me nuts. There are also people who will INSIST there must be something that did it and won’t accept, “The doctors have no idea why it happened. Just one of those things in life.” That will just encourage the person to ask every possible lifestyle question, and you’re damned if you do or damned if you don’t (ex: “You drink? oh, that must be it.” or “Oh, you don’t drink at all? Hmm, that must be one reason.”)

        • Or if you have in-laws who believe in Karma, they think it’s because of something you did in your past life. I think it’s human nature to look for concise explanations when something bad happens, but it’s not helpful.

    • pablo .raw

      So sorry to hear that. My friend’s daughter developed a brain tumor when she was around 1-2 years old. We had to talk to her over and over about how it was not her fault, since she kept saying that she tried to do all the right things, from eating organic food, etc. Fortunately, doctors were able to help her and she is now developing completely normal. Because science. I hope your gf gets good care.

    • KSB

      Oh, I’m so sorry. That’s a fear that I keep tucked away (sudden, terrible illness) but it comes out in force every once in a while. I don’t know her, but am keeping her in my thoughts.

  • Rave: rain – finally, some beautiful steady rain. I only wish I were at home with a book rather than in a strange, grey fabricked box.
    Rant: the Maryland driver who decided to argue with the Cleveland Park fire department as the firemen tried to back their truck into the station. He blocked the driveway and then proceeded to debate the nuances of who has the right of way when firefighters block traffic on both sides of Conn. Ave to park their truck. The entitlement. The nerve.
    Super rant: Robin Williams’s suicide.

  • Sometimes the funny ones laugh the least. RIP Robin Williams. You were something special.

  • Rant: So I got a ticket the other day that I don’t think that I deserve but at the end of the day I am likely just going to pay it because fighting it is a pain in the ass. And if I don’t win, it will likely have doubled so I will be responsible for $50 instead of $25.
    So here is the deal, I parked in a spot that was no parking (directly in front of the Wells Fargo on 13th and I NW) but only from 9a-4p, I parked there at 6:30p right after the street opened up for rush hour. There is one meter in front of the area I parked, no parking where I parked (during the times already mentioned) and then a meter behind where I parked. There was one of those green pay by phone signs in the no parking area as well. Now I am very, very familiar with all the DC parking BS and I know how they do with signs but I figured I was in the clear because one, it wasn’t rush hour, no meter to pay, after 4p so no parking was voided and the green sign said to call in the number on the meter but since there was no meter I figured it didn’t apply to that space since all meters have there own number (or at least they used to). I come back around 8p and I have a damn $25 ticket for failure to pay meter but there was no meter. Of course I was pissed because I made sure I read everything carefully, I deduced that the ticket must be for not calling in the number but two things 1. Again, there was no meter for my spot and 2. They can’t be sure that everyone has a phone to call it in. Somebody help me out, what am I missing here? Of course I have all kinds of pictures to back my POV and I know they just give tickets without a second thought but this is ridiculous and if it is the case, does this apply for the whole city in spots where there are not meters? I should have written this as a question for POP so that I could submit pics but I think anyone that knows the area should be able to picture it. That used to be my spot to park on the low, plenty of spots like that in the city that people overlook…

    • “plenty of spots like that in the city that people overlook…”
      Um, yeah, because we don’t want to get parking tickets.

      • I’ve parked in the city for many, many years and this is the first ticket I have gotten like this. I can only think it is related to the mobile parking they city is using system the city is using now. But why am I explaining this to you? You clearly you lack comprehension skills. Next.

        • the comment you are responding to wasn’t off. you should reread it when you’re not angry.

        • Here’s the deal Kam. If there’s any inkling in my mind, if there’s any hint that something not clear about the parking situation, I don’t park there. Why? Because I don’t want to deal with BS tickets. So if I see two spots with meters, in a zone where there’s a self-pay kiosk, but there appears to be this one magical spot in between the two meters that’s off limits for most of the day, but somehow is free at other times (despite being surrounded by spots that you clearly have to pay for), I move on. If you think you know what you are doing, great, go for it. But guess how many times I’ve gotten a parking ticket in 25 years of driving here? Zero times. That’s no BS, and that’s no accident.

          • I meant self-pay sign, not kiosk, btw. Looks the spot you were in is right next to that sign that tells you to pay by phone, no?

        • I can’t speak to the situation at this specific location, but in my experience, when the city offers a pay-by-phone option for parking, it does it alongside having either a physical individual meter or one of those meter “station” things that covers a large stretch of the block and prints out the receipt that you put on your window. (My phone isn’t a smartphone, so I can’t pay by mobile even if I wanted to.)

    • Accountering

      There are definitely doughnut holes like this all throughout the city. I find them occasionally, and never know what to do. I hate getting tickets, so tend to get parked there, walk around for a couple of minutes, and then tend to pay the green meter. For me, it is not math equation (likelihood of getting caught X cost of ticket < cost of parking) or whatever, but more just the fact that if I don't feed the meter, I worry about it, and that's no fun.

      • I can understand that totally. I will only add that there were meters so there were no green parking machines plus you can’t use those machines for where there are meters…I think it is one of those things that is an issue but maybe enough people haven’t raised it yet. And as I understand it, if it isn’t clearly stated, it should get tossed. Again, the sign said to use the meter number but there was no meter for that spot.

        • Even with no meters and a nearby sign with the pay number you’d have to pay. I wouldn’t argue that since you had a meter only feet away with a clear pay by phone sign. The number for all meters in that section are the same.

    • If you have a pay by phone on the block, it’s treated the same as a meter. The pay by phone covers an area. Each meter doesn’t have it’s own number except when you’re calling for a repair. Some areas stop meter enforcement at 630, though. Fighting the ticket online is very easy, and you can submit photos, so I’d say do it. They will put it on hold while they decide.

    • its infuriating how they make signs and parking so complicated. im sorry. at least it was only 25.

  • skj84

    Rant: Robin Williams. I’m just gutted. It’s just he had everything, all the best resources and still choose to end his life. It just shows how serious depression is and it’s scary in a way that if he couldn’t beat with his resources how can others with less? I have never seen such an unanimous outpouring of grief on social media. It’s touching how he has reached generations from those who grew up with Happy Days and Mork and Mindy, to other who remember him from Aladdin and Ms. Doubtfire. I haven’t been shocked to the core about a celebrity death in a while, but this one is hard.

    Rant: Hung out with a friend who I haven’t seen in a year last night and I’m very worried about her. It sounds like she’s heading down a dark path. It scares me because I didn’t know how bad things were going for her. We used to hang out a lot and so I generally knew what was up, but she’s gradually cut people off this past year. I’m genuinely afraid of losing her. She’s made some horrible choices and I’m worried they will catch up with her.

    Rave: I got some birthday planning in. Hopefully can lock down a venue soon. If anyone knows of any bars that have private space with a low or no minimum/fees I’d be grateful!

  • epric002

    rant: like everyone else- robin williams. so tragic.
    rant: cousin’s wife’s mother diagnosed with creutzfeldt jakob disease.
    rave: other cousin got engaged!
    rant: we never got around to taking dancing lessons prior to the 3 family weddings this year.
    rave: there’s another on the horizon!
    rave: a dozen tennis balls + a ball obsessed foster puppy = hilarity

  • Rant: Intern broke my web site. Ongoing theme.
    Rave: Rain means I don’t have to water the garden!
    Rave: Managed to actually put together a work outfit today that doesn’t look like something a bunch of wombats slept in.

  • Rant: Robin Williams death – I was sure this was an internet hoax. I thought of 5 or 6 of his works immediately that had an impact on my life. I’m sure that everyone can relate.
    Rave: It’s clear from the outpouring that he was well-loved. Hopefully this death brings additional attention to people suffering from depression. If a successful star that has the adoration of what seems like the whole world is overcome, how will the average person fighting this cope?
    Rave: Yesterday was my Sunday and I was very productive. I ran, grocery shopped, and cooked. I sort of felt like I was back to a routine, which I have missed lately.
    Rave: I’ve been out of my routine for the best reasons πŸ™‚
    Rave: A thoughtful gift
    Rant: I mixed up my Monday’s and thought my mom and nephew were coming yesterday to visit the zoo. The weather would’ve been perfect. Hopefully next Monday is also nice!

  • Rant: People only care about suicide when celebrities do it. And usually only men celebrities at that. Artists, actors, comediansβ€”they’re the only ones “allowed” to struggle with depression (though I acknowledge that the stigma still exists for them). I am a middle-class, physically healthy, unmarried, childfree woman, and no one will bat an eye when I kill myself. If there’s any reaction, it will be that I was just a selfish bitch who had no reason to complain about life.

    • Please know that’s not true for everyone. Many people do care. And you’re not selfish, you’re sick and need help. You need professional help to change “when” to “if” and eventually to “not”.

      • For what it’s worth, a friend of mine from college killed himself while going through Navy flight school (“unspecified causes” my ass). I never heard anyone call him selfish – rather, we were all heartbroken and still think of / speak of him.

    • Please know that is not true. One of my friends (also a single, middle class, physically healthy, and child free woman) killed herself several years ago. It was devastating to everyone. In fact, last night when our friends heard the news about Robin Williams, they posted memories about our friend and how much they still miss her, not about the actor. Please, please talk to someone.

    • epric002

      “when” you kill yourself? please get help right now. call your therapist or 1-800-273-8255. the depression is making you think this way.

    • skj84

      I don’t think it’s people only care when celebrities do it, as much as it brings an awareness. L’wren Scott killed herself this past year and there was a lot of coverage about her death. Unfortunately depression and suicide are still taboo in the country and they need to be talked about and yes it seems people only really have that discussion when someone high profile kills them self. Get help if you need it. People will care if you kill yourself. Suicide doesn’t just affect the person who took their life but their family and friends, please remember that. You are loved. You do have people who will miss you. No one will remember you as a selfish bitch, but as a friend who they miss deeply. Call 1-800-273-8255 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline if you need to talk to someone. Even if you don’t want to go that far DC and Montgomery County have help hotlines. I’ve called the MoCo one when i’ve been depressed and needed someone to talk to.

    • People only care about marriage, babies, divorce, and death of any kind when celebrities do it. No one (outside of your family and friends) will bat an eye when you do ANYTHING. This is not new. And it’s a good thing. Why would you want strangers all up in your business?
      And it’s not dead men who get the attention, it’s just famous people. Amy Winehouse? Brittany Murphy? Huge news. Robin Williams is special because everyone loves at least one of his movies. That’s rare for any performer.

    • Accountering

      I tend to agree that people sensationalize when celebrities do it, but please know that your friends and family (and POPville users) care too. It hurts me to know you are struggling today, and I certainly wish you the best, and hope you can find help. Please speak to someone about this. People do care about you – deeply I am sure.

    • This may be true en masse – in that celebrities are well-known and therefore the outpouring of grief is broader and more public. However, I have no doubt in my mind that you have touched people and that they would care if you killed yourself. Please don’t. Please do find support and a therapist. And if you already have a therapist, please consider finding a new one since it doesn’t sound like you’re feeling particularly stable at present and might need to work with someone with a new perspective. Depression is an illness like any other and requires treatment, regardless of how “picture perfect” your life might be. I don’t think you’re a selfish bitch. I think you need support and help. Please take care of yourself and seek support. Sending a big hug your way.

    • I think the world suffers a loss whether it is a famous person or not. I have lost two people in my life to suicide (one when I was just four years old, another when I was in college). I think of those two women often – and I know my mom misses her friend terribly. My husband has bipolar disorder and has thought of suicide many times. It took me a very long time to realize that handling all of his stuff had created my own depression, and some crap I am going through right now is making it so much worse. I ended up calling my OB/GYN and getting a prescription that is making it easier to get by. He said I would be amazed by how many people need medication, even for a short time. Please call for help. We may not know you personally, but we are our own little community here and every member is important.

      • “We may not know you personally, but we are our own little community here and every member is important.” +1 – very sweet comment!

    • Hope things improve on your end. For what it’s worth, I’ve had two good friends (both young men) kill themselves and I never stop thinking about them. I wish neither had taken that route and I know their families feel the same. But, I don’t think of them as selfish. I’m sure that, based on what they were going through, they felt they had no choice. And, people always ask if there were signs. In my case, aside from one of my friends complaining of headaches for the two days prior, there were no warnings at all. Sometimes there just aren’t.

    • Remember that depression lies. It tells you that it’s all pointless, that no one cares, that the world is a dismal place. It isn’t true! I know it’s nearly impossible to remember when you’re in the thick of the darkness, and the thought of death almost sounds peaceful/like a relief, but it’s the illness talking. Please talk to someone.

    • Please know that there is always support and someone willing to listen – whatever you’re going through, please give the Lifeline a call 1-800-273-8255

  • i am moving parking zones…can anyone give me a straight forward answer on what to do while I wait for a utiltiy bill so I can officially change my address with the dmv?

    • Go to your nearest police station with something with your new address, lease, ID, whatever, and ask for a two week parking pass for your new zone. When that runs out ask them for another. That’s what I did when I bought my car and was waiting for DC tags.

    • You don’t need a utility bill to come before you can change your license. I believe that you can use your lease as proof of residence. If your name isn’t on the lease or mortgage there is a form that you can have the person whose name is on the mortgage/lease saying that you live there. Had to do this for my boyfriend when he moved into my house.

      • For the new Real ID licenses, you need two proofs of residence, so the lease or mortgage alone isn’t enough. And there is no option to change your address without getting a Real ID.

  • Rave: Work, while still being crazy this week, feels downright luxurious after last week. Last week I averaged ~3 hours of sleep each night and it felt like everything was falling apart all over the place. Still very busy this week but much, much more reasonable.
    Rave: There’s something very cozy about being inside working on a rainy, gloomy day.
    Rant: I was on my best behavior all week, tons of exercise this past weekend, and my weight went UP a pound. I will never reach my goals at this rate! Feels like 3 steps forward, 2 steps back.

    • To your second rave: I was just thinking this. Everyone has their overhead lights off and desk lamps on in my office– it is really cozy.

      • I would fall asleep in a quick second if my office was like that, although I am still a little jealous!

      • Emmaleigh504

        There’s a floor of design people in my org that have the best offices. they use lamps instead of the horrible overheads and they cleared out the office furniture and brought in their own. They have such nice offices with personality.

        • I worked in an office with overhead florescent lights – I got on a chair and unscrewed half of them. Then used a floor lamp for additional light.

          • Should add this was only for my office!

          • Emmaleigh504

            I used to turn off the overhead and only use the under hutch light, but it burnt out and no one can tell me how to get a new one. Facility services doesn’t change those tubes, office manager can’t order them, contract supply manger can’t order them, why is this so difficult?
            I need to just bring in a lamp like the designers, since I can’t reach the overhead even on a chair.

          • “and no one can tell me how to get a new one.”
            You could just buy one yourself. Sure you shouldn’t have to, but do you want a new bulb or a boatload of frustration? It can’t be that expensive.

          • Emmaleigh504

            I’ve learned to cope without it. It’s been burnt out for about 3 years now.

          • “can’t reach the overhead even on a chair” —

            Well, that’s nothing a few well placed rocks can’t fix! J/k please don’t destroy gov’t property. πŸ˜€

          • Emmaleigh504

            I’ll just blame it on the lady who had my office first πŸ˜‰

  • I Was Gifted These Pickles

    Rant: Stress induced eye-twitching. It won’t stop and it’s really irritating. Going on day 3…

  • valentina

    Rant: Depression sucks! I am so sad to hear about Robin Williams passing. I cried most of the night for him, myself and others who suffer with depression and are often missunderstood or brushed off as “having a little pity party”

    • skj84

      that’s the thing that bothers me most. People who don’t get how serious depression is. It is not something you just brush off. Or a pity party, or someone being dramatic or lazy. You don’t get over depression. It is a real disease, that needs treatments like other medical conditions. Medication works. Therapy works. Support and understanding work. Society needs to destigmatize mental health issues and give them the proper attention they deserve. I have dealt with depression and anxiety since I was 14 years old. More than half my life. While I’m not on meds now, I am in therapy. I write in my journal too. Finding ways to cope are important. Get help if you need it and don’t be afraid of what other think.

      • It can be hard for those of us who don’t have depression to understand it. Especially when someone we love is suffering and we desperately want them to get better. I’ve made some mistakes addressing my girlfriend’s depression in the beginning but I think I’ve become more supportive as my understanding and compassion have grown. That still doesn’t make it frustrating at times though.

        • skj84

          I can get how frustrating it can be for outsiders. I feel horrible about what I put my family through when my issues first started and we didn’t have ways for coping. My father in particular did not understand what I was going through and why it was happening. But the best thing you can do is support your GF. Its hard, especially when it seems like the person isn’t getting better or trying to help themselves. Just be empathic. I have to say you are a lucky person to never have experienced depression.

          • No, don’t feel bad about it. I’m sure there’s nothing you could have done to make the situation easier for your loved ones. Just try not to be resentful when someone points out how good you have it compared to other people, and that you have no reason to be sad. Or when they’re begging you to get out of the house even though you completely lack the energy or will. People usually mean well when they say these things; they just don’t understand the nature of the condition.

          • valentina

            I so agree. People just need to be more understanding and not beat a depressed person over the head with the cliche sayings “after the rain, comes sunshine” etc. Being a prisoner of your mind is the worst. People can’t see depression, so they dismiss it and the person.

        • Emmaleigh504

          Even if you know what it’s like to have depression, seeing loved ones go through it is frustrating. When I was in college , my mom was really sick. When I would visit my parents always took me to my favorite Mexican restaurant for supper my first night. If my mom ordered the taco salad I knew she would be in the hospital within 24 hours. I was so angry at her for 1) making my favorite restaurant stressful, and 2) ruining my trip home. I knew what she was going through, but I couldn’t fix her, so I felt helpless and angry.

      • Emmaleigh504

        Exactly, it’s a disease, not something that’s “just in your head” that if you think happy thoughts enough it will go away. It also effects the whole body. It’s a horrible disease, the social stigma just makes it worse.

    • So true. When my father took his own life (and later on, my brother) my mom likened it to “It didn’t matter whether a carebear riding a unicorn came into his life and gave him a million dollars or if that carebear were evil and took his family and money away while the unicorn stepped on his toes, Dad would still feel the same both times.” It took me many years to realize how true this was and that their suicides were a direct result of an illness; an illness that can stick with you for a very, very long time.

  • Rant-ish: Yoga bliss from Monday pm class didn’t translate to a good night’s sleep (too much time on social media reading about and mourning Robin William’s death).
    Ended up sleeping late, didn’t get pup out before it started pouring rain. Now wondering which will come first – rain stopping or pup needing to go out?
    Min-rave: Even in the pouring rain, the hummingbirds still come to visit the feeder. Glad I moved it to a more protected area.

  • Rave: The older I get, the less judgemental and more empathetic and sympathetic I become.

    • I think that means you are doing something right.

    • skj84

      +1000 on your rave. I wish more people would adopt your attitude.

    • Me too. I realize how angry and impatient I used to be, now that I’m older and mellower. Of course, there was no telling me then that I could have taken it down a notch. : )

    • A particular instance of this happened to me the other day. I was getting on the metro and wanted to sit down. A woman had her leg propped up on the seat next to her, so as to purposefully dissuade anyone from sitting down. I asked her “excuse me” so she would move her leg, but she just stared straight ahead and refused to acknowledge me. (She wasn’t wearing headphones, so I knew she had heard me and was aware that I wanted to sit. Nor did it obviously appear that her leg was injured; she walked off just fine later.) I ended up finding another seat. Now, a few years ago, that kind of rude behavior would have infuriated me to no end, probably on and off for the rest of the day. But after I found my new seat, I looked at the woman more closely. Her eyes were rimmed red, she was covered in odd tattoos, wearing curious wrist bands, and holding her belongings in a clear plastic bag. It dawned on me that she had just been released from either the hospital, jail, or both. Instead of being mad that she refused to let me sit and to even acknowledge my presence, I began to pity her for the life circumstances that made her act that way. And my day was better for it.

      • skj84

        good of you for taking a moment to observe her situation! I think it is natural to jump to conclusions about people, especially ones we don’t know. But you never know what a person if going through, even if they appear to be rude.

  • Rant – Fantasizing about moving into one of those shiny brand new apartment buildings when my current lease is up in two months. I love the character and charm of my old rowhouse apartment, but recently I’ve had a string of things go wrong with it, and that’s got me thinking it must be nice to live in a place where everything is new and clean and functioning. I always thought those new buildings looked soulless and boring but now I see the appeal of living in one.
    Rave – I love the rain today.

    • I usually feel the same way, but for some reason in the past couple of months I’ve had similar thoughts! An in-unit washer is a dream I’d like to come true. And a dishwasher, which is weird b/c the last place I lived with a dishwasher I never even used it, except as another cabinet to store stuff in.
      But I also know from living in new construction in the past that it’s rarely trouble-free, and somehow it’s more annoying when things don’t work b/c there’s a reasonable expectation that they will.

    • We decided to move out of a 100 year old apartment with tons of character into new construction and I think it was a great choice for us right now. While I love houses with character and history, the new apartment is so clean and functional. I think when we decide to buy a place, character will be important but for the temporary, shiny and new works for us.

      • Yeah, that’s my line of thinking too. I’m renting for now, so I wanna try out living somewhere new and shiny and modern for a change.

    • Going into my third month of not having an oven (because the vintage one my landlord had installed in her condo years ago finally gave out) a cookie cutter apartment does sound pretty good about now.

      • Ugh. I lost a bunch of groceries because my “vintage” fridge broke while I was on vacation last week.

    • I totally get what you are saying. Since moving into my new place—I just love the feeling of everything being brand new and clean. Though in my other home I did renovations- it still didn’t feel new/clean as my new one does. I had removed all of my wood work around the doors because they were so badly dented with 20 layer of paints that it always looked/feel dingy.

  • I’d like to get a zipper on a jacket replaced. Any recs for a tailor (preferably in lower NW) that would be able to do good work on windstop fabric? I’m not sure my usual dry cleaner hemmer is up to the job.
    Also, do I buy the zipper? Surely they don’t have things like this on hand….

    • Not what you asked — but have you tried calling the manufacturer? They might send you a zipper — or even replace the jacket. I’ve occasionally been startled by good customer service experiences when I’ve called to report problems.

      • That’s usually my first instinct, too, and I’ve certainly benefitted from better-than-expected customer service. But I’ve had the coat for a while so wouldn’t expect the manufacturer to still guarantee it. Plus it’s a European-only brand and so any postage to get a repair would be more than I’m willing to spend on it.

    • While I did not get a zipper repaired I was happy with the work done at Dupont Cleaners. 1761 S St NW. Got the recommendation from others on popville. πŸ™‚

  • Rave: Amazing weekend in Chicago visiting cousins I grew up with but hadn’t seen in years. Very cool city too, but made really think about what DC would look like without the Height Act.
    Rant: Southwest didn’t begin direct service from National to Midway until this past Sunday, so I had to trek to BWI. Not a fan.
    Rant: The huge plywood construction enclosure at the front end of the Glenmont-bound platform in Dupont Circle really creeps me out. The gap on the front end looks just like where Zoe and Frank meet up at Cathedral Heights…

  • Extra Rant – Car break-ins in Crestwood. Friends had 2 cars broken into last night – airbags and personal items stolen. Not sure what can be done about this type of crime, and not sure whether to shrug and say, “city living” or to rant at someone (and if so, who?).

    • gotryit

      Surveillance cameras. There are enough people in that neighborhood who can afford them (I don’t mean that in a snotty way).
      My neighbor and I both have them, and the police were able to identify the guys who broke into his car. Probabyl doesn’t result in much penalty, but it is something…

  • Rant: lost my keys again…what must my landlord think?! This is the second time I have lost my full key chain in the past 3 months, including the 50 dollar fob, and needing my mailbox lock replaced, plus another time I was just locked out.
    On the plus side, I am incredibly fortunate to have problems that just cost me some embarrassment and money (both of which I can spare in small doses). And hopefully they will be at metro lost and found when I go back to look (they say keys take up to a week to show up)
    Rave: Rollerblading in my apartment while cleaning, and doing laundry for the first time since March (yeah I’m gross)!
    Rant: Laundry smells like oil or something…wondering why…could it be overstuffing the washer?
    Rave: I’m alive and will use all the terrible news of late to spread as much love as I can.

    • Try adding a cup of white vinegar to your laundry. (I promise it won’t come out smelling like salad dressing.) The vinegar cleans your machine and gets rid of weird-laundry-smells. You can add it where the fabric softener might normally go.

  • Rant: Depression. So many emotions returning today – I feel so much for Robin Williams’ children.
    Rave: Rain. Even though my dog hates it and becomes a diva, it’s needed
    Rave: Sister is p r e g n a n t. Holy moly.

  • Rant: The slow network connection is making telework a little frustrating today.
    Rant: Feeling like I’m the only person on my block making 311 requests regarding bulk trash left in the alley, rat abatement, etc.
    Rant: My last few 311 requests regarding bulk trash in the alley have been closed with notes saying “ALLEY CLEANING NEEDED.” I guess I’m going to have to follow up with the DPW guy asking when I can expect the alley cleaning to take place; I don’t remember it having taken so long in the past.

  • I have always associated rainbow suspenders with Mork from Ork.

    Don’t have the energy to Rant or Rave. I wish Robin could have slayed that dragon.

  • Rant: the more I’ve learned about depression over the years, the more clearly I’m able to see that I was relatively seriously depressed for a couple years back in college. I’m grateful that I was able to find my way out of it, but really frustrated and angry and sad that no one – not family or friends or professors – either recognized that in me or cared enough to say anything sympathetic (my mother did tell me I was “wallowing” but left it at an eye-roll). It would be nice if, as a consequence of news like today’s and more openness, other folks don’t have to go through the same thing.

    • epric002

      i know what you mean. i sought help for a bout of depression in college and when i told my parents my mother said “i’ve wondered for years if you were depressed.” and i remember thinking (and still think) “and it never occurred to you to bring me to a doctor/try and get me help?!”

  • Rant: Have to find a new job and a new place to live in the next 2 months. I was expecting on only having to do the latter, but now its both
    Tangential Rant: Paranoid that the compounding stress will give me a shingles relapse
    Rave: eating split pea soup while the weather is icky outside.

  • Rant: just realized my passport expires in September, and I need 6 months’ validity to get into the country I’ll be traveling to. I leave on Thursday so I don’t think I have time to renew it. In a panic while waiting for the embassy to return from lunch break so I can call.

    • Agh, I went through this last year. You can actually go to the passport office for an emergency renewal if you have all your documentation plus proof of travel. Google it – there’s one in downtown DC. You should go first thing tomorrow!

      • Oh thank god. They can process the renewal in only one day?

        • I didn’t end up using this (long story) but my understanding is that they can do it in the same day. You’re looking for “will call” service: http://travel.state.gov/content/passports/english/passports/information/where-to-apply/agencies/washington.html

          You will need form DS-82 (according to the website) as well as proof of travel within two weeks and your photos, etc.. You need to call and make an appointment, but from what I read last year, it also doesn’t hurt to just show up first thing.

          • Hmm, I called and was told I couldnt just show up, and they don’t have appointments until next Tuesday….might have to look into rescheduling everything if that’s true.

          • I’m sure that they want to strongly discourage people from “just showing up”, still, if your schedule is flexible enough, it could be worth it to just show up tomorrow morning — a bit before they open, and explain your plight. If they tell you face to face when you’re first in line that you need an appointment, make the appointment and THEN reschedule everything. I wouldn’t do the rescheduling bit until I”d tried the showing up early effort.

          • Yeah, I really can’t afford to take any more time off work but I’ll have to try that. I think rescheduling the flights will be very expensive.

          • I also can’t find out when they open… 9am? That’s when the first appointments can be scheduled at least.

        • UGH- last year on my way to Mexico I had a layover in Minneapolis because of snow. When I went to check-iin the next morning they wouldn’t except my passport (because I had accidentally washed it months before) they said they could not accept it. They rebooked me for a later flight that day- and told me to go downtown and that I can get one processed that same day. I took me about 2hrs. That day I felt like my tax dollars worked–even though I had to pay like $200 in fees for processing.

  • hispanicandproud

    Rave: Running four miles in the cool rain today with two good loyal friends!

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