Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • Rant – not sure what to do with our cat. Had him for a while, and he was fine for years. Had a kid, he was fine, Kid starts to walk, cat flips out, and has been crazy for the past year. He runs from everyone, hides under furniture, and would rather spend the day outside than inside with us. It’s got to be stress as he throws up, pulls the hair out of his back, and has the runs. I’m thinking he just needs to get out of here and into a kidless house again – whenever my son and wife head out for vacation he becomes fine again. Haven’t been able to find anyone we know who wants to take a cat with these issues – is the pound our best choice? Anyone here looking for a 8 yearish old black cat who hates kids but should be otherwise fine once he settles into a new place?

    • An older cat with some issues probably doesn’t have a very good chance at the pound. I’d recommend that you contact a local rescue group like Homeward Trails and ask if they can post a listing for him as a “courtesy post.” They can list him as a cat who prefers a no-kids environment, and you’ll serve as his foster until he finds an adopter.
      The drawback is that it might take a while for him to get adopted. The upside is that you won’t have to worry about him being euthanized, and you’ll know that he’ll end up in good hands, as rescue groups vet people pretty thoroughly before allowing them to adopt an animal.

    • Perhaps your vet might prescribe something to calm your cats anxieties. Even a short course of meds might help him learn to relax with your kid

      • +1 to this advice — I should have thought of this, as something to try before (or while) rehoming the cat. I think there was a previous PoPville discussion of cats with issues where multiple people said that Prozac had helped their cats.

    • It may also help to give the kitty safe spaces in your house. Is there a gated room or even a closet that the kitty can get to where your toddler can’t? Can you install shelves at a higher level where the kitty could perch out of the kid’s reach? Can you make sure that the kitty gets some one on one time and affection every day (even if it is just a 10 minute play session with the laser pointer)?

  • Rant: I just learned yesterday that Dale Music closed. This feels like yet another dent in my nostalgic heart. I’ve been shopping there since I was a little kid. And my fingers are crossed that the gift certificates that I gave as Christmas presents were redeemed.
    Rant: I got a slip for a certified letter — and the post office that I have to go to to pick it up is not the post office that’s closest to my house. And since the slip doesn’t indicate who sent it, I’m afraid to ignore it, and having it re-delivered doesn’t make sense, since there’s no way I have of knowing if I’ll be at home to sign for it.
    Rant: A planned beach trip with a friend got cancelled. As did the reason I had my alarm clock set this morning.
    Rave: I just bought a wonderful pair of boots. They are a gorgeous grey-ish color. So now I finally have a pair of shoes that are not black!

    • I helped them move a bunch of stuff out (and got to keep a few awesome vintage folding chairs that are badass), but it was sad to see another mom&pop music store go. It’s amazing to me that there ally aren’t that many in DC…I’m stuck ordering guitar strings on Amazon, which makes me part of the problem! I miss Barbara’s Guitars in Adams Morgan. Anyone remember them?

      • There’s still Chuck Levin’s and Atomic (not in DC, but one of the best local music stores.)

        • Love ’em both, but the fact that all the District proper has only Middle C (god, I loathe that place) and the Guitar Gallery is kind of ridiculous. DC has a rich live musical tradition; there should be more options.

      • When I am in serious need, I head to Guitar Gallery for strings. Otherwise, I’ll wait until I’m in PG and hit my tried and true favorite. Atomic Music.

      • I”m in awe that you got souvenir chairs from Dale’s!!!! Way cool!

        I’m doing my bit to support Chuck Levin’s — which I’ve also been going to since I was a kid. It truly is one of the best music stores in the country. The people are wonderful, and the prices are great.
        I don’t know if it’s convenient for you but Guitar Gallery, near the Cleveland Park Metro station also sells strings. And, in a pinch, so does R Street Music — mostly for their students, but I’m sure they’d sell to a walk-in as well. And Middle C music near Tenley Circle would also be another local option.

    • Related Rant: The reason I found out that Dale’s closed is that I need a guitar repair — and, of course, no longer have access to the magicians at the now-closed Guitar Shop. I”m hoping that I can get it done through either the Guitar Gallery or the House of Musical Traditions. If anyone has any recommendations though, I’d seriously welcome them!

  • Rant: Gig (almost from) Hell yesterday. GPS wouldn’t recognize the venue’s address. Miscommunication about when we were supposed to sound check and play (band started the first song without me!) Personal equipment problem (pretty sure it was just the mic and my amp doesn’t need any work. Hopefully so.) Crowd so small there should have been a sign that said “PUPPET SHOW and SPINAL TAP.”

    Rave: Still played well and it was close to home. Also, headlining a big show this weekend.

    • Man, we’ve all had those sorts of gigs. Sometimes you just gotta grit your teeth, force a smile, and remember you get paid to play music while someone else is struggling behind the counter in a fast-food restaurant. 😉

    • Chuckling at the Spinal Tap/puppet show reference. 🙂

      • It was the first thing that came to mind when I saw the venue (small ampitheater in a park) and the audience (sparse, mostly families.)

  • Rave: A wonderful, relaxed weekend.
    Rant: the mess in Israel and Gaza
    Rant: The continued posts about how cats don’t seem to adjust well when their owners have kids. It makes me nervous for if/when my partner and I have a baby. Not sure how the grumpy kitty would/will adjust.
    Rant: My tendency to worry about things that have not yet come to pass.

    • My cats have done great with my now-toddler. The biggest issue was they felt neglected in the beginning when we were exhausted and more preoccupied. But your cat might be just fine. How does he/she do with kids if they come to the house?

      • She hasn’t been around children that often, so I don’t really know. The few times that I have babysat at my apartment, she’s stand-offish at first (and gives me a what the hell is that thing?!? look when the baby cries), but within 20-30 minutes she has mustered up the courage to get near the baby and sniff its pack -n- play and other gear. It is encouraging to hear stories where cats have made the adjustment.

        • Emmaleigh504

          My sister’s mean-as-snakes cat was fine with the kids when they came along. When they got annoying she just left the room. But according to my sister, the cat got really mad at her when she was pregnant. I find that hilarious.

          • anonymouse_dianne

            My mom’s Siamese cat Ming Toy was great with me when I was a baby. We even got some professional photos with him. He was very protective, however, and scared the baby sitter out of the apartment!

    • My wife’s old grumpy-as-hell cat was cine with a new baby and a toddler. When he passed, we waited a year then got the sweetest cat in the world, who also is great with kids – but took to peeign on the tile floor (same spot) for years. She’s hopefully (knock on wood) broken of that now, due to kitty prozac. But after we spent several thousand dollars replacing the tile, she peed on it again *the day it was finished.* We blocked it off and got one of those area exclusion collars, but, before setting it up, decided to give her one last chance. Two weeks later, she’s been good, so hopefully we won’t have to use it.
      Point being (sorry for the ramble) that it’s a crap shoot, but there’s no correlation between grumpiness/sweetness and bad behavior.

  • Any news on the bicyclist who was hit by a car at 16th and (I believe) Fuller this morning?

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: Called to make an appointment with my doctor and found out she’s no longer with the practice. I don’t really like the other general practitioner with the practice, so I hope her replacement is good. I’m not trying to find a new doctor’s office in this town!
    Rave: I made it to work on time. That’s all I got right now.

    • They should have your old doctor’s forwarding information, if she is still in the area. A good doctor that you trust is hard to find.

    • skj84

      Wow, the practice didn’t contact you to let you know she moved on? That’s annoying.

      • Emmaleigh504

        It’s very annoying! I need Rx refills and I could have scheduled this appointment while she was still there. Her last day was last week! Maybe the interim Dr is a Dr Feelgood 😉

    • That also happened to me recently and the doctor moved to California. So frustrating.

      • Emmaleigh504

        I’m hoping she stayed in the area so I can keep going to her, but who knows since I got no communication from the practice.

    • Emmaleigh504

      Rave: Just looked up the new Dr and she got most of her pre-med school, schooling in New Orleans, I’m taking this as a good sign.

  • GiantSquid

    Revel: Went to Komi on Friday night.
    Rant: While it was very good, Mr. Squid and I agreed it wasn’t AMAZING. For $500, the experience should be AMAZING.
    Revel: We didn’t pay the bill.
    Revel: Really great weekend.

  • Rave: Sunday Funday.
    Rant: I feel like that truck in the picture above.

  • Rave: Really fun weekend out of town with friends.

    Rant: 100% not feeling it today. All I want to do is go home so I can lay in bed and watch netflix.

    Rant part 2: My boss is so frustrating to deal with…and it will just be me and him this week. Attempting deep breathing exercises so I can get through unscathed.

  • Rant – got a totally unexpected bill from UPS for US Customs totaling $479 on some clothes I ordered.
    Revel – had a great week in Rohoboth with friends before the bill arrived

  • Rave: daughter is starting to really enjoy her grandparents. Yay! They had lots of quality time these past few days since they babysat her Thurs/Fri when she was home sick with hand foot & mouth and then Saturday night/Sunday morning while my wife & I were out for our anniversary.
    Rant: wife came down with hand foot & mouth Saturday night. So much for our relaxing night out with a good night’s sleep! She was up half the night with itchy & burning hands. Yuck. By now, it’s spread to her feet so walking hurts. Day care wants no part of that, so I’m on drop off & pick up duty this week.
    Rave: Drop off went better than usual this morning! Kiddo got busy with some “work” when we got there and didn’t cry when I left. I hope the rest of the week is so easy!

  • KSB

    Rant – Baby is more than 6 months old and got a brand new hospital bill last week for more than $400. WHAT!?!
    Rant – Baby is more than 6 months old and still considers sleep optional. Yes, sleep training to commence soon.
    Rant – Baby is more than 6 months old and I still look 6 months pregnant.
    Rave – Baby.

    • Formerly Broken Jaw

      I’m still gettting random hospital bills from last January. It’s a messed up system!

      • KSB

        Incredibly messed up. I thought I paid for some of the items already but they’re listed in similar yet not quite the same ways. So I have to dig up old bills and go line by line… FML.

    • Ugh, good luck! We (and by “we” I mean “I”) held off on sleep training until 8 months because I wasn’t ready to try before then. But we used the Ferber method, and it worked super well super quickly. It may have helped that we attacked falling asleep for naps at the same time as night wakings. If you can, aim to try it over a long weekend; that was helpful for us.

      • KSB

        We’re trying to eek out just a few more weeks before sleep training – baby is starting day care at the end of August and I don’t want to go through a series of adjustments when that happens. Long weekend is a good idea. Watch out, Labor Day…

  • jim_ed

    Rant: Found a guy splayed out and unresponsive on the sidewalk in front of our house Saturday night.
    Rave: 911 process was smooth and efficient, and an ambulance was there in less than 10 minutes. Perhaps its a function of where we live or just luck of the draw, but our responses from MPD and DCFD have always been prompt and timely.
    Mega Rant that is pointless because it will likely never be fixed: The guy was severely intoxicated, and the ambulence took him to the hospital, but left some of his papers on the ground, which I had to clean up. His name happened to be on them, so I punched him into the DC court case search – dude has 85 separate court cases against him in the last 10 years, including a bunch of mental health evals. This is only for charged police activity, god only knows how many medical calls he’s had as well. How does it benefit anyone to leave him on the street like that? 50+ police calls aren’t enough to involuntarily put him in treatment for substance abuse and/or mental health issues? How much more time and money are wasted by constantly arresting/hospitalizing this guy instead of getting him the help he needs? Likewise, if he doesn’t have mental health or substance abuse problems, why is this dude not being locked up for his extensive criminal acts? He’s been charged and given suspended sentences on various charges 4 times this year. How the hell does that work? It just continues to amaze me that in a city that’s so liberal and concerned with helping the poor that we continue to ignore the continued problem of mental health issues. Blah.

    • You’d think that there should be a better way, but mental health resources are one of the areas of the social safety net that has really large holes in it. It is really tough (as it should be) to get someone committed involuntarily. If they don’t want care, or if their condition makes them less capable of seeking care on their own, there isn’t a lot that the mental health system can do. This guy being frequently arrested and evaluated is what typically happens to people in his situation, because the resources they need are overbooked, underfunded or simply don’t exist.

    • pablo .raw

      I witnessed a guy stealing a car; me and my co-workers tried to stop him but it was getting dangerous and we let him go. (Long story). I stayed to wait for the police to come and testify. After an hour my co-worker (whose car was stolen) called the police back. They said they didn’t have any units available. We waited for another hour, they never came. This was in SE DC around 8 years ago. Hopefully things have changed.

    • People like this used to be put into asylums. You can thank President Reagan for putting an end to that.

    • I read an article that talked about people like this. In Denver, they have tried some new programs with the worst of the worst offenders. A guy like this can cost the system $1,000,000/year. They have to bring him into the hospital in terrible shape, and nurse him back to health, so he can go and get back into the same issues in two more nights.
      The worst people will be in the hospital 50 times a year. They found that their spending on people like this, it was 95% of the spending was spent on the worst 5% of offenders. It was a bit unique, but they basically gave them caseworkers, and an apartment, and tried to get them sorted out.
      With that said, I absolutely blame Reagan. Legitimately think he is one of our worst presidents of all time.

      • Was the article “Million-Dollar Murray”? It’s one of my all time favorite New Yorker articles (Malcolm Gladwell issues aside). http://gladwell.com/million-dollar-murray/

      • jim_ed

        WIth Reagan… yeah he screwed the mental health system nationally, but that was 30 years ago, so I find it hard to bring up his bogeyman for an issue the city has had 3 decades to address. The city spends money on social programming like a drunken sailor on shore leave that winds up in the pockets of two-bit hucksters citywide, so I have a hard time believing we can’t produce the money to fix the problem, I think its an issue that no politician sees it as politcally viable to say “hey, we need to make it easier to commit people against their will who desperately need treatment.” Maybe it’s my cynicism getting the best of me, but I really think it boils down to the fact that addressing mental health issues doesn’t buy votes in this town, despite the fact that it could have an enormous impact on the quality of life of everyone in the city.

        • It is actually Reagan’s legacy. The community-based mental health care that was supposed to help institutionalized folks to transition back to society and maintain their stability was an unfunded mandate. Across the country, there is nowhere near the amount of resources needed to support these people on any level-housing, mental health care, drug or alcohol treatment, food aid, etc. And the Party of Reagan keeps slashing social programs in favor of corporate subsidies and tax breaks. You’re right that aid for the homeless and/or mentally ill is a loser of a political position. No politician has the guts to actually advocate for the people who really need it. Obama gets blamed for inciting class warfare for even halfheartedly advocating for the middle class.

          • You guys need to read up on the history of deinstitutionalization if you think it just happened after 1980. Wrong- the movement was underway in the early 1960s (and probably earlier than that). The idea originates from the Left, who believed that imprisoning people in mental health hospitals was inhumane (in some cases they were right, in others not so much). What they didn’t count on, is that some mentally ill truly need to be locked up. For example, schizophrenia is an incredibly difficult disease to treat without a LOT of support and checks. Some people can do it with the constant care of family, etc…, but too many end up on the streets. The Right ultimately went along with deinstitutionalization because they saw cost savings in getting rid of government-sponsored care.

      • Accountering

        This was me posting above, but YES! That is the article! I had no clue how to find it, thanks for the link!

    • This is a great article on why things are the way they are in this country re: mental health care, written by a former congressman who helped pass legislation that he now realizes was a big mistake. Great read:

      • Thanks for posting this. It’s one of the best articles I’ve ever read about the often devastating consequences of mental health policies in this country. Wrap-around services, school-based mental health services, and more resources that don’t involve the justice system are desperately needed. I say this as someone with many years of experience working in school based mental health programs.

    • Where did this happen? My neighbor noticed an intoxicated guy passed out on our patio chair Saturday night, but the guy disappeared while he was deciding what to do about it.

  • Formerly Broken Jaw

    Rant: My niece and nephew are throwing a surprise party for my sister’s upcoming significant birthday. I don’t *get* surprise parties. I hate the idea of sneaking to Indiana and having bad sitcom-like experiences hiding at my dad’s place just a few blocks from my sister’s house.

    Rant#2: No sooner had I booked my airline tickets, my dad called and told me that his tenant that rents the other side of the duplex he keeps there (he spends most of the year on Florida) called to tell him that she has bedbugs. He can’t get an appointment to have his place checked until after my sister’s birthday since there seems to be an epidemic of bedbugs there which is odd since I would think all the meth there would kill them. Hotel bill on top of everythng else is starting to make this trip very expensive.

    Random: Many of the Bros at the AB YMCA are starting to acknowledge me.

    Rave: I think means that soon I can start enforcing Bro Code violations!

    • I belong to the AB YMCA….i dont understand what your random is about…is that a good thing or a bad thing?

    • Your interest in the bro code is very interesting.

    • Thanks to your second rant, I’ve now moved from worrying in a generic sort of way about bedbugs — to worrying about the possibility of encountering meth-crazed bedbugs. I’m consoling myself with the likely lie that if there are such things as meth-crazed bedbugs, their central habitat is Indiana, which I can probably avoid for the foreseeable future.

      • Formerly Broken Jaw

        Are you sure you don’t want to be my “Plus 1” at my sister’s surprise party?

        • It’s tempting, but since I’d likely be wafting Eau de DEET, I’d probably be kind of a downer at the party. LOL

    • Emmaleigh504

      I’m so pleased about your advancement into the bro-world! Keep us posted on new developments.

  • Rant: I can’t stand my job. I’m already depressed, and a soul-sucking job really doesn’t help. I know I shouldn’t complain about it–my boss and coworkers are really nice, the job pays more than I’d be making elsewhere, benefits, just being employed is a major win, etc. And yet I hate it so much. My skills and experience are very much not in demand, and five years of searching for another job has turned up nothing. I’ll be stuck in this stupid mire of a job until I die or reach retirement age, whichever comes first.

    • I hear you. Except, I don’t think I’ll be able to retire, so I’ll be stuck here until I die. I just hope the annoying boss dies first.

      • Argh! Annoying boss is annoying! My boss is great but some of the higher-ups are total pains-in-the-arse. Much sympathy, comrade.

    • pablo .raw

      Maybe its time to get some new skills?

      • I feel like that doesn’t really help. Employers want years of experience doing something, and a training course or new degree don’t doesn’t much but accrue debt. I’ve worked in publishing (editing and production) in university, not-for-profit, and fed settings for over 10 years. Editors are a dime a dozen, my graphic design chops are competent but not astounding, and I’m definitely not a neworking go-go-go Type A person. That plus an advanced degree in history and museum studies basically means that if I didn’t have my current job, I’d be working for minmum wage somewhere. I suppose a slow decay of the soul is at least better when one has good wages and benefits. :/

        • *networking

        • Ugh I’m obviously not very good at proofreading. The sentence should be “. . . a training course or new degree doesn’t do much but accrue debt.”

        • How about getting training in usability / user interface design? A lot of publishers (in DC area and in general) use people with these skills for their interactive research tools, and they would look positively on your other publishing experience because it gives you background knowledge that others wouldn’t necessarily have.

      • Thanks for the Twitter follow, PabloRaw! You are totally a Popville celebrity (not to mention really talended); I am honored!

    • What kind of work do you do, and what are you looking for? Is there a way to acquire new skills/experience via volunteer work and use that to springboard into a new career?

      • I’m not the OP, but I’ve been doing volunteer work in my desired field for a couple years now and it’s not getting me any jobs. You can volunteer all you want, but it doesn’t carry the same weight as actual work experience.

    • Sorry you’re feeling this way. Have you thought about starting a blog about things you are more interested in? It can be a creative outlet on weekends/during break times at work, and may help you develop new contacts/skills/get noticed.

      • Actually, I do have a blog! It’s been a lot of fun, and it’s really cultivated some long-held personal interests. Check it out: museumdogs.tumblr.com. There’s, like, no chance of it ever leading to a job, but at least it gives me some small shred of accomplishment.

        • just looked at it and I absolutely love your blog!!!!

          • Thanks so much! I get a kick out of doing it (art, art history, and dogs are three of my favorite things), and it tickles me to no end that readers seem to be enjoying it. My mini-dream is to get a group of interested folks together and do a Museum Dogs tour of the National Gallery.

  • Rave: Flirt pole!! Thank you, epric002! My pup loves it and it’s been great for tiring her out, teaching her to calm down with distractions, and getting her to be better at “leave it”
    Rave: Cooked for the boy for the first time and it went well. I’m not great in the kitchen so I always get a little nervous.
    Super mini rant: Someone brought what I thought was caramel popcorn into the office. Turns out it’s caramel and Old Bay popcorn…no bueno.

    • epric002

      yay, glad that you and your pup are loving it!

    • skj84

      Goodness, that popcorn story sounds like an unhappy surprise.

    • I’d give it a shot, love the Old Bay.!

    • Yuck! I don’t understand this Old Bay obsession, the wedding I was just at had Old Bay everything.

      • Hopefully not the wedding cake! As to the obsession, maybe you have to grow up with it. For me, it’s just what food tastes like. And without a pinch of Old Bay, seafood and chicken and, yes, even popcorn, taste sort of blah. I’ve even had Old Bay biscuits which were beyond wonderful.

        • Luckily the wedding cake was Old Bay-free! That is interesting to know, that might be the case.

        • I recently tried Old Bay beer – it was ‘interesting’

          • skj84

            Flying Dog’s Dead Rise? I liked it. The Old Bay was there, but not too prevelant. It gave the beer a good kick. I ordered on tap at Mussel Bar and they sprinkle Old Bay Spice on top. Tasty!

          • Yup, Flying Dog. I imagine the beer would taste better with crabs or something similar.

          • jim_ed

            I thought the Old Bay was surprisingly understated in it, I was expecting a big ole punch of it, but it just had a nice old bay finish. It would definitely pair perfectly with some crabs or shrimp from the wharf though.

    • homerule

      We get our flirt pole today!

    • I LOVE Old Bay — although the combination of Old Bay and caramel would indeed give me a pause.
      I grew up shaking Old Bay on popcorn (embarrassed to say that as a kid, I thought I’d invented this idea….), on chicken, in salad, pretty much everything that wasn’t sweet or covered in hot sauce. Then I went to college in New England where everything was “seasoned” in salt and pepper. My first trip back home I scored the biggest tin of Old Bay that I could find. Bliss! lol

  • Rant: my old building wants to charge $50 a wall to repaint my old place before someone moves in. Seems steep, but they said I could just do it myself with a quick coat of primer and there’d be no charge. I have a crazy week – anyone know how I could get a painter for $100 to $150 bucks for 2 hours of work? Easy job…

    Revel – awesome gig at the Spirit Festival at Merriweather this weekend. The hang time with the other bands was a lot of fun, all the acts slayed, and I got to enjoy Janelle Monae’s set from onstage. I’ve been a huge fan since the first EP she released, so finally getting to see her live from the stage was bananas, and she did not disappoint.

  • epric002

    rant: pretty sure i’m fighting off a cold
    rave: zinc and ecchinacea!
    rave: foster puppy went to a new foster home, where his new foster parents are pretty sure they’ll adopt him!
    rave: got a new medical foster puppy last night- sweet boy has a broken foot that is healing. he is still the happiest wigglebutt i have ever seen, and the first one who leaves grouchy corgi alone!
    rave: husband who is supportive of fostering 🙂

  • laduvet

    Rave: Trying to avoid Facebook
    Rant: Facebook is making me feel bad about myself – darn you social media monster! It’s solidifying “you won’t have it all.”

    • I bet you have a lot more than the folks who insist on posting about how good life is.

    • Love this quote about it: “One reason we struggle with insecurity: we’re comparing our behind the scenes to everyone else’s highlight reel.” Also, I find that the people who post the most stuff on FB/other social media are the ones most desperate to make their lives seem amazing because they don’t feel that way themselves.

      • That correlation isn’t 100%, but it’s pretty close.

      • laduvet

        Also… at a job where I am bored – but my true passion is art and deign – so the once inspiring Apartment Therapy type posts are now making me artistically frustrated and mopey.

        It’s all a phase — Seems to me, that a lot people, today, are complaining about work! Misery Loves Company!

        • I hate Apartment Therapy. I used to mope over those homes too, but then I realized there are much better things to focus on in life than making your apartment look perfect. At least for me anyway.

          • Well said. I’m starting to learn the same thing. I can’t have the perfect apartment; there will always be dog toys in the living room, dirty dishes in the sink, and significant other’s shoes on the floor at some point on any given day.

          • Yep, and I don’t really want to spend my weekends scouring yard sales for the perfect midcentury sofa. Or wallpapering walls that are really not that offensive as they are with plain old paint. Or spending a week’s salary on a cute Anthropologie throw. If I think about the things I really care about and enjoy doing these would all be really low on the priority list, and I’ve learned to accept that.

        • what kind of art and design? I’ve been sitting on my thumbs with some installation art ideas…

      • That’s very apt, the “comparing our behind the scenes to everyone else’s highlight reel.”
        Some of my friends seem to think that I’m out practically every evening going to shows. I _do_ go to a fair amount of shows, but they’re disproportionately represented on Facebook because I almost _always_ post on Facebook when I go to a show, whereas I rarely/never post “Chilling at home, wasting time on the Internet and doing ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.”

        • Exactly. I post a nice dinner out to FB. Cleaning up when the dog has diarrhea, not so much.

          • I don’t mind the nice dinners. It’s more like the “guess who’s starting a new job at Google?” posts that I hate. What’s wrong with quietly changing your job information?

    • skj84

      It’s very easy to develop a complex when looking at friends lives on social media. But you have to remember that Facebook and other social media are generally a controlled look at what they have. Most people aren’t going to post about the debt they accrued to pay for that awesome home or trip, or how their relationship is messed up. Just focus on the good you have.

      • Yep, for most people their Facebook feeds are a carefully crafted image of what they want their lives to be and not what they actually are. Some of the most impressive-looking Facebook profiles are from my deadbeat high school classmates who are working at CVS in our hometown. One of the people in our hometown does lifestyle photography and she took all these glamorous shots of them looking beautiful and happy. I don’t think it’s an accurate depiction of how they actually are.

      • just deactivate your account. i did it and don’t miss it at all.

    • Emmaleigh504

      I’ve gotten rid of most of my friend on FB and only follow people I like and have interesting things to say, so the 3 times a year I go on there it’s usually a good read. One of my favorite people from college likes to post discussion questions. It’s really interesting. Most are geared towards her job as and English instructor at a small university, but sometimes it’s pop culture or cooking or bucket lists. she has the best facebook of all time. I should probably just follow her.

  • Rant: Feeling so much anxiety about my job this week. A lot to do, a lot I don’t really know *how* to do. It’s been awhile since I’ve felt real anxiety over work, but, I have it now. Ugh.
    Rave: Lovely, relaxing weekend, with a lot of quality time with my husband.

  • skj84

    Rave: The weather cooperated with me this weekend! I had outdoor events on Friday and yesterday and was worried about them getting rained out. Thankfully Mother Nature waited until late to start spewing.

    Rave: Good date on Saturday. Seeing the guy again this week. I’ve been a bit scarred recently with dates canceling and such, so I admit my expectations were slightly low. But the dude seems cool.

    Rant: Good date made me start thinking about the guy I can’t get over again. Why can’t I freaking move on! This is ridiculous. I’ve been working through this with friends, and journaling and therapy and I keep falling back into the same mopey feelings about him.

    Rant: The very first email I read this morning is a rejection for a job I applied for. Great way to start the morning.

  • Rave: finally biked to work. I think it’s the second time this year.
    Rant: it takes me forever to cool down after a workout. Any recommendations?
    Rave: weekend of deliciousness and good music. Friday = Sushi Taro followed by Gin Joint followed by me watching Lawless and having too many cocktails (but they were so good). Saturday = lunch at Little Red Fox (mmm, but I can’t help think of Red Foxx) followed by buying too many books at Politics and Prose followed by another meal (seconds lunchies?) at Little Red Fox followed by Columbia Station (not delicious) followed by a surprisingly good set at Zoo Bar. Sunday = breakfast from Firehook followed by lunch at St. Arnold’s followed by mac and cheese, interspersed with a lot of reading.
    Rave: the Benedict Cumberpatch Sherlock Holmes.

  • Rant/Question: I’ve been lazy and haven’t found a good restaurant to cater a small event I’m having at my house. I’d like to support a local restaurant in the Petworth/Bloomingdale-ish area. Any ideas?
    Rave: Weather looking great for the Nats game tonight!

    • Salt and Pepper Grill does catering.

    • I think you’d have to pick it up, but, if it’s a small event, DCity Smokehouse does great barbecue platters and meats by the pound.

    • Not local to Petworth by a long shot, but I’ve used Maggiano’s for a small dinner. Everyone loved the food, the prices were reasonable, and they brought everything — including stands and sterno for the warming pans. I needed something that could be arranged quickly that I thought a wide variety of people would be happy with, and Maggiano’s turned out to be a perfect pick.

  • Becks

    Rave: I received a five dollar gift card from Amy’s Hardware and decided to buy some flowers to replace the ones I had accidentally killed by over fertilizing. They had a sale and all plants were 50% off! I bought seven plants for 3 dollars! I had never heard of Cinnamon Basil but it smells delicious. I also bought some Thai Basil, and Lady Carlotta got a new Catnip plant.
    Rave: Snap dragons are blooming like crazy! The strawberries are all in bloom, and I am dreaming of fresh sweet strawberries!
    Rave: I went to a great housewarming party on Saturday and met some neat people. We might start a board game night!
    Rant: The Bad Neighbors were outside on Saturday morning. I went out and pointed out the garbage in between the houses, bagged it and gave them the bag. Which they then just dropped on their yard. The one I spoke to said it wasn’t his garbage and that there were many people living in the house. He then said that there were too many people, so he his two kids and wife are moving out in a month. Great! New Bad neighbors!

  • pablo .raw

    Rant or Rave: Sometimes I get obsessed with things. My current obsession is with setting filters on my gmail account so that spam will be erased. It’s a great game, they know what they are doing!

    • Accountering


      Do you by chance do home photography? I rent my home on AirBNB, and have updated a lot of stuff, so am hoping to take a few updated pictures. Would like to do this hopefully either Friday evening, or Saturday morning. Next availability after that is Wednesday the 13th. How do we go about arranging this? If you don’t do this type of photography, can you point me in the direction of someone who does?

      • Doesn’t AirBnB do this for free?

        • Accountering

          Yes… They took the first round of shots for free. I have made a lot of changes, and several of the pictures no longer depict my house – to the downside tbh. I have made several very noticeable upgrades that aren’t reflected in the pictures.

      • Not to take work away from Pablo – but do you know that airbnb will actually send a photographer to shoot your place for free?

      • pablo .raw

        Hi, not that I can’t do it, but I know someone who does it way better than me. You can see her work and contact her at jennverrier (dot) com
        She has very reasonable prices.

  • Bonus Rant: It’s very tough to find a drummer with their own practice space in DC. It’s even tougher to find a drummer interested in doing sludge metal.

  • Rant/Rave: Epidural injection tomorrow (steroid) to see if it will calm down inflammation in my spine. REALLY hoping it works because next step would be surgery — even though it might be “minimally invasive” it’s still surgery on my spine.
    Rave is that the steroid injection has worked in the past and I am optimistic that history will repeat itself.
    And rave: Got a check for $25.80 as settlement part of a class action suit – might put it towards post- injection self care.

    • Good luck! You have my sympathy – I’ve been dealing with back issues since I herniated my first disc at age 20 (I’m 32 now). The steroid injections are magical when they work. Also, I just had a microdiscectomy in January – not sure if that’s the same surgery you would be facing, but if you have any questions/concerns I would be more than happy to share my experience 🙂

      • Thanks! I’ve also had back issues on and off for years; this will be my third go-around of shots (last one was 2007 so there’s been a good long time in-between). The ortho doc started to talk about the possible surgery and I got stuck on “and fuse the vertebrae.” It would not be minor surgery : (

  • Rant: still no job offers, waiting to hear back from our interviews in Seattle. And all the well meaning friends who try to help by suggesting completely unrelated jobs/fields.
    Rant: Ukraine
    Rave: freelance gig that pays well
    Rave: getting so much kitty love, we were away from her for a year, and she seems to have finally forgiven us!

  • Rave: Went to a beautiful wedding this weekend. The couple and their families were just overjoyed.
    Rant: Every time I go to a traditional wedding, I think of the all out brawl my father and I will have when/if I do get married over the role religion will play/will not play in the wedding. He is very difficult.
    Rave: Tried my hand at grooming my dog at home since his kennel cough vaccine hasn’t fully set in yet. I think I did a pretty good job and will take him to a groomer in a few weeks.
    Any groomer recommendations on the affordable side? Preferably not too far from Columbia Heights.

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rave: In 2015 Tom’s shoes are going to have a rhino print! It’s part of their Animal Initiative.
    Rant: I can’t find if they are sending money to actually save rhinos or not (but I have looked to closely yet).
    Rave: It’s a really cute pattern, so I may be buying my first pair of (ugly) Tom’s shoes next year.

  • Rave: starting new teacher boot camp… So excited to get out of the house and learn stuff
    Rant: it’s optional so we don’t get paid for it
    Rant: so far, none of the schools in this district seem to have decent cell service inside the buildings
    Rave: spoke with certification and I’m all set!

    • Accountering

      What a load of crap… Its “optional” so you don’t get paid. Unbelievable that a school district thinks they can get away with that. Awesome that you are excited for it, and I am sure you will learn a TON, but they should be paying you for that.

      • Yeah… I don’t love it but it truly is optional. I’ll be going every day even though some people are only going once, just so I can get my lazy butt out of bed.

  • Mike

    Revel: Indian foreign exchange student staying at the house is SUCH a good egg. I was so nervous. I’ve been teaching him laundry, (my mediocre) cooking, cleaning, etc… We took him out to dinner on Friday. First time he had ever seen broccoli. Loves American food. Ate with a fork in each hand.
    Rant: My new paralegal really has me on the fence. He interviewed pretty well but red flags have been going up left and right since he started. He’s doing things like checking text messages when I’m training him; watching Food Network cooking shows on YouTube instead of coming to me to tell me he is ready for more work; and already asked if he could start working from home. He’s been here a WEEK. He’s very bright, but seems to have zero work ethic and this leaves me worried. My gut says this isn’t going to end well.

  • RANT: Girlfriend moved to California on Saturday. Had to get up at 4am to drive her to the airport for her early morning flight.
    RANT: Had to move to a new place after I dropped her off. So many stairs, my legs are like jelly.
    RAVE: New roommates are super cool and I’m saving $600/month from my current rent. More money to visit her in California.
    RAVE: So much travel this month! Cape Cod this weekend, Burning Man at the end of August, and a week in LA for the first week of September.

  • Rant: I think the girl I’m dating might be a vampire. She always finds an excuse to cancel dates that are during daylight hours, she won’t eat Italian food, and her front teeth are kinda pointy…

  • Revel: Had a wonderfully relaxing weekend spending time with my man, cuddling with my puppy, and watching Netflix.
    Rant: Totally not ready to go to work today, especially since I usually telework on Monday.
    Revel: Almost no traffic/issues gettingto work – maybe because everyone was afraid of the street closures for the summit?

    Question for Popville – I’m really out of shape but I really don’t like working out (find it boring & it hurts at first). I am usually better about doing things in groups/class settings. I’ve been considering trying out a spin class because they’re supposed to be high energy (so not boring?) but I worry since everyone always says how spin kicked their butt. So, if you’re out of shape, do you think spin could be a good idea for getting in shape? Obviously I’d have to take it easy at first…..

    • Try one! There is not magic one size fits all solution for what will keep you motivated. If you aren’t a member of a gym, you can get a free trial at WSC on one of the nights they do spin. Also every instructor is different…for me, if they have crummy music the class is awful. It doesnt so much kick your butt, as it feels like someone kicked you in the butt…as in the next day you might have a sore tailbone. Sounds like you might like Zumba. Or you could try Swimming. Or biking outside. Or just walking to get you started. Get some miles in your sneakers.

    • Spin is nice because you can make it as easy or as hard as you want to. I find it really boring though.
      My exercise of choice is Jazzercise. It’s fun because you’re dancing, and not boring because you have to keep up with the steps (a great mental workout as well as physical). It can be a really tough workout if you choose the high intensity variations and use heavier weights, but you can also make it easier if you’re new to it. There’s a big variety of ages, sizes, and fitness levels in the class, so you probably won’t feel like you’re the weakest link.

    • I’m not in very good shape either and I occasionally do spin classes. I’ll adjust the intensity to suit my level of fitness and I get a good workout (but not a butt-kicking workout)
      Jazzercise is fun – look for groupons or other deals.
      I also recommend getting a fitbit (or something similar) – it tracks how much you walk per day with the goal being 10,000 steps/5 miles/10 sets of stairs. That’s the default setting, you can change to suit your preference. It has got me moving more which is good for my overall fitness.

  • Rant: whatever happened to the random end of week lists?

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