Dear PoPville – looking for help regarding a dear pet


“Dear PoPville,

I originally adopted this cat in 2011 with my best college friend in St Augustine, FL. In November of that year, while staying with that friend my grey tabby Kiki either jumped or fell (we aren’t sure, she has very bad balance) through the screen and out a second story window early one morning. Sure she would come back, we set up food, treats, formed a search party but to no avail. We gave up after about three months of looking.

Fast forward to October of 2013, and both me and the cat’s other caretaker have moved to DC for grad/law school. We received a call saying our other college friend had found Kiki in a Jacksonville Beach Pet Supermarket where she had been brought after being saved from a kill shelter. Thankful for the return of our wayward cat we retrieved her from FL and brought her here.

Earlier this year, my apartment flooded due to a fire in the unit two floors above us. My boyfriend and I were forced to evacuate, and eventually move to a new apartment north of 150 sq feet smaller than the original one that flooded. Since then, it has become excruciatingly apparent that Kiki is no longer happy living with us. We work long days, the apartment is much much smaller than the first one, and she has become lonely and bored which she tells us by an increased neediness.

Kiki is 3 years old approximately, is up to date on her shots, is spayed, and has no health issues. When we got her back from Florida she was too thin, and now she has filled out. She makes sweet chirping sounds instead of meowing and purrs so loudly you can hear her three rooms away. She is the best and that is why I know that this is for the best for her pending a home that can give her a little more room or a little more company. Or both.

Please no hurtful comments as I truly believe that I am trying to do my best for my pet and this is the least easy decision I’ve had to make in a challenging 2014. She has had quite the adventure and it’s time for her to settle. Unfortunately I cannot provide that for her. I’ve attached 2 pictures for reference. If you can help or know anyone who can, please reach me at gnmccaffrey(at) A full vetting process will be required as I am taking this very seriously.”

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  • Sweet darling…If I didn’t already have two, I’d take her. I’ll forward the post to my building listserve. We have a lot of catfolk here.

  • Sent to a friend that may be interested. Best of luck!

  • Good for you for doing what’s best for her. I had to make this very tough decision when my dog started exhibiting similar distress. He now lives with a retired couple that gives him the attention he needs. It was the hardest decision I’ve had to make, but ultimately he’s better off than when he was with me. I hope you’re able to find her a good home. Best wishes!

  • TLDR: 3 year old cat (pictured) up to date on all shots needs new home.

    • Don’t criticize the writing here. Just a community blog. Chill out.

    • I have to admit that when I was skimming through the first two paragraphs I thought the OP was looking for advice on finding a lost cat, not on rehoming a cat who is unhappy with her current smaller-than-before home environment.

  • She’s beautiful! If I wasn’t allergic I’d definitely take her but I’ll forward this along to some friends in hopes that they can instead! Best of luck!

  • Amazing that you got her back after two years – she must have used up at least one of her nine lives in getting to the right place to be found again. Sad that you have to give her up, but it sounds like you’re making the best decision for her. Wish I could help but my dog would object. Good luck.

  • I hope you find a good home for your kitty. And before anyone jumps on you here, I’ll point out I think the whole “if you love something, let it go” idea is pretty valid here. Sometimes you have to love a pet even more to give it up when it has needs you can’t meet than you would to keep it and just let it be unhappy.

  • Emmaleigh504

    If my apartment weren’t considerably smaller than yours probably is, I’d take her in a heart beat. She’s so pretty!

  • Can you rescue another cat to keep her company? I doubt 150 square feet less is that big of a difference. Or maybe she’s sick and needs some blood work to see what’s going on.

  • I’m not a cat owner, so this might be off base, but it seems odd to me that the smaller space would be an issue, although I can see that having to deal with yet another change after all she’s been through could be hard. If KiKi is lonely and bored, have you considered getting another cat so she would have a bud? In any case, I hope things work out well for KiKi!

    • Even if you are not a cat owner, you made a great observation. Normally the problem is not space but being alone all day could be. That being said, introducing a new cat can be a nightmare and not work out at all.

      The OP has two options: 1) get a cat from a good rescue group that can take it back if it doesn’t work out. 2) not get another cat, since s/he is already having issues with one, s/he may get overwhelmed and next thing we know she’s rehoming 2 cats! Ha. Poor kitty.

      • Or Option 3:
        Work something out. Cats don’t really have issues with small spaces. They just need more attention. If I were the OP, I’d see if any of my friends would be interested in stopping by once a week to play with the cat while the OP was away. For instance, my girlfriend volunteers with a cat shelter because she absolutely loves cats, but unfortunately can’t have one in her apartment. But she still loves to interact with them and take care of them. My guess is that the OP has a few friends in this category who could become “adoptive” parents to the kitty 🙂

      • I can see that KiKi could be bored by being alone — but I’m perplexed, because it seems that she was doing well in the apartment alone before the move, between October and “earlier this year” when the OP moved to a smaller apartment. I wonder what else may have changed? It might be good to take her to the vet before re-homing her, just in case the “neediness” is coming from something other than the OP’s assumption that KiKi is lonely.
        Anon for sure — I can definitely appreciate your point about the unpredictability of getting a second cat.

      • I think most rescue groups in this area are not only _willing_ to take back an animal if it doesn’t work out, but _require_ you to give the animal back to them.

  • anonymouse_dianne

    You might try another kitten/cat. I have also had great luck with Feliway. It seems expensive, but I have found it really worked with my Bengal and Savannah fosters. Chilled them out in 24.

  • I understand why you think she would be happier with more space, but please keep the following in mind if it doesn’t work out.

    1. Cats are abundant and it’s beyond difficult to re-home them, especially as adults. Every year something like 5-6 million cats and dogs are euthanized because there are more pets than homes for them. Very, very sad reality.

    2. Cats adapt really well to different environments. If you can’t find her a home please consider keeping her with you. When you say 150 sq feet less, you mean less than how much? of 300? 500? 1000? After my divorce I moved to a 300-350sq feet apartment in NYC with my three (3!) cats because I had no other choice. They adapted pretty quickly and now we all have a lot more space here in DC (around 900-1000sq feet). IMHO it’s better to keep them in a small space than euthanize them as many current living conditions tend to be temporary, especially as a student. Besides, I can’t tell you for sure ’cause they don’t talk, but my cats don’t seem any happier with more space.

    Good luck. 🙂

  • Is she a mouser?

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