Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • Rave: Awesome ride last night up CCT to bethesda and back. Good to get out and clear the mind, not to mention the legs!

    Rant: Being 26 in DC as a straight male can be rough at times. I have great friends, but looking for a woman to date and do stuff with is tough… I’m tired of random hookups and flings. Not looking for something “forever”, but at least someone that I can make plans with a few months down the road and see them through!

    • hang in there, our time will come.

    • Apparently you need to meet the woman yesterday who had the same complaint about single guys around your age here in DC.

      • lol yeah pls ref yesterdays rant/revel

        • Can we get a PoP personals section? Or Date Lab knock-off? Only half-joking…

          • As the woman who posted yesterday, I’m not entirely opposed to the idea lol

          • A date-lab would be excellent!!! so many people with the same stories looking for the same thing (at least on paper, maybe not in reality)

          • The Date Lab is actually pretty entertaining to read. They’ve stepped their game up over the last few months. Matches have seemed to be better and not just one-off things.

          • Okay I’m going to send a screenshot of this to Dan right now. πŸ˜€

          • There was a brief “PoPville dating” feature awhile back – it ran once (or twice) then it went away.
            Another PoPville happy hour would seem to be a good way to bring people together.

          • +1 for Date Lab πŸ™‚

          • Popville Date lab sounds like a good idea until people go on bad dates and then ream each other on rant and revel the next day πŸ™‚ Could be very entertaining for the non-daters, but maybe not so much for the daters.

      • Just found that post. Yeah… seems to be a rollercoaster here in DC. I’ll just ride it out doing what I enjoy, living it up with friends, and keeping myself open to those that come around. No sense getting worked up about it, but I certainly get frustrated from time to time.

        • honestly there are so many people that say the same thing every day about relationship woes (myself included), i think the spring will bring good things for all of us!

          • Agreed. This winter was long and depressing. Spring usually brings new connections, a renewal of energy, and less clothing! πŸ˜‰

        • I (25 yr old male) posted a similar rant yesterday. I definitely feel your frustration, hope you find something soon.
          I should make an account one of these days.

        • I feel ya. But at least (in my extremely humble opinion), you have the right outlook.

          “I’ll just ride it out doing what I enjoy, living it up with friends, and keeping myself open to those that come around. No sense getting worked up about it” is exactly how I view it (I’m 30 year old single female). Rather than sit around and sulk or go around specifically seeking to date, I just do things I enjoy (both with friends or on my own) and hope that at some point, I’ll cross paths with someone else that enjoys those same things.

          • Thanks ash. Figured I’d finally make an account after years of anonymous posting.

            Not worth wallowing in it. I have too much fun with work, friends, etc to worry about it! Never been one to “hunt for dates”, and everyone has always been a random encounter and so forth.

            Appreciate the positive vibes.

    • Man, all these dating rants remind of how awful it was dating back in Seattle. Terrible place to date. Socially inept Microsoft nerds, flakey creative types, and that god damn Seattle Freeze. Yikes. Makes me thankful that a week after I moved to DC in 2012 I met my boyfriend and we’ve been together ever since.

    • Not looking for something for “forever”, but for a few months… what? You want someone you like just enough to hang around with several months…., but not someone who’s so great you could hang around with them for the far foreseeable future? Commitment-phobes and eternal bachelor(ette) wannabes are not hot.

      • Definitely not what I meant.

        I’ll clarify. I’m not going into ANY relationship with the immediate notion that “I’ll marry them and it’ll be happily ever after”. That’s not healthy and not the way I want to think. I’d love to find someone that I enjoy being around, and want to be with. Lately it’s just been short flings that ended for one reason or another, and thus no plans beyond a few months (at that) ever come to fruition. I’m not scared of commitment whatsoever, and would totally enjoy finding someone that I click with to date. It just hasn’t lined up where we’re both on the same page. Is that clearer?

        • I think the vast majority of us understood what you meant. Unrealistic expectations are unhealthy and you’re open to finding a lifelong partner when that person happens to come into your life; you’re not going to force it upon anyone. Which, IMHO, is the best outlook a person can have when it comes to dating.
          The person above sounds like they have a case of sour grapes.

  • Rave: the pool finally reopened at the Columbia Heights Washington Sports Club.
    Rant/Rave: they apparently turned the heat off while the pool was closed, and the water was still really cold this morning. It was pretty exhilarating though.
    Rave: Swimming muscles are sore after a good swim following two weeks of disuse.
    FYI: WSC employee told me that the closure was due to a licensing issue with DC. They had a surprise inspection two weeks ago, and apparently all the paperwork was not in order.

    • Anyone successful in getting a refund for the time the pool has been closed?

      • Unless there is such a thing as a pool specific membership – which I don’t think there is – why would one be entitled to a refund? The entire club wasn’t closed.

      • I used the rest of the gym while the pool was closed, so I wouldn’t have much basis to request a refund. It’s worth a try if you only use the pool, but I doubt that they agree to a refund.

  • Rant: The G8 bus this morning. Stood outside for an actual half hour while 3 buses went by.
    Rave: I have some truly wonderful friends who care enough about seeing me to heavily inconvenience themselves to make it happen. I’m happy I decided to do the same last night. Especially after weeks of feeling very unappreciated.

  • Rave: I just want to thank everyone for your thoughtful feedback and suggestions from my Anon post on Monday. I spoke to my parents last night, and while they were very sad, after hearing the entire story, they were extremely understanding such. As one Anon said, you may be surprised as parents have an instinct for things like this: you were spot on. My dad mentioned that he had always wondered based on our interactions, but never said a word to my mom as he didn’t want to even put that thought in her head.

    Rave2: Knowing my parents are awesome, and will support me through this process is a huge help.

    Rant: We are now up to 3 anon 25-26 year olds in the past three days complaining about relationships/women (myself, and the guy above me included.) You would think this was planned, but I can assure you it wasn’t!

    • Anonymous 25 year old woman here. Can provide dozens of complaints about the dating scene in DC.

      • Please do

      • Ha, I’d be interested in hearing about this too.
        What are some of the things that guys are doing?

        • My experience might be skewed because I mostly dipped into the OKCupid dating pool, but: guys around the 25-30(!) age range seem allergic to commitment. This frustrates me and my friends to no end. We’re not necessarily looking for life partners, but the only other option available seems to be one night stands or FWB either.

          Please correct me if I’m wrong!

          • I’ll fess up that some of my friends fit that mold (they’re usually up front about it at least)- but keep looking! We also don’t use OKC, so that probably narrows it

          • That also gets me too- not being upfront about what you want. Or vacillating back and forth.
            What do you use besides OKC? A few friends have done Match, Hinge, and Tinder (sparingly)

      • i’m 30, but numerous dudes in the past year have totally “ghosted” on me. as in they disappear without a trace– no text, phone call, email, let alone face to face discussion. why do dudes think this is appropriate behavior? even after a couple dates an “i’m not interested” text would be appreciated and the respectful thing to do.

        • Same here. Went out with someone on and off for 6 months (also from OKC…) After not hearing from him for about 2 weeks I got the message and was not going to chase. But yeah sending a short text is the easiest, effortless thing you could do.

        • +1 – This is honestly one of my biggest pet peeves. I really hate it when it happens to me.

        • girls do this all the time and also dont take the inititative to ask men out enough. just my 2 cents….25 m dc

          • Agree with you. For guys the “ghosting” sucks even more because 95% of the time we’re putting in the work to ask you out, plan the date, (usually) paying for said date, and then trying to make future plans.
            Caveat: this is solely based on my experience and not indicative of every straight female in the DC metro area. I’m sure there are those of you who “pay your own way,” take the initiative to ask guys out, and whatnot. However, you’re in the minority.

    • That is awesome to hear. I think I was one of the ones who said your parents may surprised you. Glad to hear that your parents are there for you. Keep your head up, life will go on and will get better.

    • I missed your post from yesterday – what was it you discussed with your parents?

    • I’m the one from above. I guess it’s just the swing of things…? Hopefully spring brings better things

    • I’m glad to hear your parents were understanding. I’m one of the posters from Monday who went through a similar situation. It took a bit (more than a bit) of whiskey before I could tell my parents. They were very supportive, though. It was one of the more surreal and unforgettable nights of my life, with my mom staying up until 2 am cooking me scrambled eggs. I think she hadn’t been up that late in decades.

    • Emmaleigh504

      Glad your parents are there for you. Good luck on this new chapter of your life; Popville is here for you, too.

    • That’s great kyle-w. It’s awesome that your parents were supportive. Though this time is going to be very different and difficult, I hope you can take comfort knowing there are many of us out there just like you. You will most certainly come out of this for the better.

      • Thanks for the kind words. It definitely is reassuring knowing that others have been through this. I am going to be fine, have a very strong support network, great job, getting back into the gym. Things are going to be okay, and I know in the end I will come out of this for the better.

    • houseintherear

      I want to give you some unsolicited advice. Whatever you do, don’t lock yourself away to avoid this pain again. Right now you are thinking about dating again, but there will come a time in a year or so when that will fade and you will be so scared of possibilities and having another broken heart. Please reach out when you need to get out of the house, and keep meeting people even if not for romantic reasons. I went through something like you are going through at your age, but I didn’t take that advice, and I now find myself a very alone 33 year old with a cold heart. I wish I hadn’t been so afraid to hurt again because I’ve missed out on a lot. Please don’t do what I did.

    • As a first-time married woman, married to a previously divorced man, I can assure you that it can happen for you again. Even with a never-been-married woman! We did have our issues at first, but it’s nothing that can’t be overcome. Part of me was really attracted to the fact that he could commit and love someone so completely. Every situation is different, and I don’t pretend to know yours, but just know that your life as a partner isn’t over. You still have your best days ahead of you!

    • Good luck with everything homey.

  • Rant: Been doing government consulting for way too long. I want to try a new field but dont even know where to begin. LinkedIn and job websites are too overwhelming!

    • Have you considered networking in the field you want to enter? It is effective and not as overwhelming as linkedin or job sites.

  • gotryit

    Rave: Vice officers are consistently that most enthusiastic MPD officers that I’ve met. And they’re onto the little drugs / sex problem near our house!
    Rave: New toys arrived – pneumatic finishing / brad nailer and air compressor. I’m going to have some fun.

  • Rant: Medical bills. I was dumb enough to open them this morning and was totally blindsided. May I never have a prolonged hospital stay for a very long time.
    Rave: Walked to work this morning for the first time. Google Maps was right on the money-32 minutes! I hope my commute will be more enjoyable now that I don’t have to fight my way thru an S9 bus.
    Rant: Cold sales emails. Definitely not getting the 1/4 response rate my boss is hoping for…
    Rave: Going to Rose’s Luxury with a friend who’s never been. I can’t wait to try out their “brunch” menu.

    • GiantSquid

      Re: Rose’s Luxury – If you’re cool with the ingredients, try the bone marrow hash. As soon as it hits your tongue it’s an amazing combination of flavors.

    • “Cold sales emails. Definitely not getting the 1/4 response rate my boss is hoping for…” – Your boss is a fucking idiot. If you get 1/4 of 1% percent, i’ll be amazed.

    • Your commute will definitely be more enjoyable now! My walk to work is about 35 minutes, which is not too much longer than my bus commute. By the time you factor in the time spent walking to the bus stop, waiting for a bus that is not overcrowded and will actually stop at the bus stop, getting stuck in traffic, and walking from bus stop to office, the bus commute takes me about 30 minutes door to door anyway.

    • Is your commute 2.1 miles?

  • Rave: Skandia shelves – a possible solution to my book storage dilemmas.
    Rave: Crispy seaweed snacks. Only 30 salty crunchy calories!
    Rant: Construction noise – the ONE thing I don’t seem able to sleep through.

  • Rant: trying to get pregnant. I am 28 and we have been trying for six months, and I feel like it won’t happen naturally. Anyone else going through this?

    • gotryit

      I know several people who have gone through that to varying stages of pain and awfulness, but many with happy bundles at the end of it.

    • GiantSquid

      My OB/Gyn said to give it a year before you start getting worried. Our timeline was put on hold over the summer with my back surgery but we’re also of the mindset “if it happens, great, if not, oh well we have plenty of other stuff we can do.” I’m pretty sure with me and Mr. Squid it’s our timing. Good friends of ours had been trying for a little over a year and just started looking into fertility treatments when a holiday party resulting in drunken sexy -times resulted in conception. Many couples we know have stories of intoxicated encounters post-parties/weddings/etc resulting in children. When you think about all the factors that go into a successful conception, it’s pretty mind boggling, and you can’t compare your situation to anyone else’s. Give it some time.

    • Yes. I’m 34. Been trying 6 months. Feeling sadder by the month. I know that statistically we aren’t unusual yet – neither are you. but when you’re ready you’re ready and waiting and wondering is no fun.

    • Been trying for almost 6 months and got a positive result this week. Last month we used an ovulation predictor kit. Don’t know if thats the reason by worth a shot if you haven’t already.

    • We got pregnant after trying for about four months and feeling super frustrated it didn’t happen right away. I’d highly recommend the book “taking charge of your fertility” if you haven’t read it yet, and doing the temping/charting method that they have in that book. That’s what worked for us. Good luck!

    • 6 months is perfectly normal, but I feel your frustration. If you haven’t used either, I’d +1 for digital OPKs, specifically Clear Blue brand. I got pregnant the first month I used them.

    • jim_ed

      My wife and I were 28 when we tried to conceive. It didn’t work since we both have potential fertility issues, so we just bit the bullet and went to Shady Grove fertility. It’s a weird dynamic being at least a decade younger than everyone else in there, but it wasn’t a big deal, and now we have a beautiful baby girl to show for it. So keep your head up, don’t let it get you down too much, and know there are great options if necessary.

    • Sounds pretty normal. You really only have 2-3 days a month where it’s possible. If you/partner is traveling or not up for it during those days, then that month is a bust. I also recommend the opk–it takes a bit of the romance out of things but at least you know when you get the positive that you’re having fun during the right time. I’m 16 weeks, have had a couple miscarriages, and it only took 2-3 months once I started using the opk this time around. OB also says not to worry until it’s been a year and you’ve know you’ve been hitting that window for 12 months (says patients ask how come it takes so long and when pressed, patients reveal lots of travel and short partner absences). Good luck!

    • I don’t agree with the “give it a year” mentality. First, try ovulation predictor kits (OPKs). track your fertility (fertility friend). Next, send your partner to get a semen analysis. Non-invasive. Also, you can get a simple blood test. There’s no reason to wait for these tests bec

      • oops hit submit too soon.
        There’s no reason to wait for these tests – they are simple and can provide a LOT of information. You don’t want it to be 6-7 months from now and wonder “why didn’t I do this earlier”. But try the OPKs and then talk to your doctor about the simple testing.
        We did that – my husband was born premature and as a result, had fertility issues (common with premature boys). When we decided to try to have a baby, we did it the old fashioned way for 3 months and then did testing.
        Most couples don’t get pregnant right away. Outside of 16 And Pregnant, it’s actually not easy to get pregnant and carry a baby to term. For me, information was key, so the more I knew early on, the better I felt. And fertility treatment is so common now, there’s nothing to feel weird about. I went to GW – Had Dr F and he was fantastic. So was my nurse (they make all the difference). Was a great day when I got to take the baby in to meet them all before my leave was over. I’m glad the IVF route worked for us and is over, and glad that I overcame the “shame” I felt when I started the process. It’s emotional (or was for me) but you definitely aren’t alone.
        Good luck!

        • just want to say thanks to those who replied here. We are using OPKs and temping – our timing is right on every single month. still nothing. I’m headed back to my OB/GYN next week, then possibly on to shady grove after that. I’m mostly just sad that it hasn’t happened yet. Day to day and month to month, the wait drags on. I appreciate your encouragement.

          • This is OP. Like TTC anon, we are temping and using OPKs (I have read all of those stupid online boards for advice). However, your thoughts are very encouraging and greatly appreciated.

          • Hang in there. Trying to get pregnant is awful in spite of people telling you “it sure if fun trying!”- no it isn. it becomes the “chore score”…and I would only wait a year if you are under the age of 32, everyone older needs to go to a fertility specialist. And in my personal experience a regular OB is actually not very helpful, you really need a specialist. Its stressful but we got help (Columbia Fertility) and have an awesome kid. And however you choose to build your family is something only you and your partner can figure out. its unbelievable how many judegmental people there are who think nothing of telling you how you should build a family.

          • Stress is a huge problem. *Trying* to conceive is in itself a barrier to conception. Which I know helps Not At All to hear. But take the advice from upthread; have some wine, get silly, forget about the charting and the temping and just be in love. And even then, patience. It took us six months of not-trying but not-preventing.

          • Completely understand the frustration and agree with the TTC takes the fun out of trying. Good luck and I hope you’re successful soon!

        • @jindc: I am in a similar position as Op, and I am looking for a new Doctor can you recommend me your GYN? looking for doctor who could run the tests and refer me to a fertility doc if need. Thanks

          • ha! exactly what you all have said here. “TRYING” to conceive is by definition not relaxing! I’m going to start with my OB/GYN next week b/c I really trust her and she spends a lot of time with me. But I will not hesitate to call Shady Grove next month. I agree that time is not on my side – especially if we want more than one kid. “wait a year” isn’t going to work for me. But if I was younger, I would give it more time.

  • houseintherear

    Saw Frozen last night with the neighbor kid. It was great, and she sang along with the songs and it was so cute… and now “Let It Go” is just cemented into my brain like a tumor.

    Moe, my foster cat (aka Little Richard), is still available for adoption through Homeward Trails rescue! He’ll be at the adoption event in Fairfax at the Wylie Wagg this weekend, if anyone wants to meet him (or another animal). Check out @houseintherear on Twitter to see some of his pictures.

    • Frozen was a cute and enjoyable movie with a not-loathsome message for little girls. But “Let it Go” has to be the worst Disney song ever. Imagine a batch of six year old girls, all trying to out-emote each other on the high notes… that’s the personal hell I’m living ever since that movie came out.

  • Rant: I spend entirely too much of my time watching TV coverage of missing airliners. Damn you CNN!

    Rave: More bicycle clean and jerk exercises in front of my living room window last night. Who cares if it never actually runs?

    • You should turn off CNN immediately and never turn it back on. Their coverage of the plane story (and most stories) is shameful, and it’s driven by the need to fill airtime, not by the mission to bring information to people.

      • Good advice. Similarly, my ex and her family (we are still good friends) had to ban her 90 year-old grandfather from watching Fox News. It was making him utterly paranoid and worsening his Alzheimer’s. He would literally sit in his chair and watch it ALL DAY LONG. His mental function has improved significantly since they’ve banned all cable news from his house.
        Seriously, this hyper-sensationalized stuff will quite literally rot your brain.

      • Okay, maybe just Anderson Cooper tonight. Baby steps.

    • I’ve been reading the Guardian’s live blog on the airliner. I was so interested in this story a week ago, but the lack of real news is getting frustrating. And if it’s frustrating for me, I can’t even imagine what it’s like for the friends and families of those missing. I’m starting to think this plane will never be found.

    • I don’t know why, but I had an idea last night about your bike problem. Do you happen to have a golf club? If so, and the grip end will fit into the bike tube, it seems like it might allow you to get some leverage against the side of the tube and pull it out.

    • Have you tried making a small L-bend in an untwisted wire hanger and scraping it up the side and catching the bottom edge of the seat post? I’ve had luck with that before. Or a threaded rod with suitable bolts and washer, which is much more rigid than the hanger.

  • Rant: My computer wasn’t working this morning when I came into the office, so I’m just now beginning my day.
    Rave: I saw Lunchbox last night. Such a sweet movie. I would so order an Indian food lunch delivery service if it was available in D.C. Watching that movie also made me want to drink a vat of chai. I know what I’ll be having with my breakfast this Saturday.
    Rave: Tonight is my ONLY night at home this evening. I’m looking forward to enjoying some quiet time, cooking dinner, and catching up on housework.
    Rave: Today feels warmer. Might I detect a glimmer of spring?

  • GiantSquid

    Revel: Mr. Squid gets home tonight
    Rant: Feeling on the cusp of sick for two weeks now. Not bad enough to stay home and check out for a little while, but run-down and blah. I could really do without the nausea.
    Revel: Sidamo coffee up in Maplelawn, MD. Chai and breakfast sandwich to start the day off right.

    • Given your post above, any chance the sickness you’re feeling is because you’re pregnant?

      • this! GiantSquid…my first few weeks I could sleep 3-4 hours during the day, was nauseous all the time, and could still go to bed at 9 and sleep another 10 hours….yeah 2nd trimester!

      • GiantSquid

        Based on basic math and timing, probably not pregnant but it had crossed my mind. Maybe I’ll pee on a stick for shits n’ giggles

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: I want Moe, he’s so cute! But my apartment is teeny tiny and I already have a cat. (A tiny cat to go with the tiny apartment.)
    Rave: Tiny cat has started cuddling with me more. I’ve had her about a month (maybe longer) and it’s nice to know she’s a cuddler. I was worried.
    Rant: People not calling me back at work. I can’t start work until you call me back! grr
    Rave: can’t start work, so I’m goofing off

    • I have two in a pretty tiny space too. We make it work. I think it might be easier for the new cat to get a second while the whole thing is still new to her and before she gets into a routine.

      • Emmaleigh504

        I have 328 sq feet (I should have upgraded to the bigger apartment when I had the chance!), so there’s barely room for me, my shoes, and my cat πŸ™‚

        • I had 500 sq feet with a husband and a 100lb dog. It can work!

        • Emmaleigh504

          (on the plus side I have really cheap rent πŸ™‚ )

        • I have a slightly less than 500 square foot studio with two cats; one is a huge beast (almost 20 lbs) and the other is a very cranky spoiled brat who hates pretty much everything and everyone except me. It works, I just have to vacuum and Swiffer a lot!

        • houseintherear

          Don’t let anyone, including me, persuade you into something you don’t really want… but if it helps, Moe lives pretty much in a one foot square of the couch, a one foot square of a chair in the kitchen, a one foot square of my bed, a one-foot square by the screen door (when it’s warm), a one-foot square of his little food cave, and a one foot square of a cat shelf. He may be an expert in small-space living, only using 6 sq feet of my 1100 sq feet living space. πŸ˜›
          Related note, I used to live in an apartment that size and it was so great. I had NO stuff!! I miss it! Now I have a house and way too much crap. I almost bought a studio at 15th and T that was 320 sq ft with a huge porch and a loft bed with couch and tv underneath… I think about that place all the time. It was only $199k!!!! …which to my parents was a horrible price, but to me was amazing!

          • houseintherear

            omg we can use tonguey emojis on Popville! πŸ˜› πŸ˜› πŸ˜›

          • Emmaleigh504

            I do want 2 kitties, I just want them to have enough space. The tiny kitty is pretty hyper, which is why I think she needs a buddy. I want ALL the kitties!!

          • houseintherear

            Ah ok- if Donna is super playful, Moe is not the second cat for you. But there will be one out there if and when you’re ready. πŸ™‚

          • Emmaleigh504

            Yeah, I figure that from his description. Donna likes to go a little bezerk and attack all the things (she saved me from my bed yesterday by killing it πŸ˜‰ )
            I am encouraging a colleague to get Moe so I can visit.

    • houseintherear

      Thanks for the Moe shoutout! πŸ™‚ http://www.petfinder.com/petdetail/28704349

  • Rave: Even though it’s early, I feel like I’ve met the one. We’re taking it slow but it just seems so right.
    Rant: Feel a little guilty given all the recent posts about folks entering the wilderness.
    Rave/Rant: Don’t feel a little guilty because I’ve been in the wilderness myself a long time.

  • pablo .raw

    Rave: Spent last weekend in Vermont, those people really get snow! put things in perspective a little bit.
    Rave: I was there as the photographer of the DC Roller Girls team. We won πŸ˜€
    Rave: Getting requests for photography work.
    Rant: Sometimes the only way to deal with certain people is to become like them, being mean to people takes a lot of energy from me. Now I feel like going home.

  • Rant: Mid-20s male also dealing with the dating issues…but I’m gay, so cheers to being the odd one out! πŸ™‚ I haven’t met someone in a LONG time who really caught my attention relationship-wise, and OKCupid is looking pretty bleak these days. Sorry, not trying to date someone in Baltimore.

    Related rant: Not where I want to be weight/body-wise, and I feel like it’s holding me back. I don’t want to put myself out there until I’m the person I want to be, but I feel like with the slow progress I’m making I’ll never get there. PLUS beach season is just a few weeks away.

    Rave: Slow but steady progress using willpower combined with MyFitnessPal. Hopefully it’s worth the effort.

    • “Related rant: Not where I want to be weight/body-wise, and I feel like it’s holding me back.”
      I don’t have any great advice but I feel you!! I’m going through the same thing. Slow progress is progress, at any rate-you will get there!

      • Thanks! I feel really superficial and I know you’re supposed to like someone for their personality…but I just can’t help myself from thinking that I’d be attracting a different set of people if I were in better shape. Plus, there’s just the confidence knowing that I’m my best self which I’m definitely missing.

        This is all dumb, though – looks fade, after all. Thankfully this complex is good for my health, too! πŸ˜€

    • You’re heading in the right direction…that’s important! Congrats πŸ™‚

  • Rant: long distance S.O. having a hard time finding a job in DC.
    Rave: at least he’s visiting this weekend!

  • Rant: Did 2nd IVF transfer last weekend. Feeling very nervous during this wait. My insurance has a 3 strikes your out for life policy so I am really hopeful it works this time.

  • Rave: Working from home in sweats.
    Rave: On Friday, I’ll be in Atlanta to celebrates Mom’s 70th birthday with family.Love spending time playing with my 10 year old nephew.
    Random question: Looking for a writing workshop in DC area. Anyone with suggestions?

    • Can’t recommend the Writer’s Center enough. Their main location is a few blocks from the Bethesda metro, and they have a few classes at another location close to the Eastern Market metro. Great community and a very diverse line-up of classes.

    • I’ve heard good things about The Writer’s Center in Bethesda.

    • What kind of writing? I did a screenwriting class at Bethesda that was terrible – and gave me the sense that it really depends upon the instructor.

  • Rave: Ordered a new compact freezer yesterday at 2:00 pm from Amazon, it was delivered this morning at 10:30 am. The challenge is now getting it into the basement – I have a dolly (+) and bruised ribs (-). Time to call on a nearby friend to lend a helping hand.

    • gotryit

      Are you strapping it to the dolly? That makes a big difference in preventing it from sliding / bouncing off.

      • Yes, the dolly has good straps to hold it in place and I just need to get it down a short flight of stairs. It’s 70 lbs – not so heavy but bulky.

  • RANT: tons of work this week, ugh.
    RAVE: Taking Amtrak up to NYC on Friday afternoon and seeing lots of friends. My good friend is letting me housesit her apartment while she flies to Bali on Friday night – so awesome!
    RANT: Trying not to spend too much money in NYC. However, I accept that this is probably a futile effort.

  • I don’t agree. I saw a similar 180 degree personality change in a member of my family when he stopped watching 24-hour cable news, specifically Fox. The difference in mental clarity before and after was astonishing (and still is).

    • Meant to be a reply to deleted comment. Clarification: I agree that 24-hour news cycles can be damaging to one’s mental health, particularly for people who are already mentally vulnerable for one reason or another.

    • I totally agree. I hope a researcher out there is doing a study on this! I’d love it if there was some hard proof, rather than just these anecdotes I’ve heard from others. It would really make a difference in understanding how we ought to consume information. Much of the media – especially Fox News – is so emotionally manipulative, especially for people struggling with mental health issues.
      I liken it to smoking – people did it for a long time, kind of understood it was vaguely bad for them, but kept on it anyways. It would be great if Fox News someday eventually disappeared because it was proven to be bad for you.

      • I tend to agree with you generally, but to cite Fox as the most “emotionally manipulative” is going above and beyond. To be sure, they do play up stories involving security, war, terror, and fear; however, msnbc has a string of activists posing as hosts that are just as bad when it comes to playing up racial and gender aspects of any given issue. I think you could bolster your case by adding that the watching of 24 hour news ought to be replaced with reading (the newspaper for example…but not the express :))

  • It’s ok, we’ll be here for you. You can get through this.

  • epric002

    rant: yahoo tourney pickem is requiring me to give yahoo my cell number so they can text me a verification code. for a mother effing bracket?! go eff yourselves yahoo.

  • Rave: Tyber Bierhaus opened this week in Bethesda. Right next door to my boyfriend’s apartment. 20 beers on tap. Life is good.

    Rant: Time to find a new job. Forgot my umbrella. Got no sleep. At least the latter was for a fun reason.

  • Rant/Rave: I met someone that I really like – but this is nothing like anyone I have ever dated. Every interaction is very charged (emotionally and physically). He is very much in a transition period (but has plenty of options…seems to have a bright future ahead). He isn’t ready to date anyone exclusively but I have zero desire to see someone else right now, and I think if I did it would make him jealous. Normally I wouldn’t tolerate this – but do I make an exception based on the way I feel? Based on how emotional this has been so far I feel like I’m setting myself up for hurt feelings. However, it’s been so long since I’ve felt anything for anyone that I sort of want to run with it and take the risk. Thoughts?

    • He doesn’t want to be exclusive but you think he would be jealous if you date other men?

      • He said explicitly that he’s not in a place to date anyone. He just got back from a deployment. My questions may be completely moot. It just seems like he would be pissed if I saw anyone else. He claims he’s not jealous but just wouldn’t want to know about it.

        • No reason to stop seeing him if you feel a real connection, but I don’t know why you would try to make it exclusive when he specifically told you he doesn’t want to?

          I’m a big fan of taking people at their word. “I’m not in a place to date anyone” and “I’m not jealous” = he’d like to see you but not exclusively, and you should feel free to see other people yourself. In fact, it sort of sounds like you should, just so you don’t get all your hopes pinned on this one person.

          • Is it possible he just isnt that into you? Certainly not as much as you are into him? If he wants to date you, he will. End of story. No caveats, no “im not ready”, no transition. it took me 15 years to realize men are really straightforward on this type of thing. I think you should definitely date other people cause putting all your energy into this guy is not going to end well. Sorry to be a downer. BTDT

    • epric002

      just my 2 cents, sounds exactly like a dating disaster i engaged in a few years back. if that guy hadn’t just relocated to the west coast i’d bet it was him. since hindsight is 20/20, i’d say to go for it *only* if you’re really ok that it might crash and burn, and hard. good luck.

    • This sounds like it has the potential to go very badly, but if you’re truly aware and you want to give it a go anyway, then why not? I will say though that the two of you don’t sound well-matched at the moment and you sound like the only one with something to lose if it doesn’t go anywhere.

    • You should never “make an exception based on the way I feel!” You should just GO with with way you feel! Seriously – if you’re single and younger than 95 always go with the “very charged!” (Well hell, 95’ers probably should too!) If you aren’t setting yourself up for hurt feelings you aren’t living much of a life.

    • I’m sorry, but “every interaction is very charged” just doesn’t sound like the beginning of a good relationship. And I agree with CE about taking people at their word.
      About a year ago I started dating a guy who had me feeling things I hadn’t felt in a long time, but there were red flags all over the place that I saw, talked to my friends about, and willingly disregarded. And I wish present me could go back to past me and talk some sense into her. You can’t make things be what they aren’t.

      • This makes my spirit ache! Of course there is a difference between falling in love with the tawdry poser bad boy meth dealer or the f**ked up genuine artist – so work on tuning your own radar, and building your own self so that you can always walk away from the sh**heads in whatever field you find them, but don’t dismiss all rogues.

        I’m 56 and pirates are still my best friends.

      • Would you really prefer your whole life to have gone on without – “feeling things I hadn’t felt in a long time?” Or choose to feel those things and delight in them – understanding that they will likely vanish? Or just skip all the feelings because they might (likely) eventually hurt?

        • No need for your spirit to ache over me (geesh). Falling in love with a great person is a delight. He was an ass. I knew it. There was no delight.

    • He may feel differently after he’s had some time to readjust after his deployment. Or not.
      I’d keep your options open, keep your profile active if you’re on a dating site and see what happens.

    • Good luck andie!

    • See what happens with this guy, but you should continue to see other people. My guess is that he will be seeing others, so you shouldn’t pin all your hopes on this guy. If he’s seeing others but you’re only seeing him, you will grow to be resentful and hurt. Furthermore, seeing other people will give you a frame of reference as to whether or not he’s right for you. Comparison shopping is helpful πŸ˜‰
      That said, the “emotionally charged” part sounds like way too much drama for me. Too many highs and lows, though you might really thrive on that sort of passion (I hate it, but different strokes for different folks). It sounds like he needs to get his life together now that he’s back home.

    • Sounds like you’re blinded by infatuation (and understandably so). IMO, listen to reason (hard as it is to do so) — you’ll save yourself heartache and drama down the road.

  • Shameful, 1st world rant: I’m tired and I have a cold and I just want to go home and snuggle on my couch with a cat and a TV remote… BUT. My once-a-month housecleaner is in today, and I can’t vegetate while someone else cleans for me. So I’m staying later at the office than I really have to.

    • Maybe I’m too first world, but I have no problem vegging on the couch while someone cleans for me πŸ™‚ Hope you feel better soon!

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