Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • Rave: Morrissey at Meyerhoff Symphony Hall June 10!
    Rant: Change in team structure/composition has resulted in my going from absolutely loving my job to be frustrated beyond belief (by a multitude of things which I won’t get into here) every single day.
    Rave: Morrissey at Meyerhoff Symphony Hall June 10!

    • Oh my god – you too? I loved my job for 2 years and now, I am having trouble adjusting to new realities… so sad.

      • It’s sad, frustrating, but I guess a part of life. Stuff happens, we make necessary adjustments, and move forward. I will say that it has helped me to put things in perspective in terms of what I really want out of my career, what I’m willing to put up with vs not tolerate, etc.

  • Rant: The United States Postal Service. At home and work, both in DC, we have been going days with no mail delivered and then getting a ton of mail all on one day. It’s as if they are waiting until they have enough to be worth their time delivering. This is especially annoying when items arrive 2-3 days later than they should have.
    Rant: The United Parcel Service. Their tracking page let me see that a package had reached their Landover facility on Friday morning. After several days of them being unable to deliver the item due to “adverse weather conditions” they finally found the time to bring it to my house at 9:30 last night.

    • Apparently there is a question of reigning in mail carrier over-time, at least unofficially. That’s the rumor I’ve read on other listservs.

    • Piggybacking on your UPS rant…I had two packages arrive in Landover on Friday morning as well. Both were placed “out for delivery” on the truck on Monday morning at the same time (one would assume they were both on the same truck). One package was the delivered, the other was not. When I went back and checked the tracking, the package that was not delivered was changed to “package delayed due to adverse weather conditions”. I call BS.

      • Why would you call BS? What exactly do you think they’re covering up? You know if they have a day where they can’t deliver most stuff because of a snowstorm, they don’t get to just skip those deliveries, right? They still have to deliver all that stuff *in addition to* the regularly scheduled packages – so it’s plausible that deliveries could still be impacted days later. I understand the frustration (same thing happened to me) but come on, they have to drive on the same roads and walk on the same sidewalks as the rest of us.

        • I called BS because one package was delivered and the other was not, when it appeared they were both on the same truck. I didn’t make a stink about it to UPS or anything, just posted my experience on thread made for people to rant…

          • But you’re assuming they were on the same truck. It would make sense that they would be, but not knowing USPS’s scheme for efficiency it’s possible that they were not.

        • I had the same thing. The item that was “delivered” never showed up. I was home all day and sitting right by my front window at my desk working and no delivery was ever made. The other got delivered two days later. Luckily the company refunded my money for the not delivered items. I wish I could choose my delivery service. USPS works so much better for me because they can get into my building while UPS and FEDEX can’t. I’d willingly pay more for it.

          • This is literally exactly how I feel, too. FedEx and UPS are horrible in my neighborhood (Adams Morgan)–not sure exactly what the problem is, but stuff like this happens all the time to me. I never have issues with USPS, so if there’s ever an opportunity to choose my shipping method or ask an online retailer to send through USPS, I do.

    • Piling on the USPS: MUST my mail carrier shout obscenities into her cell phone every minute of every day? I know the mail is coming, because I can hear her three houses away, going on about “I told that motherfucker I’d fuck his shit up if he fucking came near me, and he said…” It’s EVERY DAY with this carrier. (Of course, there is no rhyme or reason to our carrier schedule. Sometimes it’s foulmouthed shouty girl for a week or more straight, sometimes it’s her one day and other people other days… *sigh* Remember when you used to know your mail carrier? And he was a kindly older fella who took pride in his job?)

      • Ugh, that’s really unprofessional of her — makes me appreciate my nice, friendly mailman all the more.
        Maybe you can make a note of which specific days she’s been working the route and cussing loudly, and put the information in a complaint to USPS?

  • Rave: Warmer weather! The sun!
    Rave: Dinner and Olympic watching with a good friend tonight.
    Rave: So close to the end of the week.

  • Rant: Had one of my bimonthly nervous breakdowns this past weekend. Still feeling like rubbish.
    Rave: Have a date this weekend, my first in months.
    Rant: No one wants to date a crazy bitch; dude will run like hell when he finds out who I really am (if it even gets that far).

    • why do you think that people think you are like that? Its amazing how well some people can hide things πŸ™‚

    • I’m sorry you had such a bad moment this past weekend., but from all your posts on Popville, you don’t seem like a crazy b*tch. As someone who has struggled with depression and anxiety, I like to say that I”m crazy, but it is managed crazy. Therapy helps a LOT. For me, exercise and diet also play a role as well as changing the messages in my head. I’m not a mess, I’m just a person who has messy moments. It sounds crazy but the distinction makes a difference. Who you are isn’t the sum of your worst or lowest points. Hang in there, and I hope it helps you to know that you have people here who are rooting for you.

      • Emmaleigh504

        “I’m not a mess, I’m just a person who has messy moments.” this is brilliant and something I needed to read today. thank you!

        • Emilie, maybe I’m misremembering, but aren’t you in law school? If you’re in that terrible ramp-up to exams period, welcome to the club–I had terrible nervous breakdowns every semester around this time, and I am now a successful, and very happy (and still sometimes messy) attorney.

          Even school aside, there’s evidence that the transition months (September and March) are the peak times for anxiety, for various atmospheric/pressure-y/light/whatever reasons. Take comfort in the fact that your feelings are totally normal!

          • Emmaleigh504

            Nope, I’m a librarian πŸ™‚ I just need to remind myself on bad days that it’s just a messy moment. (work sucks today = messy moment)

      • I kind of wonder why it always seems to be women who post about panic attacks / nervous breakdown / anxiety etc. Do you think it’s just a hormonal thing or that guys just don’t care about life the same way or something else?

        • I think it’s just less socially acceptable for men to air their anxiety publicly.

          • justinbc

            I can’t say I know of any male friends who have gone through this (versus probably a dozen or so girl friends), but like you point out men don’t exactly sit around talking about these things to each other. I would think the anonymity of this site would lead more to discuss that way, but I guess it’s possibly still a difficult thing for them (or anyone) to accept they’re going through. Good for you OP for at least realizing it might be something prohibiting you at the moment.

        • I’m a guy and I’ve had panic attacks in the past. Fortunately, that was almost ten years ago. Meds helped, but I decided to get off them after about a year. I replaced meds with exercise, and I’ve been fine ever since. If PoPville existed then, I wouldn’t have posted anything about this because I don’t need to share that part of my life with strangers.

        • Yeah I dated a guy way back when who had panic attacks. It’s definitely not a girl only thing. I recall reading at the time that it was most common in your 20s and the frequency tends to lower in your 30s.

        • I am a guy who is not in his 20s and I had a panic attack yesterday at work actually. I’ve been prone to them over the last 20 years. I’ve avoided medication by meditation. It took me 20 min at my desk, eyes closed and meditating after I felt the onset of the attack come on but I got through it.

          You are not alone, you can do this.

        • Men are socialized not to talk about things like that. I think the fact that the suicide rate is notably higher in men than women speaks to the fact that many dudes are simply suffering in silence due to the stoicism we expect from men.

      • Thanks for the support and the wise words. Life can be really hard, but it’s good to know we’re not alone. Internet hugs to you!

        • The recently released “My Age of Anxiety” is by a guy, who describes panic attacks, severe anxiety, and intense phobias of everything from cheese to vomiting. A fascinating read. My favorite tidbit is that the etymology of the word “panic” comes from the god Pan, who used to sleep in roadside bushes and, when startled awake by passersby, would issue forth with blood-curdling screams.

    • HHMM.. Well i’ll begin with this- its great that you recognize you have an issue…I suggests you try to deal with those issues first before dating someone for couple reasons. 1.) You need to see yourself in a more postitive way(other than being a crazy B*), 2nd) If you do date someone and the reason they leave you is becuase of(your crazy B* ways)- that will reinsure deeply that you are a crazy B*, which will only make you feel worse about yourself..
      Hope it works out for you.

    • You should do like me and just give up dating altogether! It’s fun not having any pressures to get married and have kids, I see so many married couples I know in total misery, it’s really better to be single than deal with that BS. πŸ™‚

      • I’m sure I’m not the only who reading your “dating” stories…

      • gotryit

        Easy there cowboy. Maybe it’s better for you to be single, but I’ll take my wife and kids any day over being single – despite the occasionaly misery. It’s different for everyone.

        • Correct, everyone is different. Some people can handle solitude, some can’t. I cannot. I lived alone for two years and went through a major depression bout. I thought about suicide, I thought about ending it all but luckily I got help when some friends recognized the danger signs. I’m still dealing with it actually but hopefully, every day gets better.

          That said, I hope valentina is OK, haven’t seen from her in a while. πŸ™

        • I know, I’m just working to find a situation that creates happiness for me rather than being pressured to conform and find someone right away. Living alone isn’t easy, i do everything myself, so I know the value of being helped and having someone but I also can do whatever I want while I’m single, so I’m going to enjoy that for as long as it runs. πŸ˜›

      • justinbc

        There is a lot more to love about dating than getting married and having kids.

      • I hear ya Jack! I have a bunch of friends that are so stressed over dating, marrying, and having kids that they 1) haven’t even thought about if that’s what they really want or if that’s what they want b/c that’s what’s expected of them at this point in our lives and 2) aren’t taking time to enjoy life! Of course everyone wants different things out of life. Some people want nothing more than to get married, move to the burbs, have kids, and complain about how miserable they are. I chose to just pursue the things that I find pleasure in, and if I meet someone along the way that also enjoys those same things, great! If not, cool, I’m doing stuff that I love to do.

      • That is true; the pressure is bogus. Living alone really is the best. A long-term partner who lives close by would be the ideal situation. Surely there’s someone within a 15-minute walking radius of my house. πŸ™‚

  • gotryit

    Rant: need reading glasses – I’m getting old
    Rave: I’ll be able to read / focus better at work without getting a headache

  • Rave: flying out of National on a sunny day, going to a sunnier destination
    And rave: Expedited screening process – an advantage of Global Entry program

    • justinbc

      I thought the Global Entry thing was only for your return trip to the US? It works for the outgoing flights as well?

      • Global Entry allows registered and approved travelers to use the TSA PreCheck lanes for domestic and international flights.

      • For some domestic flights there is a separate screening line for “trusted travelers”

        • My coworker thinks if you have a CAC card you’re approved. Is that true?

          • justinbc

            Yes, although anyone traveling with you still has to go through the normal line (at most airports, some are more relaxed).

          • What’s a CAC card?

          • gotryit

            CAC = common access card – the standard government ID card

          • Standard government ID card? I thought it was mostly just for DoD employees.

          • epric002

            no! the 10 digit number on the back of your CAC (which is DoD’s version of the HSPD-12 badge requirement) is only your known traveler number (KTN) *if* you are a military service member (not contractor, not civilian), if you added that number to DTS, and/or if you provided that number when you booked your travel.

          • justinbc

            CAC is for military and/or DoD employees. I know if you’re military it works, not sure about DoD. You just flash it at the gate.

          • epric002

            i’m a contractor for DoD and i have a CAC. i also have a separate KTN that i got through applying for pre-check b/c the number on the back of the CAC *only* works for military service members. the TSA is phasing out allowing people to just flash their CACs and use the precheck line. you are supposed to use the KTN when making your travel reservations. http://www.tsa.gov/tsa-precheck/military-members

          • My colleague, a DoD civilian contractor, just came back from travel and said he had access to the preferred screening line. He didn’t know about it beforehand, and had not done anything special when booking his travel. He said if you have a CAC you should automatically end up on a TSA list and your preferential status will be printed on your ticket. I’m curious to see if it works for me next time.

          • epric002

            @ anon 12:13- i don’t doubt that that happened, but that is the complete opposite of all the information i was given by both DoD and TSA. i’ve also had a CAC for 8 years and have *never* automatically been given pre-check/preferential status. as everyone knows, the TSA’s “rules” are applied differently at every airport/by every agent. so while some airports/agents will inappropriately let you use the precheck line just by flashing your CAC (no matter your military/civilian/contractor status), according to the DoD card policy office (and TSA), the only way to get precheck designated on your boarding pass is to supply your KTN when booking travel. i’m pointing this out not to be contradictory, but so people don’t expect to be able to flash their CAC everywhere and get access. the policies as written don’t support that, even though they’re not enforced uniformly. and as a side note, doesn’t that make you feel safer while flying knowing that TSA doesn’t follow it’s own rules?

          • I guess, but from my understanding he didn’t have to flash his CAC at anyone; TSA just followed procedure based on what was printed on his boarding pass. I think it’s a new policy because neither of us had experienced it before.

          • epric002

            @ anon 12:33- if pre-check was printed on his boarding pass then his KTN was somehow provided to the airline- it doesn’t happen automatically. as of 2 weeks ago, when i personally spoke with DoD ID policy folks on this matter, the numbers on CACs are *only* KTNs for military service members. and when i flew a week ago, my having a CAC did *not* automatically get me pre-check. is your contractor friend also a reservist or in the national guard?

          • No, he’s not. And we book our own travel at my office, so I don’t think there’s any way his KTN was provided without his knowledge. I guess I shouldn’t count on it happening to me when I travel. πŸ™‚

          • epric002

            @ anon 1:02- that’s very curious. unless you can get someone at DoD or TSA to confirm that your CAC number is indeed your KTN and it has been provided to the airline, i wouldn’t count on it. fwiw, if you fly a lot, it’s only $85 for 5 years, which to me was a good deal.

          • justinbc

            Not having to remove shoes or take laptop out, plus skipping the lines, is definitely worth it.

  • My mother passed away recently last Christmas Eve. I’m still grieving her loss. My uncle told me to move on because others have moved on with their lives. Some people can be so insensitive. It takes time for someone to greive the loss of a parent, child, spouse, or family member. I’m so sad today….

    • The loss of a parent would be truly devastating. There is no timeline for grieving. I’m sorry for your loss – give yourself time and the chance to grieve as much as you need.

    • I’m so sorry for your loss. Losing your mother leaves a void; nobody can replace her. Hugs on this sad day. Things will get better.

    • You have no reason not to still be grieving over the loss of a parent. My best friend lost her mother a few years ago and there are still moments (certain dates, a song that her mom loved, her father moving on and dating) that can put her in a tailspin. Grieve how you need to and don’t worry about what your uncle has to say about it!

    • your bereavement is very recent, you have my sympathy. your uncle is probably also sad. i’m sure you know that it is okay to be sad, that we need to feel sad sometimes. Many people are uncomfortable with sadness, see it as a sign of weakness, a bad thing, something too painful to endure. his insensitivity may be his way of coping with those feelings. I lost my father a few years ago, so I understand what you’re going through. I’m sorry you’re having a sad day.

    • I’m sorry for your loss. Although everybody grieves differently, for many people the first year or two are hard. The first year is often one of recognizing — again, and again, as we go through a cycle of events where the person we lost is no longer there. The second year is similar, except that we’re often more conscious of building new rituals and habits that recognize our loss. If your uncle is able to “move on”, I hope that speaks to his own resiliency. Losing a parent is something that happens to most of us, but it truly is devastating and life-changing, and confusing and sad. Please honor your own time-table as you handle your loss. If you need support — seek it out, even though that may feel hard too.

    • I’m so sorry. We lost my father-in-law just before the holidays. While we’ve had to get on with our lives in that we go to work, buy groceries, do laundry, etc., but the loss is still there and is still very tangible. It will be there for a very long time, but this first year will be by far the hardest. Be patient with yourself, and don’t let others rush you. Your uncle is probably saying these things to cover up his own struggles or push down his own grief, but it’s still a rotten thing to say.

      There’s a phrase in a recent NYT article about loss that has stuck in my mind since I read it: “My friend was irreplaceable, and her death left a jagged hole I will spend the rest of my life tiptoeing around the edges of” (here: http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2014/02/10/the-lost-art-of-the-condolence-letter/). Please give yourself time to navigate this loss, and to properly grieve for and remember your mother. Hugs!

    • i’m sorry for your loss.
      don’t worry about what your uncle says. he’s either in denial or still grieving and is just trying to cope also. his way is to just “move on”. your way is your way.

    • Moving on and grieving are not mutually exclusive.

      Assume your uncle hates seeing you in pain, and his concern for your grief is a sign of his affection. And, cut him a break.

    • Sending you an e-hug πŸ™‚

    • msmaryedith

      Grief is such a personal thing, and no one should tell you how you’re “supposed” to feel. I got really down a couple of weeks ago because it was the one year anniversary of my great aunt dying. I cannot even imagine losing my mother–especially on Christmas Eve.

      On a happier note, I spotted some daffodils at Trader Joe’s yesterday and bought them because they remind me of my grandmother who passed away in August–somehow they triggered only happy memories for me, and I’ve been smiling every time I look at them. I hope that with time your grief is replaced with happier memories of her. Hugs to you!

  • binpetworth

    Rant: Nearly run over this morning by a cab driver who was texting and accelerating through a stop light when I was halfway (legally) across the intersection. He looked up surprised, but then I saw him weaving and texting minutes later down 14th St.
    Rave: (Possibly crazy) guy who greeted me this morning with “Good Morning! Have a nice day…I love you!” which was just the amusement I needed.

    • I took a guy home one night and he said to me “girl, your hair smells so good, I love you.” That was way more memorable than anything else that night! Ha

  • NOTE: “By praising these kiNds of behaviors”

    Rave: Been reading about that new iPhone app: Secret-Speak Freely, that’s all the rage so I downloaded it. Love it. Fingers crossed that it doesn’t become a tool for cyber-bullying
    Rant: Having trouble committing to leaving DC to travel. I’ve always said I would and really really want to but am kind of terrified that I’ll have to do it alone and struggle, or that I’ll chicken out, or that my parents will flip a literal shit when they find out my plans. Also its terrifying to leave this city I love and all the people I love too, especially because this is the only place I’ve had a real support system

    • Do it! Go! Of course you will be terrified, and you will have to struggle and your parents might flip a literal shit – but do it anyway. If you have the time and money there is nothing better to do. I speak from vast (terrified, struggled but glorious) experience.

    • justinbc

      Yeah if you can afford it then book your tickets tomorrow.

  • Rave: getting over that slump and hesitation… starting a strong campaign to transition to private equity or venture cap

  • Rant: Troubles with the roommate, don’t really know what to do about it
    Rant: I’m struggling with studying for the LSAT and I’m terrified that I’m not going to be good enough. I want to study law for various reasons but part of me also really doesn’t so my motivation keeps wavering. There’s no real point in paying for law school if I don’t get into the right school so my score really matters, but there’s so much to distract me and I’ve always been pretty bad at handling failure

    • Advice from someone who has been through law school. 1) Try as hard as you can on the LSAT, even if you’re not sure you want to study law yet, because if you do poorly, well then there’s your answer (although the LSAT has zero to do with one’s ability to practice law.) 2) You don’t necessarily need an awesome score on the LSAT to go to a great law school, because your GPA from undergrad can be heavily weighted by many law schools. I did pretty mediocre on the LSAT, but still got into a great law school because I had a good GPA. In addition, life experience can be taken into account. 3) Do not go to law school until you are absolutely certain you want to study law; I have a friend who was kind of wishywashy about attending law school in the first place, and guess what, she was still pretty wishywashy about practicing law by the time she graduated, just with an extra $100K+ in debt. 4) “There’s so much to distract me and I’ve always been pretty bad at handling failure” — this will be the story of your life in law school. Distractions abound and if you’re someone who is used to success and can’t handle failure, you can just throw that out the window, because you will feel more stupid and demoralized than you’ve ever felt in your whole life. It’s part of the learning process, and it continues after graduation.

    • In terms of failure, just to give you an idea, I took the LSAT twice – once in undergrad and once after a few years of working. In undergrad, I didn’t do nearly as well as I would have liked. I took a few years off, and when I was actually ready to go to law school, I studied hard and did much better. Even then, most schools weighted the two scores so my initial score stuck with me. I still got into a great law school.

      I will also note that for me, it wasn’t just studying hard, but studying the right way. A piece of advice is to make sure your scores are consistent…my scores the first time I took the test were all over the map. The second time, I had a good idea of what I would get.

      I also agree with not going to law school if you aren’t going to get into a school you feel comfortable with ranking-wise. Its a lot of time and money to spend, and you want to put yourself in a position where you will get a job.

    • houseintherear

      What are your roommate troubles? I’m thinking about living with someone again, instead of being broke and living on my own…

    • My general advice is don’t go to law school…but

      If you are not sure about law school like I was try and get a job at the University you want to attend. I worked full time and was in the evening program (4 years v. 3 years)……..My salary wasn’t great but it was enough to pay me living expenses and one of the benefits was 20 credits a year for free (you did get taxed on the benefit). I entered the terrible job market with very little debt. Also I got into a good school with an okay LSAT score because I had a sign undergrad GPA.

  • I found this season House of Cards to be especially sad. Lots of lonley people looking to connect with others in all the wrong ways. Can’t think of one character that I liked. Looking forward to Game of Thrones.

  • Rave: Beautiful weather for my walk to work. Finally wearing normal shoes again (not snow or rain boots)!
    Rave: It’s Thursday!
    Rant: It’s still only Thursday.

  • I agree with the N. Cap & Michigan rant. It seems like things have gotten worse in the past couple of weeks and I can’t understand why. My theory is they changed the timing on the two signals as you head up N. Cap around Bryant before you go under the Rhode Island bridge. That used to get really backed up, but has seemed less so now that things are so backed up near Michigan.

    • houseintherear

      1st St is closed between Channing and Michigan due to construction, and it’s making everything a disaster. πŸ™ It would be great if they could limit parking on northbound N. Cap in the mornings while 1st is closed, but of course this would suck for those residents.

    • I can tell you exactly why: people who usually turn left on Channing to hit 1st to access the hospital now have to find another way. The intelligent thing would be just continuing up to Irving and taking that across; it’s a direct shot. But no! They all seem to think the best way is to take a right on Michigan and then immediately do a u-turn in the middle of the street (in front of the Cloisters entrance, which may or may not be legal) to get back west on Michigan. People are idiots. I sat there one day trying to turn south on North Cap and watched FIVE cars do this at one signal interval with cars piling up behind them. That is backing up the right lane of N Cap at Michigan enough to cause issues.

  • Yeah, but the HoC characters are miserable people with stressful unhappy lives. I don’t think many people would aspire to be like them. Of course there are some who will do anything to be in a position of power, but I don’t think a show would be necessary to encourage those types.

    • I look at House of Cards like I do Sons of Anarchy – a (for the most part) good show about horrible people. The only characters I like on Sons are Jax’s kids and the few non-corrupt law enforcement figures.

      And I think HOC is more of a dark political satire than a political drama.

      • Maybe that’s why I dislike both shows! I don’t want to watch shows about horrible people who make stupid, evil choices. Movies, sure, but they have an end time.

      • I have a theory about shows on FX: they are all about horrible people doing horrible things, but the setups differ. Sons of Anarchy, Nip/Tuck, It’s Always Sunny…

    • I was talking with a guy the other day at work who said he gets his fix by “blocking and frustrating others”. There are people who love working to get away with bad behavior, and in preventing others from succeeding while they get rich… This kind of behavior should be flagged and weeded out of work environments in my opinion, it’s a cornerstone to healthy and productive teamwork, but the self-centered “Me generation” is growing in population in my opinion.

  • rant: everyone who didn’t feel the need to pick up after their pooches during last week’s snowstorm – now their crap is everywhere and melting. gross.
    rave: the few people who i do see picking up after their pooch, give yourselves a pat on the back.

  • colheights67

    Rant: My downstairs neighbors maintain space in front of our building (on a congested street) as if it’s their private driveway. They spend time moving their two cars back and forth in order to limit anyone from parking near them — whenever they leave with one car, they move the other one in such a way that the remaining car takes up two spaces. They’ve done this for YEARS. I know it’s public space, but their monopolizing of this space is just another example of their lack of, I don’t know, community-ness. (Also, they’ll park almost-but-not-quite at the end of the block, so that even a small car — like mine — can’t fit into the remaining space without mostly extending into the no parking zone.)
    Rave: Sunshine and clearer sidewalks.

    • You should join Car2Go and see if you can squeeze a little SmartCar into the space they leave!

    • Is it a zoned street where the spaces aren’t marked out? (I was going to suggest reporting them to Parking Enforcement for taking up two spaces, but I guess that would only work if the spaces were marked.)
      Maybe you can rent a Car2Go and squeeze it in behind/in front of one of the cars so as to foil their space-hogging strategy? πŸ˜‰

      • That’s so what I’d do. Even if I didn’t need car2go it’d be worth the $30 yearly membership (or whatever it is) just to mess with those a-holes.

  • Rave: Slept for 8 hours straight last night for the first time in over a month! Feeling slightly more in control of my life. I’m really hoping this streak lasts, the last time this happened it was only a brief respite before another month of waking up between 2am and 4am every night.
    Rant: Wondering if I have insomnia, and feeling like a failure for not being able to stay asleep most nights.

    • I am always astounded by how much a single good night’s sleep can totally transform my outlook, and how even one night of bad sleep can make me short-tempered and cranky. Glad you got a good night last night!
      I have no idea why you’re waking up, of course, but two thoughts: (A) I find having a drink or two in the evening may help me fall asleep easily but nearly always means I wake up in the middle of the night. So not drinking really helps me sleep better. (B) When I wake up obsessing over something (to-do list, how to write that document for work, budgeting to save for major purchase, whatever), if I jot down some of the thoughts that keep repeating over and over it helps me fall back to sleep more easily.

  • Dudes, this House of Cards season has been out for less than a week. PLEASE don’t post spoilers or too much information about the episodes. Some of us are waiting to binge watch until this weekend. C’mon!!

    • This +10000000000

      You mofos need to stop, please!!! And typing “spoiler alert” then hitting the spacebar twice before spoiling, is not a real alert!!

    • +1. And some of us don’t have time to binge, and will be watching a couple episodes a week. Quit with the spoilers!

  • Rant: This morning I leaned over the edge of the bed and saw what I initially thought was one of my cat’s mouse toys… but turned out to be the tail and bottom end of an actual mouse.
    Rant: When I lifted the bedskirt to see the rest, I saw that there was no rest.
    Rant: When I picked up the mouse’s tail with toilet paper and carried it to the trash, the non-tail end of the mouse was… ugh. (I will spare you the visuals… I am still shuddering at the recollection.)
    Forced rave: I guess this means my cat is a proven mouser?
    Rant: Wondering where the rest of the mouse is… in my cat’s tummy? Somewhere under the bed? Somewhere else in the house?

    • colheights67

      Hell of a way to start the day. (I’d guess the rest of the mouse was eaten. Hope there are no more surprises.)

      • I hope the mouse hadn’t been eating mouse/rat poison (which is basically blood thinner) — presumably it wouldn’t have as serious an effect on my cat as on a mouse, given the size differential, but still.
        I’m working from home today, so at least this allows me to keep an eye on her.

    • Textdoc – my cat also only ate the front parts of the mice she’s found, twice!

      • Heh. I didn’t know this was a cat thing! I guess it’s not surprising, though. πŸ™‚

        • Same with my childhood cat. She always left the back halves on the doorstep.
          I guess I can be grateful that my current cat kills mice, but leaves them perfectly intact.

    • If your cat didn’t eat the rest of the mouse, you’ll eventually smell it within a few days.
      Think of the tail as a gift of thanks from your cat! πŸ˜‰

      • “Think of the tail as a gift of thanks from your cat!” I’m not so sure she meant it that way, but it’s probably just as well — if she had, she might’ve deposited it next to my pillow or something. πŸ˜‰

  • Rave: Back from Mexico and it was just what I needed!
    Rave: First Stitch Fix arrived yesterday and I loved all the things in the box!
    Rave: Two day work week.
    No rants today!

    • epric002

      yay for stitchfix! though i was really disappointed in my last fix. i asked for tropical vacation wear and everything they sent me was black and maroon and wintery. and didn’t fit. the only thing i kept was a necklace which broke the first time i wore it! (they did replace my necklace, but still, very disappointing).

      • This was my first one. It’s a little pricier than what I would normally spend on items…but I liked all the items and a couple I would’ve never thought to try on! I am going to try to limit it to only a few times a year πŸ™‚

        • epric002

          you know you can set your price ranges for different types of items, right? this last one was honestly my worst one. i’ve been doing stitchfix for over a year and usually love it. maybe it was a new stylist? anyway, i’m going to wait until it’s closer to spring for my next fix so that it won’t be so hard to get spring-like clothes! enjoy your new stuff πŸ™‚

          • Glad to hear positive things about StitchFix! I’ve been thinking of trying it because I hate shopping and I always wear the same stuff in the same colors. I don’t really know how to put outfits together, if that makes sense. I’m also thinking of trying a personal shopper at Nordstrom, has anyone tried that before?

          • epric002

            @pixie you should totally try it! do you have a friend who will refer you? if not, i’m happy to do it! never tried a personal shopper at nordstrom but would also be interested in hearing from someone who has.

          • @Pixie: I also hate shopping, which is why I tried stitch fix. I’ve only had one fix so far and I kept 3/5 items. I was very pleased because, well, I didn’t have to go shopping. I’m also kind of bad at putting outfits together, so be aware that they don’t really do that. Instead they give you individual pieces to mix and match yourself. However, I’ve found their style blog very helpful in that area.

          • I tried Stitch Fix once and was very disappointed. I kept one item just because of the style fee but it was nothing special and NOTHING in the box made any sense for my body type. I’m planning to try Tog and Porter and see how that turns out.

          • epric002

            @metmet- don’t they still attach styling cards to each item that suggests 2 different ways to style that item?

            @anon 1:18- sorry stitchfix didn’t work for you. tog & porter was the 2nd online stylist i tried (first was cakestyle, which was WAY expensive and have since gone out of business) but i wasn’t crazy about it. maybe they’ve changed their system, but when i did it they wanted you to skype with them initially, and then so they can see how each item they send you fits…which i *get*, but i was uncomfortable with that and felt more pressure to keep items i wasn’t crazy about b/c my stylist on skype would be telling me why i should. good luck though!

          • @epric002: Yes, you’re right. I just meant that they’re not going to send you a full outfit.

          • Sorry, that was me above.

  • do you follow me to work every day? Those two intersections make my commutes hell. Especially K and 1st. Luckily that construction has only been going on for about 10 months with no end in sight….

    • I don’t know, I doubt anything is worse than the intersection I have to cross every day at 11th and M Street SE. Construction, poorly timed lights, and multiple highway ramps make it very unfriendly to pedestrians. I think the only reason no one’s been hit there yet is because most people crossing through are in cars and not on foot.

  • Last night around 7:00pm as I was getting off the S9 bus at the intersection of 16th and Euclid a cyclist was struck by a car traveling westbound on Euclid. I didn’t see it happen, but I saw the young man laying on the ground seconds following not moving. There were people everywhere. I am wondering if anyone knows any information on this? I hope he is OK. It didn’t look good…I could still hear the sirens when I got to my apartment a few blocks away.

  • Rant: I have work travel for 60-90 days (of course I’ll get to return home on weekends) and it will be hard to leave my kiddo for this period (though he’ll be in good hands with his grandma)
    Rave: We’re both playing hookie today to get in some good family time πŸ™‚

  • House is on the market. Hoping for a quick/easy sale. This is more stressful (to me) than it should be.

  • Rave: Cronuts at Shoppers (yes day 2, still delicious)
    Rant: Not being appreciated at my job. Seeing people that started after me, with less experience, move ahead.
    Rant: Paying off student loans.. Feels like this will never end.

  • djdc

    Rant: Does anyone else have trouble scrolling through this site? I think it has to do with the photos loading, but when I try to scroll up to the next post, the page leaps up about 3 or 4 posts. Then when I try to scroll back down, it jumps ahead 2 or 3 posts the other direction. My scrolly finger is getting tired.
    Revel: Still love the site, don’t get me wrong!

    • Are you looking at it on a smartphone? I have this problem on my smartphone and it really affects the usability. It’s far worse that most other mobile sites I look at.

    • Yes, same here. I’m trying to wean myself off this site (though obviously that’s not going well :)) because too much scrolling gives me vertigo.

    • Prince Of Petworth

      We are working on upgrading the site. In the next few weeks we are upgrading our servers (again) so hope to fix these slow loading/and other loading issue problems when the upgrade is made! Sorry again.

  • rave: so excited to see that Lake St Dive is playing the 9:30 club in June (their show at the Hamilton a few weeks ago sold out before I could get tix). (still bummed that Nickel Creek’s show sold out before I could buy tix though.)
    rant: just read Mankiw’s defense of the 1% and I find it sad that someone supposedly so intelligent actually believes that BS
    rave: beginning to dream up ideas on where I could travel in between spring and summer semester classes (May) – any ideas? I’m thinking Latin America or Europe, although it’s possible that I should branch out a little!

    • Mankiw is a total frigging hack. A paid-for shill. He wrote one decent textbook (explaining other people’s ideas) and that’s the extent of his academic brilliance. The guy is less an economist and more a political appointee/Op-Ed writer.

  • Rant: My God, I’ve seen some potholes in my lifetime but the ones appearing now are the absolute worse. Military Rd looks like the lunar landscape. These are not little holes, there are whole chunks of the road missing. There’s a depression forming in one of the streets near Coolidge High School that, if allowed to continue, will cave in half of the street. Everywhere is the same.

    To Chuckie, I’m so sorry for the loss of your mother. It took me a good two years to feel completely normal after mine passed. You will never be quite the same but you will adjust. Just please give yourself time to grieve. It’s something that can’t be rushed. After a while you will be able to look back at things with laughter not tears.

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