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  • Some co-workers and I were riding bikes. I was taking them around the city. There are a guy new to city who was interested in joining us & he did. He was pretty nice guy — but that took a lot of guts.

    In general — I would recommend finding things you are interested in via meetup.com. Its a great way to meet people outside of work.

  • Come to DC Bike Party! dcbikeparty.com

    • DC Bike Party is a good idea but unfortunately it is run by people who make relationships with drivers worse and not better. I am a cyclist and went for a little ride and fun but was embarrassed by the way the people cruised out in front of traffic, never used bike lanes even when provided, and even yelled profanities at cars. There are other ways to meet people.

      • Totally agree. It gives cyclists who are looking to harmonize with drivers a bad name and, as you said, makes relationships worse. If you want a good laugh, go to their website and read the “manifesto” and juxtopose that with the actual behavior of the participants.

        • Thank you for your feedback. Those who organize and plan Bike Party do practice what we preach on the rides, with very few exceptions. Please see my response to the previous comment above. It is difficult to enforce the points of our manifesto, since the “bike party rebels” have just as much right to roads as we do. We are always looking for good laugh, but please understand that the majority of us DO adhere to the posted rules.

          • I just read that manifesto. Could you be any more antagonistic? “full of douchebags”?

            You’re as bad as drivers who feel they own the road. People want to deal with a gaggle of screaming, inconsiderate cyclists about as much as they want to deal with drivers who don’t share the road.

          • Mr/Ms. “Really?”,

            Please accept my sincerest apologies for the casual wording used in my organization’s public documents. Our intention is not to encourage the occasionally pugnacious interactions between motorists and cyclists; rather, it is to mitigate potential conflict.

            If you are a cyclist in this city, as I am, you are undoubtedly aware that most motorists are safe and responsible; some are aggressive; a rare few are dangerous. Many of our monthly participants have been victims of automobile-driver negligence, and harbor negativity towards motorists in DC on account of their previous injuries. Our recognition of this fact within our Manifesto is intended to demonstrate situational awareness rather than encourage antagonism.

            I would also like to draw your attention to the fact that we hold our event on a monthly basis. Each ride is less than two hours long. Even if your editorialized account of our participant’s behavior were accurate, it would still only be describing a situation that only exists in this city for 0.27% of each month. However, it is more realistic that local residents will encounter DC Bike Party for a maximum of 5 minutes each month, reducing that metric to 0.011%.

            Unless the magnitude of the offense caused by our participants is so egregiously high that it is capable of bringing quantitative significance to event that might occur for one-percent of one percent of your life, I would posit that DC Bike Party is not actually the monster you are making it out to be. Thanks again for your helpful feedback.

      • Thanks for the feedback on the rides. I’m sorry to hear that you did not enjoy the experience. Have you been recent Bike Parties? If you see anyone jumping past the leader flags at lights or yelling profanities, they do not run bike party. Please understand that it is difficult for the organizers to control the loudest 3% of a 450-person crowd. We are always looking for new volunteers who can help to remind fellow riders how to enjoy Bike Party responsibly.

        As a side note, it is difficult for a large group to safely remain within a small bike lane. We are constantly reminding participants to keep in one lane, but even that can be difficult sometimes. We now structuring our routes to minimize the negative impact on automobile operators.

        • figby

          Not to mention the total disregard to the whole “Yield to Pedestrians” thing. Don’t even try being a person in a crosswalk when the DC Bike Party WE HAVE RIGHTS crowd starts swarming.

      • I would also add that the DC Bike Party is not considerate to the residents of the neighborhoods they pass though. A couple months ago we were sitting in our front yard when they came down our street, yelling and chiming their bells and playing music. Although we enjoyed the show, I couldn’t help noticing it was nearly 11pm on a Wednesday night and a lot of people would be trying to sleep at that hour.

        • Thank you for your valuable feedback. We do understand that traveling as a large group of people can have a brief, but noticeable, impact on the communities that we travel through. As mentioned in another of my comments, we now spend a considerable amount of time planning the route each month. This planning ensures the safety of each participant, reduces interference with automobile traffic, and minimizes our perceived negative impact on residential neighborhoods.

          Furthermore, my GPS logs do not show us having been out past 10:03 pm in the last few months since we’ve started recording this information. Even so, our group begins at 8pm sharp for an 8-11 mile ride. We take a break in the middle that is less than one-half hour in duration. Your accusation that we were still riding at 11pm would make our average moving speed between 3 and 5 miles per hour. Our logged average moving speeds are markedly higher than this.

          We do appreciate that you are looking out for the interests of your neighbors. Please let them know that we are available to discuss your concerns with them if you feel that our organization is disrupting their evening.

          • I didn’t say you were still riding at 11pm, but it was sometime after 10:30 (March or April, I think). Maybe 8th Street SE was towards the end of your ride, but we all thought it was awfully late to be doing that on a weeknight. A lot of Navy Yard employees live in the neighborhood, and they start their workdays around 6-7am.

          • Dear Mr./Ms. Anonymous,

            You are referring to April’s ride. Your definition of the word “nearly” differs greatly from mine. 10:30pm is not nearly 11pm. Neither is 9:31pm, which is the time of day when we turned left from G St SE onto 8th St SE. Our final riders then turned left on East Capitol St at 9:42pm. All of our participants had arrived, and most of had found parking on the east side of H St NE by 10pm. Or I suppose you might say “nearly midnight”.

          • Well I don’t know why our accounts differ. I don’t have a log of the time it happened, but all three of us looked at our watches or cell phones and saw it was something like 10:45ish. I might question my memory, but I know we wouldn’t have commented on how late it was if it had been 9:30. Anyway, I obviously wasn’t trying to sleep at that time so I’m not complaining, just suggesting you try not to have the noise going on so late.

          • Also, I find it impossible to believe that so many bikers would be able to travel from G Street to East Capitol in 11 minutes unless they were ignoring red lights. I bike and walk that route every day, and the light at Pennsylvania is very short. So certainly some bikers would have been stuck waiting there.

          • Not sure what you are accusing me of here with your CSI deductions of a route that was logged by no less than 5 GPS’s, but I’m going to enjoy the rest of my day and weekend and I hope you do likewise. Enjoy the weather!

          • Ok, whatever. You’re being awfully defensive and probably do need to get out and enjoy the weekend!

  • saf

    I have a lot of college friends here – GW alum. We tend to run in a pack.

    But we have added lots of folks since then. Most of us now live in Petworth, but we have met in various places. Bars, jobs, online, church. It’s been pretty random. We meet folks through friends. We meet folks through work. We meet folks at bars/restaurants. We meet folks on our favorite websites (OK, I met one of my closest friends on a usenet newsgroup. Yeah, it was a while ago.)

    Just talk to people, and when you find shared interests, see if you might hang out around those interests.

    Really, we’ve added people by talking about shared interests, then saying, “Hey, we should….” and then doing it. We’ve never gone looking for new people, but we are always adding new people. It is all noticing who would get along with the group and asking them to come along and have some fun, or having them ask us to come along with them.

  • neighborhood activities, get a dog, join a hiking club, take art classes, become a docent at a museum, join a book club, join an arts organization like the wpa, go to meetup.org events, volunteer with a film festival or other festival.
    invite some neighbors over for a potluck.

  • Meetups work really well.

  • Communal country house sailing club!

  • Sports leagues. I joined WAWSL when I moved here – got on a team and made a ton of good new friends – and am still friends with many of them – including our team captain who ended up marrying my brother. Good times!

    • definitely athletic groups – tri clubs, running clubs, masters swim teams, softball, bocci, soccer, etc., etc.

    • Even if you can’t still play, find a supporters group. There are soccer groups all over the city for those that support English teams and DC United has 3 supporters clubs as well. Not sure about other sports but it’s a great way to interact with people with a built in conversation starter.

      Also, before I got old and broken, I was a WAWSL player too! Awesome group of people.

  • Volunteer!

  • I hear ya — being married makes finding new friends twice as hard, and even more difficult when you both work so much. And then you have to find couples that don’t have young children yet…even harder. So, if you want to grab a drink after work….I live in the Bloomingdale area!

    • Somethings are harder, and somethings are easier. It’s easier to “put yourself out there” — hanging out at the neighborhood bar, showing up at random events around town, etc. — if you have someone along with you. On the other hand, it’s also very easy to fall back on your partner and not make the effort.

    • in bloomingdale, i would recommend just sitting at the bar at rustik. you’ll meet many people. almost all neighbors.

  • Pretty much my entire network of friends can be summer up as “dog” or “work.” Having a dog who demands three walks a day has me out in my neighborhood, which has resulted in great new friendships both pre- and post-parenthood. And coworkers tend to be a natural fit, you know you have at least one thing in common with them. Also, causes. If there’s a particular cause or charity you feel positive about, volunteer or go to a fundraiser. I’m not by nature a particularly social person, yet even I have managed to accumulate a large, diverse, and lovely group of friends in this town. It will happen, you just have to have an excuse to get out there!

    • I second or third the dog. Of course, you don’t get a dog just to meet people, since they’re a big commitment. We lived in Brookland a year before we got our dog and having him and walking around the neighborhood made us appreciate our neighborhood so much more and meet so many new people – many of them different types of people than who we would have met through other friends and the usual channels.

    • I agree that coworkers can be a natural fit for friend-seeking, but I also tend to warn people to tread very carefully when doing this.

      When I first moved to DC, I worked at an organization that had a lot of other young, single professional people working there, and so it was very natural that most of us ended up making friends *predominantly* from work. While for many this worked out to be wonderful, it really bit me in the ass. Through changes in management structure, and subsequent changes in the inter-office political culture of my organization, it got to the point where I wasn’t really able to stay close to many of those folks, and when I had to distance myself, I suddenly found myself to be without any social networks.

      Coworkers make great friends, but I’ve found that healthy social networks (at least for me) draw from many different scenes and sources- diversity is good! I moved to a new town recently and found some great homebrew clubs, and that’s been an amazing way of meeting loads of new folks from all sorts of places. Look to your hobbies to find people you click with!

      • I’m envious of those that can make friends with coworkers. Mine are male, conservative, 20-30 years older than me, and they live really far away. They’re great people but we have absolutely nothing in common outside of work (plus it would be weird to hang out with men that are the same age as my parents!).

        • in my social circle, i have 20somethings to 65 year olds. i don’t see anything wrong with it. in fact i prefer the diversity of it.

          • True. I guess it’s more the combination of them being so much older, and living outside the Beltway, and having kid and grandkids they’d rather spend time with, and having interests like golf and church that I don’t share.

          • well, yeah, living outside the beltway doesn’t count as local anyway.

          • I’m the only “local” at my office then. 😉

  • binpetworth

    I’ve been fortunate in making a lot of good friends through work, but I’ve also had success in meeting folks through classes (e.g., Bethesda Writers’ Center, language classes). You might want to look into the free offerings via Knowledge Commons DC to find an activity you’re into & seek like-minded souls.

  • justinbc

    DC is well known for its social circles and the folks who like to stay within them. This makes your attempts at friend searching harder, as attending things like happy hours, art exhibits, etc may not yield results due to people not exactly intermingling well. I would suggest things that either encourage or somewhat “force” interaction with other groups of people, such as the suggested Meetup groups, Living Social classes and events at their facility, or recreational sports teams. Years ago I would have included Yelp in that list, as it used to be a great way to meet other like minded eaters (if that’s your thing), but the user base has deteriorated so much and there’s no longer any sense of community there. If you have a local bar, maybe just grab drinks there regularly and chat with the bartenders. They are a great gateway to happenings of the neighborhood.

    • justinbc

      I like the suggestion of the charity groups above as well. Find a cause you really like and you’ll automatically have something in common with another group of people.

  • if you like to run and you like to drink… dchashing.org

  • My husband and I are newlyweds and are looking for other couples to hang out with. We live in trinidad if you want to meet up sometime!

  • Have you tried posting an ad on Craigslist? I’ve found it to be a great way to meet new people with similar tastes and interests as myself.

  • Pick a bar or restaurant near you that you like and become regulars, you’ll most likely end up with twofers: friends who are also neighbors, and you’ll be supporting a local biz. Also bing/google to see if there is a neighborhood blog or listserv; it is an excellent way to stay connected.

  • Allison

    If you like to play board games, try the communal gaming events at Labyrinth game store in Eastern Market! I’ve met a lot of really smart interesting people there, as well as other married couples; if I was looking to enlarge my friend circle on a more permanent basis, that’s the first place where I would go.

    They play “mainstream” games like Scrabble and Fluxx some nights, moderate gamer-games like Ticket to Ride and Settlers of Catan, and for the nerd in you, Magic the Gathering as well as one-shot D&D games. Usually Thursday nights 6-10pm, with special events scattered throughout the month.

    Here’s the calendar http://www.labyrinthgameshop.com/Events_Parties.html

  • Join the DC Blues Society and volunteer at their events.


    • YES! Or you could come out and blues dance with Capital Blues, either at Angles on Wednesdays in Adams Morgan round 9, or in Glen Echo on Thursdays. We’re warm and inviting, I promise.

      • Cool! I’m surprised I haven’t heard of that before (although I’m not much of a dancer. “Not much” meaning I’m worse than Elaine Bennis.)

        If you’re looking for bands, check out Big Daddy Stallings some time.

  • Kickball! Softball! Kickball netted me a BF and lots of friends, but you have to find a league/team that is around your age group. Ours ranges from mid 20’s to mid 30’s

    • Which league did you join? I’ve thought about doing it…either kickball or bocce or something, but then got overwhelmed by all the choices. I also think I might be a bit too old for some of it (closing in on mid-30s).

      • Bocce is a good choice for the less athletically inclined and less competitive among us, and attracts more thirty-somethings than kickball. I’ve become good friends with folks with whom I was randomly assigned to a bocce team. There is less mingling *between* bocce teams than I expected, however. Most folks tend to socialize after the games with their teammates, as many of the teams are composed of pre-existing friends.

  • Per the photo above, I can’t suggest highly enough the Meridian Hill Park Sunday “drum circle” from 3-9PM. When I say drum circle, i’m not talking about a UC Berkeley-style jam session in the quad, there’s a lot more energy. Plus slack lining, juggling, soccer/frisbee, picnics, etc etc. even if it isn’t your scene, it’s still a great way to meet people outside of work!

    • I took the photo above– it was actually my first time and I loved it! Are there a lot of “regulars” who go every week? Otherwise it seems like it would be hard to make friends there.

  • A popville happy hour would be nice.

  • I may be sounding a little broken-record-y on this but I made more friends in a year-and-a-half rowing than almost anything I’ve done since I worked political campaigns decades ago and I think for the same reasons: it’s an intense, shared experience where you work closely with and rely on others.It breaks down barriers: people come to know you and like you because of who you are, not because of your looks or college or excellent ink or job. I suspect other sports are similar, but rowing does have the additional benefits of being co-ed, more intensely inter- (co-?) dependent and a sport that people tend to start showing up to alone, rather than surrounded by a gang of pre-existing buddies. Also, they do know how to party and there’s even a phenomenon known as “crewcest” (along those lines, note that DC is home to the nation’s first gay rowing club, DC Strokes).

    Food websites — Donrockwell.com is my choice — tend to be pretty social, as well. You break the ice on line and then get to actually meet people at, say, a bagel taste off or a group visit to a restaurant.

    • virtually anything you spend a year and a half doing with other people will result in having more friends.

      • Untrue. I’ve had several jobs of longer duration where I made few or no friends, and years of volunteering for various kids’ school things yielded many fine acquaintances but no one I socialize with.

        On the other hand, most of my good friends on the crew were drinking buddies after the first three months.

        • untrue for some jobs, but not untrue for things outside of work.

          it’s awesome that crew was so fruitful for you!

          • I’m just saying what worked for me. In my work (Fortune 500 company and relatively senior government folks for the last 20-odd years) and in my kids’ schools I meet a lot of “normal” people and tend not to bond with them. Not that I’m not kind of normal myself, but I tend to get along well with people who are little more random that the well-scrubbed middle-aged professionals I meet during the normal routine. And I’m guessing if the OP had met a bunch of buddies at work, they wouldn’t have been the OP.

          • Yeah, I’d agree with that. I took three semesters of a foreign language through the Global Language Network. Those of us who attended all three semesters (once a week for a year and a half, excluding summer and winter breaks) have become pretty close. There’s a similar dynamic with the organization I volunteer with, where it’s more or less the same group of people continuously working together on a multi-year-long project. Unless you’re really outoing you won’t make friends going to an occasional class or meetup; it has to be a sustained effort where the same people are seeing each other over and over again for a long period of time.

    • I’m looking at classes now – this had been on my “to do” list for awhile and it seemed now is the time to “do”

    • saf

      Huh. I can also be found on donrockwell.com

  • Become a parent.

    • +1. I got really nervous about this, but there are tons of ways to meet new parents and you automatically have stuff to talk about to break the ice.

    • I think if I wanted to boost my social life, becoming a parent is the opposite of what I’d do. Especially since the OP said both of them are super busy at work already…

      • I think it depends on whether you want to meet people or “boost your social life” in the sense of going out more for drinks or shows.
        There is no doubt that having kids instantly increases the number of people you know and provides an easy excuse for inviting people to do things.

        • i think suggesting to have kids as a way for a young couple to make friends is not sound advice for 21st century America.

          • Couldn’t agree more. Having kids (or, for that matter, getting a pet) should never be a solution to any problem (meeting people, fixing the relationship, etc.).

          • Seriously. Maybe they don’t want kids or aren’t ready yet. This is a ridiculous suggestion.

          • I was joking. No, I don’t think that people should have kids just to make friends. It is true, however, that having a child does expand your social circle.

    • Not a good reason to have kids but it is true. Your social circle expands markedly once your kids are in school, playing sports, etc.

      • PDleftMtP

        That’s years down the line. We just had a baby – it does not in any way expand your social circles in the short to medium term if you both work.

        • Correct. For us, started around age 3. We met tons of people though and established some nice friendships.

  • I second the Meetup suggestion. There are groups for specialized interests but also general social groups that are very large and diverse.

  • Volunteer at the National Zoo or your local farmers market – then you’d get to meet the neighbors too.

  • Here’s the thing, just like meeting potential dates, if you want friends, you put yourself in group activities of things you like to do.
    Collect art? Join a collectors group or a museum group.
    Like eating? Join a supper club
    Like biking? Join a bike club
    Like beer? Go to beer events

    You will still need to be open and outgoing. In my experience, you will have to say hi first, since so many people are shy or insular. The reasonably kind of club exists is so that like minded people can meet. Join those things. We got zillions of them here in DC.

  • You should ask all your friends in other cities who they know in DC. Friends of friends are generally way better than new friends. There are a lot of odd people out there and generally the friends of friends will click more with you than strangers that you’re seeking out.

  • i second meet up . com! met two of my new best friends / went to the same cafe almost every weekend and became friends with some of the people who work there. it’s not easy, but it gets easier.

  • Friendship = time + proximity/effort + planning.

    It is actually fairly easy to meet people but takes work and commitment to get to the coveted “easy hang-out” friendship stage. You have to plan events – game night, backyard cook-out, front porch cocktails, picnic in RC park, screen on the green or other free summer events. And others have to actually make the effort to attend and keep it going.

    Sharing the same neighborhood is a big bonus. I’ve had friends move to Capitol Hill and it’s like dropping off the face of the earth.

    • It’s funny, isn’t it? I know a lovely couple who live on the hill who I have a lot in common with, but because I live in dupont I will probably never become close friends with them. sigh.

  • Join your state society – good way to find people from back home.

    • On a similar note, if you went to a college that has a semi-active alumni association chapter in DC, that might be another source for meeting people. I unfortunately dropped the ball on keeping the contact going, but I’ve met a couple of interesting people at college/grad school alumni events. (When you’re searching for commonalities, the school can be a nice and easy thing to bond over, even though I never considered myself much of the “Rah rah, my college!” type. I was certainly the antithesis of that while in college, but I think the nostalgia starts to creep in as you get older.)

  • sports!

  • I’ve been ranting on PoPville about this issue since I moved to DC 2 years ago! It’s hard for me to meet people in my age (early 30s). I live with my boyfriend so no dating or singles events. I work with all older guys in their 50s so I don’t have any coworker friends. Inspired by some comments on PoPville, I decided to join a church (a really awesome progressive church) even though I never thought of myself as super religious. I’m slowly getting more involved with church activities and starting to meet some really cool people. I also started volunteering and actually made some friends that way. There’s also alumni events, meetups (although I haven’t actually been to a meetup yet), finding a hobby such as biking or rock climbing. I tried joining a social sports league but found out that was totally NOT my thing. My landlord doesn’t allow pets so getting a dog is not an option, sadly.

    It’s been hard to make friends in a new city without the built in social network of school. I’ve made a lot of effort to be more socially active and get out of my comfort zone, which is hard because I’m usually really shy! Finally, I think we should arrange a PoPville MeetUp for 30-something couples looking to make friends!

    • Do you mind sharing which church you attend? I’ve been off the church wagon for nearly 14 years, but it’s something I’d like to start exploring now that I’m an adult. That said, it definitely needs to be a progressive church – I can’t stand the conservative, evangelizing BS.

      • Yes, the church is All Souls, a UU congregation. Definitely check them out! They are very friendly, progres, and welcoming of all people – including former church-hating, recovering Catholics like myself 🙂

    • Join the VA/MD/DC Rock Climbers Meetup. We’re really friendly!

      • Oh wow, I am curious about this. I frequented the rock wall during undergrad, made some great friends through it and would love to re-discover climbing. Is this through Meet Up? In gyms or outside (I did both back in the day)? Are there even walls in DC for the car-less?

        • The two major gyms in the area — EarthTreks in Rockville and Sportrock in Alexandria — are both metro accessible. I live in Adams Morgan without a car, and it takes me about an hour door-to-door to get home from ET after climbing. I have never had a problem getting a ride from somebody for outdoor climbing.

          We have a meetup + dinner this Sunday if you’re available:


    • “Finally, I think we should arrange a PoPville MeetUp for 30-something couples looking to make friends!”

      I was with you until you got to “couples.” Gahhh — what is it with couples who are interested in socializing only with other couples??

      • Ha, I only meant to say that a lot of meet up events seem geared towards single people looking for boyfriends/girlfriends. I’m not trying to only socialize with other couples, I’m just looking for some events are that not dating events.

        • Ahh, OK. Fair enough.

          I guess that wording inadvertently hit a nerve with me, as you can tell. 😉

      • saf

        Also, the age restriction?

        I guess I understand that some people like to stick to their contemporaries. Still, I enjoy a mix of ages.

        (And yes, I’m older than that.)

    • We are in a similar situation and what makes it even more frustrating is the number of people who move in and out of DC on a whim. My wife has had 4 of her good friends move out of DC within the last three years and it feels like it’s a constant battle to keep meeting new people to replace friends that move away or become lifeless after marriage.

      It gets complicated even further when you are married and people you know are single or are on a shoe string budget because of student loans or a low paying job. Having dual incomes in a pricey city gives us a level of comfort and disposable income that most singles we know don’t have. We’ve heard “I can’t afford to do that” countless times and have likewise turned down invites to do bizarre activities that were planned by people on extreme budgets.

      • Potlucks can be budget-conscious, fun, and a great way to bring (new) people together. Bonus if it is/becomes a group cooking party!

  • Go swing dancing or any type of social partner dancing, blues dancing has been suggested as well. At swing daces there are almost always a beginner lesson first and everyone rotates partners, so you meet everyone else there. Show up a few times and you’re part of a pretty big international scene. You’ll see a lot of the same people at swing dance events all over the region and the bonus is that no matter where you go in the world, you can probably find a swing dancer to meet up with there.

    Tuesday nights overlooking Meridian Hill Park, with a beginner lesson included in the $6 price every week- http://www.thejamcellar.com/

  • also, once you take the advice we’ve all given above, then you have to take the extra step and pick specific people that you like and invite them to do specific things.
    -hey lets all grab dinner at that restaurant near our house.
    -ever been the mount vernon? me either. lets all go on saturday.
    -movies in an abandon lot in noma on an insanely hot and humid night? i’ll bring some ice packs and some carefully concealed boxed wine!
    – i hear the raven is one of the best bars in the world, and they love backgammon, lets go!
    -lets go through tomatoes at the duck tour bus

    welcome to dc. i hope you meet lots of wonderful friends here.

  • You don’t have to be athletic to play bocce! They have tons of leagues in the area. http://www.dcbocce.com/home/home.aspx

    Alumni sports are more competitive, but equally fun. http://www.dcalum.org/

    Anything you can work into a routine helps. Pick a local bar or coffee shop if you don’t drink and go there often. There’s a great new coffee shop on U Street. http://www.thewydown.com/

    • Totally agree with this. If you are decent at sports (either of you) you should see if your alumni group has a team for Flag Football, Softball, Soccer, etc. When I moved to DC in 2010, I joined the Flag Football team and have since joined other teams. It is a great way to get introduced to the local alumni chapter and meet a lot of people. Also, if your University has a football team, then there is a good chance they have game watches.

  • Introduce yourself to your neighbors – especially if you are newlyweds and thinking of starting a family, it is so great to be able to have friends in walking distance. I’m in a new parents group we started through my neighborhood parents listserve. I also have a lot of neighbor friends I met over the years by going to community meetings, potluck dinners, and other ways to get involved; my husband and I also have introduced ourselves to new neighbors moving in and many have become friends. Good luck!

    • Definitely. My block in CH had a block cookout and it was an avalanche of cool folks. I’m a native so I’m blessed with plenty of friends here but I saw numerous connections being made that have lasted.

  • just be friendly. frequent your neighborhood restaurants/pubs on a regular basis…. you’ll be surprised where you’ll find the most friendly people… take a class that interests you both… good luck!

  • If you like dogs, volunteer for a rescue group. I volounteer at PAW adoption shows once or twice a month and it’s the most fun volunteer work I’ve ever done.

  • I found friends after joining a capoeira group at Capoeira Males DC: http://www.capoeiradc.com/. The Capoeira Spot is on Georgia & Florida Ave… really good dynamic group of people open to meeting new friends!

  • Surprised I didn’t see anyone make this suggestion yet (and sorry I missed it if somebody did), but join (or found) a book club. Someone on one of the local listservs I belong to that’s based around our professional field did that a couple months ago, and the suggestion got a great response and now they meet once a month.

    I’ve added another social element to the book club by refusing to read at my house or office, and making myself get off my butt and go to the park or a coffee shop to read. Kinda amazing, but I’d say every other time I’m out reading, I have someone stop and ask my about the book.

    Plus, you have the added bonus of learning something new about something you enjoy. Or, just something you find entertaining – a friend of mine was a member of the “Trashy Airport Romance Novel Book Club” in Clarendon for years. I wonder if they still meet?

    • I’ve been looking for a book club! I don’t like the ones I’ve found on meetup thus far…not reading books I’d be interested in or the groups are too large. How else do you find one to join (other than through friends….which then it becomes a circular problem).

      • Some neighborhood libraries have book clubs – the Mt Pleasant library book club is reading The Great Gatsby this month.

      • I’d highly recommend doing what this ingenious young woman did when she couldn’t find a good book club she liked – she just sent a message out to a listserv that is specifically geared towards professionals in my field in this area asking if anyone would be interested in joining a book club if she made one. It was a really welcome break from the usual messages on the list about job postings and speaking series events and professional happy hours. Everyone jumped on it.

        She picked a classic book in our field that most of us had already read at least once to make it easy to get going, picked a place (which we promptly exceeded the capacity of, leading us on a hunt for a bigger space), and set a date about a month out so we could read (or re-read) the book. It sort of managed itself from there.

  • Sign up for one of sports leagues in the city.

  • I’m the OP and love Dan (PoP) for posting another APOP question again! Thanks for all the comments. We live in Columbia Heights. Love going out to places on 11th St but are just a little hesitant on approaching folks in bars. Also, we’re not big night owls, so late night stuff isn’t in our biggest interest.

  • bocce! or some other social intramural sport.

  • I highly suggest District Karaoke (www.districtkaraoke.com) – they have nights all over the District, and now VA, 4 out of 5 nights a week. Cool people, great bars, really great time. I moved to the district a year ago, and this made me a ton of friends.

  • I am late to the party but was very glad to see this question addressed! I disagree with the person who said it’s harder to make friends when you’re married. At least in that situation you can lean on the other person when things aren’t working out. People treat you like a freak when you’re alone, trying to connect with people. It seems like “making friends” is something of a team sport. Most people don’t go to bars, or join clubs or sports teams without at least one buddy. I looked into bocce but find it intimidating that registrants form teams on their own. If you’re joining solo, you get added to an existing team as a third (fourth, fifth?) wheel. So I’m still at a loss!
    I may take out a craigslist ad:
    “Introvert seeking friend for movie marathons, bike rides, dining out (and in!), personal and political conversations, hair braiding and other activities as they arise.”

    • DC Bocce generally puts solo and pair registrants on a team with other solos and pairs. So everyone’s in the same boat. It’s not like you’re going to be the only person who doesn’t already know everyone else on the team. I’ve made some good friends that way.

    • People go to their neighborhood bars alone all the time. That’s part of the point.unless your shy, and are buried in your phone, you’ll almost always meet more people alone than with someone.

  • hmmm. I’m shocked. This is one hard-partying city full of extroverts and alphas. I think it’s super easy to make friends. What are your interests?? Do them, and meet people through them.

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