Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. But please no personal attacks and no need to correct people’s grammar. This is a place to vent and/or celebrate things about daily life in DC.

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  • Rant: My job makes me so miserable that I have a hard time appreciating how lucky I am to just have a job, and how fortunate I am in other aspects of my life.

    Rave: But I am working on it. My goal is no complaining.

    • msmaryedith

      This is a stretch, but are you on Facebook? I recently deactivated my account, and it has been liberating, and eye-opening to realize how much of my dissatisfaction with my life was caused by comparing myself to others all the time.

      I know a miserable job is a miserable job (and it affects all aspects of your life), but I’m a lot more grateful for mine recently. And in general I think I have a much better ability to focus on the positive things in my life now that I am not constantly feeling like it falls short by comparing it to others’ experiences.

      • Thanks for your kind words. My issues are a bit deeper than that, I don’t use Facebook much, and wouldn’t choose any of my friends’ lives over mine. My dissatisfaction with my job plays with my self esteem, and it takes a lot to get out of bed during the week; I have been letting my malaise take a toll on my personal relationships as well, but I am really trying hard to stop that.

        But I can add another rave: In the past year I have taken the money I have earned here, and am now in the single (thousands) digit debt club! Sallie Mae has nothing on me.

        • I know the feeling–of being in a soul-suckingly toxic job with no apparent escape hatch. It sucks. And it’s tough to put things in perspective when you’re miserable right now, at this moment. Hope things turn up for you soon.

          One thing I found helpful, excuse the cliche, is volunteering. It got me out of my malaise for a few hours, met a few fantastic people, and got a pick me up from doing some good for the community.

    • pcat

      You’re not alone. I’ve been in my job for 3 years and hate it more than any job I have had in my past. The boss (current and past) has no respect for the work my colleagues and I do and issues orders rather than requesting input or listening to anyone’s input. Like you, I am miserable but don’t really see a way out. And also like you, I am trying to find a way to stop complaining and either get out or make the best of it. I’ve given myself 6 months and have decided that in the interim, I’ll simply go with the flow and try not to care. Perhaps that will serve you well too.

  • Rave: vacation day on Monday, working from home yesterday and Friday, in the office today and tomorrow. Ahh.

    Rave: My sister’s ill-thought-out clusterf*ck of a wedding was called off early Monday morning by the groom. Mainly because my mom came to visit last weekend, agrees with my concerns about this guy, and asked my sister if this is what she wants her life to be like.

    Rant: We were all hoping she was going to be the one to pull the plug on it, and she ended up working it out with him (as of yesterday). Hope she comes to her senses in the next two months and calls it off.

  • Bear

    Rant: Took me 1.5 hours to get in to the office today. Anybody know what caused the insane traffic on 14th Street? Seemed to ease up after 3 cop cars drove by, escorting 2 pickups carrying large boxes labeled “explosives.” Not sure what that was all about…

    • Bear

      Additional rant: The cold I thought I had kicked a week or so ago seems to be creeping back. I’ve been sick more in the past 4-5 months than in the last several years combined. Blah.

    • It may have had something to do with traffic being horrible on 16th because of an accident at 16th and Irving. People might have gone over to 14th Street to avoid it.

      Although the’ explosives’ is quite intriguing. And concerning.

    • anon. gardener

      I saw the police cars and two trucks go through Logan Circle and continue down vermont. I thought it was odd, too.

      • I saw that convoy last week at Florida/18th/U St. NW. I assume that someone has a permit to use mild explosives in excavation or demolition and this is a standard protection detail.

        • Yep, I have seen them 3 or 4 times over the past 2 weeks so I don’t think it had anything specifically to do with the traffic today.

  • Rave: “working” from home today.

    Rave: Really just watching the A’s-Rangers game this afternoon. Go A’s!

    • Beer dude,

      In regards to the yard tips you gave me, I haven’t done anything yet. Would it be better for me to just wait until the spring to start at this point?



  • Revel: Young psychology student preaching on the metro yesterday on the way to Petworth, wondering what it is about our culture that causes everyone to be so quiet on the train. Is it really secret societies? Wish I had given her my card to continue the conversation over lunch.

    • I like to read (real books, printed on paper!) when I’m on Metro, and I prefer not to have someone start a conversation with me when I’m trying to read.

    • Maybe I have become part of some secret society but I get really annoyed when people converse loudly on the metro. Just let me read my book in peace! Yesterday morning there was a guy singing. Really, dude? Do you think we all want to listen to you?

      • Even worse are people who rap along with the music they’re listening to on their headphones.

      • I love to hear people singing in public places– their total lack of inhibition always makes me smile. Unless there’s a group of raucous teenagers involved I prefer a noisy metro ride to the rush-hour ones with tomb-like silence. For me it’s enjoyable to hear the layered conversations of people from all walks of life enclosed in a small space.

      • Confession: Totally guilty of occasionally singing (terribly) on the metro. Most recently 4 of my friends and I belted out everything from Disney songs to Bohemian Raphsody on a particularly long ride home from Chinatown to Forest Glen on a Friday late-night. Please understand, we knew it was annoying, but it was sooo fun!

    • My commute is really the only time in my day i have to be “alone” with my thoughts. I’m glad it’s somewhat quiet! I hate when people tell me to smile or talk to me.

      • Allison

        +1, people telling me to smile is the worst. I’ll smile if I fucking want to, dude!

        • telling you to smile is a creepy dude’s way of trying to manipulate you. it might seem innocent enough, but it’s not and it’s meant as a test to see what kind of woman you are. women are notoriously too friendly because we’re raised to please and never say no… starting with requests like this is the way some men prey on women. creep!

          • Yep. I still haven’t figured out how to respond to these creeps though.

          • really? I can think of a million ways…
            – keep walking never acknowledging his existence
            – keep walking and make eye contact that says “don’t f with me”
            – “mind your own business”
            – “don’t tell me what to do”
            – “keep it to yourself”
            – “no”
            – “leave me alone”
            – “you’re bothering me”
            – “go away”
            – “f off”
            – “stop”
            – “get away from me”
            – …

          • Yeah, and get accused of being a callous bitch who jumps down the throat of someone who just wants to see her being happier.

          • “Yeah, and get accused of being a callous bitch who jumps down the throat of someone who just wants to see her being happier.”

            who cares. you know and everyone sane knows that this person does not care about your happiness. women, we need to stop putting ourselves into uncomfortable situations because we’re trying to be “nice”. there’s nothing nice about giving in to a creep.

          • Is it also a creepy woman’s way to try and manipulate you? Because I am a dude and I have had random women tell me to smile. If it’s flirtation, there are much better ways to do it than telling someone you don’t know and whose circumstances you are completely unfamiliar with to smile.

        • Women unfortunately do this, too. Happened to me just a few days ago…the cashier at Safeway told me “You might try smiling a bit. You’ll feel better.”


  • Saw a drunk woman on metro last night who couldn’t keep herself upright for 30 seconds. But the several people closest to her kept waking her up to keep her from falling over, picked up the things (including cash!) that she kept dropping, made sure she got off at her stop, and eventually called in a cop from a platform to help her out. People can be kind.

    • I wouldn’t have called in a cop… almost 100% sure that probably didnt end up well for this person you thought you were “helping”

      • 1) Why?
        2) What would have been more “helpful”?

        • For one, cops exist solely to keep order. Keep people in line to keep the machine running. This person was drunk in public…numerous crimes the cop could have charged this person with. Cops harass homeless people and folks on the streets in this area in ways I have never witnessed elsewhere. Any interaction with cops by a P.O.C. (not sure if this person was or not) is different than those experienced by bourgeois white people in this city. It’s fact. Anytime a cop is called in they need someone to be punished or they see it as a waste of time. Side note; anyone who has not read “The New Jim Crow” should read it.

          • +a million

            If I were in this situation I’d rather be on my own and deal with the consequences than get a cop involved. Unless she were trying to throw herself onto the tracks or something it probably would have been best to let her be. Do unto others.

          • The thing that bothers me about this rant of yours is that you seem to have no problem generalizing the behavior of others while simultaneously railing against bias. D.C. is a wonderfully diverse place with all sorts of people. The city I experience is not as black and white as you make it out to be. I assume that you have been in some of the wonderfully diverse parts of the City (Idaho Ave notwithdstanding). In my experience, black or white, the police would simply call EMS if it looked warranted. The likelyhood of an arrest is low unless the person became abusive or beligerant. In that latter circumstance it doesn’t matter what color you are, they have no qualms about putting the bracelets on you.

          • Well, OK. I don’t see the world the way you do but thanks for answering my question.

      • I’m not sure why a cop shouldn’t be alerted. The people around her on the train were doing what they could in the moment, but none of them were going to see the project to its conclusion once the train got to their stop. This woman was seriously messed up, and by alerting the police one person was now responsible for getting her somewhere safely. If she was just on a single bender, then the cops will sit her in a safe place until she dries out. If she has a history with them, well, then they probably should be involved.

        • Ideally… but I don’t think it would have worked out so nicely.

          • The truth is that this woman needed medical attention (yes, she was that drunk or strung out or whatever her issue was) and the cops are in a better position to deal with arranging that on a moving train at rush hour than random people standing near her. I’m sorry if she faced ultimate consequences that were less than ideal, but immediate medical concerns trump wild speculation about what might happen, in my opinion.

          • Ok, that’s fair then. 🙂

          • Calling the police was absolutely right. A woman who is incapacitated to this degree is a vulnerable woman, and it only takes one dirtbag to take advantage of the situation. Plus, there are some people who have medical conditions that may lead to “drunk-looking” behavior. Our society would be a cold one if we left someone like that, drunk or otherwise, wandering on their own, defenseless… I would absolutely want someone to call the police if this had been my sister or friend.

      • You can’t win in PoPville. How many posts a week elicit attacks on commenters who are reluctant to dial 911? Then when someone does involve the police, it’s the wrong thing to do.

  • rave: baby on the way
    rant: got bills to pay

  • Emmaleigh504

    Rant: Everyone who gets to work from home; I hate you all (in the most loving of ways).

    Curious: Haven’t seen Euro Trash Dude on my commute in a while, I wonder if he got a new job or just changed his commute.

    Rave: As much as my job pisses me off and the people can drive me insane, I do work with genuinely nice people even if they are morning people. I need to remember that it’s the job/mornings that piss me off, not the good people.

  • RAVE: finally got the email from HR that I was selected for the position for which I interviewed. More money and more responsibility.
    RANT: They are waiting on one more approval, so G-d knows when I will start.
    RAVE: Leaving for a two week Eastern Mediterranean cruise on Saturday

    • msmaryedith


      Ooh, where all are you going on the cruise? I was there a month ago (Samos and Ephesus) and it was SO BEAUTIFUL. Have an awesome trip.

      • I want to know too! I’ve done two Eastern Mediterranean cruises (with Royal Caribbean) and they’re always fun.

        • It’s with Royal Caribbean… Officially, it is the “Holy Land” Cruise. Starts in Rome, Egypt, Israel, Greece, Naples and back to Rome. Relatively, it was DIRT CHEEP (less than $1,000/person for a balcony. I just couldn’t pass it up. Just means I’ll have to pack my lunch for the next year. 🙂

  • Rant: Comcast

    Rant: House is a ridiculous mess and my evening tonight will be spent whipping it into shape.

    Rave: Visitors this weekend!! Woohoo! Awesome weekend plans -hopefully the weather will be good.

  • em

    Revel: tickets to this afternoon’s Nats game!

    Rant: co-worker who was going to go isn’t feeling well so I am going solo

  • MsNesbitt

    Rant: Just learned my ex is getting married next weekend. It’s not even been two years since we’ve broken up. I know it’s not a contest, but I’m pretty bummed he’s found someone he wants to be with forever and I haven’t found someone I even want to spend three months with!

    Rave: Knowing that NOT being with him is the better option, and having friends/family to cheer me up. 🙂

    Super rave: Spending time with my two month old niece this evening. Ain’t no blues a snuggly baby can’t fix!

    • As someone who will likely face similar circumstances (of having an ex officially move on), just want to send you good thoughts.

    • it’s a good thing that you realize that being with him is not the better option, but it’s almost always hard to watch someone else move on. i always try to remember the not-so-great things about them when this happens…

    • “Not even been two years since we broke up?” How many years after the breakup would have been acceptable?

      • MsNesbitt

        At least a decade 😉 JK the context is just that he was in a relationship within three months of the breakup, engaged 8 months later, and now getting married. I get it – sometimes when you know, you just know. But after having a serious relationship with someone, to see them turn around and commit to a life with someone else that quickly makes me feel sort of weird, that’s all.

        • I hear you. For what it’s worth, I went through a string where 3 exes in a row married the guy they dated after me 🙂 Not that I was ready, willing, or able to marry any of them when we dated; but still one of those things that made me go “hmmm.”

  • Rant: Cabs that have taken over the far right lane on H St. NE (Eastbound) @ Union Station. How is this OK? It is not a cab stand, Union Station/cabs or whomever do not own that lane. Cars are now always backed up and merging because cabs have taken over that lane which is for traffic and made it into their own personal line queue/waiting area for cabs to pick up people at Union Station.

    Rant: USPS delivery vans. I am sick of them parking in intersections, I am seeing it all over the city and it is very unsafe. This really needs more attention.

  • pablo .raw

    Rant: Another consequence of doing exercise and the change of diet: got a call from the doctor saying the lab results show a defficiency on vitamin D. I can’t believe how fast my metabolism is!. First I lost 10 pounds and now this! all I wanted is to have some muscle tone and be a little bit active after spending so much time on my desk every day!
    Rave: These two things are kind of easy to fix, and as a result of the exercise I’m feeling much much better than before! Going to the drugstore now. See you all.

  • Rant: Having a difficult time finding a reasonably-priced 1br that’s metro accessible. Aside from Craigslist, Padmapper and the POP rentals page (which is sadly sparse), where do folks look for apartment leads? I would much prefer a place in row house versus a managed apartment building. Thanks.

    Rave: Looking forward to having my own place.

    • I really think walking around neighborhoods and looking for “for rent” signs is the best way to find places.

      • I second this. I got my last place in DC by visiting a friend who lived in the neighborhood I wanted to move to. There was a “For Rent” sign on the building across the street, so I left a message on a whim. I got a call back the next day, and had visited the apartment and signed a lease in the span of 2 weeks. I don’t even think they had advertised the apartment online.

        Plus, the walking around your target neighborhood has the added bonus of familiarizing you with the different streets/blocks, so you know when something is a good find, because you know the neighborhood well.

    • You might want to look on neighborhood listservs. Often people post rentals there and I think they’re more responsive to replies than they would be on Craigslist.

  • Rant: Serious blood letting going on at my office resulting in a lot of good people being moved along or let go.

    Rave: Not me, yet.

  • Rave: My friend with Nats season tickets somehow got a free suite for last night’s game! It was awesome to A) experience the fancier side of Nats Park, B) enjoy a good game and C) watch the fog roll over the field.

    Rant: Foot still has suspicious pain…and I have lots of walking to do today. Not looking forward to it.

    Rave: Rocking out (rather quietly) to some John Legend at my desk. LOVE this man!

  • Rave: Last night’s fog was soo cool. Made me feel like I was in Victorian London. Great pic of the monument!

  • Rant: Stopped a dog that chewed through his leash from running into traffic. His owner came out of CVS, thanked me, and went to tie him up again explaining that he barks too much if she leaves him home. Then I got yelled at and threatened for trying to call animal control for the poor dog.
    Rave: Forgot that Monday is a federal holiday!

    • Huh? Why did you call animal control when the owner was clearly there to take care of the situation?

      • Sorry for the confusion. The owner came out presumably when she heard her dog barking but then decided to tie up the dog again and go back into CVS. For the safety of the distressed dog that would soon be left alone again, I tried to call Animal Control but thanks to AT&T, my signal was crap.

      • Um- because the owner’s way to “take care of the situation” was to repeat the very thing that allowed the dog to escape and endanger it’s life in the first place?

  • Rave/Rant: Teddy won! But now where’s the excitement in the presidents’ race?

  • RAVE: First debate is tonight and we’re hosting people. I am expecting Obama to clean the floor with RMoney.

    RAVE: Aeroplane and Tiger & Woods at U Hall tonight. Dope tunes. Will be there with my dancing shoes after the debate.

    RAVE: Scored pairs of Nats playoff tix for both Game 1 and Game 2 without breaking the bank. $35/each for SRO tix is a steal and I prefer standing and wandering during the games.

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