Random Reader Rant and/or Revel

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You can talk about whatever is on your mind – quality of life issues, a beautiful tree you spotted, scuttlebutt, or any random questions/thoughts you may have. I’ll open this thread every morning at 10am.

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  • me

    Rave: New job second week in is okay. Though waiting for my clearance crossover is brutal.

    Rant: Still not pregnant. It’s been 10 months of trying so far. Struggling with how to not really get down in the dumps about it and feeling like a complete failure. I have friends that seem to trip over guys’ crotches and get pregnant. It’s just so frustrating.

    • Embrace the moment and keep on trying. Trying is really fun after all! A couple I knew mentioned that they were having a similar problem (after a few bottles of wine). A year or so later, she was expecting.

      Later on (after a few beers), he mentioned that it was actually a really great experience “pulling two-a-days” and it brought them much closer over the course of a year.

      • Not the author of the comment you were replying to, but this isn’t necessarily helpful… what turned out to be really fun for one couple could be the thing that drives another couple apart. There’s not one right answer for everyone. I think you meant to be helpful, but as someone who’s in the earlier stages of the same process, it actually made me feel worse.

        me, I’m sorry. I hope it works out for you soon.

        • me

          Thanks, Anonymous. I’m actually handicapped and don’t have much feeling below my waist, and so it’s not necessarily fun for me- it’s more of a chore, and I know it frustrates my husband too. I appreciate your kind words. 🙂

    • If you haven’t already, check out the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility. I found it to be pretty informative and it definitely impacted my approach. Also, if you aren’t knocked up in a couple more months I’d talk to your doctor about it. My doctor told me that if you’re under 35 and don’t get pregnant within a year, it’s time to figure out if it’s just a timing issue of if there’s a medical issue. While trying to get pregnant can be fun, it can be really defeating and stressful.

    • My wife’s seeing a great Endocrinologist who’s helping us along. We’ve tried for 1 year + with no luck (early 30’s).

      We’re on day 14 of 18 for high body temp, but we’re trying not to get too excited.

      We went to one of the fertility specialist centers in the area (SG) and they immediately pushed us toward IUI and chlomid. We put them on hold because my wife’s Thyroid levels were highish (although still within “normal” limits). We did not appreciate the service at all. They seem to be a “everything’s a nail if you’re a hammer” kind of people.

      Go get all your levels tested and his semen analysis. Lie and say it’s been a year.

      • I was adopted by my parents who struggled to conceive a healthy baby for 15 years, and we’re a very happy family. If your quest for a blood-relative baby does not end up working out, though hopefully it will, there are wonderful alternatives awaiting you. 🙂

  • Revel/Rant: While waiting for my bus today I saw two bicyclists from opposite streets simultaneously blow through their respective stop signs (while also passing stopped cars, natch). They nearly collided with one another but just missed – would have been sweet justice!

    • I very nearly got hit by a bicyclist who ignored the traffic signal(screeching tires, me going “JESUS CHRIST!!”) this morning. Seriously, what does it take to PAUSE at a light when it’s red?

      • Or at least slow down and look for others using the intersection?

        This happens to me nearly weekly. I walk around my neighborhood a lot and also commute by foot most days when the weather isn’t too hot or wet. Bikers nearly running over pedestrians (especially me) really makes me mad.

    • I’m an avid cyclist and I agree something has to be done with people completely flouting the law.

      I was standing at the corner of 19th and K around 9 this morning and saw a cyclist (all decked out in cycling gear) cross K against the light and barely slowed down. Several cars had to slam on their brakes while he weaved in and out of traffic. Idiots like him make the rest of us look bad.

      • +1 from another bike commuter/enthusiast. i won’t call for folks to be saintly textbook followers of every traffic reg, but, come on, at least don’t be an over-the-top asshole.

    • I just started biking in DC, and while I hate to admit this (because it seems to validate all those anti-biker arguments), I find other bikes way scarier than cars! Every time I’ve almost had an accident, it has been because 1) another biker runs a red light and almost hits me, even though I have the right of way, or 2) I nearly get hit from behind when I stop at a red light and the biker behind me doesn’t.

      I really truly thought my fellow bikers would be better than they are. 🙁 I love biking and I wish we represented ourselves better.

      • I bike everyday too, and it’s always the cyclists in biking gear that almost run me over.

        one of my friends died crashing off her bike after colliding with another bike so it’s something i’m always thinking about at intersections.

        • The asshole spandex boys along the bike path in Virginia by the river are the worst. They don’t slow down to pass into oncoming biker/jogger traffic even along the narrow part by the parkway.

    • I was riding home last week (carefully on the sidewalk because 16th St. was jammed and the sidewalk was not) after the earthquake when a teen on a bike clipped me orcing me off the curb and into the traffic. If a car hadn’t been temporarily parked there with flashers, I would have been hit. The other biker took off weaving dangerously along the sidewalk. I went after him and surprisingly caught up to him, grabbed him by the shirt, pulled him off his bike, and started yelling at him. He was pretty shocked considering he’s a teenager, and I’m a 50-year-old woman.

      • Awesome. Good for you! I hope that little snot remembers you for the rest of his life.

        • On the other hand, I wouldn’t cheer for road rage…

          • You know, you’re totally right. It was a case of road rage indeed and something I need not participate in nor condone. And I thought when I caught up to guy, “now what the hell am I gonna do? Hit him?” Aside from being on the smallish side, it’s not really my thing. So after grabbing him by the shirt, I just yelled at him to try to humiliate him. I did get him to apologize though.

    • I was riding on the 11th street bike lane yesterday at night, and had to dodge someone going the wrong way (the second such incidence in a week). I do wish some bikers would think about other people and use bike lanes appropriately (and not give others an excuse to bad-mouth bikers in general).

  • Rave: 4-day weekend!

    Rant: Spending it alone.

  • Rant: Spent $40 at Tru Orleans last night. A sad imitation of New Orleans fare. Tragic.

    Rave: Off to New Orleans tomorrow!

    • SO jealous of your trip! You gotta hit Jacques Imo’s for me!

      But Tru Orleans is a rant? I actually liked the food when I went on opening night. Tell me they haven’t declined in quality already? I’ll have to try it out again….

      • yeah, I really didn’t enjoy it all that much… the alligator was pretty good, but everything else was just so so…

    • Emmaleigh504

      Have a great trip!

  • Rave: Today is my Friday….seriously in need of this 4 day weekend!

    Rant: Work is really not doing it for me lately…I don’t think I have ever worked with such frustrating people.

    • what’s your day job?

      • Fed.

        I know it comes with the territory but some of these people its hard to believe they exist…most of the day I sit in my cube while they argue with each other and just shake my head in disbelief.

        Is it really that hard to just do your job?

  • Rave: Moving to San Diego!
    Rant: Will miss friends and family here.
    Rant: I haven’t found a PoP equivalent yet in San Deigo.
    Rave: Will NOT miss a lot of things about this city.

    • what do you not like about dc?

      • you know what I don’t like about dc? people who don’t like dc. just sayin’.

        • So, you gotta love it, or you don’t even deserve to be here? Love it or leave it? Get the hell out if you don’t like it? Go back to the suburbs, maybe?

          Gosh, with such an open, friendly, welcoming attitude like that, what’s not to like around here?

      • To name a few:

        Marion Barry
        Crime rate
        Hot, humid summers
        Cold snowy winters

        • How could you hate the Smowmaggedon?! I am hoping for another one!

        • Solid, SOLID list.

          Other than all of those things though, whats not to like about DC! Haha!

        • Yeah, but in San Diego you have to deal with a lot more Republicans, no beautiful autumn, forest fires, earthquakes (ok, we have those here now), and mud slides. However, I have friends who moved there from here, so what do I know?

          • Easier to deal with many more republicans than to be around utopian daydreamers who feel entitled.
            So there…..
            Rave = DC.
            Rant = what the above dreamers made of DC.

        • Wow, is just the FACT of Marion Barry’s existence that pisses you off, or do you live in Ward 8?

        • This list mad me laugh. Enjoy southern Cali.

          • Rant: people who call California “Cali” urgghhhhhh. CA or California. Same for people who call San Francisco “Frisco” (Fact: there is a laundromat in SF named “Don’t Call it Frisco”

            Rant: Having nothing to do at work. Not fun if a consistent event.

            Rave: Job that gives you time off whenever, since you have nothing to do. Woo 5 day weekend!

        • mayor for LIFE.

      • Oh and I never said I didn’t like DC. I really have enjoyed this city…

      • I have never seen so many thoughtless people chuck trash with no regard as where it lands (ie someones yard, the street, certainly not a garbage can) In a city I like so much…there sure are a lot of people who have absolutely no respect for it!

    • Oooh, I’m jealous that you’re moving to San Diego. I lived there for 10 years and loved it! What neighborhood are you going to live in? I lived in Hillcrest and it was awesome – great food, close to downtown and Balboa park, lots of entertaining characters around. Have fun and enjoy!!!

      • Hey Jen, my Husband is dying to move to SD. I’ve never been there, but want to try to look into it a bit. What are some cool neighborhoods that are affordable (i.e. can walk to resaturant/bar, etc.)? I hear so much general good stuff about SD, but never anything specific.

        • Well, the unfortunate thing is that cool neighborhoods where you can walk to good restaurants and bars are not usually affordable nowadays. When I lived there way back in the 90’s (god, I feel old!) Hillcrest was awesome and was really up and coming (transitioning from sleazy strip clubs to good food and shops) so it was not too expensive, but that’s not the case anymore. FWIW, I would recommend Hillcrest, University Heights or North Park.

        • My complaint with SD is the major lack of intellectual stimulation. It’s a great place to relax and disconnect, but when you want to be around sharp, driven people there’s no place to go. It’s just not that type of community.

          I suppose it’s almost the Yin to DC’s Yang.

      • We are looking all over. University City, Bay Park, North Park…even up in Poway (so suburban though).

  • Rant: Not understanding why I am assigned mindless drivel by my boss. Some of these tasks are absolutely pointless and remind me of busy work in middle school and high school.

    Rant/Rave: My frugality is being blown off this month, and for once, I don’t care.

    Rave: Leaving at 3 tomorrow, and then New York for the weekend!

  • Rant: My new landlord (who has been pretty good up to this point) is starting to kick about paying for more repairs to the plumbing. The pipes leak, a lot, and have been for a long time and closing off the leaks are the only hope we have for getting rid of the roaches that took over because he failed to maintain the house up to this point. Doing it on the cheap is WHY he couldn’t get renters before I convinced him I could fix the place up for a small rent reduction.

    Revel: I do have a nice house in a great location, and it’s cheap cheap cheap.

    • Report him. Seriously. Cockroaches aren’t even on the “OK, I’ll deal list.”

      Is your rent really worth living in filth?

  • Yay, camping in North Carolina this weekend. It think it’s going to be a yay anyway. It could be my first and last camping trip, or the beginning of a new fun thing to do. Booo, rain in the forecast.

  • Rant: I’m starting to lose faith that the Petworth Safeway will be redeveloped. Has anyone heard any updates?

    • These things take a lot of time. Because of the scope of the development, they need to get entitlement through a PUD process (take 9 months to a year), get financing, get permits, etc. This is an ambitious project that will take time to come to fruition. I wouldn’t despair (yet).

      • I can’t help it. I feel like I’ve been wronged by one too many development promises to bust have faith.

        • Why do you feel development promises were made to you personally?

          Why would you get sucked into that?

          • Because I’m a sucker like that. I also dream about what I would do if I won a ton of money when I buy lottery tickets. Which is about 4 times in my life. I won $5 last time!

    • saf

      No, it’s going to happen. I wish they would just leave and let something good move in there.

  • I want to pay off my school loans in 2 years. I’m 23 and have 25k in debt. Is this a good goal? How long did it take you?

    Rant: I wish I made more money so that it’d be easier to pay off my loans.

    Rave: At least I make enough to put over 800 a month on it.

    • It really depends on your interest rate? If it is low it may not make sense to pay them off that fast.

      My loans are paid off but my husband’s loans are not. However, the interest rate is so low that I don’t stress out about it. I would rather use the extra payment money for other investments.

      • I always wonder about this. I have about $15,000 in loans, but the interest rate is something like 2%. I’m in a student loan program at work, so it really doesn’t make much sense to pay them off faster than a 10 year cycle, but I’d really like to be debt free…

        • One of my wifes student loans is 2.5% and we are paying the min, though it will still be gone in another 4 years. We have about 40k total for both of ours, and we are steadily working on it, sending about 1k a month to it, and our interest rate averages about 4.2%. I agree, I want to be out of debt!

        • Yes, it also comes down to a personal choice. If you don’t have any other debt and just want to be debt-free then go for it.

          However, I would only say that if you are making sure you are maxing out any employer matching contributions to a retirement fund.

          In our case, had we been aggressively paying down my husband’s student loan we probably wouldn’t have had the money to max out our retirement contributions and save for a down payment on a house.

          It really depends on your personal situation.

      • agree–if you can take that money and make it earn more than your interest rate, then do that instead. Similarly, look into how much of a student loan interest tax deduction you can take–you might be better off tax-wise if you spread out the payments over longer.

        But props to you if you can pay off a thousand a month! I sure wish i could…

    • Wow, you’re actually ahead of the game. You’re only 23! That’s some good discipline

      • I was thinking the same thing. It’s great that you’re so proactive about getting that off the books! In two years you could be debt free (assuming you don’t go nuts with the credit cards). How awesome is that?

        I bet by the time you retire, you’ll be a gazillionaire!
        …of course, by then a gazillion dollars won’t buy much 🙂

      • I disagree. This IS the game now.

    • If the interest rate is low enough (2-4%) I’d take the excess cash you were going to use and put it in a savings account to start saving for a down payment on a house.

      It took me 8+ years to save the down payment on my first house (~30k) and even then, I got lucky that the housing market crashed and had to take out an FHA loan (3% down).

      Also, your credit is generally better when you have a loan that you’re paying regularly.

    • I’m 31 and still have a couple G’s left on mine. My interest is next to nothing though. I just let the automatic payments take care of it each month.

    • Like others said, if the rate is low (>5%), don’t sweat paying it off early. Make sure you have a lot of savings. The loan company isn’t going to give you money back if you have a large unexpected expense or want to quit your job and/or move.

      Money you save (or invest) can pay hospital bills, a down payment, a new car when your old one breaks down… Extra money devoted to pay down low-interest debt is gone forever. Liquidity is key.

      Captcha: PUP5

    • saf

      Pay them off.

      Yes, I know the interest rate is good.

      Pay them off.

      So much better to go forward without that debt, even if it is at a low interest rate. What if you lose your job? What if you want to take a year volunteering? What if, what if…?

      Pay them off.

      • The what-ifs are exactly what made me not aggressively pay down my student loans. Student loan payments can be easily deferred. Luckily, I haven’t had to use it yet, but I am glad to have a decent amount of cushion money saved in case one of the what-ifs happens to me.

      • So let’s explore this conclusion. Say you have $10k in loans and say next month you lost your job and couldn’t find one for 6 months.

        Case A) You pay $10k and you have no debt, but you also have no income for 6 months and zero savings. You have to move out of your apartment and back home because you can’t make your rent payments or feed yourself.

        Case B) You have your $10k in the bank and you have to make payments, but you stretch the $10k to 6 months worth of rent and student loan payments and you keep your apartment and life. When you get your next job, nothing significant has really changed.

        It’s impossible to get a loan when you’re unemployed.

        • Exactly. But I think in the first scenario, what’s more likely is that the person amasses $10k of credit card debt, rather than move home — because they keep charging weekly expenses in hopes that the next interview lands them a job. That $10k of debt comes back from the dead, but now is at 17%.

          Keep in mind, if the loan’s at 2%, you can likely invest the savings to return more than 2% — which would then make paying off the loans more expensive.

  • Rave: Today is my Friday. And then I have 6 glorious days off.

    Rave: Joining the rest of my friends in the big 3-0 decade.

    Rave: Celebrating going into the next decade with a half-marathon on Sunday.

    Rant: Celebrating going into the next decade with a half-marathon on Sunday.(eek)

  • Rant: Back at work today after spending nearly a month in Peru.

    Rave: Excited to have developed-world luxuries again.. like hair dryers and ice in drinks!

  • Revel: Returned bikeshare bike at exactly 29 minutes, 45 seconds this morning! BOOYAH.

    Revel: Been really productive at work the last few days, which makes me feel good about my life.

    Revel: Anti-depressants are the sh*t.

  • I put my dog down a year ago today. This should be a rant, but I’m feeling good and I know I did the right thing. She had a great, happy life and she didn’t suffer. And I got some nice supportive posts from some of you after it happened.

    Rave: DC Blues Festival this Saturday.

  • rave: job interview yesterday.
    rant: waiting…waiting…waiting…
    rant: having to find a decent job in the potential new city for my partner, who has very little confidence in his abilities. sigh.

  • Rave: Love this photo!

  • Rave: Just re-financed our home loan; 3.875% 30 year fixed!!

  • Rant: I don’t know what the new civility rules are! Must have been sick that day.

    Rave: I don’t know what the new civility rules are!

  • Rant: I’m sick and tired of the illegal dumping going on behind my house. It’s gotten so bad that sometimes you can’t even get up the alley. My neighbors and I have taken mounds of garbage to the dump ourselves and we can’t seem to catch the suckers. Multiple calls to DPW have done nothing. They won’t even post no dumping signs. I’m fed up.

    • Call or e-mail your councilmember. In my experience, councilmembers can really light a fire under D.C. agencies and get them to do stuff (and do it promptly).

    • Why not buy a cheap webcam and set it up so you can at least start narrowing the times and vehicle models?

  • Why has there been nothing on PoP about the 18-year-old woman struck and killed by a train at Takoma Metro yesterday morning? Nothing much anywhere.

  • Let’s also not forget that most student loans can get the payments put on a temporary hold if you are unemployed. If you pay everything off and have no savings – getting laid off will still hurt you. If you pay a large chunk off but also have savings, you can still get the payments put on hold and will be in a much better position to tide yourself over to the next job.

    The way I’m attacking mine is to pay extra each month but also make sure to put some money in savings just in case. Essentially I took the total I could afford (let’s say $900 for easy math), and split it to $600 towards s.loans and $300 towards emergency fund. That way I’m still paying down my s.loans faster & earlier but will have a backup in case something happens.

    Also – I’m so jealous of everyone in the <4% interest rate position 🙁 I only have loans for my grad school and happened to go through at the time where federal interest rates were around 8%. Uggh 🙁 at least i went the public, in-state rate so it's not in the ridiculous 6-digit realm… I can't even imagine tackling that.

    • no idea why that posted here not up above where I hit reply 🙂 was supposed to be in response to saf @ 1:45pm

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